Have you ever expected more, or frankly, less, from an arrangement than what you ended up receiving? Arrangements are supposed to be simple, easy, and most of all, fun. If the process becomes a process… then you’re probably not in the right lane. If you want to avoid running around in circles with a potential, you should plan the arrangement before you write the first message. What I mean by that is, have an idea of when you are prepared to start the arrangement, what benefit you think you can provide the other, and what benefit you think the other can provide you. If you do not have a clear idea of the previously stated “arrangement essentials” (time & mutual benefit), then you’re setting yourself up for possible headache.
A Sugar Baby wrote in to the blog this morning:
“I would like to know what the men think they are paying for and vice versa. Is it for sex? Companionship? Adventure they can’t get elsewhere? NSA? If NSA, what does that mean to each party and why must it be paid for. I know my married man thinks he would be paying for sex and also thinks he doesn’t have to. I keep trying to explain its not sex. But, let’s see what others have to say. Shall we?”
We have had some great conversations on this blog about what it means to be a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby. We’ve touched on the subject about what to ask for, how to ask it, and when to do the asking; but today’s blog is about what you think you’re getting VS what you actually receive.
Don’t assume that a Sugar Baby or Sugar Daddy will help you find time for an arrangement, or walk you through your own qualms about the concept of NSA, mutually beneficial dating. If you need some moral guidance, let it all out on the blog, or ask a trusted friend… but don’t expect a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby to convince you or persuade you to become a sugar dater. You must make that decision alone.
Most importantly, when the time comes to jump in the cold water, jump. But if you’re not ready, be honest with yourself and save an aspiring Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby the time, money, and discouragement. Don’t lead a Sugar Baby or Sugar Daddy to believe they found a match, only to find that what they really had was a pair of cold feet.