We all know why you’re here. At some point you probably want to have sex with a hot girl who you might never have met otherwise. I get it. But there is a certain amount of tact that goes along with exactly when to bring up intimacy.
Understandably, you’re on the site because you don’t want the strings and restrictions that come with traditional relationships. Most women on SA are busy starting their own lives, so that mentality is fine. However, that does not excuse you from assuming women will respond favorably to sexual advances before you’ve met.
Similarly to how you want to get to know her before you start spoiling, she wants to learn about you, hopefully that you’re a good man, before deciding if she’ll sleep with you. It’s bad form to ask in messages if she will have sex with you, and even more degrading (and not to mention illegal) to offer her a set amount for sex.
It is okay to ask if she’s comfortable being intimate at some point. Some Sugar Babies are not interested in sex, though they do have other value to add to someone’s life. I know it’s a revolutionary idea: to think that women have something to offer other than their bodies. Believe it, friend. Women on SA, just like everywhere else, want you to prove your worth before getting in her pants.
Each arrangement is different. Some people will hit it off right away and want to rip each other’s clothes off. For most, it should come a bit later when you’re both sure it’s the right move. Blatantly begging for sex has a similar effect as a desperate Sugar Baby begging for money; it’s not good form and will not lead to a lasting arrangement.
Sex should be an aspiration, not an expectation. The relationship should feel real and not forced, and intimacy should evolve naturally.
One more thing: do not use offensive and overtly sexual references when communicating with Sugar Babies. They are no more responsive to that behavior than any other woman. That means keeping the dick pics to yourself, gentlemen.
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