As you might know by now, securing a Sugar Daddy is no simple matter, it takes time and effort, sometimes more so than finding a traditional partner. One of the most common qualms of Sugar Babies is the correct way to reach out and start a conversation with a potential Sugar Daddy.
First off, there are some things that are red flags and major turn offs for Sugar Daddies. Here is what not to do:
Don’t act entitled.
Sugar Babies come to the site with dollar signs in their eyes, and most think if they should state their desires for shopping sprees and $3,000 allowances in the first message. Ask, believe, receive, right? Wrong. The point of the site is to find someone you can build a relationship with who can also help you financially. Sugar Daddies want to help, but they only want to help Sugar Babies they like and respect. A woman who demands things before meeting someone is on the path to unsuccessful arrangements and wasted time.
Don’t skip over his profile.
The most important thing you can do is to actually read his profile and make sure he’s someone you’d really be interested in, and ensure that you somewhat fit the description of what he’s looking for too. People like what they like, and don’t be off-put if that isn’t you. There are a ton of treasures in his profile (if he took the time to write one) that can help you start with the perfect opener.
There are a few subtle tips and tricks you should use when you’re sending the first message. Ideally you want to catch his attention without seeming desperate.
Ask a question.
The key to getting him interested is to get him talking about himself. Everyone is an expert on themselves, so you can surely ask him something about his style or career that will quickly get the ball rolling.
Try starting off with a compliment like, “Wow I love that pink shirt in your default, it takes a real man to pull off salmon!” If he’s doing an activity like golfing, do a little research on courses near you and ask if he’s tried one out. There are plenty of little secrets hidden in his profile that show you cared enough to actually read his and say something that’s actually meaningful.
Take a break.
Whether you’re texting, messaging on the site, or talking on the phone, you always want to leave the conversation on a high note, and keep him wanting more. If you two just connected, chances are you aren’t going to go out that night. When you feel a lull in the conversation, let him know you have to go and that you’ll talk to him tomorrow, then maybe throw him a cute picture so he has something to think about until you do. This is key for maintaining interest. You aren’t just sitting around waiting for responses on SA, so act like you have an important life to attend to.
Make a suggestion.
Another thing you can try is to encourage a date idea. If he has a picture at a nice restaurant, ask if he’s tried the food at a certain bistro and then playfully suggest, “You should take me there sometime.” Giving him a subtle command is a great in-person trick too. You give him a chance easily ask you out, and if he doesn’t feel the same way you’ll know instantly.
No matter what, make sure to keep the conversation fun and light hearted. Flirting should make him want to get to know you more, and get him excited about the prospect of a date with you. In the first exchanges, remember you don’t want to bring up an allowance. If you two end up vibing, and going on a date, that’s when you can discuss an allowance.
Know what you want.
The site is meant to help you reach your dreams! If all you want is designer clothes, you’re doing it wrong. When he asks the initial “What are you looking for?” don’t start out by demanding funds. Just say you want to be spoiled, and if you end up hitting it off you’ll talk about it then. Never say I don’t know. He wants a girl who knows what she wants, so figure it out! Have a goal in mind, and let him help you achieve it.
With all that being said, you aren’t wasting your time if you don’t get the response you want. Count the experiences that don’t turn into an arrangement as practice… and we all know eventually practice leads to perfection.
What’s your go to conversation starter?
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