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5 Tips on Juggling Multiple Sugar Daddies

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What’s better than sugar? A variety of sugar, of course!

Sugar Babies with multiple Sugar Daddies love the perks and sweetness of having a little added sugar to go ‘round.  Especially when enjoying different perks from a mix of Sugar Daddies.

One Sugar Daddy may favor treating you to lavish vaycays, while the other may provide a generous allowance.  Options are always a win.

Each Daddy brings something distinctively different, yet always luxurious, to the table. The added bonus? Having multiple Sugar Daddies offers the added security of never being left high and dry or in between Daddies.

Here’s a few tips on balancing multiple Sugar Daddies:

Shut your phone off

Never message another Sugar Daddy when you’re on a date.  You reap what you sow, so always make your Sugar Daddy feel like he’s the only one in the room. He’s allocated time from his busy schedule, so the least you can do is give him the undivided attention he deserves.

Keep a planner

Organization prevents the double-Daddy booking disaster. This flub can make even the sweet Sugar Daddy turn sour.  Planning is essential for making sure each Daddy gets their own special time. Also, try to keep cancellations to a minimum. Give your schedule room to breathe, as life can always throw curveballs. Leaving free time allows you to remain flexible for your Sugar Daddies.

Seek on-the-go Daddies

Daddies who travel often, work lengthy hours or live far away are ideal for balancing more than one sugar source.  This allows you to schedule your time more efficiently and to give each Sugar Daddy his well-deserved, individualized attention.

Be wary of clingers

It’s hard to maintain balance when they always want to keep tabs of where you are and whom you’re with.  A sure set up for impending disaster. No strings attached arrangements can help lessen the blow of any potential collateral damage.

Make Daddy feel special

As always, be sure you make each Sugar Daddy feel special. Know your limits and be sure to try and establish a sense of balance. You never want to be stretched so thin that you can’t enjoy your sugar!

Do you have any tips or tricks for juggling more than one Sugar Daddy?

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1,003 Responses to “5 Tips on Juggling Multiple Sugar Daddies”

  1. Julia says:

    Hi everyone! I just met a SD last weekend. We had a really fun time and there was 100% chemistry between us. BUT I was so attracted to him that I slept with him that first date… Do you think I did wrong? I’m 24, he’ 36. I’m from Latin America, he’s from Ireland. Not sure if this info is relevant anyway, but for what’s worth…

    So, we had a first date that was explosive, we had drinks, went partying together, talked a lot about life, family, mutual likes (a lot of them in the movies/music area). And when the party was over we had a hot night. Next day we were getting ready because he had to attend somewhere, but we hadn’t discuss about the ‘arrangement’ and we already had sex… I felt weird because it was like he got all the sugar of a sudden and I wasn’t getting any, and if I didn’t bring it up he wasn’t gonna to and that for me is very rude.
    So I told him. And I felt like a prostitute asking him for money (well, this web is for mutual benefits and he got it and wasn’t gonna give me none so…) but I am a student supporting myself all alone so I really needed it (only had 40 dollars left in my account, uff). We went to an ATM and he gave me not much… It felt really shitty to have to wait for ‘sugar’ while he was on the atm… Ugh, bad experience. Not what I expected. Ok, after that he mentioned we never discussed the arrangement properly (well, we didn’t because we were too into talking to each other on the first date that we forgot about it, or that’s what I think).
    That day he messaged me after his meeting to let me know how it was and that’s all. But it’s been one day and he hasn’t messaged me back. Should I say hi? Would that be too clingy? Being a POT do you expect your SB to text you first or rather you choose when? Was it a big mistake from me to have slept with him the first night?
    I don’t know how to react, this is my first SD (even though we didn’t discuss the arrangement and he only gave me some money for our first date…).

    Sorry to have written so long, but I really do need some advice.

    Hugs to everyone,
    Julia

    • AnonSB says:

      Honestly girl, tell him you guys might have had a miscommunication and you’d love to move forward but you’re really expecting $xxx per meet or $xxxx per month. If he ghosts you or is being cheap you might just want to write it off as a loss.

  2. Renea says:

    Question. What if I want more than one sugar daddy but they don’t like the IDEA of sharing me. Do i even have to tell them I have other sugar daddies? Also what if I’m in an open relationship do I have to tell them I have a bf too? Even though my bf is 100% OK with whatever I do since it is an open relationship

  3. Anonymous says:

    Okay!! I’m new to this. I don’t understand the comment section… This is a SD/SB blog. Why are there so many comments saying SB’s are prostitutes. As well as bashing SB’s who give advice on multiple SD’s or speaking on their. experiences or current situation. From what I’ve seen SD/SB relationship are nothing like prostitution. SB’S aren’t randomly sleeping with men for money. Yuck!! Honestly it comes off as side chick situation with hella good benefits and perks. Because so much goes into the relationship. If they were looking for a quick lay,they would hire a prostitutes. Last but not least isn’t this site here to give tips and a support group for SD’s/SB’s to chit chat with like minded people.Why are people here giving negative comments to people who are giving tips on the topic??

    • Anonymous says:

      Bitterness my love. :)

      Just think, they think so poorly of sugar babies, they spend all of their time obsessing about them on the internet. 😉

  4. Sugar_Rush says:

    Let’s not forget that the prime reason and purpose for the existence of these sites is to enrich Brandon Wade – the various editorial topics are just fodder generated by some junior staffer whose job it is to think up the sugar dating equivalent of Cosmo articles…

    This endless scroll blog format is a complete pain once there are more than a few replies- it needs a revision to a forum type structure

    • Anonymous says:

      Sugar Rush.

      Brandon would like to thank you for consistently contributing to this blog. You are what we like to call, a team player. 😉

  5. Bombshell99 says:

    Aloha!! I am seeking a cool sugar daddy who knows how to treat a LADY!!!!! If you think you are way cool, please e-mail me!!!!! I Love Sugar, honey lots of it!!!!! I hope you do too!!!!!

  6. Bazinga says:

    Yer any more than one arrangement makes you a different type of hooker

  7. Monique 62 says:

    @Goddess. Thanks for your advice, I just responded to an email as the guy was online. I had to apologise for not being able to meet him while he is in Brisbane as I’m going to Europe for a business trip and won’t be back until late July. I was actually going to look up info to see if it’s possible to deactivate my account while I’m out of the country.

  8. Goddess says:

    No, stick around hun and welcome fellow kinkster! You just have to be prudent in your search darling. I’m sure any man would love to have a woman of your ilk. I would recommend the events here and elsewhere though vs online interaction (like the sugar bowl). Vanilla folk convert to kink very commonly once they experience it. xoxox :)

  9. Monique 62 says:

    WOW! All this advise on juggling lots of SD really comes across as a desperate, needy SB technique filled with & drama! It’s much wiser to show some loyalty & respect to a deserving genuinely wealthy SD. I had one for over 13 years and he has provided me with a lavish lifestyle and many overseas trips! He lived in Austria and only visited Australia every few months! He was married and our arrangement turned into a deep friendship and we connected through our mutual passion for latex fetish and Role Play. Sadly he passed away a couple of years ago. A girlfriend told me about this site, but from reading some of these blogs and comments by trolls it has really put me off. I don’t think it’s my type of scene. I’m too afraid to respond to the many emails I have received as most don’t even sound genuine, I expected this site to be more classy.

  10. Jade says:

    I personally feel like if a woman is juggling more than one SD at a time, she is greedy and has no substance. Your SD deserves your undivided attention or at least needs to know if you’re seeing more than a handful. Don’t try to play Russian roulette and juggle them . Love who loves you. Quality over quantity!

    XOXOXOX

    Jade

  11. Anonymous says:

    A lot of SDs pay for exclusivity or perhaps they expect it. It’s dishonest to play multiple SDs against each other unless that is part of your arrangement. if your SD is paying you enough, get a higher paying one, not multiple ones.

  12. Not Insane says:

    A bigger issue for me, and for most SDs I believe, is not so much other SD(s); it’s the other Non-SD guys that the SB may share my largesse with. Sonny Boy Williamson wrote a song to describe this situation: “Fattening Frogs For Snakes.”

  13. IHF2030 says:

    A prostitute by any other name……………

  14. Josh says:

    Good acting skills are a must.

  15. Gina says:

    In my case, I really just give give them what they want to hear….. In reality the sugar bowl is a fantasy land…..so why not give them what they want?

    …..a Fantasy XD

  16. Gina says:

    No seriously,

    These tips are fundamental when juggling multiple daddies… I had one daddie that told me he was okay with me being accommodated by other men, please believe even if they are in the same situation and guggling multiple SBs they can and still get jealous….. You don’t have to lie just limit the information you give. :)

  17. Anonymous says:

    I miss ye old format me matey’s!

  18. flyR says:

    joann – The easy answer is tell the truth.

    Or you can give the Obama answer (I would never have two SD at the same time)

    One of the basic principles of sugar and parenting (or trying a case) is don’t ask a question if you might not like the answer …………

    In a perfect world I would like sugar to be exclusive but as others have noted that’s generally not a reasonable expectation unless there is sufficient allowance.

    I would rather an SB have another SD than be out hitting the Sunset Strip nightclubs which are an exchange for a lot of very bad stuff.

    Each sugar relationship is different some are based on a lot of trust and some not so much trust.

    I am also a believer that distrust breeds distrustful behavior

    Finally most of the women I have met in the sugar world enjoy sex more than their IRL girlfriends. To expect a healthy woman to be happy with sex only 3 times a month in the absence of a large financial incentive is pretty unrealistic .

    If I want the car I drive to be in the same condition I left it I need to do more than rent from Hertz or sign up for a car sharing program. I can do that by owning or leasing . If I lease I do not get off free for the days I don’t drive

  19. THEATLSD says:

    @joanne
    That subject has been brought up here many times. I think the basic conclusion is that if he wants exclusivity he is going to have to up the ante. If he is paying in the high moderate and higher then yes, be the one and only. If I were you I would not tell him anything and do what you want.

  20. Josh says:

    If you go by Madame @flyR, technically-speaking as long as you have fingers crossed behind your back you’d be fine.

  21. joanne says:

    but what IF your SD asks you directly not to have any other SD?
    do you lie to him, right in his face and say ” ok honey, I am only gonna be with you 3 times a month and won’t have another SD” ( say he is married)
    that is my point/

  22. SweetNSassyxD says:

    I’ve had trouble just simply landing one. I am in a smaller town where there aren’t many to choose from. So as informational as i find this, I have to say that the one i was planning to meet up with just kinda randomly fell off the face of the earth. After deciding on an allowance and a day we would begin seeing each other, he all of a sudden stopped responding. How do i avoid situations like that?

  23. Joey Angel says:

    Honestly im having trouble finding one sugar daddy

  24. Josh says:

    *feel-good

  25. Josh says:

    Sensible advice is wasted on most women…and men for that matter. That’s why giving fell-good “advice” is an ever-booming business…

    Madame @flyR: “The “fuller” sb needs to focus on fun and personality.”

    As proven in the “Plus Size” Baby Guide article, the absurdity of an “advice” is highlighted when the opposite is considered. How about non-fuller SB? Don’t they need to be fun and have personality?

    Madame @flyR: “I think that most men prefer an SB that represents something missing in their lives , either a current gap or something from the past .”

    Interesting…how many men find BBW “missing in their lives”?

    Madame flyR: “Same reason they love old cars from their high school or college days .”

    Men don’t love beat-up cars they once drove. They love the expensive, shiny, fast cars they may not have been able to afford when they were younger.

  26. flyr says:

    congratulations beth

  27. BethSB says:

    Haven’t commented in a while, sorry guys. I’ve been so busy with things lately, My country recently had our general presidential elections and my uncle who was running for president won, so he was sworn in today. We’re super excited about the change.
    I feel great right now
    So now it’s vacation time for me and il have to return in time for the inaugural party on independence day.
    I just had to share this news with you guys.

  28. flyR says:

    The “fuller” sb needs to focus on fun and personality.

    I think that most men prefer an SB that represents something missing in their lives , either a current gap or something from the past . Same reason they love old cars from their high school or college days .

  29. flyR says:

    The problem with the new format is that you have to scroll down through all the posts to see what’s new. Thant in addition to the data harvesting

  30. flyR says:

    I am not really attracted to the women in the photos HOWEVER personality is a major force multiplier. While her prospects for sugar are much dinner than the busty hardbody, she’s perhaps more likely to find someone who will stay.

    Joshie I REALLY appreciate you comments as they serve to illuminate the differences in how people relate to each other. In my business we have two rate schedules one for good people and one for not so good (mostly attorneys)

  31. Almighty says:

    At least they’re cutting through the bullshit and training these SB’s into being profitable little prostitutes!

  32. THEATLSD says:

    @PrettySB

    There is a comment section over on new blog. SA is trying a newt format.
    There are lots of posts discussing what you brought up.

    As for your questions, I would hit up that brunette, There body types are a few extra pounds. The issue lately is the BBW and grossly overweigh SB thinking they are curvy. There is a disconnect with these girls.

    Btw, my bro-law would think those girls are to skinny for him.

  33. PrettySB says:

    Is this blog now officially death, or what?

    Don’t see any posts anymore on the new topic?
    And was having a question about it.

    Ok, will try it here:

    How would SDs describe the ladies on the picture?
    Average, few extra pounds, overweight?

    And would you “next” them because of their bodytype?
    Me, being a (slim) woman, think they look sexy With those female curves? :-)

    Just wondering how males think about that?

  34. StruggleIsReal says:

    Just testing this comment here to double check the email I use to have my gravatar show up here. For some reason I’m all mixed up with my gravatar account and trying to get to show the image on my new Disqus account for the new commenting…. ergh

  35. Josh says:

    “The mama’s boys think that advising women to be genuine, strong and wonderful threatens their insecure fantasies of dominance over women. Tragically too many women buy into the BS”

    Madame @flyR, the more you write the more you prove that you’re a woman. Men don’t write like that.

  36. flyR says:

    Joanne

    Exclusivity is an elusive concept.

    When you have an SD who has never had a teen age daughter he is not likely to be acquainted with the concept of never ask a question if you might not like the answer .

    I believe you can block your online status. Perhaps you have to be a paid member but if you have an sd you should have the cash to do that or to get another profile .

    Have no idea of your situation but if and SD wants exclusivity he should be able to provide an allowance worthy of exclusivity regardless if he can take advantage of the time .

    Where there is mutual exclusivity it takes a lot of worries out of the relationship and thus adds value . If you are with a married SD he may well be willing to provide an allowance that justifies exclusivity despite the fact that he not able to fully use it.

  37. joanne says:

    What if your Sugardaddy asks you if you have another SD or other ones?
    What if you only see him 3 times a month and he is married, can he assume you have more than just him? what do you answer?
    and what if he sees your account and that you are online quite a bit?
    any ideas, I am new to this
    thanks

  38. Promise says:

    @Josh No! T~T Don’t encourage it.

  39. flyR says:

    @ Promise – nothing to say and of course nothing to regret. Were I not working 60 hr /week on some projects I would get some help to establish an invitation only blog.

    There are people who come here to have fun, share positive experiences and also their crashes but all done within a mutually nurturing environment . That doesn’t mean you have to agree with everyone.

    There are others hanging out in mom’s basement trying to be real men , but it is like a chauwawa trying to be a german shepherd . The mama’s boys think that advising women to be genuine, strong and wonderful threatens their insecure fantasies of dominance over women. Tragically too many women buy into the BS

  40. Josh says:

    @StruggleIsReal

    “Josh = Fundude, GeorgiaPeach, Promise, Latin”

    Of course. 😉

  41. Josh says:

    “It’s not like a real blog where Joe wants to fix his Yugo and folks are offering suggestions .”

    Madame @flyR does not miss a beat to insult SDs.

  42. Promise says:

    @flyR Idk what to say other then sorry.

  43. flyR says:

    @ Mindy – thanks for your kind comment. It distresses me to see women putting their worst foot forward all too often .

  44. flyR says:

    @ Promise – the problem is that if you use discus they place cookies and other software on the computer which harvests pretty much everything even when you are not using discus.. It is one of the most intrusive programs around .

    I also think the threaded discussion does not match the path of the blog. Most of you are too young to have read The Electric Cool Aid Acid Test …… but reading the blog is like being on the bus. It’s not like a real blog where Joe wants to fix his Yugo and folks are offering suggestions . It is not so much about subjects but rather an ongoing conversation .

    It is sad that a few obnoxious posters add so much garbage to the blog. When it ceases to be fun I am gone . Also when it ceases to be easy it is no fun. The thought of having to skim through 900 posts to make sure you have not missed something the last hour just does not make sense

  45. Promise says:

    @Struggle Josh and I are not the same. :(

  46. Catcher 22 says:

    @Struggle. Very well put. Thank you for stating what I have been thinking for some time.

  47. StruggleIsReal says:

    Oh dear friends. This blog has been so reduced. It’s all josh et al, spiced with some keke and retarded anon posts. Sad state indeed.
    Josh = Fundude, GeorgiaPeach, Promise, Latin (not sad to see that one go. Sheesh.)
    If you know the blog, there is no question to this. Just saying. What a ridiculous cluster fuck.

  48. Promise says:

    @flyR You can still comment as a Guest.

  49. Promise says:

    @flyR I love Disqus :(

  50. flyr says:

    DON’T DO DISCUS

    TO SA

    THE IDEA OF LINKING WITH DISCUS IS TERRIBLE MANY OF US PREFER / NEED TO REMAIN UNKNOWN TO MOST HERE FOR GOOD REASONS RELATING TO CLIENTS WIVES ETC . DISCUS MAKES THEIR MONEY BY SELLING INFORMATION ABOUT INDIVIDUAL PARTICIPANTS . WHAT THEY READ WHAT THEY WRITE WHO RESPONDS TO THEM .

    That’s not good for something that is generally a confidential relationship among adults.

    Noooooooooooooooooo please no

  51. KeKe says:

    New Blog!

  52. Mindy says:

    @flyR

    Haha I really like your analogies. Very funny.

    I personally find it very interesting to see how SBs market themselves to be differentiated from the general crowd. :)

  53. Promise says:

    @FunDude Stop trying to summon her! T-T

  54. KeKe says:

    @Josh.. I’m no Tequila connoisseur but I like Patron. What do you drink?

  55. FlyR says:

    Taking possession of my computer

  56. FlyR says:

    Whatever Ho was smoking last night , wow…………

    Since Jess is new we’ll bring proud. Differentiation out of the closet

    The nest time you go to the supermarket stop at the salt section. There is store brand salt for $x per pound and Leslie and Morton salt for 150% of x. The sale is the same but packaging and presentation made the difference . On the top shelf is Dead Sea salt priced at 500% of store salt .

    Sugar availability is a perishable commodity like fish , what Brandon has done is to create a surplus of a perishable product so that if the Sb competes only on price there is no floor.

  57. FlyR says:

    Fun omits consideration of the number of SD who are married . If there is a lesson from Monica it is that free is seldom free , especially for the married man. Anthony wiener would be mayor of NY (with Hillarys help) had the second act of the wiggly wiener not made him the joke of the Internet and his wife damaged goods.

  58. FunDude says:

    @Georgia

    I miss hot to trot as well. Enjoyed her drama that she brought to the blog.

    Would like to hear from her again due to the entertainment value.

  59. Promise says:

    @ATL Now I’m happy I’m to young to go.

  60. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @DrFunDude
    “@Georgia What fun was that?”
    I was being sarcastic, good Doctor. Some crazy lady was here forever and kept saying “good bye,” yet she wouldn’t leave. Stirred up a lot of emotions, name-calling and bad vibes – which some enjoyed, others didn’t. However, it did create a lot of excitement here. LOL

  61. Jessa89 says:

    @FunDude: My guess is they’re not in the small group of attractive women you describe. That’s okay…haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate 😉

  62. FunDude says:

    @Jess

    Good that we are in agreement. You’d be surprised how this issue has been fought tooth and nail by some of the women on here.

  63. FunDude says:

    @Georgia

    What fun was that?

  64. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @DrFunDude
    Honey, you missed all the “fun” last night. No, maybe that was more of a nightmare. LOL Regardless, keyboards/iphones were HOT last night. LOL

  65. Jessa89 says:

    @FunDude: I would have to agree completely on that. To get a catch you have to be a catch, you attract what you are, etc., are words to live by. :)

  66. FunDude says:

    @Jessa

    My statements have nothing to do with “bragging”.

    It is about the free market situation that the women have to contend with.

    A lot of women have false notions that they can obtain a “6 foot tall” man in his 30s or early 40s, muscular and makes good money/has assets that will be “generous” with the female.

    I am trying to give them realistic perspectives on this issue. There are VERY few of these men plus they can obtain attractive without having to pay.

    Ergo, women need to be more realistic in their demands.

  67. Jessa89 says:

    @FunDude: There’s no need to put anyone down here or have a dick measuring contest. A lot of the men on here are capable of attracting women on their own without the use of SA, but perhaps they only come across women who want an attachment or a relationship. Perhaps the men on here are bored and married and seeking an escape. We all have different reasons for being here.

    From your picture here it’s clear you are a very good looking guy so it’s not surprising that you attract beautiful women. And on the contrary, there are also a lot of beautiful women here who have high standards and may be here for the same non-attachment type of relationship. Just food for thought.

  68. FunDude says:

    @FLY

    I am able to obtain women that are better looking and younger than the vast majority of “sugar babies” on here.

    Ergo, there is no reason for me to throw money around.

    Also, there are almost no “fun dude 2” on here.

    Im sure there are some guys that are younger and/or richer, but those guys aren’t going to be throwing their money around unless they have some kind of deformity and/or extreme age where they can’t get a good female without large allowances.

  69. THEATLSD says:

    @All. Looks like the NYC SA party might be lacking. Just received an email for 50% off VIP pass. Hmmmmmmm…

  70. Promise says:

    If you like virgins maybe you should head to Japan. [http://en.rocketnews24.com/2015/05/14/loss-of-virginity-services-for-women-are-a-thing-in-japan-now-apparently/]

  71. StruggleIsReal says:

    @flyR

    In all probability the blog will survive a global nuclear war. All should be aware that it is searchable from google . Thus if you post here with an email address google will find your post and aggregate the info with all of your other info . Just some food for thought . And of course the reason you have free gmail and such is that they are also harvesting that information. Should your ever arouse the interest of the feds all of that will be available to them.”

    Great advice for all to note!

    @Perspicacious
    Your body is rockin! Now those are some legit curves! Go’on girl! :)

  72. Josh says:

    Talking about tequila, who prefers which brand and why?

  73. Jessa89 says:

    Yesterday was Taco Tuesday, so it’s possible.

  74. Promise says:

    ….Wednesday Whisky.

  75. Promise says:

    Or maybe they went out for Tuesday Tequila?

  76. Promise says:

    @gentleman and FunDude Maybe everyone is just getting over their Monday Margaritas?

  77. Jessa89 says:

    @Rembodler: that’s a great test. I like that. This POT was kind of a little bizarre so I don’t really feel much disappointment. He mentioned that he was waiting a year for a K-1 marriage VISA to go through for some Brazilian girl and was like, “Oh, well maybe you can steal me away and marry me before the year.” *runs for the hills* Scary. Seemed like he wanted to buy a trophy wife, which isn’t what my MO is. I understand sometimes SD/SB can become that but generally that isn’t the mindset. Hope Brazilian girl stays in Brazil!

  78. rembodler says:

    @Jess
    “…@Rembodler: Perhaps, but if dropping $12.00 on a glass of wine in a pleasant setting is a “test”, I’ll pass”
    The first time I always take a girl shopping, I tell her how much she can spend. She can spend all of it, however, if she does not, she gets it as cash. She does not know it, however. It is a “greed” test. Works like a charm.

  79. KeKe says:

    @KeKe

    “@Josh… I’m pretty sure she genuinely dislikes me…”

    Why would that be dear?

    No clue

    And I am hoping that it is more like “disliked” than “dislikes”.

    I don’t think we are going to be that lucky….

  80. flyR says:

    In all probability the blog will survive a global nuclear war. All should be aware that it is searchable from google . Thus if you post here with an email address google will find your post and aggregate the info with all of your other info . Just some food for thought . And of course the reason you have free gmail and such is that they are also harvesting that information. Should your ever arouse the interest of the feds all of that will be available to them.

  81. THEATLSD says:

    @MS Per
    “Is there a way to delete or edit posts? I am posting from my phone and now have caused a double entry :-)”

    Nope, this great blog is technically challenged. We all feel your pain.

  82. Jessa89 says:

    Thanks for the feedback, @TheATLSD.

  83. THEATLSD says:

    @Ms. Perspicacious

    You can do it without a full facial shot or you can blur your face a little. Just one more public pic should be good. Then leave the rest under private and share them only with the SD you are interested in. I totally understand the privacy issue.

  84. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    Is there a way to delete or edit posts? I am posting from my phone and now have caused a double entry :-)

  85. THEATLSD says:

    @Jessa.
    “I would say that upon first meeting someone there is trust built, which is why allowances starting small and working their way up as the relationship grows and blossoms is ideal for both the SB and the SD:

    Thank you, that is exactly what I try to get across to the POT SB

    BTW, you need to get rid of that bathroom sink picture you have. I guess you are trying for a full body pic? You need to get in front of a full length mirror or have a friend take it. It really does nothing for you.

  86. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    @THEATLSD Thank you for the kind words! I have quite a few private photos. My career is a bit public and I am weary on posting non-private pics. I guess one casual photos up for a bit will not be detrimental. I appreciate your time!

  87. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    @THEATLSD Thank you for the kind words! I have quite a few private photos. My career is a bit public and I am weary on posting non-private pics. I guess one casual photos up for a bit will not be detrimental. I appreciate your time!

  88. THEATLSD says:

    @Ms. Perspicacious

    I do not think separated will be an issue just be honest and tell the POTSD what you just told us.

    Also, I think you should add a casual picture. You will be in casual to semi-casual mode most of the time and SD would like to see you like that. You are smoking hot and should have no issues finding a “real” SD. Plus you live in a big city area with big money which helps the cause.

  89. flyR says:

    Fun – That’s the beauty of a free market …… You make your own rules ……..

    If your clone (aka FunDude2) makes the offer with half month you might be left empty handed

    Perhaps the difference is in the overall strategy and selection process. Most potential SB’s have had a lot of “can we meet tonight in the bar of the notell motel in an hour , i have $345.75 in my pocket for you” vs an approach that has a greater foundation and expectation of longevity.

    I also look at the “cost ” of searching for and recruiting an SB in terms of lost productive hours. Also there are clients whom we do work for on a handshake , email or call. But there are others for whom we want a full contract and deposit because we have identified traits which make us believe they are not trustworthy. My current SB arrangement started as per visit at her suggestion. We talked several times , she verified my background and was fine with it.

  90. KieraLuv says:

    Ms. Perspicacious and flyR, agreed and feel very similar on the allowance matter.

  91. THEATLSD says:

    test

  92. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    *others

  93. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    Thank you @FlyR. I truly appreciate a thoughtful reply. It is interesting to have an open dialogue and discover how other perceive me. Self-awareness is easily neglected.

  94. flyR says:

    @Persp “Thank you fly. I do list separated as divorced would be dishonest and a matter of public record. If it is a turn off then such is life. I do not want to start of on a lie. I am happily separated from high-school sweet heart. Thoughts on this everyone?

    I will consider the schedule. I work more than full-time and I am in grad school.

    I should narrow down what I seek, but I am rather fluid. I can appreciate many qualities and do not want to make a list of no no no and miss someone kind of neat.”

    starting from the end
    Listing things as desirable is a good way to stir interest and is not necessarily self filtering
    the following are a great plus ( insert your 5 point list and why )
    for example many sailboat owners would love to have someone to share an afternoon or evening sail with them . On a wednesday afternoon you’ll often find a number of professionals at the Catalina airport sharing lunch with their “nieces” (there is virtually no way to get to the airport other than airplane so it’s a very private place 15 minutes from LA)

    I think your happily separated and in the process of completing the paperwork is a very good answer . You might note in profile amicable divorce in process or something similar

    Your desire for honesty is commendable and attractive.

    I don’t know if you have the flexibility to trade off a few hours of work for sugar time. My guess is that the “average ” times are all over the board. My SB probably spends 5-6 hours a week door to door plus an occasional weekend or overnight.

  95. Josh says:

    @Guru’s crystal ball.

    Madame @flyR will write a “Joshie” post soon.

  96. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    @Jessa89 of course. All advice is welcome.

  97. FunDude says:

    @Gentleman

    Unfortunately, between work and my new girl, it has been busy.

    @FlyR

    I would NEVER pay some broad 1/4 of anything before going out on many dates ahead of time.

    Im not a sucker that just throws money at women.

  98. Jessa89 says:

    @Rembodler: Perhaps, but if dropping $12.00 on a glass of wine in a pleasant setting is a “test”, I’ll pass :)

  99. gentleman soul says:

    @FunDude
    This blog is getting boring.
    You people need to step up your game on here!

    Well Doc, you need to be here more often and stir things up .

  100. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    Thank you fly. I do list separated as divorced would be dishonest and a matter of public record. If it is a turn off then such is life. I do not want to start of on a lie. I am happily separated from high-school sweet heart. Thoughts on this everyone?

    I will consider the schedule. I work more than full-time and I am in grad school.

    I should narrow down what I seek, but I am rather fluid. I can appreciate many qualities and do not want to make a list of no no no and miss someone kind of neat.

  101. flyR says:

    I realize the above comment does not apply to those SD who arrive dressed in their physical and mental ebola suits.

  102. gentleman soul says:

    @rembodler
    Somehow u imply that a woman is always trustworthy and a man is a player. Why not the opposite? Why not trust the guy to follow thru?

    Excellent point . We are shaped by our experiences and once burned —. Vehement supporters of either payment technique have probably been screwed before . We each know what our intentions are and can’t understand why our target doesn’t get it .

  103. flyR says:

    @ rem excellent question “Somehow u imply that a woman is always trustworthy and a man is a player. Why not the opposite? Why not trust the guy to follow thru?”

    Not intended in any way to imply always trustworthy …………. which do you value more your dick or 1/4 of the monthly amount. If you are not willing to risk the 1/4 then you should probably stay zipped because it is not going to get better. if they are going to flake I would rather know early . By the same token with a new shop or detailer I’ll often leave $10 under the seat or in the console where I know they will find it. If it is gone I know if have bigger problems-could lose computer or other gear . With a good shop it’s stapled to your bill .

  104. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    @Kiera-An installment allowance sounds to be a great compromise. I certainly do not want cash exchanged every-time I see someone. It feels wrong (for me) and a friendship is important.

    Trust has to work both ways. If something feels “off”. It is okay to move on. My career is solid enough I feel that helps with the long-term friendship I seek. I have just as much to lose as a wealthy man.

    There is something for everyone it seems and I do not mind waiting patiently and having lovely days out. Even if it is not the exact, I have never made an enemy here.

  105. FunDude says:

    This blog is getting boring.

    You people need to step up your game on here!

  106. Josh says:

    Madame @flyR’s purpose of posting on the blog is to put men down and boost her girls’ income potential.

    She does it by pretending to be a generous man who ALWAYS has great experiences with women.

  107. flyR says:

    Mz Perp – continuing …….. I think you have a MUCH stronger story to tell than your profile indicates.

    think your ideal SD what characteristics , help them self filter *
    how you will improve the life of someone who meets that profile
    why they will feel good about helping you achieve your goals

    separated raises red flags for some

    Differentiate yourself in the eyes of your target SD , ignore the rest.

    I would not make a big deal of your schedule. Most everybody has a pretty full schedule other than there girls of back page waiting for the next call. Make sure the SD understands that you’ll keep your time commitments ( barring an occasional need to reschedule)

    consider buying a spiral notebook and keeping a log of your contacts with real prospects.

    are there professions you are attracted to

    * I have seen profiles with
    no right wingers or tea baggers
    no christians
    nobody over 25
    no ( race )

  108. Josh says:

    Madame @flyR does not like BackPage. Too much risk for het girls on BP. SA is much safer.

  109. rembodler says:

    @flyR
    “…half month in advance which serves to help weed out those who are really looking for the variety normally found on back page…”
    I had a couple of SBs I could’ve given a debit card to my bank account and not think twice. However, as a general rule it is ridiculous. Somehow u imply that a woman is always trustworthy and a man is a player. Why not the opposite? Why not trust the guy to follow thru?

  110. rembodler says:

    @Jess
    You tested him, but he might be testing you. If someone starts very humbly, I am more inclined to be generous (in fact, a lot more generous) than with someone who wants to impress me with her “higher standards”. It depends on a person, generalizations are almost always wrong.

  111. flyR says:

    I think Kiera has a very workable solution. Certainly a reasonable solution for the first intimacy – half month in advance which serves to help weed out those who are really looking for the variety normally found on back page.

  112. KieraLuv says:

    Hi everyone,

    I agree with preferring a daddy who gifts twice a month or monthly versus handing out cash only when services are given. Cash is ok sometimes but hate the transactional feel to it if it is all the time. I also think it is gross to juggle many daddys.

  113. Jessa89 says:

    @Rembodler: no worries 😉

    @gentleman soul: I completely agree with you! A daddy paying for a nice dinner is enough on a first meeting; if he feels so inclined to slip a few bills in my purse to surprise me, that’s completely up to him! I feel that some SD are just window shoppers here and don’t actually know what they’re wanting or who they’re contacting. I had a POT cancel on me today because I declined his invitation to a hole in the wall sports bar and suggested a glass of wine on a patio at a little nicer of a place. Apparently having higher standards for oneself is looked down upon – easily fake SD spotted.

  114. rembodler says:

    @gentleman soul
    Never thought I would agree on anything with Uncommon, but my nemesis was right when she said: “Do not feed the troll…” ;).

  115. Anonymous says:

    No bc instead of wising it to be in my purse it is sent to my bank account instead every month so no money is is handed to me in a tacky way. I don’t like carrying a bunch of cash in my purse anyway. Has always worked better for my relationships here!

  116. gentleman soul says:

    @Anonymous
    Ladies yes, P4P is gross and vulgar. See the fools on here like the wannabes on site get all mad when you refuse their p4p. Hilarious

    Cute LOL ! That is a guarantee that she will be sitting at home alone wishing she had a date -and a purse full of money .

    I am an installment allowance payor(thanks @Josh for renaming PTP ) and frequently get re-contacted by Babies months later after they refused my installments . I can’t help reminding them that they could be $ thousands richer if they had taken my earlier offer .

    @Jessa89

    I would say that upon first meeting someone there is trust built, which is why allowances starting small and working their way up as the relationship grows

    Sounds sensible Jessa . It’s good to be realistic in building trust and not expect $3000 cash before the first snuggling visit together

  117. rembodler says:

    @Jessy
    Sorry, I misunderstood.
    My sincere apologies…

  118. Jessa89 says:

    @Ms. Perspicacious – did you still want some profile advice?

  119. Jessa89 says:

    I would say that upon first meeting someone there is trust built, which is why allowances starting small and working their way up as the relationship grows and blossoms is ideal for both the SB and the SD. By no means would any SB in her right mind expect a Daddy to show up on a first date with an envelope stuffed with cash. And it’s not all about the allowances, either. I want a SD that I can build a friendship with and have fun with, even if his allowance was lesser than a SD that I have no chemistry with but wants to pay more. I suppose some women are more desperate than others, but I choose quality over allowance size any day.

  120. Anonymous says:

    Ladies yes, P4P is gross and vulgar. See the fools on here like the wannabes on site get all mad when you refuse their p4p. Hilarious

  121. rembodler says:

    @Jessa89
    “…I’ve gotten p4p offers…can you say gross! ”
    Whenever a woman rejects installments, I am often tempted to ask: ” if you have a close male friend asking your advice – should or should he not give a woman he met once a couple thousand dollars… Hoping that she will go through with the agreement? I bet, all of them would say: “are you…an idiot? No!”

  122. Josh says:

    The more SBs claim that they don’t like installment allowance, the more I think that SA needs to createa bond service. Every SB pitches in X amount and SA issues a bond for SBs. If an SB bolts, SA makes SD whole.

    If I were a betting man I would bet on the bonding service go bankrupt in a short period of time.

  123. Jessa89 says:

    I’ve gotten p4p offers…can you say gross! I’m definitely a one SD kind of SB. It’s too much work to try to juggle time like that. You probably wouldn’t have three boyfriends at a time so why do that to your Daddies?

  124. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    Thank you. I will make edits. I have been blessed that I have not been given any vulgar P4P offers.

  125. flyR says:

    Mz Persp

    I started to read your profile and then stopped . Get a tech magazine or even a medical magazine and look at the ads . Then look at your profile

    The basics sound spectacular but they are buried in one humongous paragraph Would Chevrolet , Bayer Aspirin , Apple , or any other successful company run an add that is 95% text and 5% graphic . Noooooooooooooo

    You have 5-10 seconds to attract the SD you want . Do the work for them Audience is visual

    Sell the sizzle not the cow

    WHAT WOULD YOUR PROFESSORS SAY

    Profile Writing for Dummies (no different than an academic note )
    Identify the objective
    Identify the “customer”
    Develop marketing strategy
    Outline the points
    Write
    Edit
    Spell and grammar check

    Good photo but pick one more

    Good
    attractive
    intelligent
    nursing -generally giving people

    BAD
    I’m turned off at the thought of paying off your old debt and credit card
    Fine to ask for assistance in school and leave it at that
    You have worded your allowance to say that you are OK with P4P

  126. GeorgiaPeach says:

    So, if a tree falls in the forest, does anyone hear? Does anyone care?
    Similarly, if “Anonymous” posts on SA, does anyone hear? Does anyone care?
    LOL

  127. Anonymous says:

    Ha! Look at the 7:42 comment. Mistake to press ‘enter’ to quickly. Obviously most are considered pretty, and not beasts.

  128. Anonymous says:

    I hear Russian women are BEASTS at this. It’s called mail-order bride frauds. Anyone see that crappy netflix documentary? on Ukrainian mail-order brides?

  129. Anonymous says:

    I hear Russian women are BEASTS

  130. Anonymous says:

    Oh gee, the guy cheating on his wife has the nerve to feel bad that he’s not the only one in his girlfriend’s life. Hypocrites. Insecure hypocrites, the LOT of ya!

  131. Ms. Perspicacious says:

    Good Morning All,

    Would a few of you peek at my profile and tell me your thoughts on it? I am just curious. I like having editors review my grad work. Why not my profile?

  132. GeorgiaPeach says:

    @ONSD
    I am genuinely sorry you’re having such a hard time. In many cases, quality, reliable help is difficult to find – and keep. My problem now is that my age is against me on my job search too. LOL. My Mom used to say that “getting old is not for sissies” – she was right. Just wait until you are all my age. She was right. You need to anticipate the unexpected and have plans in place as much as you can. Never, ever in my wildest dreams did I imagine I’d be widowed at age 56, just when we were finally getting our shit together, with some room to breath and enjoy our lives together. I’ll cross my fingers that you find someone who will work out for you in a way that will help you grow your business even more. :)

  133. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @GP – As much as I’d like to say, “yeah, it’s too bad you don’t live closer” I do have to say, “I’ve heard it all before”…I even hired that way once…sales guy, not assistant…was not pretty. I do like your attitude, you can handle blog commenting (that’s a technology plus), and between your profile and your interactions here you seem to be able to communicate (@Josh has rarely had to ask for clarification because of lack of comprehension)…the sad part, to me, is that the last one snowed me so bad because of how she had the clients taken care of…and she didn’t even follow the EASY shit to organize files…she even fucking deleted the sample folder I created, because she didn’t like the way I had organized it…then on a Monday morning, she texts me she’s running late due to an appointment, shows up and says she registered at a Temp Agency and when they had an assignment she was done…the next morning, shows up and says, “I’m done at 11 today”…I was blindsided by the work she didn’t do on organization, and she even left a couple of client tasks (normally she was on top of them) without telling me, it took the client calling and saying, “what’s up with thus and such”…so…I’m VERY gun shy for hiring…may stick with temp or project help for a while!

  134. flyR says:

    “Watch out for discrimination lawsuit against your hiring practices with the Department of Labor.”

    I got a few snarky replies on that and the not more than 30 minutes from the office.

  135. Josh says:

    ‘Tis time for a new blog.

  136. Promise says:

    @Josh It’s OK. Don’t frown. (>;~;)>

  137. Josh says:

    @KeKe

    “@Josh… I’m pretty sure she genuinely dislikes me…”

    Why would that be dear?

    And I am hoping that it is more like “disliked” than “dislikes”. :(

  138. KeKe says:

    What I don’t like is that some of these idiots take the frustration, created by @Guru, on others. The @Guru apologizes for such side effects of his clean-up process. 

    @Josh… I’m pretty sure she genuinely dislikes me…

  139. Josh says:

    @Promise,

    It takes certain level of back and forth to convince rinsers, escorts and man-haters to end–or at least limit–posting nonsense on the blog. Many have gone through this process in the past. Many will be put through the same process in the future. For the most part you should just relax and enjoy the show of @Guru meticulous process of exposing the idiots. 😉

    What I don’t like is that some of these idiots take the frustration, created by @Guru, on others. The @Guru apologizes for such side effects of his clean-up process. :(

  140. peeps says:

    @GeorgiaPeach one time though there was a real creep…he seemed pretty normal at first…I talked to this guy on the phone for a while even, who made all kinds of excuses about how we was married and asked if we could have a first mtg in my apt…i was like HELL NO I only meet in public places … he then was like “can you go to ___ neighborhood so we can go for a ride and talk in my car…” I was like NO… he disappeared after that. he also called me from an unknown number…after that I made it so that my (google voice) number does not accept unknown calls…

    You can’t be TOO careful…best to err on the side of caution…

  141. Promise says:

    @GP I think everyone (but me and Kenna) took @Melissa’s Monday Margaritas seriously. That or they’re just worn out from last night.

  142. GeorgiaPeach says:

    @Peeps
    Thanks. That does ease my mind. I feel like I’m the “other” granny here sometimes. I worry about all my younger friends and acquaintances here. I know you’re a very smart lady, but you just never know.

  143. GeorgiaPeach says:

    @Josh
    Makes you wonder exactly what she’ll do for the “maximum” and how much that would be. LOL Escort written all over the place.

    Too quiet tonight. We need to find a medium of chaos, fun stuff without getting so snappy and mean. LOL

  144. Josh says:

    X in the above comment referred to neighboring large city I wanted her to meet me in.

  145. peeps says:

    @GeorgiaPeach

    Thank you no worries. I will not bring a SD initially to my home, no:)
    The one I met today and I will go to a hotel initially, we have discussed that, instead of my apt. I am careful about that. Yes, I have contacts, etc…but I have met enough people in my excursions through normal online and BDSM dating that I have a developed/trusted a very strong intuition, boundaries and instincts:). I am super careful.

  146. flyR says:

    @ Peeps

    A I would not discuss the ability to bring someone home until late in the interview process.

    Fears – most young women have brought a man home with less scrutiny

    You are probably safer in your own home than a hotel room but that’s just my opinion.

    Hang a picture on the wall of your ” big brother” the Seal hand to hand combat instructor on the wall

    Being willing to bring someone home is a substantial value add in addition to the savings in hotel rooms your allowance should reflect that

  147. Josh says:

    A ho (with a photo of exposed tit in public photos) contacts me out of the blue and gets right into shaming language. I am sure shaming language works with many men. Otherwise, why else would women engage in the same?

    SB: Request to view your private photos.

    SD: Can you meet in X?

    SB: Yes. But I’m probably to expensive for ur taste. I’m a 500$ minimum.

    SD: It does not matter really. I am not into escorts. Good luck!

  148. GeorgiaPeach says:

    @Peeps
    You are the brave one. I’ve never in my life brought a newbie date to my residence on a first date. LOL And now, I think it’s even more dangerous, since too many things can happen that didn’t used to be in the picture. Just, please, be careful. Do you have a “contact” you can call if you need help, other than 911? Even now when I’ve had a date (yes, rare, but…)one of my friends or my son always know how to find me or reach me when I’m out with a new guy.

  149. peeps says:

    @josh
    I haven’t brought a SD home yet. The last (and only one so far) got a hotel room for work. Most of the SDs are married, that’s why, they prefer someone to host. And a decent hotel room costs plenty where I am. I *prefer* SDs who have their own place but of course I am not the one who does the final picking -:)

  150. Josh says:

    @peeps

    Why do you bring SDs home?

  151. GeorgiaPeach says:

    @ONSD
    All I can say, shame I don’t live closer. LOL. I’ve kept up and advanced my skills. Most of my males bosses adored me and I got very high marks on organizational skill. Especially now – I figure with my “advanced” age, my memory could go any time, so I make LOTS of notes, I ID files, etc short and specific with the date it was created and I organize by levels of files. I’m doing same now with my attorney friend and her clients. Her f/t slack ass does input details of conversations or frequently even basic client info like email addresses, cell #’s, etc. She has yet to not find something I have created, scanned, etc for her or a client. And yeah, I know what a spreadsheet and formula look like. Funny thing is I was 37 when I saw my first computer while I was working in Admin at a bank. LOL. One of the first Apple desktops, B/W only. We were so excited when about 8 mos later Apple came out with an affordable Color monitor. LOL. A couple wks ago I actually had to use an electric typewriter to complete a subpoena. WHOA, it has been well over 20 yrs since I even thought about one of those. Shame courts haven’t figured out how to complete those on a computer while still embossing that “seal” they need. LOL. Oh well… btw, don’t get me started on the majority of female bosses. OMG. I, too, hope you find someone. I know having a good “right arm” (aka assistant) as I’ve been called is one of the most important things for a good boss. :)

  152. Josh says:

    Madame @flyR

    “have been raised more than 200 miles from LA ( preferably midwest)”

    Watch out for discrimination lawsuit against your hiring practices with the Department of Labor.

  153. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Promise – No she is not with me any more…

  154. flyR says:

    @ Peeps – From your goals the mergers and acquisitions attorney sounds like a loosing proposition.

  155. flyR says:

    @ peeps – sounds great ……… you and struggles should be ready to write the Complete Guide To Hunting and Taking Prime SD’s

  156. Promise says:

    @ONSD Is she still there?

  157. FatB'StardSA says:

    @FlyR

    “I use a series of tests which measured intelligence, reasoning, math skills…”

    You are a better manager than I gave you credit for. It is smart to have employees who are strong in the areas that you are weak in.

  158. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Aptitude test not year, damn phone

  159. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @flyR – with the last one I did three tasks as an aptitude year, also a questionnaire for personality and ethics…she just got comfortable and I got too trusting and quit verifying work product because clients were happy.

    Now, I’ve learned. Establishing the checks to keep it easy and less obvious I’m checking on things so I can keep better tabs along the way.

  160. peeps says:

    @struggle
    thanks!
    I am still meeting people. Will meet an interesting POT with whom I have a bit in common tomorrow night. I am technically “still available” since the “deal” isn’t sealed yet.

  161. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Peeps
    Good call, in my opinion. Do you have any more POTs lined up to meet or are you locking and loading on the one you mentioned?

  162. flyR says:

    @ Online

    After a number of decades of hiring people a friend and one of the brightest guys i know suggested I use a series of tests which measured intelligence, reasoning, math skills, attention to detail. I added to that – she had to live within 30 minute commute, have been raised more than 200 miles from LA ( preferably midwest), not be an aspiring actress and looked for character as an foundational component. Experience in the industry was a negative. I also looked for someone who would probably not remain more than 5 years unless we had a substantially better opportunity.

    Every time I went against the test results I got burned. The essence recruit for brains, character and energy works in sugar too

  163. Promise says:

    This weather keeps making me fall asleep. >:(

  164. peeps says:

    Thanks @OnlineNewbieSD

    I had to get that off my chest lol…it felt kinda icky with the second guy…I think also the idea of bringing people over makes me hyper selective because I have to REALLY like the person to have them in my home…I can’t have someone I don’t like over. I mean even before I can consider physical aspects I have to feel like I am with a good person, or it can’t work.

  165. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @peeps…congrats, I think, on the two offers in a single day! It sounds like you’re making the right decision for you to stay on the “likable” side of the sugar bowl.

    also sorry to hear the one you were interested in last week didn’t reciprocate…but it happens…good attitude to continue your schedule to try to find the right fit with though!

    It’s no surprise that the M&E attorney was “cold” and “numbers” focused…it takes a certain type of person for the business and you hit it pretty dead on with the description of every M&E guy (attorney or financial) that I’ve met!

  166. peeps says:

    ok so just sharing stories apropos of the actual article…on multiple SDs…the POT I met and liked last week wasn’t into me I learnt yesterday. Kinda bummed but c’est la vie…

    Today I met 2 POTs and got 2 offers on the first meeting. The first one I really liked, a great, warm person. We had a long lunch, got along, I could feel he is a caring, relatable person. I like him, to be precise.

    The second – a senior mergers and acquisitions attorney – was cold and got straight to numbers and asked what I wanted and how much and how much I was making in my job, etc…just a numbers and deals person…I was what I wanted (based on what my last SD gave me) and he said “that’s a lot”, then said, “ok”. He was also sort of lightly condescending and took things to a sort of colder sexual level right away and pushed for a resolution and asked on the spot if I was ok and wanted to go forward and where I lived and when I was available…I said “ok, sure…” because seriously 15 minutes had passed since I first said hi to him and I needed to think about it and in my gut I knew this second guy isn’t for me. I guess I could have the 2 guys but I think that’s when you draw the line. I need to feel something for the person, I need to like them, or I’d feel like a prostitute. In the end of the day I have to be able to look at myself in the mirror:)

    So I am going with the first guy – even though he hasn’t given me an allowance or anything yet, we just talked – because I just have to like the person. If it’s all about $$$ – especially since I’d be bringing the person into my home – I can’t do it. I just can’t…

    I am doing this because I am transitioning professionally and working freelance…but it absolutely cannot be just about money…it has to be a positive experience, and I have to be in the company of someone I like as a person.

    Anyway end of rant y’all, just wanted to share:)))

  167. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @GP – I have had an assistant in her 50’s when I was in my early 30’s…she was worthless with the technology…I could type faster than she could…and god forbid the phone ring more than one line at a time. She was great for the 60 and 70 year old prospects entering the office because she was demure and reserved and made them feel comfortable until they got to see me. She was bigger than a size 14…

    When I left that place, I had a 30-something that had administrative experience…again…I could type faster than her, with fewer errors…despite taking multiple classes (at my expense to supplement what her resume said she had already done) she couldn’t even manage a formula in a spreadsheet that passed through a couple of tabs in Excel…she was probably a size 10 or 12…

    When I left that place and started my own business, I had a late 20’s hottie come for an interview with all the right skills, references, even passed a test I made her take about spreadsheets and typing (still not as fast as I am, but she at least kept errors to a minimum)…she was a size 00 and bitched about the clothes being made bigger and bigger nowadays…what I missed with her was the complete lack of follow-through on tasks…she was GREAT in the beginning, but over the course of 3+ years, she fucked me over hardcore with some client issues…she called in because of roads one day and I found multiple client files on my server with no sense or organization or justification for which documents were where and no naming conventions per instructions from me…she left me with less than 24 hours notice and a mess that I’m still trying to get straightened out two years later…she knew how to take care of clients, and that’s what kept her with me those three years…and when I asked for something she could get it to me, but I have NO IDEA how she had things organized and cannot make heads or tails out of what she did…

    I’m not a trusting individual anyways…and I’m VERY protective of my business and clients because I’m building a brand and a legacy with what I’m doing…I have someone that helps me with my second business…I trust her so far, but she’s slowly edging herself toward the cliff…

    I’m not ageist in the least…I want competent, efficient, effective, reliable staff…but…you’re right…it’s DAMN difficult to find nowadays!

  168. StruggleIsReal says:

    Also @promise, not that you are asking, but I would not suggest that you put a picture like my Gravatar up. I think your gravi is perfect for you. For your profile I would use a photo like that as my main photo, and in my hidden photos which I would reveal to quality PoTs, I would have a beautiful smiling face shot with very minimal makeup and one with you in a form fitting LBD and heels, looking classy. Who your sweet innocence with a very slight hint of your lovely form and ability to step it up a bit for a seasoned crowd. :)

  169. StruggleIsReal says:

    Oh and yes @flyR and @ONSD are actually right, compliments aside. Natural light is the best. At the time, I was staying in a room that had two walls of big windows, in the Bahamas. Beautiful light TOTALLY helps. For outdoor photos, morning and later afternoon light is the best. If you must take photos mid-afternoon, do so in a lightly and evenly shaded area that is bathed in ambient light, meaning it is not direct sunlight, which casts unattractive shadows on any and everyone. Lighting is everything!

  170. StruggleIsReal says:

    @ONSD
    Ah my friend. You are too too kind dear!!

    @Promise
    Self timer. Running back and forth. Set my iPhone on an appropriate height counter ledge. There are several self-timer apps on the iPhone but I think the one I used was called “camera plus”? Then I just cropped in and probably hit the “enhance” button on the iPhone or iPhoto. There are also a lot of apps that let you play with the colors too. I think I left that one pretty natural… maybe messed with the contrast a little bit if anything.

  171. flyR says:

    @ Southern “Be glad that your man isn’t “handy”.”

    I would beware of the current generation which seems challenged to even make a cup of coffee.

  172. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    “OnlineNewbieSD
    “…just wish I had someone I could trust to deal with the “small stuff” that can fester”

    Have you thought about hiring an “older” person? When we moved to ATL for over 8 mos, I cared for my termin ill husband(if wasn’t supposed to be that way, or we would not have moved, but that’s another story); I had quit my job several months before we moved. Abt 6 wks before he passed, our special Aunt died. We were Executors of her estate. Needless to say, I was a “mess” and decided to “take the year, 2010, off” to recoup and get mu shit back together. When I do go on the job search again, having well over 20 yrs of Administrative/clerical experience, no one wanted me. I’ve had lots of interviews, told I present well, have the qualifications but, since they can’t “legally” say, they infer that it’s my age. So tell me kind Sir/SD, you’re in a bind with and assistant or such who doesn’t give a rip about her position with you and only wants her lovely paycheck, doesn’t that say a great deal about the generation we’ve raised? They have little to no work ethic. I’ve since been working some from home, I do a lot of volunteer work and recently as friend has hired me as a “contract” Assistant in her law office, though at the moment, it’s only 1 day per week. She is generous with her wages to me, but it’s certainly not enough to pay more than a few monthly utility bills. The thing is, I tend to “jump” when she requests something of me, I stay late when needed and do the stupid/crazy things she just doesn’t want to do. Bet your lovely “assistant” won’t do those without more $$. What I’m saying is perhaps an “older” person is one whom you could trust these days, regardless of the fact that she’s not a size 6 or such. Most of us “older” ladies have the work ethic that many of these young “squirts” are having difficulty finding. Just my 2 cents here. :)

  173. flyR says:

    “”@Struggle How’d you even take that picture? Also how did you get that lighting?”””

    sunrise

  174. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Promise – foot pedal selfie stand…and that’s not lighting, it’s the glow of the heavens radiating around her 😉

  175. Promise says:

    @Struggle How’d you even take that picture? Also how did you get that lighting?

  176. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Struggle – says the woman with the panties oh so strategically supported 😉

  177. StruggleIsReal says:

    Ps. It’s amazing how much better dedicated gravatars make the blog for enjoying!

  178. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Promise
    Perfect gravatar for you!

  179. Josh says:

    Madame @flyR

    How do you collect money from SDs then?

  180. Promise says:

    Because of all the Anon stuff I basically had to.

  181. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    I think we’re all just going to keep our mouth’s shut, since you’re expanding your boundaries…we’ll chime in when we think you need to stay sheltered 😉

  182. flyR says:

    @joshie “So you provide debit cards to your bevy of SBs?”

    to 3 over the years yes….. Someday even Josh may understand that you can have a healthy relationship with a woman, even an arranged one.

    The danger is not that a bad SB runs off with a thousand or two but rather the far greater risk is that a bad SB stays with you.

  183. Promise says:

    I’m surprised no one’s said anything about me getting a gravatar yet. :O

  184. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Promise – It’s the naive comments like you made “can we not talk about her anymore?” Those are adorable, cute, etc…

  185. Promise says:

    @ONSD I still don’t understand why people say that about me. Thank you?

  186. Josh says:

    “Providing a debit card to a great SB”

    So you provide debit cards to your bevy of SBs?

  187. Josh says:

    @FunDude

    I guess taking cue from Madame @flyR, @FlyGirl was referring to @Ho.

  188. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Promise – you are just adorable 😉

  189. Promise says:

    @FunDude Can we not talk about her anymore?

  190. FunDude says:

    When did Hot to Trot become a college professor?

    {{http://www.buzzfeed.com/stephaniemcneal/a-professor-is-being-criticized-for-calling-white-college-me?utm_term=.me5XNA1KV#.ls8j8dzmRl}}

  191. flyR says:

    @flyboy “Giving an SB a charge card to spend from as needed, can NOT in any shape or form be interpreted as P4P. That is, unless you are ideologically against giving ANY monetary help to the woman you are dating which is not true in our case since we both accept the premise of helping out.”

    Providing a debit card to a great SB is one of the things that moves away from P4P . When we had an established relationship I had a new sub account created at the bank and delivered the card with the access code set to her birthday . It’s there for a number of reasons to provide her with emergency funds, so that I don’t worry if she offers to pick up dinner on her way over or drive 150 miles to meet me for a weekend.

    It also provides an easy way to deliver the allowance. But more importantly it says trust .

  192. FunDude says:

    @Fly

    Just because Josh and Hot had some kind of spat yesterday.

    Considering you quoted her response to Josh, it is safe to assume you were speaking about Josh.

    I don’t really care either way. Just something funny during my lunch break.

  193. Promise says:

    Berry shewioushwee.

  194. FlyBoy says:

    Doc, Why did you ass-u-me I was talking about Josh?!!!!

    Cheers :)

  195. FunDude says:

    @Fly

    Hopefully Josh doesn’t see that nasty post about him being a troll. He takes this blog VERY SERIOUSLY!!!!!

    Josh will likely come back on the warpath to defend his honor

  196. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Southern
    “@Kenna-Be glad that your man isn’t “handy”. One of my boyfriends was a mechanic and he thought that just because he could fix cars that meant he could fix everything on the planet. As such he tore up every thing in the house trying to put everything together.”

    Laughing my ass off! Some of your posts are simply such a hoot!

  197. StruggleIsReal says:

    @ATL
    Accurate post about @Kenna offering help and the state of things.
    I became tired of helping girls with profiles pretty early on, when they didn’t seem like they were comprehending and applying advice, and most of the time were actually somewhat to very combative about constructive criticism. Sometimes I suppose you just can’t fix stupid, or whatever it may be that is lacking. Even now I would help someone who shows true interest in improving and actual promise of being able to apply and execute for satisfactory results. Unfortunately I haven’t seen much of that.

    I feel the same as you– how flipping hard can this be? You guys helped me early on (@Josh, you, @Sexy, & @ONSD). I immediately applied the minor edits and advice, received tons of messages thereafter, and went through a few POTs until I found my current situation within a few months.

  198. Promise says:

    Shaming Female Virgins [https://youtu.be/BBHRtK_-m-k]

  199. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Fly – I completely retract (officially) if every time you give them a charge card to spend from as needed…I swear you mentioned just giving them $5k to be whisked away for splediferous spoiling…it SOUNDED p2p to me…

    apologies…and peace 😉

  200. FlyBoy says:

    OnlineNewbieSD:

    Giving an SB a charge card to spend from as needed, can NOT in any shape or form be interpreted as P4P. That is, unless you are ideologically against giving ANY monetary help to the woman you are dating which is not true in our case since we both accept the premise of helping out.

    The only difference between us is that of scale. So keep that in mind the next time you get the urge to throw stones.

    You wrote that your house is “scared ground”. I swear … lol

    Anyway, I accept your non-retraction retraction.

    Peace :)

  201. FlyBoy says:

    @hototrot:

    Frankly, I can’t believe the mods allow so-called men to call women hoes here. That’s abusive. I can defend myself, but it does cross the line into abuse. I can’t believe other women don’t find any problem with it.

    That is the 64K question. Why would SA allow a compulsive troll to portray it as a “Bordello” full of hookers?

    Possible answers:

    1. The troll is really a nice guy. Alas everybody is a hater.

    2. The mod is paid minimum wage and couldn’t give a shit.

    3. The troll is sexually engaged with the mod, who give him space to act out his madness.

    4. The troll is a made man who threatened to unleash the dogs of hell should mod ban him.

    5. The troll has power over the mod?!

    Feel free to add to the list!

    Cheers :)

  202. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Promise – nothing that won’t get handled…just wish I had someone I could trust to deal with the “small stuff” that can fester…

  203. SouthernSB says:

    @Kenna-Be glad that your man isn’t “handy”. One of my boyfriends was a mechanic and he thought that just because he could fix cars that meant he could fix everything on the planet. As such he tore up every thing in the house trying to put everything together. I had a computer table that petered out after two years a television console that broke after 5 years and a DVD player that went to electronic heaven after he got done with it. My computers have been spywared, virused, hacked and blocked from the various sketchey pornsites he use to go to and I use to get all kinds of calls from his clients that he broke everything BUT their cars. Honestly, after my experience I should have a “no handy men allowed” on my profile, because I seem to attract that type. My hubby was the same way, only he use to tinker with my daughter’s toys. I’m not bitter though, even though it really exasperating at the time, I can get a good laugh about it now, and I can sit at home and watch all the car repair shows and relate to the poor wives at home who haven’t had a new car in years because their husband’s keep pulling things from the junkyard and “remaking” them. ROTFLOL because it happened to me.

  204. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Fly – I knew this was coming…I like some of what you post, and couldn’t understand why @Fat put us in the same sentence…probably stirring the pot, which I completely fell into with my post referencing you and now your post back at me…

    We run in VERY different circles…your posts about not caring about a couple of thousand (or even $5k) dollars make no sense to me…but…it’s YOUR sugar reality…and to more than just me, the way you talk about it makes it sound pretty much like an escort or p2p situation, that’s why I said it that way…

    For me…it’s about cash flow, not assets…it’s about finding an investment, and that doesn’t happen at a first meet…it’s about the relationship, not the fuck…oh, and by the way, Student is 22 years my junior, not 30.

    Do Student and I go to hotels for playtime? yeah, occasionally (actually only twice)…I’ve never said my house is “sacred ground”…and I don’t do p2p, I’m strictly an allowance guy…that’s MY sugar reality.

    Cheers 😉

  205. Promise says:

    @ONSD Is something wrong at work?

  206. flyR says:

    Reading the blog is like watching a re-run of Play Misty For Me

  207. THEATLSD says:

    @ONSD
    I’m always amazed at the people I work with that bitch to me about money. I tell them, “You need to scan your ID at the door to unlock it to get into the building but its not required to leave the building. Throw your ID on the desk and go find yourself a job that pays this good and with more time off then this.” Crickets. It’s getting worse we are hiring even younger people then we ever did before, damn then need to be “bitched slapped”

    We have a new “collage” girl in my area. She has “I love the colir green”
    and she is pregnant. WTF x10!! yea, I’m all over that one.

  208. FlyBoy says:

    @OnlineNewbieSD:

    @Fat – I already have a fine co-ed for myself…

    You can game a “fine co-ed” 30 years your junior?! Who will accept to be your fuck buddy?!!! Who will willing go to a motel with you because your house is “sacred ground”?!!!! Who will observe discretion to preserve your marriage and meager assets.

    Yeah sure!!

    I don’t associate with SBs who look for handouts, or high-budget hookers like @FlyBoy

    So you do low-budget hookers!!!!!!!!

    Does the “fine-coed” above know that you do low-budget hookers?
    If yes? Man you are good.

    ha

    Cheers :)

  209. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @ATL – well said…I applaud @Kenna and @Sexy and the others that have offered to help SBs with their profiles…my clarification, though, is that not only are we in a TMZ world and it shows…we’re also in a Lottery World, and it shows!

    Gone is the work ethic that lifted us out of the Great Depression and won the Second World War…it has been replaced by government dependency and wealth redistribution…it AMAZES me how much people will NOT do, but still DEMAND they get paid! Not just in the Sugar Bowl…I’ve had some employees in the past that thought they should get paid exactly the same as me for business earned through my hard work and their ability to fill a seat next to me in the room…they couldn’t even be bothered to make sure materials were printed and prepared as asked…but they sure did bitch about not getting what they were budgeting from the sale when their check was issued!

  210. THEATLSD says:

    @Fatbastard
    “Don’t be so closed minded, @Josh might be a wigger in which case he is perfectly entitles to call you a ho.”

    What’s a wigger?

    As for the Judge Judy show. If I remember correctly in some old blogs Mr. Fatbastard made comments and innuendo’s that he does not live in the good old U.S of A. I might be wrong, but if that’s the case would Judge Judy have any say over someone from another country. Me thinks Mr. FAT had something similar happen to him and could relate or just his usual antagonistic self stirring the blog pot.
    In fact HoToTrot may be his proxy!!! DOH!!

  211. THEATLSD says:

    @Kenna
    “@ATL
    I’m afraid some are beyond help! The sad truth is there is not someone for everyone in Sugar- yes some like plus sized”

    We have talked ad nauseam on the blog about the this topic.
    I have “I like curvy women” in my profile. May definition of curvy and the SB definition are obviously two different ideas. I posted it before curvy and Jabba the Hut are two different things.

    I have had a few lurking SB contact me privately from reading the blog and ask for help on their profiles. I helped and a couple did what I said and one kind of did and she still has issues finding SD.
    How hard is it to put on a nice cocktail dress with heels and take a picture NOT in the bathroom. (apparently harder then I thought)

    Lastly, you reap what sow my friend. (I mean this in no disrespectful way) You post your lavish gifts and sugar life on the blog along with your email. You are leaving yourself open to exactly what you are getting. A 100 emails from desperate SB wanting your life. There are only a few Unicorns out there, and some of the blog SB have found them, makes for great storytelling but a greater number of “wanting” SB’s. We live in a TMZ world now and it shows.

  212. FlyBoy says:

    @FatB’StardSA:

    @OnlineNewbieSD

    You should find the profiles for those two hoot rat SB’s and start an arrangement with both of them. They can take turns fucking you up the ass.

    I don’t know about you online, but I am convinced that Fat was on TV. The venom in his statement above reads like a confession to me.

    Cheers :)

  213. FlyBoy says:

    @OnlineNewbieSD:

    @Fat – Interesting…I never said I’d tolerate it, just said the guy was being a petty douchebag treating the hood rats the way he was, and bitching about 2k in damages to a past prime piece of shit car…especially when he hasn’t given the hood rats anything of value…did those comments hit too close to home? Was it you in the clip?

    HaHa!! I was thinking along the same lines!!!

    OK let’s assume one took out a woman who looked and acted top shelf. Lo and behold, it turns out she is crazy. In middle of an argument she (keyed, destroyed .. whatever). What is one to do about it? .. Well, a dignified man will move on and remind himself not to put his dick in crazy. A low born would beat up the woman and make a scene , maybe even get arrested. A shameless low born will go on TV.

    Since Fat have admitted sometime ago that he is from the bottom of the barrel both (according to him/it) socially and economically, I believe he could’ve very well been that “guy” on TV.

    Cheers :)

  214. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Fly – I referenced a YouTube video of a low-life that was on a television litigation show suing his two SBs for SA for $2,000 because they keyed his 10-year old piece of shit car and slashed two of his tires.

    My remarks about the douchebag caught @Fat’s attention for some reason…the guy looked like a petty, bitter bitch on the show…the SBs looked like trash…HE was giving SDs a bad name…they were a very bad representation of what an SB SHOULD be…and Brandon was actually on the show trying to justify what these three miscreants were doing on SA.

  215. FlyBoy says:

    @FatB’StardSA:

    @ONSD, @FlyBoy

    Interesting that you “guys” would tolerate two 20 year old hood rats keying your car. Do both of you take it up the ass from your SB’s as well?

    I thought we agreed to avoid each other!!! Silly me! I should’ve known better than to respect the word of a fat low life.

    As to your deranged statement; where did I say my car was keyed??

  216. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    I absolutely HATE when you expect a day to go according to schedule, because it’s a very busy day, and everything gets blown to shit with a single phone call!!!!

  217. Richard1973 says:

    Having so many sugar daddies? Better start and escort service.

  218. Promise says:

    Good morning~

  219. KeKe says:

    @Maddie…. there’s no prescription for her brand of crazy.

  220. flyR says:

    Y’all normally have to tune into Michelle Obama re-runs to hear such hate driven drivel……..

    I think Ho represents every SD’s worst nightmare . The sweet princess has gone postal in the dark of the night and you’re worried about the sound of the electric carving knife in the darkened bedroom.

  221. MaddieBlue says:

    @ Keke

    That makes sense. We should give her a pass. Maybe she forgot to take meds today?

  222. Promise says:

    @FunDude No!

  223. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Keke
    Your gravatar is still probably my fave you have had. Seems SO “you”!

  224. FunDude says:

    I miss hotter trotter already

    Very enjoyable exchanges between her and Josh, et al.

    Please come back and entertain us with more great blog exchanges!

  225. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Josh @Kenna
    Thanks guys.
    I don’t claim to be some “strong independent female” but definitely previous to him just paid for everything myself. So it has been a learning curve. I did remind him of that and he understood. It was a while back that he said he would take care of it, and I just didn’t want to bother him with it. Now I know for the future that when he says it, he means it, even if it’s much later.
    :)

  226. KeKe says:

    @Uncommon… Good Luck!

  227. Josh says:

    @Struggle

    @Kenna is correct. When the man is totally satisfied with a woman he likes to take care of every one of her needs. Let him pay for whatever he wants to. You ddeserve it. Save your money for a rainy day.

  228. UncommonSB says:

    @KeKe @Struggle @Kenna I’m beyond excited! It’s so nice to know going into it that someone is 100% legit, successful, good reputation, verifiable industry leader. The down side is that well, it’s a risk that we know so many people in common. I like to keep a very low profile about my kinky side, but of course he does too. And we have a plausible and genuine explanation for how we met, which was before SA. We’ll see how it goes :)

  229. KeKe says:

    @Struggle…She’ll be back. Unfortunately

  230. KennaKenna says:

    @Struggle

    I know it’s hard but let him lead; if he wants to take care of things- let him! I don’t know what else to say.

  231. Promise says:

    @Kenna So Princess is To Be Continued for now.
    On another note 2 people Favorited me today, and I think I might have found a good driving school!

  232. KeKe says:

    @Maddie unless PMS is code for bipolar…no she’s just good ole fashion nuts.

  233. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Kenna
    Ready for an updated bump & boobs pic :)

  234. KennaKenna says:

    @Uncommon yay, hope it goes well for you!

  235. StruggleIsReal says:

    @ATL
    Thank you Doctor Doom 😉 Or wait, was that sarcastic? Hehe jk

    @Keke
    I love your hair :) I think your man will grow to love it also.

    @Kenna
    Oh my. That was a fair response to all of those messages.

    “And my husband is an anomaly, we still cannot believe we met each other here. I was not looking for a husband or even to settle down; I was looking for someone nice and fun who was established and dominant.”

    Amen to that. Same with me and my boyfriend. Less down the road ban you to be sure but same concept.

    I thought I’d run this by you, thought it was kind of crazy/cool/weird. LoL
    He actually got a bit upset that I paid for one of my dogs’ surgery recently. He had said he would take care of it a month or so ago, but I don’t know… I just felt like, it’s my dog.. I should take care of it. So I did. He was not like crazy upset but definitely wasn’t thrilled about it. Having him basically be my first long term sugar relationship, I am just not as used to that thought process. Very sweet and generous of him, to be sure. I figured you would have some perspective on this.

    “@ONSD
    ‘Here’s how I handle things when I start talking to someone…when she brings up money, I bring up sex…if she’s offended I’m talking sex, I’ll be offended she’s talking money…”

    Yes this advice is golden, I would say do not bring it up unless you are ready to sleep with him!’ ”

    I very much second- well, third- this advice.

    @Fat

    “@Hototrot

    Sorry to see you go. Now there will only be endless posts about MGTOW and Morton’s salt.

    You have spent too much time around white people and gone soft. A real black woman would not be bullied off the blog like that!”

    I nearly posted something similar. You said it better.

    @Uncommon

    That’s kind of cool! Hehe Good luck! Interested to hear how that goes!

  236. KennaKenna says:

    I completely took over the his and her portion of our closet, my husband’s stuff is in a complete different room and I have more stuff in another room; I haven’t quite finished unpacking everything as yet.

    I rather turn the room into a day playroom for our son, we’ll see.

  237. KeKe says:

    @Uncommon…Are you excited? I feel excited for you.

  238. MaddieBlue says:

    Wow. PMS maybe? I didn’t even see where @Josh wrote anything alluding to any racial undertones. I thought “Ho” was universal.

  239. UncommonSB says:

    @Kenna “and he is a sub?”

    Yes! Never would have guessed.

  240. KennaKenna says:

    @Uncommon and he is a sub?

  241. Promise says:

    @Kenna So you can put a closet in your Princess room so that it wont take to much of your hubbys space. 😉 Also you don’t have to call it a Princess room. It could be your lair, woman cave, Kenna’s Korner, anything.

  242. UncommonSB says:

    Sooo weird. For the first time ever, spoke to a POT that I’ve met before in my business life. When he mentioned his industry and a few other things, I figured out that we actually know each other, and we know a LOT of the same people. He’s totally the real deal, like super sized real deal. Aaaaah! Super nervous, but we have a date later this week.

  243. KennaKenna says:

    Lol, I am not a Princess!

    My “Princess” room is my closet, That’s now full of clothes that can’t fit. I have 100+ pairs of shoes and about the same amount of purses so that’s my princess room lol.

  244. KeKe says:

    @Josh…she definitely was trying to be cute with the whole (Ho)ToTrot bullshit. No one’s dumb on this blog.

  245. KeKe says:

    @Kenna. I think the princess room is for you.

  246. Promise says:

    @Kenna Not for him. For you. :) Technichally you’d use it as an office, but it would be a Princess room because it would be decked out in all the girly things you like.

  247. KeKe says:

    @Kenna…decorating gives me hives. I’m no good at it. My Lover’s house is awesome. The art and furniture…I told him if we keep each other he’s in charge of getting the house together. Lol

  248. KennaKenna says:

    @Promise

    Princess room? I’m having a boy!

  249. Josh says:

    @Promise

    I did not call her Ho. Ho is part of her moniker, which her ghetto self thought was a clever play on the word to get attention…as @KeKe aptly noted.

  250. KeKe says:

    She’s slow.

  251. Promise says:

    @Kenna You should get a Princess room!

  252. Promise says:

    @KeKe I don’t even know why she was mad at me.

  253. KennaKenna says:

    Some exciting news though- I’m getting all the furniture tomorrow!! I’m so excited!!!

    But unfortunately I married a tech guy who is not into building/putting together stuff so we have to hire a handy man for a couple days.

  254. Promise says:

    The fact that she would insult a pregnant woman… No wonder Josh called her a “Ho”.

  255. KeKe says:

    I’m with you @Melissa! Wow!

    Lol… that chick is nuts. She has gone no where. She will be back tomorrow. She needs the attention too much to leave.

    @Online…She insulted Kenna and others in prior blogs. I wish the ho would move on like she repeatedly says she. She won’t.

  256. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    night all…early morning for me as well!

  257. Anonymous says:

    Is the @Ho gone back to the streets?

  258. Promise says:

    @KeKe The blog needs a new commenting program. I keep saying they need Disqus, but they don’t listen. It’s easier for mods, and users to get rid of these kinds of messes with it.

  259. KennaKenna says:

    I’m with you @Melissa! Wow!

  260. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @promise – what threw me was her 180 turn to compliment me at the end…I had to step away and contemplate spacetime continuum for a bit…

  261. Promise says:

    @Muah I’m not legal yet. :(

  262. KeKe says:

    Where do they sale “bitch be gone” at? This blog needs some.

  263. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Muah
    “I think everyone needs a Monday Margarita :) or 5…”
    I’m with you. I feel like we’ve all be in a hurricane tonight. WOW. She is a piece of work. Thing is, if she slapped on some manners, shut her filthy mouth and acted like a “lady” any one of us here would have been nice to her, but all she did was call names and say nasty things. Oh well, nighty from me too. Too early day tomorrow. Sweet dreams from Georgia, ya’ll. :)

  264. MissLady says:

    Headache.

  265. FatB'StardSA says:

    @Hototrot

    Sorry to see you go. Now there will only be endless posts about MGTOW and Morton’s salt.

    You have spent too much time around white people and gone soft. A real black woman would not be bullied off the blog like that!

  266. Promise says:

    @ONSD I didn’t even originally say anything rude. I asked a question and Sybil lost her mind.

  267. Promise says:

    @KeKe I rarely ever wear makeup so idek what she’s talking about when she says that.
    @All you all better watch that video I linked. It’s funny I promise! :3

  268. Melissa says:

    Just WOW!!!

  269. KeKe says:

    THATSWHYTHEYLOVEU

    And now I really know why you don’t like me. Keep sipping on your haterade.

  270. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Silence is golden…wait, I’m feeling deja vu…

  271. Josh says:

    @Ho,

    Thanks for providing lots of laugh, at your expense, to lots of people.

    I need to go now. The @Guru will give you more thrashing next time around. Until then, be safe on the streets.

  272. Muah says:

    Lord have mercy, I think everyone needs a Monday Margarita :) or 5…

  273. Promise says:

    YES! [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04854XqcfCY]

  274. hototrot says:

    BYE BITCHES! (And I really do mean it LOL)

  275. Promise says:

    @hot I hope all the bad things in life happen to you, and nobody else, but you.

  276. KeKe says:

    I hope those who aren’t currently reading get to see all you without your masks in the morning.

    #EXPOSED

    I bet you wrote that with a straight face to. After you’ve come after almost every person on this blog. Bitch bye. They not checking for you.

  277. hototrot says:

    @KeKe/Doormat

    While you’re taking a collection for me, I hope you use some of it to get some moxy, some umph, some personality, some…something. Because, while Promise is creepy you are boring and easily led.

    #THATSWHYTHEYLOVEU

    Not your spunky new hairdoo…

  278. Promise says:

    @hot So because you upset, and I retaliated means I’m exposed?
    Logic.

  279. Josh says:

    @Ho,

    “Learn some new words and then get back at me. This is child’s play.”

    Hmmm, why would anyone want to learn more ghetto-speak to entertain you?

    If you want to attract men with “discerning eye”, YOU need to learn manners.

  280. KeKe says:

    Thot-You really should give it up, you are starting to sound like a batshit crazy lady, and no one likes batshit crazy

    THOT!!!! Right. She has ID letters mixed up. This is much better!

  281. hototrot says:

    and @SYBIL/Promise

    Nice to see you coming out of your shell. I hope those who aren’t currently reading get to see all you without your masks in the morning.

    #EXPOSED

  282. Promise says:

    @hot Sperm Dumpster :)

  283. KeKe says:

    take up a collection” for P4P?

    But the challenge would be to find a man to offer the collected funds to the @Ho. Maybe he can just give the money and run like hell?

    ROTFLMAO with you!!!!!

  284. hototrot says:

    @SYBIL @TRASH @DOORMAT @PHONY

    You all call me ghetto. But you have about 4 words in your entire vocabulary. Old, Ho, GHETTO, HOODRAT.

    Learn some new words and then get back at me. This is child’s play.

  285. Josh says:

    “take up a collection” for P4P?

    But the challenge would be to find a man to offer the collected funds to the @Ho. Maybe he can just give the money and run like hell?

    ROTFLMAO!!!

  286. Promise says:

    @Josh I’m not an SD, but -100,000,000,000

  287. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Josh
    Hell Josh, maybe we could all just chip in and take up a collection for the po Ho. LOL Think that would get her to shut up? Now, that does sound a bit “church lady” don’t it? LOL Maybe that’s her problem, she hasn’t been to church in a while.

  288. SouthernSB says:

    Thot-You really should give it up, you are starting to sound like a batshit crazy lady, and no one likes batshit crazy.

  289. KeKe says:

    And for that, you get NO RESPECT….. I’m all broken up inside.

  290. Josh says:

    Since we have seen the lovely persona of the @Ho…SDs, how much would you pay her for P4P? 😉

  291. Promise says:

    @hot I rarely ever curse, but you need to learn your place you old fart. You’re a creepy as fuck because you keep going back and forth between being cool, and being a nut job. And you’re trying to tell ME some shit about multiple personalities? No wonder since you’re clearly an expert.
    @Josh She’s is the epitome of the ghetto ass, batshit, sabotaging bitches that you keep talking about.

  292. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    Ho
    “The type that brings pies to a house party laced with arsenic.”
    Actually Ho, I’d think for you a pie with something more on the lines of “Syrup of Ipecac.” But then, only you would think of doing something like that on this site. I have much more class than even thinking about doing that to anyone.

  293. hototrot says:

    “Sweetheart, I have a “discerning eye” for man-hating, passive-aggressive women. So I respond.

    Come back with a non-man-hating attitude and a different, respectable moniker, and you would not hear much from me.”

    And I have a discerning eye for the types you cross the street from in the dark. Mean losers plague the internet. Starting shit they can’t finish in life.

  294. hototrot says:

    @Cow

    “Didn’t your Momma teach you nothin’?”

    Keep my mother out of this! You damn right I’m uppity. Especially to the likes of you.

  295. hototrot says:

    @Promise

    “I wouldn’t be surprised if she was the Anon too!”

    No, that was all YOU. As you can see, I own every drop of what I say. You’re the one glued to blog like a roach. Multiple personalities. Creepy as fuck.

  296. Josh says:

    @Ho,

    Sweetheart, I have a “discerning eye” for man-hating, passive-aggressive women. So I respond.

    Come back with a non-man-hating attitude and a different, respectable moniker, and you would not hear much from me.

  297. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Ho
    “I only return what I’m given.”

    LOL I think that’s what concerns us all. We are trying to warn the others out there to stay away from you.

    LOL Geez what a mouth you have. Didn’t your Momma teach you nothin’? Wash that filthy thing out with some soap? You “trot” in here on your high horse, call everyone names and try to come across as the Queen of all knowledge here. Guess what Ho? You ain’t. :)

  298. hototrot says:

    @ChurchLady

    “@Ho
    I don’t think there is one person here who has or wants your “respect.” I think you’ve shown your true “self” tonight with your mouth. BTW, if you think calling me “church lady” is an insult – you are so wrong. All I said was “Amen” as an answer to another and now you’re grabbed hold of that. LOL. If your mission was to piss off this entire site, you’d done a very good job. Just like an angry, bitter, sexless, has-been female who gloats on stirring up trouble and creating issues. Really? Isn’t it time you left and took your “anonymous” thing with you?”

    You can’t decide which persona to play at any given moment can you? Is it the sage old southern fried mother hen, or the salty tarty wanton slut from the shore ready to put me in my place? Yous a FAKE homey. Live it. Love it. Keep it. Own your shit. You are rather transparent.

    The type that brings pies to a house party laced with arsenic. Mean spirited phony.

  299. Promise says:

    @GP tonight?! She lost her mind a few days ago too! Hell I wouldn’t be surprised if she was the Anon too! I wish gentleman soul, FunDude, and ss1959 were here.

  300. hototrot says:

    “Hmmm, let me guess what you are trying to sell @Ho…Maybe management consulting services?”

    It’s not what I’m trying to sell. It’s what they’re trying to buy. I’m a romantic, but a realist. For every ONSD, there are ten pigs trying to sell champagne dreams on a beer budget. If they get exposed for what you’re doing, that ruins the game for you. That’s why I got under your skin. Otherwise, you would’ve just left me alone.

    You never had to say anything to me. I only return what I’m given.

  301. Josh says:

    GeorgiaPeach12

    Hmmm…“anonymous” thing = @Ho’s pussy?

  302. Josh says:

    @FatB’StardSA

    “Thinking that I have something to offer besides cash to a SB would be as crazy as someone your age selling pussy!”

    Hahahahahaha!!!!

    This post-wall @Ho is looking for “discerning eye” (her own words) mind you. 😉

  303. FatB'StardSA says:

    The only reason I started posting on the blog was to find tips on how to get pussy on sale. Still waiting…

  304. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Ho
    I don’t think there is one person here who has or wants your “respect.” I think you’ve shown your true “self” tonight with your mouth. BTW, if you think calling me “church lady” is an insult – you are so wrong. All I said was “Amen” as an answer to another and now you’re grabbed hold of that. LOL. If your mission was to piss off this entire site, you’d done a very good job. Just like an angry, bitter, sexless, has-been female who gloats on stirring up trouble and creating issues. Really? Isn’t it time you left and took your “anonymous” thing with you?

  305. FatB'StardSA says:

    @Hototrot

    “Calling me old won’t change the fact that you’re way past prime your damn self, trying to buy pussy on sale.”

    I never had a prime actually. A man has to know his limitations so buying pussy is something I can live with. Thinking that I have something to offer besides cash to a SB would be as crazy as someone your age selling pussy!

    Have a nice day :-).

  306. Promise says:

    @Southern You will.

  307. Promise says:

    @Kenna No. I hope this doesn’t cause you any stress.

  308. Josh says:

    “trying to buy pussy on sale.”

    Hmmm, let me guess what you are trying to sell @Ho…Maybe management consulting services?

  309. SouthernSB says:

    Wow, I’m glad I’m not in this, I wouldn’t want to hit by one of the stray bombs that keep getting thrown around here.

  310. hototrot says:

    One question. What so-called “rich” men whine about money all live long day? Answer: broke dudes.

    MYSTERY SOLVED!!!!!!!

  311. hototrot says:

    Well you’re obviously older than me if you’re just now finding out about it. It came out 20 years ago when I was in high school!! Means you’re atleast old enough to be MY daddy no matter how old I am.

    Calling me old won’t change the fact that you’re way past prime your damn self, trying to buy pussy on sale.

  312. KennaKenna says:

    Can’t we all get along??

  313. FatB'StardSA says:

    @Hottotrot

    Hoot rat is a new term for me that is true! I am not sure why you think I would try to be “hip” or “with it” for a woman of your age though…

  314. Promise says:

    @hot LMAO. You think I want your respect. XD

  315. Josh says:

    @Ho,

    “He’ll truly expose himself before the night’s through. All zebras eventually show their stripes. Step back AND WATCH.”

    Do you know how many idiots have tried and failed?

    And, by the way, would the zebra reference be racist if I used it?

  316. hototrot says:

    @KeKe

    “No your sad. I’m pretty damn happy. When you get to that place maybe you won’t be so quick to cut down people for no fucking reason who never made any direct comments to them until YOU engage them.”

    You are the worst kind of female I can’t stand. A sideways, shady, sneaky chick. Like @Promise and @ChurchLady, I’m peeped your game a few blogs ago.

    A couple of the females here, that haven’t been mentioned, I do like because even if I don’t agree, I detect some earnestness. But you three are so thirsty to be liked, you sell yourselves out. And for that, you get NO RESPECT.

  317. hototrot says:

    @FatB’StardSA

    My question to you is did you just learn the term hoodrat? You like to pepper your conversations with urban lexicon from time to time to seem “hip” and “with it” for the ladies?

    You need to find an updated manual. The term is THOT now. Just thought I’d help you out.

  318. FatB'StardSA says:

    @Hototrot

    Your answer to the following question will determine if you receive the the FatB’Stard seal of approval.

    How would you react to two young hood rats who keyed you past prime POS car and mocked you at the same time?

  319. Promise says:

    @GP and @KeKe AMEN TO THAT SISTERS!

  320. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @KeKe
    I’m standing beside you girlfriend. The only “PHONY” here is the “Ho”

  321. IHF2030 says:

    Few things annoy me more than assholes whining, and sniveling about waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyycism!

  322. hototrot says:

    “You’re not hototrot”

    You aren’t either mustache girl.

  323. KeKe says:

     grew up in predominantly white areas, so I’m not enamored with white people no worse. I’ve been married to and dated them. But, I never let shit slide.

    @KeKe maybe this is a big step up for you. I feel sad for you, if that is the case.

    You make it so easy for people to dislike you.
    Good for you. You grew up around white people. Woo Hoo. Are you some how better than me now for having that interaction? I went to an all black grammar school and then a 95% white grammar. Other than one incident I had no problems. Maybe that’s why I’m not as defensive. I’ve been called a nigger 3 times in my life. It doesn’t define my life. One of my best friends is white and my daughter’s god mother. I’ve dated white men before. I don’t think it’s some special privilege. They are still men.

    I don’t let pass history cloud every comment and interactions I have of other people.

    No your sad. I’m pretty damn happy. When you get to that place maybe you won’t be so quick to cut down people for no fucking reason who never made any direct comments to them until YOU engage them.

  324. hototrot says:

    @ChurchLady

    Almost out, just thought I’d roast your hindquarters on the way out, because you are the most woman-hating gross hypocrite I have come across in awhile. As PHONY as they come!

  325. Promise says:

    @Fat I didn’t even do anything.
    “I do like the way she insults people though…”

  326. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Ho
    If you are the only one I have given the “willies” to as you put it, then I my mission has been a success. So, why do you keep saying “by” and yet you don’t go away? LOL

  327. FatB'StardSA says:

    I have mixed feeling about @hototrot. On one hand I appreciate an honest ho, on the other hand she is to old to be a ho. I do like the way she insults people though…

  328. Josh says:

    @Ho, you ain’t gettin no sugar from the sugarbowl.

    By the way, we do have classy White bloggers, such as, @Sexy, @Struggle, @GeorgiaPeach, classy Hispanic/Latino bloggers, such as, @Latin, @Maggie, etc., classy European bloggers, such as, @Russian, @Alice, etc.

  329. Promise says:

    You’re not hototrot.

  330. hototrot says:

    @Promise

    I lost my mind because I noticed what the other’s did not. Or perhaps they suspect, but don’t wanna be mean. I think the latter.

    Step out of line once and they’ll bring it up. Wanna bet?

  331. hototrot says:

    By ONSD

    I agree to disagree. You argue you your points. I respect your position. But, you didn’t resort to low blows because you didn’t agree. #NO HATE

  332. Promise says:

    @hot You have seriously lost your damn mind. If anyone needs fresh air here it’s you. You’ve clearly been on here to long, and it’s messing with your brain. Step away from the keyboard, and run along now.

  333. hototrot says:

    It’s a real hootanannie tonight!

  334. hototrot says:

    “LMAO
    “She” keeps saying “by” to this blog and yet… “she” keeping writing. Guess the questions are: Is “she” a “she”? Is “she” one of FunDude’s “over 40 BBW, waste of time” females”? Does “she” really know what “hot to trot” means? Best one, “Will “she” EVER really say “Good bye” to the blog and actually have the life “she” claims she has? Stayed tuned folks, there’s likely more in the next episode. ROFLMAO. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!”

    Booo Yaaa! I was wondering when @ChurchLady was gonna show her perverted ass to the party. Lusting after fundude and giving everybody the willies. Ewwwwwwwwwwww

  335. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @hot – there is respect for AA/mixed/ethnic women who understand sugar..trouble with you is you don’t seem to understand sugar, you’re hung up on highest payout for lowest put out…that’s not MUTUAL, its just bullshit…not another word from me…not worth the time anymore…time to get off the merry go round!

  336. hototrot says:

    Ok, I’ll be nice and answer your question. The second half was for Josh.

  337. KeKe says:

    ALSO @Kenna

    I have been reading these blogs for awhile. I know how they mock the black sugar babies and call them ghetto and what not. If it was isolated, I wouldn’t have mentioned it. 

    Okay, I remember the brown sugar baby article. I did not agree with it and expressed my displeasure with the slant of the article as did probably 98% of most AA SB’s. I remember the discussion amongst blog members of the ghetto profile. I do not believe them to be racist. More that the AA SB’s profiles had clothing, poses,and grammar that would not be appealing to the majority of SD’s on this site.

  338. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    LMAO
    “She” keeps saying “by” to this blog and yet… “she” keeping writing. Guess the questions are: Is “she” a “she”? Is “she” one of FunDude’s “over 40 BBW, waste of time” females”? Does “she” really know what “hot to trot” means? Best one, “Will “she” EVER really say “Good bye” to the blog and actually have the life “she” claims she has? Stayed tuned folks, there’s likely more in the next episode. ROFLMAO. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

  339. hototrot says:

    @Promise are you keeping score? Are they paying you?

    Also, I think you were the Anonymous taunting fundude yesterday. You slipped up and used the wrong moniker. LOLOLOLOLOL Thought no one caught you, didn’t you?

    You’re a little on the creepy side. You need to get out and get some fresh air too. Run along now

  340. hototrot says:

    Jealous because I’m not complimented by a basement troll. Anyone fishing for compliments from people they can’t see is in worse shape than me.

  341. Promise says:

    @hot was all that directed at Kenna or was some of that meant for Josh?

  342. Josh says:

    @FatB’StardSA

    “@hototrot

    Don’t be so closed minded, @Josh might be a wigger in which case he is perfectly entitles to call you a ho.”

    ROTFLMAO!!!

  343. hototrot says:

    I grew up in predominantly white areas, so I’m not enamored with white people no worse. I’ve been married to and dated them. But, I never let shit slide.

    @KeKe maybe this is a big step up for you. I feel sad for you, if that is the case.

  344. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Fat – I already have a fine co-ed for myself…I don’t associate with SBs who look for handouts, or high-budget hookers like @FlyBoy…

    I don’t usually have a problem with you, I’m just not sure what I said to set you off, except call the cheap bastard douchebag on a mockery of a television show what he was…seriously, was that you?

  345. Josh says:

    “Sucks to be you.”

    We know that you are past the wall, super jealous @Ho…but must you go that low?

  346. hototrot says:

    @KeKe

    SEE MY STATEMENT ABOVE^^^^^^^^ That’s why he likes you.

  347. hototrot says:

    ALSO @Kenna

    I have been reading these blogs for awhile. I know how they mock the black sugar babies and call them ghetto and what not. If it was isolated, I wouldn’t have mentioned it. But, he tried that mess with me and I put the clown on blast.

    I’m not out to prove that I’m a special snowflake black person good enough to be in your midst, and that burns you, doesn’t it? I didn’t come in here on my hands and knees, begging and pleading with the great white father to help me “Please have a suga daddy”?

    Get real, this is the only place in the world you can play this game and you know it. The only place of “power” in your life. Sucks to be you.

  348. KeKe says:

    @hototrot

    Don’t be so closed minded, @Josh might be a wigger in which case he is perfectly entitles to call you a ho

    Bwaaahaaaa!

  349. Josh says:

    Ho, the @Guru has an uncanny ability to peel layers of idiocy.

  350. FatB'StardSA says:

    @hototrot

    Don’t be so closed minded, @Josh might be a wigger in which case he is perfectly entitles to call you a ho.

  351. Josh says:

    @Ho

    “White Supremacy on display folks!”

    Are you planning on bringing Al Sharpton to Las Vegas to protest at SA’s headquarters now?

  352. Promise says:

    @Josh “We have many classy AA/Black/Mixed women here. For example, Princess @Kenna, @Lainey, @KeKe, @Promise, to name a few.”
    Awww thank you~ :)

  353. KeKe says:

    White Supremacy on display folks!

    Oh good grief, we are reaching here…

  354. hototrot says:

    @KennaKenna

    You are being used as a token. Please listen and learn. He’ll truly expose himself before the night’s through. All zebras eventually show their stripes. Step back AND WATCH.

  355. hototrot says:

    No one’s ever heard the term Hot To Trot.

    If you had questions, you would’ve asked. You didn’t care, you just wanted to use it. You thought you were being smart. But you just come off cheap and stupid. Shallow brain.

  356. FatB'StardSA says:

    @OnlineNewbieSD

    You should find the profiles for those two hoot rat SB’s and start an arrangement with both of them. They can take turns fucking you up the ass.

  357. Promise says:

    @Josh It wasn’t Judge Judy. IT was some Hispanic lady. I saw the clip, and she was quite rude and ignorant. Didn’t even let Brandon talk.

  358. hototrot says:

    And why do you have to qualify them with classy, as if it’s so rare for black people to be classy. I’ll bet you never say “Classy White People” when describing a white person. As if you are in the position to judge the quality of a black person.

    White Supremacy on display folks!

  359. Josh says:

    @Ho, I did not create a Ho-ish moniker for you…you did. Now live with the consequences of using a stupid moniker, and stop insulting regulars of varied ethnicity.

  360. hototrot says:

    “We have many classy AA/Black/Mixed women here. For example, Princess @Kenna, @Lainey, @KeKe, @Promise, to name a few.”

    All RACISTS trot out their tokens when challenged. It’s the classic “My black friend yadda yadda”. You aren’t clever. Tell that to stupid people.

  361. KennaKenna says:

    I disagree, any race can be a Ho.

    If a white man calls a white woman a Ho, it will be the same reaction.

  362. Josh says:

    @hototrot

    “A white male calling a black woman a ho in America IS racial. Try doing it in public one day, and see where it finds you.”

    Sweetheart, the White man, followed by Black man, followed by Hispanic man, followed by pretty much man of any ethnicity, are pretty much neutered in public. :(

  363. hototrot says:

    @ONSD

    I’m not trying to win a popularity contest. I’m not trying to enter you guy’s club. I’m not the joiner type. I have a real life outside of this. I just thought this was a fun place to talk about something we wouldn’t normally talk with friends and family.

    If I have gotten rude with someone, it is only because they have been rude to me. A person one person on this blog attempted a very sneaky attack against my integrity, another challenged me outright and this TRASH person has consistently started shit with me.

    Like I said before. I use to read this blog. It was fun, full of interesting people who seemed to live very freely and uniquely. I don’t see that now that anymore.

    By BLOG.

  364. Josh says:

    @Ho thought that HoToTrot was “clever” play on the word. Now she is regretting it and blaming others for whatever she can blame them for.

    We have many classy AA/Black/Mixed women here. For example, Princess @Kenna, @Lainey, @KeKe, @Promise, to name a few.

  365. hototrot says:

    A white male calling a black woman a ho in America IS racial. Try doing it in public one day, and see where it finds you.

  366. hototrot says:

    @ONSD

    You need to go back and read every post I ever made. I only posted in the last 4 blogs. You will find NO SUCH THING!!!!! Let’s not re-write history here. I have on numerous occasions corrected people. Let’s not play ignorant. He knows exactly what he is doing.

    @TRASH

    You post on the internet because you are a very insignificant person in life. These people are your only friends. Miserable existence you must lead. You share nothing because there is nothing to share. You make assumptions about life, because you haven’t LIVED. #PATHETIC

  367. Josh says:

    Brandon got publicity out of Judge Judy.

    Since the common law pretty much treats women like retards who know no better, as expected from the very beginning, the girls were let go with a mild rebuke from the judge.

    Did the SD get more SBs out of appearing in the show? I highly doubt it.

  368. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @hot – Ho is not racial…just like trash is not racial…it describes a way of life, not a race…if someone takes it as racial, that’s their deal.

  369. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Fat – Interesting…I never said I’d tolerate it, just said the guy was being a petty douchebag treating the hood rats the way he was, and bitching about 2k in damages to a past prime piece of shit car…especially when he hasn’t given the hood rats anything of value…did those comments hit too close to home? Was it you in the clip?

  370. Josh says:

    @Ho. I did not come up with Ho To Trot, you did. So own it and stop polluting the precious Internet with your trash.

  371. hototrot says:

    Because I joked using a well known phrase to get back at you is no reason for you to imply race, because behind it all I know exactly what that HO shit is all about. No I’m not one of the ebony illiterates you like to make fun of. Accuse me of playing the race card, but I’m not telling any lies and you know it.

    If you don’t agree with me. Debate me. Argue your salient points, but trying to shame me into some ghetto hoodrat stereotype, you are only EXPOSING yourself. I see you for what you are. You are not funny. YOU ARE TRASH.

  372. lordmidas says:

    @online just saw that youtube video. As bad as the Sd and sugar babies come off I think Wade should be ashamed of him self for even appearing on something like that. For god sake in spite of what people say all publicity is not good. He did this site a great disservice by even acknowledging and associating with the trash masquerading as SD/SB

  373. Promise says:

    @Josh Ahhh~ ok. I don’t shop on Ebay. I know someone that use to make a living doing that though.

  374. Josh says:

    Take a bow everyone…@FatB’StardSA is in da house. 😉

  375. FatB'StardSA says:

    @ONSD, @FlyBoy

    Interesting that you “guys” would tolerate two 20 year old hood rats keying your car. Do both of you take it up the ass from your SB’s as well?

  376. Josh says:

    @Promise, do you buy stuff on eBay at all?

    If you do, then instead of making a bid directly on eBay, you make your bid on a website, such as, BiddingScheduler.com. That website does not cost you anything but allows you to pounce on the item few seconds before the end of the auction.

    If you don’t buy stuff on eBay, then forget what I wrote.

  377. Promise says:

    @Josh I have no idea what you just said.

  378. Josh says:

    The Guru’s Internet buying lesson…

    Those who buy at eBay should use bidding software, instead of putting their bids directly at eBay. It’s like sugar of bidding. You can always cancel your bid.

  379. Josh says:

    “Yo Mama is a…”

    That’s Ho speak indeed.

  380. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @hot…if memory serves me, when you started posting, because of capitals HoToTrot was asked if it was Ho To Trot or Hot To Trot with a missing letter and you said either way, so you brought it on yourself…your initial ire to differences in opinion on blog didn’t help your cause… Josh is Josh…we will ignore what we don’t like, comment when we are in the mood…

  381. hototrot says:

    Frankly, I can’t believe the mods allow so-called men to call women hoes here. That’s abusive. I can defend myself, but it does cross the line into abuse. I can’t believe other women don’t find any problem with it.

  382. hototrot says:

    @ONSD

    OK, makes sense. More of a regular relationship then a SB/SD thing.

  383. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Promise – Her friend disappeared on HER to…which was weird, since the three of us had some fun before the sugar concept was introduced to her…and it was over 10 years ago…

  384. hototrot says:

    “Ho not me, but it is fitting.”

    And I’m the bastion of negativity when this dickless troll roams free??? Only on the internet.

  385. Promise says:

    @ONSD Awww :(

  386. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @hot – The one I still talk to was a former gf…started as a loan, turned to sugar…continued as mistress w/o sugar when she had her life back together…ended because she wanted a relationship and knew I was not going to leave my wife for her…she actually introduced me to my second (first monthly advance paid that flaked on me)…

  387. Josh says:

    @Kenna: “To all the SBs/escorts that email me- I cannot help you! ”

    @Kenna is telling escortish SBs that she cannot help Ho’s.

  388. Josh says:

    I did not make up your moniker. You chose Ho not me, but it is fitting.

  389. hototrot says:

    Thanks for calling me Ho. I was about throw “Yo Mama is a…” but then I thought I’d keep it classy for the night.

  390. hototrot says:

    *too*

  391. hototrot says:

    Love you to @Josh!

  392. Josh says:

    “So guys, you have to understand women respond to sex differently then men.”

    Thank you so much for the enlightening words. What would we do without @Ho’s wisdom?

  393. Promise says:

    @Anon Don’t talk to me either.

  394. hototrot says:

    @ONSD

    “one I still interact with (she wanted a real relationship more than specifically ME)…the other did not end well, but was at least mature enough to walk away because she knew if she did something to me, she was NOT going to end up with me!”

    Money keeps the lines from being blurry, I think. I know you guys want to be an SB’s one and only and want all the gooey romantic aspects of a relationship minus the normal complications, but that’s a tricky tricky balancing act you’ve got there.

    I know when I was involved in my first sugar, because I was new it, that if he hadn’t presented cash which helped me to remind me that it wasn’t for real, I’m sure I’d gone off the deep end. That’s how strongly I felt. So guys, you have to understand women respond to sex differently then men. It’s biology. Can’t turn it on and off like that. Money keeps things neat and tidy. JMO

  395. Anonymous says:

    @Promise you are nothing but figment of @Josh’s imagination.

  396. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @GP – Yes, it has happened…it makes for a potentially hostile split…I have been lucky that the TWO times it’s happened she was mature enough to walk away…one I still interact with (she wanted a real relationship more than specifically ME)…the other did not end well, but was at least mature enough to walk away because she knew if she did something to me, she was NOT going to end up with me!

  397. UncommonSB says:

    @Kenna “Oh and please don’t take my advice as the gospel- I am just personally uncomfortable bringing up money talk- it’s not my style. I may say something after 1-2 dates that I just bought something new that I’m so excited to wear on the next date to gauge his reaction.”

    Yes. I absolutely hate money talk as well. I too will casually mention if I have treated myself, gone shopping, etc. It’s a discreet and non-confrontational way to find out within a date or two if the guy is planning to step up and offer to cover any expenses, without being asked, at a level that matches or adds value to my current lifestyle.

  398. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @ONSD
    Question for you. Have you ever had an SB who became too emotionally involved with you and wanted more from you, even though she knew from the start that you are married and have children? If so, how did you handle that?

  399. Promise says:

    @ONSD YES!

  400. KennaKenna says:

    @ATL

    I’m afraid some are beyond help! The sad truth is there is not someone for everyone in Sugar- yes some like plus sized, but very few if any at all like someone who appears unkempt and disheveled!

  401. Anonymous says:

    ok thx. And sorry bc I did not fill out anything and only posted my question. Will say something like kenna said if he doesn’t bring up allowance again. We are meeting tomrw for 2nd date.

  402. THEATLSD says:

    @Kenna
    “To all the SBs/escorts that email me- I cannot help you! ”

    What she is telling you SB’s is does not have time to HYPNOTIZE you all. So chill out and email Sexyrockstar instead. Leave Momma Sugar alone.

  403. KennaKenna says:

    Oh and please don’t take my advice as the gospel- I am just personally uncomfortable bringing up money talk- it’s not my style. I may say something after 1-2 dates that I just bought something new that I’m so excited to wear on the next date to gauge his reaction.

  404. KennaKenna says:

    @ONSD

    Here’s how I handle things when I start talking to someone…when she brings up money, I bring up sex…if she’s offended I’m talking sex, I’ll be offended she’s talking money…

    Yes this advice is golden, I would say do not bring it up unless you are ready to sleep with him!

  405. KennaKenna says:

    @Anon

    You can say something like “How do you foresee this working going forward?”

    I’ve never really had this problem but that’s an open-ended question and you can figure out a lot by his response without even saying the word allowance or money.

  406. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Anon – you should choose a name and attach it to your email address when you post…there has been some nastiness in THIS comment thread because of the Anonymous posting!

    But, to answer your question…there is no right or wrong time to bring it up.

    Here’s how I handle things when I start talking to someone…when she brings up money, I bring up sex…if she’s offended I’m talking sex, I’ll be offended she’s talking money…

    Does that make sense? If he’s taken you out a couple of times to talk and get to know you and hasn’t brought up sex, but given you gifts/cash/entertainment/shopping…and you need cash…it’s time to say something like, “I appreciate getting to know you and what you’ve given me is wonderful, but I’m on the site primarily looking for an allowance…do you see us moving toward an allowance style arrangement at some point?” Just be ready to discuss sex at that point, because it’ll happen!

  407. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Miss – there are those on the site who are “saviors”…SDs who NEED to feel like they are saving the SB…

    I think the key is to figure out what type of SD you WANT, make your profile for THAT guy and wait out the bullshit you get from the other types of SDs that may reach out to you.

    If you have a couple of preferred types of SD, make a couple of profiles…just use different pictures so an SD doing a general search doesn’t see the multiple “personalities” and freak out 😉

  408. Anonymous says:

    Question guys? First time posting but have read the comments and wondering, how many dates you should wait until you bring up allowance talk? Kenna on here said not to bring it up but other advice say to bring up after 2 dates if he does not? So confused now on what your supposed to do if he hasn’t brought it up after 1st date?

  409. KennaKenna says:

    @ONSD

    @Kenna – pregnancy and married life has not deteriorated your brain – yet

    Thanks lol but my brain is definitely deteriorating already. I basically have 8 days before I leave Cali again until late fall so need to set up everything for baby. I almost gave up walking in my graduation because of time but hubby said No, we will find a way and you will have your day and walk lol! I said Yes, Sir!

  410. MissLady says:

    @kenna says Lastly, I’ve learned the more you appear to have your shit together, the more generous they are the more you don’t NEED their money and ask for it, the more they give you. Just my two cents.

    Now this I agree with whole heartedly, but I once had a guy from the site tell me that I wasn’t financially needy enough for him.

  411. Promise says:

    @Kenna That was beautiful.

  412. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Kenna – pregnancy and married life has not deteriorated your brain – yet 😉

    She’s EXACTLY right…when things are “all about the money” I usually tone down the gifts and the activities, because I want to see if she’s with ME or my WALLET. When she lets things flow and shows me she wants ME, she never has a doubt she has my WALLET 😉

    Student sent me a message today she was invited on a quick couple day girl’s trip with her bff and family…I knew she’s need the cash I slipped her for the trip, instead of the bed (where it was intended) so I sent her an Amazon card so she can still buy the bed and not feel like she is stuck on the mini-vacay.

  413. KennaKenna says:

    And my husband is an anomaly, we still cannot believe we met each other here. I was not looking for a husband or even to settle down; I was looking for someone nice and fun who was established and dominant.

  414. KennaKenna says:

    And to add another thing, generosity is about more than money. Some may not agree with me but the gifts/trinkets from my past SDs and my current Sugar Hubby sitting in my closet do not come close to the other generosity provided.

    And if you are a good SB, even after the relationship has ended- you always have access to that person who you may need a favor/connection from.

    Sometimes just having access/connections, mentor-ship, guidance, experiences and introductions to people you wouldn’t have ordinarily met can outweigh an allowance.

    For those who do not need cash, when you are with a man who genuinely cares for you and he has means- he will gift you and take care of you- sometimes they do not like when you talk about money too fast- it’s the equivalent of bringing up sex too fast. (@FlyBoy will disagree)

    But even now my man has told me the gold diggers who succeed do not appear as gold diggers. When a woman is motivated only by money and a man knows that, she will always be his whore despite where they met, and will always treat her as such.

    It is possible to meet a married man, be with him and for him to never see you as his whore. I love nice things but have given back gifts sometimes to prove a point and let them know I cannot be purchased. I am with someone because I want to be and not need to be.

    Lastly, I’ve learned the more you appear to have your shit together, the more generous they are the more you don’t NEED their money and ask for it, the more they give you. Just my two cents.

  415. Anonymous says:

    gentleman soul says:
    May 11, 2015 at 12:31 pm
    Happy Mom’s Day( Week) Mothers !! After a little catching up -a few thoughts :

    @Muah
    I’m sorry but when you meet someone on SA…. And they are providing more than an escort, better quality, genuine connection, etc – Well they probably deserve more than an escort who only provide sex.

    Never forget ladies ,we are paying more for the escort to leave . SBs get less because we want you to stay .

    LOL! @gentlemansoul nice delusional twist. Do u really think the escort wants to stay? They want to get away from you and collect their hourly cash as efficiently as possible. So yeah pay your SB a little more and she might not run for the door asap either.

  416. Promise says:

    @Anon Don’t talk about me.

  417. Anonymous says:

    @Promise is totally @Josh

  418. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Denise – After watching the footage…I DO think he was providing liquor for them, but I’m not sold on the drug angle (the 19yo was a user without him from her comments)…I’m also not sure he was holding their “stuff” over them for sex…

    I DO think he was pissed they weren’t playing with him either separate or together…in fact…I think he thought if he got the two together, the two would play and he could watch/join after they were mostly spent…

    He didn’t say “used to spend” he said “I typically spend” from my memory (didn’t verify, just recalling)…but…anyways…he was obviously NOT spending on the two of them, when he gave them $24 for IHOP!

  419. MissLady says:

    @onsd ok!! All I could think was if this is what the guys were screaming about on the blog (youth) then they could have that yikes! But that segment along with a few others that I watched goes to show that there is something on here for everyone cause a lot weren’t even what I considered attractive…

  420. Promise says:

    @Kenna I’m not Josh.

  421. Denise says:

    @Online

    I have to say…I went to YouTube and typed in Seeking Arrangement and there are some interesting posts by Brandon himself, where he actually appeared on a tv lawsuit show…with a female judge…and expected to try to defend a 47yo SD against TWO 19/20yo SBs over a $2k car repair! Are you fucking kidding me? I may be a Budget SD compared to some, but, really…filing a suit against multiple SBs over a $2k car repair, that was damage because you were a douchebag to them? WOW…that’s the low end of the ramp as far as I’m concerned! Oh, and BTW, HE WAS A SINGLE GUY!
    ———————————————————-
    I remember this. He was trying to get both of those girls drunk and trying to push drugs on them. When he couldn’t force them into a threesome with his Ihop ( don’t spend more than $12 a piece) offerings he then tried to hold their personal belongings and lock them out of his place. One was staying with him due to some at home problems.

    Ohh and the car repair was for what for something like a 1998 honda accord. Really? That guy looked like a clown!

    Another problem was that since he couldn’t force either one of them into sex for drugs and liquor he decided to contact their parents and blow the whistle on them to get his repairs. After that he took them to court and not only embarrassed himself on national T.V. but he made Sugar Dating look like a joke. He even went on the I used to spend….. Right so you don’t spend anything more than $24 for Ihop on SBs now? Clown.

    All of a sudden “they’re reckless children vandalizing property” but a moment prior they were grown adults that he thought he could seduce with drugs and liquor.

    He looked like nothing more than a creepy predator. Disgusting.

  422. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Kenna – profound words…because you’re right…It’s all about the attitude.

    Those who asked for help (and found success) were the ones open to the SD/SB dynamic and the RELATIONSHIP…they just didn’t know how to say it in the profile, and needed to understand how to filter through the bullshit profiles contacting them early on from the “cheap lay” crowd…

    Those who asked for help, because they just weren’t getting the cash they deserved, or the platonic thousands they were marketed to receive, continued to be disappointed because no matter what they heard, they kept their escort-ish language in their profile, kept the “princess” language in their profile and continued to have overtly sexual and stripper pictures in their profile…

    I am also more selective with giving out help…in fact…if you go to YouTube and type Seeking Arrangement in the search, there is a decent video about creating a SB profile on SA! It says to avoid a lot of what we talk about in our help messages…too bad there isn’t a “help” section on the SA site with links to some of that content, maybe even references to the blog, and some blog contributors who would be willing to help someone who has already taken some steps to fix the profile…but…again…that would be pro-active and not exactly what SA is doing, since they’re basically a marketing machine now…

  423. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Miss – I know…I can’t believe any of the three of them…and to hear him say he typically spends $50k as his “Sugar Budget” annually…to see the quality of SB he was attracting…I just thank my lucky stars I found Student when and how I did!

  424. KennaKenna says:

    To all the SBs/escorts that email me- I cannot help you! I joined this site to meet an older man with means to treat me nicely not to make a “killing”, this was never my job!

    I read/responded to 100+ messages before finding my husband but when I found him, I knew. Most of you are looking for quick money so I really don’t know what to tell you- for me, my greatest benefits came after I hit the 6 months+ mark.

    Also not to offend anyone but if you were an escort and now trying to be a SB, perhaps finding a Madame maybe a better option.

    Lastly, SA isn’t what it was years ago- a lot of guys looking for a cheap lay and a lot of girls looking for quick money. If you live in a city like NY, Chicago, LA… Meeting someone IRL may be better…

    Good luck!

  425. gentleman soul says:

    Happy Mom’s Day( Week) Mothers !! After a little catching up -a few thoughts :

    @Muah
    I’m sorry but when you meet someone on SA…. And they are providing more than an escort, better quality, genuine connection, etc – Well they probably deserve more than an escort who only provide sex.

    Never forget ladies ,we are paying more for the escort to leave . SBs get less because we want you to stay .

    @peeps
    Make no mistake, men are here looking for women who are pleasant company, attractive and can take good care of them in the bedroom. Make sure you can communicate all three in your profile.

    Very well said peeps !! If all SBs approached Sugar from that perspective they would be a lot more successful.

    @Jamie
    Thats why most sd’s are here. They lack the physical attractiveness needed to pick up a younger woman… Cant judge me for that
    Jamie ,each to her own ,but all SDs are not fat and ugly . We are generally older -sometimes by decades,than our Babies . I am thin ,muscular,and beautiful -but older for sure . LOL . At least the ladies tell me so . I’m sure many of the guys on the blog are the same .

    @Anonymous
    “The disconnect is me —blah blah — much so could barely go on the worst feeling ever and I just have to try to fix that fix me im sorry if I dont I just cant go on.”

    I’m so confused!

    OK ,at the risk of being insensitive ,this guy is dropping you with a well known self blaming technique. He is eliciting sympathy, and deflecting anger inducing hurt on your behalf for being dumped . Brilliant !

  426. MissLady says:

    Lol I have no words for the court video…or the choices of the sugar babies…or the fact he was dead serious….

  427. hototrot says:

    *becoming less and less*

  428. hototrot says:

    @Uncommonsb

    Oh, I love the mom & pop places, although they are because less and less because of gentrification. There’s still enough around though. Just the chains have a little nostalgia for me. I miss sit down Pizza Huts over NY Pizza. It’s blasphemous to say that here. Like you can’t say you don’t like Jay Z lol Can’t help it.

  429. UncommonSB says:

    @hot “That’s what I hate about NY, no good chain restaurants!”

    Easy – lol! There may not be a ton of chains, but there are some killer mom-n-pop places and ethnic restaurants all around the city. For some strange reason, I’m addicted to getting slices as often as possible when I’m there. It’s just so much better than west coast ‘NY style’ pizza. I slip away to the nearest little pizza shop almost every meal when there’s down time, as long as it’s not a business dinner obligation. I did make an exception the last trip when we got reservations at Rao’s though. Couldn’t pass that up for pizza, and it was awesome.

  430. hototrot says:

    I went to college in Atlanta. Best “slap yo mama food” in the world is on Ashby Street near the AUC Center. A somewhat rough area though. Waffle House is a good option though. That’s what I hate about NY, no good chain restaurants!

  431. FlyBoy says:

    Low end of the ramp, indeed!

  432. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Kenna – Yeah…one of those “Judge Judy” shows where the participants are “bound by the decision of the judge”…the guy had $2k in damages to his car…the SBs keyed it and slashed two tires because he gave the two of them $24 for breakfast at IHOP (@ATL is offened because he knows Waffle House is the clearly superior choice for breakfast, right?)…it’s basically an indictment on SA for trashing “these poor innocent young women” through their “abuse” by this guy…it’s such a crock of shit…petty and ridiculous…

  433. KeKe says:

    @ATL… Thank you! I will definitely be back! I didn’t get to see nearly as much of Atlanta as I wanted to being confined to what our group was doing. Even seeing GeorgiaP would have been covert operation. Lol. But I was looking forward to sneaking away for a drink.
    I look forward to hanging with you when I come back!

  434. Anonymous says:

    He also has a very small dick.

  435. KennaKenna says:

    @ONSD wow! TV Lawsuit???

  436. MissLady says:

    Well I just found my way to kill time this afternoon….going to YouTube now lol!

  437. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    I have to say…I went to YouTube and typed in Seeking Arrangement and there are some interesting posts by Brandon himself, where he actually appeared on a tv lawsuit show…with a female judge…and expected to try to defend a 47yo SD against TWO 19/20yo SBs over a $2k car repair! Are you fucking kidding me? I may be a Budget SD compared to some, but, really…filing a suit against multiple SBs over a $2k car repair, that was damage because you were a douchebag to them? WOW…that’s the low end of the ramp as far as I’m concerned! Oh, and BTW, HE WAS A SINGLE GUY!

  438. hototrot says:

    @Anon

    Be glad things didn’t go deeper. He needs a therapist and/or marriage counselor. This is not the work for an SB. Be grateful he was kind enough to end it now.

  439. MissLady says:

    Hmmm interesting viewpoint about the site not catering to the SD. I guess it’s the same logic where clubs always let ladies in free cause they know wherever a bunch of women are gathered, men will follow. You throw the idea of “free/easy money” to women to get them to sign up in droves and then dangle the female population numbers as bait to the men.

    Purely numbers driven marketing, no thought to quality but I guess the sites viewpoint is that’s the users problem and not theirs.

  440. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @hot – that is, in essence, what I was getting at with the end of the statement…maybe it’s just that women who are in that “fuzzy place” are more apt to ask questions and be involved on blog…I just found it interesting that it seems most of those SBs contributing on blog are either “frustrated in her search” or “struggling with a guy she’s be with even without his money”…although, with deeper thought, it is usually the extremes that excite action, so it does make some sense.

  441. Anonymous says:

    I care about him not in a “I want to spend my life with him” way but a “I worry about him” type of way.

    As I said he graciously overshared, we have a lot in on as I am in the same field of work as him. His wife is significantly more successful than him and makes twice as much but he is also successful, just not at her level.

    She constantly reminds him of this everyday, I’ve seen the texts from her degrading him and making him feel small. That is very hard for a man who is naturally dominant. He is also sterile so they were forced to get a donor- something she reminds him about as well.

    We talk about 10-12 hours everyday for the past 10 days on whatsapp, even now he has already sent me about 30 messages for the day.

    More than anything, I think he needs someone to talk to. Being married for 30+ years to someone who has never appreciated you must be tough. She is also from money- he is not.

    And one last thing that may put all this in perspective is that they are both in their early 60s.

  442. hototrot says:

    @ONSD

    “I have to say…it seems the ONLY women on this site who would “stay with him even without the money” seem to pop up on this blog with problems that they need fixed…this seems weird to me, but MAYBE it’s because the more “caring” of the SBs on SA get to the blog for comments?”

    I read this three times and I’m still confused. Not being obtuse, just trying to figure out what you’re trying to say.

    For me, there are some people that you really enjoy their company. But you’re not into them, into them. Kind of like the love, but not “in love” phenomenon. Sugar bridges the gap. And then there are those where that fuzzy magic happens. That zany feeling is a rarity in the real world and even rarer in the sugar world. I don’t think that signifies caring more. Just is what it is. And when you’re confused about the feeling, you’re more likely to look for advice.

  443. THEATLSD says:

    @Struggles. Your answer to Anon was very profound.

    @Keke. Safe flight to you. Next time if we all have more time I’ll treat all you SB.

  444. WOWzers says:

    Still waiting for any pro-SD blogs on this site. Some suggested titles are “How to properly value a prospective SB.” or “How to deal with unrealistic, immature prospective SB who start talking price without a meeting (or even a pic.”

    Seems everything on this site is incredibly slanted towards the SBs. SDs have to pay for a premium membership. Meanwhile SBs get a free membership and, if they please, can create multiple users to try and game an SD.

    And don’t get me started on the YouTube videos for SBs – wowzers. If that doesn’t say what SA really is I don’t what does.

  445. KeKe says:

    @Struggle

    If you have a dominant man (which I don’t think you do?), you sure as heck better not show up with chopped off locks without his pre-approval.

    No he isn’t super dominant. But he’s not a yes, Dear type either. A yes, Dear sounds fun but I had a slightly dominant personality and I wouldn’t respect him if I could walk over him. I did grow up pretty religiously. And although I’m not heavy into it certain things are hard to shake. I must have heard the man is the head of the household so many times! So no he isn’t a my way or the high way but he is pretty firm about certain things. He told me that point blank.

    Only 15 minutes to get ready??!!! I need at least 45 minutes. Lol

    @Online..Maybe us blog girls just meet really great guys! :-)

  446. Anonymous says:

    @Uncommon

    Of course I know that, as i said I specifically only date married men- everyone has their kink. I like my space so this relationship works perfectly for me. I am still great friends with all of my married exes.

  447. Anonymous says:

    @Struggle

    I specifically sought out a married man, that dynamic is very appealing to me. My last 2 boyfriends were married so I understand all about NSA.

    But even when it’s “NSA”, there are strings, humans have feelings and if there is no emotion/feelings involved then it is simply transactional.

    As I said we really connected, he wants to continue to hang out platonically.

  448. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    I have to say…it seems the ONLY women on this site who would “stay with him even without the money” seem to pop up on this blog with problems that they need fixed…this seems weird to me, but MAYBE it’s because the more “caring” of the SBs on SA get to the blog for comments?

  449. UncommonSB says:

    @anon “The hardest part is that I like him and would be with him without any gifts/allowances, etc. We really hit it off and had so much fun.”

    Don’t ever confuse your place in a married man’s life. He’s taken, committed (for whatever that’s worth) to someone else. You are something fun on the side, a temporary diversion… you’ll never be a formal, respected part of his real life. If you’re going to go there, keep your head on straight and forget any fantasies of sharing genuine emotion attachment. There is no place for the relationship to go beyond a mutually rewarding arrangement, so be realistic and honest about what you hope to get out of sugar.

  450. hototrot says:

    @Anon

    “The hardest part is that I like him and would be with him without any gifts/allowances, etc. We really hit it off and had so much fun.”

    I felt this way about the first person who introduced me to sugar. If only he knew. Perhaps he did. He couldn’t give me that relationship I wanted, so he compensated me. He could have many girls without money, but he wasn’t a user. We only talk periodically now, but I’ll always respect and love him in away.

  451. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Anon
    Ps. I am sorry for your bummedness. Maybe you’ll find a single guy that will be less dangerous to get attached to. There are so many great guys on this site, for a quality girl.

  452. hototrot says:

    That sucks.

  453. StruggleIsReal says:

    Aw darn @anon.
    Sounds like he is a really great guy and you were already getting emotionally attached. That’s dangerous in Sugar, especially with a married man. I think it’s probably a blessing in disguise that it ended for now. Of course some emotional attachment is inevitable but if it’s NSA and again, especially with a married man, it’s just an inevitable eventual heart breaking mess.

  454. hototrot says:

    @UncommonSB

    “you have to commend him for stopping BEFORE he went too far”

    This^^^ “Before” is the operative word.

  455. Anonymous says:

    The hardest part is that I like him and would be with him without any gifts/allowances, etc. We really hit it off and had so much fun.

    Bummer. I guess I have to move on- he said to keep the presents, it’s the least he could do.

    I think I’m going to stay off the site honestly. This has completely bummed me out.

  456. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Keke
    Hehe. Yep. Men love long flowing hair. It’s some scientific fact. (Of course not ALL, but most.) Apparently it signals fertility and health to them. If you have a dominant man (which I don’t think you do?), you sure as heck better not show up with chopped off locks without his pre-approval. I know I may get raked over the coals for this one, but I enjoy letting my guy dictate my appearance. Fortunately, we have VERY like-minds and he is enamored with how I naturally present myself, so he is pretty much like, “yeah, more of that please.” Haha

    Actually one of our first “fights” was because on one of our vacays together, we were literally spending every second together. I couldn’t even shower by myself or get ready without him coming to disrupt me every few minutes. Granted I LOVE that kind of passion, but it got to the point where he wanted to ummm enjoy me right up until our hard-to-get high-end dinner reservations were. I even noted at one point, “Okay babe, in 5 min I have to go get ready…” Well that didn’t happen. I should have just been more firm with him then. Dinner reservations rolled around and he was like “okay hurry, our car is here in 5 min!” After a week of hardly being able to brush my teeth, I cracked and was like, “I am a girl! I have to have at least 15 min to get ready, and you can’t keep coming to distract me! I would, you know, like to put some makeup on or something, so I can look good for you…!”
    It was kind of an adorable fight because here I was like, “I just want to look good for you”, he was like “but you look perfect now! If you put makeup on, I don’t know you might like, mess it up?!”

    But we ladies know we like our relaxed primping time. I hate being rushed, especially when getting ready. After that, he has taken note of it and always makes sure I have time to get ready, even if I don’t mention it or anything. Smart man. Sorry, I could sing his praises all day. He’s amazing.

  457. UncommonSB says:

    @Anon If he’s being sincere about his situation and wanting to try to fix his life with his family, you have to commend him for stopping BEFORE he went too far and slept with you. A lot of men won’t stop themselves from going off the rails when the shit hits the fan at home.

  458. KeKe says:

    @ATL…I leave in 30 minutes! No waffle house. Georgia and I didn’t get a chance to link up. :-(. I spent my Sunday evening Skyping with my guy. Which was actually really fun since we have only Skyped once even though he’s always on the road ( my kids around ).

  459. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Anonymous
    Poor guy. Sounds like he is really having some inner-turmoil and guilt that certainly won’t help an already depressed individual. He is wise to pull back and reassess what’s going on.

    I would be very kind and genuine to him. He is being painfully honest with you and deserves to be commended for it. Tell him you understand by are bummed and that if he takes time to reconsider you would be very pleased to continue forward with him, but that you completely understand and respect his decision and efforts for happiness.

    As far as the gifts, if they are especially generous as you noted, I would offer to return some of them and I would be surprised if he takes you up in that. He sounds pretty nice, hasn’t demanded them back, and likely feels a bit humiliated and sorry for having dragged you through his own emotional situation, and will want you to keep them as a token of his appreciation for your time. You can simply say something like, “I really respect your situation and don’t wish for you to feel that I ever meant to take advantage of you. You have been so generous to me and I am very appreciative. Please let me know if you would like me to return any of the gifts. I just want you to feel good and am willing to do what I can to facilitate that.”

    Something like that maybe.

  460. hototrot says:

    Now, if he was being emotionally manipulative in trying to get out of his part of an arrangement, it would be a different story. He’s not trying to get anything from you. Sounds like a decent person.

  461. hototrot says:

    That’s sad. I’d offer to return the gifts. He’s being honest, offered a reasonable explanation and not ghosting on you. Tell him thank you.

  462. Anonymous says:

    I have a question, after being on this site for about 1 week, I thought I finally met the guy that worked for me. Dates 1 and 2 we really hit it off and he graciously over shared so I know almost everything about him, his wife, etc.

    He gifted me some pretty generous gifts even though we haven’t been intimate yet. He invited me to travel to a nearby city with him today but canceled late last night- then I woke up to this message:

    “The disconnect is me I have been very depressed for sometime and went on site for the wrong reasons thats why off and not going back went on out of that depression I guess depressed as failure at being a father and husband and then even more depressed when my mom just passed so much so could barely go on the worst feeling ever and I just have to try to fix that fix me im sorry if I dont I just cant go on.”

    I’m so confused!!
    Also do I return the gifts?

  463. THEATLSD says:

    @Keke no just the conditions were right.
    Are you still here? Did you make it to the Waffle House?

  464. KeKe says:

    @ATL… was there rioting and looting? I didn’t hear anything.

  465. THEATLSD says:

    @ONSD. Not at all the weather has been great in “THE ATL”. Perfect for rioting and looting.

  466. anonymous says:

    anonymous: anonymously acknowledges anonymous’ anonymousliousiness anonymity in being anonymous anonymitily !!!!!

  467. hototrot says:

    my man leaves for Rome for a few wks. I’ll miss him, but I’ll live. He said I was a better daughter than girlfriend. He was being cheeky, but he might be right. lol I’m a great daughter. LUV my Momma to pieces! Love of my life. Sunday was awesome. Now back to the grind…

  468. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @ATL & @GP – you two alright down there? I thought I heard on the news there were some pretty major storms moving through your neck of the woods…

  469. KennaKenna says:

    @Kotton

    Thank you! :-)

  470. hototrot says:

    Having my middle of the night, guess morning now, insomnia youtube fest. Nothing but romantic songs. Not sugar. Hippy stuff. “San Francisco” Now that’s a great hippy songs.

  471. THEATLSD says:

    Speaking of music. Lou Bega’s song “Tricky,Trickey” sure sounds like a Sugar relationship. She likes expensive stuff and he is only dating her for her looks.

  472. THEATLSD says:

    @Peeps
    Blocking only keeps them from messaging you. If you hide your profile they can not see you unless they have you favorited you.
    So the dude is going to keep you checking your rack out.

  473. KottonKandy23 says:

    Congrats @KennaKenna on your pregnancy! :) I have loved reading these blogs ever since I have been on this site and keeping up with the members who talk in the comments :)

  474. hototrot says:

    Ive been having the INXS song “I Need You Tonight” stuck in my head. Heard it in some store. I guess there are worse things. It is a sexy song…

  475. KennaKenna says:

    My first Mother’s Day was awesome… 😀

    I haven’t really caught up but were people alluding that Promise=Josh?

  476. peeps says:

    @all
    Quick question:
    Does anyone know if you block someone on SA they can still see your profile in full? Someone keeps visiting me and I find it annoying is there a way to stop the person from seeing your profile?

  477. Josh says:

    Email address sent. Good night!

  478. KeKe says:

    Kmpkmp 708 at yahoo dot com. Thank you so much!

  479. KeKe says:

    @Struggle…Guess who doesn’t like it. Lol. He says he likes being able to play with it. I keep telling him that’s playing with a black girls hair is a No No. He doesn’t listen. Lol

  480. Josh says:

    @KeKe

    “@Josh. Can you send it to me (Lainey’s email) pretty please?”

    I don’t have your email address.

  481. KeKe says:

    Muah’s behind looks awesome! I’m so late with that compliment.

    @Struggle.. thanks love!

    @Josh. Can you send it to me (Lainey’s email) pretty please?

  482. StruggleIsReal says:

    @Keke
    Love it! You are beautiful and the hair is fun!

    @Kitty @flyR. @ATL
    Merci beacoups ! And I concur on the niceness of @Muah’s heinie!

  483. Promise says:

    SA you need to work on your screening for profile pictures. -_-

  484. IHF2030 says:

    Ah, the ghetto-“fabulous”, “princess”-diva mentality is a marvel to behold.

  485. rembodler says:

    @Muah – complementing FlyBoy
    “…I think it’s funny how the guys give you shit just because women like you better… because you don’t talk like a cheap, misogynistic creep 90% of the time…”

    A FlyBoy does not talk “like a cheap, misogynistic creep”…True. That is all we do here – talk. That is what this blog is for.
    FlyBoy likes to play Rich Man. No harm in that… But, what was his last thing… “Fine wine, Haute Horlogerie, Haute couture, private jets, Polo ponies…”

    Really… Rich Man talking? Imagine Bill Gates, Steve Jobs – or if you want a woman and a current market darling – Elizabeth Holmes – talking about brand names or, as I was corrected, “luxury categories”? They would rather die than admit knowing even tidbit of that…
    The only exception to this if you are in “merchandising” and actually work in that industry, you are a gay man or you are – as Josh alluded to – carry two X chromosomes…

  486. Josh says:

    @Lisa

    In order to give intelligent advice on clingers, we would need more information as to what stage your arrangement is at.

    However, I am sure Madame @flyR would have comprehensive advice for you as she never needs any information to dispense her worthless “advice”.

    Also, since I have responded to you she will take it upon herself to butt in for SURE.

  487. Josh says:

    @jamie

    “Trying to leave a toothbrush and some personal items at my place the first time we slept together. So that the other SD’s would inquire probably?”

    Are you taking all of your SDs home?

  488. sexyrockstar says:

    Happy mothers day to the sexy sugar babies with babies.

    I’m sorry for the lack of posting. I miss you all.

  489. jamie says:

    @Flyr- You know men tend to be on there best behavior on the first date anyways

    @josh- I heard some pretty interesting ones that the guys have used… but I wont go there on the blog.

    But yeah… I also pulled a Beyonc’e and put everything he left at my place in a box to the left….
    I couldn’t believe the nerve of the guy.. Trying to leave a toothbrush and some personal items at my place the first time we slept together. So that the other SD’s would inquire probably? Everyone knows that that’s why girls leave their panties in a guys bed and there eyeliner by the sink. How insecure do you have to be to leave those things in the bedroom of a person you just met.

  490. Josh says:

    “kicked to the curb”

    Hmmm…how often such language is used to describe the same phenomenon when man does not want to continue with a woman?

  491. FunDude says:

    Fucking great video by Aaron Clarey:

    Check this shit out. This is probably my situation now as well!

    {{https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u-LmPMgghwQ}}

  492. jamie says:

    my apartments has a security guard on call 24/7.he is designed to keep people who does not have someone who escorts him onto the property off of the property. he shows up… he will be kindly escorted off of the property and I have blocked the number from my phone/emil… Kicked to the curb means just that, kicked to the curb

  493. peeps says:

    @jamie
    Well done! In a way going through these experiences is important because once you learn, you won’t let it happen again. Also, please block this guy’s number. I can’t believe you let him into your apartment before there was any arrangement in place…living and learning:)

  494. jamie says:

    FlyR- It was defiantly one of those things where you figure things out as you go along. Like lets say you get married, 6 months into the marriage, you figure out what you really got yourself into and quickly seek divorce.
    On day one, the guy was not attractive, but tolerable. Date two, I figured he was just nervous. By date 3 I found out that he was kind of a prev and was going to break it off. You cant judge me for that!
    So, when he kept texting and emiailng after date 3… I figured he needed the extra push to get him to go away.. Thus: Kicking the opportunist to the curb.
    And yes, I don’t know many SB’S that are really attracted to the sd’s that they dates looks anyways. You cant really blame any young hot sb with a tight body for not being physically attracted to someone that is significantly older. Thats why most sd’s are here. They lack the physical attractiveness needed to pick up a younger woman… Cant judge me for that

  495. flyR says:

    Jamie – you should have saved yourself the grief of the latest exchange and just said NO. Then spent your time writing out the lessons learned and how YOU will change.

    Just because you yelled at someone doesn’t mean you solved the problem.

    If you think someone is disgusting , too old , pervert you should not be with them in the first place.

    “Kicking the opportunist to the curb” doesn’t solve the problem

    Turning it into a learning experience and changing your behavior does.

  496. FunDude says:

    Great article on post wall women:

    {{https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6JMx4vnvx6o}}

    The only thing I disagree about in this video is that the wall hits around 35. I believe the Wall is very DEPENDENT on female behavior. Women who:

    1) Go tanning often
    2) Party and drink a good amount
    3) Smoke
    4) Get Fat
    5) Lack Exercise

    These women drop off due to the Wall much more readily if they do those above things.

  497. Lisa says:

    Love to hear more advice on how to handle “clingers”.

  498. flyR says:

    @ promise – Naw the dogs aren’t trapped under the porch It’s where the little dogs hide – a place where act loud and brave because they are safe .

  499. Cryptic Anomaly says:

    @Josh – Some people male and female are of course stupid. I certainly am not and I am sure many other men aren’t either. I’m not a fan of the male bashing that has become acceptable in our culture, I would guess that many men believe they and other men are stupid because they have been conditioned to believe they are.

    The question that begs to be asked though is if we are so stupid why are we the Sugar Daddy’s who these women are hoping to siphon money from?

  500. Josh says:

    Josh says:
    May 10, 2015 at 5:13 pm
    @Cryptic Anomaly

    “We aren’t stupid my darlings.”

    Are you sure about that?

    Most women, and a good number of men believe that men (especially White men) are basically stupid.

  501. Josh says:

    @Cryptic Anomaly

    “We aren’t stupid my darlings.”

    Are you sure about that?

    A good number of men as well as men believe that men are basically stupid.

  502. jamie says:

    So today, I kicked the opportunist to the curb. I suggested that he try match or other dating sites where you can date for free and he tried to argue the point saying that the girls on match don’t really reply to his profile and blah, blah blah..
    I reminded him that this site is pretty upfront and brought it to his attention that I felt he was taking advantage of my very vulnerable situation.
    He tried to argue it a little more and I just left the point at this. (I am half your age, I’m not attracted to you, I’m busy, work two jobs and dont have time for a real relationship and I really fell like you took advantage of me and acted like a complete fool and perv. You aren’t looking to be a benefactor and you don’t even look good anyways. ) At the end. I also told him I don’t know exactly why he thought that things could possibly work out and goodbye. He sent a few protests and finally just stopped texting. I told him if I ever see him around my building ill call security and have him escorted off of the property. I think he got the message.

  503. Cryptic Anomaly says:

    So let me understand. On SA only the Men (SD’s) have to pay to use it but every article is about trying to help the ones who get to use it for free, the Women (SB’s).

    I think Brandon needs to re-think his marketing strategy here as I know it does not inspire me to pay money to use the site and given there are heavy discounts to try and lure men into paying a fee, I do not think they are working too well.

    Not to mention it also does a disservice to SB’s and SD’s alike as SB’s outnumber SD’s so you have a great level of demand (the SB’s) but a very low supply of SD’s. In real world of trade and commerce this would mean you should be treating the SD’s extremely well not publishing blogs that encourage women to either be poor SB’s as we have seen in the past blogs and this blog itself.

    We aren’t stupid my darlings.

  504. Promise says:

    @flyR Trapping a dog under your porch is a horrible thing to do.

  505. Josh says:

    You have a little dog?

  506. flyR says:

    Josh There’s a reason the little doggies stay under the porch – so they can yap in safety.

  507. Josh says:

    Yes I do.

  508. KeKe says:

    @Struggle… I’m not sure you can see my hair well, but here it is. Lol

    @Josh…You have Lainey’s email?

  509. Josh says:

    “President Clinton and his close advisor Dick Morris used to have evening discussions over matters of life and death for the nation with Monica kneeling at the president’s feet and Morris with a hooker sucking his toes.”

    I guess Madame @flyR was Morris’ hooker before she turned Republican as well as a madame, who’s noe active in SA.

  510. Anonymous says:

    @muah, you are ridiculously comparing two entirely different women.

  511. flyR says:

    @ muah ( aka WonderBuns )

    Let me try this value thing one more time .

    Trying to relate the rates charged by hookers with appropriate sugar allowances is simply an exercise in mental self abuse UNLESS the sugar relationship is just cash for sex and never having to say I care.

    President Clinton and his close advisor Dick Morris used to have evening discussions over matters of life and death for the nation with Monica kneeling at the president’s feet and Morris with a hooker sucking his toes. When an outraged reporter demanded to know if Morris had paid a woman $6oo to have SEX with him. Morris replied , “NO I paid her $600 to leave when I was done.”

    The rules of being a good hooker include
    no feelings
    no concern for her pleasure
    no expectations
    no promises
    no freebies
    nothing personal
    no respect

    three goals – get the cash, get the job done and get home safely

    On the other side of the room are a variety of unconventional relationships devoid of cash considerations where the people would not normally be dating

    boss – assistant
    professor – student
    mentor – mentee
    idle housewife – pool boy etc
    in racing they were affectionately known as pit lizards – young women who were attracted to racing
    aspiring actress – someone in the industry
    athlete – young woman
    musician – young woman

    if you think of the monetary side of sugar as the entire benefit then it’s probably not an arrangement.

    Ignoring the financial benefits, when I look back on this in 10 years will I think that I made a wise decision ?

    Is there genuine respect on the part of both ?

    Do I trust him?

    Is he genuinely concerned about my pleasure?

    Is he someone who would help me should a problem arise

    if you sugar daddy greets you at the door dressed in his Ebola suit shouting on your knees bitch it’s probably not a sugar relationship. .

    Suggestion for the next pix – lightly sprinkle the buns with sugar

  512. rembodler says:

    Not really sure if I care talking to Anonymous…
    but here…
    “…Anonymous says:
    May 10, 2015 at 11:07 am
    @rembodler FYI those aren’t brand names they are luxury categories in which brand names exist like haute coture is custom high end one of a kind clothing that few can afford and a name brand would be Chanel, Christian Dior etc. Before trying to insult someone at least do us the favor of doing research first if you don’t full understand…”
    Oh really… My secretary should know, HE takes care of these…

  513. Promise says:

    FunDude! :-O

  514. KeKe says:

    @Lady….Gurl. Now you stop it! Lol

  515. MissLady says:

    Lol @Keke as the friend or foe??

  516. Josh says:

    @rembodler

    “@FlyBoy
    “…Fine wine, Haute Horlogerie, Haute couture, private jets, Polo ponies .. etc etc etc.”
    Throwing all these brand names around – IMHO, nothing exposes a low class person better…”

    ROTFLMAO

  517. Anonymous says:

    @rembodler FYI those aren’t brand names they are luxury categories in which brand names exist like haute coture is custom high end one of a kind clothing that few can afford and a name brand would be Chanel, Christian Dior etc. Before trying to insult someone at least do us the favor of doing research first if you don’t full understand

  518. KeKe says:

    @Lady… I was appreciating the shout out. No shade. At all.

  519. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Muah – if your comment was directed towards me…you missed my point completely!

    If a SB views her “compensation” as allowance/cash only, she’s devaluing everything else a SD provides…

  520. KeKe says:

    @Georgia :’)
    So sorry for your loss. Father’s Day is always a difficult time me too. Gone but never forgotten.

  521. MissLady says:

    Happy mother’s day.
    Hugs for Georgia
    Keke stop it lol
    I second the request for the anon ability to go away

  522. KeKe says:

    Happy Mother’s Day friends and foes. Off to brunch with Mommy. Beautiful outside. Peace

    Hehehe :-)

  523. Muah says:

    Why is it so tough to comprehend that Sugar Babies do/provide so much MORE than an escort and OBVIOUSLY sugar relationships are MORE than sex for compensation. Why should a young quality female who is investing more of herself, time and energy into a man (SD) receive less than an escort who ONLY provides sex and not the whole ego-stroke, warm-feelies package?? Why should the girls who understand what being a sugar baby really is, get the short end of the stick? What’s with the retarded bullshit of breaking it down to “sugar babies want hourly compensation” instead of understanding what the actual comparison is. Just saying :)

    Relationships are partnerships, equal give and take. When someone thinks that they are doing the other person a favor that’s where problems pop up.

    @Georgia
    Sorry for your loss! She’s still with you in spirit :)

  524. rembodler says:

    @FlyBoy
    “…Fine wine, Haute Horlogerie, Haute couture, private jets, Polo ponies .. etc etc etc.”
    Throwing all these brand names around – IMHO, nothing exposes a low class person better…

  525. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @ONSD
    Thank you.

  526. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @GP – the “firsts” are always difficult…I’m thinking of you today…

    @Anonymous – SA has left you the option to let you continue to use your email address and moniker as before the fiasco…or to connect your SA profile…staying anonymous is a coping mechanism…

  527. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    Hi Folks.
    This is the first Mother’s Day without my beautiful Mom. I had her for over 62 yrs and I’m quite thankful. Many “children” don’t have their Mom for that long. However, it doesn’t make the loss any easier, since I didn’t just lose my Mom last June, I lost my best friend. So, if your Mom is near, take her out, even if for a walk and if not, call and talk to her and tell her how much you love her. Happy Day to all the Mom’s and Mom’s to Be (Kenna) :)

  528. Anonymous says:

    I post as SA has made me.

    Being in an arrangement costs SBs revenue opportunities.

  529. hototrot says:

    Happy Mother’s Day friends and foes. Off to brunch with Mommy. Beautiful outside. Peace!

  530. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @SBs who continue to think cash for sex is the comparison for a SB’s “compensation”

    If I wanted a quick fuck, I could pop off with a different BP wore every day for $100…and probably have some fun doing it…no dinner, no drinks, no concerts, no gifts; just pump and dump and call again if it was pleasant…

    I want something different, and I’ve thought about the GFE, but again, it’s not the feeling, just the ‘experience’…

    My SB may not ‘earn’ an hourly rate equivalent to a whore, but she’s NOT a whore…she gets spoiled with gifts, we go out to eat (so she doesn’t eat Ramen every day), she gets attention, communication, affection, some cash, and mentoring about school and career and life…

  531. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    Holy SHIT!

    @SAJeff – PLEASE TAKE AWAY ANONYMOUS POSTING!!! There is nothing worse than multiple people using the same moniker on a blog comment string!

  532. FunDude says:

    @Muah

    Nice ass.

    I have to disagree with your assessment on Flyboy. We have no ability to verify if he is even a man, let alone “desirable” in the real world.

  533. Muah says:

    @flyR
    You pig, looking at my ass… How dare you 😛

    @FlyBoy
    I think it’s funny how the guys give you shit just because women like you better… because you don’t talk like a cheap, misogynistic creep 90% of the time :)

    ANYWAYS! Off to see my momma :) Hope everyone has a nice day!!

  534. Muah says:

    Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms on SA/this blog!! Hope you guys have a wonderful day :)

  535. Josh says:

    Grammar should’ve read dontmarry.com

  536. Josh says:

    Fourth wife?

    What are these men on? Don’t they learn?

  537. DarkHorseSD says:

    I got through 7 mins. So far Josie is pretty awesome. She’s hot. She’s smart, prepared, and debates well.

    She doesn’t seem to be the typical loser, reject that no one wants who escalated by signing up here expecting now to get paid on top.

  538. FunDude says:

    This woman reminds me of the delusional type of women that post on here.

    Dr. Phil presents the typical female blogger on SA blog: She is fat, past her prime in age, etc demanding a RICH man lol She is even BETTER than half the bloggers here because they are even fatter and older!

    {{https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGxw9W2DdCQ}}

  539. hototrot says:

    @peeps
    “First of all, delete the info about your child and your hardships. The idea is that the SB represents *pleasure* and *relaxation* to the SD, that means, the opposite of drama, which is what your profile sounds like – D-R-A-M-A. It will sound harsh and I apologize but SDs are not here to listen to your problems…”

    Good advice.

  540. FlyR says:

    Lots of hits but no takers-note that essay publishes pictures on the Internet to rescreen which induces people to click with no knowledge of your location

    Drop on profile views.-Default search presentation is by profile date rather than last active. If you update your profile if you update your profile it will then be presented by the profile update date and move you closer to the top of the search results.

  541. FunDude says:

    Kelsey Grammer marries a woman 26 years younger than himself:

    {{http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3074944/How-Kelsey-Grammer-s-fourth-wife-brought-cosy-domesticity.html#comments}}

    Notice all comments from bitter older women. Very interesting indeed.

  542. FunDude says:

    @Josh

    I never said I would NEVER pay anything in the future.

    I just don’t see a sufficient value proposition at this moment due to the aforementioned factors.

    Also, I would likely only do p4p initially before EVER considering a biweekly allowance. I would never give even 2 weeks in advance until a number of p4p dating experiences.

  543. THEATLSD says:

    @PEEPS
    “The idea is that the SB represents *pleasure* and *relaxation* to the SD, that means, the opposite of drama, which is what your profile sounds like – D-R-A-M-A. It will sound harsh and I apologize but SDs are not here to listen to your problems…you exist to help THEM with their problems and listen to THEM.”

    AMEN sister. Can we clone you?

  544. hototrot says:

    *I’m coming home*

  545. hototrot says:

    Ok, I coming home from the GLAAD Awards really fun night. Just now going back and reading some things that piqued my interest earlier. If you scroll up midday in posts you might find some real Twilight Zone ish going on. Somebody has got some serious multiple personalities go on. I won’t say who. But they slippped up. Tell me when you find it. This blog is being straight played by somebody.

  546. KeKe says:

    Happy Mother’s Day Mommy’s and Mommy’s to be!

  547. Josh says:

    *…any better than what he is getting from elsewhere.

  548. Josh says:

    Of course Madame @flyR agrees with @FlyGirl’s strawman argument.

    The issue is not if, the issue is how much.

    The only person who has consistently refused to pay is @FunDude, and he has a point. He is 35, single, educated, rich, and does not find SA women to be any better than what he is getting the same from elsewhere.

  549. flyR says:

    @ Muah – your avatar is a great example of priceless simplicity – the attraction of the female form that sends a message .

    simplicity is the ultimate sophistication

  550. flyR says:

    @ FB “”Coming to a sugar site and whining 24/7 about bitches wanting money, is irrational.””

    A classic

  551. Josh says:

    @GeorgiaPeach12, @SouthernSB

    I like Nia as it takes guts for a woman to put up with a man like Bill Burr. I do agree with her position that he should not be looking at nudies specifically when they are in bed together unless they are enjoying something together. I agree with it because she is open to him watching whatever the fuck outside of the bedroom.

    I do think that she will dump him when he is worth $40 million. He is currently worth around $4 million.

  552. Anonymous says:

    Not giving money to women you date, is rational.
    Giving money to women to make the interaction easier, is also rational.
    Coming to a sugar site and whining 24/7 about bitches wanting money, is irrational.

    hahahahaha so true! And funny shit right there!

  553. Josh says:

    @UncommonSB

    “@FlyBoy Most people don’t understand half those terms without using google”

    How do you know @FlyGirl found out about them then?

  554. FlyBoy says:

    Just to elaborate, I am talking about men who CAN afford these things when I say “There are somethings in life that are not meant for everybody”.

    Many rich men would not buy a private jet, because it doesn’t do anything substantially more to justify the high cost of acquiring it, maintaining it, fueling it and crewing it.

    That’s a rational position. Buying a jet and then whining all day long about what a money pit they are, is, well, irrational.

    Not giving money to women you date, is rational.
    Giving money to women to make the interaction easier, is also rational.
    Coming to a sugar site and whining 24/7 about bitches wanting money, is irrational.

    Cheers :)

  555. DarkHorseSD says:

    “Again there are somethings in life that are not meant for everybody.”

    Such as your typical BP and SA girls…if you actually did do more than squeeze tits in bars and take them to a hotel for $5k after saving up for 18 months in what, an oil service job, you’d know that.

  556. UncommonSB says:

    @FlyBoy “Hey look, I took to Sundance, in a private plane no less, you ate in the best restaurants and stayed in a luxury hotel. You saw all these films and you enjoyed gazing at all these celebrities. Also, let’s not forget all the winter cloths I bought for you when we were there. So can I get a discount on next months allowance.”

    Slow on the uptake there, sorry, it’s been a long week. That was good stuff right there! Like reading dialogue from a $30k millionaire who just used up all of the comps from his boss’ account.

  557. Josh says:

    Scores of escorts and rinsers post here under male and female monikers and talk nonsense about rates, going rates, leaving SBs in better position than what you found them in, etc., etc., etc.

    It fascinates me that platforms after fucking platforms exist to ensure how/why women should be taken care of and men are told, “you’ll be happier if women are happy”. Fuck no. Whoever thinks that women can ever be happy is an idiot.

    This is a freaking marketplace. SDs ensure what works for them and SBs ensure what works for them. SDs are not here to provide charity dollars to women.

    You bring what have to the marketplace, put your best foot forward, and see if the marketplace is interested in valuing you at the same or better level you have for yourself.

  558. DarkHorseSD says:

    I will think about how to teach those of you who are men to be actual SDs while I’m with my SB of 16 months from tomorrow afternoon to Monday morning and with one of last summer’s SBs who’s coming in for a few days from Monday afternoon.

    I could have something late in the week, but by then the topic will be “5 tips on depositing all the cash.”

  559. peeps says:

    @kitty

    First of all, delete the info about your child and your hardships. The idea is that the SB represents *pleasure* and *relaxation* to the SD, that means, the opposite of drama, which is what your profile sounds like – D-R-A-M-A. It will sound harsh and I apologize but SDs are not here to listen to your problems…you exist to help THEM with their problems and listen to THEM. Assuming they give you an allowance in which case they have already helped you out immensely. So my advice is to make yourself sound and look pleasant, and share what skills are attractive to the ideal SD you have in mind.

    To be brutally honest your profile and photos communicate that you are doing this only for hardship purposes, not for fun purposes. You NEED to show your body in some way, your best feature, etc…(i.e. mine are boobs and I have sexy pics of them) because MEN ARE VISUAL. Make no mistake, men are here looking for women who are pleasant company, attractive and can take good care of them in the bedroom. Make sure you can communicate all three in your profile.

    I recently went back on and changed my main photo to a sexier one and I got a lot more messages and interests in meeting. (Sexy but classy) photos go a VERY long way.

  560. UncommonSB says:

    @FlyBoy Most people don’t understand half those terms without using google :)

  561. FlyBoy says:

    Last week I was looking at

    Jaeger-LeCoultre Master Grande Tradition Gyrotourbillon 3 Jubilee
    []http://tinyurl.com/p8mbvsh[]

    It doesn’t do anything that a modern smart phone doesn’t do much better. It has no bling factor (nobody knows what is)

    You wanna know the price?

    500K

    Yep half a million.

    Who would buy something like this? Well. this question is not important. There are somethings in life that are not meant for everybody.
    —————————————————————-

    Yes we understand that arrangements are more than sex and money. Having said that, I don’t say to my SB

    Hey look, I took to Sundance, in a private plane no less, you ate in the best restaurants and stayed in a luxury hotel. You saw all these films and you enjoyed gazing at all these celebrities. Also, let’s not forget all the winter cloths I bought for you when we were there. So can I get a discount on next months allowance.

    Why would I say something like this? It’s petty and low rent. She is enjoying all this because she is with me and that’s my lifestyle. Get it.

    Again there are somethings in life that are not meant for everybody.

    Fine wine, Haute Horlogerie, Haute couture, private jets, Polo ponies .. etc etc etc.

  562. MissLady says:

    lol, that’s not exactly what I meant anon….

  563. DarkHorseSD says:

    “Anonymous says:
    May 9, 2015 at 7:55 pm
    @MissLady

    Yes I am getting abused here. :(

    That’s hysterical!

  564. Anonymous says:

    @MissLady

    Yes I am getting abused here. :(

  565. DarkHorseSD says:

    What’s really going on here with my antagonists is they really are escorting (or Johning) using SA as a veil to allow themselves the pretense that they are not escorts or johns.

    They are not engaging in real arrangements as real SDs and SBs.

  566. MissLady says:

    So someone changed the curtains around here, not sure if I like these new alternatives on how to post. I see the anon is already being abused lol

    Wow this article screams tumblr and all the girls that have talked about the multiples they have. Guess they wanted to get the word out here too.

  567. DarkHorseSD says:

    @muah, go escort for a while at equal money and see who deserves more.

  568. UncommonSB says:

    @flyR “But there is a whole other universe not yet visited by many, including some of the perpetually prolific posters, where the relationships include a lot more complex components, I think SA struggles to understand that (based on their vision of the parties, their blog topics and other)”

    Well said.

  569. Muah says:

    I am not saying a girl cannot be happy with whatever amount she decides is satisfactory… Regardless, that still doesn’t change what an average hourly escort rate is.

  570. Muah says:

    @FlyR

    What about my buns and profile pics?

    @Kitty

    I don’t even contact SDs anymore – Not saying that’s the way to go or anything. Just my preference. I am currently talking to oh 8 POTs right now just to whittle down to one that might be worthwhile. There’s 3 that keep messaging me, one of which I’ve already dismissed.
    —-
    Dark Horse
    I’m sorry but when you meet someone on SA…. And they are providing more than an escort, better quality, genuine connection, etc – Well they probably deserve more than an escort who only provide sex.

  571. THEATLSD says:

    @Kitty. If SA doesnt work. There is farmersonly !!

  572. DarkHorseSD says:

    It’s so typical that many of you know of nothing other than money (and sex) as elements in an arrangement.

  573. Kittygirl07 says:

    @Muah
    Yeah! I don’t copy and paste anything to these SD. Should I start? I think that would be funny.

    Yes…I definitely should get more serious if I want to find a SD….

  574. THEATLSD says:

    @Kitty. U came for advice and stayed for the entertainment. get those dollars rolling. Let us know if you update it.

  575. flyR says:

    @ Uncommon – if the relationship is simply the exchange of sex for cash then what you say may be true to some extent. In your model the woman is similar to a taxi the customer wants to get from here ( horney) to there ( satisfied) safely , without potholes , wrecks and such. Certainly a number of relationships here follow that model , especially where the SB reports to the NoTell Motel , checks her watch and knocks.

    But there is a whole other universe not yet visited by many, including some of the perpetually prolific posters, where the relationships include a lot more complex components, I think SA struggles to understand that (based on their vision of the parties, their blog topics and other)

    It’s a free country, you can make SA or BP anything you want it to be.

  576. DarkHorseSD says:

    I once had an SB who had stayed with me who, after I dumped her, complained about her allowance on a per hour basis, including hours she was doing her online classes and homework using my computer, sleeping, etc.

    Your arguments are the same as hers.

    It was all moot, since I didn’t want her at that “low” rate either.

  577. Kittygirl07 says:

    @DH
    Make me laugh more :) (I’m not meaning this is a bad way at all)

    @LSD
    Thanks for the Advice. I will definitely look into editing my profile.
    (Skol Vikings? They better, especially since they’re getting a 1 billion dollar stadium soon)

  578. FlyBoy says:

    @UncommonSB:

    But wait, it gets better! No dear, the SD is not going to offer you that X 4 to set aside time for him during the month. He may or may not be back, but maybe next time it will cover your electric bill and some groceries too :)

    Sooo glad this nonsense doesn’t even register on my personal radar.

    And it shouldn’t.

    All this nonsense is produced by one member. Disregard it.

    By the way, BP = Back Page, a craigslist for hookers!

  579. Muah says:

    @gtt_envy and @Uncommon

    You are right on! You can go to any escort site for just about any state and the average amount is $300 and hour. Who the hell cares if some SDs get away with giving quality girls that and they are “happy”. Fact remains they could be making more for less time and effort.

    @Kitty
    When I was new I received a lot of clearly scripted emails. I still do from time to time… Either they are messaging SOOOO many SBs they don’t have the time to come up with an original “Hey how are you doing, what are you looking for?” message or they are too lazy to send a “Hey how are you doing, what are you looking for?” Both are pathetic and really unattractive lol.

  580. THEATLSD says:

    @uncommon. bP is backpage. As in the old days when one could go to the back page of the local newspaper and find ads for the saucier things in life.

  581. flyR says:

    @ Muah “This article is intended to bring in new sugar babies or to encourage existing sugar babies. If you take a minute to think about the type of advertising there is regarding SA…”

    I think Brandon is trying to stake out areas in the battlespace from backpage to AM . Unfortunately too many of their initiatives have been pretty out of touch with the opportunities in many ares. To their credit SA has a lot of women although I suspect there are a lot on here who as their profiles suggest just want to see what someone might offer.

    PS your buns say more than 500 typical profile pix
    same for struggle

  582. UncommonSB says:

    I’m not even sure what BP is? Is it an escort service? Either way, not sure what woman (who is good looking) wants to bang someone old enough to be father (perhaps even less attractive than her father) to pay the equivalent of her car insurance for sex? And to top things off, you have SDs saying an SB, who invests significantly more time and affection with him than an escort, should somehow deserve less than a prostitute who may have banged several other guys the day before seeing him? Eww.

    But wait, it gets better! No dear, the SD is not going to offer you that X 4 to set aside time for him during the month. He may or may not be back, but maybe next time it will cover your electric bill and some groceries too :)

    Sooo glad this nonsense doesn’t even register on my personal radar.

  583. gtt_envy says:

    DH, thanks for admitting you are part of the problem on SA helping ensure small allowances and waning expectations.

    For the 3rd time whack wad I’ve used BP, ECCIE, and SA (obviously) I’ve been on the blog for 3 freaking years. Because I used done instead of used you think I’m a chic!! Yeah okay 😉

    Must of been the thug come out since I listen to Trey Songz, J Cole, Chris Brown, Lil Wayne, Kid Ink, and other artists that “objectify women!”

  584. THEATLSD says:

    @Kitty. First let me say go Vikings
    Now you need to up the ante on your outlook. Get some positive energy going. Darkhorse SD summed it up well but I’ll expand on it.
    Your profile sucks. Too much babbling. And never put your name on there. Remove all reference to your child for multiple reasons, one is there are lots of creeps on here.

    You are going to get out it what you put in. If you want some real help from a SB find a post by Sexyrockstar and click on her name. It will bring you to her blog she helps SB.

    You are going to get the “copy and paste” SD. Ignore them, all SB get that, don’t Cha know.
    If you are serious get some better pics and rewrite your profile geared towards older, educated SD.

  585. FlyBoy says:

    DarkHorseSD:

    A true arrangement with a true SB yields far less for the SB in money and far more in quality of life.

    So how are you going to improve the ‘quality of life’ for her without money. Sing and dance for her 3 times a month.

    ———————————

    Agree with both Daniel and gtt_envy.

  586. DarkHorseSD says:

    @kitty you are both a tire kicker wasting guys’ time and a troll.

    What do I need to do to get a five from you?

  587. Josh says:

    Bill Burr – Wife Turned Down $975 Million Divorce Check
    [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHGNHHV0L2E]

  588. Kittygirl07 says:

    I like the entertainment, SO please go on.

    If I had ONES I’d so be putting them in your underwear right now.

    Is that not allowed?

  589. Kittygirl07 says:

    @DarkhorseSD
    I’m not asking you to go into more problems, but now I’m more interested in reading about your problems, since you like to point out everyone elses. :)

  590. DarkHorseSD says:

    A) I didn’t ask which you’d pay more for, I asked from your experience as an escort (revised now knowing you’ve been one) which you’d charge more or less for.

    B) you didn’t give your opinion.

    C) My opinion is I pay less for an SB. I’m also not going to be hiring an escort at those rates for what I’m going to do with an SB. I’m not going to take a zip car for years at a time instead of leasing a car either.

    A true arrangement with a true SB yields far less for the SB in money and far more in quality of life. But that doesn’t exist to a significant degree on SA, as stipulated by this blog article and other goings on.

  591. gtt_envy says:

    Daniel, without a lot of frequency truly exclusive SB/SD arrangements are rare imo. I’ve always sought 2-3 dates a month, so how often do you see your SB to believe exclusivity is genunine?

  592. gtt_envy says:

    That means what?

  593. Daniel says:

    Memo to Angela: A professional SB with multiple SDs is merely a prostitute. For health reasons and scheduling efficiency, it’s best to maintain exclusivity in the SD/SB world, as much as possible. This goes for the SD as well. When meeting a potential SB for the first time, I make it clear that exclusivity in the arrangement is expected, and is a deal breaker otherwise. I shouldn’t have to compete for her time and attention, and she shouldn’t have to compete for my time and resources. And neither of us needs to catch anything unpleasant or dangerous. I don’t expect to be Mr. “The One”, but I do expect to be Mr. “The One At A Time”.

  594. DarkHorseSD says:

    “. I’m not on much either. I guess I don’t know what to really expect and haven’t really been dedicated to finding a SD.”

    … Well, there you go. I don’t even have to get into the rest of your problems.

  595. gtt_envy says:

    Done both as in USED both goofballs geesh is everything a conspiracy theory? Like E.C.C.I.E, became P411 verified, and have had many SB’s.

    Instead of changing topics go back to your original DH what did you mean which would I pay more for? Since I’ve BEEN with both I know and gave my opinion now give yours?

  596. Josh says:

    @gtt_envy,

    “I have done both so why don’t you be more specific?”

    Why have you been posting as a man for a quite some time?

  597. Kittygirl07 says:

    @THEATLSD

    There are a lot of beautiful women on here! If I had the money, I’d be their suga momma.

    Anyway, It could be my profile? Also, I get messages that I’m 100% positive they copy and paste to send to every girl. Others, I’l respond back to messages and talk, but it doesn’t go further than that. I’m not on much either. I guess I don’t know what to really expect and haven’t really been dedicated to finding a SD.

  598. DarkHorseSD says:

    @gtt, finally a tad of honesty from you. You have BOTH been and escort and tried to be an SB.

    Are you one of those typical members who couldn’t hack it at escorting, couldn’t scratch the ad fee together, couldn’t keep appointments, etc… And declared themselves SBs here?

  599. gtt_envy says:

    You are changing the subject………..Bill Burr we can discuss comedians later. Stay focused :)

  600. gtt_envy says:

    I’ll disagree…..I’ve been stood up once in the last 3 years out of 30+ meets. Your next SB ask her, ask to see her messages she will tell you most guys are endless emailers, request nudes, last minute cancels due to a “business meeting”, or just never meet. Why do you think so many profiles specifically say two things “DO NOT ASK FOR SEX ON THE FIRST MEET AND DO NOT WASTE MY TIME”

  601. DarkHorseSD says:

    I’ve been enjoying some of that Bill Burr stuff.

    That part about buying dinner being “standard”. What age are these women pretending to exist in? Guy buying dinner was going out around my time…splitting with the independent strong woman then flowed into woman paying for deadbeat date her age decades later.

    “Standard” is show up with your own career and pay half the mortgage.

  602. gtt_envy says:

    I have done both so why don’t you be more specific? A true GFE from a verified provider is pretty badass from a physical perspective. It’s the mental piece of knowing you are just a number just another customer that ruins it.

    The SB world while NSA it has the illusion of being more real even though it isn’t. It’s better for the brain!

    What was you question specifically?

  603. DarkHorseSD says:

    Yes the SDs are far more up and up.

    Yes the SBs are delusional.

    No a good allowance is not more than BP. I invite you to spend a little time being a BP escort and see which you’d charge more for.

  604. gtt_envy says:

    @Josh and @Darhorse,

    So, you both disagree? You think the SD’s on the site are on the up and up offering good allowance much higher than BP.com and it’s the SB’s who are delusional?

  605. DarkHorseSD says:

    @gtt, I showed your post to “That Skunk”@Alice and she asked me which version of the disappointment you are? 😛

  606. Josh says:

    @gtt_envy

    “Somehow someway I’m sure it’s all female sabotage in the end right Josh”

    Since your post does not make any sense whatsoever, I don’t know what it is. What’s for SURE is that, like @FlyGirl and @flyR, you are a woman posting as a man.

  607. DarkHorseSD says:

    @gtt you are not random, otherwise your lengthier posts might contain some wisdom. You are consistent so the amount of nonsense is proportional to length.

    😛

  608. Anonymous says:

    I also think @Josh is on SA’s payroll to keep the blog controversial and to make it look busy.

    __________________________________________________________________________________________

    There is no way in hell SA would have Josh on their payroll but if they did in an alternate reality then he would be paid with bags of cheetos lube and a new humidifier for the basement.

  609. THEATLSD says:

    @Kittty
    @Struggleisreal and @Muah – You have some might fine buttocks.”

    You got that right girl!!!

    What are you having problems with. Profile? Finding a SD that’s real?

  610. Anonymous says:

    Who be boo

  611. gtt_envy says:

    @Fundude, that is funny, but the fact is many guys are only willing to pay 1k a month for 3-4 romps in the sack with a 18-21 year old when they are 50+ or they cancel last minute, don’t show, ask for countless nudes, want sex the first meet. Most young women are like that’s escort pricing and I’m not a escort!! To be honest they are right. Even on Backpage.com it’s often $200-$250hr for a hotter 20-21yr old. That’s 1hr and see ya. Many SD’s want 4-5 hour dates and unprotected sex for the same price! If you talk to many girls on Backpage a awful lot started as SB’s on SA, but got tired of the BS and say BP is much more reliable. 2-3 people a weekend, couple hours of work, all verified through P411 etc and make 1k versus all of the wasted time on SA with fake wannabees etc etc I’m rambling now lol.

    I’ve read many messages SB’s have received, so while you weren’t like that and some people on the blog may not be much of SA is!! I think there are many more SD’s trying to scam then SB’s trying to scam.

    I do think most SB’s are just disappointed!!! They really think they will find a in shape, good looking 40-45 year old attorney/doctor, who WANTS to spoil, help, hang, and mentor a coed without just SEX SEX SEX while providing a solid allowance of 2k-3k/mo.

    What they find is fat, out of shape, married, shady, pervy guys, asking for nudes, do you like anal, do you like it rough, endless emails, and paltry allowances barely more than backpage.com. (actually less if you followed my analogy)

    That is why the turnover is so high on SA. The SB’s that stay are the ones that do this fulltime, are scamming, just filter well, or are lucky enough to have actually found a SD, but most just get burnout and realize they can’t sleep with someone 30 years older for a few hundred bucks and delete or never return.

    If guys truly were giving good allowance the girls would stay. One scam that a guy was pulling in Houston was he would say “Hey, I wired you $2000!” after they did the deed. Show them on MoneyGram.com then cancel the transaction and poof disappear. Praying on the naivety of first timers thinking they landed a great older SD.

    Somehow someway I’m sure it’s all female sabotage in the end right Josh 😉

  612. 23andblond says:

    com’on babe, wouldnt u rather be with me than chattin about random fat girls on seekinarrangements again??? Can we hang now? pleas babe???

    stay away girls fundude is all mine!!!

    my name is Rosy Palm [aka 23, HOT & blonde] most men love me once they meet me!!!

  613. Promise says:

    @Anon Who are you?

  614. Muah says:

    @Kitty
    Lol thanks :)

    @Anonymous
    I sometimes think the same (about Josh) haha

  615. THEATLSD says:

    The world is out of order again.
    They need to charging a cover charge for this blog.

  616. Kittygirl07 says:

    @Struggleisreal and @Muah – You have some might fine buttocks.

    I’m envious. :)

  617. Kittygirl07 says:

    @Seeking Guidance – Thanks for the info! I will never need it though, because @flyboy, is correct. I can’t even get one SD, but I guess I’m not really trying. Any advice?

    PS. anonymous 1 & 2 & whatever other conversations. I really need the MJ eating popcorn meme on this. I think @Fundude is telling the truth and you may be a little envious as a man or jealous as a women, but since your anonymous, I can’t really say(Or you’re just stirring the pot because you’re bored, this would be the most hilarious reason)? Either way, we all are on here for a couple of things(or were) and they are for entertainment and mutual benefits. :)

  618. Anonymous says:

    I also think @Josh is on SA’s payroll to keep the blog controversial and to make it look busy.

  619. Anonymous says:

    Totally…#PromiseIsJosh

  620. Promise says:

    @Struggle I promise I’m a female, and my own person. It’s just interesting to watch the things that Josh, and sometimes FunDude, post. You discover a lot of things on the channels.

  621. StruggleIsReal says:

    And if it is, doesn’t matter that much, but I’m just putting it out there because I am wondering if there is anyone else guesstimating the same?

  622. StruggleIsReal says:

    I am starting to think @Promise is @Josh. Oyyyyy

  623. Josh says:

    Making Women Laugh [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8TYRBIvO6xU]

  624. Muah says:

    This article is intended to bring in new sugar babies or to encourage existing sugar babies. If you take a minute to think about the type of advertising there is regarding SA… Most newbie sugar babies are going to think that platonic relationships are easy to come by… among other things. Personally, I feel like this article is promoting rinsing men – which involves zero sex. However, I really don’t think attempting to rinse men off of SA is a good idea lol.

  625. Promise says:

    Good Girls Finish Last [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jr5fRoWImfg]

  626. FunDude says:

    @Fly

    What are you talking about man?

    Don’t you know that desperate rich men in their 30s and 40s are very eager to throw money at 40 y/o BBW women for “platonic relationships”?

    I mean, its not like they can date 23 y/o old blond women for free or anything?

    Thats all make believe bullshit right?

    Stupid sugar daddies being all delusional.

  627. FlyBoy says:

    The article is pure dog shit. Most SBs on the site can not get one real SD let alone juggle several of them.

    Why is SA posting articles painting SBs as nothing but cheap whores who get fucked by many men. Why? Shouldn’t you post about the fantasy life that await SBs? Even if it’s, well, fantasy. Isn’t that how marketing works.

    Maybe Josh would get together with the idiots who run this place and advice them against self sabotage.

  628. Seeking Guidance says:

    An SB should only take on multiple SDs if they can do so in a way that is respectful to all of them. Concretely, this means
    1) Never cancel or ask to reschedule with one SD in order to see another. In order for this to work, you need to have established scheduling boundaries with you SDs. It’s just not going to work for one of your SDs to expect you to see him on short notice at a specific time.
    2) Understand that if you want this to work longer term, at some point you’re going to have to clue some or all of the SDs into the fact that you’re seeing multiples. Doing so help keeps the NSA clear and will prevent them from becoming attached in a way that doesn’t work in a multiple SD situation. Put another way, don’t attempt to create the illusion that any one of the SDs is the only one you’re seeing. If the SD ever asks, you need to be honest and tell them. If the SD is making requests that overall situation can’t support, you need to be honest and tell them. Lying in these cases crosses over into misrepresentation and fraud.
    3) Don’t put yourself behind the proverbial eight ball by taking on too many for a given situation. It’s one thing to take on multiples when you see one or two of them once a month (although even in this case, consider what might happen if an infrequent SD requests more frequent meetings). It’s another, though, when each expects a weekly meeting . Personally, I don’t see how a SB could manage more than 3 weekly SDs. More than that, and it seems likely that you’ll have unavoidable scheduling difficulties and also run into the limits of physical and emotional exhaustion. Not only do you need time for yourself, but you should also want to be emotionally and physically available to your SD; taking on too many will make this impossible.
    4) Don’t see more than one SD on the same day. That’s really unfair to the second SD.

    Finally, if an SB does have multiples, remember to act like a parent with multiple children; you can have your favorites, but you can’t outwardly show it.

  629. Promise says:

    @Struggle The mods are trying to scare us off.

  630. StruggleIsReal says:

    Woah, what has happened here?!

    @Pseudonym
    You are saying that you are not @Lainey?

  631. Josh says:

    @Pseudonym

    @Keke does not have my email address.

  632. Anonymous says:

    I admit. This is @Flyboy.

  633. Promise says:

    @Monique That’s another reason I keep telling them to get Disqus.

  634. Promise says:

    @FlyBoy Sorry. Same to hottotrot.

  635. FlyBoy says:

    @Promise:

    @Anonymous If you’re not a girl then I think you’re probably FlyBoy. He’s the only guy I can think of that might not like FunDude.

    Hey little girl, FlyBoy is man enough to write under his own username, unlike some.

  636. MoniqueKayne says:

    I agree with @GeorgiaPeach the comments under the blogs are more interesting although it looks like one big convo/ chat room.

  637. Promise says:

    Wish I had gotten some of the other SD’s emails. Oh well.

  638. Anonymous says:

    They have yet to learn their tactics have been defeated in advance and they will continue to lose the debate on this blog.
    ____________________________________________________________________________________________

    Everyone take cover from fundude’s blog war. General fundude said tactics have been defeated in advance!

  639. Pseudonym says:

    Omg and people wonder why I’ve been gone for a month. @Keke get my email from @Josh. Xo

  640. Promise says:

    FunDude and I don’t even live in the same state so good luck with that.

  641. Promise says:

    You guys are probably the admins.

  642. 23andblond says:

    what? no way!!! he is my pretend bf!!!! take that back!!!

  643. Promise says:

    no! i am fundudes gurl? why does no one beleive????

  644. hototrot says:

    Lady Scarlett!! Amirite?

  645. Promise says:

    i know! it is Josh. i just saw you admitted to it. sorry.

  646. 23andblond says:

    Babe, seriously we need to try fake sex again. let’s try one more time then u wont be so angry on blog k? they only shaming language we will talk about will b dirty or where u r going to put what and for how long, mmkay babe? when can i cum over babe? when?????

  647. Promise says:

    Alright so she’s not hot. So 23 is either some random lady, or FlyBoy.

  648. hototrot says:

    @Promise

    Don’t pull me into this. Just casually glanced at blog and saw these exchanges. They are fun to read though. Someone’s really enjoying themselves. I’m not this funny.

  649. Promise says:

    But hottotrot do lose it yesterday…

  650. FunDude says:

    The immature behavior and shaming language of some the ladies on this blog has largely confirmed my previous assertions.

    Ergo, my thesis on sexual market place dynamics has proven to be affirmed.

    @Promise

    Without straw man arguments and ad hom attacks, they would have no argument.

    Ergo, they will double down on their shaming language, ad homs, etc because they can’t debate in any substantive way.

    They have yet to learn their tactics have been defeated in advance and they will continue to lose the debate on this blog.

  651. Promise says:

    @23 Another guess I have is hottotrot but yesterday she was saying stuff about not needing to hide behind anonymous.

  652. Anonymous says:

    Brandon is anti-Christ?

  653. Promise says:

    @23 They do, but none of the guys on here have.

  654. 23andblond says:

    @Promise

    Like men don’t call women names?

  655. fundudespretendgf says:

    Hello honey! Guess who is this.

  656. Promise says:

    @23andblond because only the girls on here have called people names.

  657. 23andblond says:

    dont waste ur time chattin to all the chunky wannabes on here on ur saturday. can i come back over to see u? can i??? let’s spend the whole day together. we dont need the blog anymore. jus’ u and me, babe, u and me

  658. 23andblond says:

    GEESH BABE! U have me now!!! why r u so angry??? let me come back over & we will cuddlle out ok???? ill make u forget all dem chunky hos u had before!!

  659. FunDude says:

    This anonymous bullshit is ruining this blog.

    Maybe the administrator was right about linking the profiles to the actual posters. I think that is a GREAT idea in many ways.

    Then we can see who is telling the truth in here more readily.

    I suspect that many of the “anonymous” women posting in here are older chunky ladies who are angry about the reality of the sexual market place.

    They think that bitter language, shaming tactics, fake anonymous posters, etc will somehow change reality.

    Sorry ladies, I speak the truth. Deal with it.

  660. 23andblond says:

    #LOLS I *heart* U!

  661. 23andblond says:

    STOP MESSING around babe u r soooo silly!

  662. 23andblond says:

    this is Josh

  663. 23andblond says:

    sorry that was me(Josh) that posted that just now. who is this?

  664. 23andblond says:

    Just kidding. I am in the 30s with bad experiences with men.

  665. 23andblond says:

    where r u babe? babe???? come back 2 me!!!! we said we didnt need no allowance bc u r so hot, young and fun that we i will always do it 4 #free!!!!

  666. Anonymous says:

    Reason to get month in advance:

    Who wants to deal with the slob more than once a month?

  667. 23andblond says:

    sooo mad at him. like, what wud u guys do? He said he wanted a hot gurl 4 free, so he created me, and I am HOT blond & 23, but now he left me 50 min. ago, so he could come here? its like, he like wants to be here instead of with me. wut wud u guys do? should i pretend break up with him or see what happens? should i tell him its either the blog or me or what?

  668. 23andblond says:

    wuz it good for u babe? ive had better pretend sex, tbh.

  669. Anonymous says:

    i did not write those last 4 posts so will change my name to fundudespretendgf.

  670. hototrot says:

    I don’t even know what the topic is on the board at the moment because I haven’t taken the time to read, but I do have some advice. This is just from experience and this has nothing to do with sugar really. For girls: if you want to meet men, don’t travel in packs. I’ve only recently done the online thing, but in the past men always approached me. Not because I was the hottest thing around, but because I went on outings alone. I have friends, but don’t plan my life around them. Just a little nugget of my truth.

  671. Anonymous says:

    Reason to collect the month in advance:

    With only 9 guys properly arranged you can get a half decent semi-weekly cash flow and don’t have to budget.

  672. Anonymous says:

    Reasons for getting the month in advance:

    Losing your contacts means you can text back “who is this” and not give a shit.

    You can take off to South America for a couple weeks, come back on your “woman week” and be just days from collecting the next month.

    Men are pussies and will do it.

    There’s always another sucker.

    Men get tired of you in well under a month.

  673. Anonymous says:

    @Uncommon

    You’re correct. Anon#2 is so gay.

  674. Anonymous says:

    Next blog article on getting that month in advance so juggling mistakes don’t cost you.

  675. UncommonSB says:

    The battle of @Anonymous vs @Anonymous this morning? Not sure who @Anon#1 is but @Anon#2 is definitely Josh!

  676. Anonymous says:

    will give u hint! I am 23, blonde with big breasts and love a make believe relationship with someone who posts on an arrangement blog but who does not have arrangements!

  677. flyR says:

    Interesting that Ashley Madison is looking at an IPO in London. Brandon’s probably watching very carefully.

  678. Anonymous says:

    oh, fundude is trying to pretend to be me and guess who i am. it will keep him up ALL night just like his *PRETEND* GF, bwahahaha!!!!

  679. Anonymous says:

    I am a strong, independent woman in my 30s with a bunch of failed relationships. That makes me an expert on men.

  680. Anonymous says:

    OH NO!!! Not an internet attack! I am soooooo scared, LOLS! who cares? They are #LOSERS!!!

  681. SouthernSB says:

    @Anonymous-You shouldn’t have said that, now you’ll have both FunDude and Josh ganging up on you. No judgement from me, just be ready to be called on the carpet.

  682. Anonymous says:

    i didnt write that. I am not an independent woman in my 30’s either. Let me take a guess who wrote that, LOL!!!! I am #NOYB.

    Bwahahaha!

  683. Anonymous says:

    @Promise

    What gave that away?

  684. Anonymous says:

    I am a strong, independent woman in my 30s.

  685. Promise says:

    @Anonymous If you’re not a girl then I think you’re probably FlyBoy. He’s the only guy I can think of that might not like FunDude.

  686. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @FunDude
    Not a problem. I suspected it was an STD of some type. LOL

    Last night:
    “flyR – On the way to the airport he left a note that you are to be offered half of the company, a $1 mil salary and all of the fringe benefits associated with SA to plot its course for the next 10 years……….. What would you do?” MY response: “Hey, this is an easy one, Sir. I’d call Josh and ask if he wants a job running SA. He could run the place and I’ll just hang around if he needs me for anything. LMAO”

    You would be my #2 guy on the list if for some reason my #1 guy couldn’t fulfill the duties. LOL Damn your gravi. You’re giving this “older lady” chills. LOL

  687. Anonymous says:

    Considering U never have had an arrangement, but *CLAIM* to get hot girls for free then logically that makes U pretty IRRELEVANT on this blog, LMFAO!

  688. FunDude says:

    @Anonymous

    I know it doesn’t make sense to you chica. You are trying to rationalize away my claims.

    I don’t care to prove myself to you further considering you are an irrelevant person who won’t even show your actual profile on here.

    Login and show everyone your profile. Then I will listen to you.

    @GeorgiaPeach

    I can’t respond on my profile because Im not paying for it at this time.

  689. Anonymous says:

    sure bc if she kept u up all night then the FIRST thing u would do is hop on a blog for ARRANGEMENTS since u have never had one. Makes PERFECT *LOGICAL* sense!

  690. FunDude says:

    @Anonymous

    Actually, I was out all last night with her. She has just left my place about 50 minutes ago. That is when I logged onto this blog.

    I haven’t been posting on here for a few weeks now. Just enjoy fooling around on here a little bit.

    @Georgia

    Herpes Simplex Type 2

  691. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Denise
    “HSV2” ???

  692. Anonymous says:

    *Your speaking patterns uses typical illogical comments and shaming language, which is common among bitter women.*

    says the fake troll whose only spiel is to shame others all the time on here. like i said, #LOSER. what secure hot guy would need to insult anyone here? or who CLAIMS to have a HOT 23 year old gf would be trolling on a saturday? Yeah right!!!

  693. FunDude says:

    @Anonymous

    I have many offers for arrangements. Getting an arrangement is very simple.

    Finding women who are of sufficient quality to get into an “arrangement” with isn’t sufficient.

    Ergo, no point to develop an arrangement at this time.

  694. FunDude says:

    i have no need to sign up for this website again until I see a higher quality of female becoming present on this website.

    I am still getting a consistent amount of messages off of here.

  695. Anonymous says:

    ‘Me being involved in “arrangements” doesn’t change the veracity of my claims.’

    how about U change that to *YOU NOT* being involved in any arrangements in any way shape or form besides trolling the blog makes the veracity of ur claims meaningless? bwahahaha

  696. FunDude says:

    @Anonymous

    Considering you won’t post any of your information, I can only infer your sex.

    Your speaking patterns uses typical illogical comments and shaming language, which is common among bitter women.

    For your information, my account is inactive because I don’t feel like paying for it at the moment. I got onto the website to see how it would go after breaking up with my ex girlfriend.

    Right now, I have no real need for this website.

    I just enjoy the discussion of the sexual market place and the economics of this market.

  697. Denise says:

    Wow why did a SD just contact me and kept referring to improving his “semen” production. I was thinking umm and why is that so important? He’s like so I can shoot…. I said umm no that’s not happening. Then I thought wait a minute this guy isn’t submissive he sounds like a “breeder”. So I asked him and he was like yes wouldn’t you like to breed with me? I’m thinking what the hell?

    I tried to be polite but I lost it in that message back to him. I mean psycho joins a SD site trying to get SBs pregnant? Epic Fail!

    He then tried the ” well I’ll use a condom if I must” and just fantasize. Riight because “breeders” don’t poke holes in condoms right? Get out of here with that! Ewww.

    He also have HSV2 – I thought hmm he’s a sub so I’m not going to be intimate with him that way. Kink would be fun with toys and the like. Why do I keep getting guys messaging me with HSV2? It’s the second guy or wait maybe this is the same guy with multiple accounts. I need to check my inbox because …nevermind it’s the same guy approaching me for kink instead of vanilla dating.

    That’s pretty damn persistent of him. No tends to be No the first, second and last time.

  698. Anonymous says:

    fundude,

    who said i am a she?

    blah blah blah, if u r so hot that u can date 23 yr old for free then why are u even on this blog or site? the veracity of that claim is obviously #FALSE! SNAP

    who wants to listen to a troll who cannot even make up a fantasy of being a fake sugar daddy? what a joke!

  699. Mindy says:

    @flyR – Answer 1 – Two general packages
    You need a mentor who wants you to benefit from the relationship, resonates with your personality and whom you respect and who respects you…..
    The more specific depend on your needs, likes, dislikes etc.
    Good key is how they treat other people , especially the much less powerful

    Thanks for your thoughtful response. It seems like I have found a good mentor for me. :-)
    And I thought being inexperienced would be a turn off…

  700. FunDude says:

    @Anonymous

    Just stating the facts of the economic market place.

    Your ad hom attacks prove your own insecurity on the issue.

    Me being involved in “arrangements” doesn’t change the veracity of my claims.

    Furthermore, I have no need to get into them due to being able to date a 23 y/o blonde chick that is quite attractive already.

    Why would I pay for an arrangement unless the quality of the females were higher than her?

    That is who YOU are competing against!

  701. Anonymous says:

    @Anonymous

    Who are you?

  702. Anonymous says:

    Oh golly gee what would any of us do, or for that matter what would seekingarrangements do without fundude and Josh telling us all how arrangements work? It must be so if fundude says so since he has had so many arrangements, bwahahaha! How did the site survive before they started posting on blog? #losers

  703. FunDude says:

    @Josh

    Women need to realize that the sugar “daddies” in their 20s and 30s will be mostly:

    1) Probably a fraud due to inability to achieve significant wealth at such low ages. FAKE IT until you MAKE IT. Isn’t that the line?

    2) Very high expectations for women. Most REAL successful men in these are groups will expect a younger, hotter female than they could NORMALLY achieve using a significant amount of effort. Considering these guys are able to attract high level women already, you need to be REALLY attractive to compete for this segment and expect money.

    3) Will be extremely dorky/socially awkward/obese/married etc. There will have to be some catch for them to pay for a female in that age group UNLESS its for a very high level female.

  704. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @SouthernSB
    True, if my guy asked me to look with him, that would be a different story indeed.

  705. SouthernSB says:

    My hubby use to look at nudes when we were married, sometimes we would look at nudes together. And sometimes we would look at porn together. He hated the idea of threesomes and girl on girl action though. I’m on team Bill though, he’s just the fiance’ so I really don’t know what the hell Nia is complaining about it’s not like he’s looking at nudes of his ex-girlfriends or something. It’s just Playboy for crying out loud.

  706. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Josh
    “Question: Who likes Nia and Who Does Not?”
    LOL. “She takes the ball and goes home with it.” LOL
    Apparently leaving him without. LMAO. Funny podcast. Undecided about her. I see her point on this episode, but also see his – he was “innocent” on what he started out doing. LOL I’m just not sure I would like my guy watching porn while I was right there beside him in bed.

    Maybe the question is Josh, what is YOUR take on this one? :)

  707. Josh says:

    Question: Who likes Nia and Who Does Not?

    [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMp4OvDgwrE]

  708. Promise says:

    @Josh Videos like the topless one you posted are the things that make me feel like sometimes we look for things to complain about.

  709. Josh says:

    Why Shouldn’t Men Be in Relationships [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5MJ_WYzsOM]

  710. Josh says:

    @Goddess

    Women are not necessarily looking to be SBs. What they yearn for is rich boyfriend. WHY? Being an SB is W U R K. Being a girlfriend of a rich man is childhood dream come true.

    Blame SA for what is going on with SBs as far as blurring the lines betwee sugar and regular dating. SA never uses stock photos of women in their 40s or 50s or even late 30s. I does occasionally use photos of women in high 20s and early 30s. But the bulk of the photos are for girls in their low 20s.

    However, SA continues to use stock photos of handsome men in their 20s and 30s. This creates illusion in princesses’ minds that if they put up with few older “creeps”, then their 20ish or 30ish Princes Charming is eventually going to come along. This creates wild, crap shoot demands off of the “creeps”, just in case the creep is desperate enough to shell out cash for the “privilege” of being with a hot body.

    The sugar space is primarily for younger women who need financial assistance and older men who have the means to comfortably provide financial assistance to those younger women. SA is fucking it up big time.

  711. Denise says:

    I did receive a message from a SD offering 5k per month and wanted unprotected sex. I politely declined.

    ____________________________________________________________________________________

    @Jamie

    That older man (not a SD) is playing a manipulation game with you. He knew if he started out with the ” everyone is using me for my money” sob story that you’d swallow your financial agreement discussion and just wait for the right time. In the meantime he pushes for what he wants but doesn’t actually provide your end of the arrangement.

    I’ve talked with those types before and tend to cut them off before I get their song and dance.

    One guy even tried saying that he wants someone that really enjoys sex (ie the sex he wants to have) instead of how he states women are… sleeping for financial benefit.He tried the well we need to see if we have “chemistry”. That tends to be the I want to have sex for awhile before I decided on the allowance part. Yeaaah right. I wished him luck on his journey. He responded with “lol”. When I see that laugh I know that whatever con game they were running didn’t work and they’re laughing because I figured them out.

    The girlfriend/ marriage thing that he sprung on you is yet another ploy. Drop the term girlfriend and she’ll sleep with you whenever you want. Keep looking for a new SD but this one has got to go. He’s way too needy, clingy, manipulative and just plain exhausting.

  712. Josh says:

    BB is extremely risky in today’s mating scene. Penetration is just one of the many things enjoyed during sex.

    The incremental, linear pleasure gain of BB is not worth the exponential STD risk.

  713. Josh says:

    @cuddlecute

    I didn’t say they are not looking for pussy. A big majority of them are. I said that they are not looking for relationship.

  714. Denise says:

    PI Wolf says:
    May 7, 2015 at 3:58 pm
    I am going to have multiple SBs/Mistresses/Lovers of the female kind. Some will be exclusive, some non-exclusive. When I mean exclusive, I mean – I am her only sex partner … no others. The difference between the two is simple – MONEY and TIME.

    At US$5K or more a month, she is exclusive to me – but not vice versa. I will be upfront, on this. And when she is exclusive, I also want the following: BB and BC. Bareback and Birth Control (pills, IUD). Take it or Leave it.

    ____________________________________________________________________

    That really doesn’t work. The minute one person steps out and something slips everyone in that circle is going to get whatever that one person caught. This is how most STIs get spread in the first place. Condoms will always be the way to go. Also if someone is cheating on their spouse their level of honesty is less likely to be believed. Many of the married men here still sleep with their wives. In the event she decides to cheat on him? Well the sugar baby is then put at risk. Too much risk there to even play unprotected hope games.

  715. cuddlecute says:

    Josh, appreciate your comment but am confused men in my age group are not looking for woman? who’re they looking for? you say looking for a guy your own age? are you gay or bisexual? Yes I could put SM and get all sorts of young inexperienced men or woman.
    My age, and body and experience can put many woman look bad. I don’t won’t a relationship, clearly states do not need 24/7, self-sufficient . NO Match and Others do not fit. What is it you are looking for? If SD I know someone seeking male friend or bi with interest in 3 some

  716. Goddess says:

    LOL @Josh, that was an epic video, me likey. Honestly this whole sugar thing sounds worth every penny earned if you have to be a mental ninja to get the guy to fork over the cash. Considering this site is based on a “SUGAR DADDY” relationship. That’s the premise, not romance or monogamy but sugar soooo…yea. I was hoping to meet someone nice I liked who would be willing to mentor but I think I have enough support and research to go for t at this point sans disposable $$$. I was seeking something pretty specific so my odds were slimmer from the get go.

  717. flyR says:

    @ Jessie

    It is not just here. It’s late , party is over and you invite someone you met an hour ago to go home with you because you fantasize that you could have a great relationship with him. It also works the other way man invites women to great event thinking post event sex is a given and he goes home feeling used.

    In sugar an pre sex understanding is important unless it is someone whom you would sleep with for the pleasure of sleeping with them. This stuff is not rocket science.

    In the business world it’s amazing how many people join small companies with the implied assurance that they will become an equity owner but who 20 years later are still waiting for the ownership interest.

  718. Josh says:

    @jessie1214

    “If I wanted a relationship, I would be on match or christian mingle looking for a guy who is my own age.”

    But haven’t you heard that men in your age group are not interested in relationships with women?

  719. Josh says:

    The reporter is crazy [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sY4BWaXbt70]

  720. Pseudonym says:

    @Promise no that’s not me

  721. UncommonSB says:

    @Peeps

    “IF YOU SLEEP WITH A MAN BEFORE AN ARRANGEMENT IS IN PLACE YOU ARE AN IDIOT. SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE HERE. I have been an idiot and I learned. Again let me repeat that. If you want an arrangement THE ONLY TIME YOU CAN DISCUSS IT AND NEGOTIATE IT IS BEFORE SEXUAL CONTACT. If a man balks and says “I hate feeling used, etc…” your answer is “you don’t have to feel used…you can find women your own age who will want to date you without asking for an allowance.”

    LOL. So true.

  722. jessie1214 says:

    he will be kicked to the curb

  723. jessie1214 says:

    @peeps
    Yeah, I guess you are right. He should know the main purpose of the site before he gets on it. Then the things he did just make him a creeper. How can anyone get on a site like this and expect so many things on the second date with very little/nothing to offer the one with nothing in return. Epically with him being so much older. If I wanted a relationship, I would be on match or christian mingle looking for a guy who is my own age.

  724. Goddess says:

    By the way, the open minded site looks cool. Would be great if I could have found a cuckie but a good cuck is hard to find, LOL. I heard the owner of SA went to MIT. I only did their edx classes on entrepreneurship. Wanted to do the bootcamp this summer but my businesses will be in full launch by then and I won’t have time for anything else.

  725. Goddess says:

    Oh by the way, this is DominantSB, I’m not trying to stealth you guys. Taking a break from work. :) Work is life right now as I’m prepping for a major promo event later this month.

  726. StruggleIsReal says:

    @HoToTrot
    Your perspective is appreciated here, by me anyways, and I am sure others. I am going to be honest though… insult tirades do not help one to gain respect of others. Just sayin’. I am sorry if I offended you. I was just having some light hearted laughs on the blog.

  727. Goddess says:

    I’m way too busy in life to even consider such a thing but kudos to the girls who can handle it. I think you’d have to have not much responsibility to manage it. But wow, you must LOVE being the baby for sure. Being a baby by definition works for some but not all.

  728. peeps says:

    @jamie
    There are great SDs on this site just as there are opportunists. This dude is an opportunist. He’s manipulated you obviously. Use google voice and gmail so you can easily block numbers.

    This
    “We met again and he started commenting on how everyone on the site just uses him for money and on and on about how he does not feel comfortable with giving a woman xxxx dollars per month.”
    When a man tells you that, you should say:
    – “I am sorry to hear that. That’s why match.com and okcupid exist: so you can find women in your age group to date without having to discuss money at all:)))(flash him a warm smile at this point). This site is very direct and clear and if you don’t like the idea of an arrangement, you can easily go back to the regular dating world and women your own age”. Nothing makes a man on this website run faster than the idea of “dating” and “dating” a woman their own age.

    IF YOU SLEEP WITH A MAN BEFORE AN ARRANGEMENT IS IN PLACE YOU ARE AN IDIOT. SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE HERE. I have been an idiot and I learned. Again let me repeat that. If you want an arrangement THE ONLY TIME YOU CAN DISCUSS IT AND NEGOTIATE IT IS BEFORE SEXUAL CONTACT. If a man balks and says “I hate feeling used, etc…” your answer is “you don’t have to feel used…you can find women your own age who will want to date you without asking for an allowance”. That will shut him up pretty fast. (I am assuming there is a 20+ age difference at play here).

    Girlfriend this dude is using you. DROP HIM. BLOCK HIM. THE END.

  729. StruggleIsReal says:

    Holy smokes. What a day on the blog!

    I am back to kiss all your asses. Bend over! :)

  730. Promise says:

    @Josh Princess Culture

  731. KennaKenna says:

    @Georgia we haven’t decided yet… I spent the whole day in bed… With him… Doing all kinds of fun stuff lol… We were supposed to go to dinner with another couple, but I’m too exhausted… He called to tell them, the female who has a twin and babysitter decided to come over and her man/my man are going for a night on the town….

    We think it was their plan all along, perhaps that’s the reason he got me so exhausted today lol.

  732. flyR says:

    Peaches – actually yours if a fantastic Idea in that the implosion would leave an opportunity to start with a fresh slate and 100% rather than 50% .

    I’m an equal opportunity imbiber good wine, good tequila , rum as the sun drops below the yardarm

  733. Josh says:

    @GeorgiaPeach12

    “Hey, this is an easy one, Sir. I’d call Josh and ask if he wants a job running SA. He could run the place and I’ll just hang around if he needs me for anything. LMAO”

    As we speak, @flyR is tossing and turning within the mobile grave of her body. Hahahahaha!!!

  734. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @FlyR
    Sorry, but you walked right into that one, Sir.
    Any particular variety of drink Sir? Scotch, bourbon, with a twist or on the rocks? I’m a tequila gal myself – straight with the salt and lemon.

  735. flyR says:

    Peaches – I need a drink a large one

  736. flyR says:

    Jamie

    Edit the following list

    Jamie wants

    fun time , not just hauled off to hotel but hotel after fun

    man who is not overtly needy

    man who will provide the promised allowance or other consideration without prodding

    non clingy

    good to great sex

    wants me to succeed

    likes me

    will make sure that I benefit from the relationship in several ways

    Now assign your SB a grade for each after editing

    Revise the checklist again

    post it near your mirror for future reference

    use it to critique your profile are you marketing to the target market.

  737. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    flyR
    On the way to the airport he left a note that you are to be offered half of the company, a $1 mil salary and all of the fringe benefits associated with SA to plot its course for the next 10 years……….. What would you do?

    Hey, this is an easy one, Sir. I’d call Josh and ask if he wants a job running SA. He could run the place and I’ll just hang around if he needs me for anything. LMAO

  738. Josh says:

    MGTOW even have a music channel now. LOL!!!

    [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC85tEwBiqGUppwZUiXGmVMg]

  739. jamie says:

    Ok, need help with this one.
    So last month, I had a fling with a sd. We met for coffee and that went well. We met a second time and he was a little annoying but I figured that he was just nervous. We met after and hooked up not really dissusing the terms of our arrangement which I know was a giant mistake and I needed intimidate assistance with some bills which he helped me with.
    We met again and he started commenting on how everyone on the site just uses him for money and on and on about how he does not feel comfortable with giving a woman xxxx dollars per month. Right then, I felt like it was a bad time to bring up finances so I did not bring it up. I had already agreed to spend a night with him at a hotel and felt obligated to because I told him I would. At the hotel he started mentioning that that hotel (which was the more expensive version of a cheap hotel) would be a good place to get married one day. At this point….. I stopped him in his tracks and told him that I am NEVER getting married. He tried to wake me up when I was trying to sleep too by asking me if I had a condom. Which was a no no! I went home the next day exhausted from him trying to wake me up at night and called in sick to work the next day.
    Well the other day he called me and asked me if we could hang out after trying to contact me several times. I told him I wanted to meet him and was going to explain to him that I just don’t wish to do this sort of thing with him anymore.
    He started clinging to me like I was his girlfriend and I felt bad for him and I thought I would screw him one last time before letting him down. Then I asked him for some financial assistance which I felt like I deserved for putting up with his drama and he gave me the most minimal amount that he could. He then went on with a sob story about how he never had a girlfriend and by this time I felt so bad that I didn’t have the let down talk with him and felt kind of bad. The sex isn’t that good and I feel like hes either a broke/cheap pervert or somewhat mentally retarded. Its now very apparent that he cant or wont provide the assistance that I need and I just want to slap him thinking about it.
    So, Do I let him down gently? Or do I just avoid contact by all means? Either way, he has to go! please help.

  740. flyR says:

    @Mindy “But what’s your view on the right combination of characteristics in a mentor?”

    Answer 1 – Two general packages
    You need a mentor who wants you to benefit from the relationship, resonates with your personality and whom you respect and who respects you…..

    The more specific depend on your needs, likes, dislikes etc.

    Good key is how they treat other people , especially the much less powerful

  741. Josh says:

    Well, I should’ve said to post as Anonymous because you don’t “log in” as Anonymous. You show up as Anonymous when you don’t put name and email in the respective boxes.

  742. Josh says:

    I think that all of us should log in as Anonymous until they remove this Anonymous nonsense.

  743. Josh says:

    @Promise

    Which video?

  744. Promise says:

    @Josh I watched more videos from the publisher of the video that you linked yesterday. He ain’t bad.

  745. flyR says:

    How about this for the next blog question……………………….

    Suppose Brandon was suddenly captured by the elusive, perfect SB and carted off to a remote desert island. She’s erected a Faraday cage around the island so there will be no communications.

    On the way to the airport he left a note that you are to be offered half of the company, a $1 mil salary and all of the fringe benefits associated with SA to plot its course for the next 10 years……….. What would you do?

  746. Catcher 22 says:

    @GeorgiaP: Yes, I agree good doctor @FunDude seems to have toned down recently, no doubt due
    to the calming effect of his new young SB. However I have little doubt he will eventually return to his former self, The Chief Nabob of the blog’s Nattering Nabobs of Negativism.

  747. MaddieBlue says:

    I think SA markets this mindset to the SB. My first inquiry on this blog was whether or not I should have more than one SD. Thankfully I did ask, but I don’t have a desire to be with anyone other than my SD. Wait, we are looking for a woman to play with, but that’s different. Personally I think people waste a lot of time, energy and emotion on what (or rather who) their SO is doing. If someone has the desire and intention to go outside of the relationship they will. Period. As long as I don’t get burned (literally) it’s whatever. You either accept it or you don’t. I have some peculiar sexual desires so I seek men that are compatible with that. Lucky for me, SD fulfills all of those and more so I am more than satisfied with just him.

  748. KeKe says:

    KeKe
    @FLyR
    I think the whole article probably only applies to a limited segment of the SB population .

    I hope so.

    @Kenna…You missed nothing of importance :-)

  749. Promise says:

    *Anything wrong

  750. Promise says:

    @Kenna I didn’t even do anything.
    @Anonymous Lainey?

  751. Anonymous says:

    Guess who?

  752. Josh says:

    It does not surprise me that posts after thousands of posts Madamme @flyR continues to put men down any which way she can.

  753. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @KennaKenna
    Hi Mom! Decided yet which side of the coast baby will be born? Bless your heart, you have such decisions. Hope you’re getting plenty of rest. :)

  754. KennaKenna says:

    I missed all that drama?!?!?!? Woah!!!

  755. GeorgiaPeach12 says:

    @Catcher22
    Adore? Really? I could be his Momma, if not possibly his grandma if the circumstances were right. LMAO. Really? At first I thought he was just full of himself, but he’s calmed down, not nearly so negative and seems to have found his honey pie. He’s ok, but I certainly wouldn’t say I “adore” him. I will say a female would have to be crazy not to drool over his gravi, yes, even at MY age. And you have to remember the other one in that particular conversation – talk about “negative.” LOL

  756. Catcher 22 says:

    @GeorgiaP: “Negativity belongs elsewhere.”. Really? This statement
    from a lady who seems to simply adore @FunDude, the source of constant negativity
    of the highest order!!

  757. Anonymous says:

    @Flyr
    “Mindy – think of the blog as a busload of backseat drivers , riding with you because they crashed their Yugos”

    That’s the funniest thing you have said on here.
    :)

  758. Catcher 22 says:

    Hey, @A Latin Opinion and @RussianSB. Where ARE you? We miss you.

  759. PI Wolf says:

    @flyR,

    Near Exclusivity can be leased on a semi long term period (at least 12 months). And the selection process is of the utmost vital importance. Start with a very good one, and add only if conditions are right. Who knows, if #1 keeps me very satisfied, I might be too lazy to look for #2,#3,#4. LOL.

    @Keke,

    Good that you are in an exclusive relationship.

    @Anonymous,
    It is PI (as in Papa India) not L(ima). It was just some thoughts on whether I want long term SB/Mistresses or stay A LA CARTE. :-)

    Have to take care of business first.

  760. Mindy says:

    @flyR

    Thanks for your thoughtful response :)
    “I have known a number of women, especially those who did not date a lot in high school and college who really benefitted from a mentor who was 15-30 years older. Very often women, especially those into science and art have a very difficult time interacting with their contemporary males in a serious relationship.”

    Your description of “protege women” is very on point. I’ve been very focused on school and career planning so I have limited dating experience. I’m happy that I have a mentor who is very patient to teach me new things. To me, one of the perks is that I feel very appreciated and have become more confident about myself (like an ego boost in some way lol)

    “The key is finding and keeping (you sound like you have found) the right combination of characteristics in a mentor.”
    I understand that every mentorship is different. But what’s your view on the right combination of characteristics in a mentor?

  761. Anonymous says:

    @PLW

    So all that was just a business plan to critique or you are launching your operation?

  762. flyR says:

    Mindy – think of the blog as a busload of backseat drivers , riding with you because they crashed their Yugos

  763. flyR says:

    KeKe

    I think the whole article probably only applies to a limited segment of the SB population .

  764. flyR says:

    @ mindy “I am just wondering if this kind of relationship should be taken by a different approach from the traditional type of sugar dating?”

    It sounds like you are in a great relationship, that while many SB are in need or on occasion desperate for financial help, that does not apply to you. Given that background my advice would be to maximize the mentoring and experiences. I have known a number of women, especially those who did not date a lot in high school and college who really benefitted from a mentor who was 15-30 years older. Very often women, especially those into science and art have a very difficult time interacting with their contemporary males in a serious relationship. The key is finding and keeping (you sound like you have found) the right combination of characteristics in a mentor.

  765. KeKe says:

    @PI.
    1. I didn’t think you were stupid.
    2. I do think it’s hard to monitor some one’s activity
    3. This article just totally threw me. I’m thinking if they felt the need to write this there must be a lot of SB who are double, triple, etc dipping in the sugar. That was not my idea of a sugar relationship. I viewed sugar babies as a modern day courtesan. Exclusive to one until the arrangement ends. But now….
    I’m exclusive and any extra curricular activities I engaged in would known and approved.

  766. flyR says:

    @PI Wolfe – I think it’s very improbable that you can “purchase ” exclusivity but you can certainly recruit for it or something close to it.

    The best form of protection is also in the selection process unless you are ready to borrow someones Ebola suit each time you get together with your SB

  767. flyR says:

    @ mindy “Regarding how I see my SD, I think that’s something I need to figure out when discussing with him about our expectation. Right now I try to position him as a mentor / friend with benefit. I am hesitant to say “older bf” because clearly there’s no future between us and I don’t want to overly invest my feelings in it.
    I am turning 22 in a few months. He is more than twice my age (mid-40s).”

    If you have student loans I would accept the allowance and put it there or simply to start investing.

    You seem to be thinking of BF as in prospective fiancee VS the high probability that if you do not marry, your taste in men will change over the next 6 years.

    Think of him as your mentor/sex toy if he measures up and don’t worry about the small stuff.

  768. PI Wolf says:

    It seems my short post about BB raised some responses, most of which boil down to these:

    1) I must be stupid, because I won’t know until I catch STD.
    2) I can’t monitor if she is playing around.
    3) Exclusive don’t mean Jack!

    The bottom line, from everyone’s opinion – The SBs cannot be trusted to keep their part of the bargain. Therefore BB should be off the table.

    I should just continue the P4P (Play for Pay) Transactional Arrangements, then, If I am to listen to everyone’s opinion here, both men and women.

    To the one who felt EEEWWW, regarding my post on BB. Why does it disgust you so? Haven’t you done it that way EVER? If I have a harem of 5 women, all exclusive to me, and they are all disease free – isn’t that arrangement safer than just picking up someone from the bar/club/etc.?

    I do know, that I can never monitor the mistress on her “Extracurricular Activities”. If she wants to, she will.

  769. Mindy says:

    @gentleman soul

    Thanks for your kind words. :)
    I thought about sugar vs no sugar before. No sugar seemed like leaving money on the table at first. But if it’s pleasant experience I’ve enjoyed as well, then the monetary sugar is not that necessary. Gifting would be more fun as I like to be surprised. :)

    Regarding how I see my SD, I think that’s something I need to figure out when discussing with him about our expectation. Right now I try to position him as a mentor / friend with benefit. I am hesitant to say “older bf” because clearly there’s no future between us and I don’t want to overly invest my feelings in it.
    I am turning 22 in a few months. He is more than twice my age (mid-40s).

  770. gentleman soul says:

    @Mindy

    “Therefore, monetary return is not my major motive when dating older successful men. :)”

    Mindy ,you are indeed special and unique and I applaud you for not being mercenary. You can expect some financial help -even if only to spoil yourself a little bit . Do you see your SD as –well -a Sugar Daddy ? Or do you see him as an older BF ? IF the latter then he is a lucky guy and hopefully will be a gift daddy for you . How many years separate you two ?

  771. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Mindy – @Gentleman has a point…what does you being “sort of well off” have to do with sugar? There are some on blog who come from money, if personas are to be believed, and it doesn’t stop them from GREAT sugar…

  772. Mindy says:

    @gentleman soul
    (1) I’m sort of well off;
    Hmmm -what does that mean ?

    Ohh sorry I just realized that sentence may come off weird. I was trying to say that I’m very lucky for not needing extra financial help. Therefore, monetary return is not my major motive when dating older successful men. :)

  773. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @gentleman – that’s funny…at our first coffee meet, she answered, “what do you want to be?” With “a mom”… I think she saw my jaw hit the floor and clarified…10-15 years from now…

  774. gentleman soul says:

    @OnlineNewbieSD
    @ATL – Yeah, yesterday she was bitching about her freshman 8 pound gain…she was mad she had to wear a size 2 jean…\

    As long as it isn’t the Sugar dream 8 # baby boy !

    @Mindy

    (1) I’m sort of well off;

    Hmmm -what does that mean ?

  775. Mindy says:

    Appreciate the thoughtful responses. :-)
    Sorry I should have clarified it earlier but it’s not platonic. We met via SA. I was pretty much in @Promise’s shoes as I was very sexually inexperienced (I think @Promise should definitely get her hopes up :D). However, I find myself very comfortable being with him and think it’s rewarding to be slowly introduced to some new experience.
    The reason I’m okay with no sugar is that (1) I’m sort of well off; (2) I’ve always been attracted to older men.

    And yes I agree I definitely should discuss with him about the expectations. I just want to have the right approach so I don’t ruin it.

  776. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @GP – remember…if someone posts without any responses or reactions, they may just get the hint 😉

  777. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @ATL – Yeah, yesterday she was bitching about her freshman 8 pound gain…she was mad she had to wear a size 2 jean…

  778. OnlineNewbieSD says:

    @Mindy – Sometimes the mentorship can be more valuable than the cash!

    I’ve never had a no sex no sugar arrangement, but have had the GB style arrangement (no allowance, just paying for our entertainment when we were together) that included mentorship and sex…I was more willing to take time to get to sex because she was fun to be with and really wanted to make better decisions in her life (like should she double major, dual degree, which should be major or minor)…but…you SHOULD have the conversation about expectations, even if it goes like “I really like what’s happening now, I just think we should clarify things a bit”

  779. gentleman soul says:

    @ Mindy
    Newbie SB here :)
    Has any SD/SB been involved in this kind of arrangement (no $ugar involved) before? What do you think?

    Mindy.it is anything you want it to be. A no sex /no allowance arrangement is rare indeed . What do you want out of this-just friendship ? And what is “a bit of intimacy ?” Even if there is a big age gap you should have an adult convo about what you both need . Address your questions -such as communications ,money needs, sex expectations with him . He should tell you his thoughts.

    Then report everything you learn back to this group and we will all get you straight .

  780. Mindy says:

    @flyR some IRL mentor + fun relationships can be converted to include sugar but it’s usually a very different process than starting as sugar.

    Thanks for your response. I’m not really looking for monetary sugar in this arrangement. I’m a student but need no financial sponsorship.
    I am just wondering if this kind of relationship should be taken by a different approach from the traditional type of sugar dating?

  781. flyR says:

    @ Mindy – some IRL mentor + fun relationships can be converted to include sugar but it’s usually a very different process than starting as sugar.

  782. Melissa says:

    @KeKe
    Lol! I was thinking the same thing

  783. SouthernSB says:

    Josh says:
    May 8, 2015 at 9:01 am

    Now I like this princess for sure. She actually wants to see a castle in real life…for what? to be kidnapped and imprisoned into? ROTFLMAO

    “Hello! I’m new to this site and looking to be treated like a princess…I’ve always wanted to see a castle in real life!”

    Well done Brandon, well done…the SA marketing is working wonders.

    @Josh-Silly, she’s saying that she wants to go to England or Germany. I went to a castle once when I was 15. It was fantastic. I learned that castles are cold, Germans drink way too much beer and that Peach Melbas are my favorite dessert.

  784. SouthernSB says:

    Anonymous says:
    May 8, 2015 at 8:55 am

    I’ve got to laugh. Another cooking profile!

    These girls don’t cook. Cooking takes time. Time reduces turnover. Low turnover equates to low profit.

    No, no. If these girls are going to generate their 15K/mo, cooking is out.

    Of course it paints a sweet fantasy to have cooking in all the profiles. They’re all just small town girls, with all the right interests.

    I have no interest in cooking at all. If cooking is going to get me 15K a month show me to the stove and I’ll whip up some crepes.

  785. Promise says:

    @KeKe Amen to that sister!

  786. THEATLSD says:

    @ONSD I like email only, hard to convince young SB’s since they are so connected to texting. I also try to use Skype for texting. I tried Whatsapp but could not figure out how to clear off my info when I was done using it. The Skype ‘sign in” can be totally wiped and look like nobody has signed in. I have the sharing issue at home, everybody is always grabbing and using my phone or playing games. So I have to be super diligent on signing out and wiping info.
    Also, sounds like we need to clone your SB. Damn that girl gets it.

  787. KeKe says:

    She’s trying to get a rise out of you

    @Melissa… True but she’s not. Lol

    Because “Wise man once told me never argue with fools, because people from a distance can’t tell who’s who”…..
    … since we are quoting. :-)

    … I’m just enjoying the blog. I don’t let people who have no priority in my life upset me. She doesn’t know me. I don’t know her… So I could care less what she or anyone else writes about me. It doesn’t make it true.

  788. DarkHorseSD says:

    This blog article explains so much about what SA really is (mainstream SA, not the fringe as represented by blog characters)

  789. Melissa says:

    @KeKe
    Please stop responding. She’s trying to get a rise out of you…just ignore

  790. Mindy says:

    Hi all!
    Newbie SB here :)

    I have been reading the blog discussions for a while for tips and would want to ask you guys – what are the signs of SBs being desperate? How to differentiate being proactive from being desperate? Why is it so bad to be desperate?

    I recently entered an arrangement. No transactions involved. It’s purely mentorship and companionship which I find it to be very rewarding. We got a bit of intimacy and I am very attracted to him. However. I am confused about the dynamic as I don’t really know how to approach it. Sometimes I don’t know if I can text him or ask to meet because I don’t want to be seen as desperate.
    Has any SD/SB been involved in this kind of arrangement (no $ugar involved) before? What do you think?

  791. hototrot says:

    I went on a date on the What’s Your Price site. He was a diplomat visiting from Rome. I know that sounds far fetched. I pinch myself thinking about him. He was yummy. He’s the ideal from me. I haven’t talked to anyone on this site whose matched him. He