I hope all of you had a good Halloween! If you dressed up in a character this Halloween, I’d love to hear from you (so write a comment below). And if you’d like to share your pictures with the rest of your fellow sugar blog readers, send them over to me at brandon (at) seekingarrangement.com, and I will do my best to feature them on the blog.
As for me, I was toying with the idea of dressing up as a sugar daddy, but eventually decided to go back to the source of my inspiration that led me to create SeekingArrangement.com and WhatsYourPrice.com in the first place – i.e., to dress up as a nerd. One that’s perhaps no longer too shy to approach women. And for those of you wondering what I was carrying in my pocket besides a pen, let me give you a clue, my girlfriend (not the one shown in the picture) insisted that I carry some.
Now back to the topic of this blog. I had a conversation this past week with a long time sugar daddy member of SeekingArrangement.com who could not stop talking about his positive experience with the sugar baby members he met through the site. So towards the end of our conversation, I told him I would really appreciate it if he would share his positive experience with his friends. To my surprise he told me “I would never tell any of my friends about SeekingArrangement.com”. But not to sound rude, he further explained, “Don’t get me wrong, I love this website and I am not ashamed of letting everyone know I am a sugar daddy. But why would I ever want to share this secret with any other men? I want to keep all the sugar babies on Seeking Arrangement all to myself if I can help it.”
To be honest, I was totally speechless. If all the sugar daddies or sugar babies on our website thought this way, there would be no “word-of-mouth” on our website at all. But this can’t be possible, because in a random survey I did a few months ago, nearly 65% of the members who responded said they had first heard of SeekingArrangement.com through a friend. In fact, word-of-mouth is such a big component of our website, that we only acquire less than 20% of our new sugar daddie or sugar babe members through advertising.
(Note: We conducted quick survey of approximately 500 of our happy and loyal users, asking them if they had told friends and family about our website. 18% said no, because they don’t want anyone to know they are a sugar daddy or sugar baby, while 20% said no, because they don’t want to share the sugar with anyone else. That means approximately 1 out of 5 of you won’t tell anyone because you don’t want any additional competition.)
So what prompted this sugar daddy to refuse to tell his friends about our website? It must be sugar selfishness, or the unwillingness to share the joys of the sugar life with other people, for fear there may be less sugar left to go around. There is of course some fallacy in his thinking. Sugar doesn’t get sweeter unless there is more to go around, and his sugar experience would have been even more satisfying if he had a group of sugar daddy friends he could share his experiences with. On this point, I happen to know quite a few members of the original sugar daddy “Yahoo Discussion Group” who continue to meet regularly in meetings all around the country (and by phone). These Seeking Arrangement sugar daddy and sugar baby members share their experiences with each other, and act as a support group to help each other as they embark on new sugar journeys or face sugar crisis.
Obviously, the sugar lifestyle, like any other journey in life is filled with its own sets of problems, pitfalls and drama. So, if you are like the “I’ll keep SA a secret” sugar daddy, and you have not told your friends or family about the wonderful world of Seeking Arrangement, then I hope you will at least be able to share your experience with our sugar blog family. Perhaps the sugar blog can be your sounding board, or your support system when you need some friendly, supportive or constructive advice.
What character did you dress up as this Halloween? (Email your photo if you want to be featured!)
Would you tell your “non-sugar” friends about your sugar daddy or sugar baby experience on Seeking Arrangement?
Do you currently have a sugar support system to turn to or share your experiences with (besides this blog)?