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How To Get Your Profile Approved Faster

Creating a profile on Seeking is the first step toward finding your ideal relationship. Having an approved profile means you are ready to actively pursue an honest relationship, on your terms. It can take up to 24 hours for your profile to be approved. During that time you will be able to browse through profiles, but communication will not be possible. If 24 hours feels like too long of a wait there are a few things you can do to get your profile approved faster. Upgrade to a Premium Membership Premium members get their profiles approved through an expedited process. Additionally, …

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All About Reporting

Reporting an inappropriate member is highly encouraged and available to all Seeking users.  If you are having a conversation with another member and they ask you for personal banking information, use derogatory language or send unsolicited private photos it may be time to consider reporting them. Seeking takes user reports very seriously and wants to be notified of any inappropriate activity taking place on the site. How To Report: To report a member look for this icon at the bottom of your message thread: Once you click “Report Member” you will be able to provide details regarding the incident. What Happens …

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Setting Boundaries

All healthy relationships, whether platonic or romantic, require clear boundaries in order to function seamlessly. Often times people think of relationship boundaries as a controlling set of rules, but the reality is that boundaries aren’t about the other person, they are about you. Relationship boundaries are about setting your own limits and learning how to work with the limitations  of your partner in order to effectively work together to maintain a healthy relationship. Below I will outline some guidelines to help you establish clear boundaries in your relationship. Know what you want It’s important to know what you want prior …

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Tips for First Dates

Meeting up for the first time can be nerve-racking or completely awkward, but it doesn’t have to be. From taking the time to find a solid prospect, to preparing conversation topics ahead of time, here are some tips for first dates. THE ASK If you’re unsure of what to do for your date, ask what she would prefer. Some people prefer drinks or coffee since it’s less commitment, but others like dinner or lunch so they have ample time to feel you out. Suggest something that will make her comfortable, and offer to pay for her cab or train ride …

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Why She Ghosted

By seemingly disappearing into thin air, the act of “ghosting” has become the newest phenomenon in dating. Let’s face it, being ghosted sucks. You meet a girl and instantly connect, exchange texts with playful banter, have a few dates where the conversation never slows, you start getting serious feelings for her and then the next day, she’s gone. Calls aren’t returned, texts aren’t responded to. She’s vanished. Below are some reasons why she may have ghosted.   Too Aggressive Did you text her right after dropping her off? Did she wake up to three missed calls from you? Did you …

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The Perfect First Message

Crafting a quality first message is an art. Coming up with the perfect amount of information, while maintaining some mystery is the balance you need to secure a date, and hopefully more. Here are some tips for creating the perfect first message. Information Overload One thing you should try to avoid is writing a novel in your first message. Keep it short, sweet, and to the point. Your profile bio is the perfect place to list everything she’s ever wanted to know about you, not your first message. Ideally this should be about 2-3 sentences. An opener, mention what you …

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How to Bring Up Your Kinks

Let’s be honest, ever since 50 Shades of Grey exposed kink to the mainstream, women are opening up to ideas outside vanilla. With that being said, bringing up your kinks to a partner has become a lot less taxing over the years. Here is what to keep in mind when introducing your partner to something outside the sexual norm. Communicate I know, I know, but communication is key. But she’s not a mindreader, and it’s all about how you present the situation. Don’t make it a yes or no thing, because when someone feels backed into a corner they’re more …

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Standard, Premium, Or Diamond Membership: What’s The Difference?

Whether it’s on Seeking or anywhere else that involves a membership, you should always be familiar with the benefits offered. First off, it’s free for attractive members to join Seeking and create a profile as well as browse all the sweet members in the area. Ready to mix and mingle and find your ideal relationship? How much access you are allowed depends on what level of membership you have. Basic searches are available to all free accounts. However, you’ll need more than the basic free account in order to connect with other members. Here we take a look at the …

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Online Dating Safety

The Internet can be both a blessing and potential minefield. With the advent of online dating, proximity is no longer a limiting factor, which opens daters up to a world of possible matches, as well as risk. There are two main risks you’ll run into on the Internet: scams and dangerous people. A smaller risk, but certainly a main concern within the online dating community, is Catfishing. Dating sites are often targets for these kinds of activities. Behind the scenes, heavy policing and vetting of profiles takes place to try and weed out potential dangers or abusers. I can’t speak …

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Messaging Etiquette – Do’s and Don’ts

Sure, online dating enables you to interact at the click of a mouse. But that doesn’t necessarily mean dinner and drinks is a sure thing. He or she may like what your profile has to offer, but first impressions only last so long. Make an even bigger impression by following these messaging guidelines… DO be honest and up front about your expectations. DO use proper grammar. Messaging “Woow u r hawt!” is not attractive. Knowing the difference between “your” and “you’re” is. DO write in letter format. It shows effort. DO reply politely, even if you’re not interested. DO introduce …

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