Slowly but surely, society is coming to the realization that monogamy isn’t the norm for everyone. We’re all about helping you manage your relationships, even if that means more than one. It’s not cheating if you’re honest, right?
The stereotype of men who date multiple women is that they’re players, or womanizers. While that does describe some men, it isn’t always true. A man can date multiple women and still treat them as a gentleman should, all without letting the intake effect the quality of his dating game. Here are some tips for managing multiple Sugar Babies.
From the very beginning, she needs to know you are not going to be in a monogamous relationship. Provided you are safe and honest, this should not be a problem for most Sugar Babies. Especially when you have several women you’re talking to, setting boundaries for how much time you can spend with her and when is appropriate to make contact are essential.
Your first instinct when playing the field might be to lie, telling each girl she’s the only one for you. Dating multiple women doesn’t make you a douche, but lying to them absolutely does. Many Sugar Babies also want to date around, and hearing that you want the same can be a relief. Keeping the lines of communication open, and letting her know exactly what the relationship is and isn’t will save you from drama down the road.
Creating a functional open relationship means having uncomfortable conversations. Even if you are clear in the beginning that you aren’t exclusive, friendly reminders help avoid heartbreak and drama developing down the road. She could assume that you will change your mind eventually. Maybe that is the case, but if it’s not, you need to be clear and unashamed of your decisions to see other people.
Having an open communication policy is always good, but making contact everyday can get confusing in a relationship that is not exclusive. Let her wonder where you are and what you’re doing, and don’t text or call everyday. If you don’t have time to talk everyday, make this clear from the start and hope she understands. If you do talk everyday, it’s acceptable provided she knows that will not make the relationship exclusive.
Why do you want to date multiple women? Because you want to explore the bevy of potential partners? Or because you love the attention? Decide for yourself why you are doing this so you can clearly articulate it to her. That way, when she asks the tough questions like “Why am I not enough?” you can have the clear conscience to say something noble and comforting. May I suggest: “You are important to me, and I would like to keep spending time with you. The fact that I want to also see other people has no implications on my feelings for you.”
You can be dating as many women as you want, and as long as you treat them well you won’t hear a single complaint. Having options doesn’t entitle you to be a jerk because you know you have a dozen replacements. Give her attention and favorable treatment at all times, that way she’ll like you too much to call things off, even if she wants exclusivity.
Keep things open and be sure to lay the foundation for an honest relationship from the start. After all, you want her to hate the game, not the player.
How do you manage multiple Sugar Babies?
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