Intentions are only as good as their follow-through. If you attended last week’s L.A. Rouge party, your little black book is most likely brimming with the promise of a new arrangement. But make the biggest mistake in Sugar, and these will be useless slivers of ink on paper. What is this so called mistake, you ask? It’s laziness. A lack of initiative, if you will, not following up on all that potential
Whether it’s online or freelancing, an introduction is just a first step. You have to get up and meet to ever taste that Sugar. How can you effectively take things offline?
Potential members are vetted, but it’s hard to immediately detect hidden stupidity. There are those who seek to add bitterness to the Sugar bowl. Keep your standards high, even on a slow week. Whether it’s a serial photo collector or the girl who won’t leave the house for less than $500, it’s easy to spot those who are not there for the right reasons.
You’ve found the dream Sugar Daddy or Baby! Except they can’t fulfill one of your expectations such as allowance or availability. If they showed interest, that’s great, but you will need to make a compromise if you want to pursue this arrangement.
Now, if you are glad to make the compromise, then be clear in communicating that. I often hear women on the Sugar Baby blogs at a loss as to why a Sugar Daddy wouldn’twant to meet. If their terms don’t match up with yours, then why would they waste their time? That said, one should search for potential SDs and SBs who are compatible in every way possible to save yourself wasted time and effort.
We’re not in middle school anymore. Waiting for the other person to set a first meeting may only lead to a loss of interest. Once you hit it off, suggest the next date and time to meet. It shows sincerity and brings you closer to the reward of a sweet arrangement.
One day, your meeting runs late. On another day, your car breaks down. If you act flakier than a toasted croissant, then you’d best believe you will lose out on opportunities. Pick dates and times that you are 100 percent certain you will be free. Plan ahead to avoid potential stumbling blocks. There’s no way to avoid bad luck, but no one’s life is like a Lemony Snicket book.
This is mostly for Sugar Babies. Most Sugar Daddies or Mommas have busy schedules. Making the first meeting hyper-convenient is the key to getting a leg up on the competition. If he/she is free only for lunch or coffee, choose a location that is close to their work, but discreet enough to avoid familiar faces.
Special note: If you are looking into a not-quite-long-distance-but-still-a-drive arrangement, maximize your travel time and transportation costs. Plan a day around the trip, so that the meeting is not your one and only reason for going. Lots of things can happen in an hour, and if your POT has to cancel, it’s best not to regret a wasted trip.
Last but certainly not least of this advice to getting a kickstart on potentials is attitude! Your outlook on Sugaring will dictate your success. If you’re going to be lazy and complacent, you won’t get anywhere. But be a go-getter, and your life is about to get sweeter.
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