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Safety Information: Beware of Internet Scammers
  • Posted Sep 7, 2016


Everyone who uses the internet is potentially susceptible to online scams. If you think you’re too smart to fall for an internet scheme, you’re probably wrong. Scam artists work diligently to create ever-changing and increasingly sophisticated scams to trick even the most aware prey.  Being aware of the digital dangers that are out there is the only way to keep yourself and your assets protected.

If it sounds too good to be true, it is

If a Sugar Daddy is offering you a large sum of money prior to meeting, your gut instinct should be that something isn’t quite right. If he then asks you to accept a check or direct deposit while you keep a portion of the money and send the rest to him, it’s time to end the conversation. Many internet scammers will ask a victim to cash a large check for them and in return offer a small percentage of the money. What the victims don’t realize is that the check will not clear and they will then be liable for the full amount of the check.

Never send money to strangers

If a Sugar Baby is asking you for allowance before the first date, chances are that date will never happen. We have had several reports of SeekingArrangement being misused in this way. A Sugar Baby will tell a POT that she needs her allowance upfront in order to prove that he is not a Salt Daddy. Often times if the POT obliges the Sugar Baby will take the money and run. Don’t be that guy.

Keep your personal information private

These days there is absolutely no reason for personal information to be exchanged when sending money to someone. With apps like Venmo and Paypal you only need to share your email address or name. You can even send money to a person’s bank account using email or their cell phone number, so again there is never a reason to share your bank account number, your routing number or your social security number with anyone that you don’t know and trust.


The only way for us to get rid of the scammers on SeekingArrangement is with your help. If you have been victimized by a scammer, please immediately block and report this user. We take your reports very seriously. Your safety is our number one priority.

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88 Responses to “Safety Information: Beware of Internet Scammers”

  1. This SD areanged to pay me 500 a week till he would be in state to see me but asked ne for all my bank information and security questions
    And said he had to set it up with his account officer and he says his name is Edward Cooper but hes really insistent about knowing my bank information? What do I do?

  2. Dovetail921 says:

    I just tried to post to this page about my last SD experience but it wouldn’t let me. Why is the log in button broke

  3. noone says:

    Bicoastal Joe aka Jeff Wadlow in Los Angeles is a fraud too!!! He wants to gain physical favors but gives zero money, says he is not into pros but yet he wants sex with NSA but doesn’t want to give arrangement and he wont tell you until its too late.

    • Anonymous says:

      Omg I had same experience in NY with him! He’s still married and yet wants sex but then offers nothing in return, he’s a cheap a** loser trying to get laid for free but also give no emotional availability either, he’s a preditor praying on beautiful women who fall for his charm, he really should not be on this site.

    • Babe says:

      That’s called rape. A lot of predators go to this site to lure women with hopes of money but then don’t actually come through. Hope his wife catches him haha’

  4. anon67 says:

    Recently a SD asked to have my bank account information. He brought up allowances and decided on the amount which I was completely fine with. But when I asked if he could send to it to my paypal or my email so that my bank could get it, he told me that his account officer needed the information for proper records because all transactions will be audited at the end of the month. I’m very cautious about this and have not given him the information. Should I block him asap?

  5. fairly new to the sugar industry and so far have met tons of scammers! beware scam sugar daddies ask for your bank account information and even your username and password for online banking, thankfully despite my gullibility, i did not give the latter 😭 they are really sweet talkers!
    and i’ve also met placebos who pretend to be sugar daddies yet refuse to give any sugar, they only want free sex 😡
    i met a sugar daddy who was real thankfully but he left me after we met about 4x – – they say sugar babies are flaky, but it seems like the sugar daddies even more so, maybe they wanna get with all the sugar babies so kinda like flavor of the month thing?
    some potential sugar daddies who i don’t know if they’re scammers (wants to steal from sugar babies i mean come on, we sign up cuz we need it) or just really fakes, they talk endlessly and never meet you until you just stop talking.
    i guess the moral lesson for sugar babies is … 1.) premium accounts esp with photos are the legit daddies, scammers and fakers usually don’t have photos and/ or are not premium members;
    2.) don’t make my mistake if they ask for your account number, routing number, especially your username for online account etc, report that profile immediately!!!
    3.) never have sex with a pretend sugar daddy who is not even willing to talk sugar with you, he is just another of those evil men ripping sugar babies off for free sex, i sincerely hope they get severely punished.

    • Anonymous says:

      Good advice this is helpful to know the lay of the land. I assumed all the guys on here knew why women were here, we need help financially or we wouldn’t be here. The guys just looking to get laid for free are violating women in need who think they will help her but have no intentions. I naively had this happen with Jeff Wadlow his user name is “Bicoastal Joe” hope other women google him before going on date. He’s definetly in your number 4 category.

  6. AnonSB says:

    Sorry not sorry, but When SD’s going to actually realize it is ONLY about the money. That’s why we’re here. We want your money, not a relationship with you because your marriage failed. It’s NOT scamming, I get $4,000-$10,000 per month for just going out to bars or clubs with men and having a good time and NOT having sex or a relationship. I get my rent and bills paid and designer clothes and bags. That’s why I am here. Honestly, only about 5%-10% of women are actually looking for love or a relationship. If you’re looking for that, you’re on the WRONG site…

    • JFC says:

      Yup, I just ran into a similar one myself. He wants a SB to WANT to do it with him, and not just for the $. He says he can find a decent escort for $300, and wants to pay SB less.

      I am not that good an actress. I told him to check out AFF. I’m also not the Oprah Winfrey of free rides. He doesn’t get a free ride, and neither do You, You, or You.

    • Anonymous says:

      I’m afraid I’m going to have to call you out as a liar. You claim to be making $4k to $10k a month just by going out, and not even having sex. While it’s possible to find SDs who are all of: extremely wealthy, willing to part with lots of money, and not wanting anything in return; they are as rare as unicorns. And yet, you expect everyone to believe that for going out a few times a month, you earn more than the average salary.

  7. Bi Male Alert says:

    In other safety issues:

    MITroy wants other young men involved in our dates, next. I resent it when SDs do not identify on their profiles that they are bisexual. I never would have met him for lunch had I known. What a waste of time.

  8. Anonymous says:

    Twice in the last month, a man On the SA site has tried to get my banking info. I am not dumb enough to give that. If a man wants to deposit money in your acct., has not met you yet and doesn’t live near you, he is trying to Rip You Off. Unfortunately in the 1 1/2 yrs., I have been on this site, every man I have met wants to “Hook-Up” for Free sex. I have not met even 1 who wants to be a Sugar Daddy. To those of you like this, please don’t contact me. I am not on this site to find casual sex, that is what a bar is for.

  9. Anonymous says:

    Twice in the last month, a man on the SA site has tried to get my banking information. I am not dumb enough to give that. If a man says he wants to deposit money in your acct, doesn’t live near you and has not met you, he is looking to Rip You Off. Unfortunately every man I have met on this site wants to Hook-Up for Free sex but NONE have wanted to be a Sugar Daddy. Please, if this is what you want, Don’t bother to contact me.

  10. blueeyesniceguy says:

    After ten years as a sugardaddy with two very successful long term arrangements under my belt, my standard response to women who want the financial part of the arrangement to start immediately but want to keep it platonic until they feel “comfortable” is simple….your benefits start when mine do. Until then, I’m more than happy to buy you dinners, engage in conversation and let us get to know each other. It’s the flip side of guys asking for a “test drive”. How about we’re intimate and when I feel “comfortable” I’ll start your allowance? Yeah, uh…no!

    • Anonymous says:

      That’s reasonable, but what if the guy doesn’t end up paying after getting his benefits? How do u know a guy is serious before giving him what he wants?

  11. Anonymous says:

    Anyone get message from Derek004 from Colorado City, TX…his phone number has 865 area code which is located in TN. ???

    This guy messages me then says his name is Lucas then when I ask him more questions his profile is deleted or he blocked me. I cannot believe how many scammers have messaged me the past few months being on here and it wasn’t ever like this before. Luckily none of them have asked me for my routing number and I’m not an idiot to give that away anyway. This site is becoming a waste of time with this bullshit.

  12. Gerald99 says:

    I was scammed recently by a MissP30 real name Priscilla A Kent of Truro Cornwall, she promised to meet me in London but asked for £800 up front which like a mug I paid. Date was a no show. A few days later she contacted me and said her father had died, but would meet me on a second date, this was set up and again she asked for money, I told her I would pay on her arrival which was accepted, she pretended to be in London for the meet, but never left for it. It is irritating when this happens, but it does.

  13. Guest says:

    Are there guys on this site that are really this stupid?

    I respond to a profile. We exchange a few messages. I send her what I would propose as an allowance set up if we meet and are comfortable to move forward. She says she wants to meet.
    I then get a SOB story about a previous SD that did not go well.
    She wants me to send $1,000 in advance of meeting. YES $1,000.
    I laughed and say best of luck.
    She then sends me a photo shop of this blog about internet warnings and it is changed to say that any real POT SD will always send at least $1,000 in advance of meeting to show they are serious. Goes on to say that any POT SD that would not send $1,000 in advance of meeting is not real and should be reported.

    Are there really men THIS STUPID and gullible?????

    • Anon says:

      The crazy part, there are numerous ppl that have sent her the $$. It has worked for her at least once.
      I don’t expect anything the first time I meet someone. Unless the offer to cover my sitter. It is a meet and greet, see if there is chemistry. If not rinse and repeat.

  14. YeahRight says:

    Anyone ever heard of VIP TOKEN. I was asked to purchase one by an SB for security purposes before meeting

  15. sofitopy says:

    i see tons of wanna be daddies that wants free test drive or 250 euro fuck, there must be something wrong with the economy

    • Anonymous says:

      Yeah so many out there like this!!!! Bicoastal Joe in LA and Worldclassguy in LA both are these guys! They wanna test drive for free but don’t wanna provide any allowance.

  16. joe says:

    Geez if not scammers their game players. Seeking should do a better job in screening SB then let anyone create a profile. If it was a free site then I can see it, but our memberships are expensive and to find so many scammers does not sit well with members.

  17. rurally rinsed says:

    Beware the online-only/platonic SBs. They’ll say they just say that as a “bozo filter” then delete their profile because they “just want to meet you” which seems to be an M.O. (hint — not their only profile eh) The first time? Shame on her. The second time? Shame on me. The third time? Maybe she’s my true SB, maybe she really is in the hospital due to surgery today… in which case is asking what hospital and room # so I can send her flowers somehow creepy? Or am I the biggest moron SD on SA?

    • rurally rinsed says:

      Now up past my bedtime, researching whether a particular surgical procedure could possibly be in-patient.

      Because Unicorn (for oh-so-unexpected reasons if those pics are really hers, worth the initial online-only $50 even in a world of unlimited free porn). Sigh. :(

    • Gerald99 says:

      Give the name, and save the next guy

  18. lookin4sweetgirl says:

    I’ve been on this site for two years now, and in that time I’ve probably met over 100 girls in person, yeah, I have a lot of free time.. lol.. and I’ve seen a spectrum in terms of personalities, ambitions, agendas, and character.

    I have met sweet girls that genuinely had no clue what they were getting themselves into, to professional hookers that were masquerading as sugarbabies. I’ve had fairly good success at meeting and connecting with women, I treat them with respect, I am upfront about what I bring to the table, and I make them laugh… but I also run the other way if they show the red flags…

    1. if they ask for money upfront.. run. Any woman that can’t give you 10 minute over a cup of coffee has no flexibility and even if she’s real, everything is about dollars and cents.. unless she’s super hot.. i’d say skip it.
    2. if they bring their drama before ever sleeping with you, run.
    3. any girl that won’t text you or call you, run.
    4. if they talk about expectations and being accomodated, run.

    I’d say that out of 10 women on this site, 2 or 3 are genuine and real.. the problem is, to be fair, that some guys are douchebags and ruin it for the rest of us, the whole.. I need to test drive crap is pretty lame, or let’s go out on a few dates and see if there’s “magic”.. that’s also lame.. let’s be honest, there are some guys out here that are trying to get sex for free.. so that’s why some girls are jaded.. having said that, if you’re a real guy that’s really looking for a mutual connection, just keep fishing and watch out for the red flags.. the good thing for us, is that there is way more of them than there are of us.. especially here in LA… the quality here is unreal.

    • D_Anon says:

      Yeah, the LA scene is off the hook. Here in Chicago I’d say 1, _maybe_ 2 in 10 are genuine. I’ve had roughly the same experiences as lookin4 overall tho. Fortunately the few great connections I’ve made have offset the many time wasters.

    • immortal walker says:

      I have found the “goldilocks” zone for me. It seems to work. Through reading on this blog. I found what amount is adequate for my area in North West Coast, and since many SBs dislike the per meeting allowance. I decided to risk it a bit and divide the monthly allowance in two week periods. I have given the allowance for the first two weeks, and tell them we are on a trial period of one month to see if how much compatible we are in the different aspects of the relationship, and before I give anything, I am very clear that I will dine and wine them, but sex is expected (discussed in the second date), and only then, on the next date, proceed with the allowance part. It worked very well in the first arrangement I had, and it is working in this new one I am giving a try. I am actively trying to look for red flags, and a genuine mutual connection, it is hard.

  19. Anonymous says:

    So often I see mentions of bank accounts, sending money before meeting, and I find it confusing. I’ve never had to deal with scams, just because I have very simple rules.

    – Arrange a first meeting in person, with no obligations from either side. Just to get a feel of the chemistry.
    – Allowances, once agreed on, paid in cash.

    I’ve never had a problem doing it like this. Why do it any other way?

    • sd with open eyes says:

      One would want to do it the other way if you were a sugar daddy who was trying to defraud money out of naive sugar babies.

  20. D_Anon says:

    Thank you for posting this article. Based on some of the blog posts I’ve been reading this was long overdue.

  21. Guest says:

    Is it me or is this to shady? ( Some type of Scam?)
    I am exchanging inboxes with a female profile,.
    We have 8 messages exchanged and she wants to meet.
    I ask if we can communicate off the site by either text or email.
    She says NO.
    I ask if we can talk on the phone before meeting.
    She says NO.
    Her profile has NO face pictures. Only clothed body shots that all look professional. (That look copied from a fashion website) . No natural type shots. Her Face is blocked out or cut off in all shots. The body size does NOT MATCH in all the pictures on her profile.

    I ask if the pictures on her profile were of her and she got offended that I would ask such a question.
    She said she did not believe that a women on this site would not use their own pictures.(SERIOUSLY???)
    She wants me to drive to her to meet.
    I said her lack of comfort to communicate off this website (to verify its really a women) and the lack of seeing a face picture was coming across as shady and I did not feel comfortable to drive 60 miles to meet.

    She blasts me as being a time waster and not real.
    Am I the only one seeing loads of RED flags here or am I looking to hard for red flags???

    • sd with open eyes says:

      Skip this one. Obviously a fake, and probably has bad intentions for you.

    • R R says:

      Here’s a tip for sussing whether the pix are real: TinEye. It’s a site that searches the web for images, much like Google does for words. It is NOT infallible but I have used it to weed out dozens of profiles w/ pix from places like Ukrainian mail order bride sites, Russian escort blogs, porn sites and fashion blogs. Google has a foto search function, too. I’m kinda surprised that SA doesn’t use these tools or, if they do, that so many still slip through.

    • Anonymous says:

      I agree that must be a fake run!!!!

  22. Anonymous says:

    I’ve come across two scammers on here in the same week. I can’t remember their profiles but I’m very sure they blocked me while we were talking. One calls himself Henry or Ramsey. He told me he’s from Norway but lives in New York with his daughter. Right now he’s in Brazil doing construction work. He surprisingly told me that he’ll give $350/weekly.He told me all of that after I asked why did he become a SD. So no,I didn’t ask for money at all. In fact,I never bring up my allowance until a SD mentions it first. Money is important to me because I am a college student. But treating someone with respect and as a human is far more important.So anyways,Mr Henry Patrick asks me for my bank information. He wants full access to it so he can transfer money into my account. He must’ve thought I was naive and stupid. I encountered scammers before on instagram. They all sell the same pitch. I told him I’m not giving him my bank information. You don’t need any of that to send me money. So I sent him my cashme information so he could send me money if he wanted to. And it would deposit into my account instantly unlike paypal.He says he’s been scammed before using third party apps (ironically). So I told him about paypal but he insists he have my bank info. I called him out on his shit and he told me that I should just trust him….I blocked him on my texting app. The other man call himself Frank Van Dyke from SA.You tell him no and it means yes to him. He wanted the same thing as the first guy. When I told him no he got mad at me for not trusting him. Funny thing is,he told me to give him my paypal information so he could send me money. Then he told me to open up a bank account with capitalone then give him full access. I knew instantly just to let him go. We live in the same city and not once did he arrange a meeting.I don’t get it with the “SD’s” on here. It’s either two categories of SD on SA. The scammers and the ones that wants to just fuck. I’m tired of both. Backpage is the place to go for that mess. Idiots,stds,and cheap hookers is what you’ll find on there. If that’s what some of you want then be real about it.I think my profile is too real for some of these men…oh well. I’ll stick with my one SD that actually cares and mentors me. Be safe out there.

  23. FedUpAnon says:

    Wanted:a Sugar Daddy that transfers money into my account for nothing in return other than a selfie with a smile on my face.

    • N. O. Nemuss says:

      If you use the dog filter, that’ll totally be worth it.

    • Anonymous says:

      From Disney to SA…delusion goes on.

    • Anonymous says:

      SB in another country, immediately wants to go to email and more of her pictures, plus the most detailed kind message. Then a few days later they have a major problem, which only I can help with. Send money, complete project, come to USA and meet me …happily ever after.PT Barnum was right.

    • ZZZ says:

      Girl, you’re giving that man too much. You need to send him a selfie without a smile until he ups your allowance.

  24. R R says:

    AW2TW. Watch out for this scam: the SB claims to have been scammed by a previous “SD,” costing her hundreds or thousands. She then asks for help recovering from the scam.

  25. Anonymous says:

    How dare you call a “curvy” woman obese?

  26. ;) says:

    A lot of SDs on here said they don’t like Paypal, I do not see why they don’t? They don’t have to take out cash, have to meet you in person that day, or have to provide personal information.

    • Maj. Gains says:

      1) PayPal requires a linked bank account and verified personal details, 2) PayPal exposes your name/email to the recipient when sending $, 3) it keeps great online records so you can simplify your bookkeeping and remember to deduct at tax time 🙄

      • ;) says:

        People have paid me through PayPal and did not require a linked bank account

      • Maj. Gains says:

        Without linked bank account, PayPal flags as increased risk and imposes transaction limits based on usage and country; around $1K – $4K total, which could make for a fun weekend or four, or I suppose more if opt for the economy model

    • Anonymous says:

      It’s an urban legend among SBs that PayPal does not reveal payor’s information.

      • R R says:

        What does THAT mean? Does PayPal reveal personal info other than email address to payees? Unless you’re Hillary Clinton, it’s easy to open an email account, which can be used for PayPal transactions only.

      • Maj. Gains says:

        PayPal terms of service require your real name or real business name, plus your SSN/EIN or verified card/bank account in order to lift risk limits on the account. The name you give PayPal is given to the recipient of your payment. D’oh!

    • Maj. Gains says:

      Without linked bank account, PayPal flags as increased risk and imposes transaction limits based on usage and country; around $1K – $4K total, which could make for a fun weekend or four, or I suppose more if opt for the economy model

  27. ZZZ says:

    I don’t always claim to be down-to-earth.
    But when I do, I prefer to be obese, in debt, and think I’m better than you.

  28. TwistedWords says:

    Anytime a POT hints at desperation, I run. Desperation makes someone unpredictable and willing to do things they wouldn’t normally do (and, I’m not talking about joining a site like SA).

  29. SD Vet says:

    Here in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area, SA is mostly filled with scam artists. Only maybe 10% of profiles are legit these days.

    I was in a good arrangement once that ended amicably. I have come back here a couple of times every few months or so to try to find someone again and am convinced that something changed in the past year with the quality of SB’s.

    Seeing the same women online every day for a year or more is the first clue. They will message the newbie and play one of two games: the “cash gift at first meeting” nonsense; or the “some major emergency just happened two days after our first meet and I really need cash now!!” game.

    Luckily, I was wise enough not to fall for these games, but only after I was stupid enough to fall get swindled by a woman who said she was single, only to have her boyfriend “accidentally” find out by seeing our texts and threaten to out me.

    SA really needs to do something about this.

  30. Lainey says:

    Yea some girls are shitty but not everyone is there are some men and women on this site that are looking for something more. Some girls want a relationship with someone financially stable and guys want a relationship with someone nurturing and appreciative. VIOLA you get the perfect sugar RELATIONSHIP not SITUATIONSHIP which seems to be the problem here. Everyone is out to see who can play whom first!

    • ZZZ says:

      Your post made perfect sense.
      But you’re wrong. It’s Aliens.

    • Anonymous says:

      I believe you are correct. Many say this is not match.com, but it can be, why not? The site is about connecting people initially looking for an arrangement, I do not see why a LTR cannot grow into something more. Not all SD are just looking for NSA. The problem I see with match.com, Tinder and the like is that many women blatantly dislike an age gap of 20+ years with a man. So this site allows that gap to be bridged IMO and see beyond just the years (do not judge a book by its cover).

  31. sd with open eyes says:

    Something is odd with the search feature. Some of the profiles that I have seen before start coming back as unviewed. Would this be because they updated their profiles?

  32. Anonymous says:

    The site lends itself to scammers by offering choices of expectation amounts from outer space that won’t happen.(10k and up). Actually 5k won’t happen for 99%.
    Disingenuous things like that attract the wrong people, give the good POT SB’s unrealistic expectations ending in disappointment rather than something that could be good for them. The only site I know of where a 2k a month offer is dream crushing as opposed to exciting.

  33. Guest says:

    Is the site going to delete profiles from women who insist on sending money before meeting?

  34. sunshineD says:

    Could anybody explain me what BACKGROUND VARIFIED really means? Does it mean that ‘s the real person described in profile?

    • A Long Hot Summer says:

      It means precious little.

      As a SD, I did this a few years ago. Now long story short I have experience in background checking (CRB/DBS in UK) to highest levels due to my job.

      You can’t properly check someone’s background beyond spent offences simply by an online form.

      I did this from a UK position, I got the confirmation back within a day. I queried this, and IIRC was told it was a U.S. database. So largely pointless.

      Even if UK, this kind of check offers very little at all. SA should be clear what it means.

      Btw I did try to log-in to post this comment – won’t let me.

    • yougottabekiddingme says:

      It means they haven’t been caught yet…

    • Anonymous says:

      It means another revenue stream for SA.

  35. sd with open eyes says:

    I am convinced that many of the profiles are AI program driven. I had one SB from across the country give me access to her pictures. I thanked her but told her that I was only looking for a sb local to my area. Then then tries to start a conversation as if nothing happened. I wonder if three hours later I will get another response, this time “responding” to a nonexistent reply message?

  36. FisherMan says:

    I think in the past few months my “block” list is longer than I had it in the past few years…

  37. Anonymous says:

    Be careful out there as a SD too; as there are women SBs who will play you (meaning they will break your heart if you become too blind to see what is really going on) if they are giving the chance. Money seems to be the only motive for some SB, and they will lie to your face in order to get what they want. I just had that happened to me. My SB lied to me, and I refused to see the red flags, got my heart broken in the process when she left for the ex-boyfriend with whom she said did not had any more contact.

    • Anonymous says:

      You’re right, you have to keep in mind that it’s all about money no matter how sweet or caring they act. Some are so good at this that I have to keep reminding myself of this fact.

      • Fisherman says:

        It is (almost always) about money. But not always and sometimes only almost.
        Keep fishing. Learn to throw away the ones that are almost always. Keep those who are only almost and not always.

        Your friendly Fisherman

    • TwistedWords says:

      This isn’t Match.com

      • Anonymous says:

        Perhaps it is not, but there is a market for everyone here, including those seeking more than just a typical business-like arrangement.

    • via says:

      next have contract drawn, i am a sb that dont want no attachments emotionally so i make sure there is a legal contract between us and so far i’ve not had a bad experience yet

  38. Seriously says:

    Whatever it takes to get a little some some

  39. FisherMan says:


  40. Anon says:

    First one bitchezz (part 2)