Many people are finding their sweet spot within the Sugar Daddy lifestyle. You never know who’s gonna be at the end of that ‘next’ search page on SeekingArrangement. While celebs like Charlie Sheen have been sharing their style of sugar living with the world, there are countless in-real-life sugars who are nothing short of goddesses and guru’s to behold right here in the Sugarbowl…
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A central part of the Sugar Daddy Lifestyle, is communicating relationship expectations clearly. As many here have said, the sugar simply isn’t as sweet (if not sour), if the expectations of Sugar Daddy and Sugar Baby aren’t known upfront.
Yet with all great outcomes, usually lay a record of right steps taken along the way. When it comes to Sugar Daddy dating, those steps usually include:
1. Creating a profile on a Sugar Daddy dating site.
There are quite a few to choose from these days, and choosing the right one for you may depend on many factors. If you’re a Sugar Baby, for example, you might prefer a sugar site that doesn’t require a paying membership to send and receive messages from potential SD’s. For Sugar Daddies, joining a site that prohibits the use of fake (site created) Sugar Baby profiles, and doesn’t make false claims about their membership numbers, for example, may be important to you.
2. Knowing what to expect from your Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby.
Expectations aren’t the same for every sugar daddy or sugar baby. On SeekingArrangement, SB’s and SD’s can make their expectations clear in many ways, including listing their desired monthly allowance (for SB’s of course), and how much their budget for a potential SB would be in an arrangement. While SA doesn’t require members to list a specific amount, some sugars prefer knowing the desired range of financial as well as emotional involvement sought by a potential sugar daddy or sugar baby upfront.
3. Making a good Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby profile heading.
A sugar profile heading should draw the right attention. Many sugars here have said that the best profile headings are “simple yet sincere”. One Sugar Daddy member seeking a Sugar Baby male said the best profile heading he ever saw was “welcome home”. ‘Anna Molly‘ said there was one sugar heading that stood out to her, which was “Meeting of the Minds before the Loins”. You can always adjust your heading to fit your truth as needed.
4. Writing messages to potential Sugar Daddies or Sugar Babies.
There’s no one right way to write a potential sugar a message (whether a reply or an initial contact), yet many sugars have discussed their sugar message techniques, such as the method of ‘SweeTooth’: “Keeping them short, flirty, and listing at least one thing that attracts me to them”. As many in the Sugar World have found, being upfront without being ‘demanding’ is sometimes a fine line to tow, as mentioned by Leidra Lawson (author of Sugar Daddy 101) in a recent interview she did with this blog here.
5. Not feeling rejected if/when a potential SD/SB doesn’t respond – be patient.
The most commonly repeated advice (especially in regards to sugar babies who haven’t gotten the response they’re used to getting from men on normal dating sites) has been to be patient in the Sugar World. There are many reasons a potential may not respond to your initial message, and many reasons a sugar you’ve been communicating with may ‘poof’. ‘No June Cleaver SB‘ recently gave several of her theories as to why a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby may turn poof daddy or poof baby in a recent comment, which can be viewed on the blogs latest advice column page here.
6. Going on a first date with a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby.
The chemistry that takes place on the first IRL date with a potential SD or SB is what many here have said determines the viability of a sugar relationship and arrangement. As with all types of relationships, but especially sugar ones, establishing a sense of trust and validating mutual appreciation for one another is very important. Many sugars have said that the chemistry should always supersede all other aspects of sugar potential, since even if a pot SD or SB can meet all your predetermined expectations – if the chemistry’s not there, the mutual benefit will be fleeting if ever present.
What are some of the right moves you’ve taken so far with your Sugar Daddy dating?
How are things going in your Sugar World lately?