Breaking into the Sugar Bowl is like entering a whole new dating game, where you create the stakes and the benefit is all your own. Arrangements are like snowflakes: each one is unique. Building a relationship on your terms is choosing your own adventure, but that should never mean compromising your values.
The sugar world is new and exciting, but not without a few common faux pas. Sugar stereotypes exist for a reason, but the root of a mutually beneficial relationship is much deeper than the monetary gain. When two people enter an arrangement, attraction and common ground should be some of the first things that first pique your interest. Starting your sugar experience should be a smooth transition, and all Babies and Daddies should avoid some common mistakes.
The intricacies of an arrangement can be defined by individual and couple needs, and that should be openly discussed before the initial meeting. One thing is certain: an arrangement is not a one time thing. A first time meeting is no different from a first date. The goal is to see if you can develop a relationship with this person. Once the relationship takes off, funds and intimacy are a natural progression.
1. Neither money nor sex should be exchanged on a first date. Deciding whether to pursue an arrangement with someone might take a few dates, and both people should be comfortable enough that the finances and attraction become second nature. Receiving or presenting a gift on a first date is okay, but should not be expected.
2. Do not agree upon pay-per-meet arrangements. Sugar is not a transaction, it’s a lifestyle. Creating a mutually beneficial relationship means each persons needs are met, and there is no way to meet those needs on a pay-per-meet basis. Don’t sell yourself short with a one-time meeting. The point of an arrangement is to enhance one another’s lives, much past the first date.
3. Don’t be desperate. Finding the right counterpart in an arrangement requires patience, just like finding a spouse. Desperation does not look good on anyone. There is no way to find an arrangement in the midst of desperation. you’ll end up settling for someone who might not be a perfect fit.
4. Sex is not part of the arrangement. From the first date and beyond, sugar does not have a sex requirement. Being in a committed relationship in which two partners take care of each others’ needs can constitute intimacy, but only as a natural progression. The closeness of sex should be experienced out of desire, never obligation.
A new light needs to be shed on sugar. The future of mutually beneficial relationships is in the hands of our members, and participating in safe and fulfilling sugar is a fundamental belief.