There are as many kinds of Sugar arrangements as there are couples in the lifestyle. With 4 million members (and growing) on SeekingArrangement, that’s a lot of different dating scenarios! Some Sugar Daddies are married, some are single. Some Sugar Babies are looking for companionship and acceptance as much as any financial largesse, and others just want someone to take care of their bills in exchange for intimacy and friendship.
Much like actual babies, come to think of it.
Thus, there are Sugar dating situations in which it’s perfectly normal for a Sugar Daddy to bring his Baby home to meet his family. There’s no particular age one must be in order to be considered a Sugar Daddy, since it’s generosity and resources that matter. So it’s entirely possible that a relatively young Daddy could bring his special Sugar someone home to meet his parents and other family members who want to be introduced to his new companion.
Even if the Sugar Daddy is of more traditional age, meeting his children and other important people in his life may be something the Sugar Baby is expected to do. Close-minded people may not approve of or even understand their arrangement, but if the Daddy wants to bring his Baby to meet the fam, the Baby can probably expect them to be well-disposed toward her.
That said, what can a Sugar Baby, the special woman who fills a real role in a Daddy’s life, do to make sure that the meet-and-greet is a happy one? For our purposes, let’s say that the family is having a home-cooked meal to welcome the Sugar Baby. Here are three suggestions for what a young lady can do at this kind of gathering to make a good impression on the other important people in her Daddy’s life.
As an average man gets older (but not rich), he does not become unattractive to attractive young women. He becomes invisible. While a Sugar Daddy has wealth and probably influence to boot, his father or even grandfather might not have been as lucky (or perhaps hard-working and educated). So young ladies pay them no mind, and they certainly don’t act flirty with them.
“Can I get a Big Mac … and, if it’s not too forward, your mailing address?”
Although this does make sense (we all seek out people who we consider relevant to our own goals and lives, not to mention worth procreating with), it can leave an old guy feeling sad and neglected.
Enter the Sugar Baby! You need to find where Gramps is and start giving him nice (but not overly fawning) attention. Talk to him and try to make him laugh. Touch him on the shoulder or the knee. Make him feel like a million bucks. But most importantly: make sure the family sees you doing it. Everyone will love you for it.
At most family dinners to meet a new belle—that’s you, and you’re legit no matter how you and your gentleman met—a nice meal is prepared, perhaps by the females of the house or by everybody lending a hand. So the last thing you want to do is refuse to eat anything (or take nibbles smaller than that of the average housefly) and tell the gathering that you care more about your figure than about your beau or his family.
On the other hand, you don’t want to stuff your face so full that your nice black dress looks like a maternity outfit. And you certainly want to avoid making the family (or your Daddy) think you belong in front of a trough. Is there a happy medium between starving/insulting and overeating/disgusting?
Some dishes stand no chance of making you overeat.
You bet there is. Sample a bit from each dish (if it’s a pass-around), and be sure you say something nice about how the dish looks or smells. (Vary your comments a bit in content and timing: exclaiming “What a wonderful [X]!” every time as a dish is passed to you will look rehearsed and suspicious.) Then, when you take a bite, even if it’s just one, make a nummy sound either to your Daddy, to the cook, or to the room in general. Your appreciation has been registered even if you don’t eat another bite. Everyone will love you for it.
Your Sugar Daddy could come from most any walk of life. He could have been raised in a wealthy home or he could be an entirely self-made man when it comes to finances. He could be a complete WASP (White Anglo-Saxon Protestant; think country clubs and Martha’s Vineyard) or his family could literally have gotten off the boat from Ethnic Albania when he was a baby. No matter what his family’s background or current living situation, you should hug every man, woman, and child at the get-together at some point during the evening.
Does that sound weird? It shouldn’t. Remember giving Grandpa a little attention, back up there in suggestion number 1? This is like a diluted version of that. A nice embrace of well-wishers when you walk in, finish a conversation, thank cooks and servers for the dinner, and when you’re leaving will do wonders for your first impression. The family will believe that your Sugar Daddy has found a keeper who makes him happy, because you made them feel happy.
And everyone will love you for it.
This is either three cats hugging or it’s two police cats boxing in a fugitive.
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