9 years ago
Sugar Dating: Kinky Secrets…

9 years ago
Sugar Dating: Kinky Secrets…

How Would Your Circle React?

Not all Sugar Daddies are over 40, and not all Sugar Babies are under 30. Some Sugar Daddies seek both Sugar Baby females and Sugar Baby males. Many Sugar Mama’s seek relationships that are completely platonic, and aren’t in it for “love” as most assume. It’s become apparent that a man or woman seeking a mutually beneficial arrangement does so for a vast variety of reasons…

Just as the common understanding of who Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies are is misunderstood, the stinging judgment often made by friends, co-workers and family alike can often be very off-mark, and sometimes ruinous.

Ben:

“Speaking of judgment – a close friend of mine has all but disowned me since I told him details of my SD lifestyle. This makes me think I should share details with no one except for all of you here.”

It would seem… (please speak up if you disagree) that Sugar Babies are more inclined to be open about their Sugar Daddy dating life than Sugar Daddies. Perhaps a Sugar Babies concern for safety trumps their concern for privacy; making a Sugar Baby more likely to tell friends and family where she or he is, and who she’s with…

Has anyone here had trouble talking about their Sugar relationship with someone outside of the scene?

Have you realized that  someone you would like to talk to about your SD or SB would just make a snap judgment without really trying to understand what a mutually beneficial arrangement is?

For those of you who choose to be discreet; what, if anything, would persuade you to share your Sugar Daddy dating experience(s) with the unfamiliar?

We’ve touched on the subject of Sugar Daddy Dating and Kids, but what are the ‘rules’ for introducing or explaining a Sugar Baby or Sugar Daddy companion to a child? To a friend or co-worker?

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87 Responses to “Sugar Dating: Kinky Secrets…”

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  42. binetulttix says:

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  43. binetulttix says:

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  44. HenriLouis says:

    Funny that all of a sudden, the language is Russian.
    My great sense of humour tells me, because you then really keep it out of the grasp of anyone you know !
    I told my best friend Freddie about it over a glass of champagne.
    He could not stop laughing !!
    You really are an adventurer was his remark.

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  47. Grayson says:

    I really don’t feel like explaining myself to people, so it’s a secret. I’m another one that no one would believe anyway…I don’t think my good-girl image will ever go away. :(

  48. CarolineinTX says:

    Hmmm…seems to me that if the “secret” part of an SD/SB arrangement isn’t really a secret, some of the naughty magic gets lost…after all, isn’t the “secret” nature of such relationships supposed to be part of the fun?

    Isn’t the nature of having the forbidden fruit a huge motivation for SD/SB relationships?

    Why tell anyone else, anyway? What happens between two consenting adults behind closed doors is no one else’s business…and keeping secrets can be fun.:)

    btw, if any SD’s out there know how to keep a secret and know what “discreet” really means, my profile # is 250376!

    Loose lips sink ships…keep it on the down low, baby.;)

  49. unurnMorHoawl says:

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  50. Cutie says:

    Tell them that you found them at discount stores or you bought them on sale for a steal. This seems to work since these kinds of opportunities never last long so they wouldn’t be able to check. As for myself I avoid very obvious stuff because I see family and friends all the time, I buy clothes that are of good quality and not flagrant brand names so they don’t raise any questions or comments.

  51. FashionMag says:

    There’s no way I can tell any of my friends. Even though they’re not the most conservative people, they would still think this is some kind of prostitution because they simply dont know what this lifestyle is about.
    I do have a question for SB’s who keep it a secret as well: what do you tell your friends and family when they ask you about all the high-end clothes and accessories you keep accumulating?

  52. RonaldLI says:

    Спасибо за текст! Очень понравилось

  53. dreamer says:

    bT you are so lucky! im a huge sox fan.. Sorry if we bother you… I was in peabody all last week. I would have killed to go to a game but i doubt a sd could have afforded that!

  54. zabreena says:

    I work as a dancer in Miami in a large club so naturally many of my friends are very understanding of ‘mutually beneficial arrangements’ and plenty of them have their own in one way or another. so my friends there know that I’m a SB and I let them know how I’m getting on, but only in very general annonymous terms, I wouldnt dream of telling anyone anything remotely confidential or that would identify a SD.

    This site has been fantastic for me and I have met quite a few men and have SD/SB relationships with several of them. they mostly come from other parts of the country so we only meet occasionally. I doubt any of them have breathed a word about me to anyone. they are mostly mid 40’s and married. having a relationship with a 19 year old dancer from miami is hardly the sort of thing they are going to shout from the roof tops and who can blame them, certainly not me.

  55. bostonTerrier says:

    wow! you’re super close. i’m in/near kenmore square … close enough to fenway that i hate the red sox fans :(

    i’d totally be up for coffee if there was someway to connect

    :)

  56. cbaby says:

    Haven’t found my perfect SD yet, but know I don’t plan on telling anyone.

    Like bostonterrier, no one would believe me haha I was a virgin til 19, and back then no guy believed I was a virgin (this was prior to discovering Sb/Sd relationships)…now the problem is everyone thinks I’m such a good girl! It’s actually really fun for me as far as Sds go, in that I feel like sometimes if I meet someone for a lunch date, it must just look likea student and professor haha

    ….ps bostonterrier, I’m in Allston, we should meet for coffee sometime! I’d love to have a person I can be honest about this stuff with!

  57. sugar daddy jimmyslt says:

    I would agree with everyone here. Safety is very important and can go both ways. I like to meet in a public place that way I can see if anyone might be watching or following. I too am from a very conservative area and would be looked down on if anyone knew what I was doing.

  58. BlondeinNYC says:

    Bluewater Sailor I agree with your sentiments exactly!

  59. Bluewater Sailor says:

    I think that the underlying financial arrangement is no ones business except the two individuals. Other than that I would think that meeting someone from this site should be positioned exactly the same as meeting someone from a “regular” dating site…”someone I met on the internet” should be the only explanation anyone needs. Certainly in this day and age the internet has become an accepted method to meet people…but to reiterate what Blonde said, safety is important !

  60. BlondeinNYC says:

    Because of professional reasons I don’t talk about it to the majority of people I know.I think it’s extremely important to let someone know where you’re going etc., for safety reasons I think it’s important to let someone know. I tell two very good friends in vague terms about my search and that’s about it.

  61. Rose M. says:

    I am seen as the most sexually and emotionally conservative of my group. I’m sure if I tried to explain what I was looking for they would all have a big laugh and move on, disbelieving me. In reality, I am simply more private than they are.

  62. Gail says:

    Jimbo-Sounds like you plan to be a SD lifer:) Yeah!!!keep it going on!!

  63. Jimbo says:

    As a sugar daddy, I have told about 5 good (male) friends about my SD-SB lifestyle. Since none have seen or used the SB sites, they may or may not really understand. All have been married, 3 still are, 2 are getting or are divorced. I won’t tell people who my wife and I have “couples” friendships with about the SD lifestyle.

    Guys tend to egg guys on on relationship issues. So they are jealous when I show them the photos of my 23 – 34 y.o. SB’s (I am 50) and egg me on to keep it going.

  64. Gail says:

    Lisa-Now we know where you are when you are not on the blog, at the old folks home. Honestly that is sweet:) But that’s me, I too love the elderly:) When I visit they can’t remember who I am:( The next SD that meets you may liqueur you up…Enjoy!!!

  65. lisa says:

    edit, it would curl my friends and family’s toenails if they found out

  66. lisa says:

    I come off so conservative on the surface. I only drink when I have a date, no profanity, have vast biblical knowledge, enjoy spending time visiting the elderely in nursing homes, etc. so it would my friends and family’s toenails if they found out.

  67. bostonTerrier says:

    i always carry pepper spray or mace, a pocket knife, and took rape defense classes so i’ve always felt comfortable in initial meetings with a sd … plus we’d always meet in public places for the first few days like parks, coffee shops close to or on campus, or a galleria/mall.

    also, checking their company websites always helps in knowing they’re legitimate (i’ve yet to meet a potential sd without one) so i’ve never felt the need to tell someone else where i was going.

    i’m pretty smart and often underestimated.

  68. Gail says:

    Ewwwwh!!!!you could have swapped spit with the same ones too….:)

    I know that my family would stop talking to me if they ever found out. They have and will alway be judgemental in everything I do. Of course, I am the one having the most fun out of all my brothers and sisters. They don’t know and I let them continue to think I am a boring fuddy duddy:)
    If they only knew…LOL…I think I got my wild side from my mom…she has that mysterious smile too:O

  69. SuthrnExec says:

    SouthernGent2, if you’re not having any better success than I am, I really do pity you! Actually, my success of late has more to do with current circumstances around work – nevertheless, I hope you are spoiling and being spoiled!

  70. lisa says:

    I keep it secret as my family would never understand, heck they made me move out because I started “dating” after my divorce. My friends are always warning me about meeting anyone online, so I would never tell them about this. It’s actually more fun when it’s your little secret. :)

  71. dreamer says:

    i have told a gay friend of mine and he dont think i would ever go thru with it.. I have told my dad in a round about way when i am going on dates bc he is probably the only person who would really care about my safety and where i was… But other than that none of my girl friends would believe me either. But im going to see if i can get them into the lifestyle so we can all talk about it. We will see.

  72. JetSetBaby says:

    My girls know.. One introduced me to my first SD and the other would come on trips with my SD for ultimate spoiling a fun weekends filled with shopping and lavish parties and events. WE all had a blast.. He liked the Hugh Hefner type experience.. Though he was MUCH younger and i was the only one he got intimate with

  73. SouthernGent2 says:

    SuthrnExec has probably stolen all my potential sb’s. I bet we have spoken to some of the same ones.

  74. Gail says:

    The two of you are absolute darlings in my eyes. Always gentlemen, always doing the right kind of thinking:)

    I tell a good SD friend of mine where I am….that includes name,street address,phone number of who and where. He always calls me to check and make sure that I am okay during and after.

    In regards to the topic. I tell no one:) It’s my little secret:) I suppose thats why I have something always to smile about.

  75. blondesb says:

    Boston Terrier
    My best friend did the same thing.. she was laughing soo hard… I tried to make her believe I was serious and she still refuses to believe.. So when I am out with him and she asks oh how was your weekend. I tell her it was wonderful I was out with my sugar daddy and she just laughs and walks away. Apparently I am too goody twoshoes to have a SD. too innocent. lol

  76. SuthrnExec says:

    Southern Gents think alike here – I absolutely would recommend SBs have someone they can confide in so that someone always knows where she’s going when meeting a SD somewhere – certainly, safety first!

  77. SouthernGent2 says:

    I prefer the privacy and discretion of others not knowing. As for the sb, she might need to have a close friend she can trust just for safety reasons.

  78. MishBocaRatonGrl says:

    I’ve been open to a female friend of mine who is very open-minded. She is actually on this site as well and we look after each other. If something doesn’t settle in my mind just right I can run it by her and get another opinion. Without having to leave out bits and pieces of the story and tell others.

    I’m private w/ it overall though. I’m only 18, and most of the men whom are attempting to have an arrangement with me are, in their 30’s and 40’s. Some young looking, and I tend to look like I’m over 21, usually 22-23. So that kind of makes it hard to be so OPEN about it.

  79. bostonTerrier says:

    i’d never tell.

    once i told my best friend – in all seriousness – and she just began to laugh at me knowing that i’d never do such a thing with my morals and whatnot. i’m the good girl, an image i’ll have forever, and it works in my favor when it comes to being a sb.

  80. Mina says:

    I don’t discuss this part of my life with anyone, period. Discretion isn’t only for an SD, but seeing as to how my family is somewhat known in my city, I’d really rather not divulge this information with anyone and have it somehow get out and bite me in the you-know-what. At the same time I do like keeping it private because it makes things more interesting for me per se- A very sweet looking girl with a very naughty secret. Straight out of Hustler! Lol
    On a somewhat related note- Have any of you SBs either had a family member find out or someone who would/could threaten to tell/blackmail?

  81. Sgnextdoor says:

    I have a small circle of friends who I keep informed of my comings and goings regarding SDs, at least in the beginning stages and always if there’s travel involved. One is a girl I live with, another lives near my family, and another is a SB herself. One or all of these women will know what I’m up to, and they all know how to contact each other. It’s just a matter of safety for me, just in case…

    Other than that, a few other people know generally about my SD relationships, but it’s not something I really talk about all that much. Discretion as much as possible is usually the name of the game anyway.

  82. Mary says:

    Why must we share the details of our life? I may brag about going to Houston’s in Atlanta and having a great steak dinner and wine, but I feel no need to share the details of the company I keep, much less how I paid for it, lol. I grew up a long time ago. In growing up I learned, details are not important, they serve no purpose. If friends and family love, they don’t ask anyway, they just want to see you happy. So go ahead and smile, even if the smile is only because you know something of your life they don’t.
    Today: Love and relationships are like shit, sometimes you just step in it. Do you call your friends and family and tell them you just stepped in it? I think not, lol. Its your life people no one else’s.

  83. SuthrnExec says:

    As a SD, I would never reveal a SD/SB relationship I was in. It would not work for me professionally or socially. I’m from a very conservative upbringing and many of my long-time friends were cut from the same cloth. My own family disowned me when I divorced and remarried, so there is no telling the reaction if they knew of this kind of relationship. So overall discretion is a requirement for me – no one that I know can know about it.

    This also relates to the “Rule of 7” that I have mentioned in a post before. This rule is a “rule of thumb” that defines a formula to judge whether the age difference in an intimate relationship is socially acceptable. The formula is the age fo the younger person can be greater than or equal to half the older person’s age plus 7 years. In other words, it is socially acceptable for a 60 yr old man to be in a sexual relationship with a 37 yr old (or older) person (60 divided by 2 + 7). Understand that this is what society in general thinks (or doesn’t think) when they see a couple in public who are obviously romantically involved. People don’t know them, they just make a judgment based on the appearance of the couple. The rule implies that if the rule is followed, the couple won’t attract any unwanted attention – but if the age disparity is too great, then it is obvious what the arrangement is.

    So to me there are two levels here – discretion as far as my friends and family go but also there needs to be discretion because of my professional life where I do not want to attract any unwanted attention, even from those who I do not know – thus the Rule of 7 applies. The 7 Rule is a general guideline because there are factors that influence it – if you look 10 years younger than your real age, you can get away with being with a younger person, etc. In fact, I am trying to meet someone who falls outside the boundary of the “rule” because she has a level of maturity that is attractive to me, I am told I look younger than I am and we both have quite a bit in common. We’ll see how it goes.

  84. Jinx says:

    I’m really excited about finding my SD. I definatly want to spoil him and do special little things for him.
    And by spoiling him u meant treating him to a massage from me you know etc etc
    As for telling my group of friends several of them already know that I am on this sight
    But also I have very unusual friends one of them is a dominatrix in fact so we all tend be a little bit more open minded about such things.
    But I do have a few friends whom I know that I would be better off keeping this information to myself

  85. Jinx says:

    that really stinks.
    I am really taking my time here in seeking.
    I am getting to know my SDs and figuring out what I need and what they need from a benificial relationship

  86. Ashley says:

    It’s funny, I actually met a man on here who turned out to be the most amazing man I’ve ever met. I didn’t even care about his money after I met him, he was charming, smart, experienced, and absolutely interesting. After that, all I wanted was to be with him, I absolutely adored him. Our chemistry was amazing. Sad thing is, I was a lot younger than he was looking for (20), and he couldn’t be with someone my age because of how his clients and friends would react. I respect him for his decisions because it was for all the right reasons, but I am definately heartbroken by it.

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