Meeting up for the first time can be nerve-racking or completely awkward, but it doesn’t have to be. From taking the time to find a solid prospect, to preparing conversation topics ahead of time, here are some tips for first dates.
THE ASK
If you’re unsure of what to do for your date, ask what she would prefer. Some people prefer drinks or coffee since it’s less commitment, but others like dinner or lunch so they have ample time to feel you out. Suggest something that will make her comfortable, and offer to pay for her cab or train ride to sweeten the deal.
BEFORE
Try to talk to her on the phone or over video chat before the date. There are some things that don’t come across in text messages and emails, so it’s in your best interest to get to know her on a few levels before proceeding.
Once you do set up a date, take the time to properly groom yourself if need be. You need to feel you look your best in order to project an air of success. She’ll be more interested if you’re confident, and you’ll be more confident when you look your best.
Coming up with conversation points beforehand can be a great way to avoid lulls in dialogue. If she’s shy, think of questions to ask to get her to open up. Remember a news story or anecdote to share with her to see if you have similar humor or interests.
DURING
Go into every date assuming that things will work out between the two of you. That way you’ll be positive and able to have a great time either way. Mind your manners, but don’t hesitate to be playfully argumentative with her.
If you are into her, a great way to gauge her interest is to suggest a second date while still on the first one. You’ll know whether she’s keen on you too based on if she reciprocates.
AFTER
When a date goes well, it’s customary to text that night or the next day and let her know how you feel. Even if you can’t meet again immediately, you should open up a line of communication.
