For any father attempting to introduce a new woman into his child’s life, he is bound to face some awkward conversations. These need to be navigated with a certain sense of delicacy and sensitivity. Plus, explaining a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby relationship comes with added hurdles. Children, both younger and older, may not be able to fully comprehend the complexities of marriage or divorce. For the fathers on SeekingArrangement, below are some tips on how to tell your kids you’re a Sugar Daddy.
Only you know what your kids are capable of handling. Emotional stressors such as divorce, puberty, school work or shifts in family dynamics can weigh heavily on adolescents. I’m sureou remember how Earth-shattering change was growing up. If you notice your son or daughter is going through a tough time at school or struggling with their self-confidence, don’t add to their plate as there’s a chance they’ll be hypersensitive to the subject of dating. If your child has a relatively active social life (sleep overs, extra-curricular activities, etc.), then learning that their mom or dad is seeing someone new may not affect them, as much. They’ve got plenty of activities to keep them occupied.
As a Sugar Daddy there is a chance your Sugar Baby may be in the same age range as your son or daughter. If that’s the case you can expect them to be upset by the news. Be patient and understand there may be some resentment on their end. Give them space, but do not abandon them and continue to be a factor in their life. Plan some Father-Daughter date nights or Father-Son bonding time, and make sure they knows you’re still a great emotional support system.
Keep it on a need to know basis. If you have one serious Sugar Baby who might be popping up at events, going on regular vacations with you, or even stopping by the house, it’s beneficial to mention you’re seeing someone. You don’t necessarily have to delve into the intricacies of your SB/SD arrangement, but simply put, you’re a gentlemen and believe in spoiling/taking care of someone. On the other hand, If you have multiple, NSA Babies, this will require a much more delicate approach, so seriously consider if your children can handle the situation.
This goes without saying, but if you aren’t seriously committed to another women, do not involve your children. It isn’t a good idea (for any parents who are dating) to bring men or women around the house or to family functions if you aren’t sure they’re in it for the long hall. Children can very easily become attached to someone, so it isn’t fair to expose them to a person who might just be another notch in the rotation.
Your kids are of the appropriate age (older teen, early twenties) and you’ve decided to be completely transparent. If you have multiple children, telling them separately would be best. They may each have different feelings or reactions, so letting them express these emotions privately will help ease the situation, and allow them to feel comfortable enough to ask any questions. They need to trust you, so invite and encourage questions about your dating life.
There may be many questions, concerns and even disapproval from friends or family when dealing with this topic, so be prepared for any backlash or influxes of emotions. Do not get defensive, upset or brush your kids off if they have an unfavorable reaction. Be calm, assertive and understanding.
Every man’s relationship with his family varies in it’s uniqueness and can only fully be understood by the members involved. It’s your own prerogative whether you tell your children, spouse or ex about romantic relationships or dating. Remember, be sensitive to their feelings, don’t force a reaction, and only divulge what you think they’re able to handle. Do you have any other tips on how to tell your kids you’re a Sugar Daddy?