Your twenties are arguably the self-defining decade of your life. Take a tally of a people in a room. More than half have spent their days at a part-time job and their nights alternating between drunken jubilee and stupor (Ah, college). While the smaller half of people took on a daunting choice; finding a mentor.
How-to and self-help books are centered on reigning in these precious developmental years and using them to your full advantage. One key misconception about mentorship is that these relationships are strictly professional. The best mentors understand more than just their mentee’s career goals. A good mentor will know enough about your personal life to understand how external factors could affect progress.
Let’s face it, no one likes being told what to do. But trying to jump start a career on theoretical knowledge, and last semester’s work experience won’t get you anywhere.
In a recent interview with Vanity Fair, Jimmy Fallon credited his mentor Lorne Michaels for his success.
Lorne helped me with everything—with relationships, with me getting famous
The right mentor can help elevate more than just a bank account, or career worth. Though it isn’t easily quantified, guidance based on valuable life experience passed down from a mentor is arguably that which makes the most impact. Such is the case of Michaels and Fallon.
How to Get Started
The first step to finding a good match is to identify your goals and expectations. With all plans, knowing what you want from the mentorship is the biggest hurdle. Next, lay out a realistic schedule for how much time you can commit to meeting with a mentor. Be sensitive to the fact that some groundwork will need to be done in order to hammer out the ideal time to meet for both parties.
Finding a Mentor
Don’t go combing through the Yellowpages! Cold-calling is a sure-fire way of alienating a potential mentor. Use direct connections first and then work your way to outer circles.
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Being a Good Mentee
Fact of the matter is being a mentee involves a level of submission. Which is why finding someone who can be brutally honest and you can trust 100% is vital. Each mentoring relationship should be mutually beneficial. You may be thinking: What can I give in return? It can be as simple as showing thanks and maintaining humility throughout the process. The latter is one asset every striving entrepreneur, or professional, should maintain throughout their career. It doesn’t matter if you’ve made it to the corner office, or just landed that first job.
A mentor is more than just an asset. The right one may just be the most meaningful relationship created in your life.Take the first step on your journey to find the ideal mentor!