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Celebrating Father’s Day with Your Sugar Daddy: Yay or Nay?

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Happy Friday Sugar Bowl! While perusing our Facebook messages (by the way, this is open to any of you want to drop us a line) I noticed a gaggle of Sugar Babes asking the same questions:

Do I celebrate Father’s Day with my Sugar Daddy?

Does that mean I have to buy him a gift?

What do I buy my Sugar Daddy as a Father’s Day gift?

If I spend my allowance on Father’s Day, should I expect him to reimburse me?

One of the main things to keep in mind is whether or not your Sugar Daddy has children. If he does, it is best to celebrate with him later that day or the following day.

Gift buying for Sugar Daddies can be very stressful. For a man that gives you anything you want, the best route is to find something fun and thoughtful. Use your imagination…

Lastly, remember that by doing something for Daddy on Sunday should come from the heart. If the thought of reimbursement crosses your mind, skip the present. Make him dinner or give him a nice massage instead. Sure, he can afford to get the pros to do it, but it’s the thought that counts.

What are you doing for your Sugar Daddy on Father’s Day?

What do you think about celebrating Father’s Day with you “other Daddy”?

 

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171 Responses to “Celebrating Father’s Day with Your Sugar Daddy: Yay or Nay?”

  1. FatBastardSD says:

    @PriceySpicey

    It means you are all talk :-).

  2. flyr says:

    If I wanted punishment I would just read the stack of mail from the feds

  3. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi, baby – what do you think the word “adoration” means in that statement?

  4. FatBastardSD says:

    @PriceySpicey

    “Sorry Softi – no peni are needed in the testing of this hypothesis. But I’ve already offered that you can try to make me “squirt” with pleasure at your adoration. I will happily give you a test drive just to dispell the stupid. “Squirting” fantasy.”

    Back peddling already. All talk.

  5. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi – I offered to give said free test drive after you provide a diligent wooing. Commence the wooing and the test drive will follow. 😉

  6. FatBastardSD says:

    @SpiceyPricey

    All talk as usual, when are we going to arrange for my test drive?

  7. SugarySpicey says:

    Fly – I’m sorry, but you’ll need to be punished for that, go choose your implement little boy.

  8. flyr says:

    @ Spicey >>>>>>>A clear case of premature exclamation on my part

  9. SugarySpicey says:

    Flyr, dear – you missed the other portion of my post. I said that at an allowance below $2K I wouldn’t take the cash, I’d prefer the “arrangement” acted more like dating with presents. Which is exactly the situation you just described.

  10. flyr says:

    continued

    The above is not intended to say what an allowance should be but rather why it’s not apples to apples

  11. flyr says:

    @ spicey “Rick – this might make me seem like a total snob, I know $1K per month really (pre-tax) ends up meaning about $20+K per year in salary – but I wouldn’t accept it. It would average out to a weekly allowance similar to what a backpage hooker gets. ”

    I seldom disagree with Spicey but I think the comparison is simply wrong for a couple reasons.

    The first is that if you are into sugar strictly for money then you probably belong on backpage and yes in many cases you’ll do better there. My guess is that the range here is that a high percent want more to far more than just money. There’s an expectation of the way they will be treated, mentoring will frequently be a benefit, door opening and someone they can call at 3 AM (assuming the SD is not married) for help or just confirmation of the meaning of life. In other cases it’s a friendly chat with her landlord explaining the scope of the laws he is breaking and the potential consequences.

    Sliding down to the grimy, base economics, It’s like comparing the hourly rental rate for a Hertz car with the terms of a leasing company. Hopefully there’s also other economic benefits that are of value to the SB.

    Finally , and perhaps the most important is that the backpage girl is only doing enough checking to satisfy herself that there is not a major reason not to see the person while hopefully the SB requires an abundance of positive vibrations gathered over a couple of meetings and some computer research.

  12. SugarySpicey says:

    I believe I might scare Guru away if I shared my kinkier experiences.

  13. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    RussianSB!

    Hi ,
    U r back,
    You missed squirting topic! And
    :)
    Guru’s new contest : “the kinkiest stuff I ever done with SA members ”

    The prize is – you can re-do this stuff with Guru after a dinner with him:) :)
    do you game ?

  14. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    @ SDinChicago

    at least Lifestyle members are sexually educated ,
    this is what I suspected.

    thank you for your input .

    I have a Q – if someone (a girl or a guy ) is polyamorous or swingers …can they go back to monogamous style ?

    I tend to think that once someone onto this life style – they get absorb in there – it is like a religious cult , and they never come back to conventional mono relationship . ?

    thank you in advance

  15. SugarySpicey says:

    Rick – this might make me seem like a total snob, I know $1K per month really (pre-tax) ends up meaning about $20+K per year in salary – but I wouldn’t accept it. It would average out to a weekly allowance similar to what a backpage hooker gets. I know, I know – it’s a lot of money, and all that some girls want in order to make ends meet.

    But, for me, if I liked an SD who was in a >$3K range I’d probably prefer dating with gifts to allowance – but would still be open to the NSA element of sugar dating.

    But, by pushing your allowance up into a $3-5 range you get out of the comparison set with hooker weekly allowance and may find more sugars who understand the game. Plus, no girl is going to turn you down for being too generous.

  16. Kathy says:

    Hmmm… maybe because of your age, they are hoping to land you as a boyfriend. You need to be clear up front that you’re not emotionally available if that’s not what you’re interested in.

  17. Ricklad says:

    @spicey thank you for the advice I have the disposable income for the typical sugar allowance in my area. The funny things is that I keep running into girls who just want to be taking to nice restaurants and have a guy buy them drinks at the clubs. It seems like alot of girls want pseudo boyfriends. I have only had one SB ask me for an allowance even though,I have offered them all to the very few girls I actually had a meet and greet with. I just made some good income in the stock market on a lucky bet. I think I am going to raise my allowance to the 3-5k range on my profile,and see if that makes a difference.

    One pot sb said that she wanted to go shopping,I said I will give you an allowance to go shopping,but she insisted I take her and that she did not want an allowance..

  18. SugarySpicey says:

    Oh Russian I beg to differ! I dated a guy with a crooked c*ck years ago – he made me come like crazy, perfect bend for hitting the G-spot when on all fours. Mmmmmm! Too bad he was such a douche.

  19. @Jersey Darling …. Thanks.

    On squirting. My wife and are swingers. In the Lifestyle community, squirting is something that is …ummm… I think “learned” is the word I am looking for. There are seminars, blogs, how-to guides, etc. Among long term members of the community (say 5+ years), I would say about one woman in four is a regular squirter.

    It is not pee. Women are taught to void their bladders before intercourse, because the sensation of “feeling like I need to pee” is associated with squirting. The fluid itself is odorless and colorless.

    Squirt is produced in glands. They are located one to two inches inside the vagina at the top of the cavity. Their purpose is to make a woman “wet”. They are not limited in capacity. Consider saliva and tears. Those fluids are essentially plasma with a few additional enzymes, and they are produced on demand in any quantity that is appropriate. “Squirt” is the same. Women can produce prodigious amounts. There are vendors who sell something akin to impermeable blankets that can barely keep up. I have been with women that can literally become dehydrated after a prolonged session.

    Squirting and orgasm are not linked naturally. After all, the underlying mechanism is about lubrication. But women in the lifestyle love to practice, and somehow they learn to time the two to happen together. They report that it enhances the orgasm.

    At the risk of calling it a pissing contest, women in the lifestyle love to compete with each other. This ranges from “who looks the sexiest” to “who can scream the loudest”. Squirting is one of those female arenas of competition.

  20. DorkyGuy says:

    @lil_tm~ A good retort might have been “I know you aren’t crass enough to send me a video of you masturbating. So, since that can’t be what this is, is that you stroking another man’s cock, or another man stroking your cock?”

  21. Frank says:

    Hello Russia SB! I was wondering when you would get thawed out.

  22. Kathy says:

    Oh, Dashel… You’re so punny! 😉

  23. Dashel says:

    @RussianSB
     
    Hi and welcome (back) I’m kinda new around here.  Congrats on your billionaire penis pic!  Also good work inspiring Spicey Spice to wear a flirty skirt and heels, you’re doing good work
     
    @lil_tm
     
    Wow video huh?  Reading that coupled with the Instagram announcement and Vines growing popularity… well I suppose you should have seen that cumming.  
    (See what I did there?)
     
    Oh I’m also with you all on the getting away from the computer.  I’m trying to do that myself. 
     
     

  24. RussianSB says:

    I have a solutions for you : they hurry to show their p*nis, because they knew, that they don’t have any chanse to get laid. And not believe it can happens. So, it is not fantasy, it is sad reality. While confident male not let you see his toy even if you jump on it !

  25. RussianSB says:

    Lil_tm you are very polite… that is the way all ladies should react !
    It is not the accent it is simply bad English, and you help to improve it , guys ?

  26. lil_tm says:

    @Russian
    If you talk IRL like you type, can you please call me? I think listening to that accent would be awesome!

    And yes, you are right. Getting away from the computer is a fantastic idea. 😀

    Re: D*ck pics. Speak of the Debbil.
    There was a guy I was talking to, shared my number with, texted a bit, etc.
    Well, we set a date to meet and he cancelled. No big deal. He seemed a little perverse, but it was one of those instances where I didn’t want to make a call without meeting him in person first.

    Then recently, I started to hear from him again. He started his sex talk and I just ignored it. I figured he was just giving it a shot to see how I would react, but backed off when I didn’t play into it.
    Today, he told me he was bored and horny and sent me a VIDEO of him spanking it.
    I mean, I’m guessing that’s what it is.
    I see a hand on a mans package behind the play button. What else could it be??

    So I said, “thanks for the video, but that’s not really my style”

    He apologized. And he’ll never hear from me again because that’s disgusting.

    So then I started wondering what drives someone to do that. Maybe he’s an exhibitionist. I have friends that go to a local nudie pool and hang out naked just because that’s what they enjoy.
    Maybe he thinks if I watch it I’ll start salivating and just have to have it??
    Maybe he gets his rocks off pushing that type of stuff on girls.

    Of course I could be over thinking it, because I am sure this type of dating for a lot of people is their sexual freedom fantasy and they just want some crazy, naughty behavior as a break from their mundane reality.

    That’s cool, but don’t make a girl feel like your plaything. None of us want to feel cheap and unimportant.

    @ Spicey-“I also worry that they’ll hump like jack rabbits with no finesse

    I couldn’t have said it better myself.

  27. RussianSB says:

    Esteticue,estetique pleasure- I mean. For me it is important, but general looks not very important, it is true. Man must looks just a little bit better than a gorilla male

  28. RussianSB says:

    Why Cosmo not write about bended troubles… it is painful no matter how skilled you are, it is not bring esteque pleasure it must. And some boys cannot have long lasting relationship , because of that. And not a word if it possible to correct it, or make plastic surgery.

  29. RussianSB says:

    Squirt discussions ?
    Oh, God, I miss you, guys !
    I drop another topic with my friend, and here is the right place and perfect timing for it : ” Men with bended p*nises. Do they have right to exist among us ?”.
    I don’t want to offend anybody, but this is real phisical deffect, because what can be more beautiful than nice and normal boy shape ? Men are visual, more or less, but nobody will have second date with woman with significant body deffect (I knew VERY beautiful girl with chest bones deffect ).

  30. RussianSB says:

    Kathy, but I heard scary bedstories from other girls about talking p*enises on Scype. That is the only bed experience that I learn from others, and not making my own mistake :)))

  31. RussianSB says:

    I love PinUp pictures for blog topics, SA developing its taste
    to a point of non-return. And , of course, Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies exist !
    At least 10 grate moovies shot about that topic. In Russian it translated in
    “Papa” (“Papick” )and understood correct action by that. So, it is wide spread , internationally known sub-culture, and , I am sure, someone already did Phd diplomme on that topic :)

  32. Kathy says:

    I refuse to jump on Scype chat at short notice, I guess, I miss a lot of sinsere exposures because of that.

    Don’t worry, you’re not missing much. They mainly just want to ogle your body for free. Much better that you wait. I think you weed out the riffraff by making them wait… Then you end up with higher quality.

  33. RussianSB says:

    Please DO, Spicey !
    Although, I love sugar gossips, town tales, and sharing sugar stories here, nothing feels better than to be involved in such, don’t forget about it , my caramelled friends !

  34. RussianSB says:

    I get my first p*nis picture ! I Googled guy, real billionair, I gave him my e-mail and he sent me a lot of pictures, some resent and some – he is 30 years younger, one picture with big equipment hanging , which is not connected to real functioning at the times 2013 , but , at least that. So girl absolutely right, why doubt her words ?
    I never recieve any p*nis pictures before in my web dating history, but I refuse to jump on Scype chat at short notice, I guess, I miss a lot of sinsere exposures because of that :)

  35. SugarySpicey says:

    Russian! Welcome back! I will wear a flirty skirt and high heels today in your honor.

  36. RussianSB says:

    I am living in old, not-upgraded world, where man and woman noway have equal rights, and I have some different ideas about AFFORTS of both sexes to become parents ( I know you will throw stones at me, and some guys are grate responsible fathers ), but what about all that alimony checks , maybe it’s need to be printed in the post-card fashion, according to Father Day ?

  37. RussianSB says:

    I am missed you all, having grate vacations, real dating etc.
    Ladies – get away from screens ! Summer ! Put on fancy dresses and flirty shoes take friends and start deep seafishing ! Long Moscow winter seems to be over and I am not going to waste limited number of dates when I can wear high heels sandals…
    LEAVE SCREENS TO HOPLESS WORCAHOLICS and other disabled categories of people !

  38. RussianSB says:

    Come on… sugars, you have FATHER Day ?

  39. flyr says:

    Re young SD

    There’s probably a SB for most every decent SD offering real sugar and over 18, but there may not be many. Younger friends have talked of helping some younger escape the curse of Neerdom. However, Spicey and Kathy probably reflect the typical reaction.

    With some age comes appreciation of all things sensual. One learns that a feast is not 5 quarterpounders with cheese and two sixpacks of beer.

    If you are serious – listen to what the ladies here have to say, be honest in your profile and in your contacts and who knows what might happen.

  40. Kathy says:

    I second Spicy’s assessment.

  41. SugarySpicey says:

    Rick – age is always a red flag for me. But, then again, my expectations are rather high when it comes to sugar. Typically, when I see young SDs I feel like they’re probably on the wrong site and just looking for a hot girlfriend, not an arrangement. I also worry that they’ll hump like jack rabbits with no finesse (though that tends to be something that happens in the 25 and under range.)

    That said, the fish bowl is full of all types and I prefer a man with a little silver in his hair – other women on the site would like a guy who is closer to their age who just gives them enough help to make ends meet, and is fun in bed. Whatever you’re looking for, make it clear in your profile so you don’t waste time. I know women hate it when after two weeks if texting and a couple dates that realize that the man they’re talking to thinks concerts and nice dinners is all that an SD is expected to provide.

    The question is not if you’re old enough to be an SD, but if you have the disposable income to support the goals of your SB. When a guy wants to give me $500 a month to bang him in a cheap 3 star hotel room, he’s usually under 40 and I completely ignore his message.

  42. Ricklad says:

    Hello Im 29 yrolds,and I was wondering do you guys think I am too young for the sugar bowl. I have had some limited success ,but not much.

  43. Kathy says:

    HA!!! Wow… That was precious, lil_tm. Thanks… I needed a chuckle… =)

  44. lil_tm says:

    “Suddenly, you stop and pull out of me… Leaving me empty and desperate… I beg… “Please…” But you cover my mouth with your hand… Our eyes meet… yours possess such an intensity that it makes me quiver… I see your desire burning deep inside you, and I completely surrender to your will… I feel you take control of me… you push hard against me… I’m filled with fear and excitement… Because I sense what is coming next…”

    And then you say…..Baby, I’m taking you to Pound Town!

    : P

  45. Kathy says:

    May I have your honest opinion? Often when I’m getting deeply into a man, I will send him little erotic messages… I’ve been told several times that I should write erotica… I haven’t taken it seriously mainly because I don’t have much time, and even though I can write an intense sex scene, I’ve never gone through the process of developing a storyline with compelling characters. Anyway, here is the message I sent yesterday… For those of you who have read erotica, how does this stack up?

    I would love for you to press your body against mine and kiss me passionately… Run your mouth down my neck to my breasts… and playfully tickle my nipples with your tongue… while I feel your hard cock brushing gently against my thighs…

    I start to moan in anticipation of your touch… My hips begin to twist and grind with excitement… I whisper into your ear… “Please… feed me…” And you push him towards his mark… and pause…

    I wrap my legs around you, pleading for you to push him further… And you rub him against me… teasing me… I become more desperate… “Please… I’m hungry… Please don’t make me beg…”

    Still… You rub him against me… occasionally entering with just the tip… my body starts to shiver and I’m left whimpering with desire…

    Finally, you thrust him forward completely filling me… You’re strokes are long and hard… and I lose myself in the rhythm of your hips against my thighs…

    Suddenly, you stop and pull out of me… Leaving me empty and desperate… I beg… “Please…” But you cover my mouth with your hand… Our eyes meet… yours possess such an intensity that it makes me quiver… I see your desire burning deep inside you, and I completely surrender to your will… I feel you take control of me… you push hard against me… I’m filled with fear and excitement… Because I sense what is coming next…

  46. lil_tm says:

    I don’t know if this will make everyone’s day as much as it just made mine.
    Souuuuuuuuuuul Traaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaain!
    I can’t stop dancing lol

    [IMG]https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=aeEQDtk63H4[/IMG]

  47. KittyKat says:

    YAY!!! At the airport to fly to NYC!!!

    I love my life 😀

    Xx
    Treasured 😀

  48. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    SSpicey

    – When I tie you down and ride my Hitachi an inch above your throbbing, desperate manhood I’ll remember that song.

    SSpicey : while you are keeping him tied down (or up) and blindfolded please text me the 10-20 (location), I would love to help you and come up with a few more tricks.

  49. sweetie says:

    Sugary@Bastardo “Softi – When I tie you down and ride my Hitachi an inch above your throbbing, desperate manhood I’ll remember that song.”

    Please, no favors nor punishment for Bastardo. He didn’t earn either of them.

  50. FatBastardSD says:

    @Dorky

    Nice!

    @PriceySpicey

    I really love your dedication to the scientific method. I look forward to our “test drive” :-).

  51. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi – When I tie you down and ride my Hitachi an inch above your throbbing, desperate manhood I’ll remember that song.

  52. Dashel says:

    He puzzled and puzzed till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. Maybe Sugar, he thought… doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Sugar, perhaps… means a little bit more!

  53. DorkyGuy says:

    LOL, nice… The sugar version of the Grinch must have a penis two sizes too small!

    He just needs some affection from the citizens of Hoe-ville. Jumping to the last verse:

    “And what happened then…?
    Well…in Hoe-ville they say
    That the Grinch’s small penis
    Grew three sizes that day!
    And the minute his penis didn’t feel quite so tight,
    He whizzed with his load through the bright morning light”

  54. sweetie says:

    Bastardo, you’re worse than the grinch.

  55. FatBastardSD says:

    @sweetie

    Thank you for proving my point!

    [\img]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGIA1hgaqis[\img] is how it’s done. I never would have suspected that Ice-T had an arrangement with PriceySpicey.

  56. SteamSugar says:

    Evening sugars chiming in real quick. Gotta go back out.

  57. sweetie says:

    ^Oh, yeah, Bastardo?

    [img]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pOf3kYtwASo[img]

  58. FatBastardSD says:

    @Principium

    The amount of men and women who can get exactly what they want is so small that statement B) is false in most cases.

    Most men and woman also know what they want, so statement A) is false in most cases.

    Even FatBastardSD believes that the differences between what men and women want out of a relationship are overhyped. We are not that different in the end.

    This applies only to relationships, for everything else I refer you to:

    [\img]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P5TcsWAsVbc[\img]

  59. Kathy says:

    “Damn girl, you really are in heat.”

    You seriously have no idea… I am damn near climbing the walls… I’ve got to do something with all of this pent up energy… As soon as the clock hits 4:30, I am running to Pinnacle and throwing my body against those rocks as hard as God will let me… I would much prefer to throw my body against a man… but… my situation being as it is… I’ll just have to settle for a mountain.

  60. Kathy says:

    By edible arrangement… you were talking about edible panties… Right?

  61. lil_tm says:

    “Deal! I’ll be anxiously awaiting your reply… (Hips beginning to twist and grind with excitement and anticipation…)”

    Damn girl, you really are in heat. 😉

  62. Kathy says:

    “I’ll be happy to put in a good word for you so long as you send me an edible arrangement on National Admin Day.”

    Deal! I’ll be anxiously awaiting your reply… (Hips beginning to twist and grind with excitement and anticipation…)

  63. lil_tm says:

    “Where do I submit my application?”

    Hi Kathy.

    You can submit it to me as I am the blog Administrative Assistant.
    I’ll be happy to put in a good word for you so long as you send me an edible arrangement on National Admin Day.

    Thanks!

  64. Kathy says:

    “It’s much more fun when I start peeling off someone else’s clothes first. I’m taking applications”

    Where do I submit my application?

  65. Principium says:

    A question for our late blooming philosopher FBSD:

    Which one of the following statements resemble truer words and why?

    A- Women are incapable of exactly knowing what they want, because if they exactly knew what they wanted, then they’d be men.

    B- Men are incapable of exactly getting what they want , because if they could exactly get what they wanted, then they’d be women.

  66. lil_tm says:

    I’m in the mood for Italian.

  67. Principium says:

    It’s much more fun when I start peeling off someone else’s clothes first. I’m taking applications 😉

  68. SugarySpicey says:

    Why don’t we all just take off our clothes, slip into the jacuzzi, and start this silly blog topic over.

  69. FatBastardSD says:

    Style over substance is the key…

    Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
    Signifying nothing.

    :-)

  70. lil_tm says:

    “What was this love fest between CaptainFatBastardSD and Flyr all about? I took an Aspirin to read their words and my Aspirin got a headache!!!”

    I was starting to think I was a real numbskull for not grasping it..then I decided that was fine with me and took a few ibuprofens. : P

    @Fattyness-The ritalin gets you sped up so you can truly try out those running shoes, doesn’t it? 😉

  71. Kathy says:

    “The actual blog topics are so poorly written anyway. I hope no one takes stock most of it.”

    I hardly pay attention to the blog topics… I come for the people… @lil_tm, I think we’re pretty cool too. =)

  72. Principium says:

    I like all you hooligans too!

    What was this love fest between CaptainFatBastardSD and Flyr all about? I took an Aspirin to read their words and my Aspirin got a headache!!!

    I think FBSD was high on Ritalin & Flyr was on gawd-knows-what!

  73. lil_tm says:

    “The blog comments would not pass for intellectual discussion either. Still as bad as the blog is, it seems to have attracted a regular cast of misfits.”

    I am quite a misfit, so that suits me just fine. :0)

    “Topics with 10,000 views but only about 10 regular posters, I wonder if we are some kind of carnival freak show for the SA community”

    Can you blame them? I like us, I think we’re cool.

  74. FatBastardSD says:

    @lil_tm

    The blog comments would not pass for intellectual discussion either. Still as bad as the blog is, it seems to have attracted a regular cast of misfits.

    Topics with 10,000 views but only about 10 regular posters, I wonder if we are some kind of carnival freak show for the SA community :-).

  75. lil_tm says:

    “Sadly SA is back to the Playboy Club style pictures. M^3 (meatmarketmarketing”

    The actual blog topics are so poorly written anyway. I hope no one takes stock most of it. :(

  76. flyr says:

    RE Topic Picture

    Sadly SA is back to the Playboy Club style pictures. M^3 (meatmarketmarketing)

  77. Kathy says:

    @I LoveWestCoastGirl — Yes, I’m aware that the ovaries produce all of our awesome moody hormones. However, after the partial hysterectomy, I did go through hot flashes and night sweats for about a week after the surgery. So I’m not entirely convinced that the uterus contributes nothing to our hormonal changes. Also, the intense pain that I was in during my monthly was entirely caused issues with my uterus… So in that sense, it very much contributed to my moodiness.

    @Midwest SB — I didn’t tell him anything, but yes, I am moving on. I have a meeting lined up for Saturday evening. He seems very sweet… and the father of two teenage boys. He’s looking for a woman who’s honest, compassionate and sensual… I have those qualities in spades. 😉 … As I said before, I know there are all kinds of men and women, and are each programmed with different needs. There is someone out there who wants what I’m offering… I just need to be patient and wait…

    As far as dating with a special needs child… I don’t really consider her “special needs.” There is debate whether or not to classify Asperger’s as a disability. People with Asperger’s tend to be very high-functioning, and brilliant in the areas of math and science. But they are very socially awkward and have difficulty decoding certain social cues. For example, they often keep talking when someone else’s body language is clearly telling them that they are not interested and want to end the conversation. My daughter also doesn’t decode sarcasm and satire… So she often hates jokes and doesn’t like to be played with. She has a very dry sense of humor. But she’s passionate about math and science. And her test scores are off the charts. She wants to be a mathematician. I think she’ll grow up to have a very successful life.

    I’ve had one serious relationship since my divorce. I broke it off because he couldn’t accept my older daughter. I started flashing back to when my parents divorced and married my step parents. Both of my step parents are terrible, broken people. Having to live my teenage years between them was excruciating. I don’t want to put my daughters through that. They’ve been through enough. They were abandoned by their father, watched their step father drink himself into seizures, lived in a shelter with me when their step father relapsed and threw us out of the house… I just can’t bring another man into our lives… I deeply appreciate the fact that sugar can be kept in a separate container… If I can find a man who will allow me to provide for my daughters comfortably for the next few years until they go off to college and who will make me feel sexy and desired, I would be perfectly content… possibly even blissful!

  78. FatBastardSD says:

    @London Girl

    Sometimes I run out of medication you see…

  79. lil_tm says:

    “and a sugar date where we may end up discussing a 100% efficient system of wealth transfer ( without the 50% rakeoff to special interests) she has a major surplus sensual wealth / I have some surplus economic wealth – make the exchange under an umbrella of mutual respect and it all works”

    I like this flyr. :0)

    “@lil_tm, got your email, will reply later!”

    No worries…it’s summertime and the livin’ is easy. :0)

  80. London Girl says:

    @Dorky, I agree with you, a guy without a sense of humour has no chance with me, I don’t care how rich/gorgeous/successful he may be, he has to be able to laugh at life and himself.

    @lil_tm, got your email, will reply later!

    @FatBastard/Flyr, what the f*** are you two talking about???

  81. flyr says:

    All of this may be true, but the essential problem is that the sensor array of the typical SD is easily spoofed in the presence of pink signals reaching critical sensor arrays and of this date ( 2013AD) no native capability has been proven to reliably filter such signals to the point where native logic prevails .

  82. FatBastardSD says:

    @Principium

    I cannot confirm or deny my commonwealth heritage :-).

  83. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    “THE ROLE OF CREATIVITY AND HUMOR IN HUMAN MATE SELECTION”
     
    Scott Barry Kaufman
    Yale University
     

  84. FatBastardSD says:

    Remember that the SD must use imperfect information in the OODA loop. I believe a Reinforcement Learning paradigm for a MBA is the best approach.

  85. FatBastardSD says:

    @flyr

    I think that a more fuzzy decision criteria is in order. While the projection of the SD’s attitude onto the fallen woman axis may not be zero, if the orthogonal component is of much greater magnitude then the SB has the potential to correct the SD’s attitude.

  86. flyr says:

    I would simply argue that the transactional SD has fallen out of the orgasmic OODA loop of true sugar and lost all SA

  87. flyr says:

    FB – Good point – I was using the scarlet stripe as the illustration of bad sugar but failed to differentiate.

    If I were advising a close F friend entering the sugar world I would caution her that if he senses ANY vibrations that the SD thinks of this as the land of fallen women he needs immediate redirection to one of the many escort sites.

  88. FatBastardSD says:

    @flyr

    The implication of said scarlet lined tablecloth is in direct conflict with the notion of an equitable transfer of X -> Y and Y-> Z which tells the SB that she should expect X->Z (being a transitive relation).

    Of course I am sure we agree that if the SD is in an orthogonal space to the basis the SB is working with then the above discussion is moot.

  89. flyr says:

    NON LINEAR PREFERENCES AND SUGAR

    What makes sugar work is that each of the parties believes they are getting a good deal. How can two people both be winners?

    Consider X who sets out this morning to complete two tasks. The first is to purchase insurance because a known , certain small payment has less “cost” than an improbable , high cost event ( house burns) It’s a winning bet for the insurance company but the homeowner gets value received.

    But then the homeowner makes a second stop – to buy a lottery ticket in a typical lottery. It’s a bad bet but the expenditure of $2 for a chance at $200 million makes sense.

    Sugar has the same characteristics – properly executed each party gets something valuable – for the SB it might be mentoring, fancy dinners, economic relief from the wolf at the door , etc. For the SD it might be passion, recreation of youth, fun, exploring the farside of the envelope, the fun of being a mentor or wearing the dog collar.

    The essence is that both received more than they gave. If that’s not true then a change is in order.

  90. flyr says:

    I pushed send too soon, failing to observe that the author was simply making an observation , not advocating a course of action. I think we are probably in agreement

  91. flyr says:

    El capiitan – “Some people’s attitude changes when money is involved which is why your SD seemed harsh in his rejection. I am a LOT less concerned about letting a potential SB down easy than I would be on a normal date. This is not because I think less of the SB but we are both negotiating, and I assume she is not going to do me any favours either. I suspect this SD feels the same way I do, but not all SD’s have this attitude.”

    I guess I do not see the scarlet line in the tablecloth between the IRL date who wants XY and Z where X is to be taken here and there and Z is to listen to her tales of matrimonial distress without asking questions like – well if you really felt that way why did you not xxxxx.

    and a sugar date where we may end up discussing a 100% efficient system of wealth transfer ( without the 50% rakeoff to special interests) she has a major surplus sensual wealth / I have some surplus economic wealth – make the exchange under an umbrella of mutual respect and it all works .

    I guess it breaks down to Flyer’s second principle of life – there’s no benefit derived from proving you are a dickhead when only the suspicion may have existed.

  92. DorkyGuy says:

    Regarding laughter and humor… There was work done regarding how and why humor “evolved” in humans. Evidently, it is directly related to mating and evolution of the species.

    In a very primitive world, the best mating candidates were usually the strongest physically, not the smartest. Women who wanted to survive and reproduce chose the strongest man in the tribe to mate with (reinforcing a desire for physical traits in offspring).

    In humans, this paradigm shifted, so that humans could achieve better survival by being smarter, not stronger. Women, when choosing who to mate with, needed a mechanism to tell which men were intelligent. This is where humor comes in. You have to be intelligent to demonstrate a good sense of humor.

    Due to natural selection, women with heightened appreciation for humor survived longer and reproduced more as a result of choosing more intelligent partners. They passed on their genes, so that today’s women mostly have a good appreciation for the witty guy.

    So, the very basic reason humans have a sense of humor is to help nerdy guys get laid! God bless Charles Darwin.

  93. Midwest SB says:

    Kathy – I sincerely hope you told Mr. Vegas that you were also moving on. His attitude is not very sugary and you will end up very disappointed. Cheer up…he just saved you a lot of wasted time and energy :) As for dating with a special needs child…it takes a special kind of guy to walk into a family that involves children with special needs. The good news is that sugar can be kept in it’s own little “container” and you won’t have to worry about what the guy can handle.

  94. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    Kathy .
    You had you uterus remove ,

    but ovaries r responsible for the hormonal changes , mood’ ups and downs.
    uterus has very little to nothing to do with it . You might be still ovulating with no uterus.
    Sorry but your post about uterus and depression is from 15 th centure.

  95. Kathy says:

    ^^^ Yeah, I know, right? One of my friends posted a pic on Facebook… It was a picture of a toy talking uterus puppet… And the caption said, “It’s 3AM, let’s wake up and cry together.” She reposted with her own comment: RELEVANT

    I’m thankful I had mine removed three years ago… But I swear, the ovaries are just as bad… I still go through two days of depression a month despite the fact I don’t get my monthly visitor anymore.

  96. lil_tm says:

    ^^^ah, the joys of being a woman. You’ll feel better soon, Kathy. :)

  97. Kathy says:

    @CaptainSD — Yes, of course, I realize this is a business arrangement, and if he can get a cheaper product that better suits his needs, it makes sense for him to shop around. I’m logical enough to not take it too personally. I just really needed someone to make me feel sexy and desirable… and apparently, that just isn’t going to happen this week… Oh, well… This isn’t about having my emotional needs met. I’ll feel better after I turn on my Pandora station and haul my butt up Pinnacle.

  98. Principium says:

    ^^^ interesting that you spell favor, the Queen’s way: favour! ^^^

    Are you originally from one of the Commonwealth? 😉

  99. CaptainSD says:

    @lil_tm

    Fair enough I promise not to make you squirt :-)

    @Kathy

    Some people’s attitude changes when money is involved which is why your SD seemed harsh in his rejection. I am a LOT less concerned about letting a potential SB down easy than I would be on a normal date. This is not because I think less of the SB but we are both negotiating, and I assume she is not going to do me any favours either. I suspect this SD feels the same way I do, but not all SD’s have this attitude.

  100. Alana says:

    Lil_tm: Well telling me Im “too smart” might also mean too expensive, or too mature or simply a nice way to say not pretty enough..

  101. Kathy says:

    Excuse me… in last post I meant “NOT up to looking right now. “

  102. Kathy says:

    @lil_tm – I’m sure there are wonderful men out there. I’m just up to looking right now. And really if a man is interested in me, I shouldn’t have to look too hard. Every situation where I was the pursuer didn’t end well. Actually, I was the one who made the first move with the guy who just got engaged.

    I’m just going to focus on living right now.

  103. Kathy says:

    Hi Alana,

    I just recently got into climbing. I’m training to make a go at Rainier next year. I’m blogging about my training at limitlesshorizon.me

  104. lil_tm says:

    “Hey lil_tm… Those dates sound terrible… The Timberlake look-alike sounds like he as Asperger’s Syndrome… My older daughter has it… Has trouble making eye contact and is very socially awkward… (Another reason I’ve given up on normal dating… Men can’t handle children with special needs, and I can’t keep getting emotionally attached to someone knowing he’s going to run as soon as he meets my family.)”

    Well, they don’t all slap their necks, but I have been on plenty of dates with guys who get all squirrely and nervous and have a hard time making eye contact. Reeeeeeelax for heavens sake!

    I have to admit, I get a little fidgety when I’m nervous..job interviews, people who intimidate me, etc. but the people who have that effect on me are usually obnoxious. I’m kind of mousey, so I don’t get why they get that way.

    As for the other part, I would just lay it on the line immediately and tell them the truth. You can’t not be your true self for fear of rejection. If a man is willing to dump you because you have a special needs child, he is an immature asshole and you’re better off without him. There are men who are mature enough to handle it, although probably not as common.

  105. lil_tm says:

    “On a different note, I had a pot SD telling me I was too smart for him. I just cant pretend I have no brains though. Men are so insecure”

    Or he’s just blowing smoke up your ass. 😉

  106. Alana says:

    Kathy I love climbing too! I can only do indoor top rope around 5.7 or 5.8. Anything outdoors or over 5.9 is not fot me.

  107. Kathy says:

    Hey lil_tm… Those dates sound terrible… The Timberlake look-alike sounds like he as Asperger’s Syndrome… My older daughter has it… Has trouble making eye contact and is very socially awkward… (Another reason I’ve given up on normal dating… Men can’t handle children with special needs, and I can’t keep getting emotionally attached to someone knowing he’s going to run as soon as he meets my family.)

    This last week has totally sucked in my sugar/relationship world. A guy who I had been casually seeing told me a month ago that he needed to take a break… and he just announced on his Facebook that he’s engaged. I had a potential SD lined up who had just moved back from Vegas, we had met and negotiated an arrangement… I figured I could set up a meeting with him to play and get my mind off the engagement, and he’s busy auditioning other potential SBs.

    He said that he really likes me, but he’s finding a bunch of hotties in their 20s who are essentially willing to be nastier cheaper…. and he’s booked up with them for the next two-to-three weeks. After he’s through with the auditions, he might get back to me if they don’t work out because “young girls aren’t dependable for much.”

    Wow… I really can’t wait to go climbing at the end of the day… I really need to do something physical to deal with this sense of rejection.

  108. Alana says:

    I think the squirting thing is either you are built for it or not. Ive seen it happening to other girls but it never happened to me so I guess I am not equiped for it. On a different note, I had a pot SD telling me I was too smart for him. I just cant pretend I have no brains though. Men are so insecure….

  109. KittyKat says:

    As a med student:

    Squirting.

    No, it is not a pee.
    (Components might be the same, but then again, the prime urine, forming in the kidneys, are similar to the components of the blood plasma. So, theoretically, it might be similar to urine… With the difference, that since apparently it is being produced by a gland (still not part of a basic anatomy course), the composition of the “squirting liquid” should be more similar that to a sweat…)

    No, it is not related to an orgasm. I can squirt without having an orgasm, by just being stimulated the right way.

    If I just squirted, there is NO way I will squirt again. Since it is a gland, there should be time for the secretion to form.
    So, guys, if your partner just squirted, for God’s sake don’t continue with the attempts to make her squirt again straight away. THEN it might be pee 😉

    Cock size.

    YES, it does matter! No matter what who says – it does. Here, I said it. I do not mean you have to have it the size of a bat, but if it is the size of my middle finger – there is no much fun.
    BUT, what is even more important is how hard it is.
    Sorry, dear SDs, but if your member is not big to start with, and is of a consistency of a jelly, there is no way you can satisfy a lady just with it.
    Lear to use your fingers and mouth. And fast.

    BUT, as to what I would prefer. A guy with a beautiful big cock or a “pussy guy”. A “pussy guy” 100%. You should be with one to know what I mean.

    A small observation for today:

    I HATE HATE HATE when people tell me “I know what you are going through” when they do not have any fucking idea.

    Love to you all, KittyKat (aka T 😉 )

  110. lil_tm says:

    “Female ejaculation is like big foot, everyone knows someone who has seen it but there is no scientific proof. Somethings are better left unexplored in my opinion.”

    I don’t think it’s a matter of it being possible. I know for a fact it is. I’m not sure I would call it ejaculation, because I didn’t get my O face on.

    Whether it’s pee or not is always going to be a debate. I’ve seen threads on forums 50 pages long discussing it and no one has any proof either way.
    I don’t think I want to be part of this test group. It would involve the risk of it happening again, and I’d have to be grossed out for weeks until I could manage to forget about it.

  111. lil_tm says:

    “I am not trying to argue with you, but merely cautioning men not to fall into a false sense of self or implied falsehood. It takes most women a loooooooong time to check out of a relationship even though the unhappiness with their partner may have also been festering inside for quite a while. If guys pay attention, all the clues are already there.”

    Which is why communication is important. If a person decides to let something fester, rather than addressing the issue, they are more to blame than the person who is doing something “wrong”
    Now quit arguing with me! : P

    “Here’s lil_tm’s last date:
    [img]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYlDbv7MqE8[/img]”

    Lol. Pretty much. Only that wasn’t my last date. My last two dates consisted of the “sugar daddy” who was a mixture of Buffalo Bill/Hannibal Lecter and the one before that was a really good looking Justin Timberlake type who I can only assume had turrets. He was having trouble making eye contact and he kept slapping his neck like a bug was biting him. Then, he proceeded to try and follow me home by telling me he wanted to make sure I got there safe. I had to pull a quick one and lose him during transit.

    That wasn’t the first time that happened. There was a guy who I met up with on a Sunday afternoon. He immediately told me he didn’t have any money and asked if I would mind buying us some drinks. Then he suggested we drive to his friends house for a game of cards because it would be inexpensive and I pretended like I was following him, took a quick turn, and lost him. Besides, he had tufts of wiry hair growing out of his ears.

    This is why online dating sucks and I tend to prefer dating my hand.

  112. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    @Guru.
    from my not :) scientific (for a change) experiments.

    1. it is defiantly have to be a “pussy” guy (not leg, butt, arm candy guy) who knows what he is doing and some guys know how to make a women squirt .
    2. a woman has to be a squirter
    3. I do not think it is urine .
    3.1 it is not hot temp (like urine) , it is room temp fluid
    3.2 it does not have urine’ smell at all
    3.3 it is Not coming from urethra
    4.
    squirting does not add to women’ physical pleasure (in my case) , here I agree with SSpicy.
    but guys love it (may be not all guys, but I have not met a guy who would not love it).
    5.
    I can not control it , and it is not related to orgasm (as I wrote before here).

    everyone is deferent ,
    This is how I feel /think.
    May be SSpicy is correct about her body.
    female orgasm/pleasure is more complicate and sophisticated than male’ orgasm which can be reached with frictions (pretty much).

  113. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    Guru.
    I want YOU to propose the prize
    (just coz I am that sweet and easy). :)

    OMG.
    you ARE making me to write about squirting!
    (u r not afraid that some our sissy SDs would mind us discussing that disgusting sexual stuff at the “sex” blog).
    (going to gym , once I am back will put my input :) )

  114. Principium says:

    A quick comment about c*ck shots:

    On a lot of more adult oriented sites, such as Adult Friend Finder (and similar), Ashley Madison, etc; many female members are specifically looking for well endowed men and often anything less that 7 inches does not generate a lot of interest and request for c*ck shots are most prevalent on those sites (some men and women are very graphic both visually and also verbally on those sites)

    I think that since sugar falls somewhere in the sexual experience spectrum, some of that stuff that goes on on those aforementioned sites seeps through to SD/SB sites and also onto the conventional sites.

  115. Principium says:

    @ CaptainSD: Always assume the sale “son”!

    PriceySpicey just threw you a freebie 😉

    • SD Guru says:

      @ILWCG
      “Let’s do “The kinkiest stuff I’ve ever done ” contest.”

      What would you propose as the prize?

      @PriceySpicey
      “It neither increases nor decreases pleasure of the squirter.”

      I think some squirters may differ with you on that one.

      “If multiple participants are required in order to prove the ridiculousness of the “squirt prophecy” fine. I will teach all competitors how to squirt and cause squirting alike.”

      Perhaps “The Squirt Prophecy” could be the title of your next book? Not all women can squirt, so I’m not sure if any amount of teaching will make a difference.

      “Squirting by any other name is still as piss.”

      That’s like saying love is nothing more than a chemical reaction in your brain. For someone who is well versed in all types of kinks I’m a bit surprised at your dismissive attitude towards this particular subject. Anyone else besides Pricey and Kathy wants in on the Squirt Fest? :mrgreen:

  116. CaptainSD says:

    @ILoveWestCoastGirl

    Where are you from? WTF is a green smile? Are you in the USA legally? :-).

    @Spicey

    Please describe what you mean by a test drive. I think I may have hit the jackpot.

  117. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    @Guru.

    all your fancy and “exciting ” contests
    (I did not know you r doing contests..)

    Let’s do “The kinkiest stuff I’ve ever done ” contest .
    with SA SDs profile numbers and
    E mail photo and video prove to Guru to decide who is the winner.
    3 green smiles. :)

  118. I LoveWestCoastGirl says:

    SugarySpicey.
    I love your blog .
    a lot of great and fun stuff.

    I am surprise how may SA bloggers r not sexually educated and closed minded.

    Some get offended if we discuss lubricant here,
    Some get offended and intimidated by battery operating device.
    “get offended does not make you right” LOL.

    to me a good lover means he is willing to talk about sex, to experiment, to try toys (and not to be intimidated “disgusted ” by vibrators ) .

    There are sex coaches , positive sex seminars, bright orgasm lectures,
    a lot of on line sex “academies ” … and here at the SA site SDs (we all remember their nicks ) would ask us not to discuss “disgusting ” stuff – type of lubes.
    ?

    Spicy,
    I love your entre about “kinky ” stuff (although what is “kinky “?
    if all parties r consensual adults – it is personal preferences , may be unconventual but not abnormal , I personally would not call it “kinky”.)

  119. SugarySpicey says:

    Squirting requires no boundaries, it is caused by stimulation of the posterior wall of the urethethral sponge. It neither increases nor decreases pleasure of the squirter. If multiple participants are required in order to prove the ridiculousness of the “squirt prophecy” fine. I will teach all competitors how to squirt and cause squirting alike.

    Sorry Softi – no peni are needed in the testing of this hypothesis. But I’ve already offered that you can try to make me “squirt” with pleasure at your adoration. I will happily give you a test drive just to dispell the stupid. “Squirting” fantasy.

    Squirting by any other name is still as piss.

  120. flyr says:

    Kathy The official rules have not been released but apparently there will be several leagues

    NBA – No battery assistance

    ADA – All devices allowed

    SLL – Solo love league

  121. CaptainSD says:

    Female ejaculation is like big foot, everyone knows someone who has seen it but there is no scientific proof. Somethings are better left unexplored in my opinion.

  122. Kathy says:

    @SD Guru — Wow! Squirt Fest, huh? Will there be prizes and T-shirts? I’m in! LOL!!!!

  123. CaptainSD says:

    ^^^^

    The first comment was for Beach Girl.

  124. CaptainSD says:

    @Spicey

    They have been tracking holligans at football matches with cameras in Europe for some time now. All of that amazing technology defeated by sunglasses and a hoodie! While it is easier for the goverment to get information there is much more information available as well. I am strongly against more government surveillance, but I am confident in government incompetence.

    @Spicey

    My dick is still attached so CaptainSD will have to accompany him. My invisible jet is in the shop right now and I am fixing up the secret base so you would have to front me some money for the trip.

  125. flyr says:

    @spicey – Lab results must be reproducible. We’ll need multiple volunteers for both sides of the process . I see medical history in the making .

    • SD Guru says:

      @Sugary Pricey
      “I will volunteer to allow you to make me squirt, then we’ll take the “product” to the lab for evaluation.”

      We have a volunteer!! But as a scientist at heart I’m sure you realize we’ll need more than one sample. Perhaps we could have a Squirt Fest if other self professed squirters are also willing to volunteer. But… there is no guarantee that you can squirt though. Just because you can pee doesn’t make you a squirter, but I’m willing to give it a try! :mrgreen:

      I’m open to suggestions for the wager. By the way, based on my personal experience I’d describe the liquid as more like sweat than urine.

  126. flyr says:

    @capt – I think if you read some of the recent even non-classified RFP’s it’s the new reality and distributed far outside the walls of NSA, into agencies with documented political conflicts. Ironically the RFPs required that the contractor begin delivery of the specified capabilities within weeks indicating that the system was up and tested, needing only access to that data which it did not already have but which was available from govt sources.

    As for the “But I am a good guy” blanket, the specs called for the ability to generate the same data on associates, friends and other related parties.

    Apologies for noting this here but I think it’s important. Your don’t want to take the fun out of SA but it’s wise to think twice..

  127. SugarySpicey says:

    Guru – because I am a scientist and data geek at heart I will volunteer to allow you to make me squirt, then we’ll take the “product” to the lab for evaluation. What should we wager?

  128. SugarySpicey says:

    Captain my captain, please send me your dick. Not ala Game of Thrones, a nice full-staff selfie will do.

    • SD Guru says:

      I didn’t know there are squirters among us! 😛

      @Sugary Spicey
      “If you really want me to pee on you, just ask … then break out your wallet, ’cause that golden shower is pricey!”

      From now on you should be known as Sugary Pricey, but just don’t try to promote your golden shower as squirt! :mrgreen:

  129. Beach_Girl says:

    Hello Sugars 😀

    Happy Fathers day to the daddies 😀

    CaptainSD~ ahhahha still laughing at your gov joke! Yes, I know he was talking conspiracies, but i’m not sure how much they actually do. With the “chips” in the CCs now, they can tell where you are exactly… The gov does more than we know and the information they have and use is probably crazy… just saying, it’s scary. Some cities they can follow you on Cameras?!?!? WTH…
    And I’ve never done anything crazy on cam, I did all my crazy stuff before the internet 😀 lol

    Dashel~ lol… wow, talk about conspiracies lol… (your first image)
    I can’t believe girls would ask to see a pic lol… how crazy! Did you have that here on SA?

  130. CaptainSD says:

    CaptainSD feels sad, never had a SB request a dick picture. In the spirit of the last few posts I offer this:

    8===============D<~~~

    Enjoy ladies!

  131. CaptainSD says:

    @Beach Girl

    I would not worry to much about Skype or the goverment recording your video, what flyr posted is more conspiracy theory than fact.

    I would worry a lot more about the person you are Skyping with recording something embarassing.

  132. Dashel says:

    This is pretty much what I feel like is going on with Skype or texting or anything else:
     
    [img]http://i.imgur.com/qjbtwIz.jpg[/img]
     
    Here’s lil_tm’s last date:
     
    [img]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYlDbv7MqE8[/img]
     
    CaptainSD that’s because Principium has me beat (no homo) so I try to avoid direct comparison.
     
    Beach Girl:  No not an SB, this was years ago on a regular dating site.  But yeah they ask for dick pics!  I mean not right away usually but eventually it got there. 
     

     

  133. Beach_Girl says:

    Hahahahha CaptainSD~ hahahahh you have me laughing out loud hahahha, that wouldn’t surprise me from the gov here hahahah omg, that is so funny, I will have to use that lol…

    Flyr~ That make me feel so…. not safe at all lol… how crazy is this stuff!
    At least here in Canada, we don’t have pics on our CCs yet…

  134. flyr says:

    “Flyr~ does skype keep your skype video’s on file”

    The answer is probably, but irrelevant as everything is inventoried and available through what is often referred to as fusion – No they are not listening to you in real time, they are simply saving everything should they want it . Computers watch for deviant speech or behavior or simply associations based on location. Your skype call was correlated with photo recognition of your presence at 500 discrete locations over the past week, cross checked with 50 credit card transactions and calls. Sleep tight ………….

  135. ContentSB says:

    Uh no. Maybe acknowledging the day with a simple “Hey Happy Father’s Day” note is ok…but anything beyond that seems incredibly creepy to me. It’s a day for kids to show some appreciation for their awesome dads…annnnd that’s about all!

  136. CaptainSD says:

    CaptainSD has noticed something odd. You never see Principium and Dashel showing ab pictures at the same time (there is nothing gay about me noticing this by the way).

    The only conclusion is that they are the same person.

  137. CaptainSD says:

    @Beach Girl

    You can install software to record the Skype video stream to your hard drive. Don’t do anything on Skype you may regret later.

    The Quebec goverment reduces the sound quality for English language Skype calls in order to promote the French language. :-).

  138. Beach_Girl says:

    Hello Sugars!!!

    MIDWEST!!!!! OMG, how are you sweet girl? It’s been so long, glad to see you still come by here once in a while!

    Dashel~ a sb asked for a dick pic?!?!?!? wtf? sorry, that’s crazy… now those abs though… nice, if that is you 😀

    Flyr~ does skype keep your skype video’s on file? what? I don’t think that’s possible… wow, I had no idea. I skyped for the first time not long ago with a friend of mine in Cali… but sounds wasn’t good so, we switched to phone call lol

  139. Noob_SD says:

    @ MWSB, lil_tm I’ve known of guys who get off by offending someone and showing off their dicks. It has absolutely nothing to do with what they think of you…it’s thier own kink and you feed into it. Next time, don’t show any kind of response and it will likely go away quickly. The only mistake lil_tm made was going against her better judgment.

    Look away ladies … :)

  140. flyr says:

    I’m not a skype fan at all , especially knowing that anything on there is going to be in the vault for eternity .

  141. Dashel says:

    One girl was confirmed double x chromosome via skype first. Also that’s another thing. Some girls want your butt naked on camera. Im not a skype fan. Id say some girls are just as bad as the guys in fact, sending nudies right off the bat.

  142. flyr says:

    @dashel “”And then a girl asks to see a pic of your junk. This has happened to me a few times so there is apparently a market for d!ck pics among the ladies. “”

    My guess is that the more likely event is that there’s a guy sitting behind the screen trolling for dick pictures with a girl’s photo.

  143. Principium says:

    lil_tm:

    I have actually been in long term traditional relationships most my life (married twice) Sugar is a relatively new concept to me in the relationship spectrum.

    Having self-discipline is not just confined to working on one’s physique and not putting on a few pounds. As previously stated, it is a lifestyle which is about felling and looking well. What we are and feel on the inside, tends to radiate outward.

    It is all about having a life of passion and purpose for oneself and not living it vicariously through someone else. The way I look at it is this: if hetro, men and women are supposed to complement each other and not living for the purpose of validation. To be caring and attentive are great characteristics, but when it becomes an orbiting habit, I believe that women call it suffocating and check out because they resent “clinginess”

    I am not trying to argue with you, but merely cautioning men not to fall into a false sense of self or implied falsehood. It takes most women a loooooooong time to check out of a relationship even though the unhappiness with their partner may have also been festering inside for quite a while. If guys pay attention, all the clues are already there.

  144. lil_tm says:

    “@lil_tm
    I would have thought you would have understood my comment. It has nothing to do with lying. I think principium gets it, but then he is a guy with reasoning skills”

    It’s all good, fattness. Do your thing. :0)

  145. lil_tm says:

    “Now I consider than self-discipline to be a very crucial component in relationships as when a guy lets go of himself, women while not being as visual as men are, do not offer subtle immediate hints for a course correction, until it is all too late. falling in that false sense of security that she would love still you “no matter what” is just falsehood and I imagine that is what CaptainSD was razzing you about.”

    So you are speaking from personal experience, but mine happens to be different.
    Granted, I have mostly been in long lasting, traditional relationships most of my life, but I certainly wouldn’t lose my adoration for someone because he put on a few pounds.
    Now, if when we first started dating he was the type of man that was active and had ambition and was kind to me and then after some time did a 360 and started lying on the couch scratching his balls and eating pringles and treating me like shit, that would be unfair, and I would be within my rights to be upset. But this is extreme.
    I don’t think it’s fair for a woman to change this much, either.
    And to be fair, it’s not like men and women don’t look elsewhere even if both people have stayed pretty close to what they were when the relationship started.
    There are no guarantees there.

    Being treated well and respected is more important to me than a nice body and big d*ck. I guess that’s why I like nerds. : p

  146. CaptainSD says:

    @lil_tm

    I would have thought you would have understood my comment. It has nothing to do with lying. I think principium gets it, but then he is a guy with reasoning skills :-).

    @Principium

    I am the belly and small penis body type so lil_tm should be all over me, but it seems the man with the large penis gets the second date!

    @MidwestSB

    Whenever I see a 5 guy with a 10 girl I ask him how long he has been on the site and how much of an allowance he is paying her.

  147. lil_tm says:

    “Principium / Captain SD – You guys put too much emphasis on looks, but you are visual creatures. It is illogical for a woman to say that she can love a man with a beer belly, because he can make her laugh. How many times have you seen a 5 man with a 10+ woman and wonder how he landed her? It’s not a death wish and you won’t lose your man card if you make a girl laugh. For some men, it’s all they have. There’s also a level of modesty and genuine desire to make a girl happy that plays into this. OF COURSE, a guy must be good in bed, but he doesn’t need a big dick or hot body to be good in bed. Women are mental, emotional creatures. It benefits the man who can tap into that side. If he’s hot…it’s a major bonus. I’m the lucky one who has a man with a hot body, a little humility, can make me laugh, loves to talk, can fix my car and can make me squirm. Life is good!”

    Well said. :0)

  148. Principium says:

    @ MW: Kudos to you for finding a man who truly floats your boat and I think that you are truly speaking from a point of happiness.

    However, I do think that you missed my point:

    I don’t take good care of myself just for her, but more importantly I do it for me! Having self-discipline is a lifestyle which I adhere to for myself and my own gratification and not for anyone else!

    BTW, thanks for bunching me up with my evil twin Captain Kangaroo.

  149. Midwest SB says:

    Principium / Captain SD – You guys put too much emphasis on looks, but you are visual creatures. It is illogical for a woman to say that she can love a man with a beer belly, because he can make her laugh. How many times have you seen a 5 man with a 10+ woman and wonder how he landed her? It’s not a death wish and you won’t lose your man card if you make a girl laugh. For some men, it’s all they have. There’s also a level of modesty and genuine desire to make a girl happy that plays into this. OF COURSE, a guy must be good in bed, but he doesn’t need a big dick or hot body to be good in bed. Women are mental, emotional creatures. It benefits the man who can tap into that side. If he’s hot…it’s a major bonus. I’m the lucky one who has a man with a hot body, a little humility, can make me laugh, loves to talk, can fix my car and can make me squirm. Life is good!

  150. Principium says:

    If there are any Game of Thrones followers on here, I refer you to the scene with Roose Bolton’s bastard son Ramsey and Theon Grayjoy’s “favorite toy”.

    You ladies are quite lucky (or in some cases unlucky) that there is no safe and proven way of penile augmentation (ala breast augmentation) because you would then have a situation that guy’s would be walking around commando with their enhanced “Jon Hamm” 😉

  151. Midwest SB says:

    Captain SD – Uncalled for…that is all.

    Lil_tm et al – I’ve known of guys who get off by offending someone and showing off their dicks. It has absolutely nothing to do with what they think of you…it’s thier own kink and you feed into it. Next time, don’t show any kind of response and it will likely go away quickly. The only mistake lil_tm made was going against her better judgment.

    I also know of one lady here who actually has a file folder of dick pics for entertainment purposes. I’m sure she would be happy to share. If the guys want to share, you better have a thick skin b/c the commentary can be rough.

  152. Principium says:

    @ lil_tm:

    I can only speak for myself based on my personal experiences, but there is an issue which men to be very wary of and I see some common denominators of such pitfalls in some of blog SBs postings (some points which you touched up a bit earlier)

    It is imperative for men to have self-confidence (not the full on fake cockiness to try to live like 007!) a good sense of humor and a sharp wit plus the all important self-discipline. Of course there are some other important attributes to, but these three are the ones that men can work on and improve themselves in those areas. Some other ones are mere blessings (for lack of a better word) depending on where, when and whom we are born to and our genetic composition!

    Now I consider than self-discipline to be a very crucial component in relationships as when a guy lets go of himself, women while not being as visual as men are, do not offer subtle immediate hints for a course correction, until it is all too late. falling in that false sense of security that she would love still you “no matter what” is just falsehood and I imagine that is what CaptainSD was razzing you about.

    He just has his own stylistic way of calling it and I have a different way, but for a guy to assume that all is always fine and dandy in his relationship just because he is always funny and can constantly emote with a woman on the same level, is a relationship death wish!

  153. Dashel says:

    The d!ck showing thing is one of those situations where I wondered why people would do such a thing. Thinking “that cant possibly work in your favor” … And then a girl asks to see a pic of your junk. This has happened to me a few times so there is apparently a market for d!ck pics among the ladies. Not only that but they were sincerely surprised that I didnt have any such pictures to share.

    Hey it’s a good filter, look at it that way.

  154. lil_tm says:

    ^hehe

  155. Principium says:

    @ lil_tm:

    .”..Of course I can only speak for myself, but if a guy can make me laugh, treats me right, and is genuine, I don’t care if he has a semi rotund belly and a small wiener…”

    I’m working very hard on these goal, wishing to live vicariously through my brethren (formerly) FBSD aka CaptainSD :)

  156. lil_tm says:

    “tell me that you are full of crap”

    I’m not sure why you think me lying about any of it would be self-gratifying. If I were going to make something up, it would be way more imaginative.
    But, you have a right to your opinion and I’m not offended.

    P.S. Size does matter, but it isn’t the world.

  157. Noob_SD says:

    @ lil_tm

    I don’t think you are full of crap and I believe you. I know there are other ladies like you as well.

  158. SugarySpicey says:

    I’ll chime in with my oft repeated “size doesn’t matter!” I do NOT need, want, or pursue a large “wiener” I’m in the boat with Lil about conversation and humor. Get me laughing, tell me a few great compliments, and the panties come off.

  159. CaptainSD says:

    @lil_tm

    I am sure to be burned at the stake by the usual suspects defending your honor, and I mean this in the nicest possible way. You do realize that the following quotes

    “All it did was turn me off. I went against my instincts and went on another date with him anyway.”

    “I don’t care if he has a semi rotund belly and a small wiener.”

    tell me that you are full of crap. :-)

    Have a great weekend!

  160. lil_tm says:

    I remember last year, I started talking to this guy and we had a pretty strong interest in each other.
    He asked me if I wanted him to send me a pic of his d*ck. I said no. Then I walked into my friends office and said what a shame it was, because I liked him on all other levels.
    And even though I told him I didn’t want the pic, he sent it anyway.
    !!!!
    What is wrong with people like that? Maybe because it was huge, he felt like he just HAD TO show it? Like cock boasting? All it did was turn me off.
    I went against my instincts and went on another date with him anyway.
    After dinner, we got in his car, and he proceeded to whip it out and start stroking it right there. We hadn’t even kissed!
    So I looked over at him to make sure I wasn’t delusional, and there he was, with his head leaned against the seat and his eye closed spanking his monkey.
    So gross and inappropriate.

    It also reminds me of this guy who pulled up to me in the mall parking lot as I was getting my car, rolled his window down and said, “Hey baby, you want a ride??”
    I look down and he’s got his wiener out, stroking it with lube.
    I guess it kinda of makes me laugh now, considering how crazy it was, but at the time it really sent chills up my spine.

    I have plenty more stories, but I’ll shut up now. Creeps are everywhere.

  161. CaptainSD says:

    While not all are rocket scientists, I have yet to meet a SB who would be dumb enough to ask some of these questions.

    If you are reading this post and you have asked these questions please try to get in touch with me as you are exactly who I am looking for.

    That is all.

  162. lil_tm says:

    @Noob
    It’s nice to hear a guy say those things. Like I’ve always said, it turns me off when people overtly try to sell themselves by showing too much.
    Sex appeal is something you either have or you don’t. And if you have it, it shows even if you’re fully clothed.

    I have always wondered why guys think it’s appealing to show pics with no shirt on and the only thing I can figure is that they are showing what they’d like to see. (more visual). Maybe I’m just weird, and I’m sure the other ladies can weigh in, but things like cheesy Chippendales dancers with a cheesy little bowtie, scraggly Fabio hair, tribal tattoos and polyester bikini underwear does not get me hot and bothered.

    Of course I can only speak for myself, but if a guy can make me laugh, treats me right, and is genuine, I don’t care if he has a semi rotund belly and a small wiener. As a matter of fact, people’s flaws actually become endearing if there’s a non physical connection.
    I’ve been approached my beautiful men of all ages, but what good is it if they have nothing interesting to say and the personality of a slab of concrete?

  163. Noob_SD says:

    @ Jersey I think I have a wider sexual appetite than most on this blog considering some of the responses I’ve seen here anytime a sexual taste is mentioned that is not mainstream (Domming, ANR, squirting, etc), so perhaps I am more accepting of the porn that’s out there.

    As the guy who blew the whistle on the ANR … my problem has not been with what people do sexually or what their interests are. It is making that the focus or so obvious when they present themselves. I view these things as a natural process of discovery between two adults. Granted, some of these maybe a lifestyle issue, Domination, for example) – so perhaps in the interests of compatibility, maybe this should be clarified upfront.

    There is a line between “being sexy without overtly being so” Vs letting it all hang out there. The former is arousing, and the latter is a turnoff. Let my imagination do the work, not your images. The same goes for the first date – the meet & greet – let your body language do the work.

  164. lil_tm says:

    “If I spend my allowance on Father’s Day, should I expect him to reimburse me?”

    LOL

  165. Jersey Darling says:

    On topic, I can just imagine all the directions this conversation is going to go. From Micah’s DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl) preference to… who knows where. If you call your sd Daddy, does spending time with him mean you’re celebrating Father’s Day?

    :mrgreen:

  166. Jersey Darling says:

    From the last topic…

    I read all 3 of the Fifty Shades novels (it caught on with the women where I work, and reading it was more of a political move than anything else).

    I found nothing sexy about it. I did find it interesting how many different sexual words the author was able to come up with that I never knew existed, so I highlighted all of those to keep in my repertoire. But otherwise, the blatantly sexual stuff I didn’t find sexy, and the “mental” side of it wasn’t articulated well enough and did not demonstrate enough tension to get to the intended result.

    The only part I found interesting was in the beginning when Anastasia was presented with a contract. There was good tension there.

    Re: porn, I think it’s most harmful when those who are young see it without context and don’t realize that it is all sensationalized. As adults, I would hope we can contextualize it and take it for what it is.

    I think I have a wider sexual appetite than most on this blog considering some of the responses I’ve seen here anytime a sexual taste is mentioned that is not mainstream (Domming, ANR, squirting, etc), so perhaps I am more accepting of the porn that’s out there.

    I do remember one instance that really grossed me out, when a guy I was with wanted to watch porn and I saw what he was into and that it really turned him on. Suffice it to say sometimes extreme porn interests should be kept to yourself…

    Re: Squirting, I do not think it is urine. The first time I squirted, I immediately stopped and ran to google because I didn’t know what the hell just happened. But no – it doesn’t feel like you’re urinating, it is nothing like urine at all. It’s the oddest thing. If guys like it, then hey! They are more than welcome to have as many attempts as they want at trying to make me do it 😉

    SugarDaddyinChicago had a great post, I’m highlighting part of it here:
    “It turns out that sex and money light up the same centers of the brain in both men and women. From a chemical rush point of view, it doesn’t matter if the stimulus was sex or money, the same endorphins flow.

    Which says a lot about how we perceive relationships, and how we as humans get those endorphins to flow.”

    Beautifully written as well I might add :)

  167. SugarySpicey says:

    Father’s Day is for his family. Celebrating with your SD is weird! IMHO.

  168. Angela says:

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