Why fling with a ring? Is there even a real answer? Some argue it’s just biology, that “men will be men,” or that monogamy isn’t natural. For women, they must be unhappy. Maybe it’s as simple as they want to feel the excitement of being intimate with someone else for the first time again. The list goes on. Here are some more common reasons to why men and women decide to fling with a ring.
To Avoid Confrontation
Affairs can grow out of couples not wanting to face confrontation and differences within their marriage. After too long, avoidance can cause distance. Distance can then lead to loneliness, pushing a spouse to seek out closeness elsewhere. It becomes a domino effect. A person might not have a personality prone to cheating, but something about their environment coupled with their vulnerability puts them at risk for infidelity.
It’s no secret that men have more testosterone running through their bodies, which contributes to the stronger desire to have sex. Thus, they are often the more likely gender to cheat. Intimacy is a large part of any successful relationship and when a spouse doesn’t feel as if their needs are being met, they may stray. In other cases, factors like alcohol, and tempting surroundings lower will power. Infidelity in these such situations, may not be intentional and can sometimes lead to regret, or on the contrary, what began with just sex may lead to longer term affairs.
Sometimes in a marriage men and women want out but do not want to carry the burden of ending the relationship, so they cheat in an attempt to be found out–in hopes the non-straying partner will be the one to end it. These are common with those who have more time invested in their marriage, where kids may be involved. Perhaps the spark has fizzled past the point of repair, or a spouse is bored. Researchers find that couples experiencing severe dissatisfaction, unfulfilling sex, and high conflict more often are at higher risk for cheating. With the cost of divorce on the rise, plus the stress of dividing assets, and splitting up the family dynamic, it is sometimes easier to simply stay married and engage in side activity. Time is a funny thing. It’s what we need to heal, but can be what holds us back from starting over.
Have you cheated on your spouse? What was your reasoning behind it?
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