We’ve talked A LOT about Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies here, but we haven’t given much attention to Sugar Mommies. No, Sugar Mommies are not a figment of your imagination; they really do exist. They may be less common than Sugar Daddies, but they are out there, looking for sugar in all the same places. But, a Sugar Mama has a completely different moniker than a Sugar Daddy. In fact, a Sugar Mama usually falls into one or two categories: the alpha female, or the former Sugar Baby.
There are millions of women named Britney, Jennifer, and Christina in the world (probably a fair share of Madonnas too) but it takes a strong, powerful woman to take a common first name and OWN it. These alpha females are so famous that they don’t need a last name when referring to them. They are hot, successful, and ridiculously wealthy. So, basically, they can have anyone they want including sexy back up dancers, male models, and production assistants. And why shouldn’t they?
The Alpha Female
More often than not, an alpha female will turn to an alternative type of relationship after the downfall of a serious relationship. In the case of J. Lo, Madonna and Britney Spears, a back-up dancer was just what they needed after a relationship with an alpha male went sour. There is a lot of public pressure and attention put on you when you are one half of a power couple – not to mention a lot of ego! So when the party was over for J.Lo & Marc, Britney & Justin, it was time to look for something different, and let’s face it, a back-up dancer can have a lot to offer a woman!
But don’t think that the only Sugar Mommies out there are Grammy winning hotties because that’s not the case. There are alpha females who are just as successful out of the limelight. An alpha female is a strong, successful woman who owns her prowess. She’s the high powered attorney who works 80 hours a week, or the made-from-scratch fashion mogul who is slowly making a name for herself. A Sugar Mommy like this will be busy building and sustaining her empire, and looking for something fun and sweet when there’s time. She may not have time for a traditional relationship, or a way to meet someone she is interested in, but that doesn’t mean she should have to be alone! So, she looks for an alternative relationship and becomes a Sugar Mama; except, in her version of the fairy tale, it’s not a back up dancer, maybe it’s a paralegal or a yummy frat boy.
The Former Sugar Baby
Then there is the former Sugar Baby. The lucky lady who married her Sugar Daddy, and perhaps made a name for herself along the way. We’re talking about any of the scorned women who have appeared as a cast member on the Real Housewives of [Insert City] , or the former wives of philandering professional athletes or business moguls. After the sugar turns sour, sometimes it’s okay to return to the sugar bowl and pay the sugar forward.
Camille Grammer, Linda Hogan, and Ivana Trump all married men outside of their income brackets. When their marriages ended, they each found themselves re-entering the dating pool with a much higher net worth than the first time around. After putting their failed marriages behind them, they chose to look for men with much different qualities than their ex-husbands. By becoming financially independent, they are able to approach dating with whole new perspective. Gretchen Rossi, a cast member of The Real Housewives of Orange County, never got to marry her fiancé before he passed away. But thanks to his generosity, she was well taken care of in his will. She began dating someone new, and is able to help support him financially. Just like these ladies, there are plenty of widows, or divorcees who are set for life and are willing to dip their toes back into the dating pool, with perhaps a different set of priorities than in the past.
So why is a Sugar Mommy so hard to come by? For all you Sugar Baby males (and females) who seem to think that Sugar Mamas are something of an urban legend, I promise you: they do exist! There is even more competition for these elusive creatures than for Sugar Daddies, and when they find what they are looking for, they are more likely to be monogamous. While there are 10 sugar babies for every Sugar Daddy on SeekingArrangement.com, the sugar babies seeking sugar mommies ratio is nearly doubled. All Sugar Mamas are highly desired, and once they open themselves up to the idea, the possibilities are truly endless. It’s a woman’s world, and the men just have to live in it.
Do you know any Sugar Mommies? Do they fit the SA Sugar Mommy Theory?
Sugar Babies: Do you see yourself as a Sugar Mommy in the future?
Do you have any advice for those looking for a Sugar Mommy?