Hello, Sugar World. By now, most of you are probably well versed in sugar-speak, but you’d be surprised how many times a week a member will write in to customer service inquiring about NSA. No Strings Attached sounds like a simple concept, but what does it really mean? Some members seem to think that NSA is not dissimilar to another sugar term P4P (pay for play), which by the way is not really allowed on this site. But does NSA really mean you are a cold hearted person who is only interested in sex or money?
Fiction. NSA is simply an agreed upon condition that you will both check your emotions at the door, and not let them get involved with your arrangement. Think of it as a “friends with benefits” type of relationship, if there was no money involved would it still be looked upon as unsavory? This is an ideal arrangement for people who are looking for something outside of a traditional relationship, or in addition to. But that doesn’t mean that two people can not care about one another. It simply sets both parties up for an honest relationship that could be built off a friendship, with out the pressure of a commitment.
Fiction. Is a one night stand the same thing as having a friend with benefits? Then NSA is nothing like P4P, which we feel strongly about mentioning once again, is illegal. There is no transaction occurring in an NSA relationship, just two people who have agreed to have a non-traditional relationship. You can’t even compare the two if you take out the sugar aspect. One would be considered prostitution, and the other would just be two people hanging out, sleeping together and not making a commitment to each other.
Fiction. I’m sure some people who choose this type of relationship can be shallow, but to put everyone in the same category under NSA would be unfair. Everyone seeks sugar for a different reason, and the beauty of NSA is that there isn’t pressure added to the relationship. People who are attracted to the NSA type of relationship could be just beginning in the sugar world and want to test things out. Or because of their relationship habits, they feel like this is a better option for them than choosing a different route.
What do you think about NSA?
Is there a clear definition you would give NSA relationships?