Whether you’ve been Sugaring for years or are just stepping foot into the Sugar World, a first Meet & Greet with any new potential arrangement can be pretty uncertain. Don’t go into it with no expectations — we want you to know exactly what you’re getting at a first date in the Sugar Bowl!
A first M&G calls for the first “get to know me” conversations, and there is nothing worse than not having anything to talk about. Make sure to do your research beforehand on current events or take note of things you’ve already spoken about or that your POT mentioned he enjoys. That way, you’ll be able to help carry the conversation and avoid dead air.
Your POT knows you want to protect yourself, but that doesn’t mean you need to have a wall up from the start. He wants to get to know you just as much as you want to get to know him, so tell him a bit about yourself! A successful arrangement can only happen when there is honesty and trust on both ends, so if you feel comfortable with him, let him get to know you! If you’re concerned about your safety before the date however, don’t forget to check out this LTS blog post on staying safe on your first M&G.
Sorry, Sugars, you can’t expect to get an allowance or a gift on the first date. Though it can happen, it’s not something you’re entitled to. If he does give you a gift or slip you a little extra cash for your time, great! Take it and be grateful, but only if you feel comfortable and are vibing with the POT and want to see him again.
Your date will definitely be looking to see if you’re the real-deal Sugar Daddy of her dreams. You both should know a little bit about each other by the first M&G so as long as you both have been honest, just be yourself and you’ll truly see if she’s the one you’ve been looking to have an arrangement with.
If you have a good feeling about your potential new Sugar Baby and you both are really hitting it off, there might be a monetary discussion surrounding your arrangement. Now, if she wants to talk money right away, you may have found yourself a rinser. While you should have in mind how much you’d be willing to spend on the relationship, there’s no pressure to bring it up on the first M&G. Just know it’s a potential topic of conversation if you both find it to be a good fit.
If you and your date are really hitting it off from the start, that’s great! However, you can’t expect to have sex. A first M&G is how you can figure out if this is the perfect arrangement for both of you. Focus on getting to know each other and seeing if this will work for the both of you.
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