Ok, let’s be honest. Not all Sugar Babies in the Sugar Bowl are in search of a long-term partner. In fact, some still date “IRL” while maintaining an arrangement–not that there is anything wrong with double dipping in this instance. Some Sugar Daddies are perfectly comfortable sharing with a traditional boyfriend, but not everyone is.
To avoid a messy situation, every girl looking to double-dip needs to learn the art of juggling the both worlds. Before applying the rules below, ask yourself if you can handle two relationships. Each man in your life is a commitment, each coming with a set of rules and time you will need to commit to maintain a healthy relationship.
Your Sugar Daddy and IRL boyfriend should never meet each other. I would even go so far as to say they should never see what the other one looks like.
Men are just as insecure as women, just with larger egos. No one wants an insecure Sugar Daddy or a super jealous boyfriend waiting at home on the couch for them. Keep it simple, it’s in everyone’s best interest.
“My Sugar Daddy always buys me dinner” or “My boyfriend doesn’t need to date other women”
We’re dealing with apples and oranges here. You can’t judge a fish by it’s ability to climb a tree. If you do attempt to do so, you’ll find yourself face-to-face with an ultimatum from one of these Romeos.
Brutal honesty is essential to maintaining an arrangement. If you are seeing other men, you should be upfront about it.
In some rare cases, I’ve met Sugar Daddies who are more comfortable with their Babies having other Sugar Daddies than boyfriends of the same age. There is mutual respect among these men, while providing an even playing field. On the other hand, losing a good Sugar Baby to some kid that makes less than 50k a year, and will probably lead her to more trouble than good is, in a word, frustrating.
Claims that Sugar Babies are simply arm candy for older men is a gross oversimplification of the role. Women who partake in the lifestyle also double as confidants, sometimes even counselors. Honesty, trust, and discretion are the fundamentals of each relationship.
This brings me to the fourth point: Keep your mouth shut. Anything your Sugar Daddy tells you is to be kept between the two of you. If you choose to take on an IRL boyfriend while in an arrangement, from time-to-time you may share details about him to your SD, but never the other way around.
You can have the best of both worlds, but one will be always be paramount to the other. Choose which relationship matters most to you. However, be warned that you should avoid canceling one-time-too-many with a Sugar Daddy. If that is the case, maybe the lifestyle isn’t for you. No one likes a flake.
When it comes to these connections, it’s always best to approach Sugar like the conventional dating: If you’re going to be a player, don’t be surprised when you lose the game.
What do you think of mixing IRL and Sugar?
How have your experiences mixing the two been like? Were you successfully able to mix both world?
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