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I’m curious to know… how many of you came here of your own accord, and how many of you were inspired by someone else? They say the grass is greener on the other side, is that why you are here? While we didn’t invent the notion of the Sugar Daddy, we have made it a little easier to obtain one. What was once thought of as an urban legend, is starting to become more mainstream and less taboo.
Everyone has their own idea about what a Sugar Baby looks like, and what a Sugar Daddy is. A reporter will come to us, asking us to cast a Sugar Baby for a local report, expecting a blonde Barbie with no brains and an appetite for Chanel. They are shocked when we deliver a well spoken, educated, young woman, who actually respects herself and her sugar daddy, exuding confidence and poise, everything they expected her to lack. As if an intelligent woman should be allowed to ask for what she wanted in a relationship. Heaven forbid she enjoy herself too.
Everyone likes to assume that sugar is all about sex and power, but in all the wrong ways. Well you all know better than anyone that is simply not the case. Sugar doesn’t lack passion, or emotion, and the heightened novelty of it all can even intensify these experiences. Some may even argue that sex is sweeter in Sugar, and that bucking tradition is the only way to go. So in an effort to persuade more people that sugar makes life sweeter, we have decided to collect some of your personal stories. We don’t want Christian Grey to get all the credit, after all there are only so many tortured billionaire dominant daddies to go around. Why not share the sordid secrets of your most toe-curling sugar-experiences with the world, with out anyone knowing it was you?
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First – it was an accident… I had a SD but didn’t even realise it.
Sex – hmmm… With most SDs it was ranging from ok to average. Definitely NOT the best sex in my life. Guess, if they were amazing lovers – they would have no need to have a SB and provide an allowance
Keeping it hot…. That is a commercial secret
But even included things such as me, greeting someone with 2 other girls on their knees… Leashed and collared 
What? I am good at surprises
wait are SB’s supposed to pull all these circus tricks to keep SD’s happy? I keep reading posts about all the wild things you guys are doing like bringing an extra girl along or Treasured’s post above. So if I’m normal lol does that mean the arrangement will fizzle really fast?
I also ask this because my new SD said we should keep things exciting…I’m pretty mellow though so I don’t know
Somewhere out east of the Cascades, in the high desert there’s a shingle blowing in the wind that probably should read Sugarbaby MD……….
We met when she was going through a divorce in her mid 30s . She had run the business side of her husband’s martial arts school but always aspired to be a doc. Not to live in the big house but to make people well. The sex was crazy but the discussions of all things in the universe was even better. Thanks 99% to her efforts and 1% to a little support here and there she made it through an offshore med school, US residence and her boards. We lived together for about 6 months while she studied for her boards. Great experience for both of us …
@LO – My only advice is to try to figure out why he is here. I am getting out to the deep end of the pool but if a SD were exceeding my financial and other expectations then I might consider the threesome but ONLY if it were comfortable.
Hello Sugars!
It’s been a crazy couple of weeks…
There are many misconceptions about sugar and the people in the lifestyle.
I like the idea of being more NSA, I don’t have time to date and sugar gives me all the benefits
What first inspired you to turn to Sugar? I was in college and a man took a liking to me and started giving me an allowance. I’ve had a sweet tooth ever since.
How does sex differ ‘with Sugar’ and ‘with out’? Sugar sex has always been good.
How do you keep your Sugar hot? We have a friendship and we communicate which allows me privileges to knowing what they like, and then I do it…and I enjoy it.
…SA needs a Post-Sugar Reassimiation program…seriously. How am I supposed to date a normal person after this?
We need one for the SD’s as well. How are supposed to date a non sb after all the fun we have had with our SB’s?
@Lo-
Lol! Of course you need to be introducing new hot things – you’re an entertainer, as a sugar girl that means you need to find new ways to entertain.
Now, just hot sex isn’t enough to keep an SD interested when he starts to get a craving for something new – no matter how hot the piece p****y gets boring after a couple months. But, being interesting will keep him hooked. Adding new spice in the bedroom is one way to stay interesting, but you also have to mix in knowledge of politics, current affairs, art, music, and culture if you really want the sugar to last.
I bring fun new toys, I introduce fun games, and I send naughty pics, videos, and links to porn clips I think he’ll like. I keep the little brain eager to see me, then stimulate the big brain too. If you just rely on being young and pretty that loses interest in three months – max.
I’ve said it before: a sugar girl is like a Caribbean vacation at a luxury resort where all your needs are met before you even know you had them.
I personally would take an SD suggesting a third as a warning sign he was getting bored. Not that I won’t do threesomes, but I would introduce the thrill long before he asked (but not before the three month mark – that’s too soon for dealing with the nuances of a threesome).
@ Stacy – agree fully!
But, moi is not telling my tricks:D hehe
Treasured-I’m not your competition. You don’t live in the same side of the world as me
Stacy-thanks for the response. He didn’t exactly ask me for a threesome, on our first meet before we even did anything sexual he asked me if I like girls because he heard “california girls like girls”. So I assumed he might be into threesomes. I’m educated so I can carry a conversation but I didn’t know it was such a pain in the ass to keep an SD around…maybe I’ll just accept the goodbyes after three months lol
@Lo – they really can be a pain. But replacing them and training someone new is even worse. Lol
@Stacey –”they really can be a pain. But replacing them and training someone new is even worse. Lol”
works both ways unless the SD enjoys the hunt more than the feast
@Flyr – which is why my original comment was about ensuring the feast is delicious and has a diversity of flavors.
Is it wrong for me to be and say more intimate things to my SB than I ever did to my non sugar girlfriends?
I have the exact different experience than many here. The physical piece has never been as good in the sugar world vs no sugar for me.
It is different which is worth it, but unless the Sb is a great actress or truly into her Sd the raw unbridled passion that a real relationship has is the missing link.
I did have a Sb that was extremely good at oral though…..quite possibly the best ever.
Well Gtt – you must tell!! What made her the best ever?
Gtt did you at least keep her around for that reason? That’s probably something I’m actually good at haha
I don’t think the sugar aspect has anything to do with sex getting stale. Sex gets stale in ANY relationship unless you work on it. Familiarity at the very least breeds boredom, if not contempt.
But it’s easier for the guy to move on if/when it’s allowed to get stale if it’s a SD/SB thing. Obviously getting out of a marriage is the most difficult (and usually financially onerous) situation. And if you’re BF/GF there are usually still emotional ties and other life entanglements that make finding new strange unappealing for longer. But the whole point of an arrangement is the boundaries, so a guy is much more likely to just find someone else if things get boring.
Although if the guy is bored within 3 months, you’re probably doing something wrong, or he’s just a player.
Frank “Is it wrong for me to be and say more intimate things to my SB than I ever did to my non sugar girlfriends?”
No. And now that you are comfortable sharing those things why not share them with future girlfriends? I can’t imagine it would do anything other than improve the intimacy.
Thank you for reminding me of a positive thing that sugar has done for my non-sugar relationships. I’m curious what the rest of you think about all this, but personally I notice that I am a lot more open with non-sugar boyfriends since I’ve experienced sugar. Why is that? Perhaps because a sugar relationship lays a framework, and almost has a requirement for making desires, wants, and expectations clear? Or maybe I’m just finally becoming an adult…who knows
SdinLA “Although if the guy is bored within 3 months, you’re probably doing something wrong, or he’s just a player.”
Really? But everyone keeps saying that 3 months is the average length of a sugar relationship. Si the short duration only due to the SB doing something wrong or the guy being player?
Hmmmm…
Well since mine tend to last WELL past the one year mark, I will assume that I’m doing something right. This is probably a good time to thank my blogmates for sound advice…thank you!
“california girls like girls” hahahaha
@EllenSugarB “Everyone?” Who’s “everyone?” I had 3 good SBs, they all lasted more than a year, and in two cases would have gone longer if we had not reached the agreed upon “expiration date” (Their graduation.)
I’m not sure I like all this sex talk. Sex can lead to nasty things like herpes, gonorrhea, and something called relationships. Booyakasha!
@SDinLA, if you liked each other why did it need to end with graduation?
@LondonGirl – Don’t you know? SDinLA will only date girls who aren’t out of high school. The minute they graduate they are too old!
It’s not that sugar makes the sex stale, it’s that a purely sexual/adoration relationship with a woman who is physically attractive but intellectually lacking (or too young for you) just can’t remain interesting for very long. Sex is just sex, you need intellectual sizzle in order to keep things going.
SDinLA@I’m not sure I like all this sex talk. Don’t worry, if you use protection while you sex talk, you can’t get pregnant.
Ellensb@And now that you are comfortable sharing those things why not share them with future girlfriends? I can’t imagine it would do anything other than improve the intimacy. No, I don’t want any more girl friends, its just too messy!
SDinLA@I’m not sure I like all this sex talk. Don’t worry, if you use protection while you sex talk, you can’t get pregnant.
hahahahah lol
Ok Frank. “no, it’s not wrong.” Enjoy your life and have fun!
I like relationships. I like sex. I like relationships and sex together, too. And yes protection is a very good idea!
Does anyone know what the website is to change our avatar?
Maybe a little off-topic… but I propose that we mark April 15th as “National Anal Sex Day”. I know I have a date with my uncle Sam that day, and he’s going to work me over pretty good.
Ellen I think it’s gravatar.com
Lo, on my iPhone your cleavage is at the exact location where I tend to scroll, and I think I’ve felt you up at least a dozen times now. Lol. Regardless of what I say about boob philosophy as a whole – your tatas gravatar is fantastic, they’re lovely. Lol.
The Sugar relationships never meant to last long. If both SD and SB being consistent and worthy to each other. That Sugar relationship will lead to real relationship which is the first reason why a wealthy, older man wanted to avoid in the first place. He got too much to lose …and no ONE woman worth to be his half… Plus, with the money he got, he can afford the dozen of women …why give up the forest for just one tree. My assumption! Sad but true!!! I refused to be among the forest.
. He changes women faster than his cars… I was deeply in love with him and he said he cared for me deeply… And it lasted one year and a half!!! He moved on quickly because of habits… But the sugar experience I had with him ruined my life. It raised my standard for sure. I am not a gold digger, money can’t buy me… and definitely finding a guy to date or to love become so hard… Given while dating him, I was constantly doing reality check… Gotta keep my feet on the ground… But still…. I bet, most of the SBs who got successful sugar relationships would find that it hard to deal with reality when that sugar is gone.
I dated and was in love with a single older gentleman. He was a successful, generous businessman with all the other good qualities in a man that I’m looking for… Sadly, he was a true sugar daddy… He treat women with lots of sugar and use all of his chilvary but no commitment. He got several cars, all expensive limited edition ones (he got mean to have more… But how many car a man can drive? Just as how many women a man can sleep with in a night?
Im not bitter at all, I just hope no one became like me.
hahahaha that’s hilarious, ty my tatas are seriously blushing right now
@Frank: you feel comfortable to say intimate things to SBs than non-sugar girlfriends because you know you dont have to be responsible for the things you said
…. A real SB won’t fall in love with you deeply VS. your non sugar gf would be more emotionally attach to you if you keep saying such things.
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Lovely little forest Ellen.
Thank you. It represents my recent efforts to see the forest for the trees.
Okay, I also think it’s a little creepy to call someone you’re having sex with “Daddy” is that just me? Seems like a perfect way to ruin a mood.
Went on my first date last night. What fun!! I got a great dinner, intelligent conversation, great sex and a little something to buy myself a nice present with, and he wants me to become his regular sugarbaby. I may not be in the target age range, I’ll be 50 next year, but I swear, I’m having such a good time that I might do this until they drag me off kicking and screaming to the nursing home. Frankly the money didn’t even matter, that’s how much fun I was having, but it really is a plus. Had I’d known about this in my twenties I wouldn’t have turned all those older guys down and gone for all those stupid, poor (but cute) lowlife boys that I kept going out with. Oh well,live and learn and better late than never. I am a happy camper!! Just thought I’d let you all know.
Congrats Teresa – that’s great. The sugar bowl may be the perfect place for you.
I love happy stories! get it girrl!!
Quick question for you all -
Is there a away to change a public photo into private, instead of having to delete it and reupload it as private and go through the approval process again?
I have been an sb for a month now and loving it. I don’t have the time for a normal relationship o this is great. Best of both worlds
Ellen, love your avatar. My greatest blessing and curse is I am the opposite – I always see the trees for the forest.
Sometimes that optimism leads me to forget that a tree can just be a tree and there is no forest around it; if I want that forest I have to get to a new location. What did your tinkerbell av represent?
What’s with this wood obsession everyone has?
No wood on my avatar, just lots of hot air.
Good wood is a hard thing to find
… And hard wood is good to find.
…Penis.
?? “Okay, I also think it’s a little creepy to call someone you’re having sex with “Daddy” is that just me? Seems like a perfect way to ruin a mood.”
It’s all up to you and yours. alternatives Sugar, Uncle, Sweetie, Hero, Mr Wood, his college nickname, all depends on how you use it. My guess is that some use the same name for all so they never make a mistake…….
@Theresa – without sharing all your secrets you might comment about what you think attracts men to you.
There are some who believe that mandatory SB retirement age is 35 and others who feel that it only a threshold.
Wow, I’m at retirement age…..so, who’s providing my Sugar Social Security?
Lol, my 22 year old self can’t hold a candle to my 30+ version, SDs are missing out if they only focus on the “Baby” part of sugar baby.
ExsTacy: I’m right there with ya! I MUCH more interesting, fun, and confident in my 30s than I was in my 20s
Y’all convinced me… I’m going to start looking for a SB in her 70′s!
In some ways I would have been a better catch at 22. Young, looking to be mentored, moldable, and innocent. I still have a lot of those qualities but not to the extent I did when I was 22.
I’m young and looking to be mentored, but I’m far from innocent aha. If 35 is retirement age, I’ve got a long way to go with lots of room for growth and improvement.
I’m 27 and I LOOOOVE my age!!! I look better than when I was 18 BUT still look very young ( I am studying with a 19-21 year olds, no one noticed including professors, that I am older, until I told I am. And I still get hit on by a 20 y.o. boys – sooo cute).
AND, in the same time I am so much smarter, fun and more aware of myself. And, of course, I am much better in sex too.
On another note – I am so busy. Local admirer turned finally in a full scale SD. Asia trip is still on ( YAY! SO excited about that ), London SD is in a cue to see me and there is also someone a bit more special.
I’m 21 but often feel older. I have a fair amount of life experience packed into those years aha. I definitely feel I look better than I did when I was 16 or 18 but that’s due to an increase in confidence rather than a change in my looks, and that definitely changes how you appear to others. I’ve been told I’m even radiant! I still surprise myself sometimes.
Oh also, I told my mum about my SD. It went better than expected haha. She says she doesn’t approve but respects my decision as an adult who can do what I like with my life. Plus I can now start saving money to give her for my tuition costs.
Bella – well done you! And, it’s amazing to have such a great relationship with your mum. My mother still thinks I had sex twice (to get pregnant) and apart from that I am a complete virgin
@Dorky: good for you to finally look for someone in your age bracket! (giggle)
I’m not knocking women in their 20s at all, I just know that I like myself better NOW than I did THEN, and know that I’ll only get better with age! Age is a number and a mindset…..like Peter Pan, I’m not ready to grow up yet!
Blog still boring without me… ahahaha
That moment when you buy mozzarella sticks that you thought were microwavable but they have to be cooked in the oven…
*waiting for oven to preheat*
Most people think I’m 20-22, which surprises me but hey I’ll take it! I’m back on the market looking for that one awesome SD. Also back to traditional dating as well. Which side will win? Time will tell…
treasured-you have gone blond, are you having more fun?
I can remember how grown up I felt when I was 27, and now thinking back, what a kid I still was at that age.
I still get weird looks when I tell people I’m right at 35 – they usually put me at 26 or 27
I’ll take it! 
I’ve actually been trying to get a few gray hairs to help me advance in the workplace. Unless I’m shooting for a young startup, my age holds me back.
You can have some of mine Jersey
I don’t get how I always attract the kinkiest guys in the traditional world and now in sugar…
Haha thanks Treasure!
And I know you weren’t picking on 20- somethings, no worries Tina!
@flyr I don’t really know what attracts me to men. I do know that I look quite a bit younger than my age, some people still mistaken me for a woman in her 20′s even though I am 49 and wear a size 12-14. Young guys in their late teens and early 20′s still hit on me but I pretty much ignore them because frankly, I have no intention of dipping into my daughter’s dating pool. I think part of it may just be the fact that I’ve finally gotten some self-esteem and a whole lot of confidence (they say confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can possess), not only that I am very honest and I think that men really appreciates the fact that they are not being fed a line, but are seeing a person that just tells the truth. I may not get a lot of dates but the men who seek me out know that they are getting a real woman who won’t play games with them.
@Jersey that’s funny, I was just thinking about dying my hair and getting a lace front wig, a’la Beyonce’ so I would look even younger. I can’t go around in the sugarworld with greys. LOL
@Dorky did you hear about the woman they just picked up off of Craigslist for solicitation? She was 71 years old!! And the crazy part about the whole thing is that she looked really good, considering her choice of profession. She had all kinds of pictures of herself on Craiglist of her wearing nice but conservative lingerie. The point is don”t give up on us older women, we’re nice and can be just as satisfying as a young lady in her 20′s, after all it’s all just relative when thinking about the whole cosmos.
I just got on this thing. I’m a 44yo M sb and have been dating older/younger women all my life who, becuase I look like I’m 25-29, have been more than happey to hand me ther cc and or the car keys
… i thought that was fun but here’s what I’m just realizing. With all the extra income I’m getting I’ll be able to afford my own sb F and can’t wait to have the kinkiest sex ever! hahaha
btw LO, omg those are H.O.T. I’d pack you into a down comforter and love you right all day n night.
Making love with a man is nicer when you know he is taking care of you. You know you’re not just a fuck to him. Even if he’s only taking care of you for a little while, it’s good to know he is at least a little concerned about your well being.
@TGFM Isn’t that the truth!! It is much much better to have someone take good care of you. I’ve spent almost my whole life having men take advantage of me and use me. But after figuring out that I am worth way more than that (with the help of a great life coach), I am now meeting men who want to take care of me, and since I am the type of woman who would never take advantage of a man, I am a much happier woman. SD relationships are perfect for me, as I don’t want to have a truly serious relationship at this time and I don’t want to bother with some average Joe who thinks he can just have me without bringing anything into the relationship. Been there, done that, and practically wrote the book. Nope a sd/sb relationship is just what I want, so everybody knows just what is in it for them, and I get taken care of, just like the princess I think I am.
Oh this is what I came here to talk about. There is this great story on Huffington Post about May/December relationships in Hollywood. I thought if it could work for them, it could definitely work for us. Here’s the URL http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/25/hugh-jackman-wife-age-difference_n_2758577dot htlm. Take a look, we could all be the next one in line.
Newbe hear. Very interesting people. Many of you dont take things too seriously, which is good:D I just started this site, and im not very sure how I picture my sd. Which ever way he looks, he must have a great personality♥
I’m a new SB and I somewhat nervous about this whole thing. Any advise for a newbie?