Sugar comes in many forms, and LGBT arrangements are one of the many variations. Most Sugar Daddy advice applies to all genders and sexual orientations, but there are some top tips specifically for gay Sugar Daddies.
This is important with all arrangements, but especially in the LGBT community where people seeking arrangements may or may not want to be monogamous. Both sides need to be upfront about relationship expectations and how promiscuous they want their partner to be. This is a no brainer, but everyone should be wearing protection either way. Don’t be afraid to delve into your Sugar Baby’s lifestyle. If he is the experimenting type, or an avid drinker, etc. these could be signs of a dead end road ahead.
We’re not talking fashion here. Choosing an arrangement over a traditional relationship might mean that he’s not openly gay. This rule of thumb goes for Babies and Daddies. As with any type of relationship, be respectful and approach the topic with grace. Be extremely careful when approaching the topic, and always use discretion, such as not calling or texting first. If your discretion is of utmost importance to you, communicate that message in your profile.
For many gay men, this is a very important part of a relationship. Without making him uncomfortable, or being too blunt, ask if sexual position preference is important to him. Some men might not want to be intimate at all, but if you don’t match in the bedroom, it might not work out. This could be a way to transition into potential fetishes you and him may share.
Being talkative and having meaningful things to say are not one in the same. With younger men, seek out someone who can offer mature conversation. An easy discussion topic to start with is school or work. Learning about these two things will give you a launch pad to start negotiations. If he spends his weekend racking up credit card debt at Nordstrom, he may just be looking for handouts. Don’t be afraid to let him carry the conversation. If he can hold his own on the topics of art and wine, he may be a keeper.
Since there are not as many LGBT as heterosexuals, the search pool in your area is likely smaller than the average Sugar Daddy. Mix up your location, or set your radius wider when using the search function on SeekingArrangement to maximize results. If you open to travelling, that could be something worth including in your messages to potential Babies.
Good luck! The Sugar Gods are on your side! May they be forever in your favor.