Now, Gary, we can do this the hard way, or the easy way … or the medium way, or the semi-medium-easy-hard way, or the sorta-hard with a touch of awkward-easy-difficulty-challenging way …
— SpongeBob SquarePants
Living life as a Sugar Baby isn’t usually difficult: Be wined and dined, engage in lively conversation and fun adventures—maybe even go on a trip with your Sugar Daddy. But for Sugar dating to truly live up to its name, sooner or later it will be time to discuss an allowance. Getting this subject addressed and out of the way will help keep the Baby happy and thinking of her generous Daddy even when he’s not there.
Below are six important things to keep in mind when deciding what a Sugar Baby’s allowance should be.
Remember, arriving at the amount and frequency of a Baby’s allowance is the goal of this conversation, the result of hashing out the “how” and “why” before you get to the “when” and the “how much.” Leave this for the end, after all of the other details have been determined.
There are as many flavors of Sugar as there are Babies and Daddies to taste them. Some involve an allowance right from the start, which represents the commitment each person will have in the arrangement. An adequate allowance will make it practical for a Sugar Baby to open up her schedule to accommodate when her hard-working Daddy is available. This makes the allowance discussion urgent.
Other arrangements are more tentative about finances at the beginning, meaning that dinners, shows, trips, etc. are enjoyed by both as Daddy picks up the tab and Baby gives him an attractive companion for these dates. It may be that when both parties have decided that they want to move to the next level of Sugar, then it’s time to talk about an allowance. This allows for a more casual conversation about this kind of money issue.
Still other arrangements never involve an allowance at all. Even if both parties agree on this implicitly, it may be a good idea on a first date for one or both of them to state outright that this is not the kind of setup they’re looking for. (Remember: Many Sugar Babies are women in good professions who are looking more for exotic and high-end fun than for an additional income stream.)
When I say “her needs,” I don’t necessarily mean things like food and shelter (although oftentimes a “kept” Baby is a happy Baby). I mean the small—or large—elements that make a woman feel pampered and cared for. Maybe designer outfits and handbags are what she has her eye on, or a fancy car to drive around and be seen in. Once these needs or wants are met, the question now is: Does she need actual cash to live the Sugar lifestyle she desires? This is where you should start thinking about “how much,” and discuss it openly.
The Baby’s side of the Sugar equation is only one part, of course. The other side is: What kind of resources does the Daddy have to spend on her?
Believe it or not, not every actual or prospective Sugar Daddy is a millionaire. What matters is not the precise net worth of a Daddy, but how much liquidity he has with which to shower his Baby in gifts and money. A truck driver making $75,000 per year but who doesn’t have a family to support or lots of bills to pay may have more to offer his attractive companion than a technical millionaire whose fortune is tied up in an expensive house and paying his children’s college tuition.
Once she has determined what she wants and he has agreed on what he is willing to give, then it is time to negotiate the dollar amount of an allowance the Sugar Baby will receive … if any.
Some measures put the ratio of Sugar Babies to Sugar Daddies at 8 to 1. That’s a lot of demand for Daddies when there is a limited supply. It may be best for Babies to accept what is offered and enjoy that before demanding, or even suggesting, a regular amount of cash. Once both parties are happy and confident, your Sugar arrangement may be ready for this discussion.
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