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Sugar Profile Blunders: Why You Aren’t Getting Matches

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The start of the new year is the best time to clean up your profile. Studies show that January and February are the most active months of the year for dating sites. Whether you’re looking for a fresh start or just felt lonely over the holidays, use a few of these tips to put yourself (and your profile) in the best position to find your perfect arrangement!

 

Incomplete Profile

This may sound like an obvious one, but it’s not! A lot of our users are so eager to dive into the Sugar Bowl that they skip out on the most important details of their profile- the “About Me” and “What I’m Looking For” sections. These are critical when it comes to standing out amongst potential SB’s or SD’s as they want to learn as much about you as they can to see if it would be a good fit. Truly take the time to reassess these sections of your profile to increase your chances of finding the perfect arrangement.

 

Linking External Pages in Your Profile

Have you recently received a message from our support team stating that your profile has been denied when you thought it was perfectly fine? One of the most common reasons a profile description is denied is simply because you are linking external pages in your profile. Some examples of this are mentioning your social media networks. For example, “follow me on instagram” or “add me on wechat” is not allowed. We value our users privacy so we ask that you keep your profile free of personal links to ensure a safe dating experience.

 

Blurry Photos

The only thing worse than a blurry photo is no photo at all. Would you ever message someone without knowing what they really look like? Probably not. If you’re concerned for your privacy, go ahead and upload any photo as your cover picture, however, to increase your number of matches, have a few clear options as private photos so that when you do find someone you’re interested in, you can easily share them when you’re ready.

 

Update Your Location

We can’t tell you how many times arrangements don’t work out because someone has failed to update their location. For our users that are frequent travelers, we suggest you continually update your location and be sure to include in your profile that you are a frequent traveler to avoid these types of confusions.

 

Rude or Offensive Content

Posting rude or offensive content to your profile can result in an immediate removal from our website. We have a zero tolerance policy for this at SeekingArrangement and posting offensive subject material in your profile not only can hinder you from getting matches, but can remove you from the Sugar Bowl entirely.

 

Unreasonable Demands

Being specific in your profile about what you want is one thing, but demanding things that are truly unreasonable will not work in your favor. A few common instances of this are specifically stating unreasonable allowance numbers, also mentioning that you want an “online only” arrangement is against the rules on our site, as well as demanding anything sexual in your bio. Leave the specifics of your arrangement to be discussed after the first meet and greet and focus on describing who you are as a person and what you can provide in an arrangement in your profile.

 

No Background Check

This one’s for you Daddies. Babies are more willing to message a potential Daddy if they see that he has the blue check mark next to his profile. Diamond Daddies stand out in this category, as Babies know they have already been background checked and income verified. If you’re serious about finding an arrangement, you will agree this upgrade feature is well worth the investment.

 

Are You Using Tags?

Our recently added tagging feature allows you to feature specific things on your profile that you are looking for. By utilizing the tagging feature, users can now visit your profile and quickly make the decision on whether or not they are interested and want to continue reading your profile and potentially messaging you.

 

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138 Responses to “Sugar Profile Blunders: Why You Aren’t Getting Matches”

  1. DrDvs says:

    Please, ladies, know your audience. You are trying to attract an educated professional man, address your profile in a way that attracts him. If you look like your a mess, or that he cud not take you to a nice place, he won’t. If you are not willing to make an effort to show him why you and you instead appear to be a lot of work he will move in quickly. He can get that anywhere, you want to show him that you will make his life better, not more aggravating.

    • Dazed SD says:

      @DrD,, oh my god that is so true,, most of the pictures I see of the women I couldn’t be seen with them in public if that’s how they look. You make an excellent point.
      The thing is, I think they think they’re dealing with Boys their age, not successful Men !

  2. Anonymous says:

    Im a guy SB looking for a SM, any recommendations for my profile?

  3. Colton says:

    I have been on this site now for a while and I have only met one guy. I am a gay male and it is much harder to find a guy who is interested in me. I have changed my profile details, photos, tried booster attract and still nothing seems to be working. I must be doing something wrong. Tomorrow I will be attending the Las Vegas Masquerade event and I am so excited. I really hope to meet men of my stature. If this does not work I dont know what else to do. I need a personal mentor to help me like a match maker. I am out of ideas on how I can find what I have been looking so hard for.

  4. RMSD says:

    I get lots of responses but now after a lot of negative experiences most do not pass my screening as ‘matches’. Too many girls here deliberately lie about their profile information and motives. Many are on sugar sites only for crisis debt reduction or short term cash accumulation. These have no real desire for relationships or are no better than aspiring ‘findoms’ trying to rinse as many men as they can. (In my opinion SA should remove the ‘Financial domination’ tag and ban anyone describing themselves as ‘findom’)

    My last SB turned out to be just like this and was 2-3 dress sizes bigger than she claimed to be yet is still advertising as ‘slim’ (whilst openly being on a well known adult worker site as an escort and porn webcam provider and offering sex in pay per meets with random ‘clients’)

    It takes a lot of effort to screen out the fakers, liars and mercenaries and up-front money scammers to find a reliable genuine person worth investing serious money in for a lasting arrangement. Many girls say they want meaningful mutually beneficial arrangements but in reality so many want very little else than quick ‘easy money’ and a glamorous lifestyle at someone else’s expense for minimal effort on their part. They buy into this notion of sugar dating pushed by glossy website adverts. I agree with the poster who said he is amazed at notions of ‘ high allowance expectations’ I have met so many girls who have totally ordinary modest paying jobs or are just students yet really think that on (often quite average) looks alone they are ‘worth’ the equivalent of a senior director’s salary (with no tax) just to turn up to be taken to expensive restaurants and receive gifts and luxury experiences; and they want to keep a man at arm’s length while doing so.

  5. Dazed SD says:

    I get so tired of, “I want to have fun” who doesn’t,,and so far I’ve heard about 5 different meanings

  6. NoelleDaisy says:

    This is an interesting thread of comments. Seems to have sober advice.
    I’m an African SB, new to all this and I would like to avoid the common pitfalls of sugar dating. I have been here for a few weeks during which I have read dozens of SD profiles and have gotten an idea of what to write on my SB profile. Now here is the thing, I am still not getting any interested SDs. I have messaged a few potentials in my area and none of them are returning the interest. There are not many of them and even fewer of them have actual (living) profiles. Those who do are rarely ever online (think “last seen Nov 15th”). Because of this, I have turned to looking for POTs who are far away. I have genuinely liked a few of those and sent time worthy (in my opinion) messages but because of the distance, I think most of them get filtered out. I’m not one of the girls looking for ‘online only’ or ‘platonic’. That’s why I take the effort to read a POTs profile and see if I’m attracted. Any ideas of what I can do? Maybe someone experienced can go through my profile and check whether there is a turn-off… I am looking for someone who is ‘grown up’and can be a mentor. Preferably to accompany on trips and to enjoy each other’s (non platonic) company. I wouldn’t mind going to him. The only thing standing in my way is the lack of a ready passport and the numerous HORRIFYING stories of naive young black girls being sexually abused and enslaved by rich exotic men acting like SD’s.
    Any advice/pointers would be highly appreciated.

    • Anon_SD says:

      Unless you are in a major financial district, and not the average american city, there are not a lot of men waiting around with spare cash in their pocket to spend on a SB. In my area, my search for SB’s turns up 10K plus hits. You’re part of a large herd.

  7. Anonymous says:

    It seems like every year SA is becoming a place where Peoples are trying to scam you versus finding a potential SD/SM

  8. RMSD says:

    I get lots of responses but now after a lot of negative experiences most do not pass my screening as ‘matches’. Too many girls here deliberately lie about their profile information and motives. Many are on SA only for crisis debt reduction or short term cash accumulation. These have no real desire for relationships or are no better than aspiring ‘findoms’ trying to rinse as many men as they can. (In my opinion SA should remove the ‘Financial domination’ tag or anyone describing themselves as ‘findom’)

    My last (ex) SB from here turned out to be just like this and was 2-3 dress sizes bigger than she claimed to be yet is still advertising on SA as ‘slim’ (whilst openly now being on a famous adult worker site as an escort and porn webcam provider and offering sex in pay per meets with random ‘clients’)

    It takes a lot of effort to screen out the fakers, liars and mercenaries and up-front money scammers to find a reliable genuine person worth investing serious money in for a lasting arrangement. Many girls say they want meaningful mutually beneficial arrangements but in reality so many want very little else than quick ‘easy money’ and a glamorous lifestyle at someone else’s expense for minimal effort on their part. They buy into this notion of sugar dating pushed by websites like SA.

    I agree with the poster above who said he is amazed at SA’s ridiculous notions of ‘high allowance expectations’ I have met so many girls who have totally ordinary modest paying jobs or are just students yet really think that on (often quite average) looks alone they are ‘worth’ the equivalent of a senior director’s salary (with no tax) just to turn up to be taken to expensive restaurants and receive gifts and luxury experiences; and they want to keep a man at arm’s length while doing so.

  9. Martin says:

    Far and away the biggest reason for SB failure is asking too much money. SB’s see your income and net worth and use the “but you can afford it” line.

    The reality is that is a market like any other, and I am only going to pay at the market.

  10. Anonymous says:

    I agree with the problem of “lets go shopping and be friends” sentiment I see on a lot of profiles. Unless an SD is stupid and doesn’t work for their money (politician?), then a shopping spree friendship relationship won’t happen.
    Any other SD’s tired of the incessant materialism? I have no problem supporting an SB, but man, i’ve worked like an idiot for my money and to watch it be wasted on stupid crap is annoying. I’d rather invest in a woman’s future, help her out, help her with an education than buy a purse.
    Gucci and Christian Dior did something right…i’m a technical consultant so marketing is lost on me apparently.

    • Anon_SD says:

      It is called a severe sense of entitlement, with little to no knowledge of how hard it is to earn a good income in the work place. In time, they may find out the hard way, unless mommy and daddy keep forking over the cash.

  11. R says:

    Implied but not stated above, is the most important thing: proof read your profile! Do you understand the difference between “women”(plural) and “woman”(singular). Between “there,” “their” and “they’re?” Between “our” and “are?” Maybe you don’t care, but many people reading your profile do. You only get one chance to make a first impression and if that first impression is that you’re clueless, careless and/or self-absorbed then you’re going to get messages from the same kind of people. I see many women complaining about how men are approaching them here but does your profile contribute to the problem?

  12. Bob says:

    I know SA wants to increase their profit… but am I the only PAYING customer who is extremely annoyed by every one of the pages, including messages being spammed to death by SA with “Diamond membership” ads? Yes, I know that’s a great way to attract 20x gold diggers, but I’m already getting plenty replies and must have clicked “No thanks” a few HUNDRED times, but the annoying spam ads just won’t stop. SA is acting like an insurance salesman. Just as in a relationship, NO MEANS NO, and not respecting that while giving us advice on a blog on how to have a great profile is just pretentious as hell. SA, you should listen to your own advice, and stop spamming your paying customers! That’s YOUR biggest profile blunder.

  13. Anonymous says:

    btw does anyone suspect that some of the profiles on the site, especially those that seem to good to be true, are “plants” written either by the admins or some third party paid to do so? Sometimes I receive, from a really great profile, an almost immediate and enthusiastic, “loved your profile, would love to meet soon! response, only to have my reply email unread. Makes me think the profile in question was just a promo/come-on.

  14. Anonymous says:

    SBs should think twice about putting “men/women” as what they’re looking for. They may think this is expanding the pool of potentials, but it may actually contract it. I suspect a lot of SDs on the site are not interested in a girl who doesn’t know if she’s straight or bi. It also conveys a bit of desperation: “I’ll take anyone with money.” Now, there are surely situations where the SB legitimately has no preference, but the implications of just sort of casually throwing in “women” as an add-on should be carefully considered first.

  15. Anonymous says:

    Can not help but to emphasize…for all parties to be punctual. Most SD / SM are successful business persons. The success was achieved by managing their time. At what point does one consider that the meet-up is a bust (after waiting 15-20 minutes)for their date to show-up

  16. Amina says:

    Splenda Dads and international scammers are ruining this site. I get endless messages from rando who just want to ogle pictures with no real intention of meeting. And guys who write “no escort” on their profiles and the message me asking “how much” I charge. It’s really sad. This site used to be full of real guys looking for sugar arrangements. Now it’s just cheap johns who want an hour for sex here and there. Something needs to change.

    • feeling your pain says:

      I’m totally feeling your pain.I Allow SD access to my private pics only while we are actively still showing an interest in each other ,if we do not talk for more than 2 days and yet I see he frequents my page(I’m sure to see my pics) I block his access to the pics.While the exact thin happened today( SD stopped talking for 4 days and yet he went to my page every day ) he inboxed me very angry about me blocking his access.
      It has become so discouraging to follow the advice the site suggests, using my common sense as well as my charisma and charm and still see that this site has the same amount of SALT DADs. Rude,inconsiderate,gross and no charm.I will soon be cancelling my paid membership.

    • Maxwell says:

      It is the same on this end. You get girls that want to sell you pictures or web cam only. When you agree to meet for a dinner or simple coffee they don’t show.

      Or.. The girl wants to be paid by the hour.

      This site became a money making site for them and they are doing well.

  17. Anonymous SD says:

    Yeah, the whole “let’s just be platonic while you support me” thing is exactly what most of the SDs here already have with their wives :)

    Also, “High” and “Substantial” allowances are just ludicrous unless you’re a sex goddess who can also be the CFO of my company, because if you think you’re getting the equivalent of an almost $180k/year salary to be a dinner companion, well, sorry but that just ain’t happening.

  18. Anonimous says:

    Tired of “SB” with a photo only of their lips, hiding her eyes and face or a photo from 40 metres that we can not see the face or only one photo. Or only one photo. For another hand plenty of escorts and I was told by some girls I knew that there are plenty of supposed “SD” searching to pay for sex. It is being degradated the idea of the site

    • LittleLil says:

      I agree Anonimous, I am relatively new here and I’m in the UK. I had read excellent reviews about the users mainly from US as SA has been established longer over there. Since I’m looking for a relationship without the pressure of 24/7 commitment and I’m used to a certain lifestyle , SA was the obvious choice for me.
      However, so far most of the men (not all) I have been contacted by, either use SA in the same way as a traditional dating site or worse state in their profiles they are looking for a SB to go out together, with good looks and intelligence, great conversation etc. but haven’t a clue what SD means or most likely aren’t prepared to be a real SD !
      Some men even get to the stage of arranging to meet, only to be followed by a message asking if this includes sex! I find this kind of attitude very offensive and disrespectful. If I was trading sex I would find a much quicker and financially rewarding way to do it! Nevertheless if I happen to mention any kind of arrangement they get on their high horse as if it’s too much to ask (I would like to point out that I am looking for a ‘wish list’ rather than monetary arrangement so I don’t think I’m being unreasonable). Of course sex will happen but only after we meet and get on and enjoy each other’s company! It appears to me that these men, can’t be bothered with typical online dating, don’t want to be seen using hookers so they think this website will be an easy cop out to get everything they believe they are entitled to!!! I don’t understand why there are free memberships and there should be a way of weeding out repeat offenders.

  19. Adorent says:

    Tbh Im just tired of hearing the ” Can I have your bank account information so I can see if you’re real or not” Like come on now. Even if it was to slide 200 in the account. Wouldn’t you want to meet the person first? Every time a “SD” ask me this I ask them How would they feel if a grown man asked their daughter that how should they feel. Wanna know their response ? ” You just need to grow up” Well I guess I do because if you want to take the 3 pennies I got then so be it. But I rather meet and have a perfect dinner in beautiful New York , I feel like thats too much to ask from “SD” .

    • Anonymous says:

      It goes far beyond fake SD or SB fakes taking your money; you can go to prison assisting them at money laundering.

      Keep your profile private instead of public and you will get less of that. Report all instances of someone asking for banking info. Nobody needs banking information for anything, except scams.

    • YP says:

      Those that ask for acct info are probably phony profiles. You should report them ASAP.

  20. IndianaSB says:

    Girls, when you answer “prefer not to say” regarding children, we all know you have kids. Why not just be honest?

    • FlyoverSD says:

      Because you don’t need to publish how many kids you have, you’re exactly right, we all know you have kids and I understand some women want to be a little more discreet than saying the specific number. As an SD I take the same approach.

  21. sam says:

    nice article

  22. Anonymous says:

    Another pet peeve: “Looking to meet new people!”
    Note: I’m not “people.”

  23. Anonymous says:

    Your typical totally uninspiring SB profile: “Love to have fun, looking to meet new people! Love the beach, shopping, animals! Love to live healthy!

    This sort of generic profile may work IF you’ve posted several recent clear face and body photos that are attractive, otherwise they will produce a yawn and “next.”

  24. Anonymous says:

    Please , SBs, just post several clear and recent face and body photos. Trust me it saves time and agitation. You will get messages from real SDs and if you’ve posted obviously recent and clear photos you can ignore the SDs who ask for more.

  25. Anonymous says:

    I am continually amazed at how many SB’s on the site are seeking platonic arrangements where some guy pays them thousands of dollars just for the privilege of taking them to dinner, shopping, and “hanging out.” It was not always thus. Are there really that many SDs out there willing to enter into such arrangements? It seems like the site actively encourages SBs to think that pots of gold are out there for the taking, with no obligation necessary. Or maybe the platonic SDs are just wrecking things for the rest of uS.

    • Anonymous says:

      yeah thats insane!!

    • Anonymous says:

      Yes, one girl was asking me to give her $2,000 to start a health club with before I even met her, and said sex was not in the cards. Crazy. On the other hand, I did meet a student whom I like a lot. We couldn’t work out a formal arrangement, but still I see her for dinner every now and then and slip her a couple of hundred just to keep her in pizza and beer. At this point though it’s more like helping a friend out than a SD/SB relationship. But I never would’ve even gone on a first date if that were the working assumption.

    • Anon says:

      Again please see my other comment – I agree yet I’m sure there are a few SD who for personal reasons want (or make do) with a platonic arrangement. I certainly had one years ago, I may be one of the few but I understand and I’m happy with a physical relationship but if that is all it is going to be PLEASE make it clear in your profiles and make it worth it for the SB who might be happy with this kind of arrangment!

  26. R says:

    RE: “Photo Collectors” I’m sure they exist. But some SDs stop messaging after seeing private pix because they’ve lost interest, not b/c they’re just collecting. If that’s the case, the SD should have the guts & courtesy to say so, rather than just leave someone hanging. Common courtesy solves SO many problems. It’s a pity that it is so rare here.

  27. R says:

    SBs, take care w/ photos. I know that it’s good to include at least 1 full body pic. But PLEASE, don’t take the pic in a bedroom strewn w/ clothes, shoes, magazines, etc. It makes you look like you live in a sty. Maybe you do but why would you want to show the world?

    • R says:

      Another bit about photos: if you put up a photo of yourself w/ others, you really ought to either blur/cover their faces or get their permission for their faces to appear here. I say this b/c twice now I’ve seen the daughters of people I know here in someone else’s pix and neither pic was terrifically flattering to the young ladies I recognized. I’m not about to “blow the whistle” on anyone but what if, say, their brother here? I know that sounds like SO much work but, like I said up the thread, ask yourself if you want to be successful or just not inconvenienced? Shortcuts like this make many SDs think you’re careless – not care free – and I doubt that’s the impression you wish to leave.

  28. Clueless (I guess) SD says:

    Ladies: please keep the toilet out of your selfies! Also, one clear face pic is sufficient. We would like to see more of your neck, arms, torso, legs, etc.

  29. Clueless (I guess) SD says:

    Look for married SDs. It is unlikely that a married guy has a wife that is ok with him giving her a disease. Also, beg to differ with the notion that almost everyone has an STD. Not this guy.

  30. D-Dubs says:

    it seems every time I start talking to someone, they start right in with wanting an allowance before meeting, and even before showing that they’re real!

    they won’t even take a descriptive selfie or send a short video to prove who they are, and get offended when you ask! to me, that immediately signals a scammer. if they real want to get something started, they should have no problem proving who they are.

    SA needs to find a way to screen potential SBs to prove they’re real. I’ve found a few with fake profiles with pictures easily found on tineye.com – can’t the site at least weed these out first? I’m paying about $90 a month now to be on this site, they should be able to afford it!

    • Anonymous says:

      you want personal photos and videos specifically made for you to prove that someone is real? sorry, nobody has time for that

      • N. O. Nemuss says:

        “sorry, nobody has time for that”

        Then nobody has time to do for you what you want.

      • SD Executive Gentleman says:

        yes, then i dont have time to send you $…..its getting bad. i used to meet girls on this site DAILY and have great dates and arrangements. Now it seems every girl just wants their venmo or cash account filled for nothing. NOT!!!

    • Kat says:

      I don’t know who you’re talking to but I feel taking a simple proof picture on both accounts should be the least of the worries.

    • R says:

      “Search Google for image” works, too. So people, if you want your presence here to be on the QT, i.e. secret, don’t use fotos from your Facebook, Twitter or other social media. TinEye & Google photo searches will find them. Using these services doesn’t mean we’re stalkers; enough of us have been scammed that we use these means – for self-defense.

    • Anonymous says:

      “Why would you say “they should be able to afford it”?
      Wtf is wrong with you?

      • Sugar Daddy With Open Eyes says:

        I suspect he is saying “Why can’t SA afford to weed out fake profiles since it is charging money for SD’s to be here?”

  31. Great SB wanting Great SD says:

    For all you “perfect” SDs out there, please know that your Little Man Syndrome, God complex, and mommy issues are really ruining this site.
    -Take the time to have a well mannered (important!), carefully thought out and detailed profile. (Being honest and crude do not equate.)
    -Respect other’s profiles. If someone doesn’t want messages from married men, leave them alone if you’re married.
    -Let’s practice proper grammar, spelling, and punctuation okay? Okay. (Shorthand and misspelled words are a turn off.)
    -Asking for sex and/or sexual favors for money is… ILLEGAL and distasteful.
    -Be nice, pleasant, and approachable.
    -Honesty is important, but remember that does not give you a pass to be rude.

    One thing we must all keep in mind is that our experiences with bad shouldn’t taint our good or potentially good ones. Stop generalizing & taking your past anger out on your possible future.

    What else did I forget t mention SBs?

    -Just a Sugar Baby looking for her Sugar Daddy

    • Anonymous says:

      Question, you say “Respect other’s profiles. If someone doesn’t want messages from married men, leave them alone if you’re married.”

      How do you know they don’t want messages from married men? (other than a reply that they don’t) Is there something on the profile that I’ve missed?

  32. Yana says:

    I have had little to no luck on this site, I had one POT try to talk me out of my principles, several blatantly proposition me for sex. But no one genuine or living up to their profiles. Help?

  33. R says:

    “I love to have fun” is one of the most idiotic things I see said in SB profiles. Who doesn’t like to have fun? Saying this makes you look superficial, which you probably are. So, thinking out loud, continue doing it. And I’ll continue moving on to the next profile.

    • Jarno says:

      Quite agree. Along with FinDom (really??), spoil me, princess, goddess, etc ad nauseam. Boring, boring, BORING. Ladies need to approach this like a job interview for a position they actually want. Make an EFFORT, in your profile, attitude, appearance. Don’t show up 30 minutes late in your sweats and then cry WTF when they don’t call you for a 2nd interview. Crikey. Ok , end of rant :)

  34. AdrienneD says:

    Any advice on my profile gentlemen?

    Thanks in advance, xo

    • Gary says:

      I searched for AdrienneD in profile text and came up with no matching members/

    • PNWWolf says:

      Other than being in Tennessee, I don’t see anything that doesn’t appeal to me. Your profile is better than most, IMHO.

    • Sugar Daddy With Open Eyes says:

      You wrote a lot of stuff on your profile, but when any Sugar Daddy looks at a profile his mindset is “what’s in it for me?”. After looking through your profile I see that you are attentive. I also see lots of things that you won’t do and things you demand. My advice would be to try to add or rewrite stuff to give the prospective SD a idea of what a great time he will have with you.

      Also, I notice some inconsistencies in your profile: If you are uncomplicated and don’t want to be a 3rd wheel why do you need discretion? Most SD’s will read “discretion” as “has jealous boy friend/husband with a gun” especially since you mention a long relationship. You also want good photos from prospective SD’s but your one picture doesn’t show your face.

    • AnonSD says:

      I’d definitely reach out to you if you were local to me. If I had to suggest anything, a few pictures to share. I might change the Christian Grey subheading too. But those are just minor things.

    • AnonSD having fun says:

      A- your profile is really quite nice and I genuinely wish most potential SBs spelled things out as well. Good luck!

  35. AnonyThrowaway says:

    Online only is not allowed, yet it is a tag? Makes sense.

  36. AnonSD says:

    “Spoil me with cash! I know my worth!” is the SB equivalent of a guy saying “Spoil me with lots of sex! I know my worth!” Just stop with that.

    I’m also not a fan of SB’s who seem like a lot of work. But that’s subjective. Things like “Impress me!” or “Can you keep up???” or “I want exciting experiences!” just seems… eh. I already work hard. Like all the time. I want to chill. I totally get wanting to do stuff and that’s fine, but just make it clear you understand that if a guy needs downtime, you’re ok with and attuned to that.

    • AnonSD says:

      Forgot to add: Platonic is fine so long as you don’t want any financial help.

      Financial Domination always makes me laugh. I’m hoping most SB’s throw that in just as a “may as well”

      • N. O. Nemuss says:

        I keep getting messages from the platonic findom people and from those who are not too much younger than I am, less good-looking than I am, and less fit than I am but still expect me to be their SD. Yes, that’ll happen.

      • Anonymous says:

        Anon
        Shhhhh
        Come on dude. Thanks for calling that out. Not. lol
        Before now, that was a very simple effective primary exclusionary filter. Pity.

      • Gary says:

        I do wonder if any SDs set up an account on this site in order to find a platonic relationship. It seems very unlikely, but I am curious …

      • Lexi says:

        Gary, I have been on a first date with one gentleman whose last sugar arrangement was strictly platonic. I was very confused when he expected all of the physical aspects if I were to enter into an arrangement, yet still wanted to compensate with the same allowance. I know that this isn’t all about money, but it almost made me feel used. As if I had to throw my body in as a bonus. It didn’t feel right at all. Needless to say, we are not seeing each other. I just thought I would chime in on your thoughts!
        -L

    • AdrienneD says:

      Interesting to get a guys perspective on girls profiles! Glad I don’t include any of those on mine haha.

      • AnonSD says:

        I like seeing the SBs perspective too. I’m always curious what they prefer. I also wonder what my SD competition is like.
        I personally never seem to have much trouble finding someone interested on here. The challenge is finding the right fit, but I would think that’s the same on any dating site.

      • Anonymous says:

        I just wish SA would start listening to the guys a bit more, and advising newbie SB’s accordingly. As an experienced Daddy who has been in two arrangements (one past long term and one current), I don’t expect “something for nothing.” Unfortunately, too many potential SB’s don’t understand that concept, and SA needs to guide them a bit better toward having realistic expectations.

  37. Anonymous says:

    I would encourage SB’s to put a little more effort into making a charismatic profile. WAY too many self-entitled millennials writing “seeking rich man”, “I love shopping”, “I love travelling”,… blablabla.
    That’s all good, but what CAN YOU OFFER, besides spending my money? Seriously?

    Plus, some of you don’t even show a decent picture of your face, and one has to jump through hoops just to get a full body pic+face. Are you kidding me here?

    And, expecting ANY money in advance before a meet-up? = NEXTED!

    This is NOT tinder, please show a little effort.

    • AdrienneD says:

      I suppose my profile could be a bit more charismatic. I became more blunt in an effort to wade through the countless “You seem great” messages that never led to anything. Another problem Ive encountered is men that just stop messaging me after Ive sent my photos! It came off like they were just collectors. So it made me more discerning about who I sent my photos to.

    • AdrienneD says:

      My profile could be more charismatic but I made it more blunt because I would just get a bunch of “You seem great!” messages that never led anywhere. I feel my more blunt approach gets less messages but it helps me wade through the swamp so to speak…I also became more discerning with who I send my photo to because so many men just stop messaging after they get a few photos…made me wonder if they were just collectors or something.

  38. Oak says:

    In case it’s not yet clear: men are rarely attracted to women with dog, rodent, or pig parts on their faces. If you want a hint of anonymity, scribble on your face. Seriously — that’s less disturbing.

    To echo another valuable point, if your entire physique is ONLY a head, that headshot is adequate. However, many men want to know whether you have, for example, legs — or other stereotypically female traits, like a neck, or a waist, or breasts. They add a certain… je ne sais quoi.

    Ed: If, as the article asserts, “mentioning that you want an “online only” arrangement is against the rules on our site,” perhaps you should not offer “Online Only” as a predefined profile tag.

  39. Person says:

    here are a few some have already been mentioned

    1. more than one person in your photos…..which one is you….sometimes you can look at hair color or height and get an idea of which is which but still

    2. this is my favorite those new (and stupid) “tags” in the “what I am looking for” that are contradictory…..so you are looking for a platonic, exclusive, friends with benefits, no strings attached, intimate, sugar newbie with sugar experience so you can financially dominate them

    and please don’t bother to fill out anything else in that section since you clicked on all the tags

    3. pics with just head shots

    4. pretending that you are “native American” when no one on earth ever would look at you and think that or believe that and all of your pics say something completely different about you (you know who you are in the group that does that stop pretending it is working)

    5. trying to tell everyone else “what this site is about” when you also state you are new at it……usually comes with a high demand for money and spoiling while also talking over and over about platonic and “not wasting time” (you are wasting your own time diva princess)

  40. AnonSB says:

    It’s very stressful when a SD is expecting sexual favours straight away as if they are paying for an escort. Too many lonely men on this site seem to forget that this isn’t Tinder, this is meant to be a proper dating site. Wish I’d run into real men and not overgrown, entitled children.

  41. Anonymous says:

    OMFG. Using SNAP chat to modify your pic – so F@#KING LAME!!!!! Speaking for myself – hate it. Speaking for every man in the cosmos – STOP NOW! YOU SUCK WHEN YOU DO THAT!

  42. Mickey M. says:

    There’s an increasing number of women offering pay-for-play as the
    only option to meet. They do this once they have your phone number
    and text or call you. Just a few hours ago I was asked for a $400
    “allowance” to come over and hang out. Sometimes they even post the
    financial demands on their profile page!

  43. Rena says:

    Yes, i have this problem especially in my area. I tried changing my profile and pictures but no luck. Any help?

  44. anonymous says:

    It seems almost a waste to fill out the bio, after putting a lot of thought into it, nothing serious…at least it stopped the SDs looking for prostitutes…guess there’s not many real SDs on here, or maybe they all like the millenial hooker appraoch, no one seems interested in mentoring, maybe I should just say I want to have fun and not mention that I have future goals in life? Not every student graduates, and most don’t even use thier degree soo….

  45. Anon says:

    All of the “Don’t waste my time.” comments SBs post are also BS. They’re usually the ones that want something platonic and are wasting everyone’s time by being on the site.

  46. R says:

    It seems that women here skew heavily toward the “millennial” type and use the phone app almost exclusively. I tried the app & hated it. It is less than worthless. The functionality encourages superficial searches. The app makes it very easy to “Favorite” someone without looking @ their profile. What a colossal time-waster; over 80% of my Favorite-listings come from women who haven’t even looked at my profile. They just “swiped,” based on the tiny thumbnail pic on their phone or my headline. Even then they can’t be bothered to look at my profile, even if I write them AND send access to private pix. It’s like they’re fine with failing as long it’s convenient.

  47. :/ says:

    Cannot find any SD that can prove he is STD free.

    • TT says:

      Depending on your definition, hardly anyone is. Herpes is both from your mother or almost anything else (HSV-1) and generally STD (-2) but not always.

      Tests for those and the other STDs are simply not relevant after a week or two. And they’re easily forged or modified anyhow.

      Simplest answer: Don’t have sex.
      Simple but slightly more practical: Insist on a condom.

      • Anonymous says:

        agreed you should use your messaging to determine if the other party has multiple partners thus increasing your risk a std test only proves they didn’t have a STD at the time of testing it’s not protection forever the best protection is no sex but that wouldn’t be much fun

    • Rick says:

      How hard is it to get tested?

      • Anonymous says:

        Not hard at all. however, if you are clean, the governement places will not call to tell you. no news is good news. Which is kinda BS since you end up waiting and wiating and waiting. You have to call them to get a verbal lol!

    • Dazed SD says:

      It’s not that hard to do. I did it with no problem

    • adelthorne says:

      Well I must say, its harder to get a SB that actually dont think its insulting that I ask this.

  48. Tonyspagony says:

    Well as an SD I think it is the SBs who play the waiting game. I contact someone who is on line and an hour later they contact back. Then its ‘OK lets talk!’ so I do and then they expect me to sit at my computer for up to 1-2 hours whilst they check their other 50 online chatters before they get back to me!!? Sorry I won’t be there. The other issue that gets to me is the ‘private photo’ request. I get it sometimes and always respond BUT when I ask for reciprocate phot access it usually isn’t given! So I am adopting a ‘You First!’ approach and if nothing happens I move on as my money is good everywhere!

  49. NomaluRuthThwala says:

    Hi like to join this group because I like to get my Sugar daddy

  50. ThisIsNot GFM says:

    Here are some major blunders that I can’t believe they didn’t mention in this blog!
    PHOTO BLUNDERS
    Having only 1 profile photo
    Using photos that are to far away
    Using only headshot photos (trying to hide their bodies)
    Using a mixture of old and new photos
    Having multiple people in the main photo
    Having multiple people in more then one of the photos
    Using Snapchat filters on any of the photos
    (no one wants to see dog ears or fake glasses)

    ABOUT ME BLUNDERS
    Leaving this section blank & asking POT’s to message them
    Telling POT’s they can find out more at the meet & greet date
    Sounding like entitled millennial & a spoiled brat
    Only talking money or how much they love money

    WHAT IM LOOKING FOR BLUNDERS
    Asking for a large allowance & wanting a platonic relationship
    Only talking about the financial aspect & not the type of relationship they’re looking for

  51. Anonymous says:

    What? You mean “Substantial” requirements but “nothing sexual” doesn’t generate a flood of emails form SD’s? Shocked, I tell you…

  52. Anonymous says:

    I generally agree with this article. As an SD, I find the blurry photos — or deceptive photos — to be the most problematic issue. Many SB’s will post a photo of their face, for example, but not include their body. In such cases, the SB will often describe herself as “curvy.” What exactly does that statement mean, though? Without meaningful pictures, it’s hard to say. In many cases, I’ve found that the “curvy” SB is morbidly obese by medical standards. So let’s add the “no body” category to the problem of blurry pictures.

    • Gary says:

      “Curvy,”I’ve thought, started out as a euphemism for full-figured, up to about a size 16, but now I see SBs with perfectly luscious figures describing themselves that way. You won’t know without a photo.

    • Anonymous says:

      Okay, this is a good question, then: I am someone who is ACTUALLY curvy. Like, I go in at the waist and way out at the hips. While I’m not trying to compare myself to these ladies, think Beyonce, J-Lo, Kim Kardashian. I know that if I say slim, I am probably not what they expect. If I say curvy, the assume I am very much so overweight. If I say athletic, even if I have good tone, again, I assume they are expecting someone with a runner’s build. I’m in the middle of making my profile, so I’m still waiting on approval for my pictures and trying to find good ones. But is there a description that accurately conveys big hips, small waist? I think the word “Pin-up” should be an option.

  53. Anonymous says:

    The demands are the killer for me. Especially of time. Like anyone’s time is more important than another. When I read this BS, I usually just hide, block and move on to an sb that is less drama.

  54. Anonymous says:

    first

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