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More Sugar to Love “Plus Size” Baby Guide

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The Sugar Bowl is known for its variety of beautiful Sugar Babies, it’s no secret that Sugar comes in all shapes, colors, and sizes.

Everyone has a type, and there is someone who will want you exactly for who you are. It’ s important not to let rejection discourage you from showcasing your true self.

The SeekingArrangement blog has been buzzing with questions and concerns from the plus size Sugar Baby community. With the hot topic on the rise, our team has created a guide that will help those Sugar Babies who have a little more to love. Check it out!

Confidence is Key!

Confidence is the key to success in any dating scenario and there is no exception in the Sugar world. Keep in mind that Sugar doesn’t come in one type. A size zero is not the epitome of the perfect woman, so please don’t put too much emphasis on your weight.

Showing you are comfortable with your body will go a long way, especially if your confidence is bright enough for others to see. Don’t be afraid to exhibit self love on your SA profile.

Potential Sugar Daddies can gauge your confidence… or lack thereof by the content in your profile. What does your bio say about you? Do your profile pictures exude confidence? Your profile is a man’s key to getting to know you before meeting. Be sure to speak highly of yourself and post your best photos. Just don’t get too carried away. You definitely don’t want to come off stuck up, or self absorbed. Remember Sugar is sweet, not rotten. Unless you’re spoiled rotten of course.

Avoid comparing yourself to the next girl, and learn to accept yourself for who you are.There will always be someone prettier, smarter, and thinner than you. You’ll go insane if you don’t show yourself the love you deserve.

How you wear it!

Sugar Babies love keeping up with the latest trends in fashion. But in order to look your best it’s important to know your body type. Wear clothes that compliment your figure and highlight your best assets. Thick is definitely in, but it depends on how you present it!

Wear your true sizes and avoid clothing that is too tight. Don’t kill yourself trying to fit into those size five skinnies. We all dream of being thin, but let’s be real! If it doesn’t fit, don’t force it. You don’t shop at the Baby Gap for a reason. Trust me, your new potential Sugar Daddy will appreciate it!

Don’t drown yourself in loose clothing to hide your weight. Baggy sweats and oversized shirts are not cute. Confidence plays a big role in your appearance. Make yourself feel beautiful, and let it show through your sense of fashion and style. Always look your best, especially on Sugar dates. A man can smell confidence a mile away!

Honesty is the best policy.

Always be truthful about your appearance. No one wants to be Catfished. Upload photos that depict an honest representation of what you look like. If this means you have to take new pictures, use it as an opportunity for a mini photo shoot. Let your inner selfie queen shine!

Being honest can be especially difficult when it comes to selecting the body type that fits you most on your profile. SeekingArrangement gives five options: Slim, athletic, average, a few extra pounds, and full/overweight. Admitting that you are full or overweight isn’t easy, but you have to be honest to avoid misleading a POT.

If your profile is upfront, you won’t have to worry about catching someone off guard when they meet you in person. This will save you and POTs time because you will attract Sugar Daddies who love your size. Those who aren’t in favor of your body type will simply skip your profile instead of hurting your feelings later.

If you are unsure of where you stand in terms of weight, viewing a weight chart may help give you a better idea of what your body type is like based on your weight and height.

Don’t take it personal.

Lastly, understand that some Sugar Daddies prefer to stick to a specific type. Don’t allow someone’s opinion of you to get you down. As cliché as it may sound, beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. If you don’t fit his preference, you’ll just have to brush it off, and know you are better off with someone who does.

Paint comes in different colors for a reason. You are entitled to have a preference as well. So be as picky as you want to be and don’t settle. The Sugar lifestyle is unlike any other, but relationships are universal… don’t forget it. Always remember your poise, and know there is a perfect Sugar Daddy out there for you. Don’t give up on Sugar!

What are your tips for succeeding as a plus sized Sugar Baby?

1,318 Responses to “More Sugar to Love “Plus Size” Baby Guide”

  1. mmbinfinity says:

    I love it! Plus size Sugar Baby here…… :-)

  2. WineLover45 says:

    Plus Size does NOT mean OVERWEIGHT or FAT. I am Plus Size but my tummy is FLAT. I just have a full chest, nice bum, and curvy thighs.

  3. BethSA says:

    Geesh what happened when I wasn’t looking?? Aren’t you all tired of the back and forth on the same topics? My God!!!
    It’s sad that some of you who perceive to be adults find it hard to act as such.
    Making fun of a certain type of people just because you want to fit in is very much sad and when you’re short of an interllectual come back you hit below the belt. Doesn’t make you look good, makes you look weak with a very shitty personality.
    You guys need to find better shit to talk about other than making fun of an overweight person because today or tomorrow you step out your door, you might just lose an eye, leg, arm or teeth and you’ll be that one arm/one legged skinny bitch with the eye patch and no fucking life.
    Yall are pathetic. Seriously!!
    You first have to love yourself in order to love someone else. Get it together!!

  4. Kitt says:

    “We all dream of being thin”

    Not true.

    That is extremely ignorant and rude for you to say, especially in a post about trying to give plus size women confidence.

  5. CucumberOnLids says:

    Lol Why did two SDs in different areas (same state) contact me but they have hidden pictures where they are having sex with the same woman? lol I almost died. First why would you even post a picture as a married man having sex with someone that isn’t your wife and second how do you know that you’re the only one with that bright idea?

    I’m just like no no. That’s not gaining female interest but just the opposite! Then you and another bright bulb in the bunch ended up getting shots of sex with the same woman? Did I forget to mention that they both slept with her unprotected? Death defying acts for 2015! on the rise! lmao.

    One guy said ” ohh that’s a past girlfriend”. Why would I want to see that? Ohh and did you get permission to post private sex moments for all to see where your face is hidden and hers is on direct line to the camera?

    If they have that little respect for a woman they were in an actual regular relationship with, what am I to expect when it comes to my boundaries?

    Unbelievable!

  6. Kitt says:

    “We all dream of being thin”

    Well first of all if you’re trying to give plus size women confidence DON’T say this! Not all of us “dream of being thing”, completely rude and ignorant to say.

  7. THEATLSD says:

    NEW BLOG WITH A VOTE. GO now

  8. KeKe says:

    I DO NOT LIKE that anyone with DISQUS can see the SA blog topics!! All privacy is SHOT to hell! What the hell is that all about! !

  9. KeKe says:

    I think they should move to a bulletin type of blog in addition to the articles. We do get rather off topic. I want to post a question and get as much advice as possible which I feel is harder to do with this new format.

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      I’m with you KeKe. It is REALLY difficult to follow a conversation or topic with the format now. Leave for a few hours and try to catch up is crazy. You have to scroll thru hours of comments to catch up with everything everyone has said. It’s nuts.

      • KeKe says:

        I hope they change it soon. I like all the newbies around. But I miss the vets!

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        I agree. Sexy, Kenna, even Josh hasn’t been here very much. It’s been lonely and sad here. LOL Even ONSD has been quiet lately.

      • KeKe says:

        I do appreciate that they are paying attention to the blogs so hopefully they come up with something else everyone likes

      • Jaybird923 says:

        You forgot your buddy Hototrot : )

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        Not me Honey. Glad she’s not been around. Wow she has an attitude!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I enjoyed watching you guys go back and forth with her. It was very amusing until she decided to play the race card for no reason. As soon as she did I lost interest

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        She seemed to think she won that “battle” and yet, when I told her I was done with her, I really was and I shut up. On the other hand, she’d say that she was done and gone and yet just keep blabbing. LOL.

      • KeKe says:

        Right. I was like, bitch how many times are you going to say bye! Ugh. Kick rocks!

      • KeKe says:

        Yeah that pissed me off too. For the most part I just ignored her. It’s weird when I realize how tons of people read my posts. It sometimes feel like you’re in a vacuum on here. Lol

      • KeKe says:

        Bwaahaaa. She hates me. Lol

      • Jaybird923 says:

        who didn’t she hate? lol I think she took a shot at everyone who was active on the blog before she finally decided to leave for good

      • KeKe says:

        True. Lol

      • Promise says:

        I still don’t know what I did to her, but I’m done with it.

    • THEATLSD says:

      They are go to new blog. Hit refresh there is a new topic!!

  10. Gentleman soul says:

    That chicken looks good. I wouldn’t leg wrestle that “stripper”

  11. Reb says:

    I wonder if anyone else has experienced this? My current SD and I are not sexually compatible. His member is too BIG. I am talking about girth. It would not git. I think if we actually had intercourse, it would feel like I was giving birth and quite frankly, I am not looking to stretch myself out or be in pain. We get along great personality wise and he is generous, but sexually, we can’t physically work. Even with him knowing that, he still wants to meet. He probably wants to try again in hopes I’ll somehow be looser a couple weeks from now?? Would you bail?

    • Jessa89 says:

      I wouldn’t. Too much penis is way better than not enough. Sounds like a problem a lot of women wouldn’t mind having 😛

      • Lady Sage says:

        I’m more of a middle of the spectrum. Not microscopic, not fetish style big either. Just decently sized and shows a degree of finesse in intimate moments.

      • Reb says:

        He told me he only had relationships off the site with mothers which thinking back now makes perfect sense.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I don’t care if someone is a mother or not. You still have to be properly lubricated the vagina wasn’t designed to be used dry. I can’t imagine that a grown man who isn’t a virgin doesn’t know this. He might be a sadist that just enjoys hurting people

      • Jessa89 says:

        Yeah, that doesn’t mean anything. Being a mother doesn’t mean you have a wrecked vagina.

      • KeKe says:

        Girl my vagina is just fine 2 kids later. My bladder. .. not so much. Lol

      • Jessa89 says:

        Lol!

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        Shoulda had a C-section, mine is STILL just fine… bladder too. LOL

      • KeKe says:

        That’s major abdominal surgery! But yeah. I think about it when I laughed or sneeze too hard. Lol

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I don’t care how many of them come out.. twins triplets whatever but I’m only putting my body through child birth one time. Women really got screwed in this whole biology/evolution thing.

    • Lady Sage says:

      Are you spending enough time on foreplay and arousal? You need to make sure your body is ready. Some women create less moisture than others, have you tried lube? Your vagina is resilient if prepared. Give it time, if he is patient and you two enjoy each other do other things. If he is just like a Viking with a battering ram then let it go. If after time the issue persists do what you think is best.

      • Reb says:

        He doesn’t DO foreplay! Lol. No oral from me.. no oral from him. He didn’t touch my vagina at all other than trying to poke me with his huge dong.

      • Promise says:

        Well no wonder.

      • Lady Sage says:

        Then this is a matter far more problematic than a large penis. A dry vagina can leads to micro tears, discomfort and infection. Plus it is not fair to you. No amount of friendship or generosity is worth sexual misery honey. Talk to him. Are you orally inclined, suggest fun oral positions. If he is unwilling to warm you up I would advise moving on.

      • Promise says:

        Heck I’m a virgin and I know this.

      • Lady Sage says:

        Are you promise? Is it terrible that I am a woman and find this terribly enticing 😉

      • Promise says:

        Yes I am. You wouldn’t be the first. :)

      • KeKe says:

        NEXT!

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        KeKe, I’m with you on that one. Very NEXT.

    • Gentleman soul says:

      How do you know it won’t fit if you haven’t tried it yet ? Just make sure you are adequately lubricated and ready for entry and give it a go . Hopefully he will be slow and gentle until you see how things will feel . Good luck !

    • Promise says:

      I heard the anus scretches more. Maybe try that?

      • Gentleman soul says:

        Ouch ! Think about how big a babies head is (10 cm) and it fits out of a vagina . I’ve never had a 10 CM turd . Promise darling ,don’t you ever put anything like that in your precious body

      • Promise says:

        The baby or the poop?

      • Gentleman soul says:

        Either ! It’s hard to recover from a stretch that big

      • Promise says:

        OK o-o

      • Lady Sage says:

        Oh goodness. Not worth the future of anal prolapse or leaking fecal matter. You are naughty promise :-)

      • Lady Sage says:

        For the vagina to prepare for delivery: kegals before, during, and after. Massage with essential oils on perineum whether performing self-massage or partner. Gaining a normal amount of pregnancy weight. The vagina can be a wonderful and resilient part of our body. Child birth does not have to lead to a loose vagina.
        I am not vouching for a 10CM Poop. I will leave that alone.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        Nope nope nope! If the V is not budging the last place you want that member is in the backdoor. Eww that’s just painful.

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      He should already know about his size with most women and actually have lube at the ready. I’m surprised he didn’t come prepared the first time.

  12. Jessa89 says:

    Oh my Lord, you people are way over sensitive. It is funny. At least @GeorgiaPeach12:disqus has a sense of humor.

  13. Kellykellie1991 says:

    Love the new blog format!

    • Catcher 22 says:

      I really hate the new blog format. The old format was much easier to follow discussions. Many of the regular bloggers on the old blog format are no longer contributing on the new format.

  14. rembodler says:

    Wow… This, here, really is kinda gone…
    That format was a complete success – if SA got tired of that blog and wanted it to go away…

  15. Promise says:

    I just remembered earlier in the comments some SB’s (and I think FunDude too) were talking about letting yourself go after getting married, and I just realized that my aunt did just that.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      That was me and fundude. A lot of women and men do that. I never understood why you wouldn’t want to stay attractive and healthy for your mate.

      • Promise says:

        Idk how long they’ve been married, but now they’re getting a divorce. He stayed in shape throughout the relationship. I’ve never once seen her small throughout my entire life. Yet I’ve seen her wedding photo, and she was small in that. It’s strange too because when I was a kid it never crossed my mind until I went to Jersey. While I was there I saw 2 aunts, and one uncle. The big aunt was the one that came without her husband. My favorite aunt, and uncle are the married ones. They’re son is the one that graduated.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        well I know if it’s someones intention to cheat on you no matter how attractive or in shape you are they are going to do it. But you shouldn’t make it easy for them. If someone cheats on me it won’t be because I let myself go,nagged him to death, controlling , etc. he’s going to have to really search for a reason. Like I blink to much or something :)

      • BethSA says:

        Some women get too comfortable and it’s not that they don’t want to stay attractive, they just don’t feel they have the need to since their spouse sees them everyday, in their highs and lows.
        I’m not trying to stay attractive for anyone else but myself. When I take care of me I feel good about me. I pity the ones who don’t feel the same.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        yeah You know how many times I’ve heard a woman say “I don’t have to do that anymore I have a man.” Or “if he loves me then he shouldn’t care what I look like.” I don’t feel comfortable if I start getting out of shape. I like my body to look a certain way.

  16. CucumberOnLids says:

    I have a new question:

    Has anyone ever had a live in arrangement? Maybe he provides a $1500 a month allowance but you live in one of his properties rent free?

    • Jaybird923 says:

      Is this a new arrangement or someone you’ve been seeing for a while

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        New arrangement offer.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        It sounds good but I would be concerned about someone new having that much control over me. You can be tossed out at anytime. Would you have a place to go if it didn’t work out?

    • Josh says:

      An SD who puts a woman in one of his properties is an idiot. The better approach is to rent the unit out and use the proceeds to pay her rent.

  17. MissLady says:

    Happy Hump Day……who’s humping??

  18. DVNY says:

    Jessa89-That’s really mean. Pole work is really hard and I commend her for doing it. Even though she is super obese she has to be in great shape. She has to have fantastic upper body strength and her thighs could probably crush a watermelon. I couldn’t do what she is doing, and I doubt a whole lot of skinny quote “in shape” women couldn’t do it either. This woman is holding up her entire body weight by her thighs, think about that. Her THIGHS!!! And she must weight about in the upper 300s. That’s just amazing and nothing to ridicule.

  19. Jessi says:

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  20. Lady Sage says:

    Good night people of the page. I’m so tired. I feel like someone slipped me a roofie. Sweet dreams.

  21. KeKe says:

    Hehe

  22. Jaybird923 says:

    That wasn’t me : ) and why would I care if a KKK member uses the N word I’d be more shocked if there was one who didn’t

  23. Josh says:

    The reading comprehension challenged idiot called me misogynist. That’s swell !!! :(

  24. Promise says:

    I’ve been going back home the whole day.

  25. Josh says:

    Patrice O’Neal was a genius. RIP!!!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EzYOxwhKu5w

  26. Josh says:

    Now you have outdone FunDude. That’s NOT funny.

    Quite the contrary…She has talent. Do you think what she’s doing is easy? Additionally, those who think pole dance is easy haven’t tried it yet.

    • Josh says:

      By the way, @FunDude only makes criticizes bigger women who demand fit, rich men to accept them as they are AND pay them allowance.

      He does not make random fun of bigger people.

      Time to apologize?

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Why should she apologize? Didn’t you read the comment too? She couldn’t help it. The poor dear is going to have to check into some kind of rehab program

      • Josh says:

        Awww “she couldn’t help it”????? Pobresita claro que si.

        The next time a KKK idiot uses the N-word and he should be excused because “he couldn’t help it”?

      • Jaybird923 says:

        okay obviously you totally missed the sarcasm in my statement and once again failed to see I was agreeing with you. lol

      • Muah says:

        Way to be sexist. Nobody needs to apologize to fundude. Doesn’t matter if it’s a female or a male – shit is rude and tacky as hell.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I think he meant for Jessa to apologize

      • Muah says:

        Hopefully. It seemed more directed at the rest of us to apologize because this girl is just a hateful as fundud

      • KeKe says:

        He meant for Jesse to apologize Muah.

      • Josh says:

        You’re fucking reading comprehension challenged idiot

      • KeKe says:

        Josh?!

    • Lady Sage says:

      I tried to take a pole aerobics class. It ended with me ripping off my toenail and blowing a vein in my foot. It is extremely difficult and takes a great degree of agility and strength.

    • Promise says:

      I’ve always wanted to take pole, and belly dancing lessons, but then I see the bruises..

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      Sorry, but I didn’t even see the “pole” all I could compare were the two positions – the baked chicken and the upside down gal with her legs crossed. LOL I’m sure it’s difficult though. Was also likely difficult to get that chicken to look that way too. :)

  27. skystar says:

    Hi! So that is great that bigger sized women have the confidence to be a SB. But I am curious about something. An SD who wants a bigger SB has a pretty good idea what she will look like naked. But what do women do if they don’t look overweight, meaning that they look great in clothes, but when they are naked they have hidden fat, saggy breasts, a pooch, etc. How does she represent herself in this case? Does she tell him in advance? Will an SD care? Or does she just not tell him and exude the same confidence a BBW when it comes time to get naked?

    • Jaybird923 says:

      LMAO I love that… tell him in advance. “SD I really like you and think you’re awesome but I have a confession to make…you see how nice I look when I’m dressed well when this all comes off I have a serious case of saggy boobs. I just felt I had to warn you and I hope this doesn’t change how you feel about me. I am still the same person I was before I confessed.”

    • KeKe says:

      Lol…I think if a guy is into he doesn’t care if it isn’t perfect otherwise he’d be looking elsewhere. I think guys have a general idea of what’s going on under our clothes. I did mention to my Lover that hey I do look great in these clothes but I had 2 kids and it shows. Lol.

      • skystar says:

        @Keke….so what was your lover’s reply when you told him? My friend told a couple of SD’s in advance that she looked great in clothing, but showed the effects of 3 pregnancies when she got naked. She didn’t hear back from them after that. So she is stuck of whether telling them in advance, waiting, or just displaying confidence and let them find out when it’s time to get intimate. But she did tell me she was so scared to be naked in front of them. She thought about wearing sexy lingerie to cover up her flaws and not take it off. She thought about telling them about her flaws and ask them if they will be ok if she left her lingerie on. So she is wondering if they will go for it. Anybody had experience with that?

        @DVNY…..my friend looks perfect in clothes. So she is concerned a guy will obviously think she looks the same naked. And I know what you mean about ur confident friend. I have a BBW girlfriend who I admire due to her confidence. She is so comfortable in her own sking. I wish I had her confidence and I am not overweight.

      • KeKe says:

        I’m overweight with a road map of stretch marks on my belly and thighs. Lol. I have found the elusive unicorn. Lol. He said he doesn’t care about my weight. He said, “I likes real women with curves and not skinny models. They look hungry”. He rubbed my abdomen and said, ” that is evidence of life. Don’t be ashamed. You look fine. No one is perfect”. He’s fucking amazing! Lol.

        But we definitely connected mentally and physically before clothes came off.

        I’m still some what self conscious. But just this past Sunday he stood me in front of his full length mirror in his bathroom. He was behind me caressing me and telling me how beautiful I was. How much he loves my skin. You can imagine how I showed my appreciation. Lol

        In the past I have worn lingerie but the guys usually could care less for it. I think the key is to find someone who you truly have chemistry with. Just wait for that.

    • DVNY says:

      Frankly, I’ve never really heard of a guy turn down a girl once she got naked. Most men turn women down wayyyyyy before then. You can pretty much tell what a woman looks like when you meet her IRL. If a woman is comfortable in her own skin a guy will see that and not turn her down. My mother’s husband’s daughter is like that, she weighed in the low 300’s and she was never in lack of a guy. Some of them were pretty attractive and successful too. They didn’t give to craps about her weight, they just cared that she is fun, has a great personality and damned pretty underneath all that fat. She got a gastric bypass and she has lost over a hundred pounds and she is looking more and more like the knockout that both all those men and I could see she was even though she was obese. Now the problem is the fact that she is losing her confidence with every pound she loses. Life is really strange, I guess she just has to get use to her new body.

  28. DVNY says:

    I’m just over everything today.

  29. FunDude718 says:

    New Topic of Discussion:

    Do women get turned on sexually by high status?

    I venture to say that female sexual attraction increases due to this issue.

    • Thus Spake Guru says:

      The main criteria about women getting turned on by a man is “Does this guy have anything I can use or gossip/brag to my girlfriends about?”

    • Jessa89 says:

      Nope. At least not me personally. Went on a date with an executive at Boeing…not really wow’d by anything. Fancy car, fancy clothes, no real attraction. Was comparable to going out to dinner with my dad. I’ll pass and wait for a better connection even if that means they have a lighter wallet.

    • BethSA says:

      Ok ok I’m here now, vis a vis women getting turned on sexually by high status, personally I don’t care how high your status is, if your personality is dog shit I write you off.
      Personality is everything to me because I grew up in a household where I was taught to not point and laugh a np people, read lol ve, dont be afraid aid to hug someone or smile at someone. You’re better than no one vice versa. So a great smile and a warm heart does it for me.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      Not for me the biggest turn on sexually is a man who is self confident. Has a take charge attitude. Nothing worst than a man who ask your permission for everything. “Can I touch you here? Do you like that?”

      • BethSA says:

        Omg I hate that. Asking all those questions

      • Jaybird923 says:

        It totally kills it for me. I don’t mind guiding you with an “oh that feels amazing or I love when you do that” but I don’t want to be giving you instructions in bed.

      • BethSA says:

        Right. Neither do I. Some men need to learn the art in reading body language

      • Josh says:

        Fuck body language. Men need to learn how to stay out of prison by not trying to read the body language.

      • KeKe says:

        I hear that. Let me tell you what I like. I want to cum as pleasurably and quickly as possible. F#€& guessing. And please tell me how you like your dick sucked. I enjoy giving oral but I want to see a pay off for my hard work.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Yes they do. But some of them have this playbook in their minds and they stick to it no matter what. lol Step 1…Kiss her neck first Step2 touch the left boob next step 3 now the right

      • Muah says:

        Lol

      • Jaybird923 says:

        It’s true. Haven’t you had that happen to you. I’m like climbing the walls while you’re doing that and you’re really going to stop to do something else.

        You should have a general idea of where to go but every woman is different. Pay attention to how she reacts to what you’re doing. Lukewarm reaction move on. Losing her mind linger for a bit. :)

      • Muah says:

        Lol that’s why I am usually the dominant or the instigator :)

      • Jaybird923 says:

        sexually I’m submissive. I just want to give up control and enjoy the ride :)

      • Muah says:

        Well I am a Pisces so I am naturally more go with the flow = a bit lazy haha

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I have no problem initiating sex. If I want you I’ll let you know. No guessing games there.

      • Lady Sage says:

        I guess I’m..switch? I like someone that I can submit to, be equal to, and at other times be more dominant with. Depends on my mood. I have so much control career and household that sometimes just the thought of letting someone take control is sigh inducing.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Exactly :) there is so much freedom in giving up control

      • KeKe says:

        No way. I don’t want him to guess. I want him to hit all my spots and get me cumming. Lol

      • Muah says:

        Made me think of That 70s Show when Eric finally gets to second base.

      • BethSA says:

        This is not even a lie.
        And it sucks big time because not every woman is the same.

      • Muah says:

        Look you’ve upset the cry baby misogynist haha

      • Lady Sage says:

        I like questions done right. I like talking dirty and eye contact. It is a balance between observing physical reactions (wetness, pupil reaction and so on) with some verbal banter.

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      Please clarify Doc. Are you referring to “status” as in would I date a doctor over a steel mill worker? Money guy over average wage guy? Or something else?

    • Lady Sage says:

      Unfortunately I find the two don’t go hand in hand. Sexuality is a wild beast. It can be a base instinct. Kind of like not being able to help who you fall in love with. I’m in health care, I get asked out by docs and successful men frequently. If the attraction is lacking, status does not seem to help it. I also would not want to date a dead beat. Unless he was just intensely into a craft that made very little and I found the attraction hard to fight. Like a sculptor ( visions of clay smeared bodies, yum). I make enough where we would get by. Comfort is nice, but not at the expense of true life experiences and great connection. Hopefully I find the unicorn and have it all. Salut to us all finding our unicorn.

  30. MissLady says:

    What’s with the silence around here today??

  31. SarahRose222 says:

    So excited to see this article!
    I’m a plus size SB. A size 16 actually. Men like what they like, period. I have no problem attracting men…ever! I’m happy with who I am and what I look like. I have noticed many SD profiles that specifically say they are looking for a young and fit or thin SB. I simply hit the back button. Many others say they like a curvy girl or BBW, and that’s awesome! I’m not young nor fit. I’m squishy and jiggly and many men LOVE that.
    Be you ladies! There’s no rules!

  32. DVNY says:

    True story. I was in church on mother’s day and I took my granddaughter to the potty, when we were finished and I was trying to lift her up to wash her hands, this mom came up to me and said, “Oh is she your first? What I do after having 5 is take a paper towel and wet it and then put soap on it then let them wash their hands that way.” Then she looked at me with that, “New moms, they don’t know anything” look. Well I just said, “She’s my granddaughter and I’m 51.” You could have knocked her over with a feather!!! She gasped and said, “Oh my god, I thought you were in your 30’s”. I swear Josh, this was a stranger and she wasn’t just trying to make me feel better. Anyway when church was over, she saw me again and practically announced to the whole congregation how young I looked. I swear one day I’d love to go to the makeup counter and ask them to make me look quote, “ten years younger”. I think it would be a hoot.

    • Josh says:

      Sweetheart,

      Enjoy the ccompliment.

      For women, it is an in thing to tell other women that they look 10-20 years younger. Just imagine what you would not do for this woman now.

      Men know that women are sucker for such complaints, they also use it for social advantage as well.

      It is one thing to enjoy such compliments…it is totally different to take it serious and start messing with age in dating profiles.

      • DVNY says:

        Oh no I don’t mess with my age in dating profiles. It would just be dishonest and I want men to know that they can trust me. After all if they can’t trust you with your age how are they going to trust that you won’t run off with their money.
        Also Josh, I thought I had grown out of looking young. I think I look 51, but no one else thinks I do. No one has ever thought I look my age, no matter what age I was. When I was 13 the last year I went trick or treating, I dressed up like a little girl. I wore a dress and pig tales, the whole little girl thing, not a sexy little girl because they didn’t do that in the 70’s. Anyway no one would give me candy because they said I didn’t dress up. All the parents thought I was 7 or 8. After that I went to the teen dance and ended up getting ID (it was a dance on a military base because I lived in Germany), and then they called my mom because they thought I stole my sister’s ID (those dances were really popular), and they wouldn’t let me in until my mom came down and vouched for me. Not the best Halloween I ever had. But now it’s funny. If they had SBs in the 80’s I would have probably would have ended up being a little just for my look.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Every article I read from older women is that they “appear much younger” than their age.

        Read all the single’s articles of women in their 30s, 40s and 50s.

        Almost every female states that “people tell me I look younger all the time”.

        Josh is correct that this is used often out of being “nice”

      • Sam Smith says:

        Depends on who is giving the compliment and the context. If, for example, it is someone that wants nothing from you, and you are not going to be in their life, in any way, in the future, and they are giving you a compliment ‘just because’, and it seems sincere, then there is obviously no ‘motive’ behind it, unless they are into lying. I give people I know, as well as strangers compliments, at times, but only out of sincerity. I only do this if it is sincere, though, as I hate false people. I do not care for those who use false flattery or those who appear to be fake and use flattery as a form of control/manipulation for their benefit. They think they are being clever but they really are pretty obvious- to me anyway.

  33. Josh says:

    ‘Tis time for a new article.

  34. FunDude718 says:

    Great comment from the article posted below:

    “Why is a middle-aged woman with a young man a ‘cougar’ but in reverse, the man is a ‘lech’? The reality is that women reach their peak sexual value at the age of about 23 and it rapidly declines after the age of 30. Some women successfully manage to delay this event, but they are anomalies. Men reach their peak sexual value at the age of about 35 and it declines thereafter at a much slower rate. The problem is that feminism has ensured men don’t actually appreciate and understand these dynamics. Feminism ensures that women are not married during their period of peak sexual value, so can enjoy their high value to the full. Meanwhile men are married and unaware of their high value when they are at their peak, probably to a woman whose vaue is in freefall.
    During middle age, men often begin to understand their value, and start to act on it. This is not a mid-life crisis, but a mid-life epiphany; they are not trying to relive their youth, but enjoy their high sexual value for the first time. Articles such as this are all framed from a feminist perspective, but men are increasingly becoming aware of how modern society operates against them; change is on its way.”

    • DVNY says:

      But think about it Fundude a cougar isn’t exactly a nice animal. A cougar is a ruthless hunting machine that preys on small helpless animals. It was never meant as a compliment, just like gold digger, trophy wife, bad ass and bitch were never meant that way. No it wasn’t meant as a good things it’s just that women stood it, owned those words, controlled them and took them as their own. That’s what happened. If a woman wants to date and marry a man 20 or 30 years her junior more power to her, just like a man. I don’t think either relationships last very long, but who am I to say? I date men 20 years older than I am, but I don’t like 50’s music. I dated a man 11 years younger than me, but he didn’t know who Donna Summer was. I think that to have relationships with that much of an age difference you either have to teach each other about each others eras or you have to start from scratch and find all new interests. Either way it isn’t easy.

      • FunDude718 says:

        The 23 y/o female I am dating and myself (35 y/o) go out to the club/bar every weekend or so.

        I have no trouble keeping up with her musical interests.

      • KeKe says:

        My guy is 17 yrs older than me and it’s fun listening to each other’s music. He’s introduced me to a lot things I never heard but like. We are supposed to go to a Whitesnake’s concert in July. I’m very excited and I’ve been listening to their music YouTube.

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      So, Good Doc Fun, do you have any patients who appear to “lust” after a man of your statue, i.e. body, bedside manner, etc? Reason I ask is that I had an internist who is about 5 or 6 yrs older than I, yet I was his youngest patient when I first started seeing him. His appearance was nothing really special, though he eventually began to run/keep in better shape. If either of us had not been married, I would have gone after him in a heartbeat – it was his caring attitude and his mannerisms. He was only late once the entire time I saw him > 10 yrs. (He was on call that day and there was a Code Blue he had to run to, but came back asap) He retired just after we moved to GA.

    • Lady Sage says:

      I must research this. I’m becoming much more aware of my sexuality and interest in pleasing self and others. Much more inventive. It must be my geriatric syndrome simmering in.

  35. FunDude718 says:

    Great article discussing the hypocrisy of FEMINISTS who objectify men while trying to shame men for “fat shaming”:

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/thinking-man/11613313/Feminism-is-having-a-mid-life-crisis-and-its-not-a-good-look.html

    This article perfectly explains why I am giving BBWs such a HARD TIME.

    Its due to the LYING hypocrisy of modern day feminists

    • Jaybird923 says:

      Just because someone says they are a feminist doesn’t make them one. What she’s doing is #1 trying to sell books. #2 Trying to justify her need to make herself feel better about aging by dating younger men. I’ve never thought the older man younger woman relationship was wrong.

      It’s evolution/biology. An older man is more stable and probably more successful and is better able to provide for a family. Younger woman is more fertile and better able to give you healthy children. It’s just the way it is. I accept that in 10 years Men will still find me physically appealing because I age very little. and that even though women in my family are able to produce healthy kids in their 40s, that someone looking to start a family might not feel I’m the best candidate

  36. FunDude718 says:

    Got 15 messages in the last few days.

    The Hottest one had something in her profile stating “”NO SEX”.

    Ergo, there is no reason to sign up at this time.

    • Jessa89 says:

      Not to be crude, but sex with an older man is the best part. Just saying.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Speaking at 35 y/o, I can assure you that this is a very accurate assessment compared to me at 25 y/o.

  37. FunDude718 says:

    Im almost feeling bad about the BBW issue myself. I think I’m getting too nasty.

    I will try to be nicer!

  38. Megan says:

    The health size guide is kinda BS in my opinion. But great article nonetheless.

  39. BethSA says:

    Ugh!!!! Get over yourself. Your disdain for big girls are played out.

    • FunDude718 says:

      I really am tired of this subject.

      It just keeps coming up!

      Unfortunately, there was a BLOG about this subject now lol

  40. Jaxx says:

    I’m not sitting through 30 something minutes of fat girls and “losers” getting bashed because you can’t properly articulate why you associate the two with one another.

    • FunDude718 says:

      He clearly shows almost NO successful men go for BBWs.

      He succinctly explains this argument. A few chunky BBWs call in trying to argue against this point.

      He easily crushes their arguments.

      I don’t have the time to go through all of his factual arguments but he sums the subject up very well.

      • Jaxx says:

        So this one guy, in control of his radio show, which is his and thus gives him home field advantage hurt some fat chicks’ feelings and brought up how many skinny girlfriends George Clooney or whoever has had so there’s absolutely no way fat girls can ever get love from anyone getting paid above minimum wage?

        What exactly is there to argue about this? Rich guys don’t like fat girls? All rich guys like fat girls? No rich guys were ever interested in fat girls? Was there a poll taken that me and my vagina and my last two boyfriends missed?

      • Jaxx says:

        Also, I only brought up my vagina cuz of all your feminist posts.

  41. Jaxx says:

    I came back cuz y’all hyped up FunDude and he finally commented on my post and it was a womp womp womp moment.

  42. KeKe says:

    That’s how my weekend was spent :-)

  43. FunDude718 says:

    Al Bundy’s opinion on feminists:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=99TqrYhK0Ew

  44. FunDude718 says:

    Al Bundy’s opinions on BBWs

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVg5QqJoxuU

    • Jaybird923 says:

      I love Married with children. It was one of my favorite shows growing up. It would never get on air today. I never understood why so many big women chose to play those roles.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Those were funny as hell lol

      • Jaybird923 says:

        The NO MAAM stuff is hilarious also. You and Al bundy have a lot in common you both don’t like feminist or BBWs :) Did you take the bait and respond to the new blogger Jaxx?

      • FunDude718 says:

        Why yes I did

      • Jaybird923 says:

        lol I did warn her. Let me scroll down and see what you came up with

      • Jaybird923 says:

        That’s pretty tame actually. No personal attacks just mockery :)

      • FunDude718 says:

        Yeah she never attacked me directly or was too entitled in comments, I just pointed out the hypocrisy.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        She didn’t make any comments about broke SDs. That’s all you. So to you a broke SD is the equivalent of an overweight SB? And what makes someone a broke SD? If you can only afford $500 a month then that’s what you can afford. There’s probably someone on the site who $500 will make a big difference for.

      • FunDude718 says:

        The tom Leykis video about fat women are for poor men explains this well.

        Let me link it for you:

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I-i-elpPTLg

      • Jaybird923 says:

        He has no business calling anyone fat and unattractive if that’s a picture of him. And If he is dating someone attractive it’s because of his money. So if he lost all his money and was no longer able to provide the lifestyle she was accustomed to she would leave. He’s in the same boat as the big girls.

      • FunDude718 says:

        He admits that women are after him for money.

        So what?

        Listen to his argument. It is very succinct and logical.

        There is a reason he was number 1 in LA among men!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I did listen to his argument. And I know money buys nice things including attractive women. But there are always exceptions to the rule. What I don’t like is the generalization. What about the poor attractive woman who’s with the poor attractive man.

      • FunDude718 says:

        What about the poor attractive woman with a poor attractive man?

        This is a sugar website. You are asking RICH SUCCESSFUL MEN to pay for BBWs.

        Tom Leykis explains the folly in that argument.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I’m not asking anyone to do anything. I’m saying let people try their luck without putting them down. If they make a profile and no one chooses them then so be it. But don’t tell them they are not worthy and they are only good enough for losers.

      • FunDude718 says:

        I have no problem with BBWs attempting to get sugar daddies or older ladies.

        The problem I have with this stuff is the DEMAND that men accept BBWs.

        I also don’t have any issues with broke dudes offering little to no allowance coming onto this website either.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Who are all these people demanding that men accept BBWs? Point them out so I can tell them to stop. What I have seen is people asking to be left alone and not be ridiculed or demeaned because of their size?

        If you say clearly in your profile that you don’t like BBWs and they choose to pursue you Then any nasty comments they get is their problem. You’re not going to change anyone’s mind. If they’re not attracted to you a nice personality isn’t going to change that.

      • FunDude718 says:

        OK thats reasonable

      • Jaybird923 says:

        :) I do try to be. I’ll lay off you. Truce fundude?

      • FunDude718 says:

        He clearly shows rich and successful men almost NEVER go for BBW women.

        Show me any examples of rich men going for BBW women. I bet you can’t find 5 examples.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        The only thing I agree with him about is women’s tendency of thinking getting in a committed relationship is a license to let them selves go. I’m very vocal about this.

        He married you a certain way because that’s what he was attracted to. if you decide to let yourself go don’t get mad if he starts searching for someone who looks like you use to. Some weight gain is inevitable as we age but you shouldn’t look like a completely different person. That goes for men too. I give you my best and I expect your best.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Yes that is correct

      • KeKe says:

        Hilarious. One of my favorite shows growing up

  45. FunDude718 says:

    Joe Rogan knows how to Handle a Feminist:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lXUd7VxuSA

  46. Promise says:

    For those of you that were curious about my cousins graduation cake.

  47. Guess Who? says:

    Experimenting with Tequila…

    Currently drinking straight up El Jimador Blanco with lime and salt.

    El Jimador is the most popular tequila in Mexico.

  48. I Fake the Fake English Accent says:

    Does that count?

  49. Josh says:

    Disqus is created for teen age girls.

  50. Promise says:

    I prefer Korean.

  51. Josh says:

    Bulletin board is the way to go.

    • Promise says:

      Do you have a program in mind?

      • Josh says:

        You can’t go wrong with either phpbb or smf or vbulletin.

        SA needs to evaluate all three of them and decide on the one that works best for their needs.

  52. Jaybird923 says:

    lol really? the closest I’ve gotten is not wearing panties to church. My mom would have a heart attack if she knew about that never mind the having sex part

    • BethSA says:

      Does church bathroom and instrament storage room count?
      How old are you Dear?

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I’m 28. It counts. I want to do it in one of the pews or on the stage/alter

      • BethSA says:

        Holy crap, that’s taking it to another level.
        This was with my fiancé at the time. I don’t think I’ll ever do the alter.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        It would have to be for great sex. If I have to ask for forgiveness for some mediocre dick slinging I’m going to be pissed. lol

      • Jaybird923 says:

        It’s a fantasy probably never going to happen and who knows if the opportunity ever presented itself I’d probably chicken out

  53. BethSA says:

    What are some of the weirdest places you guys have tried having sex?

  54. Melissa says:

    Office tables! Going to his office in the middle of the work day just so he can take me on his desk. I have a thing for them. Oh plus the fact that anyone can walk in…but counter tops are fun too :)

    • Jaybird923 says:

      Tried that once before. It didn’t work out so good. The desk was too high things didn’t line up well. We ended up on the floor. He was a gentleman and let me be on top. so no rug burns for me :)

      • Melissa says:

        OMG! I just realized that I’ve never had sex on the floor before…I don’t know how to feel about that :/

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Something to add to your bucket list, but make sure you’re on top unless there’s a blanket or something on the floor.

      • BethSA says:

        Yes!! What @Jaybird923 said. Carpet burns are no joke

  55. Jaybird923 says:

    It’s the accent. It fools you into thinking they are hotter than they actually are.

    • BethSA says:

      That’s so true, but that accent is delicious. And the Aussie accent as well

    • Muah says:

      I love Irish accents or Scottish. If I ever meet an Irish man he is sure to catch my lucky charms!

      • Promise says:

        Jacksepticeye.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Ohh, Chris O’dowd has good accent for you(sorry, have a thing for tall quirky nerdy looking fellas).

      • Muah says:

        Mmmmmmm Gerard Butler… James McAvoy… Colin Farrell, Aidan Turner (as a drawf) etc

        Chris O’Dowd is cute :-) I liked him bridesmaids.

  56. Jj says:

    Ok, for real!! I enjoy assisting my girl(s) in having her better to have encountered me than when we met. Sponsoring and supporting school expenses, tuition, transportation, housing, lifestyle ……, but it never seems to be enough to get her ahead. I have decent reason to suspect she is “working on a project” and would like to find a method of helping her see the path she is exposing herself too. I’m not getting “rinsed”, but definite attempt to “drip dry”!!!

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      So you enjoy her enough to keep her for now, but concerns about your future as an SD with her? And you don’t feel comfortable letting out to pasture now? She might see her ways then and come running back to you with a clearer head. Never know.

  57. GeorgiaPeach says:

    New Blog soon? Hasn’t enough been said about fat SB’s here now?

  58. Promise says:

    Some guy from the UK viewed me. Wtf?

  59. THEATLSD says:

    Me thinks @Struggles is going to like this picture!!

  60. Jaybird923 says:

    I don’t think anyone can complain about the blog being dull today. I for one have found it vastly entertaining. I’ve enjoyed interacting with all of you. I’m glad I came out of the shadows :)

  61. Jj says:

    and now back to our regularly scheduled programmng….. “daddies’ hitch’n and babies bytch’n”

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      Not me Sweetheart. I’m a lover not a bitcher. :)

    • j says:

      this format does not seem to fit the topic flow of a single source ideal (sugar) as it leaves too much room to get away from said topic (sugar) into the realm of “omg!!” ‘gossip’ no!?!?!!?

  62. Promise says:

    I’m in the car with my cousins!

  63. BethSA says:

    Lmao you sound like a pro dear

    • THEATLSD says:

      Someone flagged Jj’s post. I’m guessing HD social media department saw it come up on one of their auto flogging programs. Outside of that there is nothing to be flagged in that comment.

  64. MissLady says:

    I am just now seeing the visual….makes sense now…lol

  65. MissLady says:

    do you come with a tool belt??

  66. BethSA says:

    Okay guys, I don’t know what to wear to the inaugural party and I’m not sure if I should invite my lover to be my date since the place is going to be loaded with family and I’m not prepared to answer weird questions. What do you guys think?

  67. Jaybird923 says:

    are we talking about kitchen counters or is this another one of those kinky sex terms :)

  68. Jj says:

    you betcha!!! dusted with powerded sugar, of course!!!!

  69. Promise says:

    I ate that for breakfast today.

  70. Jj says:

    boring!!!!

  71. Promise says:

    I love you guys. You’re literally the only highlight of my Jersey trip. I’ve been sat on 3 times, called fat by someone fatter than me, found out my favorite cousin wouldn’t be here, and made to feel like I’m not part of the family because my last name is different than most of the people here.

  72. Jaxx says:

    Happy b-day to your sis! My little sister just graduated from college a week ago, but there’s still so much bbq, so that’s my cake, basically. Need to get away from it and eat some spinach.

  73. DVNY says:

    Exactly!!! The After School Specials were like watching football games, you couldn’t do it without snacks.

    • BethSA says:

      Of course not, who watches these things without food? God damn it I love FOOD!!! It’s such a beautiful thing

  74. DVNY says:

    All talks about eating disorders make me hungry. When I was a teenager and the shows about anorexia and bulimia came on me and my friends use always get crazy snacks and eat while we watched them. There were a lot of those shows on as “After school specials” in the late 70’s and early 80’s. Instead of being cautionary tales all they use to do is make us want to eat pizza and chips.

  75. Jaxx says:

    I’d encourage this, but that pic you got there looks like you do mad squats, so I won’t try to give you more work. lol

    • BethSA says:

      I don’t mind the extra work babe. It’s cake!!!!! *Drooling*

      • Jaxx says:

        lol! yaaaassssss!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        It’s not something you should do everyday but if I want a doughnut or anything else I’ll have it. it’s all about balance. I don’t get the people who deny themselves any kind of joy so they can save a couple of calories.

      • BethSA says:

        Im with you on this one. If I’m craving it I eat it. And doughnuts are my weakness. Omg

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I love Krispy Kreme I’ve almost gotten into accidents when I’ve seen the hot sign was on.

      • BethSA says:

        Hahahahahahahahahahahaha im on that level

  76. Jaybird923 says:

    lol That’s what I’m thinking. They’d be looking in all the wrong places and I probably got snatched returning books at the library

  77. Jaxx says:

    Aww, who wrote this blog post? It’s such a cute confidence boost, especially in the summer when fat girls get told to cover up despite the weather. Fat girls need new shoes, too!

    I have my body type selected as full/overweight and I honestly feel like it weeds out the weak. My mindset when determining which potential SDs to even start talking to is to scan their profiles to see if they say anything like ‘no bbws, no blacks, no chicks with kids, no blah blah blah’ because they usually have a set image of what they want in their minds already. And then I feel sorry for them for limiting themselves because really, where’s the fun in that? I’ve never not ever had a one guy ever complain about my thighs. Or how heavy they were on his shoulders and around his head.

    Confidence is definitely key. Especially because people always wanna say stuff like ‘oh, it doesn’t matter what size you are, personality is what’s important’ – um, no. Don’t imply that my looks aren’t astronomical just because I’ve got rolls; I’m cute as crap AND my personality is banging AND I don’t have to monitor my calorie intake to achieve any of that because it’s natural already.

    There’s absolutely nothing wrong with fat SBs – Chanel bags are just as expensive on arms that jiggle as ones that don’t.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      lol Prepare yourself for fundude’s attack. You have been warned

      • Promise says:

        I’m hitting deck.

      • BethSA says:

        Right? Watch Him ride in and attack. It’s like his radar goes off when anyone mentions big women

      • Muah says:

        Haha I was thinking the same thing. He’s going to tell her something like: “How dare you have confidence as a bigger gal!!?”

      • Jaybird923 says:

        “don’t you know only low level SD’s find you attractive Here’s a video proving my point” lol

      • Muah says:

        Bahaha OMG so true!

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        FunDude’s attacks are for the women who want to FORCE him to date BBW, or shame him for NOT dating the BBW…that’s different.

        Just represent yourself and let those without the preference filter you through the search criteria…everyone can find their next great Sugar adventure!

      • MissLady says:

        nah, whether they approach him or not, he has something to say about their chances

      • Muah says:

        Miss Lady is right.

      • FunDude718 says:

        I have no issue with BBWs who state they are BBWs and don’t expect me to be attracted to them.

        If a man wants a BBW, thats his business.

        Just don’t demand me to like it or any other man for that matter

      • Jaxx says:

        Lawd, that doesn’t sound very fun dudish of him. lol Now I kinda want to wait to see if I summoned him.

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      I hope you don’t take this the wrong way, but not everyone is into the thick chick…just like not every woman is into married guy…as long as you are properly representing yourself on your profile, you should not get rude guys telling you off…if you do, tell them to look at the profile before being a douchebag!

      • Jaxx says:

        Why would I take that the wrong way? The post said not to misrepresent yourself so as to avoid rude comments and I didn’t disagree. I just said that people who get into all of that limit themselves, imo.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I started it off with that because there have been times in the blog’s recent past where ANY comment contrary was attacked…you did have a good attitude about it…and that should help you find the perfect SD for you!

      • Jaxx says:

        Dude. The kinks I’ve seen… There’s no reason to be judgmental on this site at all when everyone has something about them that isn’t really what society tells them to want.

    • MissLady says:

      smells like a set up, I hope not….

    • Jj says:

      sounds a tad like “SexyRS” hmmmmm?

    • FunDude718 says:

      Why limit yourself to guys who give allowances or even have money?

      Where is the fun in that? I feel sorry for ladies who limit themselves because really where is the fun in that?

      I mean guys with no money have good personalities too!

      • Jaxx says:

        I was warned about you, Fun Dude, and the passive aggressiveness of it all kind of disappoints me. So I’ll just poke the bear myself.

        But yeah, why limit yourself to guys who give out allowances? Why not have fun with dudes who you meet at McDonalds? Why limit yourself to MAC when NYX matte lipsticks are just as nice? Where’s the fun in having mindless fun with fun old guys with money and fun with young fun guys?! Where’s the dude in that, FunDude?

        So meet someone at a stripclub or a church because every experience is different and you won’t learn the value of them if you don’t take the risk. I’m not limiting my life experiences simply because I decided that I don’t like chest hair or some dumb mess like that. That was my point. But why limit yourself to analytically reading anything? Where’s the fun in that? I feel sorry for the people who limit themselves by not jumping to conclusions and making assumptions and forcing their “preferences” on someone in a mocking manner for merely voicing an opinion based on their own personal experiences of being alive while fat.

        Oh the hypocrisy that you pointed out but I don’t get and won’t get because I don’t equate broke dudes with fat chicks.

        So that was me coming at you directly, now. Just in case you hadn’t jumped to that conclusion on your own. Have fun with that.

        Sidenote: why are there no forums on this site? I know you guys have mentioned that in other comments, but I’m curious if you guys heard anything from the site’s developers about it.

  78. Muah says:

    However if they have a hairy back – that shit needs to be taken care of STAT.

    • BethSA says:

      Yes!!!! No hairy back, oh gosh. Yuck!!!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        What about Chest hair I’ve always found that sexy. But so many men are overly groomed these days. I like a contrast between your body and mine your legs shouldn’t be as silky as mines lol

      • Muah says:

        I don’t mind most body hair as long as it’s groomed.

        The first guy I dated had chest hair that was thick like a shag carpet. So nasty. When he would say he was hot – I would say “Well why don’t you take that sweater off that you’re wearing under your shirt…”

        I don’t like clean shaven man bodies. Besides the back lol

      • BethSA says:

        Im now seeing this notification. Chest hair is sexy as well, just not too much of it. And I agree, we both shouldn’t be looking silky smooth. Thumbs down!

  79. Muah says:

    I was referring to the penis region :)

  80. Muah says:

    Yea… Diapers are another fetish I will never be into 😉

    • MissLady says:

      lol we did a girls happy hour last Friday and was just talking about golden showers and/or being pooped on…

      • Muah says:

        Haha omg so nasty. What about sounding? hahaaa

      • DVNY says:

        WTH is sounding? I thought I’d heard it all. You mean I have to learn something else new. When does it stop?!!!!….

      • Muah says:

        Lol, Google it. It will improve your day no doubt.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        oh god now I have to erase my search history again. every time I check one of these things out I’m afraid if I go missing and the police find it on my computer they won’t search very hard cause they’ll think I was into some weird shit.

      • DVNY says:

        I know, right? The police would have me arrested if they knew what was on my hard drive. They would think I’m some kind of psychopath, instead of a woman who is just curious, and interested in lifelong learning. Sounding sounds painful, really really painful. Now I have the heebie jeebies.

      • Promise says:

        I’m done eating.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        absolutely disgusting That’s one fetish I just don’t get

      • BethSA says:

        I do not smell or resemble anything that looks like a toilet/potty, take your waste someplace else.

  81. Muah says:

    We know what he wants (anal)! What do I say to that?? EXIT ONLY! :)

    I have this image of a loose, floppy sphincter at the age of 50 caused by mild-excessive sodomy… and that poo just falls right out. I’m sure that that doesn’t actually happen but my own imagination has scared me.

  82. Muah says:

    So I responded to a message from an SD. I asked what he is looking for, if he’s willing to provide an allowance, etc – and this was a snippet from the message I received back:

    “…I’m basically looking for someone to enjoy it with, and obviously someone who can take care of my physical needs (total butt guy, love young girls’ assholes 😉 ”

    Hobbies: Young Girl’s Assholes

    CHECK

    • Jj says:

      that is just sick! how the f*k do these “dud”es think that is going to work… less it be a “scort”ee… just say’n

      • Muah says:

        It made me laugh out loud no lie, but he’s definitely NOT getting a response back. That and he also mentioned NADA about an allowance. When a man completely avoids that question, there’s a reason.

      • BethSA says:

        Right? As if a young girl would be flattered and throw her asshole at him.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        That reminded me of that movie with Clive Owen and Natalie Portman(‘Closer’, I think it is called), and the scene where he says in his British accent to Natalie at the strip club, ‘now, bend over and show me your asshole’…I wonder if that is a common request at strip club?

      • Promise says:

        I had to fan myself after reading this.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        It’s a good movie! I think Clive Owen might be gay in his regular life, though, so it was not too out of character, perhaps, hehe…it has a premise of an online relationship twist as well.

      • BethSA says:

        Lmao of course not. And if it’s the movie I think you’re talking about, didn’t he turn out to be gay?

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Hmm, it’s been awhile since I have seen it, but don’t think he was gay in movie?…have heard he is in real life, however?

      • BethSA says:

        Oooooh yikes. He fits it well then

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Too bad, though…he isn’t too tragic to look at, lol.

    • MissLady says:

      There are some chicks who dig it and think it’s not truly intercourse cause he wasn’t really in her…

      • Promise says:

        I’d try it.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I’d only try it if I was in a tragic accident and my vagina was destroyed but by some miricle my ass was spared

      • Promise says:

        My mom’s looking at me like I’m crazy because I laughed out loud.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Don’t laugh to hard then she’ll want to see what’s causing it :)

      • LadyScarlett says:

        I knew a girl like that many years ago…she was always reminding everyone how she was a virgin, but it was just a vagina technicality. Her anal pathway was most certainly not virginal, as she told us about the tricks about staying virginal through anal sex… 😮

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Isn’t that also a “trick” of the “don’t get pregnant” sex ed crowd?

      • THEATLSD says:

        Sounds like a Bill Clintonism

      • Muah says:

        Lol, wow she sounds like like an idiot hahaha

      • BethSA says:

        I’ve heard a girl who looks no more than 12 talk about how much her mom thinks she’s having sex and took her to get checked but it still comes up that she’s a virgin because she’s doing anal.
        I was appalled.

    • LadyScarlett says:

      What a shitty message….

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      I’ve been asked by lovers to give them anal, because they enjoyed it…from my perspective, as a guy, when someone wants a lot of anal, they might want to look for a male lover…just saying…

      • Muah says:

        I found that to be true from personal experience. I personally don’t enjoy anal. I have a vagina for a reason after all…

      • Promise says:

        Do you think gay guys would like a mangina?

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Most of the gay guys I know don’t want anything to do with a mangina…but they’re also not effeminate…you’d never know they were gay until they introduced you to their lover…

      • Promise says:

        I mean like a literal man vagina so that they don’t have to do anal.

      • BethSA says:

        Oh no, I think they’d still take it up the ass

      • Muah says:

        Unless they’re the top 😉

      • BethSA says:

        Hahahaha babe they ‘top’ with their asses too. They don’t let anything hold them back.

      • Muah says:

        Lol butt plug it!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        The vast majority of gay men fall into this category but the others are the ones who get more attention and end up representing a whole group of people

  83. Promise says:

    DD/lg

  84. Muah says:

    Typically where men want you to dress like a little girl and call them daddy.

  85. Muah says:

    Well clearly very insecure which always makes me sad as a fellow female. Relationships are about respect and partnership – not trying to prove you are good enough for the other person.

    • BethSA says:

      Amen to that sister and having a preference that SD should seek such. The fact that he might like red heads and seeking blondes, then make them change the color of their hair to make him happy shows he’s manipulative and obviously power drunk.

  86. Promise says:

    I hope that there’s a new blog about BDSM soon.

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      I hope there’s a new format where a discussion about BDSM can happen without me having to scroll through comments to carry on a conversation on the current topic…or to keep in touch with multiple threads because the blog is the only way for us to interact.

      If you’re interested in BDSM, having a blog would be a great first step for SA to talk about it in relation to Sugar…and introduce a contributor for a Forum to continue the discussion! There are actually FOUR different forums (at least) that could spring from that single blog post:

      SB as receiver
      SB as giver
      SD as receiver
      SD as giver

      • MissLady says:

        or just a general sub’s and dom’s forum….

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I’m not a part of the lifestyle, so I would have to defer…but I would think there is a different dynamic being the SB and being the Dom than being the SD and being the Dom?

        From my perspective, it’s very different “paying” someone to dominate you than “paying” someone to let you dominate them…

        or am I out of bounds here? (again, not a part of the lifestyle)…

      • MissLady says:

        lol, I’m not either. But I’ve seen SD’s that ask for a dom and were willing to give an allowance for it, so I would think that a dom is a dom no matter the gender and will have the same types of discussions

      • Promise says:

        Are you happy people are talking more today?

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        A bit of conversation…there was some dull time throughout the day…I just hate when I’m not real busy for the day and there’s no entertainment 😉

      • BethSA says:

        I’m with you on this one.

    • BethSA says:

      Yes, I’ve raised that topic probably about four forums back, would be an interesting discussion I think.

    • Muah says:

      Age play disgusts me. Don’t try and hide your pedophilia behind a fetish.

      • Promise says:

        I think there’s a difference. One likes being young minded and care free. One likes adult women that act childish.
        I personally wouldn’t try it though.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Age play is out of bounds for me as well…I’m sure there COULD be an element of pedophilia disguised in the fetish…but…if this is a way for someone to AVOID becoming an actual child molester, I’m all for coping mechanisms!

        Sex with a child is NEVER acceptable…so if someone gets off on playing the role of the child, and someone else can keep away from ACTUAL children, then I say more power to them…

      • Muah says:

        I was going to point that out actually, better to pretend than to act out on it. It’s still fucking creepy when you encounter someone into it.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Yeah, I’m not sure how I would react to being asked for it from a SB who wanted to be the “little”…

        There’s also BEING immature (18-25) and ACTING immature (any age)…which is VERY different in my eyes to the Age Play issue.

      • Muah says:

        Yea I am referring to LITTLE girl age play :) Some guys like the spoiled brat thing but that’s different than prepubescent children.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        You know…speaking of prepubescent…there are those that believe women who shave are a part of the Age Play crowd because of that…just saying…

      • BethSA says:

        Thanks for bringing this up. ive always wondered about this. Some guys would be totally turned off by a clean shaved p****.
        I’ve never encountered any like that but me personally, I’m NOT a pubic hair person. Take it all off for me and if it never grows back I’d be the happiest.

      • Muah says:

        I prefer my men and myself well groomed (not bald, just groomed). The idea of pubic hair getting in my mouth or worse – stuck in my teeth, make me dry heave a little lol

      • Promise says:

        I’m eating! DX

      • Melissa says:

        Back of the throat is the worst *gag*

      • Promise says:

        I wanna try being an lg. :,(

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        From memory, the “Age Play” that was discussed with you @disqus_K7fiasc4SG:disqus was more of the innocence and naivety, rather than the prepubescent little girl dressing and acting…but I could be wrong…

      • Promise says:

        Oh yeah.

  87. BethSA says:

    Some people have to rely on their good looks to land a babe/daddy. Because when it comes to personality it’s a complete lack thereof.
    Putting another down does not make one better than the other.

    • Muah says:

      I don’t know if you saw this – But there was a girl the other day who was making fun of big women along with FunDude. Which was shitty enough… Ironically, she also pointed out how she was bigger at a size 10 at one point – yet was still making fun of “fatties” and what not. Let’s be honest: We all know she was trying to impress FunDude, but still…

      • BethSA says:

        First of all, she knows what it’s like to be fat and 2ndly it’s sad that she was trying to impress someone by being such a bitch which is never impressive.
        There are some gorgeous big women in the world, some of these skinny bitches making fun of them are no better than anyone else. Due to the fact that they have to clown someone else to feel good about themselves. It’s pathetic I tell you.

      • Muah says:

        Exactly. Her profile is linked in the previous blog. She might of changed it but she actually put that she would change her hair color if a man (SD) wanted her to. Not hating – it makes me feel bad.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I don’t think someone saying that she is open to changing her hair color if her SD has a preference is something to put her down about…now, if she’s got a Mary Poppins bag full of wigs she can use, that’s another story!

      • Promise says:

        Lmao

      • Muah says:

        She said her hair is dyed blonde at the moment and she would change it if a man asked her to.

        It’s not putting her down. It’s understanding what would compel someone to write that.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I had a lover in the past who would dye her hair different colors at times when she got her hair cut…it might have highlights or full color job, but she enjoyed the “personality” it gave her…if this person has no real pull to be blonde, but did it as a whim (or something else) I actually think it evokes confidence to say to someone “I know you might have come across me because there aren’t enough redheads and blonde is your 2nd favorite haircolor, so if you like redheads, don’t fret, I can pull off auburn as well”

      • Muah says:

        Seeing the full picture is important. This girl made fun of fat girls, when she was bigger at one point, also insulted a female for sticking up for big women – lists in her profile that she would change her appearance to please a man.

        Also women who hate on women or have few or no female friends = red flag. I have no idea if she has lady friends or not just saying.

        This doesn’t make her a bad person. This makes her a person with low self-worth who is willing to do anything to make herself appear more interesting, attractive, lucrative – what have you. When people attack and insult others with no cause (like her making fun of fatties) that just shows how sad she is in the inside.

        I get some people like to change their hair, but she put it in her profile as a message to men that she is compliant and willing to change who she is to please another.

        There’s a difference between compromising and changing who you are.

      • BethSA says:

        Well said. Again I’ll say, Poppet!!!

      • BethSA says:

        Some of these skinny SB’s making fun of the thick ones are on a SD site for so long and can’t land a freaking fly much less a SD and some of these Thick women have to put in place schedules to juggle daddies.
        I suggest the thick ones pass some of these skinny bitches a bone.

      • MissLady says:

        lol I resemble some of these skinny bitches, be nice! not all of us are bashing! (and no bone needed lol)

      • BethSA says:

        I know babe Hahahahaha that’s why I keep reiterating, the skinny bitches who make fun of the thick ones

      • Muah says:

        Lol, I think a lot people would consider you a skinny bitch 😛

      • Promise says:

        She’s my goal.

      • BethSA says:

        Who me? Oh yes I am. Hahahaha that’s why the guys won’t find me to be a bitter thick SB or a thick feminist SB, which they always call a woman who doesn’t shre their same views.

      • Muah says:

        Most of us sticking up for the big girls are thin girls. Irony.

      • BethSA says:

        It is true. Because not all thin girls are heartless, cucumber sandwich eating snobs.

      • Promise says:

        For the record I have nothing against big girls…except my aunt.

      • Muah says:

        Well she’s a big ol bitch – From what you’ve mentioned haha

  88. MissLady says:

    My vote for the forum based on the last 6 months observing from the sidelines. This blog sub community is SA’s best (and quickly becoming the worse) asset. The fact that some of the regulars who have displayed a willingness to be helpful get countless questions for assistance from people that have lurked shows that there are people who want to be successful with this site and curious about the potential from real world users. However the serious negativity(that goes both ways) is scaring just as many away or even giving the wrong impression about it.
    FAQ’s, the ability to let people rant about their own personal preferences and KEEP IT CONTAINED, ability to receive feedback and assistance to both SD’s and SB’s, (cause there are just as many SD’s that need help with navigating this process as well), controlling the SA message cause right now Tumblr is it, and getting rid of the damn trolls through a properly authenticated user registration alone would be priceless, and you can still mine the data generated for ideas/topics/etc.

  89. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Here’s hoping there is some conversation today…here’s wishing there was a new topic (although, that would probably mean a new way to comment and I’m not in the mood for that either!)

    • Promise says:

      What if they go back?

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I’m not sure…no matter the way they decide to allow comments, someone can create a “false id” to comment, remain anonymous, lurk, cause problems, etc.

        I like having the ability to edit comments, but this format is VERY difficult to try to “catch up” on when you’ve been away for a day or more.

        I like there is an easy way to self-moderate with the flagging, but I can see how an anonymous person could take advantage of that and overrun the moderator with flaggings.

        It’s great we can share video and links, but I worry about the actual content at times getting too far away from topic…

        I don’t know…I just don’t like the homepage saying there’s “1 comment” and clicking through to see there’s a couple of hundred…

      • We will fix the 1 comment bug if the majority agrees to use Disqus. I don’t want to put the work into making the comment count work it if it turns out people didn’t like Disqus.

        Flagging can be used to to help with the videos.

        It isn’t much work for our team to review the blog comments on top of the profiles we review on a daily basis.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I think I’m okay with Disqus, it’s still a “getting used to it” phase for me, but I’m trying…

        @Jeff Hamersly:disqus If you have anything to do with the website maintenance, I had a “bug” over the weekend, and a suggestion:

        On my phone (or tablet, or convertible laptop) the entire website goes unreadable in Profile mode. In Landscape mode it’s fine, but I think the frames cover each other or something because there is nothing readable when it’s in Profile mode (which would be easier to read the blog or even profiles when on phone/tablet)

        Also, on the Home Page, the lists that appear as “recommended” profiles are getting more and more “global”. If there was a way to designate in my profile what distance I was interested in, having better opportunities in that screen would be a benefit to search, rather than a distraction.

        Just a couple more ideas…

      • Howdy OnlineNewbieSD,

        I do work with the development and marketing team on website product development. We are currently working on a new dashboard layout that features members who recently viewed you, and people in your area (not around the world).

        Your request for having profile preferences for distance is noted, I think this is something SA can use in general.

        Regarding the portrait mode bug where everything goes blank. Are you referring to the blog or the SA website? Could you post a screenshot of what you are seeing?

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I will try to do this next time I’m using remotely!

      • FlyBoy says:

        Hey Jeff :)

        This new Disqus format is dog shit! These comment management systems are meant for drive by commenting not a lasting conversation.

        The proper software to manage a community is a forum (bulletin board) package.

        There are many advantages to a forum package, among them:

        . The ability to have long lasting threads on important recurring subjects such when to start talking about allowances.

        . Ability to create one’s own threads.

        . PM other members.

        .Less intimidating to newcomers.

        etc etc etc.

        You mentioned that a forum might increase the moderation load on the staff. Nothing could be further from the truth.

        In a forum environment; you moderate members and not posts. In other words, you establish a list of rules and warn any member who break those rules. Repeated violations should cause a ban.

        One of the simplest rules that will destroy the mental health of trolls is thread topic exclusivity. Put simply, if the thread topic is allowances, then only allowances can be discussed in that thread. This will declutter the subject and enable even newcomers to ascertain who is a serious writer and who is a clown. Also it will aid in moderation since the owner of the thread will most likely complain to you, and you will have a clear violation of the rules on your hand.

        Forum format is the answer if SA wants a thriving community.

        Cheers :)

      • FunDude718 says:

        You sure you want “moderation” of members?

        I can promise the “moderation” will be in the form of:

        1) No anti feminism posts
        2) No anti BBW posts
        3) No anti “female” posts as decided by “moderation”.

        Things that will NEVER be moderated include:

        1) Man bashing posts
        2) Sugar Daddy bashing posts
        3) “Splenda” Daddy bashing posts

        The “moderation” will be dictated by the feminist/mangina agenda.

        Lets be honest here man.

      • FlyBoy says:

        If you think SA is inherently ‘anti’ men and ‘pro’ women, then why are you here?

        I did not say what subjects should or should not be moderated. That’s SAs problem not mine.

        As far as I am concerned, you can post anything you want, provided you did it in the appropriate thread(s) ( when/if we have a forum). For example, you can start a thread titled “Why BBWs should fuck off SA?” and post in it all your thoughts about the subject. Those who are not interested will simply ignore the thread.

        Cheers :)

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        The benefit to the forum, from what I can read of FlyBoy’s post, is that @fundude718:disqus could create a thread about allowances that is directed at SDs to bitch about how BBWs and strippers want too much for what they are worth…

        A COMPLETELY separate thread directed at SBs to talk about ways to maximize the allowance while minimizing the playtime with the fat ugly sex offenders…

        ANOTHER thread could be directed at students promoting ways to get tuition covered by a SD that makes it more like a scholarship, allowing her to keep more of the cash for “fun”

        ETC, ETC, ETC

        This is an exciting option…because then it would be up to the individual THREAD CREATOR to moderate the comments.

        Stick to the comments on the threads where you can contribute, you should never be banned…comment on the wrong person’s thread, you might get reprimanded by the Administrator!

      • FlyBoy says:

        Bingo!!

      • Muah says:

        Since big women aren’t his thang (and strippers?) I don’t understand why he is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO damn bothered by those people. Maybe he secretly LOVES big women but is too ashamed, so he incessantly insults the very idea that men would be attracted to them.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        @KissKissBitches:disqus I’m not agreeing, just pointing out the benefits of the forum format for the conversations…just want to make sure!

      • Muah says:

        Lol, not saying you were – Just pondering “fundude’s” hatred towards big women :) I wish there were fun emoticons on here – like with facebook!

      • FunDude718 says:

        My “hatred” comes from the fact that stupid blogs like this are being pushed down men’s throats.

        There is an attempt by fat women to DEMAND men accept them as attractive.

        I don’t see the equivalent poor men DEMANDING women accept no allowance/poor allowance blog posts.

        Please show me where these blog posts are.

      • Muah says:

        Man you are self centered. Good thing you have money. PS: This particular blog was directed at women. NOT MEN. Lols.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        You keep saying that over and over again. No one is demanding anything from you.

        Ohh and yes there are equivalent posts of men demanding women accept their allowances even if they’re low. She’s either called a Pro, Prostitute, Escort, Hoe, Whore or the like if the allowance offers aren’t what the SB is seeking.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I was thinking the same thing! lol but I didn’t want to stir the pot

      • Muah says:

        We took a personality quiz at work, turns out I am a “pot stirrer” :) #truestory

      • MissLady says:

        LOL!!

      • BethSA says:

        There is absolutely no reason for him to be mean towards them. IT goes too far sometimes.
        The world isn’t filled with supermodels, so he should deal with that.

      • FunDude718 says:

        You must secretly love broke OLD men then since you incessantly bitch about “splenda” allowances.

        Are you ashamed to admit this?

      • Muah says:

        I only respond to people when the topic of splenda pops up – DUH. You on the other hand, constantly create new random threads , post videos – all supporting how much you disklike big women. Check your argument haha

      • Promise says:

        To be fair there is a whole Tumblr blog dedicated to bashing SD for being salts or splendas. However the majority of the time I’ve seen submissions from them it’s just girls that are mad that they aren’t getting what they want right off the bat and don’t want to work their way up to the bigger money.

      • MissLady says:

        on Tumblr, not SA…..

      • Muah says:

        Yes, but this isn’t Tumblr :)

      • Promise says:

        It affects their status on SA though.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        I always thought the same. FunDude could be a closet chubby chaser. No one talks that much about what they aren’t attracted to unless they want to constantly keep the visuals of those individuals on their mind.

      • Muah says:

        So true! Like when someone incessantly accuses their S/O of cheating, it’s usually because they are cheating. Projection of guilty feelings.

      • Muah says:

        Yes – Because not liking men who don’t provide an allowance on a mother effing SUGAR DATING website IS the same as saying: How dare big women think men like them.

        You are such a tool. I hope you tie that bullshit down when you see your patients.

        PS: Where are the “man bashing posts”? What a joke.

      • FunDude718 says:

        No its called a SUGAR BABY/SUGAR DADDY relationship!

        Ergo, its catered for HOT YOUNGER WOMEN to pair with OLDER ESTABLISHED MEN!

        Fat BBW women should be paired to broke SDs.

      • Josh says:

        WOW!!! FlyGirl makes sense.

      • MissLady says:

        not to mention being able to ban IP’s and monitoring multiple personalities is a LOT better

      • Howdy FlyBoy,

        Noted about discuss, we are looking into BB / forum software.

        We were thinking of creating a forum on a completely new domain separate from SeekingArrangement.

      • You’ve been heard, loud and clear. Thank you for bringing this to my attention.

        I’m working with our development team to put a SA forum on the roadmap. I’ll be sure to let you guys know once we have something more solid.

      • Muah says:

        I like Disqus – At least there are separate threads to follow/read… AND you can respond back to someone directly.

        Someone mentioned blocking multiple IPs so people cannot have many different profiles on here – is that a feature with disqus? That’s a good feature if it is…

      • Promise says:

        On Disqus the mods can ban people 3 different ways: they can ban the username, e-mail address, or IP address. I actually remember someone who got there IP banned. Then a few months later they reappeared. I think we all know what that meant. 😉
        If you want to get unbanned you have to email them.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I’m really thinking the idea of a forum might be the right way to go…as mentioned…there could be a separate discussion from the blog topic!

        This way, someone that wants to help with profiles can do that, without having to continue to find the conversation on the next blog topic…if someone wants to get perspective about allowances, that doesn’t clog the blog commentary.

        Yeah, I want to change my vote…I’m thinking forum rather than blog comments!

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        If they stay with Disqus, I hope @AdministratorJeff:disqus bans the username Anonymous…force the commenter to pick some sort of name.

        I also wish there was a way to “register” the username/moniker to an email address, so that once someone used the moniker if someone else tried it was “blocked” from being used…that way we wouldn’t have some people able to try to look like someone else is posting.

      • Muah says:

        Do you really think people would even do that?

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Yes…yes, I do think there are people who would do that…there were discussions in blogs past about a moniker that was “hijacked” for a period of time…

        When the gravatar became popular, it was easier to tell someone hijacking it, because the picture would be different (unless they just mistyped their email address in that box)

        But, if someone doesn’t utilize gravatar (new poster for instance) it would be easy for someone to hijack the moniker and create issues…

        Remember, administration needs to focus on the lowest common denominator in a system…

      • Muah says:

        Strange. I just find it hard to believe that someone would be such a complete pathetic, loser that they would need to pretend to be someone else. Not saying I don’t believe you lol

      • Promise says:

        Remember the cow from last time?

      • LadyScarlett says:

        The cow would be the poster ygbkm, right? Funny you mentioned her, since you were not around when she posted 😉

      • Muah says:

        I feel like I’ve recently seen ygbkm ???

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Oh, has she posted, lately? I haven’t been keeping up with the blog much lately, but dropped by the other day and today, and have not seen her…she was pretty witty sometimes and enjoyed her posts very much.

      • Muah says:

        I’m not sure but I feel like I’ve seen her name somewhere in the last few blogs. Not sure though. It could be the coffee…

      • Promise says:

        I was around for a little while before she vanished. I wasn’t talking about her though. The person that started the bs about Josh and I being the same, and made fun of FunDude’s 23yo blonde.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Oh, I don’t know about the cow, but I assumed you meant ygbkm’s cow gravatar she has.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Unfortunately, muah, I have seen several girls who tried posting questions and asking for help come back and say that their username and some things posted were not actually posted by them, over the past year. And, I witnessed one day how Josh made some immature and rude posts pretending to be a poster named, ygbkm that was clearly not her. Why that has been allowed to go on, I do not understand.

      • Muah says:

        Josh is a certain kind of special. Sometimes I doubt that he’s actually a sugar daddy at all. Just some sad loser desperate for attention, trying to ruin the experience for those of us actually trying to get something positive from sugar dating…

      • Thank you for the feedback!

        As moderators can only block individual IPs, there is no built-in method to stop people from posting under different anonymous accounts.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I like that I can read all the replies to a comment in one place without having to scroll through a hundred to find the original.

      • BethSA says:

        Same here, man was that inconveniencing

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I think that could be accomplished with the forum format that was discussed..but…instead of waiting for a blog to be posted, and then to be distracted from the actual topic of the blog post…we could have a continual conversation about a specific topic, with a thread “leader” backed up by the SA Moderator to keep things on topic for the thread and eliminate any “hate” from the discussion…I think..

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I’m not against the forum idea. I just didn’t like the format they had before.

      • Promise says:

        I like how we can post gifs, and pictures.

      • MissLady says:

        no bueno! especially for phone people….

      • Promise says:

        I can post them from my phone. The few pictures and gifs I posted were from my phone.

      • MissLady says:

        yes, you can post from your phone, but having to render them on a phone with already long/unwieldy threads is a PITA

  90. Promise says:

    Has a fat person ever called you fat even though you were smaller than them?

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      Yes…I don’t consider myself “fat”, but I do have a few extra pounds on me…I had a family member (who was well over 300 lbs.) comment about my weight because I had put on about 20 lbs (pushing me just over 200 lbs) since the last time I saw HER…three years earlier.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      Yes I’ve had that happen. A cousin tried that in the middle of a party. Made a comment about how I had to be careful because I had put on weight. And I Told her when I get to her size I’d worry. You should’ve seen her face when everyone started laughing.

      • Muah says:

        OMG the balls that some people have. I would’ve responded the same way! I’m sure there’s some people who don’t stick up for themselves but I’m not one of them.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        She’s one of the few people I never let get away with anything. She’s always making passive aggressive comments to people. the size in my pic is what she was talking about. I use to be slimmer but I like my new size better. My chest is huge and I think the new frame balances it out better.

      • Muah says:

        Family or not – Super insecure/jealous/ignorant people just suck. My best friend has a cousin like that. She’s absolute white trash but always has something bitchy to say about my friend’s life… Even though my friend is doing 1000x better than her cousin will ever do and is – you know – not white trash lol.

      • Promise says:

        I’m about 135 lbs. and my aunt has made comments my weight since we’ve been in New Jersey. She’s huge compared to me, and even has a fupa. However she doesn’t even say these comments in English she always says it in Creole so that I don’t know what she’s saying unless someone else tells me. She always does this whenever she talks about me. Ever since I was a child.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        You’re Haitian? SO am. I cool. That’s kind of the opposite cultural they usually like you to have more meat on the bones. My mom always thinks I’m near deaths door and trying to force me to eat lol. If she has a daughter who you are more attractive than that might explain the comments

      • Promise says:

        Except for her, and an uncle everyone of her siblings are thin. Yet nothing is ever said about them or any of our other thin relatives. Also happy Flag Day.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Some women are just petty and jealous. I wouldn’t let her get to you. Just take it as a compliment if you weren’t attractive and amazing she wouldn’t exert the effort into trying to put you down. Happy flag day to you also. :)

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        Flag Day? US Flag Day is June 14

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Haitian flag day is May 18

      • Promise says:

        Haitian Flag Day

      • Muah says:

        Not saying that Haitian and Puerto Rican are the same – However, Puerto Rico/ans seem to have the same mind set. My former boss is Puerto Rican and he was always commenting how I was too skinny when I was at about 135 (which was a very heavy point for me). He wasn’t being ‘nice’ either… When I was in Puerto Rico many of the locals commented how skinny was (at 120) Lol, LOVED IT! Also loved the mojitos and the Caipiroskas…. Loved the fact that I could get booze at the Denny’s too.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Latin/Caribbean cultures usually have the same mindset. Just difference in languages. : )

      • THEATLSD says:

        That’s correct. And all have awesome food.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        yes they do I always tell people the best thing about being Haitian is the food and the music

      • Muah says:

        Slap that bitch!

      • Promise says:

        I can’t slap my aunt.

      • Muah says:

        Lol, do it when no one is looking 😉

      • Promise says:

        She’s sat on me 3 times since we’ve been here. Might as well.

      • THEATLSD says:

        @Promise. You are going to need years of therapy.

      • Promise says:

        Why?! *cries out a window*

  91. FunDude718 says:

    Black Israelites vs BBW feminist

    Great hilarity ensues!

    She is probably the chick flagging all the videos on here.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F23cn4zjZn0

    • DVNY says:

      As a black woman this made me laugh my ass off. These men were minding their own business and that woman came and caused trouble. I have seen it too many times. I’m sorry but she deserved to be arrested. Really who does that? It seems that she doesn’t know the definition of the word rape, and she should really know better than to go up against the Black Nubians, because they will shut anyone down in a second. I don’t agree with their views, but I will defend to the death their right to have them. This is America after all.

      • FunDude718 says:

        I approve of how they handled that situation. It was the proper response.

      • Josh says:

        Agreed that she was annoying as hehelp, but since I don’t condone violence, I kinda disagree with how they handled the situation. They shouldn’t have pushed her. She looked mentally challenged BBW.

      • Josh says:

        *annoying as hell.

      • FunDude718 says:

        She was the one getting violent first. She pushed into them aggressively and they pushed her away from them.

        They were just able to push harder.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      ok this one was funny. Did you see how angry she got when they said no one has ever sexually harassed her? And she is not a feminist. What she was saying made absolutely no sense.

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      Ok she was annoying and it was obvious she wanted to start something but couldn’t even get a proper argument going. What surprised me is that they pushed her for what reason I don’t even know. Then they pushed her again this time harder. After that she played the poor me victim which in general would have worked to her benefit. The police saw she approached them for no other reason than to start drama. I bet she envisioned that ending going a totally different way.

      Was that women mentally off? I don’t think so. She apparently had a plan to start drama , play victim and then get the men arrested. It backfired. That is why her face was like ” But But …. I shouldn’t be in handcuffs”.

      Something may have happened to her in the past so she’s trying to take action on any man she could find to feel better about what that real predator took from her.

      Still they shouldn’t have touched her.

  92. Stop Flagging Posts says:

    When you give women power to vote…

  93. Jaybird923 says:

    wow there’s a lot of comments awaiting moderation. Whoever’s doing it need to stop. I don’t like 99% of the things fundude post but it is his right to do so. If you don’t like something vote it down or post a comment. Stop hiding behind the flag button.

    • FunDude718 says:

      Yeah some of the fatty ladies are being passive aggressive.

      Probably lady scarlett or something.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        lol See 99% of the things he say I don’t like. He could have easily said someone is being passive aggressive and left at that since he doesn’t know who’s actually doing.

      • Muah says:

        You’re not mad at him, he just likes the attention! 😉

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        LadyScarlett would not do that. She happily will own up to her own opinion.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Haha, just saw this…exactly, struggles! And, thank you. As you noticed, I have had no problem putting fundud-josh in his place and setting him straight under my OWN blog name, since I started posting last year, so no reason to change that now. He is just a miserable and nastily mean nutter with a severe case of blog persona schizophrenia, and for some reason is obsessed with commenting under every post I make like a little puppy follows you around nipping at your heels, or bringing up my name here, even though I rarely post anymore. I try to ignore responding to foolish bored weirdos most of the time now, as any attention, good or bad, is what it seeks.

    • FunDude718 says:

      They never give the numbers of these people.

      I lived pretty close to that area in NYC. That was pretty rare.

      • Jj says:

        seen it in action; it’s for real!

      • FunDude718 says:

        I never said that it NEVER happened.

        I was asking about the frequency. It would venture it was quite rare out of the total population in NYC.

    • DVNY says:

      NYC is sued for things like that all the time, she won’t get all the money. They’ll probably give her 100,000 for the fall and send her on her way. If she complains and files an appeal then they will throw the whole thing out and won’t give her anything. This is par for the course in NYC. Everybody does it. It keeps the city on it’s toes, without the suits they wouldn’t repair anything.

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      So, WHERE is he? I didn’t see any there! LOL
      Also, I don’t think I’m THAT picky, though I do know by now what kind of guy does it for me and what kind doesn’t. LOL

    • DVNY says:

      Oh geez, I’m a walking stereotype and I didn’t even know it. That article pertained to me through each stage of my life without me even trying. Now I should try something different. Go against the grain. Well, I am doing something a little different…I’m turning down younger men, but that is after the fact. If I ever get picky when I hit 55 someone please slap some sense into me.
      Funny how they didn’t do this study for men. I would like to see how this stands up with how men pick women as they age.

      • Josh says:

        DVNY

        It’s simple for men. They prefer 21-23 all thru their lives. Unless of course, she grows older while she is with them. The new one is 21-23. LOL!

    • Jj says:

      “Perfect man” in a females dream and will settle in hopes to “change” them of lay claim to their wallets!!! Just say’n…

  94. Lady Sage says:

    Has anyone took notice of Tess Holiday? I find her to be stunning. She just signed a huge mainstream modeling contract. For longevity (health) she may want to think toward positive changes. Her man is a handsome looking fellow.

    The models at top of this article are shapely. There is a immense difference between curvy and the woman portrayed in the video at 400 pounds (who was intent on getting bigger).

    Alright time for me to study before bed. Long shift tomorrow. Have a lovely evening People of the Page.

  95. Yaniyah says:

    Some men like BBW… To each his own.

  96. Josh says:

    Well, they are deleting my posts now. Well, whatever…

    • FunDude718 says:

      What did you write about?

      I got a few deleted as well.

      • Promise says:

        Aren’t they still under moderation?

      • Josh says:

        @Fundude: Two times I posted to remove the flag feature, two times, and they deleted my posts both times.

        @Promise: They are not moderated. They are GONE WITH THE DIGITAL WIND.

      • Promise says:

        I don’t think flagging can be removed. I’m on mobile, and just refreshed. Your posts are still under moderation over here.

      • Josh says:

        I cannot see them. So some woman is diligently flagging them I guess. :(

      • Promise says:

        I have someone in mind, but they’re not overweight so I don’t think it’s them.
        Also in the end it’s the mods who decide if they get deleted or not.

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        Done with shopping and gym, huh? Thanks for the tunes. You are such a man. LOL

  97. Promise says:

    I really don’t want to be here. :( Someone please distract me before I cry.

  98. FunDude718 says:

    Another GREAT song for everyone’s viewing entertainment!

    BBWs are GREAT SINGERS! I think we should make her the new SA model on the login page!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQvoil-M2lU

    • Lady Sage says:

      You’ve done it now funbutt. You’re going to be moderated like no one has been moderated before. She moves pretty well. Ok! I’m off to practice this dance.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Come on!

        You can’t moderate her!!!!! She’s got some skills!

      • Josh says:

        They will have to redefine the phrase “It ain’t over till the fat lady signs”. It is discriminating phrase from the dog gone patriarchal age. It should be rephrased as “It ain’t over till the BBL signs.”

    • Josh says:

      She’s cool. I like her. Better than the feeding model.

  99. Josh says:

    Jeff, you will have to disable the flag feature. Otherwise, the largely non-paying female members will continue to flag posts and increase your workload.

  100. Josh says:

    Jeff, you will have to disable the flag feature otherwise the female members who don’t pay much or anything at all will continue to increase your work.

  101. FunDude718 says:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQRDqAqwGAk

    Sugar dating according to ABC lol

    At least they aren’t pretending they aren’t having sex.

    Got to love the red pill comments throughout the youtube video

    • Lady Sage says:

      This was depressing. The girl actually cried. What the heck. Took the wind out of my sails!

  102. FunDude718 says:

    Going shopping then gym.

    Leave you all with some good music!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHEfat7DR3M

  103. FunDude718 says:

    Kinda sad how this blog is being “moderated” in a manner that will only allow the pro BBW side.

    Even when I support a BBW model campaign, that has been “moderated” as well.

    White Knighting at its finest

  104. FunDude718 says:

    I demand seeking arrangement use these ladies as their MODELS!

    Men love BBW women not fake Victoria Secret models.

    Men want REAL WOMEN with CURVES!!!!! Stop the fat shaming!

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      Wow did you really have to post those? Also those women are not BBWs they’re considered SSBBW ( Super Sized) 250lbs+

  105. FunDude718 says:

    No way!

    I have learned from this seeking arrangement blog that BBWs are VERY DESIRABLE!

    I have learned the error in my ways!

    We should encourage all women to EAT EAT EAT!

    • Lady Sage says:

      You’ve been saved. Hallelujah

      • FunDude718 says:

        I have seen the LIGHT.

        The moderators at seeking arrangement have shown the folly in my ways.

        I encourage all women to chubbing up to at LEAST 250lbs!

        I think we need to change all the models on the SA blog to BBWs as well

        Too much fat shaming going on around here!

        Who the hell would want stick figure Victoria Secret models? Those aren’t REAL WOMEN!

  106. I Sit Around for BBW says:

    I agree with @FunDude

    We must see BBW on the main page of SA. If one is not put on the main page then we know the hypocrisy of egging women on here.

  107. Lady Sage says:

    This is a horrific example of a family dynamic. I won’t shame anyone, but as a mom I cannot understand not only accepting, but encouraging such unhealthy choices. The future of suffering from CAD, diabetes, HTN, high cholesterol, stroke, resp issues, and bone/joint issues is so greatly increased. Life is already short enough. why risk loss of quality and quantity of the life span.

    • Jessa89 says:

      One word: counseling.

    • FunDude718 says:

      Are you saying there is something wrong with being a BBW?

      Why are you FAT shaming such wonderful ladies?

      I mean thats misogyny!

    • FunDude718 says:

      why is my comment now being placed on “moderation”?

      Is that video offensive? Fat shaming?

      • Lady Sage says:

        Don’t blame me. I thought it was enlightening. You have been struck by lurkers.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Im not blaming you.

        I notice my comments are getting upvoted by a decent amount of the ladies.

        I think some people have an issue with contrary opinions on this blog.

      • Promise says:

        Someone flagged it. Now the mods have to review it to see if it’s worth deleting.

    • DVNY says:

      ITA with you Lady Sage, this woman’s mother is killing her daughter slowly and she’s too ignorant to know it. By enabling her daughter’s food habit she is no better than those families who enable their relatives problems with drugs. This woman has an eating disorder and needs help not encouragement. It’s really too bad, she’s taking years off her life just to be part of some sick guys fantasies. Not only is she completely destroying her future health, by what I can see what she is doing doesn’t even pay that well, or she is using all her earnings up in food, which makes her doubly stupid, because the first rule of business is make the customers pay for supplies.

  108. Jessa89 says:

    OMG..this is gross.

  109. GeorgiaPeach says:

    Hey Dr. Fun
    I am no where near the above weight challenged female. LOL That one is rather gross. Also, I have no tats, etc. LOL
    I thought you would be somewhere having fun with your 23 y/o Blonde, skinny, best-ever, sexy, G/F. Is she too much for you now? LOL

    • FunDude718 says:

      I was out until 4 AM last night with her.

      She just left my apartment about an hour ago. That is when I decided to go onto this wonderful blog for fun lol

  110. Jessa89 says:

    Lmao. This is legit.

  111. THEATLSD says:

    My area as new delusional wanna be SB. She has “substantial” checked. In her “What I’m looking for” She states, “I want substantial and will not settle for anything less. This not negotiable.” Yeaaaa good luck with that SB.

  112. THEATLSD says:

    I can not get Disqus to link to my Gravatar page to grab my Gravatar? Does anybody else have that issue or did you just upload a pic to Disqus. I want CompuServe back!!!

  113. THEATLSD says:

    Good morning Lady Sage. Did you say you were Ms.Per?? If so, I saw your updated profile. Personally I like that, You now have a casual pic with a real natural smile to compliment your “awesome” formal pic. I was surprise you showed your face I thought u were concerned with privacy? Either way I think you should be able to find a SD rather quickly.

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      I have not seen her updated profile, but can definitely say “DAYUM! Now those are some legit curves!”

      • Lady Sage says:

        @struggleisreal:disqus Thank you my lady. The gold dress was Herve, they just fit to darn good. You are wonderfully curved yourself!

    • Lady Sage says:

      This indeed me, Ms. Per! I decided to throw caution to the wind. I did not want to waste time, blurry photos hide features that someone may or may not like. I just stuck one out there as the initial “this is me”. It seems like those who really interest me are not local. This may be a common issue? Thanks for the kind words @THEATLSD:disqus

  114. Thus Spake Guru says:

    Can people still see my re-write of this silly blog article? I have a reason to believe that it has been put on moderation and is not visible to others anymore.

    • THEATLSD says:

      It shows “awaiting moderation” but if you click on show comment. It comes up and is readable. Learning curve still going on here.

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      @THEATLSD:disqus is right. It shows awaiting moderation. With all your efforts here (rewriting blog articles), you ought to just go start your own. Or, you could do as you are now, and try to hijack SA’s blog for some strange personal agenda which you will not explain but to which you continually allude.

    • FunDude718 says:

      Yeah saw that.

      I guess they are afraid of the TRUTH on this blog.

      There was nothing that required “moderation” of your blog rewrite.

      It was an accurate comparison with this RIDICULOUS BBW article.

  115. Josh says:

    Official Definition of a Troll:

    “Anyone I don’t like to read or hear is a troll.”

  116. StruggleIsReal says:

    Good morning! Glad you were able to sleep in a bit! Hehe “people of the page” :)

  117. DVNY says:

    I hate this but it is true. I mean he is talking about women who weigh over 175. No one should weight over 175. Unless they are a six foot tall female basketball player.

  118. Promise says:

    Who’s Tom Leykis and what did he do?

    • Tom Leykis says:

      Promise

      Type “Tom Leykis — Fat Women are for poor loser men” in YouTube and you will find out. 😉

  119. BethSA says:

    Haven’t commented in a while, sorry guys. I’ve been so busy with things lately, My country recently had our general presidential elections and my uncle who was running for president won, so he was sworn in today. We’re super excited about the change.
    I feel great right now
    So now it’s vacation time for me and il have to return in time for the inaugural party on independence day.
    I just had to share this news with you guys.

  120. BethSB says:

    Haven’t commented in a while, sorry guys. I’ve been so busy with things lately, My country recently had our general presidential elections and my uncle who was running for president won, so he was sworn in today. We’re super excited about the change.
    I feel great right now
    So now it’s vacation time for me and il have to return in time for the inaugural party on independence day.
    I just had to share this news with you guys.

  121. Tom Leykis says:

    @FunDude

    You are correct. My posting of Tom Leykis was banned. Oh well, this proves that a big majority of women signing up at SA are NOT slim and NOT athletic.

  122. Broke Ass Daddy says:

    What if a broke ass man loves supermodels?

    If he’s confident enough in his brokeness when why should he be shamed into settling with a non-supermodel?

  123. rembodler says:

    Not a big fan of this new format.
    Regardless, looks like the stars have aligned. As we all know these things aren’t meant to last…but we all should enjoy it, while they last.
    I wish everybody a great funkin arrangement. Even you, Uncommon.

  124. StruggleIsReal says:

    I am supposed to go shopping with GB’s CC today, and I am failing miserably. I am THE worst retail shopper. Such a deal-hound, it pains me to buy full-priced retail unless I am salivating over the item, even when it is his card and he is urging me to go have some fun with it. I went out to try some shopping, and ended up just eating cheesecake and coming back home because I felt awkward walking around in heels and a skirt without him. Now I am attempting my hand at online shopping via ebay etc. He has asked if he can lick my pussy while I purchase things with his money. Hmmmm lemme think. YES and PLEASE.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      lmao I wouldn’t need the shopping part but I would gladly accept the rest of the offer. Now that’s going to pop up in sugar baby profiles everywhere… Looking for a man to lick my pussy while I shop online with his credit card.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Hahahaaaa omg crap! Totally not trying to feed that silliness! I don’t need the shopping part either! He wants it! I mean things could be worse I suppose. LoL I’m not sure the term, but he loves for me to go to the spa and/or shop, pamper myself, all on his dime etc. I know the guys have mentioned the name for a guy like that before. I am starting to realize he may have tendencies like that. On the last blog I mentioned how he actually got a little upset when I paid for something that he had said he would pay for….

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Too late you’ve already fed the silliness. : ) Some guys get off on being the provider but sometimes it’s hard to stand back and let them do it when you’re accustomed to doing for yourself. Hey If it’s makes him happy let him just find ways to spoil him in return

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Good call. I’m learning :) I need a good “go-to” store at which I know I can generally find something that I like. Somewhere with well-curated items. I cannot deal with a huge department store. All the options blow my mind and I just shut down.
        Any ideas for stores like that? @KennaKenna Your advice here too per favor?

      • Jaybird923 says:

        If I’m shopping for other people I go into the stores I like searching for the perfect thing for them. But for me I just like to go online so much easier. I like stores like Bloomingdale’s that have free returns so if I get it try it on and don’t like it I just ship back no problem. I like to cook and bake so I’m more likely to buy things for those hobbies instead of clothes.

    • KennaKenna says:

      Wait he told you to shop and you didn’t buy anything? lol

      We are sooooo different… Even if I don’t buy something for myself/baby, I always buy something for hubby.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Correct. This is the one area I have noticed that we do diverge on. I just simply don’t like shopping. I do like to grocery shop and I like to shop if it has a “point”. I am terrible if it’s just “hey go spend my money”.

        Honestly, I need to find a way to feel that I have not wasted money and more importantly have also provided him something that he feels turned on by. He loves me to spend his money on myself. I rarely spend money on myself. It’s a little bit of a learning curve.

      • Josh says:

        Why must you buy crap?

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        LoL! Why do you say that?

  125. Thus Spake Guru says:

    I had asked @FunDude if he wanted to write a corresponding male version, but he did not do it. So I am wasting a few minutes of my life doing it.

    Here is the male version of the silly blog article SA wrote above as per its policy of egging women on for no good reasons…

    The Sugar Bowl is known for its variety of generous Sugar Daddies, it’s no secret that Sugar comes in all shapes, colors, and sizes.

    Everyone has a type, and there is someone who will want you exactly for who you are. It’s important not to let rejection discourage you from showcasing your true self.

    The SeekingArrangement blog has been buzzing with questions and concerns from the broke ass Sugar Daddy community. With the hot topic on the rise, our team has created a guide that will help those Sugar Daddies who have a little less to spend. Check it out!

    Confidence is Key!

    Confidence is the key to success in any dating scenario and there is no exception in the Sugar world. Keep in mind that Sugar doesn’t come in one type. A high allowance is not the epitome of the perfect daddy, so please don’t put too much emphasis on your budget.

    Showing you are comfortable with your budget will go a long way, especially if your confidence is bright enough for others to see. Don’t be afraid to exhibit self love on
    your SA profile.

    Potential Sugar Babies can gauge your confidence… or lack thereof by the content in your profile. What does your bio say about you? Do your profile pictures exude confidence? Your profile is a woman’s key to getting to know you before meeting. Be sure to speak highly of yourself and post your best photos. Just don’t get too carried away. You definitely don’t want to come off stuck up, or self absorbed. Remember Sugar is sweet, not rotten. Unless you’re spoiled rotten of course.

    Avoid comparing yourself to the next daddy, and learn to accept yourself for who you are.There will always be someone richer, smarter, and more generous than you. You’ll go insane if you don’t show yourself the love you deserve.

    How you wear it!

    Sugar Daddies love keeping up with the latest trends in allowance. But in order to look most generous it’s important to know your allowance type. Wear clothes that compliment your allowance and highlight your best assets. Broke is definitely in, but it depends on how you present it!

    Wear according to your budget type and avoid clothing that is too pretentious. Don’t kill yourself trying to fit into those moderate budget type. We all dream of being rich, but let’s be real! If you ain’t rich, don’t force it. You don’t shop at Nordstrom for a reason. Trust me, your new potential Sugar Baby will appreciate it!

    Don’t drown yourself in high interest rate credit to hide your income. High interest rate credit cards and loan sharks are not cool. Confidence plays a big role in your appearance. Make yourself feel handsome, and let it show through your sense of class and style. Always look your best, especially on Sugar dates. A woman can smell confidence a mile away!

    Honesty is the best policy.

    Always be truthful about your finances. No one wants to be financially Catfished. Upload photos that depict an honest representation of what you are worth. If this means you have to take new pictures, use it as an opportunity for a mini photo shoot. Let your inner selfie king shine!

    Being honest can be especially difficult when it comes to selecting the allowance type that fits you most on your profile. SeekingArrangement gives five options: High, substantial, moderate, practical, and minimal. Admitting that you are at a minimal allowance level isn’t easy, but you have to be honest to avoid misleading a POT.

    If your profile is upfront, you won’t have to worry about catching someone off guard when they hear your offer. This will save you and POTs time because you will attract Sugar Babies who love your generosity. Those who aren’t in favor of your allowance level will
    simply skip your profile instead of hurting your feelings later.

    If you are unsure of where you stand in terms of income, viewing a Department of Labor’s Bureau of Labor Statistics’ income chart may help give you a better idea of what your allowance is like based on your income and geographical location.

    Don’t take it personal.

    Lastly, understand that some Sugar Babies prefer to stick to a specific type. Don’t allow
    someone’s opinion of you to get you down. As cliché as it may sound, allowance is
    truly in the eye of the beholder. If you don’t fit her preference, you’ll just
    have to brush it off, and know you are better off with someone who does.

    Paint comes in different colors for a reason. You are entitled to have a preference as well.
    So be as picky as you want to be and don’t settle. The Sugar lifestyle is
    unlike any other, but relationships are universal… don’t forget it. Always
    remember your poise, and know there is a perfect Sugar Baby out there for you.
    Don’t give up on Sugar!

    What are your tips for succeeding as a broke ass Sugar Daddy?

    • Jaybird923 says:

      lol too much time on your hands today huh

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        I read the first couple sentences, and would like that time back. LoL

      • Thus Spake Guru says:

        Sweetheart, I feel your pain as you should feel the pain of SDs who have to read thru blog after blog of female-centric articles egging women on rinse men.

        That said, the intended goal of the rewrite has been achieved.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        That would be like everyday, on every blog, unfortunately for us….lol

      • Jaybird923 says:

        well it’s fortunate for me(at least for today) I’m in the same boat as him. I have absolutely nothing better to do with my time either. Today’s my lazy saturday where I do nothing but lay in bed..no chores no errands

      • FunDude718 says:

        Yeah BBW sugar babies wouldn’t like this article.

        It is the male equivalent. Deal with it.

    • KennaKenna says:

      HAHAHAHAHAHA! Good one Josh!

  126. Michelle says:

    Is it wrong that I don’t share my pictures on a simple “request to view your photos?”. I always write back and say, I would like to get to know you first before I share my private photos. Once we talk some, we shall share pictures” They never respond back or they say..”good luck finding someone.” What is wrong..ugh this site is so frustrating. Over a year and nothing.

    • Jaybird923 says:

      I’ve had that happen too. I would say the same thing and I was told by one of them that no one would want me cause I’m difficult lol and funniest part is it’s always the guys who have absolutely no pics posted who want to see more of me even though I have a body and several face pics posted

      • Muah says:

        How dare you question why a man wants to see more pics of you when you already have several public pics!? Hehe

      • The Male Feminist says:

        Correct…such a patriarchal approach to want to see the body of a woman who has posted 10 different angles of her face.

      • Muah says:

        Hey dipshit – Before you make a sarcastic remark, perhaps you should know if it’s true.

      • The Male Feminist says:

        Alas!!! Total stranger to dipshit in 4 minutes. :(

      • FunDude718 says:

        Don’t worry Muah.

        She is an angry feminist. That is par for the course.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I know right I didn’t know my place : ) But thanks to him I’ve changed my ways… Now I just don’t bother responding I just delete

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        The last time I did a picture share I got spammed by dick picks ooh and before that another pot sent me pictures of himself that were taken before I was even born.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I don’t mind a good dick pic if I’m involved with you. But I don’t want to randomly receive them. I’ve gotten pics that we’re clearly taken decades ago too. I don’t to much care if you lie about your age if you don’t look it.

        But don’t say you’re 45 and when I look at your pics you look like the guy on tales from the crypt. If you’re 45 and look like that you need to be rushed to the hospital cause clearly somethings wrong with you.

    • Jessa89 says:

      There are a plethora of babies, a small population of daddies. They have plenty of choices. Playing coy and not allowing them to see photos might be your downfall as a baby. You have to draw them in and light the fire.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Good point Jessa.. The topic of sexy photos have come up a couple of times and when it has several SDs have said they don’t care to see them in profiles and they prefer to see something less sexual. So if you share your pic with everyone what is the point of having private photos? you might has well make them public. Maybe you should do away with the private photos Michelle and see how it works out for you.(Not sure if I articulated my thoughts correctly hopefully someone well get what I mean) lol

    • Muah says:

      I never respond to those emails. I have like 5 public pics and 2 are full body. If that’s not enough to illicit an actual message they can go fuck themselves :)

    • The Male Feminist says:

      “Over a year and nothing.”

      Don’t let your standard down sister. Strong and independent (with state support, if needed) women don’t need a man or his patriarchal rules. Fuck them all.

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      No. When I was active, I didn’t even have a photo of myself, and when I would get messages asking for photos, I would go through a few messages first to make sure that we have some aligning ideas before I would even email photos.

    • FunDude718 says:

      No one wants to waste their time chatting up someone with no photos.

      Men want to see a good looking female before wasting precious sugar time chatting them up.

      How does would he determine if you are some obese whale that is demanding a substantial allowance?

      Those men are making rational responses.

    • THEATLSD says:

      Michelle not sharing pictures with everyone is very common. There are a lot of picture collectors on this sight. I only unlock my pics for SB I am interested in. I would say 70 percent of the SB I contact that have private pics do not unlock them right away or at all.
      The fact it’s been a year and you have not found a SD may be indicative of other issues with your profile or you. You may want to reexamine your narrative and or how you are approach this game.

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      I have one public pic, and a couple of private ones. I also get just requests for my private pics. As a married SD, I don’t share without knowing there’s some interest. I’m also very frustrated when there’s no message with the request. If I request private pics, I always send a message trying to build a bit of rapport with the request (and I’ll usually allow my own private pics to be seen). When I open my private pics, request to see someone’s private pics and send a message…I will also watch to see when she reads my messages. If she’s read my messages, has logged into her account and not responded with anything in over a day, I remove the access to my private pics. It would be nice if there was a “Thanks for your interest, but I don’t date married guys…” or whatever the reason (without being a bitch about it).

  127. KennaKenna says:

    I’m not sure if I like this but hey folks… What did I miss?

  128. LadyScarlett says:

    “Confidence is Key!

    Confidence is the key to success in any dating scenario and there is no exception in the Sugar world.”

    So true, from the article…for both men and women (:

  129. DVNY says:

    Why would someone who has an income of 75,000 and has a net worth of 250,000 say that his budget is moderate? The numbers just don’t add up, and I think that he is mistaken about how the website is suppose to work. BTW, this is Southern SB

  130. LadyScarlett says:

    @struggles and catcher22, Hey girls (: not sure if I posted in right place but tried again…don’t you even think that for a second, since at best he/it is creepy troll and at worst, just annoying, nasty mean, crazy and manipulative. But, to be honest some of the past few blogs have been redundant in conversation with the same characters, and got tired of the childish vitriol. Will be nice if Jeff and others truly are moderating to keep the nasties at bay. Thought I would check it out today and noticed the new format…interesting.

    Also, have been out of town in Cali this past week with my on/off SD, and just got back yesterday. Have been pretty busy with that new hound, too, struggles. Remember her? She HATES men…she loves me, but is a man hating dog, hehe. A feminist dog, perhaps? So, might email for some advice! Ahh…

    And hey AtlantaSD, too (:

    • Muah says:

      Feminazi dog :-)

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Hello Muah (: Yes, well like attracts like, I guess…hehe, teasing. But really, she hates my son so much…while I was out of town he tried dog sitting…not good.

        Is it just my iPad or is it weird that in order to comment, you comment from the top of thread to have your comments show at end(unless you respond to others)? It takes some time scrolling down and only read about of third of comments, in order to reload. Oh well.

      • Muah says:

        Lol, I’ve used Disqus before so I am used to it :)

        Maybe you need the help of Cesar Millan!

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Is it weird I find Ceaser attractive, even though he strikes me as a bit effeminate for a straight man? I wonder if he is a sub, since he is always the alpha male with his dogs, hehe.

      • THEATLSD says:

        If you like little Mexican dudes. Just drive around the area on Monday morning. There will a ton mowing grass. 😉

      • Ladyscarlett says:

        Aww, it isn’t like that now… 😉 he has that sexy ‘alpha dog’ vibe. Hehe :-p

      • DVNY says:

        Little Mexican guys, little Salvadorian guys, little Guatemalan guys, hell the entirety of Central American guys. I happen to have the bad luck of attracting them all, and to make it worse I kind of think they are cute. Not a good way of finding a man with means to help me out. Whenever I see one I have to consciously tell myself to “stop looking at the immigrants”, because hell, good looking don’t pay the bills. But man all that dark brown skin and that straight blue black hair, WOW!!!
        The Aztecs and Maya had it going on.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Yeah and men have the bad luck of attack FAT SLOB women that are post Wall.

        Such is the life of internet dating.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Haha, nevermind, the default device had it on sort comments by ‘oldest’, so changed to sort by ‘newest’….Doh 😮

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      Oh so happy to see you here! I didn’t realize you actually got the pup! That is too funny– “feminist dog” lmao! Definitely will be interested to converse with you further about the issues via email. Good thing your kinda-fella is in CA! hehe

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Thanks! He doesn’t live in Cali, though…just visited there for his work conference. Haha, I kind of like that she is like that, in a way, though, since is like running/hiking trails that are often a bit desolate.

        How are you and GB? Will email you…

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        We are way better than I deserve. Thank you for asking dear. And I LOVE that your hound is like that, and that is also one of the things I love about mine. NO ONE will mess with me. No one.

    • Catcher 22 says:

      Hey LadyS. Good to have you back. Hope this isn’t too disappointing, but I am actually a guy (-: I am on Left Coast, so I hope you really enjoyed Calif.

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Hey, not at all…we need more friendly male voices on here and not the fake characters created by the same person(his affliction seems to be getting worse, hehe). Anyway, many of the nice men who used to post left, due to the silliness…but a few are still around :-) And, am a fan of Mr. Salinger, too(I presume).

        And, thank you! Yes, enjoyed it very much…I would move to certain cities there, but absolutely love Seattle and Vancouver. If you are near either of those cities, then it am jealous!

  131. THEATLSD says:

    I hate change and technology…so this is a test.
    But I do like that you can reply to a specific thread and not get jumbled with the other
    messages.

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      Actually I like that about the disqus too. Now I can respond to individual comments.

  132. GeorgiaPeach says:

    Morning All. Getting ready to leave for a lunch date and…. SO excited! You folks have no idea what “lonely” can be like sometimes. This gent seems to be a decent guy, so my fingers are crossed. We’ve talked over the past yr, but he didn’t live in the area at that time. Now he’s moved back to GA and wants to meet. He said he’s put on some lbs to and that we can work them off together. :) He seems to “get it” by wanting to us to work on this together. We’ll see. I’m trying hard to keep it “in the moment” and not anticipate too much, just take it all as it comes. LOL Anyway, ya’ll have a great deal and a better night. I plan to do the same! :)

    • FunDude718 says:

      Good luck Georgia. Wish you well!

      My night went well with my gf. Went out for dinner. That was basically it.

      Decided against the bar due to being tired after a long day at work.

    • THEATLSD says:

      Nothing says luv like a hardy meal at the Waffle House. Have fun GP

    • Lady Sage says:

      Have a great lunch @GeorgiaPeach12:disqus ! Let me know what you eat! I love eating out :-)

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      You are my favorite of Josh’s personalities, so I truly wish you the best on your “date”! :)

  133. StruggleIsReal says:

    @FunDude718 Do you actually just sit down and regularly watch this crap?

  134. Guesteroo-SD says:

    Had to post this somewhere – I used to visit these blogs/post here sometime back ~ 2 years back and haven’t been here in a while. We have all had our share of bad experiences – this is a unique one.

    I met a lady for lunch from here (on SA) …. this was supposed to be the first meet and greet so we can decide if there is mutual interest before any arrangements are made. This is usually how I approach things anyway. She turned out to be a pretty skilled grifter – and from the looks of it, I am probably not the first victim.

    I am sure I am missing some of the details on how exactly it played out – but it was a well crafted story of how something bad was going to happen to her and her child (basically being evicted from one of those extended stay places for being late on rent). Throughout the lunch it was the constant “what am I going to do” … “I am stressed out”… “I am new in this town and don’t have any friends”. She did order her lunch, lunch for her daughter and dessert. My suspicions started with slight inconsistencies in the story – changing locations of where she lives from what she communicated to me versus what she was telling me now. I started looking up (internet on my phone) the place where she said she lived – and then she started getting loud “Is there a problem here?” “Do you not trust me”. It wasn’t an upscale restaurant – but a fairly decent place – crowded fortunately.

    I offered to come and talk to the place she lived and tell them to give her some more time to pay the rent – her answer was the place doesn’t like anyone coming there other than tenants – otherwise they would call the cops. I don’t mind lending a hand to someone in a pickle, but this was complete BS. I have helped one other lady in the past like this (for nothing in
    return) – she had her water bill past due and they were about to turn
    off the service – I paid the company directly.

    All could think of was how to get out out of the situation. I eventually ended up leaving with some story about not carrying cash/ATM card. I did give her a gift card (visa) – I normally take one to all meet and greets.

    I guess could have been a lot worse. I am familiar with some of the other scams that go on here – mostly figuring out how to weed out the escorts. But this was a new experience for me. And one I was not prepared how best to handle ….

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      Sounds like you handled it as best you could…I think as soon as I figured the inconsistencies in the story, my phone would have gone off in my pocket…I would have to take a call or answer an email…it would have become a problem at the office I had to deal with, which she should understand…if her voice started getting too loud, it would have been my ticket to just leave…I don’t carry ANY cash with me to a first meeting…I don’t even carry a gift card with me into the first meeting…I’ve always got my tablet or a notepad or something, so if I see someone I know, it can become a business meeting…BUT…if there is about to be a scene, I have NO QUALMS about getting up immediately and walking away…even if there isn’t a check at the table yet, because I can stop at the hostess stand to collect the bill and make sure it’s handled…

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        I wasn’t prepared for it, but as in many things in life we are always unprepared. I hadn’t come across something like this before, but lesson learned.

    • Josh says:

      Why did you decide to meet her? Did she not give you stories before you two met?

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        She just sounded like a normal person …. A student with ambitions.

      • Josh says:

        Makes sense.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        She didn’t mention that she had a kid and problems going on previous to meeting?

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        Of course not. I would have stayed away. We all have problems – but I stay away from people that don’t have a handle on their life.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Even if she was up front, that would have been better. She is obviously what you peg her as- a “grifter”. Wait, I don’t actually know what that is, but can use the context clues to figure it out. hehe

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      I don’t know how that could be considered a scam. She brought a child to the visit so I don’t even know. I mean it sounds like you could have just saw a woman with child and got up and left her there but that would have looked terrible which is probably why it worked. I don’t think she was lying about needing money but bringing her child along was about using shame, guilt and pity.

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        The child did not come to the visit. The child was dropped off at the parents’ house of another child she goes to school with just a few blocks down the road. She even got a text supposedly during lunch from them telling her she is okay but that they needed to leave shortly and she had to come pick her up in a bit ….

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      One thing I would have said if she got loud I would have gotten louder with ” WHERE IS THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILD?!!!” It would have taken things back to NOT MY CHILD GO FIND THAT FATHER THAT OWES YOU SUPPORT!!!

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        I am telling you … this was a good grifter …. She told me the father of the child had passed away, leaving his only worldly possession, a car, to give to the child. I don’t think there is even a child …. The story was woven to evoke empathy, with the right amount of hustle, pressure to evoke a reaction.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Was she super hot? I am kind of new to this whole world of women who just unceremoniously take men to the cleaners, and for no good reason. I am trying to figure out what the picture of this person looks like.

      • It’s called rinsing. And a lot of women do it.

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HgC9Z3uzPgY

      • FunDude718 says:

        At least those bitches are hot.

        Its even worse when they are ugly looking.

        Men are basically chumps if they buy these dumb bitches all kinds of stuff without any benefit.

        Also, we are unsure if they are telling the truth. A lot of women lie about NOT sleeping with guys when they are clearly ESCORTS.

        I never buy women ANYTHING without something in return.

        The blond chick looks even hotter than my 23 y/o girlfriend. She is really HOT. However, she is older at 33 y/o. She will age out shortly. She is starting to show aging in her face and she is wearing a lot of makeup. So she might not be that HOT without makeup.

        However, I would never get into some bullshit payment system without Sex.

        Also, these bitches are too expensive for me anyway.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Also, look at where this supposedly well off female is living.

        She is living in some little apartment. She is just showing off some stupid bags, watches, etc which aren’t worth that much.

        Even if you add it all up, its not that much money.

        Also, she is probably lying about the SEX part and the MONEY part.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Rinsers for females= men who claim to get laid all the time.

        Both groups often exaggerate their prowess.

        Men lie about sleeping with tons of women while Women lie about supposedly “not sleeping” with the men.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        She’s all ready started to age out. If you look closely at her face you can see the wrinkles. She’s wearing a lot of makeup. She’s still pretty and is in excellent shape.

      • FunDude718 says:

        That is correct. She is aging out. I can see it with the makeup.

        Without the makeup, my gf is hotter.

        Also, watch the end of the series. The blonde bitch went to NYC thinking she would just get shit from some wealthy dude without any sex.

        The guy bought her about 200 dollars worth of stuff before he started demanding sex.

        He didn’t buy her an expensive bag that was going for 1500.

        He dumped her in the middle of NYC where she had to get her own HOTEL ROOM.

        Ergo, she actually lost out by going to NYC since her paying for the HOTEL room is MORE than the trinkets she got from the rich guy.

        Guess it doesn’t work out as well as they claim in reality.

      • Muah says:

        Lol it’s weird how much hate you have against this video… BTW he paid for her hotel room and her flight there and everything else. Even if he didn’t pay, I’m sure the show did. She probably wouldn’t even have went on the trip if it wasn’t for the security of the show filming her. Also – they got into an argument because he wanted more and she didn’t, so end of NYC date. Did actually watch this video?

        Also, nobody cares about what your girlfriend looks like compared to some British women from a 3 year old documentary lol. What are you trying to make yourself feel better about her attractiveness?

      • FunDude718 says:

        How do you know he paid of the hotel room after he gave her the boot?

        He could’ve EASILY cancelled the hotel room. She hadn’t checked in UNTIL AFTER he had broken up with her.

      • FunDude718 says:

        What happened with the blonde chick was that she was a “model” for a number of years.

        She had to fuck the guys who ran the “model” world. She didn’t ever make it to the top levels and never made much money.

        Ergo, she got fucked by all the guys who ran the modeling world and didn’t make much. She basically admitted that in the video.

        Then, after starting to age out in her 30s, she got the boot from the modeling world for younger women in their 20s.

        That is when she got the idea of the “rinsing” situation. However, watch how well she is doing. She isn’t really doing that well with this “rinsing” shit when she got the boot in NYC.

        Also, don’t believe the hype about “sleeping” with men. I can promise she is sleeping with the men for HIGHER cost gifts.

      • Promise says:

        I actually saw this documentary under the sugar baby hashtag on Tumblr. I forgot what the poster said, but I believe it was probably something about goals in sugar.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        She probably isn’t sleeping with them for the gifts but she isn’t getting much out of them, If you look at the NYC episode once they figure out that she has no intention of sleeping with them the gifts stop. Danica i can respect she doesn’t meet the guys they’re paying to chat to her so they know it’s business. But the other two are misleading the guys into thinking they are on dates.

      • Muah says:

        The 2 attractive women in the video are both models. Danica is currently 26. The blonde with bad extensions had been rinsing for quite awhile. “Aging” out or not she’s still far better looking than a lot of women 10+ years younger and let’s be realistic – She’s probably had work done within the last 3 years, so she’s probably looking better than ever.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        Exactly. The blonde looks great and if she’s still doing this she’s not aging out but getting work done to stay in.

      • Muah says:

        I’m pro getting work done myself, when the time comes I’ll be doing it! :-)

      • FunDude718 says:

        She might look better than “a lot of women” but not good enough for TOP MODELS.

        Ergo, she got pumped and dumped out of the modeling world after she aged out.

        Too bad, so sad

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I really can’t see the purpose of this. If it was cash at least I’d be like they can invest, put it in a college fund for thier kids, down payment on a home etc. But to go through all this trouble and dishonesty for a couple of pairs of shoes and trinkets is beyond me. All the time and energy they spend doing this they could’ve started a business or something and been able to buy their own shoes.

      • Guess Who? says:

        Working hard and spending their own money does not make women princess.

        Also, getting free money from random men without spreading their legs is a major morale boost for these women.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        Well I agree it seems alot of work for shoes and trinkets but those shoes and trinkets can be sold.

      • Muah says:

        I love this video lol. I first seen it awhile back and then showed it to a bunch of my SB friends haha. Not that any of us rinse guys but it’s still a fun video to watch. Honestly, these guys have to be idiots to NOT know what’s going on… Don’ hate the player, hate the game 😉 I do feel like it is a lot of work though, establishing the friendship then playing “damsel in distress” for gifts.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        I watched up until 2:07 and that’s about as much as I want to see. There is nothing wrong with enjoying nice luxuries in life, but these women are effing twisted. I guess they get some sort of feeling of power out of obtaining fine things from the pockets of men by playing into their weaknesses. I guess this is why we have bitter men like Josh/FunDude etc. Not all women are like this. This is a breed of women and honestly I have only met maybe one or two. Most women I know are NOTHING like this. If you are a man attracting this kind of woman, even here in the Sugar bowl, you need to reassess what you’re putting out there.

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        No she wasn’t what I would characterize as superhot. Just a normal person ….

      • FunDude718 says:

        That makes it even worse! lol

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        I mean, damn… She had lunch and probably dinner on you plus earned around $100 in whatever gift card. Not a bad gig if you ask me, if you don’t have morals.

      • FunDude718 says:

        LOL come on man.

        How could you fall for that bullshit? It’s so clearly a con.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        I would have faked a heart attack. Or said you had to run to the bathroom to vomit. Or you could have started talking to yourself and calling out “mommy mommy why didn’t you find my red shoe??”. Fight crazy with crazy:) !

        Next start doing a musical performance and sing really loud. :) It will attract attention and anything she says will seem part of the performance. People may end up clapping thinking it’s a flash mob or something.

      • Josh says:

        Sweetheart, women have that luxury. Decent men don’t.

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      Yikes. That is terrible. You did more than the best you could. I hate that she even got a gift card out of the deal.

      • Josh says:

        That’s what I was curious as well. It seems that there are enough men on SA who act in a chivalrous manner, along with SA’s egging women are on that the grifters keep trying their luck here.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Unfortunate indeed.

    • FunDude718 says:

      Why would you go to a dinner with her and her child for the first date? That is ridiculous.

      Explain that further.

      You really need to toughen up in the future man. Also, just go for a coffee date for the first date in the future UNLESS you have been talking to her for a long time and she seems really high quality.

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        No the child did not come to the date …. It was lunch. She was a bit late and started off by saying she was late because her child got sick at school and had to be left with the parents of another child she goes to school with … I doubt if the child exists, even if it does the sick story is BS

      • FunDude718 says:

        Good point.

        Well lesson learned for you and everyone else on this blog. You didn’t really lose anything.

        How much was the gift card?

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        $100 + lunch …. so out about $160 …. Yep lesson learned. Now she picked the restaurant – so I am watching my credit card to see any unusual activity and cancel if needed. Who knows if she was by herself or had an insider …. like someone that works there …. Probably should go with a reloadable card for these meets with a low cap ….

      • FunDude718 says:

        Lessons learned include:

        1) Don’t give a “gift card” unless you actually work out an arrangement and like the female. I would suggest avoiding giving a gift card on the first date.

        2) Limit amount of money spent on first date. Either do the coffee date thing or a cheaper lunch place. 60 dollars is WAY too much for the first date

        Last night for dinner, I took my 23 y/o gf to a 30 dollar special dinner at the Italian place. I have found that to be as good as a much more expensive place.

        When I was in Vegas, myself and my device rep spent over 600 dollars at Picasso restaurant. Wasn’t worth it.

      • Promise says:

        It’s funny that you say that because I was watching The Real yesterday, and the show quoted Brandon, and he said that how much a guy spends on a first date determines how serious he is about you.

      • Anonymous says:

        This EXACTLY how SA eggs on these bitches to expect money for nothing.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        That’s what I thought. Both pots gave a small gift to show me they were serious. It wasn’t something I expected or demanded but a nice gesture. The other pot would have gotten a yes if he wasn’t interested in the escort experience. I had to politely decline the arrangement unfortunately. I told him there are escorts all around so he didn’t need me as an SB.

    • Jessa89 says:

      Whoa, that’s nuts. You’re definitely wasting your money giving gift cards on a first meeting. That’s like the screening process. Do you like her and does she like you? Is she crazy, is he creepy, etc. in my experience usually we meet for a glass of wine at a place with a patio (I live in Phoenix so it’s patio weather year round) and keep it casual. If both parties are interested then move it to a meal at a different locale. Gives both parties an out if needed.

      • Guesteroo-SD says:

        I always do that (gift card) and it is always a lunch/coffee – never alcohol related. There are enough creeps (men) on the site and for some lady to make the effort to come and meet a total stranger – it is a small gesture if it makes the person feel good. This is the (my) thinking behind it. For the person giving the gift, I would recommend reading up on “The Psychology Behind Gift Giving” on why it makes them feel good.

        Now, I am sure I will be branded a “chump” (this is classic PUA terminology for this type of thinking). But the reality is that if money/time spent on SA is solely equated to sex, I am not seeing the benefit of it. Escorting is probably a lot simpler and easier approach. Aside from the potential legal problems, and the social stigma (this part I don’t agree with), escorts are a much simpler option.

        My present situation (yesterday) – what I went through – I just wanted an out from a pressure cooker situation and I just left that hoping that would end it then and there – It wasn’t because I wanted to. I was down on my guard – didn’t know how to handle it – and I was grifted good …. :) Life is about experiences – some good and some you don’t want to repeat. Obviously this one falls into the latter. I just shared it as something other people may benefit from.

        Anyway, I appreciate all the thoughts shared here – this blog is as lively as it used to be when I last partook in it.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        Thank you! Don’t worry women will appreciate your thoughtful gifting. You will always stand out from the crowd.

  135. Josh says:

    Tucker Carlson sounds like @flyR.

    • FunDude718 says:

      LOL the sad part is that walking vagina Tucker Carlson usually has good points unless it comes to women.

  136. GeorgiaPeach says:

    So Doc, do you consider yourself an Atheist?

  137. GeorgiaPeach says:

    Thought you would be with your 23y/o Beautiful, Skinny, Blonde GF tonight. LOL

  138. FunDude718 says:

    Who the fuck is this stupid bitch?

    Send her ass to Iraq and let ISIS take care of this issue.

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      FunDude you better be careful with all your ISIS love. The govt could be watching. LoL

  139. Promise says:

    I’m scared.

  140. Josh says:

    Women are so fond of partially quoting Bob Marley…as in “If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy.” The last sentence is typical shaming technique, and everything prior is to boost her idiotic unpredictability as some kind of sought after quality.

    However, they conveniently “forget” to include this part “Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for,” which is pretty much as given when dealing with women.

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      or men

      • Josh says:

        Sweetheart, if the preceding text was gender neutral, then the last sentence would be “men or women”. However, the preceding sentences is about an “amazing” WOMAN. So my comment is contextually appropriate.

        If you want to add “men” then you would have to precede the statement with something about some “amazing” man.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        which is pretty much as given when dealing with women.
        I referring to your comment above :

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      Love the Bob. Also isn’t he the one who said, “No woman, no cry…”

  141. Josh says:

    Here is the rinsing attempt on me:

    SB: Hey X…so I live in YYYY, ZZ which isn’t a far drive from YYYY. I am not in a position to drive to YYYY, though so if you are interested in me, would you be willing to drive up here to see me?

    SD: I can drive to you but we need to discuss our terms of arrangement at reasonable length to have a basic meeting of the minds. :)

    SB: I agree :) What are your terms? I’ll let you know if they’re consistent with what I’m looking for.

    SD: The terms depend if I have to always come to Springfield or can you come to YYYY as well in the future. If we’re only meeting there then it limits my possible total meetings with you.

    SB: I won’t be able to come to YYYY. However, I think you’ll find that I’m lovely enough that you aren’t concerned with counting the amount of time we spend together or the drive. It may seem like more of a difficulty, but as Bob Marley once said, “If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy.” That may sound arrogant, but I can promise it isn’t coming from that place; it’s just that I know my worth–and I’d like to meet somebody who also sees that. You’re a very handsome man, so I’m sure you’ve got your choice of women. However, I’ve found that good looking men like yourself prefer a challenge…and I will not deny that I am a challenge. haha :)

    SD: You’re a challenge in what way?

    SB: Well, I make my own money and am not desperate. I’m on here to meet a man who likes me and takes the time to get to know me. Sex isn’t something to expect. No man on this site with any reverance for women would push that. I would prefer that you get to know me for 6 months and then I’ll let you know if I’m comfortable with that. This is what my SDs have agreed to before, so i don’t think it’s anything shocking. Like i said, i like to see how much of of an effort a man makes to win me over. People love hanging out with me so I’ve never had to use sex to keep them around. Are you up for taking the risk to be patient and agree to my terms and see how things go? :)

    SD: Are you up to waiting for an allowance for 6 months? If you are then we can give it a try. :)

    SB: No, I don’t trade my body for money. The allowance is something you do because you like the girl. No girl with self-respect would agree to that. Your idea of an arrangement is called prostitution. You can find what you’re looking for on the streets with a whore. So yeah, given what you just did…i don’t want to ever meet or talk to you again.

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      What a weirdo. Ew. Like um excuse me…. YOU contacted ME.

    • FunDude718 says:

      LOL HA HA HA HA HA HA

      Typical bullshit.

      6 months my ass. Sex is MANDATORY from DAY ONE of any allowance.

    • DVNY says:

      Six months? Wow I got MARRIED after three months.

    • Jessa89 says:

      lol. Wow. She must really think she’s something special.

      • Josh says:

        Possibly, but what’s more likely is that either she has come up with the brilliant idea herself–or someone convinced her–that older men are idiots. 😉

      • Promise says:

        I’m surprised you didn’t say something smart in response.

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      Wow so she wants an non sexual allowance for 6 months?

    • Jaybird923 says:

      Talk about unrealistic expectations. I sincerely doubt any one has actually agreed to those terms. I’m okay with you wanting to get to know someone first, but if you don’t trust/like him enough to sleep with him why should he trust and like you enough to hand you cash.

      • Josh says:

        Women know within 30 seconds of meeting a new man in their lives if they are going to sleep with him or not.

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        Yep. I agree. And I will testify to that tomorrow. I’ve been asked to spend the night… already. LOL

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Based purely on physical appearance I know instantly if I would ever sleep with man but I take other factors in to consideration. Like If I don’t like your personality I don’t care how hot you are it’s just not going to happen

      • Josh says:

        Sweetheart, I never said that the man cannot disqualify himself based on his words and actions, within or after those 30 seconds, and that once she has qualified him for sexual possibilities she can’t or won’t change her mind. 😉

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I didn’t say you did. umm I kinda agreed with you. I just said other factors come into play. Relax sweetheart :)

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        I’m the same way. Hot isn’t enough for me these days.

  142. StruggleIsReal says:

    When I was active, I generally would politely respond to every message even if I was not at all interested. Only once did someone respond in a rude way. I’m happy to see that some others have decent manners here.

  143. Jaybird923 says:

    I have a question.. I respond to all messages whether I am interested or not. Does any one else do that? Also if you send a message would you prefer the person not respond or tell you they aren’t interested?

    • DVNY says:

      You know, I don’t respond to every message because half the time they aren’t even read. But it would be nice if they would write me back and tell me they aren’t interested in me. I did start out writing them to tell them that they lived too far away or that I just wasn’t interested and good luck on their search, because you know, we are all suppose to be adults. But like I said most of the time they just act like I don’t exist. So what I would tell you is do whatever feels go to you. But if they start getting offended from you saying “no”, just ignore and block. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        So far I haven’t gotten any negativity. Except for one person they’ve all written back to thank me for responding even if I wasn’t interested. I got the impression that this wasn’t the norm that’s why I posed the question to gauge the general opinion on the subject.

      • DVNY says:

        Well then sugar on. You’re doing the right thing.

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      My policy is to respond to every message I receive that is LOCAL…if I responded to all the foreign messages, I might have to hire someone just for that role!

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        True. At some point I would hide my profile for several days because I just needed to catch up on existing messages. Quite exhausting.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        It doesn’t make sense to hide a profile as a SD…it doesn’t extend your paid membership…shutting it down just means you have less time to see if you can find a connection!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        ha ha totally get that. I just caught up last night. every time I log in to answer messages I end up with more. I never thought about hiding my profile first good idea struggles

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      I always respond to messages even if what the SD desires is something I’m not seeking.

  144. Catcher 22 says:

    I like the old blog format much better than this

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      This is definitely a change. It’s starting to grow on me a bit now. At first it is pretty overwhelming. Have you checked it out via computer screen yet? At first on just my phone it was too much. After I went on the computer, I felt more acquainted.

      • Catcher 22 says:

        Well one thing has NOT changed. The same cast of characters dominate the blog 24/7. Miss Kenna, though.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        LoL what on earth do you mean ? Josh, FunDude, Promise, GA peach , i.e. One person with his own multiple personalities ?! Lmao.
        I miss Kenna and Sexy. Kenna will be back for sure. I really miss LadyScarlett and YGBKM. I am hoping that this obvious impetus of SA’s to get a hold on this blog results in people feeling more free to comment without being bullied off.

      • Catcher 22 says:

        Yes, I too miss Sexy, Lady Scarlett and YGBKM, who has been MIA for many weeks. I hope LadyS has not been bullied off the blog by YKW.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        She pretty much was. Sad :(

      • LadyScarlett says:

        Hey girls, don’t you even think that for a second, since at best YKW is amusing troll and at worst, just annoying, nasty mean, crazy and manipulative. But, to be honest some of the past few blogs have been redundant in conversation with the same characters, and got tired of the childish vitriol. Will be nice if Jeff and others truly are moderating to keep the nasties at bay. Thought I would check it out today and noticed the new format…interesting.

        Also, have been out of town in Cali this past week with my on/off SD, and just got back yesterday. Have been pretty busy with that new hound, too, struggles. Remember her? She HATES men…she loves me, but is a man hating dog, hehe. A feminist dog, perhaps? So, might email for some advice! Ahh…

      • KennaKenna says:

        What about me??? :-)

  145. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Has it REALLY been this slow on the blog today? @AdministratorJeff:disqus this could be a sign of a problem with participation with Disqus!

    • StruggleIsReal says:

      My guess is definitely the commenting system. But also honestly as I noted at the end of the blog before this one, the blog had taken a pretty steep nose dive with activity (pretty obvious why) and consisted of only a few, plus some anonymous headache.

    • FunDude718 says:

      There’s over 410 comments in less than a day.

      Its approximately the same rate as all the other blogs.

      These blogs aren’t that responded to.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        My comment was that there was like 3 hours with nothing! Plus, on the Home page, it says 1 comment…

  146. Josh says:

    Just thwarted a rinsing attempt from a rinser living 3 hours away (in the land of Fantasia), wanting me to travel to her everytime to meet her and to pay her allowance for 6 month before any possibility of intimacy. LOL!

  147. FunDude718 says:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HSx2bA8jBDI

    YEAH BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Good workout music for later tonight!!!!!

    Also,

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfRquVqMOto

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      Perhaps for one of your age “era” but not for mine.
      Give me “disco” Saturday Night Fever for a workout any day! LOL
      (I could name a few others too! )

      • DVNY says:

        Actually @GP for the genre they are quite good. I’m about 10 years younger than you are and I’ve been exposed to all kinds of music (I’m a former military brat so I met people from all over the world) and I actually like this. I’m not taking away from disco, which is really good for working out, but I would probably put on old skool rap for my workout, I love anything with a strong bass beat.

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        Perhaps. I’ll listen again. I certainly don’t want to be considered an “old fogey” since it’s enough that some call me “Granny.” LOL But I will say, I can clean a house faster listening to Sat Night Fever faster than any other CD. LOL

  148. Josh the Guru says:

    Disqus is created for large screen discussions. It is not intended for phones.

  149. StruggleIsReal says:

    Getting on the stair machine to keep that gravatar right. hehe

  150. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @AdministratorJeff:disqus is there a calendar for when new topics are going to be released?

    Also, when I’m on the homepage for SA, it shows this blog has just 1 comment…I’m hoping that will be fixed, since I’m sure it’s messing with the overall numbers and averages for posts 😉

  151. FlyBoy says:

    Testing, testing, 123, testing!!! lol

  152. KeKe says:

    I literally just deleted my account. No sense in having a profile when I now have a boyfriend. I hope I’ll be able to comment without a profile linked.

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      It sounds like there might be an option…BF was from SA, right? Maybe that would be the exemption like Kenna’s…successful transition from Sugar to IRL!

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Keke’s BF is not from SA but from real life. :)

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Sorry…it’s been a busy time…well, she’s had successful Sugar in the past, so she should still be able to contribute…IMHO

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Oh for sure. I don’t think it would be a good idea to have commenting attached to SA accounts at all. Maybe leave the option open like previously, but definitely not require it. I don’t have an account anymore either, as I am happily in a relationship with GB that was indeed found from SA. It would not be appropriate to have an active one up nor would it serve any purpose for me.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        That was why I shared the legality of Kenna…if there are “success stories” from SA like her with hubby/baby and you with GB, there should be a way to continue to participate and share the success story without jeopardizing the relationship!

      • gtodd says:

        Yet having your ass out on a blog is appropriate?

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Yes. Far FAR more appropriate. Let’s think…
        Having an active account on a Sugar dating website which is solely for finding sexual partners v. commenting on a blog that is simply an exchange of thoughts and opinions amongst others who I have come to value in some weird way, even with my “ass out”… Yep. Pretty much a different ballpark.

      • gtodd says:

        Not suggesting one was more appropriate than the other just pointing out the fact the both are inappropriate

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        That is in your reality. My boyfriend is aware and doesn’t care in the least. #HealthyRelationships

      • gtodd says:

        A healthy relationship is fostered when one no longer needs the acceptance or appeal from men/women outside of their relationship.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        It should come as no surprise that many SDs will disagree with your statement. It’s been noted that even the happiest most sexually satisfied married man can or may cheat. It may have more to do with variety and ego boosting.

      • KeKe says:

        IRL… I learned that I’m better at free styling. Lol

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Was it straight BF, or was it Sugar transitioning to BF?

      • KeKe says:

        I wouldn’t say BF initially. It was definitely a version of a sugar relationship but he hates the term sugar daddy (eye roll). I told him from the beginning that I wasn’t interested in any relationships unless it also helped me financially. His response is that he helps his “friends” but he doesn’t pay for sex. Lol. He’s the CEO of a company. I honestly think he was a little freaked out that it could come back and bit him in the ass. He made the not paying for sex comment several times over email and text. Lol. We click so well it just evolved into more.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Sounds like a version of Sugar to me! Even if it was freestyling, there are tools and tricks you could contribute to the conversation for struggling SA profiles…I hope things are kept open enough for the input!

  153. StruggleIsReal says:

    Okay trying this here. I made a disqus account and used the same email that I used previously on blog post commenting but my gravatar doesn’t seem to be showing up. Hmmmm Supposedly it may take a little while to show up?

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      go to your Disqus profile screen…you may see a blank picture…there is a dropdown box where you can select a method to show your picture…one of them is gravatar. If the emails match, it will populate quickly

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        Thanks for trying to help. For whatever reason, gravatar simply would not load the image onto my disqus whenever I chose that option, so I ended up just loading the image directly onto disqus from the computer. Annoying but meh, whatevs :)

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        No worries…I’m just glad to see that pic again 😉

  154. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Is no one else around this morning?

    • Guru says:

      I don’t think that I like Disqus. I would much rather use a bulletin board system where we can discuss, store and reuse content for the benefit of SBs and SDs alike.

      However knowing the propensity of SA to please women who like to “communicate” utter nonsense…nonstop, I seriously doubt that they will go for a bulletin board route.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Yes, it seems to be VERY difficult to track conversations…and I’m not sure it’s updating without refreshing the screen…I’m less and less a fan…

      • Josh says:

        I will post each comment with a ddifferent fake email account. That will give them a lot of fake email addresses to farm.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Yeah, now I know it’s not updating without me refreshing the page…and if I’m watching a conversation, but haven’t interacted (because I’m not adding, just watching) I’m not getting notified of new comments at all…We’ll see what the next blog post brings…any thoughts on the topic? Do you think they’ll make it a SD focused topic?

      • MissLady says:

        Yes, this is way to difficult to keep track with and too much scrolling back and forth if you even wanted to attempt to keep up with earlier comments.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        It seems to burn through data when I’m on my phone as well…not a big deal if I’m sitting at home, but much more difficult to justify if I’m not on a trusted wifi!

      • We’ll throw up a poll on the next blog post to gauge feedback, this was just an experiment and not a permanent change.

        I am open to the bulletin board concept, but moderation would be more difficult.

      • Guru Om says:

        Why would the moderation be difficult?

      • With various threads in various categories / sub categories being discussed at once, there is more opportunity for abuse in multiple locations.

        Difficulty may have been the wrong word, but I believe this would be more time consuming for our staff. If we could get help from you guys, it could make things a lot simpler.

      • MissLady says:

        Most message boards/forums I’ve visited always had one of the patients monitor the asylum so to speak. Also there are restrictions that could be put in place on the number of categories/sub categories so it doesn’t get out of hand.
        Messageboards would be ideal, you can not enter a thread you don’t want to see, some even have an ignore/mute feature (godsend!) and better organized than what you can do with disqus

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Let’s just not make it ANOTHER service we need to register for and create another profile for! This is supposed to be fun, not work!

      • I think having an anonymous board would be even more work for us.

        What if the discussion board hooked up with your SA account in the name of synergy?

      • MissLady says:

        Then what about those of us who might not have our SA accounts active anymore but still hang around to post??

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Here’s the issue with that Jeff, there ARE trolls on the message board, and I’m not sure providing a link to a profile is a good thing. If it was “linked” without providing an actual link, that’s one thing…but providing an actual link back could open people up to individually directed abuse, tracking and the like

      • Okay, that makes a lot of sense. Thank you for explaining

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Oh, also, there are a few commenters (Kenna for one) that are now legally unable to have a profile on SA (her prenup)…her input is invaluable for SBs who might want to understand how to turn Sugar into IRL success…if you have a process available for those types of contributors to “register” with admins without having an active profile, that might work…

        Also, what about the SDs who are no longer paying, would they lose the ability to contribute? I’m currently in an arrangement, I don’t plan on renewing my membership because of that arrangement…would I lose the privilege of contributing?

      • Surely we could create a completely hidden / suspended account on behalf of individuals like Kenna. They would just need to contact our support.

        In previous talks of forum / discussion boards we liked the idea of allowing only paying members to create new topics / threads and allowing standard members to comment / reply.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I’m not fully aware of the SB side, would that same standard hold true for the SBs? No topic creation or thread creation unless there was payment?

        Because the use of an @edu email address for “premium” status has led to a lot of weird “student” profiles in my searches!

      • Yes, it would hold true for SBs as well. I’ll need to check into the weird student profiles.. It would help a lot of you forwarded them to support@seekingarrangement.com (reporting their profile works too)

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        I am definitely not opposed to keeping it legit for everyone to have to have an account in order to post, but I see some holes with that.

        It might just drive more ridiculous profiles to be made (mostly by freebie SBs) simply to be able to post here. On that note, might I add, I think that you should require SBs to pay to have a profile. Even something minimal would help keep out the rubbish.

        I would not want my comments to be able to be publicly linked to my account.

        The already discussed fact that many who are/were involved with Sugar/SA do take their accounts down at some point for various reasons. If contacting support could be the answer to get privilege to post without the account, that seems sufficient. But that may just make more work for your staff there at SA. Having to vet out whether this individual is worthy of maintaining posting privileges without having an active account.

      • Promise says:

        On the bright side the reviews weren’t nearly as negative as they were with the last change you made.

      • StruggleIsReal says:

        What change was that?

      • Yes, it is the Guru says:

        Using frequent blog participants to keep an eye on abuse is a novel idea indeed. 😉

      • Promise says:

        Ok, Josh I’ll do it.

  155. NubianSB says:

    Oooohhh Jessa likes Fundude Lol

  156. FunDude718 says:

    Some good workout music for the GYM.

    Just did 120lb dumbbell each arm workout for chest press.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABTjHNJ8Tps

    • GeorgiaPeach says:

      What no 23 y/o gf with you tonight? Oh my.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Tonight we will be doing our thang.

        Plan on doing the gym thing with heavy weights and then plenty of cardio later at my place.

        Very healthy workout time.

    • UncommonSB says:

      Love Rammstein!

    • UncommonSB says:

      Actually quite surprised that you’re even aware of industrial vs strictly top 40. You seem like a top 40s guy.

  157. Josh says:

    @FunDude,

    I think that you should take this article and change the language to encourage short/fat/broke SDs. LOL!

    • FunDude718 says:

      I should do that.

      That would expose the hypocrisy of all this bullshit about “accepting” BBW women for arrangements.

      I doubt the feminists that run this website would allow it though.

      Weak Beta Manginas think by kissing female ass they will “get laid”. Too bad for them that guys like me will take the hotter women and leave them just the BBWs.

      Weak Beta Males use the attempt at “being nice” as their mating technique because they can’t compete on the free market.

      Can’t tell who is worse, beta Manginas or the “fat acceptance” women.

  158. Promise says:

    You guys I’m worried about flyR. :(

  159. Blog Tester says:

    Testing how this new commenting works.

  160. Joe Blow says:

    I like big butts and I cannot lie.

  161. DowntownLiving says:

    It seems like most of the men are never available to even meet. Consistency is awful and many don’t want to assist much or ever really. Just want to pay for your dinner. One offered $500 a month and wants it whenever he wants it lol oh man gag me

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      Okay…is this a serious post? There are MANY factors that could potentially cause your no-show issue…many more details are needed, including how your profile advertises yourself to the audience!

  162. FunDude718 says:

    For all the ladies in here:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hqNAtDulxDc

  163. FunDude718 says:

    cool stuff

    can we message privately on here? lol

    im a novice at disqus

  164. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @disqus_K7fiasc4SG:disqus – I may be changing my mind…the editing of posts, the moderation…great features…but the conversations are impossible to check in on, if the reply is not to something I posted. I keep seeing “7 New Comments” as I scroll up or down, but when I click on it nothing shows up…I refresh and EVERY conversation is expanded, making it difficult to remember where I was on the page, let alone a new comment…

    • MissLady says:

      when I click on the banner it usually takes me right to the new comment. There have been time when nothing showed up though….

    • Muah says:

      if you check your quote bubble up at the top you can see who has replied directly to you or up voted you. As MissLady said if you click the “XX new comment” bar it brings you to that comment.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        That doesn’t seem to work every time though…most times I click the bar, it just takes me to the “top” of the comments, but doesn’t highlight any new comments.

      • MissLady says:

        whenever it takes me to the very top it’s because there was a brand new post made by someone. Anytime it takes me into the body of the thread there’s a blue line type highlight on the new post….

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Yeah, it does that same thing sometimes…other times, it just jumps to the top (without new content)…Maybe because I am using a Private Browser window…

      • Promise says:

        The only time I ever had that problem was when my computer was broken.

    • I agree, it is a bit confusing, and the updates seem to not show new content every time.

      I’m using this link to manage my conversations: https://disqus.com/home/inbox/ to follow along with conversations that I’ve been involved with. It helps you see who has replied to you or conversations you’ve been involved with.

    • Jj says:

      Online, Ive noticed when “checking” new comments, there is a termerary blue verticle line in front of the new posting

    • KeKe says:

      I was having the same problem. My settings were set to oldest not most recent comments

  165. guest says:

    Disqus: This has become one of the most popular third-party comment plugins on the Web. That’s because it provides some robust tools for website owners to help keep conversations civil, as all comments posted through Disqus by a single user are linked, dissuading trolliness. However, the service does carry its share of privacy concerns.

    “People understand that the Disqus widget is a commenting system, but it’s also a tracking system. It follows a user’s activities across sites that use Disqus, even if the user is logged out,” says Downey. The info collected by Disqus includes IP address, browser version and installed plugins, and exit links — data Disqus refers to as “Non-Personally Identifiable Information.” However, this information can be used to de-anonymize users, when combined with third-party information. And because Disqus reserves the right to share you data with third-parties, such action could be taken. Furthermore, says Downey, “Disqus has come under fire for privacy issues after it published its users’ full commenting histories on user profile pages that were visible to the public.”

    Disqus is opt-in only — if you use it, you are opting in.

    Read more: http://www.digitaltrends.com/web/top-100-websites-how-are-they-tracking-you/#ixzz3a8k5cS1S
    Follow us: @digitaltrends on Twitter | digitaltrendsftw on Facebook

    • Josh says:

      If the above is correct, then I will keep my participation to a minimum. I am sure some will appreciate.

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      You can easily hide your profile activity on your personal profile page…at least that’s what it says…@Josh – or someone – click on my profile and tell me if you see a lot of comments or just “This is Private” type statement. I’m interested…

      • Promise says:

        If you set it to private a guy with a blue face will put on sunglasses, and say it’s private. It makes me laugh. XD

      • MissLady says:

        all it shows is that it’s private, your upvote number and the number of posts you made, but not the content of the posts or even where you post.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        thank you…this means that @Josh should be able to post here without much of a worry…with a simple click of a box you can be private…if there’s worry beyond that, it’s because Disqus has security issues, not because of other issues.

      • MissLady says:

        Yes, cause I read through everything and made mine private and even used the opt out on personalized ads and said no to all emails.

  166. FunDude718 says:

    @jessa89:disqus

    You’re looking good. Like the pics. I am not subscribed to my account right now. We can talk privately.

    My day is extremely slow at work. Just catching up on notes. Waiting for 2 more people until I leave for the day.

  167. MissLady says:

    oh hot damn, I can access this from work…..for now.

  168. Mindy says:

    I don’t think size matters that much. It’s all about one’s outlook on lifestyle. I am a 4 and I work out on a daily basis. The goal is not to be skinny but more about me being responsible to my own health. I can see the healthy glow from one’s face if he/she maintains a good lifestyle and is comfortable in one’s own skin, and I find it very attractive. I don’t think there is a point arguing if a specific body type signals any quality about a person.
    It’s like there is no direction relationship between one’s educational level and work ability, even though education signals to employers that the candidate might be more likely to handle the job. It’s all about how you represent yourself and how to play to your strengths.

    • Mindy says:

      *no direct relationship
      sorry about the typo

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        You should be able to edit your original comment, instead of posting a new comment with the change (unless that’s a Disqus only feature and you’re not using it yet)?

      • Mindy says:

        Thanks for the tip! I’m posting as a guest so can’t edit. :)

  169. StruggleIsReal says:

    Ps. I am commenting with the “guest posting” feature. I guess it won’t show my gravatar doing so?

  170. StruggleIsReal says:

    Totally legit article! Good advice and tips for the lovely curvy ladies. Good job SA. Also it’s cool that you guys are pulling relevant topics from the blog posts :)

    Will check out this Disqus thing. Not so sure about it just yet. But usually change takes some time to get used to. Trying something new is a good idea regardless though!

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      Do it Struggle…it has been worth it while on my computer…I haven’t tried on my phone or tablet yet to know how good/bad it is on that format.

    • Muah says:

      I have a Disqus attached to my Facebook… Makes arguing with strangers so much easier lol. I used to have it linked but I kept getting “pretty privilege” bullshit so I unlinked my accounts.

  171. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    So, now there’s a new term for the “beer belly”?

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/05/14/kristen-schaal-dad-bods_n_7277710.html?1431612990=&ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063

    The Dad Bod…hmmm…very interesting is all I have to say…

  172. Melissa says:

    Testing..

  173. Jessa89 says:

    True…the word “curvy” has been stolen by fat women.

    • Jessa89 says:

      Anna Nicole, post J. Howard Marshall = fat.
      Anna Nicole during Trim Spa = curvy.

    • FunDude718 says:

      Truly, plenty of fatty women have totally bastardized the term.

      • Jessa89 says:

        But there’s hope for fat women! Start running, join a Pilates studio, and buy some blow – okay, just kidding on that last one.

      • FunDude718 says:

        LOL HA HA HA HA

        Fatties are gonna fat

      • Jessa89 says:

        OMG! New Taylor Swift remix?

        Fatties gonna fat, fat, fat ,fat, fat.

        Maybe not. I’ve been overweight and I’ve been underweight. Fit is the new thin, and the cheeseburger isn’t worth the 45 minutes on the elliptical, ladies. Just say no to In-N-Out.

        @fundude718:disqus, maybe we should start a support group for those who have been maimed by BBWs.

        PSA: Men, have you been catfished by a BBW? Ladies, do you receive dirty looks from BBWs as you walk into Victoria’s Secret because they can’t shop there? Call now for your free blah blah blah

      • Jaybird923 says:

        You guys are a piece of work. I get messages from fat guys all the time I just thank them for writing me and tell them that I don’t think we’re a good match. And I also get the dirty looks and stupid comments from bigger woman. I just ignore them and take it as a compliment. But the level of nastiness and cruelty behind your comments are unbelievable what do you get out of intentionally trying to hurt someone like that. Do you feel better about yourselves… SMH

      • Jessa89 says:

        So let me get this straight. It’s acceptable for fat people to talk down and shame people who are in-shape or of average size and that’s completely acceptable? But it’s not okay for it to be the other way around? Hmm.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        No it’s not acceptable for them to shame you but no one has personally attacked you on this blog. I’ve put a big lady in her place plenty of times when they’ve personally attacked me and I didn’t feel like letting it slide. But that’s not what you’re doing. You’re not defending yourself you’re being intentionally cruel that’s what’s bothering me because of the blog subject you know it’ll get a lot of traffic from the bigger ladies why subject them that if no one has said anything negative to you.

      • Jessa89 says:

        Okay, White Knight. You’re welcome at any time to hop off that high horse you rode in on.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Thanks for the offer but I’ll remain on top I’m happy where I am :)

      • Muah says:

        I agree with you! Just because people ‘skinny shame’ doesn’t make it right to ‘fat shame’. Pathetic way to go through life, excusing your actions because someone else did it first.

      • Jessa89 says:

        Lol.

      • Mindy says:

        It’s kinda random but your body looks very nice and toned :)

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Thank you Mindy. I work out off and on but I can’t take much credit for my body I’m blessed with amazing genes.

      • FunDude718 says:

        LOL Jessa is awesome

      • FunDude718 says:

        You haven’t been around here long.

        We have plenty of fatty blogger ladies who are constantly making fun of “splenda” daddies, etc.

      • Muah says:

        Splenda is different when you are on a SUGAR DATING website :)

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Actually I have I just chose not to comment on anything. And I have seen those comments about the splenda daddies If your comments were only about unrealistic expectations like the girls that want substantial allowances but no sex I would say nothing. But that’s not what you’re doing. I personally don’t find bigger men attractive but one of friends love them and she’s skinny and gorgeous. I don’t ridicule her for finding them attractive nor the men she choose to date. Just because something isn’t for you doesn’t make it ok for you to go out of your way to imply someone is less than and that most people won’t find them attractive.

      • Muah says:

        I have a friend who’s petite, thin and pretty who loves big, burly men too!

      • Jaybird923 says:

        She say she finds it comforting like sleeping with a giant teddy bear :)

      • Muah says:

        Lols, must be how my friend feels as well.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        I personally would rather buy a teddy bear. I like a man who’s in shape.

      • CucumberOnLids says:

        It was the same for me. At first I was worried but nope he smelled so good and he was soft in all of the right places:)

      • Jessa89 says:

        No avatar = internet troll. Must be a reason. Just saying.

      • Jaybird923 says:

        Of course I don’t agree with you. I must be a troll… Since my not having an avatar is so important to you I added one. It’s a body pic so you can’t accuse me of being an under cover BBW. enjoy :)

      • GeorgiaPeach says:

        Not me Darlin. I love everyone. (well, almost) LOL

      • =-= says:

        The fact that you’re willing to downgrade yourself to the level of those people you hate shows you’re no better than them :)

      • DVNY says:

        Wait what? I shop at Victoria’s and I weigh 165. How big do you have to be to not shop at Victoria’s?

      • Jessa89 says:

        Quite large. I’ve never worn above a medium even when I was at my heaviest, which was like a size 10.

      • DVNY says:

        That’s what I’m saying, I wear their clothes and I still wear a medium. In regular clothes I wear a 12-14. I really do need to start exercising though, because between being spoiled with fabulous meals with my last SD and hibernating over the winter I managed to gain a bad 20 lbs.

      • Jessa89 says:

        Yikes! Dukan diet and running. You’ll drop that in about six weeks.

  174. Amused_SD says:

    I think the term BBW is very misleading. For instance, I like curvier women. The pic at the top? Make the woman in red bustier and she’s my perfect type. Depending on her height, she could be a size 10 or 12.

    Once you start getting past Size 18, it’s less ‘curvy’ and more ‘big’ woman. Plus *many* fat chicks call themselves BBW’s. Sorry. Just because your’e big, doesn’t mean you’re a BBW.

    • OnlineNewbieSD says:

      Yes…there are TWO “B’s” in the BBW…Big Beautiful Woman

      There are some women who are just Big…and I know Beauty is in the eye of the beholder…but…there are ugly people in this world!

  175. Jessa89 says:

    Honestly, I don’t see where all the hate on @FunDude is coming from. So the man has an opinion and is outspoken about it…big fucking deal. Let’s agree that the world we live in idealizes beauty and fitness – that doesn’t mean that women who are of larger size are unattractive or on the contrary, women who are rail thin and have no curves aren’t unattractive either. All the fat shamers are equally as guilty as the BBWs who shame the thinner women by making comments to, “eat a cheeseburger”…go f off. The same expectation is of men to be tall, athletic, be hung, have money, etc…the standard goes both ways. So haters keep on hating.

    • Muah says:

      Have you read his comments?

      • Jessa89 says:

        Yeah, I have. I don’t think he’s wrong in his opinion. I would agree that nowadays being fit and healthy is almost shamed in a way and being overweight and unhealthy is embraced. Let’s agree to disagree on what is considered “sexy” or “attractive” and move past that. Women and men come in all shapes, sizes, heights, ethnicity, etc…that’s not to say one is better than the other. You like your coffee hot, I like mine iced. We both still like coffee, just presented differently.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Actually, its only fit and in shape women that are being demeaned by BBW.

        They are still applying top level standards on men in terms of finances, muscles, 6 foot and above height, 6 figure salary, etc.

      • Muah says:

        No I get what you are saying, I posted a comment above of what he actually said that pissed me off.

        I agree with you, that’s my point :)

    • FunDude718 says:

      The hate is due to me speaking facts about male preference.

      There are a substantial amount of fat women that are basically DEMANDING men accept their body type as a “real woman”.

      They attack thinner, hotter women as “not real women”.

      Its pretty pathetic these days.

      If a man prefers a BBW, that is fine. But I have a major objection when we are being forced to accept this as a good body image.

      • Muah says:

        Stop trying to change the topic. The issue is you are saying that ALL MEN EVERYWHERE ONLY LIKE SMALL LADIES. That’s the issue, nothing else :)

      • FunDude718 says:

        I never said “all men everywhere”.

        I said the VAST MAJORITY of successful, well off men prefer sugar relationships with younger and THINNER women.

        That is reality.

      • Muah says:

        FunDude

        5 hours ago

        This is the most ridiculous fatty nonsense coming from the feminists again.

        MEN DON’T WANT BBWS UNLESS HE IS SOME RARE FETISH TYPE OF GUY!

        Deal with it ladies. Being a BBW is mostly a NEGATIVE for men!

        Im shocked I have to debate this further. This sound like some Oz or Phil or Oprah BULLSHIT! “

      • FunDude718 says:

        I should’ve clarified my comments as:

        The VAST MAJORITY of successful men don’t want BBW women for sugar relationships.

        Since this is a sugar website, I am speaking about that audience.

        If I was inaccurate in this assessment, they would be using BBW models throughout the SA website.

        Why don’t they?

      • Muah says:

        Lol mmmm hmmms

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        This I agree with @fundude718:disqus, if they are advocating for BBW success in Sugar, they should have some pics in the general areas with BBW women.

        I can tell you, in my “Home Screen” where you can see the “New Members” “Premium Members” “College Members”…there are FOR SURE some BBW women represented…probably more size 18+ than size 8-

      • Muah says:

        There are some chunky girls posted but you are right there are no large, pretty-faced women pictured. I wouldn’t know about the home screen lols

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        I wouldn’t even use “chunky” to describe any picture I’ve seen on the site (except this blog)…I think there isn’t a woman on here that would rate as A Few Extra Pounds in my mind. I also think the woman in red on this blog isn’t that big, as someone else commented, she’s curvy more than big…

      • Muah says:

        See even “big” is in the eye of the beholder :). Makes me feel extra thin though so YAY for that lol.

      • FunDude718 says:

        Im talking about the MODELS they use for this website.

        Why not mostly BBWs?

        We should promote BBWs as the models for this website if they are so popular among successful guys right?

  176. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    I’ve got a SERIOUS question for the blog…

    We have been ‘complaining’ in the comments because the topics aren’t the best…so…instead of just bitching about the topics, let’s brainstorm some ideas for new topics!

    When you Reply, put your audience first, like this:

    SB – Keeping your Sugar Life Private (things like anonymous phone/text)
    SD – Identifying a pro (since the site says no escorts, let’s get rid of them with some help from SA)

    • Muah says:

      If a grown man cannot identify a pro that’s his own damn problem. You know it’s true :)

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        You’re right…to a point…I was also thinking – here’s how to report it, here’s what we’re (SA) doing to keep this AS FAR AWAY from prostitution as possible…because right now there’s a lot of YouTube footage that calls this prostitution!

      • Muah says:

        That there is. The footage also paints sugar babies as dumb, spoiled brats that have more than one sugar daddy and don’t give a fuck that they are just rinsing him – which is shitty too.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Part of that is the casting call, or SA screening before referring someone to a casting call…if one of the talk shows asks for the name of someone in the lifestyle, there should be SOME screening to make sure she isn’t trailer trash, meth head, dim wit…

      • Muah says:

        It’s not interesting though if the girl isn’t a hot mess! (sarcasm) Lol. How those women act also make the real SDs look bad too. Not all publicity is good publicity.

      • OnlineNewbieSD says:

        Yeah, I reflect back to the courtroom show with the SD bitching about $2k in damage to his car…made EVERY SD look like a cheap bastard…the girls were the worst part of the SB pool…if I weren’t already involved in the site, seeing that episode would push me AWAY from the lifestyle…and the guys/gals it would draw to the lifestyle are NOT what would attract me into it either!

    • CucumberOnLids says:

      Keeping your Sugar Life Private- First not all SDs are married cheating on their wives so privacy isn’t necessarily a concern for all. I’m not saying to open your mouth and gab away of course I’m just stating that some men may not want to discuss where they met you but can’t wait to have you on their arm.

      SD- Identifying a pro( since the site says no escorts, let’s get rid of them with some help from SA) -Problem again is with Johns there is a high chance you’re going to attract escorts or in other cases make new ones. Once a SB sees the majority of what she’s offered for several hours of her time, she may just become a Pro.

      It’s how some SDs feel no more than 200 for 6-7 hours of a SBs time is reasonable. She may say hmm so I can possibly make $250-$300 for 1 hour of my time? It’s all about the mutually beneficial and if both parties feel what the other offers is beneficial.