It’s safe to say that our community has witnessed the media’s scathing perception of the “sugar lifestyle.” Often humorous and slightly absurd (to say the least), these myths never fail to give me a good laugh. From the “prostitution” and “pimp” claims, to the assumed, “grandpa going after your daughter,” it is understandable that Sugar Daddies are often perceived wrongly by the general public.
Here are some of the more notable myths that should be taken like a grain of salt. Or in this case, sugar.
1. “Sugar Daddies are just old men looking to date younger girls.”
This couldn’t be more wrong. Sugar Daddies range from young entrepreneurs in their 30s, to successful CEO’s in their 50s. Like any other dating website, SeekingArrangement.com offers a wide range of wealthy and generous men from varying demographics. This common misconception stems from the fact that the average Sugar Daddy is an older man that earns more than 6-figures a year. And men often reach this socio-economic plateau in the middle of their lives. After all, how many ridiculously wealthy 20 year old’s do you know (Besides the founders of Facebook)?
2. “Sugar Daddies only pay women to have sex.”
Wrong again. While sex can occur in a sugar relationship, it should never define the lifestyle. Sugar Daddies often seek companions because they lead busy work-schedules. Others simply enjoy surrounding themselves with beautiful, vibrant muses. It really depends on what the Sugar Daddy wants—to each his own.
3. “Sugar Daddies pay women as a last resort.”
Sugar Daddies don’t just choose any woman. Nurturing and supporting a Sugar Baby is never an impulsive decision. Contrary to the public perception, it is actually the women that outnumber the men: 10 to 1. Creating a mutually beneficial relationship takes time, just like any other relationship. Rules must always be set first, and the rest will follow with time.
4. “Sugar Daddies objectify and demean women by involving money.”
Ask any Sugar Baby—do they feel more or less respected if they are taken care of? A man who takes care of expenses, showers a woman with gifts, and constantly pampers her is often appreciated, not rejected. As a man, it is your duty to take care of a woman. In my opinion, this should be a standard for all relationships. Granted, not everyone can afford the Louis Vuitton’s and couples’ spas. But it’s not about the gifts themselves—it’s about the generosity and intent. Sugar Daddies want to take care of women, and all taken males should share this sentiment.
What are some other Sugar Daddy misconceptions?