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Case of the Ex: You’ve Been Spotted

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It’s happened to the best of us. You’ve been off the market, deactivated or deleted your account. But alas, you find yourself joining the online dating world once again. Sure, you could pick an entirely different site, but what if one site really worked for you? It shouldn’t mean you have to avoid it altogether just because an ex-lover also happens to have an account there as well. Let’s discuss running into an ex inside and outside of the virtual world.

The Unwanted Inbox Message

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It didn’t take long, they found you, and want to know “How you’ve been.” C’mon, we all know that’s not the only thing striking their curiosity. They want to know what happened, why you are single, and if you want to have casual sex without adding another notch to your bedpost.

The beauty of the online message is that it can be ignored. If you really don’t want to address it, there’s no pressure. Avoid the drama by leaving it alone, and deleting it before even giving it a second thought.

The “Casual” Text

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You haven’t heard from them in ages. In fact, you’re not even sure if they are still alive, so when this little gem comes in, you have to ask, “Who is this?”

This is not as simple as the inbox situation where the message can simply be ignored. He has your phone number, and didn’t delete it for a reason.

Responding is okay, but if you are not interested, make it clear from the get-go. Do not bring up the fact that you are back in the dating scene, and do not call your ex out for seeing your dating profile. Keep it simple, and not overly friendly.

The Epic Phone Call

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Your ex was obviously excited to see your profile, and figured a text was too impersonal. Do you answer the call?

While ignoring it is an option, you might want to nip this one in the butt and answer the call. Similar to the text, set the record straight because you either want to see him or you don’t, there is no need to lead him on.

The Random “Run in”

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One word can be used to describe this encounter –awkward. The casual coffee run just turned into operation Get-Me-Out-of-Here, with the overly comfortable ex. Their face sports a huge smile, and the reason is obvious.

Don’t make the first move. If they want to say something, let them say it. If you are on a date, chances are they wouldn’t dare, but if you are with a friend, or unfortunately alone, they may just say something. Keep it cool, and if they want to “hang out” next week, but honest because it is now or never. Make sure it is clear that “next time” means not in a million years buddy.

The Positive Spin

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It’s not uncommon to keep your ex close if it was a mutual break up or you have a wide network of friends in common. Exes can help you in a time of need, assist you in finding a job, or even land you discounts in higher places.

Of course, not everyone is avoiding their ex like the plague, in fact, many people are on good terms with them. Yes, online profiles can help us reconnect with users we stopped talking to years ago. But usually, if there is a will, there is a way and you would have already been in contact.

Did an ex find your online profile, only to become overly persistent? Share your struggles and advice.

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628 Responses to “Case of the Ex: You’ve Been Spotted”

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  2. deedee says:

    Josh……. Go to Adult Friend Finders and get all your questions answered with the same ignorance your asking. Sorry, shit stirring must be your get down. That’s a bored Person. I do recall you put that word in one post. If I ever said that I was bored I was handed a broom and dust pan. Go to AFF dude. you might even get laid by a nice sweet heart of a bitch.

  3. deedee says:

    Steve yours was the last that I’ve read. I agree with you. It is about the chemistry. I felt like that when I was younger due to lack of experience and being comfortable with myself and sexuality. I have also had some of the best sex with a person on the first night. The sexual attraction and flirting was what made it so crazy insane and I was with that person on and off for a couple years. It is also rare to say that every time we were together it was better than before. It was not a financial arrangement by no means. It was the sex , compatibility and the communication and having boundaries. And we laughed a lot. You sound commendable. Wish I had been one of your SB.

  4. deedee says:

    I thought that this blog was about running into the ex and a response??? Good Shift there. It sounds like you have the best advice and as long as your ok with you and exude it from the inside, you should have absolutely no problems.
    Now, I would absolutely be so annoyed that my ex would even suggest anything remotely close to sounding like an invitation. Not after the deceit he was doing. I would be more concerned of who he was going to rob and use next. Very bad long term experience. Unfortunately I have let go of the hurt and everything about it. But as I read that I thought about my reaction. I wouldn’t be happy. it took a long time to accept that I had allowed a person so close and they took as much as they could. If I still sound mad its at myself for allowing it to go on as long as I did. No one has a right to make a person feel disposable. Its an ugly feeling. But, I allowed it live and learn to trust your instincts again and that was a big red flag

  5. Steve says:

    @blondie: I’m sorry but it’s patently absurd to imply that if sex occurs on the first date that the guy is a creep and not a legit SD. Sex on the first date has occurred every single time I’ve met a young lady, and I always tell her she should only consider intimacy *if she is genuinely attracted to me*. If she’s not, she should not consider taking my money either. I look for true relationships where I can care for my girl in every way. I date one at a time, I do not serial date. I not only provide for them financially, I help them by sharing experiences that are 10x more valuable,monetarily speaking, than the value of the direct and immediate financial support, and life experience that will help them be successful later in their lives. My SBs are beautiful and intelligent but young and inexperienced, and they are sacrificing real world job experience by being with me. I want to be sure when its time for it to end, they are not left without real world coping skills — I would be only hurting them by doing that. The level of financial support I ultimately provide is even more than you’ve suggested they ask for, but I’m not going to start them on a steady allowance until I know for sure the sexual chemistry is there with or without the money.

    I am not a creep, as you imply with your poorly aligned advice. I am still in great shape, attractive, and look 15 years younger than I am, and can date women in the 18-24 year old range without offering help directly. I use this site because I enjoy the separation of emotion and the freedom SD dating provides, and the lack of strings.

    I just hope the average young lady that reads this article is able to distinguish your opinion from fact.

    There is nothing wrong with sex on the first date if it feels right to both parties.

  6. blondie says:

    @AliceS: A proper Sugar Daddy would never ask for sex on the first meet. If that’s the case, why didn’t he use an escort? He’s a creep. You dodged a bullet there honey. Any of the Sugar Daddies I have had first meets with were very nice guys, and would never ask a lady to be intimate on the first date….. Always when doing a first meet, arrange to meet in the lobby of a nice mid range- upmarket hotel ( you’re setting the tone for your potential arrangement… so do not go to a Best Western Hotel !!) Also, there’s cameras everywhere !!! This is good, it makes you feel safe… so meet for coffee/ lunch…. dinner is a no- no as it can go on for hours, they want a drink after… so it takes up way too much time for a first meet. Any guy worth their salt will want to see if you are compatible…. and actually for men, ok yes the way we look is a big factor but they also want someone intelligent to have conversations with… companionship and chats, fun in addition to the bedroom part. So that’s what a first meet should be about. Seeing if you are like minded, if you like each other. Hang in there, there are some really genuinely nice guys on the site, you just gotta flush out the tyre kickers. Can I ask what you have down for your allowance? This is a good way to sort the time wasters from the cream of the crop. If you put down ‘negotiable’ then you get every fool messaging you, thinking he can pay you pretty much anything….. where as if you put down $1,000-$3000 per month they know before they even message you, what your financial expectations are and that you are serious. ( even if you only wanted 1k per month, this is still the best range to put yourself in~) I hope this latest rant help honey x

  7. Sugardoll says:

    KatPaw says:
    March 5, 2014 at 1:14 pm
    Meow! Hello sugarrrrrs! Took me forever to catch up lots of blah blah blah to go through.

    @alice oh hunny no first meets in hotel rooms!! That’s asking for disaster. First meet always something simple coffee lunch.. So you can feel eachother out.. Hey you want to jump their bone after go ahead.. But only if and when you want to.

    Yup, first met in a hotel room its a big NO NO!!!

  8. KatPaw says:

    Meow! Hello sugarrrrrs! Took me forever to catch up lots of blah blah blah to go through.

    @alice oh hunny no first meets in hotel rooms!! That’s asking for disaster. First meet always something simple coffee lunch.. So you can feel eachother out.. Hey you want to jump their bone after go ahead.. But only if and when you want to.

  9. SugarySpicey says:

    I do so miss the Russians! And SD LaLa, and if course, Tequila.

  10. aliceS says:

    DarkHorse he is an American, he fly to my town every two weeks in business. Normally he should contact me before his departure this Friday. I think if he liked me he would say something. Like thank you for the evening. Or you stupid bitch, why you didn’t slept with me. Anything O.o

  11. FatBastardSD says:

    Sorry to say but the blog was just as shit when it was saturated with the chronicles of PriceySpicey and the rambling essays of her SD posse who think that everything they post should be carved in stone to be studied by future generations.

    I liked when we had the Russian SB’s posted on the blog. Interpreting their posts was like solving a puzzle but you just knew there underlying tone of every post was about how to abuse the SA SD’s. Really sexy!

  12. DarkHorseSD says:

    Well Alice, just text him that you’d like to get to know him a little more and see him again soon.

    We have to think about whether he is sincere about fulfilling your desires. What clues do you have?

    Why did you go to his hotel room?

    It’s simple: have sex when you want to have sex.

  13. frank says:

    we went to his hotel room which was unexpected and there after 30 min he was ready to be intimate with me

    I would say that is probably normal.

  14. frank says:

    **in the way i think you are thinking, thats not a bitch thats a Slut.

    No, not what i meant. You can be a slut, you can be nasty, you can be a bitch. Or you can be any combination of them, but they are all different.

  15. aliceS says:

    Well he didn’t. He asked me a lot I did as well. But we spoked more like an old friends, and after one hour we went to his hotel room which was unexpected and there after 30 min he was ready to be intimate with me.

  16. flyR says:

    ” No allowance was discussed. And he didn’t texted me yet. Well, it’s been only an hour since I left him, but I think he hot mad bout that sex part ”

    Good decision, Sugar Rule 1

    Panties on until the sugar arrives (or you have an agreement which makes you confident it will) . It’s possible that some potential SD might want to do the right thing without talking about it, just leave you with something generous. However, there’s nothing wrong with no sex on the first meet but best to convey priior to meet.

  17. DarkHorseSD says:

    Alice, did he ask anything about your lifestyle, expenses, needs…?

  18. aliceS says:

    So I just had an unexpected date with SD, that should be here on Friday. OMG guys. My stomach hurt. I almost died from stress. And he was really nice and all, but he wanted to be intimate with me. Right away he tried to undress me. I told him I can’t do that on our first date. So I leaved him there. We had a great conversation, but since before he received my message you will do shat you like to do. No allowance was discussed. And he didn’t texted me yet. Well, it’s been only an hour since I left him, but I think he hot mad bout that sex part :(

  19. DarkHorseSD says:

    I’m going to H&M later if anyone needs anything.

  20. SugarySpicey says:

    Jj – I enjoy learning, and would enjoy learning as to when my purpose should be called into account. I do like to play with expressions, and I assume my meaning isn’t lost when I do – but sometimes it is. Again, I’d always like to know if my way of writing affects my ability to communicate truth.

    Thanks for seeing my motivation though, to protect those who need protecting – including myself as really on the inside in pretty soft and squishy and viulnerable.

  21. Jj says:

    @Sugary: You are a very talented writer and have a beautiful, if not colorful at times, method of expressing your views and escapades. I would not ask you to alter a thing, which allows for the reader to determine for themselves the color commentary along with the message delivered. I enjoy your comments and make up my own mind as to fact and expressionism. You are an advocate for women and have sound advise that can be evaluated and addressed, if necessary, in a civil manner. I do not hold such a talent and tend to be stiff, as to my business background, which is my burden to bare.

    On the other hand, there are some things being presented on the blog that just demand to be called into account for their purpose or agenda presented.

    Take what I present with a grain of salt, just a pinch between the lips and gums, for whatever it is worth. Just say’n

  22. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – when one arrives at a party, uninvited, without a bottle of wine, to find the party full of old friends. It is usually customary to be respectful of existing social morays and etiquette.

    It is not the responsibility of those who have been friends (many of us for months if not years) to ignore the rude guest. It is the responsibility of the interloper to ingratiate themselves into the group with courtesy, etiquette, and respect – as you have done by introducing yourself politely.

  23. SugarySpicey says:

    Jj – I’m not sure I understand you. But I’m always open to, “Now what did you just say, are you telling me …”

    The written word is fraught with misunderstanding, and there is no font for sarcasm. I’m not bad, I’m just punctuated that way.

    If ever something I write causes question I’m open to interpreting my statement, amending if it aids communication, I’ve even corrected my own imprecision or clarified my statements due to other’s misinterpretation. If I say something that doesn’t ring true you’re welcome to ask, or email.

    Unless you believe I’m a nefarious super villain set on spreading misinformation, which then I wonder why it is I’m willing to have a voice to voice conversation with those who have such a misunderstanding of who I am and why I’ve been able to transition blog friends into real friends. If I were a liar wouldn’t I want to hide behind anonymity as some prefer to do?

  24. Sugardoll says:

    @Josh

    “Am i right or wrong?!”

    Sometimes you may be right. The other times you may be wrong. But you are ALWAYS hot as in picante y caliente. 😉

    hahahah yeah i bet im wrong when im agree with others that u a douchebag…but you still my fav… picante y caliente papi.. muah

  25. Jj says:

    @SugaryS: I do not “buy” into everything presented on the blog and value it at it’s own worth; however, there are some things that just demand to called into account!!
    Just say’n

  26. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll:

    “Am i right or wrong?!”

    Sometimes you may be right. The other times you may be wrong. But you are ALWAYS hot as in picante y caliente. 😉

  27. Sugardoll says:

    I have to respectfully disagree. Sometimes a woman earns the title of Bitch.

    **in the way i think you are thinking, thats not a bitch thats a Slut..a woman with no self respect, doing things here, there, with you, with him…being nasty. thats definitely another story.

    Am i right or wrong?!

  28. Sugardoll says:

    @Sugary

    Ignoring cockroaches in your kitchen doesn’t get rid of the cockroaches.

    Smashing them woks…and its fun..!! actually i made it my funny nite once smoking a cigarret outside my front door on the street while they were walking around my feet…haha

    I understand, but he is just one, ignoring 1 roach in here will be very easy! I had a little mouse on my closet, he could be harm, but i never kill him.

    If we get 10 people in this blog, doing the right thing, instead of focusing on stupid josh comments and issues, 2 things can happen, either he will get tired or he will start joining. Did you see the movie “The Bugs”

  29. frank says:

    Is the male equivalent of Bitch a Prick?

    A slut is a woman who fucks everyone, a bitch is a woman who fucks everyone but you.” Hahaha

    Either way, when a man calls a woman a bitch he really only exposes his own weakness.
    I have to respectfully disagree. Sometimes a woman earns the title of Bitch.

  30. Sugardoll says:

    This is one case why a man should call you a bitch, he send me a request to see my pictures, but i coulndt just reply without demanding some education manners…
    Good Morning..!!!?? Hello!!!?? im interested in you i would like to see your pictures!!???

    Good morning X

  31. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – the issue is all of the people he’s chased away . The blog was once fun and vibrant, people shared stories (real and sugar) and met up in real life. If you had a problem with someone you had the balls to talk to them about it off blog. There are people on the blog I would consider genuine friends who have been chased away, in fear and annoyance.

    Ignoring cockroaches in your kitchen doesn’t get rid of the cockroaches.

  32. Sugardoll says:

    @Onyx

    **Fair enough, i completely understand your point, but do you know the meaning of “IGNORING” ” THE ICE LAW” theres more people in here besides JOSH that really needs some advises and extra information, I personally dont dislike him, I answer and comment the post that worth my time, and ignore those post who has nothing to offer…the problem here is that everybody is just focusing their attention to just one person “Josh” instead of coming to the blog and smell the roses. Ive always said and proved the more importance you give to someone the more stronger they become.

  33. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – haha! My mom has said, “A slut is a woman who fucks everyone, a bitch is a woman who fucks everyone but you.”

    Either way, when a man calls a woman a bitch he really only exposes his own weakness.

  34. SugarySpicey says:

    On-xy – I was thinking of you last night. My rather senior grandfather called me in a state of confusion, over some horses he believed he was supposed to be tending to (he is 99 no one has asked him to tend to their horses in about 40 years.)

    I hung up the phone in great distress. His body is still holding out very well and it’s such a tragedy to see his mind gone – he was once a very impressive cowboy in that “dying breed” sort of way.

    How is your quest with the new SB/caregiver?

  35. Sugardoll says:

    Only a boy would need to call a woman a bitch for defending herself against assault.***

    ***yup, a woman becomes a bitch when she demands respect, when she shows him she knows her value, when she sets up high standards.” So a man gets weak when he sees he cant get under your skin, when he find out he cant fuck up your mind.

    **My ex bf once told me I was a professional bitch, i felt flattered…lmao! i guess he found out i could fuck him up with his same weapons..

  36. onyx_percula says:

    @ Sugardoll and aliceS — The reason JJ (and others) says the blog has gone to shit is because about two weeks ago Josh showed up and decided he had to be a nasty prick to anyone that didn’t take his view of things. Then sits in front of his computer all day pressing F5 hoping someone will feed his need to be a prick on the internet.

    Before he became the number one poster on the blog we had intelligent conversations, fun kidding around, shared experiences and generally served the purpose of answering questions of the user community. Now its mostly wading through the crap, getting tired of seeing Josh’s posts and saying fuck it why bother even being here for many of the up to recently regular contributors to the blog, myself included.

    Most moderated internet forums eventually learn that free speech is great but that some people are intent on disrupting and destroying the community that has established itself and ban the asshats and trolls in favor of preserving the positive benefits intended in the first place. Unfortunately SA hasn’t learned the hard way that lack of such results in the failure of their intended purpose. Eventually they will have a forum here in the form of this blog that is nothing but a negative reflection of the brand that will be used by the press to further criticize the sugar dating world. I’m sure it has discouraged if not outright stopped some potential members from creating accounts, I know I sure as hell wouldn’t open an account after reading thru this crap of late.

  37. SugarySpicey says:

    A weak man is one who preys on others, shows excessively poor judgement in his actions in battle, and intentionally causes harm to others, then unfairly assaults them for coming to their own defense – ignoring the codes of honor and decency.

    One would also call that man abusive, and a bully. Only a boy would need to call a woman a bitch for defending herself against assault. A man would not be so lacking in honor in the first place, or would instantly, expressly apologize for his poor judgement in an impetuous burst of passion.

  38. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll:

    “***Because ladies (sometimes) are too submissive to demand for what they deserve, Bitches, demands it, cuz they know the way a woman has to be treated, thats self respect.”

    Awww, mi amor, you sure are a lady and may demand whatever from a man. :)

    Rhetorical questions:

    1. If a man choses not to entertain a bitch in his life, does it make him a “weak man”?

    2. If a man is considered to be a weak man by a bitch, should he care?

    3. If he is not a weak man, then what kind of man is he?

    😉

  39. Sugardoll says:

    Rhetorical question:

    Why is it that a lady wishes for chivalry from a man and a bitch demands it? 😉

    ***Because ladies (sometimes) are too submissive to demand for what they deserve, Bitches, demands it, cuz they know the way a woman has to be treated, thats self respect.

  40. SugarySpicey says:

    From an article in The Atlantic,

    “This past spring marked the 100th anniversary of the sinking of the Titanic. On April 14, 1912, as the ship was on its maiden journey from Southampton, UK, to New York City, it hit an iceberg in the North Atlantic. About three hours later, it sank. Three-quarters of the women on the ship survived; over three quarters of the men, by contrast, died. In Washington DC, there is a memorial to these men. The inscription on it reads: “To the brave men who perished in the wreck of the Titanic…They gave their lives that women and children might be saved.”

    About a year ago, a group of today’s men were tested the way that the men on board the Titanic were. When the cruise ship Costa Concordia hit a rock and capsized off the coast of [Tuscany] … men pushed women and children out of the way to save themselves.”

    The article goes on to quote the many egregious ways male passengers pushed women and children out of the way, bullied them off lifeboats, and generally took a “Me first” approach, while women sacrificed their spaces on lifeboats to ensure their children were safe.

    Perhaps men who claim women are “bitches” are the type of guys who would harm women and children for their own benefit, and are therefor receiving the world’s “bitchiest” response, that of the mama bear who’s cubs have been threatened.

    Just a guess, but one who is so full of hate and bile as to intentionally harm women is probably not the best indicator of “chivalry”.

  41. Josh says:

    Rhetorical question:

    Why is it that a lady wishes for chivalry from a man and a bitch demands it? 😉

  42. Josh says:

    A lady does not sleep with just any Tom, Dick or Harry.

    A gentleman spends wads of money on just about any Mary, Jennifer or Harriet.

    So by the time lady puts out with the gentleman, he is essentially broke. 😉

  43. FatBastardSD says:

    @Josh

    I am a boring person so I will never live life to the fullest but when I was younger I knew a few guys who were broke and yet had a lot more fun than guys like me who were making a decent income and trying to focus on the rat race.

    Youth is wasted on the young!

  44. Sugardoll says:

    I see too many SB profile where they claim to be living life to the fullest.

    How does a broke student (without an SD of any kind) live a life to the fullest?

    I remember being a broke college student, and I had a very hard time living life to even the quarterest, let alone halfest! 😉

    ***Joshy *** very true

  45. DarkHorseSD says:

    Who says they don’t have an sd yet? Or a parent?

  46. Josh says:

    Folks,

    I see too many SB profile where they claim to be living life to the fullest.

    How does a broke student (without an SD of any kind) live a life to the fullest?

    I remember being a broke college student, and I had a very hard time living life to even the quarterest, let alone halfest! 😉

  47. DarkHorseSD says:

    Profile #2000000 is pending approval within 24hrs.

  48. Josh says:

    @SD Guru

    I agree with Brandon on this case. Even though the SD did stupid things himself, he should have gone to a real court of law where the dramatics of this idiotic joke of a “judge” could have been spared.

    Well, you should post more, I guess. 😉

  49. Josh says:

    Look up YouTube SeekingArrangement.com on Swift Justice: Sugar Daddy & Sugar Baby. It is 18:13 long.

    I am wondering why would this SD go this joke of a judge instead of real court of law?

    • SD Guru says:

      @Josh

      There was a blog topic about Swift Justice and you can read it here. The “SD” who went on tv made an appearance in the blog and made a fool of himself again. You can read my response to him here.

      By the way, I used to post a lot more back then. I wonder what happened…

  50. Sugardoll says:

    @josh mi amor….

    “I wonder how a $2400 handbag,shoes or dress, will make me feel confident, i feel more confident having the $2400 cash in my pocket…lmao!!”

    **** Yes, definitely that will make me more confident…., i always find a way to double up my money ** thats why it makes me feel comfortable to have it ca$h

  51. Sugardoll says:

    This SD is going to catch me….best msg ever…

    You look like one hell of a great time!!!!

    <3 lol

  52. Sugardoll says:

    Ok, If my SD is a Diamond/Premiun how can i approach him for a better allowance, than just 200.00 per met. well i must admit i didnt know anything about arrangement by then, So he made his arrangement and i never complained. cuz i didnt know how.. But we still talk, so i think its time for me to fix the arrangement my way now..lol

  53. Josh says:

    I defer it to Sugardoll

    “I wonder how a $2400 handbag,shoes or dress, will make me feel confident, i feel more confident having the $2400 cash in my pocket…lmao!!”

  54. DarkHorseSD says:

    Josh wrote, “She just needs to work on the confidence department”

    Or just buy a $2,400 puffy pirate shirt and fake it lol 😀

  55. DarkHorseSD says:

    Well, Alice, if he is diamond, he could easily have a dozen or more SBs he’s actively planning things with. I’m not diamond and can have that many going without much effort.

    So someone else interested him more or was more willing or whatever. No big deal. Keep working.

    You said you’d lost contact from 7 SDs. If you just go with the basic ratio SA mentions, 10:1, its not surprising. Just keep going.

    If there is anything else you suspect might be a problem, let us know and examine it.

  56. Josh says:

    @DHSD

    She’s got everything else. She just needs to work on the confidence department. Then she will take off. 😉

  57. sweetie says:

    The video said there were 90% SDs to 10% SBs. Horsey says there aren’t many SBs.
    I’m lost… I thought there were 10 SBs for every 1 SD?!? Isn’t that the ratio that was going around the blog talks? Shouldn’t it be the opposite according to their numbers?

  58. aliceS says:

    DarkHorse hm.. I think I haven’t an occasion to screw more aspects yet :)

  59. DarkHorseSD says:

    Well, besides wavering on the sexual commitment, what else might you have done?

  60. aliceS says:

    So if diamond members told me that he will fly me to see him and his net worth is confirmed by SA, then I just must have been done something to scare him 0.o if it’s not the travel expenses problem.

  61. DarkHorseSD says:

    grains of salt are best taken with your tongue in your cheek.

  62. DarkHorseSD says:

    “WOW!!! How many of them are SBs?”

    Very few, by my standards. :( łøł

  63. DarkHorseSD says:

    Alice asked, ” What diamond mmr mean, except higher monthly payment on SA?”

    Diamond members present SA with evidence of their net worth and identity. I’m not sure if the criminal background check is also done with that or if that is separate.

  64. Josh says:

    @DHSD

    WOW!!! How many of them are SBs?

  65. DarkHorseSD says:

    SA will give out its two millionth profile tonight or tomorrow.

  66. SugarySpicey says:

    Back before SA implemented the “Report this user” tool SBs would post profile #’s of Fakes and perves on the blog – but that has such limited utility. When you encounter an obvious fake it’s best just to report them, there’s a good chance you won’t be the first, or last, and he’ll get him membership revoked.

    To see a real winner, search the SDs in Mexico. There’s an 80 year-old who eventually gets around to messaging most SBs. Creeeeepy! How does one even learn that they have a fetish for pretending to be a child molester?

    • SD Guru says:

      @gtt_envy
      “Take note on the allowances 7 women 150k/yr.”

      I wrote a review of that Nightline video when it came out in June ’12. It’s typical of most media coverage about the sugar world. And like everything else you see on the internet, you should take it with a grain of salt.

      By the way, that same “SD” was also in MTV’s True Life the year before. Here’s my review of that show. He sure knows how to get his 15 minutes of fame!!

      @Spcicey
      “once upon a time civility was expected of gentlemen on the blog, so more women would participate.”

      Historically the SA blog has been dominated by SB’s. It’s the serious SD posters that were hard to come by. In my spare time I do keep an eye out for sock puppets and deal with them accordingly. There hasn’t been one recently. :mrgreen:

  67. aliceS says:

    Sugary I was lucky not to meet yet Mr G from Alberta. I think private exchange the names between sb’s would help a lot here. I mean scammers name.

  68. SugarySpicey says:

    Actually, come to think of it, the blog SDs have made it clear that certain threatening, bullying behaviors ARE unacceptable, and they’ve been chased away by the recent troll invasion as well.

  69. SugarySpicey says:

    Most likeky, if he says he’s worth 10-50 million, postures like he’s prepared to fly you across the world in week one, and tries to start with sexy talk right away he’s a fake.

    At that net worth/allowance he’d either easily be able to find someone local, or he’d want to know you a little before suggesting he plans to fly you in.

    Please tell me it wasn’t Mr. G from Alberta? 😉 He’s been running the same scam for two years! HUGE pic collector (and he shares them).

    Diamond membership just means that the name a member gives SA on their credit card is not that of a convicted felon. It doesn’t mean anything legitimately but a person with Internet access and at least a $100 credit limit.

    Feel good that he poofed before he wasted anymore of your time! A man worth 10+ million will be easy to spot, and he won’t sound like he has a fifth grade education as that fellow seemed to.

    As far as Jj’s comment about the blog going to hell, once upon a time civility was expected of gentlemen on the blog, so more women would participate.

    A man on the blog wouldn’t DREAM of threatening to harm a woman just to censor her nor would he create profane sick puppet accounts just to get around moderator warnings. The other gentlemen of the blog would let him know what is thought of the type of men who bully and harm women. Just one example – but have you noticed all the ladies have fled? Yeah, that’s called fear, they won’t return until the site is safe again.

  70. aliceS says:

    Gtt_envy
    I’m not so much obsessed with him being supermodel or even a close call. I like older gentleman’s. It’s very hot, to see a strong men in a black suit :)

  71. Sugardoll says:

    @alice to be specific

    If a man pays me a flight, he doesnt need to tell me he wants to intimate, cuz that will be for sure. It is hard to find a SD who does not think we are whores,

  72. Josh says:

    I am kinda lost on 7 women, 60 year-old $150k/yr. What’s up with this guy?

  73. gtt_envy says:

    I agree alice alice :) the point was 7 women 150k/yr he’s 60+ and not in good shape.

    What you seek good looking, big allowance, travel is very very hard to find.

  74. aliceS says:

    And I watched the video, I’m definitely not the same type as that girl. I almost puked with rainbow, while hearing her fake voice, when she spoked with this men. Seriously, that’s just humiliating

  75. aliceS says:

    Sugardoll lmao I didn’t meant to sound that way. I just don’t want to be mistaken for a whore.

  76. Sugardoll says:

    @alice

    You have to put in your head that not even if they are not going to fly you anywhere they are all looking for sex, at least those are going to spend on a flight, have you heard a SD saying ” I cover the dinner and drinks” for real, i could cover my dinner and my drinks, im not here looking for someone to feed me lmao!!

  77. aliceS says:

    Gtt_envy I don’t know what irks means. I never ask more then my travel expenses, so it below practical sometimes. Where they claim to handle moderate or high allowance. I’m not looking for a guy, that will sprinkle me all over with his sugar, and not only lol before he even met with me. Nor I have some unimaginable numbers at my head. I have economic degree, and I can count, but I’m refuse to dates with people, who thinks that travel expenses allows them to have me sexually.

  78. Josh says:

    @DH: Hahaha

  79. DarkHorseSD says:

    I heard they have men in France. Maybe not real men, but men.

  80. gtt_envy says:

    I see all links go through moderation first hmmmmm. Go to youtube type in seeking arrangement dateline the vid is 7min 48 sec long.

  81. gtt_envy says:

    Its not easy to find any guy to give alot from the beginning. Here is a example……granted she irks me as does he and both seem fake. She is very pretty.

    Take note on the allowances 7 women 150k/yr.

  82. aliceS says:

    Gtt_envy so how to see the difference? What diamond mmr mean, except higher monthly payment on SA?

  83. Josh says:

    If one had 10 million net worth it would be prudent not to mention mention that. Why attract gold diggers when you can attract pretty decent SBs without revealing what you have?

  84. gtt_envy says:

    @Alice,

    You believe in the sd profiles you read far too much. Most profiles are scam artists and you are experiencing that!

  85. aliceS says:

    I know. That’s an expensive thing to do. But if someone claim to have 10 to 50 million net worth… so 1300$ both side is expensive? Really?

  86. Josh says:

    You need to be in the US sweetheart. Them French are not appreciating you enough and as DH said flying anyone anywhere gets expensive real quick.

  87. Josh says:

    aliceS,

    Aww, that would be so nice of you to send me your pix dear. The email is Josh12390 at live dot com. I will share my profile with u later. 😉

  88. aliceS says:

    I’m afraid I’m clueless what to put there. My weird English, don’t simplify that as well. :)

  89. Sugardoll says:

    @alice, so there we come back to fixing your profile. lol

  90. aliceS says:

    Sugardoll I don’t want to lose. Lose at emails mean that he is counting on head* in a way back from airport. I’m not gonna lie I will do something, or suggest I am willing to do, things I won’t plan. I know that he won’t fly me there to play scrabble. So. I am realistic about it. And I prefer to let him know in advance. I’m not a hooker for rent. I’m looking for parner

  91. DarkHorseSD says:

    Alice, he needs to erase his phone. 😉

    A lot of homework gets eaten by people’s dogs. Don’t get discouraged.

  92. Sugardoll says:

    Well I would be pleased to meet you. And as I said before, I think you are very charming. I can’t say no or yes, about our intimate relationship. We never know, what that week may bring to us. We may click together in real life or not. But for right now, it goes all well. And can be only better. Hope you will agree with me on it.

    I would love to meet you too, i bet spending time with you will be pretty amazing, and we are going to have so much fun doing things together…(short,simple and you not giving him and idea of what is going to happen, but you will make an idea on his head)

    You need to be more lose, flirt, imagine you are talking to a friend of you that you find attractive…like you talk to us here in the blog.

    I mean, just a little idea.

  93. DarkHorseSD says:

    Well, when the money has to be spent it is a big moment. It’s when all the fantasizing gets replaced with cold reality.

    It is a big investment for someone to fly someone for several days – even one day. It’s a big stretch to reach for, especially without greater confidence in the outcome. You might feel confident with someone else, or don’t reach for all that for now. It’s easier for girls who are less choosey sexually.

    One of my first SA interactions was to fly someone from Eastern Canada to Salzburg for a week. We didn’t have a lot of conversation first and I was quite new. So it does happen, especially if the guy has something to celebrate, which I did.

  94. aliceS says:

    I can show to Josh what I’m hiding lol. I was a topless model :) I don’t hide too much 😉

  95. aliceS says:

    And its like that all the time :(
    It all goes well. And then. Bam. That deadly silence. No explanation why.
    My gorgeous SD ssent me a message, that he has to erase my phone. Cause his wife found out. So, no luck for me yet in Sugarland

  96. Sugardoll says:

    @alice

    Firstable i think you need to expand little bit your profile about what are you really looking for, and what you expect to give and find. about the pictures, remember to keep the best for last, make them willing to know whats behind (hope you can understand me) pretty sure josh knows what im talking about. lol…

  97. aliceS says:

    @DarkHorse I think I screw up at this. This is our last conversation with one of SD’s, that stopped contact me.

    Please tell me when you could come for 7 or 10 days and what allowance you would request for that visit. I’d like to be intimate with you as well, while your visit.

    Well I would be pleased to meet you. And as I said before,  I think you are very charming.  I can’t say no or yes, about our intimate relationship.  We never know, what that week may bring to us. We may click together in real life or not. But for right now, it goes all well. And can be only better. Hope you will agree with me on it.

    I was hoping for a different response, but I do understand what you are saying.
    My desire is to be intimate with you.
     I will agree with your message though.
     How soon can you visit?
     What airport would you fly from?
     

    And then, after few more emails the same day, when he told me he will book the flights our conversations stopped as suddenly as it begins. :(

  98. Josh says:

    @aliceS

    Awwn that’s a cute response. 😉

  99. DarkHorseSD says:

    Also, Alice, didn’t you say you met in person someone gorgeous and young a few days ago? What happened since?

  100. aliceS says:

    Uhm.. what?? Jj maybe you can drop some light for us . How un shyiet* blog should look like?

  101. DarkHorseSD says:

    Alice, its good you have been replying. You do need to develop a sense of whether the SDs are just bored and playing around or serious as well.

    Keep at it. With the serious ones Game playing probably won’t work well, so keep away from that. There is a lot of money and other benefits at stake, so don’t let someone else walk away with your SD.

    Find ways to keep the conversation going. Find ways to make a meeting happen. Find ways to make him want to say ‘yes.’

  102. Josh says:

    Or maybe you just needed another opportunity to write “Nuf said” yawn!

  103. Josh says:

    @Jj:

    I know that Roger Ebert (RIP) died. Did he leave you critic incharge? 😉 LOL!

    Two gorgeous SBs chit chatting. That works for me!!!

    On the other hand, what have you contributed recently to make it interesting to your or anyone else’s liking?

  104. Sugardoll says:

    @Jj
    Huh? well, i dont have an idea of what you saying that, but you are either welcome to enjoy it, or BRING SOMETHING REALLY WORTH IT TO THE TABLE…

    Cuz by your comment, your just part of the team!!!

    It says like this: If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all.

  105. Jj says:

    It’s official!! The blog has completely gone to “shyiet”!!! Nuf said!

  106. aliceS says:

    Oh. Damn. I misread it then 😉

  107. Sugardoll says:

    My translation of joshs msg, is the way i understood what she meant to say to josh..lmao, i will never send a msg like that…lol

  108. Josh says:

    @aliceS

    That might not be a bad idea. 😉

  109. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll lmao you are hilarious at emails. Maybe I will give you my password and you will replied to them :)

  110. aliceS says:

    No Josh, I used a DarkHorse advise. And replied them. You will do about it, what you like to do. And yes Sugardoll, I have only those types of communication between SD’s and me. Everything look great till 3 to 4 days before the meeting. I should have a date this Tuesday at Paris, and it won’t gonna happen. At Friday with other gentleman, and since last week I didn’t heard from him, so I doubt as well. I should fly to Canada next Monday for a week, and guess what. Uhm… no contact what so ever. So, yeah its confusing. Frustrating. And it’s weird. Cause its repeats every time. The guy I give my real fb page. Blocked me there, saying I’m not having too much mine pictures, do he don’t believe. Me it’s me. Or at least he doubt…
    @DarkHorse regardless to your latest question, I’m totally serious about it. But I think I should ask that question, to the SD’s I’m in contact.

  111. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    Mi amor, you’re cute, sexy, hilarious all at once. 😉

  112. Sugardoll says:

    “Hi baby , your profile captured my eye! You really look so nice and awesome.. I really like you. Swear! Pls tell me what will I do to become your perfect baby. Cus Im here at the Philippines right now. I can show you some of my pics if your interested! I will do my best to satisfy you as well.. So pls message me back and feel free to ask question. Kisses for you :**”
    My translation:
    Hi baby you look like you can give me some good allowance, you look so hot, i will give you all the sugar at once, if you pay me good, call me tonite and i will ride you as a cowboy, i can send you some sexy naked pics, and do all the freaky things u ask me to do, please msg me back with a good proposal, kisses hahahahahahahaha……well thats the way i read it.

  113. Sugardoll says:

    @josh
    Cus Im here at the Philippines right now.

    **Are you in Philippines? mi amor…i want to be your perfect baby too, will you pay my ticket and send me a gift upfront lmao!!!!

  114. Sugardoll says:

    @Dh..

    Its a serious pursuit played as a hobby…. 😉 I dont believe any or most of the SD’s ive met so far are looking for seriously pursuing a SB.

  115. Josh says:

    She even swears to that. LOL!

  116. Josh says:

    I also have a fan in Philippines. 😉

    “Hi baby , your profile captured my eye! You really look so nice and awesome.. I really like you. Swear! Pls tell me what will I do to become your perfect baby. Cus Im here at the Philippines right now. I can show you some of my pics if your interested! I will do my best to satisfy you as well.. So pls message me back and feel free to ask question. Kisses for you :**”

  117. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD

    Come again please? :)

  118. DarkHorseSD says:

    What would you girls say your attitude towards this is? Is it a hobby or a serious pursuit?

  119. Josh says:

    *…you have NOT discussed arrangements…

  120. Josh says:

    @aliceS

    Hmmm, I wonder who these silly SDs are. And based on the information you have provided so far, you have discussed arrangements with any of them yet, yes? So it is not that you may be demanding something that is a non-starter for them.

    I would take you on in a heartbeat, sweetheart! 😉

  121. Sugardoll says:

    @alice, dont worry, give him some days for vacation lol…. ive been texting 2 and the one i was more interest after setting up a metting for the nite, when i asked him to send me a conf. he told me sure…and i never heard from him since then, and i wont ask him,cuz i dont want him to see im desperate, so one of this days i just drop a Hello…no questions about why or what happen…some of them stop texting me after the first text without any word… and i just delete their numbers, i dont make a spot on my phone for people who does not contact me,and that goes for everybody in my life. u dont text me…you out.

    And you know with the same sweetness i talk nice i let them know sometime what i want to tell them,my first SD still text me, oh i desire you, oh i would really spend every single day with you **then there i tell him, oh baby thats so sweet, i want to believe that, but i never hear of you unless i text you first..Boom!!…and surprisingly later on he text me asking me how was my weekend and the next day asking me how are you babe…lol…

  122. aliceS says:

    Josh Thank you for your compliment :) you are my first fan I guess. So I’m a today’s winner. Lol. And thank you Zack. I think I might scare them, or send them boring messages. This is 7th SD, that just stopped email me for no reason. Hm…

  123. Josh says:

    @Zack

    No YouTube video to summarize the above? 😉

  124. Zack says:

    Alice…most meets don’t work out. Ones that end before anyone really gets involved are usually better than the ones that drag on…it still feels awful, I know.

    It’s not. It’s normal. People might be looking for “someone,” but just because you are smart and beautiful does not mean that someone you like is in a place in their life or head to enter into an arrangement with you. (If it’s not a big deal to the SD and SB…then maybe you got a really good one, but odds are you got one with little emotional room left for you possibly both? Depends on what you seek.) Part of negotiating a successful arrangement will be learning how and what to offer and how to talk to move an email contact to a “first meet” to something more, if it “clicks.”

    Outcome vary on style. Style may vary to your purpose. You’ve got a better idea of what you’re looking for, but are still targeting very high, though you may not see it, or it may be intentional, idk. You’re still a diamond in the rough. Your not going to get a formula that works for all meets here, just guidelines. The details fill in 80% from you before your contacts and meets…and 80% by him during the meets. Then there’s your 80% around the time of the meets, his 80% in saying what he is looking for because you want him to offer rather than you, 80% for both of you when a time, travel or money disagreement arises, 80% for one when an -ex or current weighs in….and I’m sure there’s a lot more of giving self first to get trust in there somewhere, too.

    Financial negotiations are more straightforward. Shoot for the stars land on the moon, if you have the time will and strength to keep looking. Otherwise, respond to your current crisis. :)

    It’s your life, your style…this is just a forum or place for people to talk, rest, and muse or to pair (or whatever :) up and meet to negotiate further with certain pre-selected areas of understanding. There is a lot more defined by the people involved than there is defined by “rules of the game.” That’s life.

    The “Kiss a lot of frogs” or “it’s a process” or “rinse, repeat” all say the same thing…expect to have failures. Try to learn…”Getting right” can be luck, or it can be a matter of sustained purpose and emotional focus over time. Most people aren’t there, anyway 😛

  125. Josh says:

    @alicS

    OMG! You are so damn hot!

    Your two public pix are amazing and God know what goodies are hidden in the private one’s. 😉

    I am sure that Sugardoll will help you improve it still.

    Your new fan…as I can’t be your SD yet due to the geographical distance. LOL!

  126. aliceS says:

    Thank you Sugardoll :) my SD suddenly changed his plans and stopped messaging me. Though, we should have met this Tuesday hm.. I’m kinda, not too hot I guess :)

  127. Sugardoll says:

    Damn you hot girl. .. hahaha…but now i understand why the weirdos msgs…

  128. aliceS says:

    Ha ha, ok. I can’t wait. :) hopefully he will be handsome

  129. Sugardoll says:

    Seems its not allowed from SB to SB, i will send you my fb email with a SD…lol

  130. aliceS says:

    Dammit it’s only allow me to see you, but not to email you. I linked mine here for a second. Just press my name and email me :)

  131. Sugardoll says:

    Here alice..

    1167827

  132. aliceS says:

    Sugardoll I need your SA number :) woohoo.

  133. Sugardoll says:

    Morning everyone,…!! Alice, we still can be friends, maybe some day we can travel and hang out with our SD’s lol… send me a msg on my profile.

  134. aliceS says:

    As always I’d like to thanks, to all participants in answering my questions. I will disable winks. I think it’s will simplify some things. And hi to all new/oId blog members. It’s funny how fast our numbers increased.

  135. Zack says:

    Sorry…”days'”

  136. Zack says:

    Oops, the facebooks likes just jumped up about three good day’s worth. Everyone hush, maybe they’ll go away?

    …So you we saying one of them was really crazy. We’re the other two just faking? Ba-da-bump.

    btw, the twitter number really doesn’t change, does it? 😛

  137. SugarySpicey says:

    Frank – sorry Frank, that’s gauche! I remember when I first landed on SA thinking it bizarre that such a thing as a negotiated allowance even existed. But once one lands in Oz you figure out how to navigate the poppy fields or you get sucked in by the wicked apes.

    I’ll be curious if #2 emails you later wondering why you two aren’t going to launch an arrangement. 😉

  138. Sugardoll says:

    Zack says:

    @ SDoll: Whatidoes the lesson plan cover? Physical fitness? Language? Politics? Personal Defense? Dance? Selectively Impersonal Offense? Data Collection? Financial Analysis? Personal Investing? 😉 (that is a wink.)

    Have fun, sugar…someday explain to me how that worked? LoL

    **What you talking about,how i lost 40 pnds? just dieting…and working out sometimes…** i still have my mind on place, and i always though a man that looks good and keeps healthy definitely will want a woman who also looks good.. that was my inspiration!! lmao

    Wink back at you 😉 zacky

  139. Zack says:

    @ SDoll: Whatidoes the lesson plan cover? Physical fitness? Language? Politics? Personal Defense? Dance? Selectively Impersonal Offense? Data Collection? Financial Analysis? Personal Investing? 😉 (that is a wink.)

    Have fun, sugar…someday explain to me how that worked? LoL

  140. Frank says:

    assumed you’d be delighted in the little surprise she had for you.

    Spicy-I am always prepared for a little surprise, but this was a big fat surprise. (not that there is anything wrong with being BMI challenged)

    As far as the second pot went, she had a little surprise for me too, but the real problem is that she turned me off when she started asking about the allowance 3 minutes after we met.

  141. flyR says:

    “I have a question for SD’S here. If you send a wink, to your Pot SB. What are yours expectations, if any. And if you use winks at all.”

    A wink is the perfect way to say I am too lazy to send you a note. But OK if your picture is in the top 1% it may work.

    I’m also surprised when I get winks from a distant corner of the country

  142. Sugardoll says:

    @frank
    The first one, well, she went back 5 years and 50 (maybe 75?!) pounds for the picture she sent me. Did she think I wouldn’t notice?

    ***This part is funny lol *** i remember when i first sign on SA i was little bit over weighted, but i like guys with nice bodies, so didnt start dating till i lost 40 pounds” still not real skinny, and wont get skinnier cuz then i might lose some of my nice seductive weapons… lmao

    The second, she wasn’t as interesting irl as her emails.

    As Sugary says, give her time, maybe she was just shy….

  143. Sugardoll says:

    @SugarySpicey
    Alice – it just takes time, as long as you’re having fun, protecting your heart and your health, and being true to you the rest will come.

    ***lol i lost my heart with my first SD, but slowly im getting him to certain points where i want him to be, i like what he works for leaving, and he also knows its something i would like to learn, so today i showed him my fully interested in learning, so he is going to get in contact w a personal teacher… (lovely) he better start getting ready to pay my classes.. lol

  144. Sugardoll says:

    @euphoria
    I do agree that confidence is everything. I’ve walked into random spots in NYC and Cali and pulled stock brokers and hedge fund managers out in my Hollister’s. Its always funny to walk into a place in a pair of cut off shorts/ a tank top and flip flops and see all kinds of girls dolled up standing in a group of girls with no guys trying to talk to them. You don’t have to spend a billion dollars to get the attention of a guy who is worth a billion.

    ***Have this happen to you, the day you go out looking more creepy, all the guys tells you how pretty u look?

  145. SugarySpicey says:

    Frank – maybe girl #2 was just nervous, the energy of all that hot simmering fluid ready to explode could have knocked her off her game a little – though in sugar no reason to pursue if there was no spark at all.

    As to the photos, maybe girl #1 secretly thought you a chubby chaser and assumed you’d be delighted in the little surprise she had for you.

  146. Frank says:

    Hi sugary,

    “Hey Franky welcome back! I see sugar still has you erupting.” No, Vesuvius has been dormant lately.

    I see that Sugary has been keeping the SD’s in their place, and fat daddy is holding down his end of the seesaw.

    I have been on two dud dates this past week. One was a long shot, the other I had high hopes for.

    The first one, well, she went back 5 years and 50 (maybe 75?!) pounds for the picture she sent me. Did she think I wouldn’t notice?

    The second, she wasn’t as interesting irl as her emails.

    Oh well the search continues.

  147. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – that’s a great approach when you feel that you have a strong self-preservation device. Some girls can’t tell the difference between a kind, generous guy and a creep. Those girls have to protect themselves from some of the sharks swimming around in the SA tank.

  148. SugarySpicey says:

    Alice – it just takes time, as long as you’re having fun, protecting your heart and your health, and being true to you the rest will come.

  149. aliceS says:

    Thank you for your support Zack. I appreciate it :)

  150. Zack says:

    Alice, after a few meets that go “pretty well” in your own opinion, it gets easier. The feeling of time pressure and of being alone in a strange place passes, mostly. I would wonder why you’ve been unnoticed for a while? Maybe you scare off the weak ones, Lol 😛

  151. Sugardoll says:

    @Josh
    Not lessons at all, thats the way i am, and the fact that im on SA its not going to change me..! mi amor…

  152. High_Fucktose says:

    @SugarySpicey

    “I no longer find pleasure in playing the sugar game, nor do I need to apparently – I can so transfix a man he’ll hang onto my every comma and semi colon, following my every moment on his cell phone, waiting like a desperate little puppy for some word or acknowledgement, and nipping at my heels like a pest if he doesn’t get it.”

    I have watched your posts for years (while not fully engaging in this “sugar” world and not posting) and I read your blog before you took it down. I enjoyed it and many of your posts before. I found lots of good information and realistic advice and examples. I still to date have never had an arrangement but am still curious about it and may engage in one in the future, for my own personal reasons (not because I “need to” or because I’m desperate, as the inverse of your quoted statement infers.).

    While I think Josh is simply annoying and unattractive altogether in the way he presents himself, I have expected more of you.

    If you are so high and mighty on yourself, why not just take that elsewhere and off of this blog? If you really want to “protect” the SBs then you should focus on doing so, instead of tooting your own horn so much. I swear this blog comment section has become a place where you talk about how incredibly desirable and amazing you are, passively insulting anyone who is actually interested in being a SB or SD, and Josh belittles you and makes fun of you. Everyone else tries to troubleshoot through all that to have a somewhat engaging conversation and as someone who completely looks from the outside in… I say– Get over yourself.
    (And PS. I wish I could high-five that @Jj character for the “creative writing” comment. My thoughts exactly. Go write your “book”.)

  153. aliceS says:

    Dear Sugardoll I’m not sending them a winks. I did before. When it was confusing what to say. But when I receive a wink. I’m even more confused. Like. OK. You like me enough to send a wink, but not too much to email me anything. So, I replied to 3 or 4 maybe with official email **Thank you for your interest. And I always read their profiles, so I’m letting them know I did, even if it was almost a book. But I prefer book profile guys. It means, that they tooked their time to create it. Their thoughts. Etc.**** and guess what, I’m ignored after all. Well if I say something first, now I add a text. That reply message with no thanks, doesn’t cost a thing. Silly. But true. No need to ignore me, just because I’m out of range or you don’t like me. Pheeeew, I guess that’s all. Btw, I like you a lot Sugardoll, I think lately you are one of couple females here, that are simple and easy in understanding. :) too bad you live so far , I would love to spend an evening in your company. And, uhm.. I’m not gay, just in case. Cause it may sound weird :) well our tattoo team actually could spend an lovely evening together :)

  154. Girly girl says:

    @ gentle soul

    Yes, the crazy one is pretty delusional and what a bad attitude. Also I think all them really exaggerated the amounts they are getting considering none of them are really stunning and one of them claiming not having any intimacy with all of them except one.. right..

  155. Smart.but.Clueless.Aspiring.SB says:

    Hi all. I am gaining insight into how the SB/SD thing really works reading all these posts. Although the instructions (on this site) say I should mention my goals and needs, I am afraid I sound desperate and/or like a prostitute. Is there someone who would take a look and give me some feedback? My profile is #1990874.

    Thanks in advance, and I’ll continue reading! :-)

  156. Josh says:

    I am sure SBs are paying attention to the free sugar lessons provided by Sugardoll. 😉

  157. Sugardoll says:

    @alice
    I get more and better results Adding them to Favorites than sending winks. Well actually i add them when dont know what to write at the moment, but by now they hit me up first. give it a try!

  158. Sugardoll says:

    arkHorseSD says:
    March 3, 2014 at 1:38 pm
    Confidence is very important. Maybe the rise in luxury goods reflects falling confidence overall?

    I wonder how a $2400 handbag,shoes or dress, will make me feel confident, i feel more confident having the $2400 cash in my pocket…lmao!!

  159. Sugardoll says:

    @josh, theres nothing you cant get from your SD when you treat him sweet, more if im attracted to him, why to rush if once i get my SD thinking of me i will get more from him that what he was expecting to give. 😉 some SB’s lose more cuz their too thirsty…when you are patience good things come to you without even asking.(well hypothetically) lol lol

  160. gentle(man)soul says:

    @girly-girl

    RE: Bethany show

    I pulled up a You tube of some of it and the crazy one gives Sugar Babies a bad name . But there are plenty of SBs out there who are all about the money . She even said that she dated much older men than 40 so they will die sooner and leave her their money . Fat chance of that !

  161. DarkHorseSD says:

    Confidence is very important. Maybe the rise in luxury goods reflects falling confidence overall?

  162. euphoria says:

    I do agree that confidence is everything. I’ve walked into random spots in NYC and Cali and pulled stock brokers and hedge fund managers out in my Hollister’s. Its always funny to walk into a place in a pair of cut off shorts/ a tank top and flip flops and see all kinds of girls dolled up standing in a group of girls with no guys trying to talk to them. You don’t have to spend a billion dollars to get the attention of a guy who is worth a billion.

  163. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    I am sure you can make six figure income by teaching other SBs how to extract money from SDs. LOLol!

    If you are half as good as charming men in real life as you write here, then you got it made, mi amor. 😉

  164. Girly girl says:

    Is anyone watching Bethenny show today? she has 3 ladies from Seeking Arrangement, one is really crazy..

  165. Sugardoll says:

    gentle(man)soul says:

    I’m falling for you slowly but surely : P

    Well, Gm.. What makes a woman is not what shes wearing is her presence, And by experience, no matter if what im wearing is cheap, when i walk into anyplace everybody turns their eyes on me, and i might have features, but i dont have a perfect body…But when a woman is self confident everybody feels her presence in a room…Ive always said the difference between a Fine Rich lady and Me is that she has a little bit more money lmao!!

  166. Eloquence says:

    @ Sugary

    YouTube: Jason Aldean “When She Says Baby”

    Sounds like you

  167. gentle(man)soul says:

    @Sugardoll

    “– maybe im weird to be a woman…But I have other priorities than handbags, shoes and clothes ”

    I’m falling for you slowly but surely : P

  168. Sugardoll says:

    Luxury… Honestly i dont go crazy about brands, handbags, shoes,im simple, I cant have more than 1 handbag,( I hate moving all my stuff from 1 handbag to another) 1-2 whatches (1 gold, 1 silver) 1 earrings (small and simple and i dont take them off, cuz i may lose them) I usually dont use make up (so my girl friends by me make up to make me wear it) when i like something i dont care about the price, can be $1 dollar and if like it i get it. Same if its expensive, after all i work so anything i want to spend my $ on, i deserve it… lol.. But i just buy things when i need it, i dont spend money on luxury or anything just because is cute…or things i wont use more than couple of days…Well yeah maybe im weird to be a woman…But I have other priorities than handbags, shoes and clothes…

  169. Sugardoll says:

    @Josh
    They are interested in me and they are more flexible with the allowance and formalities.

    **Mi amor, stop being cheap….lol xoxo

    @Gm
    I had that girl once -some of you might remember my musings several years ago . I loved that girl and still do to this day . I gave her everything I could afford without her ever asking . I would give a lot to see her again .

    * I dated someone like that once IRL way too much older than me, he use to give me $$ for everything wihout me asking, for shopping, college, pay credit cards, even if we wer going for getaways he used to give me money in advance to go shopping… it lasted almost 4yrs…and would like to find a SD like that,

  170. Zack says:

    Also @ Gs, re: Definition, I like Sugary’s wording better.

    @ Suns, “SB a 40ft container load ” … but how many can half a dozen return? Seriously, I agree that the most economical SB would be one that is a profit center, Josh’s type had that idea a while ago. But maybe such bags could be truly marketed through the gift shop, and SB’s could chose to return or keep their purchases. Sigh. :/

  171. Zack says:

    @ GS. Ow. Well, we here are all still seeking. :/

    @ Kat. There’s a place here that sells “Coogi” handbags. I think it might be worth buying one just for the label. :)

  172. Zack says:

    @ Eq I see your apple, and raise a sugar bowl of sauce. Your call?

    @ DH 😀
    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvM7DisJjRI

  173. Euphoria says:

    DarkHorseSD: I absolutely hate T.J Maxx… I always find something there after picking and sifting through the clothes. It usually takes me like 3 hours. Then after I buy it, I end up going to Macy’s, Nordstrom’s rack or the coach outlet, or Michael Kor’s and find the same thing cheaper. The only good deals I seem to find there are the workout clothes that I find myself consistently buying. Marshalls owns tj maxx, so I usually try to avoid them too. When amazingly good at math, you grow to hate stores that claim to be discount stores! Ive found so many better deals elsewhere.

  174. Eloquence says:

    @ Gentle(man)soul

    I do not know what happened in your scenario.. My heart goes out to you.

    Youtube: John Newman: “Love me Again” ..

    Note: B/c of the dramatic ending.. If you pay close attention in the video you will see they have 2 different outfits on the main characters in the same night playing in front of your eyes… (hint)

  175. gentle(man)soul says:

    @Euphoria

    One of my former SD’s bought me a Louis Vuitton speedy 25 . I remember returning it, getting my $1400 back.. Then I went to the consignment shop and bought the same bag for $300. In this deal, I ended up pocketing $1100

    Therein lies the problem with decorating Babies with goodies. They are mere baubles to be traded in ,sold, or discarded . I prefer to traffic in love and affection . (Taking care of the necessities of course .) My babies take home memories that can never be traded in . Jimmy Choos will never be under my SB’s tree at Christmas . Maybe I will be in my Speedo mini (ARRRRGH ! The image boggles the mind LOL )

  176. gentle(man)soul says:

    @ Eloquence

    What defines “Luxury” in your point of view?

    As an SD I am looking for the girl who satisfies my every need without me having to ask .
    1) always available when I need her
    2) undemanding
    3)communicates perfectly- as often as I want
    4)expresses love,desire for me ,and awe
    5)low maintenance –easy to please and impress
    6)smart ,witty,and interesting
    7)well educated
    8) attractive to me
    9)sexually willing at any time,place,or condition
    10) sexually naive but trainable and impressionable
    11) well organized and a take charge planner
    12)cost effective
    That my dears is my idea of luxury in the SD state .

    I had that girl once -some of you might remember my musings several years ago . I loved that girl and still do to this day . I gave her everything I could afford without her ever asking . I would give a lot to see her again .

  177. Kendra.. says:

    Hello,

    I noticed that others have posted asking for profile feedback and I am seeking the same.

    My problem is I have been on this site since Jun 2012. I was active when I started out, then I took a year long break and now I’m back. When I came back I noticed my profile was barely getting views and no one messaged me. Now I’m still having that problem. The only reason I get responses is because I message first. Ive met 3 potential SD’s but I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t know if I’m giving too much or too little.

    It would be great if someone could help me out my profile number Is 1065911

  178. SugarySpicey says:

    Eloquence, I no longer find pleasure in playing the sugar game, nor do I need to apparently – I can so transfix a man he’ll hang onto my every comma and semi colon, following my every moment on his cell phone, waiting like a desperate little puppy for some word or acknowledgement, and nipping at my heels like a pest if he doesn’t get it.

    I don’t want that, I want my heart to flutter and my loins to moisten at the very thought of the man I’m sharing myself with. I want to respect him, admire him, and appreciate him but to need nothing from him but connection and to expect nothing of him but that soft, warm, gentle feeling a man can produce in a woman when he treats her very well.

  179. DarkHorseSD says:

    Marshall’s and TJ Maxx always seem to have good things. Century 21 I’ve never been to, but I hear a lot of complaints.

  180. SunShineSD says:

    The factory manager wanted to sell me and my SB a 40ft container load of the bags. LOL.

  181. SunShineSD says:

    I wonder how long it will be before the stores figure it out and claim all items without receipt from the same store as fake. On one trip that I took an SB overseas, we actually saw a name-withheld luxury bag maker factory fulfilling the name brand orders in day time, and produce “fakes” on night shifts and weekends. Quite an eye opener. They roll off the same production line; real vs “fake” was literally only the production time/shift difference.

  182. Eloquence says:

    @ Sunshine

    “A specific kind of baby”

    Is that new Sugar baby? Diabetic baby? Toddler baby in training (like Josh is with his Sugar?…sounds like).. spoiled crying baby? or a real life baby in the mother gives birth to a newborn sense? see…. aye, yie, yie, the different ones to differentiate from are endless… lol

    @ Josh

    Thank you for your response via the cell phone while in motion.

    @ Sugary

    I hope your not really going into Diabetic mode, if your glucose level gets too low they will simply hook you up to an IV for a “sugar rush” for sugar replenishment. yeah?

    @ Zack

    Combat boots in the bed?? How about worse case barefoot with an Adam & Eve look of leaves to cover just enough to let the mind wander to the hands in motion to dress her bare?

    @ DarkHorse

    I know.. the handbag… Momma’s got a brand new bag?
    Dress her like a Goddess Pirate and tell her its her turn to see if she can capture you for the treasure in your bag?
    (no, not the fanny pack kind of the 80’s)

  183. Josh says:

    @Euphoria

    Great post. An eye opener for some SDs, I guess. 😉

    Goes with the same theme when one of my past SBs told me that she did not want to go to fancy dinners anymore and that I should give her the cash saved on dinners. LOL!

  184. Euphoria says:

    Dark Horse SD: I agree that luxury is in trouble, but only with the help of black Friday. I got some amazing shoes off of targets website made by Louis Vuitton a few years ago. If I can find a really cool purse at a consignment shop for half of the price, and its only been used twice then I am more likely to buy there.
    One of my former SD’s bought me a Louis Vuitton speedy 25 . I remember returning it, getting my $1400 back.. Then I went to the consignment shop and bought the same bag for $300. In this deal, I ended up pocketing $1100. With deals like that, why would I ever pay full price at a store again?
    Usually the better consignment shops have a 24 hour grace period with the purchases. This means if you take it to the store it originally came from and have them tell you if its real or not. You can get your money back within 24 hours if it’s not real.

  185. Josh says:

    I am on SA for SB and not BS. 😉

  186. SunShineSD says:

    Of course, exception is made for someone who is raising a baby, a specific kind of baby 😉 I was talking about early state numbers in previous post.

  187. SugarySpicey says:

    Zack – Nope. I’m not negotiating sugar, remember I’ve gone diabetic. Nor do the flirty pics end when nekedness begins. I just find the pre-stage flirting rather fun!

  188. Josh says:

    @Eloquence:

    I am not a luxuary seeking kinda guy, especially in products. I go for product utility and if I have to pay the price I will, otherwise not.

    As far as services, I am a sucker for luxury. I know the value a woman brings in my life regardless of the price I have to pay to have her in my life.

    I am currently “accessorizing” my SB, from top to bottom, who has an awesome taste but is respectful of my spending on her. She finds things that are elegant but cost significantly less than the top name brands. And I respect her for that.

    Once she is fully accessorized she would be a top notch SB. 😉

    I cannot give a more detailed response because I am typing on my cell phone.

  189. SunShineSD says:

    @Eloquence

    Sugaring is a luxury. However, for me personally, women asking for more than a typical salary for her age/degree peers therefore essentially making a job out of sugaring is not a turn on. . . actually a turn-off. For a very short term to resolve a particular crisis, I might be willing to do it, but she’d better use the funds to have the crisis resolved. In the intermediate to long run, I’d like to see my steady help enabling the lady to achieve something professionally so she can stand on her own feet in the future and be proud of her own accomplishment. Beyond a certain amount, it becomes more of a distraction from her professional success than helping to her. Women can be highly competitive, sometimes destructively so.

    If you meant $20k+/mo specifically, that’s a quarter million a year, I’d be willing to make that kind of investment only if she has a solid business plan whereby I can get reasonable ROI. She would be a business partner, not just a sugar baby. Otherwise, the tax consequence of gifting that much alone would be in the six-figures.

  190. Zack says:

    As an pot-sd, if I were hoping to mentor, as well…would I look for LouB or combat boots? Maybe both in a handbag and athletic shoes, lol.

    Elaine had some thoughts. Maybe there are other sb’s into fashion? I’m not really, it seems silly. Matters to some others, though…that’s not silly; it is usable. I still think combat boots are sexy, but maybe not in the bedroom.

    @ GS: are there really that many pot-live in sb’s in London, or are they all scammers? I really dk. Are nanny’s for real? Are American SB’s mostly escorts and the rest of the world different?

    new-SB’s: “I do love the flirty stages before you’ve gotten neked with someone you’re interested in. Lots of silly, naughty snap chatting took place last night. ”
    —please notice, this is how and when she negotiates intimacy and sugar….

  191. DarkHorseSD says:

    Eloquence, we were just trying to buy a handbag at Saks.

  192. DarkHorseSD says:

    Josh, some posts around the evening of Feb 21, though I couldn’t find the one where you wrote something like ‘this is women’s logic…’

  193. Eloquence says:

    @ Josh & @ DarkHorse & All

    What defines “Luxury” in your point of view?

    The looks of the women? The attitude of the women? How the women make you feel and add value to your life? How often the women make you feel “satisfied & then some” sexually? Are women less of a “woman” if they do not have a high price tag to aquire or is it sexier for the man to take an “average” (again, all in perception) woman and raising her to a higher standard so you know without a doubt she will “come back to daddy” because no man to date has invested as you and therefore you have given her an acquired taste to which only you have the cure? … You know.. the sugar you salivate over, cannot put down, or stop licking as you watch it magically turn to liquid dissolving on your tongue as you savor the flavor in ectasy.. mmmmmm.. (Trying to see through the fog of my breath as I stare, through the window which I’m plastered to, glossy eyed at the sweet treats beckoning)… How many flavors are there?

  194. gentle(man)soul says:

    @aliceS:

    “I have a question for SD’S here. If you send a wink, to your Pot SB. What are yours expectations, if any. And if you use winks at all.”

    Hi Gang ,how’s it swinging today ?

    Winks I like getting and will respond if I like what I see . I never send them .

    It cracks me up to receive a wink from some beauty in Monrovia or the Ukraine –or even Las Vegas. Seriously ? I’m 3000 miles away and am not a traveling man so I erase them . I guess some of you will ship a SB in so maybe it is not folly on the part of the Pot SB .

  195. SugarySpicey says:

    Hey Franky welcome back! I see sugar still has you erupting.

  196. Zack says:

    One recognizes the gentleman from recent past :)

  197. frank says:

    Hey everybody! Been trying to catch up on the blog.

    I used to post here some time ago, but haven’t posted in awhile.

    Lets see if my avatar is still working.

  198. aliceS says:

    Well I’d love to still have some of Herve Leger dresses and pretty shoes from Louboutin :) if anyone would liked to send me a gift, please pick up from those two. :)

  199. Josh says:

    If I am not mistaken SA used to have a $20,000+ per month category, yes?

  200. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD

    “The luxury industry is tapping into Giffen principles to raise revenues and units – perhaps. Are they in tune with the famous “women’s logic” coined by our own blog researcher, Josh?”

    I plead not guilty, and preserve all remedies available to me in a pertinent court of law. LOL!

    By the way, are you referring to any specific post of mine?

  201. DarkHorseSD says:

    Is luxury in trouble? Yesterday I was in Saks with my current favorite lady returning a blouse whose original price tag was just shy of $2,400. McQueen or some such. It was nothing but a puffy pirate shirt reminiscent of that Seinfeld episode.

    This morning’s Wall Street Journal has an article questioning the luxury industry. Chanel handbag up 70%, Cartier bracelet 48% in 5 years. One sad woman is down to 3 pair of Jimmy Choos a year from 4-5. A Tennessee woman didn’t buy her usual Prada bag on her annual NYC shopping trip. Where is sugar to the rescue?

    Production costs are up a lot, but not like the prices. Is the dollar just not the dollar? The luxury industry is tapping into Giffen principles to raise revenues and units – perhaps. Are they in tune with the famous “women’s logic” coined by our own blog researcher, Josh?

    What are the consequences for the sugar world? Do allowances need to keep pace? Should SA raise their categories 10%,25% or more to compensate? Should SA create a new category, perhaps “luxury?”

  202. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – Congrats! Super fun to have three potential guys in your life.

    Alice – you can disable the option to wink, then they’ll have to come up with at least a sentence or two.

    The one I hate: the request to view your private photos without even a “Hi, my name is Joe.” Included. They’re private because I don’t share them with strangers.

    Speaking of pics. I do love the flirty stages before you’ve gotten neked with someone you’re interested in. Lots of silly, naughty snap chatting took place last night. Meeeooowwww!

  203. onyx_percula says:

    @ aliceS — If I wink I want a acknowledgement of potential interest on her part, wink back, set as a favorite or send message. No response = no interest, move on.

    If I wink its rare, but will do it if 1) I’m busy and don’t have time right then to write a message or 2) Her profile is so light on content there is nothing to really start a conversation about, other than the obvious pickup line type messages which I hate sending.

  204. Josh says:

    @DHSD

    The East European women are pretty smart. They learn the “market price” pretty quickly and adopt. 😉

  205. Josh says:

    @aliceS:

    “I have a question for SD’S here. If you send a wink, to your Pot SB. What are yours expectations, if any. And if you use winks at all.”

    I used to send winks. I don’t anymore. I used to comment on thier pix. I don’t anymore. What gets me better response is when I comment on their profiles.

    I think it has to do with the fact that they are used to hearing the beauty compliment all the time but they have heard about their writing skills less often.

    If it is detailed I comment on it. If it is brief the it is “short and sweetn just the way I like it”. 😉

    The best situation for me has been when SBs contact me and tell me that “you’re handsome” or something like that. They are interested in me and they are more flexible with the allowance and formalities.

  206. Zack says:

    I liked the point about visas :D. I would like to ask…anyone helped with a visa, and is there any down side?

  207. aliceS says:

    I think after all what happened in Ukraine, hot chick’s as you say, will very lower the price of the sugaring. But it should raise up again, once they taste it, on the Americas land. Or its just me?

  208. DarkHorseSD says:

    Alice wrote: “@DarkHorse I’m a USA in it. I have my opinion, I said it, but I’m not rushing for help”

    Ukraine’s number one export to the U.S. is hot chics, especially in NYC. With the Russians scooping up so many for themselves, will the price of sugar rise significantly here? Or will what’s left of Ukraine be so poor, anti-Semitic, etc. that the U.S. will open up Visas and sugar prices will collapse?

  209. DarkHorseSD says:

    When I sent you the wink, I expected you would read my smashingly awesome profile carefully in its entirety and write back a detailed response including all the reasons why you would be wonderful for me.

  210. DarkHorseSD says:

    I sent you a wink because your profile wasn’t worth bothering to write something or it had nothing to write about or I was so tired at the moment I couldn’t write anything.

    If you get a lot of winks, fix your profile.

  211. aliceS says:

    I have a question for SD’S here. If you send a wink, to your Pot SB. What are yours expectations, if any. And if you use winks at all.

  212. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll lucky you!!! We will cross our fingers for you :) I probably will have a date as well on Tuesday or Friday. Not sure both gentleman’s are quite quiet. Hm..

  213. Sugardoll says:

    @Sugary @alice

    Date 1, lunch, then movies, then coffee, hold hands at the movie, and tiny little kiss goddbye…no future date plans for now. And me not like it,

    Date 2, SD..29yrs old, blonde, blue eyes, dinner, drinks, then kissing, like for 2-3 hours,got pulled over by police,cuz one neighbor was envy she was not getting kisses in the backseat lol… no ticket… POT SD for SB/GF asked me if i wanted to have a BF or someone who help me out…I told him Both, he said ok. cuz I really like you, Not future date set but we talk everyday so maybe will be soon,

    My First SD just text me today to see me during the week, awesome! crazy to see him…

    Got text from 2 other POT;’S pending for 1rst date. lol

  214. Zack says:

    Any Russian or Ukrainian Sb;s on? Talk about problems with -ex’s :/

  215. S.doll says:

    @Sugary @alice

    Date 1, lunch, then movies, then coffee, hold hands at the movie, and tiny little kiss goddbye…no future date plans for now. And me not like it,

    Date 2, SD..29yrs old, blonde, blue eyes, dinner, drinks, then kissing, like for 2-3 hours,got pulled over by police,cuz one neighbor was envy she was not getting kisses in the backseat lol… no ticket… POT SD for SB/GF asked me if i wanted to have a BF or someone who help me out…I told him Both, he said ok. cuz I really like you, Not future date set but we talk everyday so maybe will be soon,

    My First SD just text me today to see me during the week, awesome! crazy to see him…

    Got text from 2 other POT;’S pending for 1rst date. lol…

  216. aliceS says:

    @DarkHorse I’m a USA in it. I have my opinion, I said it, but I’m not rushing for help :)

  217. flyR says:

    Eloquence – truly eloquent

  218. Eloquence says:

    What “fruit” do we bring to the table?

    In our daily words and in sugar?

    “You are the Apple of me eye!”

    “Eat an Apple a day to keep the doctor away!”

    “You are as sweet as Apple pie!”

    “An Apple a day will keep anyone away…if thrown hard enough!”

  219. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD

    “Find something really cool.”

    I am not an avatar kinda guy, but I will keep looking. :)

  220. Josh says:

    @flyR:

    “SS I assume you understood that the wagons comment was not related to the SM comment.”

    Ah, I marvel the submissiveness. 😉

    “@SugarySpicey @Flyer – I never thought it did, you’ve always been quite a gentleman to all the women on the blog, even when you’ve disagreed with me.”

    See mama forgave you, you naughty boy. 😉

  221. SugarySpicey says:

    Flyer – I never thought it did, you’ve always been quite a gentleman to all the women on the blog, even when you’ve disagreed with me.

  222. DarkHorseSD says:

    Josh, I posted a not very good suggestion for the avatar before you found one, but the blog messed with it.

    The avatar you chose doesn’t suit you. Find something really cool. I came across mine just by luck.

  223. flyR says:

    SS I assume you understood that the wagons comment was not related to the SM comment.

  224. Zack says:

    4 Josh, enjoy, monkeyboy:

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rnf4v5mqHes

  225. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD

    “The blog is messing with my suggestion for Josh’s avatar, but it wasn’t such a good one.”

    If you don’t like my current one let me know where I can fine one as cool as yours?

  226. DarkHorseSD says:

    The blog is messing with my suggestion for Josh’s avatar, but it wasn’t such a good one.

  227. Josh says:

    @Zack: Shouldn’t you be searching for some YouTube videos for Sugary?

  228. Josh says:

    OK. Now check my avatar. Isn’t she beautiful? 😉

    @Sugary: You look pretty cool either on the High Road or what you promised the boys.

  229. SugarySpicey says:

    Okay – Mate – So long as it is clear, and open that when given the opportunity to validate your identity to ME, who would know your voice, or to reconcile misunderstandings, or prove you are just a normal man you declined.

    Back to my previously scheduled route: The High Road.

  230. Zack says:

    Josh, you could start your own blog. Despite your attribution for such earlier, you are the one ruining this blog presently. Sorry.

  231. Josh says:

    I think we can “connect as humans” here or through email or through phone or in person. I just choose to use a medium which is more record-able as to what was said by whom. Don’t insist on phone call. It is not happening. Sorry.

    “Wouldn’t you like to hear me eat my words as to your validity, humanity, and lack if Pirate-or-Pirate-related affiliation?”

    No I don’t get any satisfaction in hearing anyone eating their words in private, as long as you denounce that in public, I am fine.

    Again I have NO intention of harming you AT ALL. You are just too paranoid. I am just messing with SugarySpicey, the literary character, as DarkHorseSD would say.

    Please go back to what you promised the boys.

  232. DarkHorseSD says:

    Josh could use one of those post plastic surgery photos of Victoria Principal. Going back to the last blog topic, that is just awful.

  233. SugarySpicey says:

    Josh – darling, I would openly, broadly, and meekly announce my wrongs in accusing you were you to have a telephone conversation with me where we could each hear each other’s voices and connect as humans.

    Wouldn’t you like to hear me eat my words as to your validity, humanity, and lack if Pirate-or-Pirate-related affiliation?

    I say that of course, tongue-IN-cheek.

  234. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey:

    “So, you refuse to have a telephone conversation with me, where we can each explain ourselves and eliminate this inexplicable misunderstanding? Hear each other as humans and try to come to an understanding?”

    OK. I relent. You may send me an email and we can have an email conversation if you want so that I have a proof as to what I said and what you said. I WILL NOT talk to you on phone because you have very wild and over-active imagination.

    “Although many bloggers have commented that it is bad form for one to do so, no other blogger but you has ever commented that they will post a picture or name of another blogger. Yet you say that your announcement of intention to so isn’t a threat?”

    Have you ever heard the expression “tongue and cheek”, sweetheart? 😉 That’s what it is.

    As I submit this post, I am looking at pictures of gorgeous women to use as my avatar. If sweetie can use a man’s picture, then I can use a woman’s picture, yes?

  235. SugarySpicey says:

    So, you refuse to have a telephone conversation with me, where we can each explain ourselves and eliminate this inexplicable misunderstanding? Hear each other as humans and try to come to an understanding?

    Although many bloggers have commented that it is bad form for one to do so, no other blogger but you has ever commented that they will post a picture or name of another blogger. Yet you say that your announcement of intention to so isn’t a threat?

  236. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey:

    There is NO threat sweetheart. You keep on harping that I am threatening you. You are just too paranoid. I have NO intention to harm you, the real person.

    I just like to mess with the literary character SugarySpicey, the same way some other bloggers do. They have no intention to harm you either.

    I have NO intention to email you or talk to you. You have very wild and over-active imagination. God knows what you will make up that I told you over the phone.;)

    Now go back to what you were promising to do to entertain them boys. 😉

  237. SugarySpicey says:

    Josh – let’s have a telephone conversation. That last threat was one too far don’t you think?

    Clearly we have such an egregious misunderstanding you wish me ill (personally) – my part in which I’ll resolve happily.

    Email me a number to call you at.

  238. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD:

    “Josh, whatever the ratios are, the whole thing can be an exhausting pain in the neck.”

    I agree with you, but the returning SBs keep telling me that they come back to me because I am not a “weirdo” so there is some truth to T’s assertion. But forget it. I am getting more sugar than I need, and that’s what I care about. 😉

    “Can you find an avatar as awesome as mine?”

    I can try. Maybe, taking cue from sweetie, and to throw people off, I feel like using a woman’s picture as my avatar. If I dug deeper, I may be able to find Sugary’s picture somewhere to use as my avatar, or maybe her book cover?

  239. Zack says:

    Victoria Beckham is not a front runner? Odd.

  240. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey: Now you are talking!!!

    Boys, have at it. She is not my type regardless of what she promises to do. 😉

  241. DarkHorseSD says:

    Josh, whatever the ratios are, the whole thing can be an exhausting pain in the neck.

    Can you find an avatar as awesome as mine?

  242. Zack says:

    Sorry, too much of a nerd to write dirty…it comes out…technical, lol.

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=JAADY9jdiDo

    Ladies first? Wait, who had the Heffner place. Anyway, where’s the muse for eloquence when you could use her, lol.

  243. SugarySpicey says:

    What would be the perfect breast for our “Spicey” to have? I’m more of a nipple fan myself, a beautiful soft light pink peak? Tipped and hard, surrounded by silky soft skin with a couple of scattered freckles and a pinkish blush from years spent in the sun?

    But what do you think our audience will prefer?

  244. SugarySpicey says:

    Zack – wanna play? Since I’m apparently a literary character, let’s make me gooooood and really, really bad. 😉

  245. Zack says:

    Let the games begin? Is this a to be continued?

  246. SugarySpicey says:

    Okay Softi – Not my kink but I’ll play along 😉

    <

    Spicey (Whispering): It’s not my kink, but I’ll play along. (Backs up, placing breasts in face, sliding her pelvis along his) Yes, I’ve been a very bad troll. Do you want to take me to your soft bridge to punish me for being such an impertinent brat?”

  247. DarkHorseSD says:

    Alice, are you Ukraine or Russia in the scenario?

  248. Josh says:

    That wasn’t me. I have no problem getting laid and I agree that most women don’t have any problem getting laid.

    However, on March 1, 2014 at 10:35 pm the literary character SugarySpicey asserted, “the damn universe doesn’t want me to get laid.”

  249. Josh says:

    “the damn universe doesn’t want me to get laid.”

  250. SugarySpicey says:

    Flyr – Sugar mama’s exist, but they want you to service their Hydrangeas, Volvos, and pool filters, pretty much all women can get their vaginas serviced sugar free. 😉

  251. flyR says:

    Re Sugar Mamas – Of course they are real, just like balanced national budget is real but only in theory

    I’ll try again with a little bit of Down East wisdom

    EMPTY WAGONS MAKE THE MOST NOISE

  252. Josh says:

    Hmmm. SA alludes that there is 1:10 SD to SB ratio on the site.

    If “most” of the SDs are unfortunately behaving as T indicated above, then the respectful and “real” SDs have even better SD to SB ratio to work with. 😉

    If 50% of the SDs are behaving badly, then every real SD has 20 SBs to choose from.

    And if 90% of the SDs are behaving badly, then each real SDs has 100 SBs to chose from.

    I seek DarkHorseSD, Gentle and FBSD’s input here

    From the selfish real SD point of view, if I am not doing any of the above to my pot SBs, then is it “good” that many SDs are behaving badly, and leaving more SBs for me to choose from?

    Or

    Would it be better that other SDs stop behaving badly and I have less SBs to choose from?

    Or

    Majority of SDs behaving badly is a myth?

  253. aliceS says:

    Yes I read that. Thanks a lot btw. I saw your previous post about it. Indeed, it seems very realistic, honest and it will help a lot, with picking up an SD.

  254. SugarySpicey says:

    Jj – good to see you again, you haven’t posted in a few weeks, how’s sugar treating you? No worries here, the high road is traffic free.

  255. Josh says:

    T posted this in the previous thread. It is pretty interesting. I was hoping that she (I am assuming based on the context of the text) would re-post it herself.
    —————————————————————————————————–
    T. says:
    March 2, 2014 at 3:10 am
    @Josh A lot of creepers don’t reveal themselves in that first email. Maybe 5-10% do, or at least hint ant what’s to come, if they’re not quickly blocked.

    The majority… no, the overwhelming majority show their true nature later. You send a few messages back and forth, then he really wants to meet you, but the pics just don’t show him what he’s getting, so he needs vag shots or at least clear, full-length nudes. Or he thinks the pics are fakes, and really needs a few nudes with face to know you’re a real SB. These people aren’t the majority.

    There are Pot SDs who make plans, and then don’t show… but they text/email creepy messages about how sexy the SB looked, and describe her outfit, showing that they were there. There aren’t many of these, but it does happen.
    This falls into the larger category of Pot SDs who aren’t after sex or X-rated pics, but they want to play head games. More of these exist, but they’re still not the majority.

    Some send dick pics, but fewer of those guys here than on other Sugar Dating sites.

    The majority of creepy SDs show themselves to be creepy in person, on the phone/txt, or while making plans. They want to know graphic details of sex acts, not just if you’re cool with oral or threesomes, but what is essentially free phone sex or naughty emails. They demand an audition. They suddenly change plans, and want you to meet in their hotel room or home instead of the restaurant where you were originally going. They want to pick you up,and get angry or cancel plans when you say that you’ll drive yourself to a first date. They ask you to wear a particular type of lingerie under your clothing, and become pushy or beg if you try to be polite by changing the subject. They don’t just ask bra size, or if you’re enhanced, but detailed questions about genitalia, like how inner labia look. They tell you that they normally offer an allowance of $XXXX, but because you won’t send them nude pics, they’ll only give $XXX, regardless of how in-person chemistry and attraction are, because you refused to send pictures. They tell you that you’re not anywhere as hot as the other SB they’re considering, but she was only mediocre in bed, and maybe they can be persuaded to choose you over her if you put out… pre-allowance of course. They want to have an arrangement with you, and you’re amazing, but the want to do the deed tonight, and their wallet was stolen and they’re still waiting for replacement cards, but they’re good for for the allowance… look at the pricey meal they just bought you both. They tell you that you’ll go on a dream vacation together, shopping trips, etc… but only after they know you’re sexually compatible. You’re very pretty, but they only spoil *deserving* SBs, and you haven’t “earned” your allowance yet. The other girls here are “hookers” and “greedy bitches” only gold-digging for cash, and doing something together… not full-on sex but maybe a blowjob and fooling around, would help him to know that you’re a real SB and not just another whore after his hard-earned money.

    On-site, they ask common questions, talk about their most recent lavish vacation or golf game. They seem stable and nice, flirty yet respectful, but once it goes off-site, they get creepy. I thinks that’s how so many get away with it, because SA can only enforce what happens on here.

    Flyr: I’ve turned down a number of invites because I’m not going to fly somewhere and stay at the house of some guy I’ve never met. He needs to book a hotel in my name, and place tickets in my name, or do something like send over enough rewards or frequent flyer points so I can personally do that. It doesn’t have to be a luxury resort, but a clean business class hotel in a nice area will work.

    Creepy guys think in terms of how to bully or pressure women for sex, even if no physical force is used. Real SDs know that treating a woman well will probably lead to sex.

  256. aliceS says:

    Hi Josh, well I’m pretty scared now to post anything. It is very confusing nowadays on a blog. We have similar situation like Ukraine with Russia. All heavy guns are pulled out, but nobody shoots yet :) but thank you for asking. Yesterday some interesting person emailed me. Actually 4. I hope at least one of those are real and serious.

  257. Josh says:

    @aliceS:

    Hello Alice, how are you today, sweetheart? :)

    “Sugardoll, honey. How was your dates? I’m waiting for some updates from you. :)”

    Me eagarly waiting to. 😉

  258. Josh says:

    @Jj

    I don’t think you have much to say so you just assumed that since a few people chose to attack me you can fit right in by posting your first message as an attack. Take a number…yawn!

    Also, you might want to introduce yourself since any/many of us have not seen you before. My sock puppet alert is already gone up. 😉

    By the way, are you a regular SB or a regular SD or SD looking for dominatrix, SB looking for submissive or whatever the heck you are into.

    Don’t pretend that you can write balanced unisex posts, which you cannot. There are at least a couple of posters here who write like that, are annoying and I pretty much ignore their posts.

  259. aliceS says:

    Hi Jj I never saw you here before. I’m Alice :)

  260. Jj says:

    Nuf said already!!!

  261. Josh says:

    @Jj: When you say something interesting I will respond. Until then, yawn!

    Sock puppet alert!!! 😉

  262. Jj says:

    @Josh: Think you need to take that last one back to class and see if the teacher can offer some assistance; kinda sucks!! BTW: when is it you are allowed out of the gma’s basement; you need some serious fresh air!!!

  263. aliceS says:

    Sugardoll, honey. How was your dates? I’m waiting for some updates from you. :)

  264. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey:

    Awww, I didn’t think you would ask to be educated into specifics, while Zack searches for a YouTube video, here are the specifics based on the 4 scenarios above:

    There is NO entitlement in #1. Sugary deserved at least Loubs, if not both Loubs and Spazzolato. As long as she continues to work with honorable men, she would be earning six figure income in no time. Again, there is NO entitlement when you demand what you rightfully deserve.

    There is NO entitlement in #2 either. She deserved her Loubs, but since she continues to date weirdos, she was cheated out of Loubs. In this case she is rightfully “entitled” to have negative opinion of men. If she were are responsible woman, she would have negative opinion for only the weirdo men she chose to date. But knowing this literary characters propensity for drama, she would prefer to blame ALL MEN.

    #3 is an example of the entitlement behavior whereas Sugary was not only not “entitled” to the Loubs, but also she was rightfully shown the door. If she goes around and complains about men, then she is showing an “entitlement” behavior still.

    However, if she ups her abilities to give head the next time over and does provide the best head west of Colorado River, then she transformed herself from the wrongfully feeling “entitled” to rightfully deserving what she demands from men. She still needs to date honorable women to get rewarded with what she is rightfully entitled to.

    #4 is another example of the entitlement behavior. Since Sugary was able to con a gentleman once, she is going to try to con more men; sometimes successfully and other times, oh well…

    There…

    Those are more specifics than Zack could ever communicate through one or more videos. 😉

  265. Jj says:

    @Kindred; Agree, indeed. Not only negative, but more enamored within their own prose than to make any substantial contribution other than to rant. There are more creative methods of communicating one’s point and I wish they would leave it at the “creative writing class”. Would have thought that Guru would have stepped in to retain decorum to insure the blog does spiral into oblivion as SA clients do monitor the blog for inputs and not the constant bicker.

  266. SugarySpicey says:

    Zack – as I do like to learn and grow I’d love any specifics of being “entitled” if you have them?

  267. Kindred Spirit says:

    @Richard

    Sadly, I am finding more overall entertainment combined with more interesting, intellectual banter from visiting blog topics of the past. Like, several months and even years past. :) I rarely feel comfortable posting on the blog any more… Atmosphere…is more negative and argumentative than I wish to be a part of….

  268. gentle(man)soul says:

    @ALL RE: Sugar Mommies

    Are there any here ? I want one .

  269. gentle(man)soul says:

    @FatB (tuning in late for this discussion )

    ” Some would say it is the hope for an allowance that makes the SB’s act nice but I think it is more than that. ”

    $$$$$$$ the girls in my area are ready to go for PTP –and strait to the Rec room without dinner . They have been bad girls and I will send them to bed without dinner . But , They never regret it ( :

    RE: Professional SBs

    Sorry ,only the website kind here.

  270. Josh says:

    @sweetie:

    You are sooooo cute. xoxo. :)

  271. Josh says:

    @Richard:

    I did not count the number of posts by one individual and did not take my time into calculating the percentage of his/her posts compared to the total number of posts…that would be pretty silly use of my time…

    What exactly did you enjoy reading in the blog? As I see most of your past post to be pretty silly, to put it mildly. 😉

    …but one person’s “silly” may be another person’s “profound”, yes?

    Do you have anything profound/interesting to say, Richard? If you do, then say it. Start the trend…and have others follow…who is stopping you? 😉

    But if you are worried that your profound may look silly if someone questioned you on your profound/silly thoughts, then you decide if you want to post or stay in the sidelines.

  272. FatBastardSD says:

    “351 posts on this blog topic. 74 by one individual (21%). I used to enjoy reading the blog and contributing my thoughts, but the signal to noise ratio has dropped too far. :(

    Don’t feed the troll!”

    I disagree, we should encourage PriceySpicey to post more often.

  273. sweetie says:

    The troll feeds himself. Even non-engaged.

  274. Richard says:

    351 posts on this blog topic. 74 by one individual (21%). I used to enjoy reading the blog and contributing my thoughts, but the signal to noise ratio has dropped too far. :(

    Don’t feed the troll!

  275. Zack says:

    I think it’s about right.

    Next topic? 😛

  276. Josh says:

    SugarySpicey says:

    ‘I think men use the word entitled to demean women when in truth it just means, “She knows what she likes.”’

    It does not matter what you “think” what matters is what you are able to physically “get” from men.

    Men don’t go around demeaning women. Men LOVE women EXCEPT certain kind of women. The literary character SugarySpicey is one of them. 😉

    This is what “entitled” means in terms of any kind of “relationship” between a man and a woman.

    In the fantasy world,

    Sugary to Surgeon: “If you want me to give you a head, you will have to buy me a pair of Loubs.”

    Even though Surgeon can buy her ten pairs if he wanted to, he knows that he can get head ten times elsewhere with the same amount of money. He opens his eyes wide…

    Surgeon: “Why do you feel so ‘entitled’?”

    Sugary: “Because I give the best head the west of Colorado River.”

    Surgeon: “Prove it.”

    Depending on the dynamics of the situation, either Sugary gives head first and Surgeon buys the Loubs afterwards, or vice versa, but knowing Sugary’s hate for all men she will demand the Loubs first. The Surgeon buys the Loubs, Sugary puts them on and gives him head.

    NOW…

    1. If Sugary did give him the best head west of Colorado AND the Surgeon were an honorable character, he will reward her with a Spazzolato handbag and they will live happily ever after as an NSA couple.

    2. If Sugary did give him the best head west of Colorado AND the Surgeon were a weirdo, as most romantic encounters in Sugary’s life are, he would cheat her and tell her, “You f***ing b***h you lied to me, I could get that kind of head for $100 any day, anywhere, now give me those Loubs back.” Sugary will then come back crying and telling the whole world that “ALL MEN are liars, cheaters and thieves, and that they demean women.”

    3. If Sugary DID NOT give him the best head west of Colorado AND the Surgeon were a weirdo, as most romantic encounters in Sugary’s life are, he will rightfully tell her, “You f***ing b***h you lied to me, I could get that kind of head for $100 any day, anywhere, now give me those Loubs back.” Sugary will then come back crying and telling the whole world that “ALL MEN are liars, cheaters and thieves, and that they demean women.”

    4. If Sugary DID NOT give him the best head west of Colorado AND the Surgeon is an honorable character, he will cut his losses, thank her and send her home. Sugary will put him on the “friend” list for the rest of her life waiting…waiting…waiting.

    If there is any interest, I will write my further assessment of the four scenarios. If not, so be it… 😉

  277. Zack says:

    Umm, sorry. I was talking to SS’s..
    ———-
    A pejorative[1] (also term of abuse or derogatory term) is a word or grammatical form of expression that expresses contempt, criticism, hostility, disregard and/or disrespect. A term can be regarded as pejorative in some social or cultural groups but not in others, e.g., hacker is a term used for computer criminals as well as quick and clever computer experts. Sometimes, a term may begin as a pejorative and eventually be adopted in a non-pejorative sense in some or all contexts, e.g., “punk” or “dude”. In historical linguistics, this phenomenon is known as melioration, or amelioration, reclaiming, or semantic change.[2]
    Name slurs can also involve an insulting or disparaging innuendo,[3] rather than being a direct derogatory remark. In some cases, a person’s name can be redefined with an unpleasant or insulting meaning, or applied to a group of people considered by the majority to be inferior or lower in social class, as a group label with a disparaging meaning. Also, an ethnic slur or racial slur can be used as a pejorative to imply people of those groups are inferior or deficient.

  278. Zack says:

    Sugary. You label and dismiss some things that do make a difference. It raises yellow flags in readers, sometimes…and sets off some…(does that seem a fair summary, or too narrow?)

    “Entitled” is definitely a pejorative, sorry lol. I actually hold deserve/earn distinction from the blog a while in my head for “fair” early meets. Well, my version 😛 It doesn’t always show, lol. Does that fit you?

  279. Josh says:

    @Zack

    You seem to enjoy the utter nonsense Sugary invents. Yawn! That’s why various kinds of literary genres exist. I believe in freedom of expression/choice, and to each is own.

    I’d much rather read what our other more interesting SBs write about the real happenings in the real sugar space. One of them, T, just posted on the last blog article at March 2, 2014 at 3:10 am

    I hope she re-posts here.

  280. SugarySpicey says:

    Zack – I think you mistake what you call “entitled” for knowing what I’m interested in. And I prefer big swinging dicks (metaphorically speaking, I’m a tiny girl penis size doesn’t matter to me, lol).

    Just as some men prefer blondes or DD’s I prefer successful men. I don’t think I’m “entitled” to anything other than a sexual partner who is as giving in bed as I am.

    The rest is just the sugar game. Why would I meet someone on a sugar site and although they’ve declared they will provide X say, “Nah, I’d rather X-Y. Just because the X isn’t going to pay off tuition.”

    I think men use the word entitled to demean women when in truth it just means, “She knows what she likes.”

    Because you prefer attractive women does that make you entitled?

  281. aliceS says:

    Wow. Thanks a lot. Then I am looking for a POTential partner that doesn’t smoke POT. Or others bonuses.

  282. DarkHorseSD says:

    @Josh

    Then there is the literary character known as SugarySpicey who may have obtained medical POT.

  283. DarkHorseSD says:

    Next thing we know, ATM will be calling the literary character known as SugarySpicey “PriceySurgery”

  284. Josh says:

    From the SB point of view POT means that SD is smoking pot and will agree with anything she suggests.

    From the SD point of view POT means that SB is smoking pot and will agree with anything he suggests.

    Or maybe it is as simple as short for POTential, as in potential SB/SD 😉

  285. Zack says:

    Alice: “Potential-” SD, SB…or just “pot”. Also, I love the video you linked. Do pot-sd’s find you “unsettling.”

    Josh, if you strip out trying to score points here,.. Sugary is transitioning (or playing at,.. “games” as scenarios for learning work.) off some of the things you criticize…if you can talk about her changes as a person, there’s really is a lot of beauty and useful information there.

    How that entitled attitude shows will be interesting to watch. I think she casually shifts huge emotional and expectation burdens onto gentlemen for fun. Sometimes she might realize it, but flippancy at that point…well, I think it’ll sink her efforts.

    But I don’t know. I’m new. She’s not. I’m learning…I try not to get hung up on my guesses too much. 😛

  286. KatPaw says:

    @aliceS POT=potential

  287. aliceS says:

    Good evening all. What does that POT mean? I’m confused

  288. Josh says:

    @Zack

    “Oh, this’ll be fun…no sugar, just normal bf/gf? Heh…gentlemen? Is sugary just upping her game?”

    To me whatever Sugary writes is a game whether inventing Josh = Pirate or inventing sturgeon and everything around it. You seem to enjoy it, and I believe in “to each is own.” Yawn!

  289. Zack says:

    Oh, this’ll be fun…no sugar, just normal bf/gf? Heh…gentlemen? Is sugary just upping her game?

    XO

  290. SugarySpicey says:

    Zack – this would not be a sugar relationship, I’m done with that and it would be too intimidating for him.

  291. Zack says:

    SS: Perhaps you could plan his seduction here? Do you wait until after sugar to begin that?
    //www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=BwA_ar7_qUw

  292. SugarySpicey says:

    Flyr – he’s too in his head. Thinks sex = commitment, love, a plan for a future, etc. a lot of men like that where I live. The religious culture demands it. And he’s been married/ monogamous for 20 years, afraid to take the first step in his new single life.

  293. SugarySpicey says:

    On-xy – the venue was definitely NOT conducive to romance. But he’s also one of those men that needs to set the tone, me suggesting a home cooked meal would scare him.

    Next time he asks to get together (could be two weeks, two months, or a year at his pace) I’ll try to guide him to a more quiet, private venue that could at least make touching possible.

    The most action on this date was him palapatating this benign tumor I have behind my ear that his friend will be removing for me, once I get over my surgery phobia – super hot, I’m sure he could hardly control himself.

  294. DarkHorseSD says:

    Here’s sugar in your eye.

  295. flyR says:

    @SS

    My guess is that he was too intimidated to ask for the order…….. Fear of rejection

    Suggest next dinner at a place that has finger foods….

  296. onyx_percula says:

    @ Spicey — Hmmm… Maybe a more private setting would prove fruitful? Maybe a nice home cooked dinner?

  297. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – he’s the type who definitely needs to make the first move, and I’m the type who’d rather wait until he does.

  298. Sugardoll says:

    @Ss…I know where is the action, did you forget that not always the man has to give the first step?

  299. SugarySpicey says:

    Have fun Doll!

    Doll – I’ve known him since last summer, we’ve gone out once before and have been texting ever since – he lives 4 hours away from me.

    He texted this morning that he wants to have intense, passionate sex … all brave behind the phone, where’s the action!

  300. Sugardoll says:

    By my side, I have 2 dates today, kind of Odds, 1 is with a guy i meet on a regular dating site who wants a IRL and we have been texting for 4-5 months, and the other one its a POT but hes not sure if he wants an IRL or an arrangement,and we have been texting for like 1 month, so we meeting as “friends” even when he says he wants to do dirty things with my body lmao!! So, not sugar until he makes sure what is going to happen. (he is really hot, so im the one who will have to hold myself not to jump on him lmao)

  301. DarkHorseSD says:

    The sturgeon, having gotten a lox of her hair, drove home alone in his Nova.

  302. Sugardoll says:

    @Ss
    Well that was a mind fuck, but the roads were the only thing wet here tonight. Not even a good night hug. We talked until they shut the restaurant. He walked me to my car, played with my hair a little, then told me I was “unsettling” but it was said as a compliment?
    Get home to a text, “Couldn’t stop looking at your breasts; they looked amazing.” Never once did I even notice him perving (though thanks to VS’s finest they did look quite friendly, lol.)
    Putting him back in the friend zone – the damn universe doesn’t want me to get laid.

    ****Damn, but no, dont put him yet on the friends list, maybe he was trying to be respectful” after all it was the first date, and he didnt want to be seen as a pervert..lol…**

  303. Zack says:

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=hgI8bta-7aw

    aww, well, hope not.

  304. Zack says:

    Is that what happens when you try to mix friendship and sugarship?

  305. SugarySpicey says:

    Well that was a mind fuck, but the roads were the only thing wet here tonight. Not even a good night hug. We talked until they shut the restaurant. He walked me to my car, played with my hair a little, then told me I was “unsettling” but it was said as a compliment?

    Get home to a text, “Couldn’t stop looking at your breasts; they looked amazing.” Never once did I even notice him perving (though thanks to VS’s finest they did look quite friendly, lol.)

    Putting him back in the friend zone – the damn universe doesn’t want me to get laid.

  306. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    “I think im the only one who miss JOSH”

    Aww, you don’t have to miss mi amor, I am right here. 😉

  307. Sugardoll says:

    For all my guys out with their girls on Saturday night, I say…
    Kiss her where it smells…
    Take her to New Jersey
    – George Carlin

    I dont know what you mean to say with that, but im In New Jersey, and it smells pretty good over here… lmao!! well its saturday and im bored!! for the haters, take it your way *** and watch me how much i care… xoxo

  308. Sugardoll says:

    ugggg……… ok now im updated, you guys just wait for me to get away my laptop to start posting…

    Professional SB’s…Yes, there are, I have one career on my profile, but i do have more than 1 and still going to school for other things.

    ***When they are new, they do look for ATM of an SD. Can’t blame them. It takes a while to get rid of the affects of Brandon Wade’s marketing machine. 😉

    WRONG ***Not looking for an ATM ** But i prefer to date a professional man or SD who can go on my same or higher lever of education and professionalism, than one who has to make tricks to get money.

    And even if im new and might go crazy with some good proposal, if they dont treat me like a decent person, there nos Sugar.

    My mother taught me how to say please and thank you…and im so serious about it that when someone request to see my pics without any introduction, i dont send it.

    Very way apart of everything going on *** I think im the only one who miss JOSH **
    Ss. Good luck and have all the fun i cant have…

  309. Principium says:

    @ Sweetie and Beach Girl: Thank you.

    @ FBSD: The sense of entitlement demographics in Cali is quite different, hence the propensity for getting more “attitude” IRL vs Sugar as you had observed. Heck, in the Hobby world, one would occasionally run into some very stunning looking (younger) women who have not yet been tainted and jaded by that prostitution business and one would attest that there’s still less attitude there vs the Sugar paradigm. So basically IRL the seller holds a much stronger bargaining position where the demand is much higher (remember when I touched upon the value of the female eggs vs the male sperms?) as opposed to the Hobby where the buyer holds the upper hand as the eggs vs sperm argument is a non-selling factor.

    Oh, on the subject of the current topic:

    Circa last March or so when I was on SA for my third and final stint, I started corresponding with an SB and everything was going great during our communication phase when I made the cardinal mistake of forwarding a photo during private email correspondences which it had both my Ex and I on the picture. In retrospect, I was too lazy and too careless to blot out the Ex. Then the feverishly exciting correspondence went to complete radio silence! The next day, she wrote back that “girl in the photo” was a friend of a friend and although she had never met me before, she knew as to who I was and she thought that we ought to keep the unfortunate incident of meeting on SA as a very private matter and best not to correspond further.

    Initially I was naturally taken back but being a firm believer that a good offense is a strong defense, I responded that, “I was actually disappointed in my Ex that she seemingly had such hoot looking friends whom she had never introduced to me!” True to form, I did get an LOL reply!

  310. Zack says:

    @ DH
    ://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g09GtnWdBjc

    @OP Still glowing?

  311. onyx_percula says:

    Professional SBs — I have seen two in my local area. One is a doctor and runs the lab systems for a major hospital in a large city, manages several sites and ~30 employees. She is a whooping 33 years old, yeah I know me with someone that old 😉 The other was my doctor before I asked her out on SA 😉 Had no idea it was her till she finally showed me her private pics, LMAO!

    Both are sane and both still wanted allowance, but prime motivator is being treated well and trying to find someone that is a peer mentally. And yes I’m still on hookup terms with both.

    @ DarkHorseSD — LOL, brings a whole new meaning to going south!

  312. MissB says:

    Maybe it should be a vote amongst the regulars? :)

  313. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD

    I am IN with my girl and since I am far away from New Jersey, I will just kiss her on her Vagina. 😉

  314. DarkHorseSD says:

    For all my guys out with their girls on Saturday night, I say…

    Kiss her where it smells…

    Take her to New Jersey

    – George Carlin

  315. Josh says:

    @sweetie says:

    “How about a little love?”

    You’re so cute, Muah! 😉

  316. Flyr says:

    @ sugary Be careful it may be wet out tonight

  317. sweetie says:

    Beach Girl, hello!

    P, hi! Nice to see you again.

    Zack, welcome to the idiot/moron club. There are more of us each day.

    Sugary, have fun!

    Josh, you’re the only one throwing insults on the blog. How about a little love?

  318. SugarySpicey says:

    You’re right Zack, this is stupid, and totally boring. I’m going to take the high road . I’m a firey type so that’s never been my preferred route but I’m an adult so I guess it’s time to try something new.

    Walking into the restaraunt now – nervous!

    Flyr – I’ll be giggling inside about gas now all night.

  319. Josh says:

    @Zack

    “@ ss, Josh No good. You guys aren’t stopping.”

    ctfu. This Sugary character continues to character assassinate me. I showed a lot of restraint. Then I tried to take it offline, and she continued to blame me of Josh = Pirate and blamed me of putting her and her children’s lives at risk.

    A pussies like you tell me to stop. Get your prescription glasses fixed, and ask her to stop, you idiotic moron.

  320. Zack says:

    @ ss, Josh No good. You guys aren’t stopping. 😛

    @ DH, Yes, I speak Demented.

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=6l1GvDWtccI

    @ FlyR, if you chose a more fitted role would be Khan, perhaps. In any case, I was waiting for the SB’s to get to half a dozen before proposing a competitive variant of selection. The role of Judge would be, well, honorable isn’t quite right, as the uniform would have to be strappy and prickly. Or at least the shoes.

    //www.bing.com/videos/search?q=frankie+goes+to+hollywood+video&FORM=VIRE15#view=detail&mid=29C454F461058538DAD729C454F461058538DAD7

    Thoughts about when and where.

  321. Josh says:

    OK. 😉

  322. Beach_Girl says:

    Hello Sugars 😀
    It’s been a while, hope everyone is good

    FBSD~ I see you are behaving and being nice 😀 a nice change! I know you are just a sweetie! lol…

    Principium~ Welcome back, I hope all is good

    it’s Saturday night and I have nothing planned… It’s cold as hell here and I rather stay in than go out there, but there is the festival of lights here this week, would of been fun if the weather would of been nice!

    What is everyone up to this weekend?

  323. DarkHorseSD says:

    Sturgeon

  324. Josh says:

    @Sugary

    “pretending you don’t know exactly what I do for a living when you spent a significant amount of time cyber stalking me and know exactly what I do – then initiated ALL of our email correspondence in order to further frighten, pry, and manipulate”

    Stop this delusion once for all. I have NO interest in your life or whereabouts. I just poke fun at your idiotic persona on the blog. Nothing more. Nothing less.

    You have no clue what you write from post to post. The proof of the pudding is in the eating. YES I did initiate the very early email correspondence because YOU asked SD Guru to give me your email to communicate off line to reduce blog clutter. I wanted to show my good faith and you blamed me of Josh = Pirate. If you are paranoid, it is not my fault. Stop hanging out with weirdos and you would be less paranoid.

    Shall I post the email as to determine who initiated ALL of our email correspondence? 😉 I really don’t want to because the bloggers see too much of your BS here already.

  325. aliceS says:

    Hm.. is there is a list, where I can check who blocked me?

  326. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD says:

    “Still ROFLMAO

    Indian. I always suspected there was something fishy about this sturgeon character.”

    Please allow me to rewrite:

    “Indian. I always suspected there was something fishy about this FANTASY surgeon character.”

  327. Josh says:

    @FBSD

    I have had very good experience on SA. Most SBs I have met on SA are not “pro”. They are just trying to extend their income streams with a man who respects them and provides for their modest needs, with some spoiling here and there.

    Last night, I took my SB to a top-named lingerie shop. At the check-out she refused the salesgirl’s up-sell with a firm no, instead of looking at me for approval. I reciprocated by reminding her to buy a piece of lingerie she had forgotten to purchase. I got her four of the same type of garment because by spending 60% more she got four items instead of one.

    When they are new, they do look for ATM of an SD. Can’t blame them. It takes a while to get rid of the affects of Brandon Wade’s marketing machine. 😉

    However, once they meet a few weirdos, they start appreciating the normal SDs who meet their financial needs and more importantly respect them as sexual companions.

    You can also see from the blog posts by SBs that they are pretty down to earth, and are trying to improve their ability to find decent SDs, again who respect them.

    I have communicated with only one Sugary-like SB who wanted to be “spoiled” like no body’s business. Needless to say that she is not my SB and I am not her SD. 😉

  328. DarkHorseSD says:

    What do you other SD’s think?

    This is your first post I couldn’t understand.

    “I will take a break from being a bastard for this one post only!”

  329. aliceS says:

    @Fatbastard* my phone changed I’m sorry

  330. aliceS says:

    Fat a stand SD why faking? If someone is nice with you, if you are a female for example. And let you feel beautiful and appreciate your company. Why, be fake? I think this what we need. To be special for someone. And automatically, that person is special for us as well. That person bring a smile on our faces, we give them the same. It’s nice to know, that we are enough, the way we are. No stressful meeting, just for pleasure of both of. SD and SB. I’m sure there is some gold diggers, but we can’t put all females to one jar. Each and every is different. And I’m sure, most SD’s that had enough brain to build up their success, aren’t an idiots. They can see a scam from a mile. If anyone disagree, please explain why.

  331. SugarySpicey says:

    Horsy – if there was something fishy, wouldn’t he be taking me to sushi?

  332. Doc says:

    @flyr. Is there more than one judge allowed? I promise to bring no bias to judging.

  333. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi – I agree with you, IF he’s being a great SD. Depends on how one defines “great” and “SD” and the perceived value of his. “SDing” to the girl he takes to Applebee’s.

    For me, personally, just as you wouldn’t want to date a girl who weighs 20 elbees more than you, I wouldn’t want to date a man with a lesser title OR salary – or even my professional peer. It just isn’t what turns me on.

  334. DarkHorseSD says:

    Still ROFLMAO

    Indian. I always suspected there was something fishy about this sturgeon character.

  335. FatBastardSD says:

    @PriceySpicey

    “BTW – There are plenty of jobs in political support, non-profits, journalism, marketing, technology, hospital administration, entertainment, fashion, the arts … where one can have a professional title, broad geographic scope, accomplishment, a demanding workload, and not make 100K.”

    Which is why a guy who has one of these jobs can use a larger amount of his discretionary income in order to be a great SD, even if he takes his SB to Appleby’s every once in a while.

    Game, set, and match to FatBastardSD.

  336. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi – I know you’ve been nasty to me today, but I’ll overlook it as you are also sometimes not. I wonder if women are putting out to you what I’ve heard called the “shit test”.

    Pretty girls make it tough on you to crack the protective outer shell, to ensure only nice or very determined guys break through. It’s a modern day survival of the fittest tactic. It doesn’t necessarily make sense to men, but there has to be some “peacocking” required or she’d sleep with everyone.

  337. SugarySpicey says:

    Anyone who’s been on the blog for longer than two weeks knows that I have a job, and my book. When I said you were stealing my livelihood, I did not say you stole my entire livelihood, only $100 this week of it and the momentum of future sales – to which you were not entitled. It does not matter how much you took from me. It doesn’t matter if you stole $2.00, the issue is that you are a stalker, a liar, and a thief.

    That is the last I will acknowledge of your obsession with me at any level. The conversation with you has become boring, the bloggies have asked us to stop, and you’re so completely delusional (pretending you don’t know exactly what I do for a living when you spent a significant amount of time cyber stalking me and know exactly what I do – then initiated ALL of our email correspondence in order to further frighten, pry, and manipulate).

    Best of luck, now go get some sugar, doll.

  338. FatBastardSD says:

    @SB’s everywhere!

    I will take a break from being a bastard for this one post only!

    Excluding the SB’s on the site looking to scam SD’s, I have met fewer crazy, entitled, and bitchy SB’s on SA than IRL. Some would say it is the hope for an allowance that makes the SB’s act nice but I think it is more than that.

    What do you other SD’s think? Am I delusional? What do you SB’s think? Are most of you faking being nice to the ATM?

  339. SunShineSD says:

    @Josh

    SB’s in professional fields do exist. I have personally dated in the sugar space law school students, medical students, engineers and scientists, including ladies who already had working experience and certifications/licenses, and were in school part time or full time getting their 2nd or 3rd degrees in the specific professional field.

    My most recent mistake was actually in choosing someone at the more entry-level to a professional field instead of another who was already more advanced/accomplished, mistakenly believing that I would be able to make a bigger difference in the life of the associate degree candidate than in the life of the Masters degree candidate, when the former was 24, and the latter was 23. Both were very intelligent and attractive. I thought the 23yo could take care of herself as she was already in the final year of her Master’s degree program, whereas for the 24yo I was giving her last chance to get her back on professional track . . . perhaps I was.

  340. Flyr says:

    @ SS “Zack – I don’t dislike Indian, just seems like the kind of cuisine reserved for when you’ve been dating long enough there’s no tension about to kiss or not to kiss at the conclusion of the evening. Post tandoori I don’t think I’ll be keen to lock lips with anyone.”

    Not to mention the high potential for gas

    Not on the top of my list of get acquainted/prelude to launch dates

  341. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi – I’ve never once implied I make 100K+. That would be nice, but I never once said it, or implied it. If you assumed it, you’re welcome to ask for clarification – which is what I have continue to encourage. If I’ve said something which caused misunderstanding I’m perfectly willing to clarify.

    BTW – There are plenty of jobs in political support, non-profits, journalism, marketing, technology, hospital administration, entertainment, fashion, the arts … where one can have a professional title, broad geographic scope, accomplishment, a demanding workload, and not make 100K.

  342. Flyr says:

    This tattoo convention is missing one critical element a judge willing to carefully examine each of the participants, leaving no molecule of ink untouched.

    raises ahh hand

  343. Flyr says:

    “Best break up discussion I’ve found that works:
    “You are a great guy, just not the one for me. Sorry it didn’t work out!”
    I follow up by hanging up the phone immediately. It usually avoids a lot of conflict!”

    What a great idea for an iPhone app You pick the number and select a personalized message for the soon to be X caller.

  344. DarkHorseSD says:

    “a 19 year-old chicken tikka masala”

    ROFLMAO lOl

  345. Josh says:

    @FatBastardSD says:

    “I make no assumptions about your income, if it is as high as you imply then let me know if you ever need a PA.”

    Sugary’s corporate job is in her fantasy-land as well. She has referred to her book sales of $100/week as her “livelihood.” 😉

  346. FatBastardSD says:

    @PriceySpicey

    I am not so extreme in my views as Josh. I have met a SB who worked in finance (in an entry level job which still has a high salary) so I know of at least one SB with a professional career. I doubt there many SB’s out there earning $100K+/year WHO USE THE SA SITE. These high income SB’s will have access to high income SD’s already and would not need the internet. I make no assumptions about your income, if it is as high as you imply then let me know if you ever need a PA.

  347. SugarySpicey says:

    Zack – I don’t dislike Indian, just seems like the kind of cuisine reserved for when you’ve been dating long enough there’s no tension about to kiss or not to kiss at the conclusion of the evening. Post tandoori I don’t think I’ll be keen to lock lips with anyone.

  348. Zack says:

    I like Indian. English cuisine, well, I’ll eat it 😛

  349. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey:

    “Hmmm, what to wear to go to Indian food with someone I like quite a lot? Doesn’t seem a little red dress sort of date.”

    Since this date exists in your fantasyland anyway, dress like chicken tikka masala. Them Indians seem to like it a lot, and you would be an instant hit.

    And don’t forget to take your fantasy id, lest they think that you were a 19 year-old chicken tikka masala and refuse to serve you the most expensive bottle of fantasy wine, which you will make this poor fantasy man buy for you.

  350. KatPaw says:

    :-) thank you aliceS!! Purrrrrrrrr

  351. Josh says:

    @FatBastardSD

    “there is no need to protect the SB’s out there, they are clever enough to figure out what is real and what is fantasy.”

    I am not trying to protect either SBs or SDs. What I suggested to Sugary was that since she does not have much experience with the allowance-based side of sugar, then she should not try to advise SBs in that space.

    And, since she has experience with battered women in real life, she should advise the SBs in the personal safety arena.

    However, based on her posts today with her hate towards half of the humankind, I totally agree with you, It is just not possible to have any productive communication with this woman.

    She lives in a fantasy world, where characters and situations appear as she sees fit. And she is here at SA–based on her own acknowledgement within the past couple of hours–as an extension of her fantasy world.

  352. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey

    “I love that not one of these men is brave enough to directly email me, or message with “When you said X, I don’t believe that was true.””

    They are wise men. Whether public or private, what your write from one post to the other is so incoherent that any kind of one-to-one “communication” with you is basically useless. I learnt it hard way.

    Please don’t send me any emails, which you send from time to time. I have NO interest in having any private communication with you. I don’t know who you are in real life, and I don’t want to know who you are either.

    I don’t like the idiotic persona you have created here, and as I responded to FBSD, I like poking fun at THIS idiotic persona. Nothing more, nothing less…

  353. aliceS says:

    Just random comment passing by. And Katpaw ‘ s tattoo are a master piece. I love ’em.

  354. Doc says:

    @katpaw Can I join in on the tattoo adventure?

  355. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey

    “Why is it so impossible for you to believe that a woman with a professional career would be on SA, or why a woman would prefer gifts and fun over cash in an envelope?”

    Sugary, I am sure that there are SBs here who have professional careers of some sort, such as, massage therapists, make-up artists, etc.

    I have no disrespect for those professions because they are hard-working women providing valuable services to the society, but need help with making the ends meet at the end of the month.

    I do not believe that higher pay-scale professional, such as, lawyers, doctors or engineers exist as SBs here. Can I say that there are zero SBs belonging to such professions? I cannot. Because both SBs and SDs sign-up here for reasons of their own.

    That said, I am 100% positive that even if there are high earning professional women here on SA, they are:

    – Either getting the kind of sugar they seek and keep things discrete, as they have a LOT to lose if something hits the fan,

    – Or they are kookoo like you who continue to get tangled up with weirdos, without any regard to their own safety or the safety of their loved ones.

  356. Zack says:

    I did notice a tattoo place next to this abandon bank lot. It must have bordered a park or something because there was this huge perfect willow with a perfect canopy and naturally manicured grass underneath that just screamed “picnic.” On the other side of the tree a forest began, with game trails leading in, and the perpetual soft breeze here kept the leaves on the willow rubbing together.

    Of course, I didn’t go in…I have no ink, and couldn’t pull off a “just shopping” alone, lol.

    Kat also knows I can’t host a conference. :/

  357. Zack says:

    That sounds like at least a solid four with a possible cameo by the major domo. So who’s got the Heffner place?

  358. Josh says:

    @FatBastardSD:

    “Avoid posting personal information, it is bad form (and avoids melodrama about you threatening someones children).”

    I did not post anything that is not readily available on the Net, based on the information Sugary posted on the Net herself. I would not dare put safety of any of the bloggers here let alone their children.

    Sugary wrote that post while she actively believed that Josh = Pirate. I don’t even know who this f***king character is. Sugary seems to have an uncanny ability to get tangled up with weirdos of one kind or the other. It is no one’s fault except hers.

    “If you just want to mess with PriceySpicey then that is fine and I encourage you to do so.”

    Isn’t she mega fun to mess around with? 😉

  359. KatPaw says:

    @Sugardoll as I said to aliceS the more the better sweetie! Feel free to email me as well!

    @MissB lol whoop whoop.. Lol

  360. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi – I do like the character you created of me, but I’ve never said any of those things you give me credit for claiming to have accomplished, so I can’t take credit for having written them.

    Why is it so impossible for you to believe that a woman with a professional career would be on SA, or why a woman would prefer gifts and fun over cash in an envelope?

  361. aliceS says:

    Example- all the wrong places.
    Sugardoll we are having tattoo reunion. If you are in, even better :)

  362. FatBastardSD says:

    @PriceySpicey

    I will wait to read the Guru’s opinion on the sock puppet issue. Vitriol? I really don’t think anything I wrote in my post is a surprise to you. :-)

    I did give you an idea of the type of stories I would like to read about on the blog in a previous post. The SD who posted about his desire to repopulate the earth was entertaining for a while but lost momentum. I am just trying to get you to expand your writing!

  363. MissB says:

    SB Tattoo Retreat?? I vote yes! :)
    Now, any SD tattoo enthusiasts willing to negotiate financing?

  364. Vixen says:

    @DHsd .. If your fascinated with psychopaths I would suggest Kevin Dutton”the wisdom of psychopaths” very interesting read. I do believe he touches bases on the reason the majority of them are men …. But I would attribute the females you encountered that fit into the same genera as just spoiled and self-centred.

  365. SugarySpicey says:

    Softi – you think for one moment that if I created sock puppet accounts Guru wouldn’t call me on it instantly? Where’d the vitriol come from all of a sudden, Footlocker having cut backs?

  366. FatBastardSD says:

    @PriceySpicey

    “I love that not one of these men is brave enough to directly email me, or message with “When you said X, I don’t believe that was true.”

    I think everyone knows that I do not believe most of what you write. I don’t even find your stories interesting which makes reading your posts a waste of time. I am not going to comment on some of the SD’s who suck up to you. On the other hand the SB sock puppets you create seem to like your posts so you must be doing something right!

    P.S.

    Your comment about women building each other up is hilarious considering the clashes you have had with other blog SB’s. Every once in a while you do write something good, I just don’t know if it’s intentionally funny or not.

  367. Sugardoll says:

    What? am i missing something…what a tattoo conference? lmao

  368. KatPaw says:

    Lmao aliceS you’re something else and I love it!! 😉
    Katiemcdstoybox at gmail.. Please feel free to email me!

  369. aliceS says:

    Woohoo, open the door, I’m coming. Should I send the message to my tattoo guy LET ME IN OR ELSE :)

  370. MissB says:

    @Alice, You’re more than welcome to join :)

  371. KatPaw says:

    @aliceS the more the merrier meow purrrrrrrr!

  372. Vixen says:

    @josh huh? … Just stating the obvious, I admire your devotion lol

  373. Sugardoll says:

    @alice … i knew i did the wrong text.. now here are my results hahaha

    Your score from primary psychopathy has been calculated as 3.1. Primary psychopathy is the affective aspects of psychopathy; a lack of empathy for other people and tolerance for antisocial orientations.

    Your score from secondary psychopathy has been calculated as 2.2. Secondary psychopathy is the antisocial aspects of psychopathy; rule breaking and a lack of effort towards socially rewarded behavior.

    With two scores, results of the LSRP are very suitable for being plotted. Below is the distribution of how other people who have taken this test have scored.

    You score for primary psychopathy was higher than 76.98% of people who have taken this test.

    You score for secondary psychopathy was higher than 34.17% of people who have taken this test.

    @Dh where do i claim my price??? lol

  374. SugarySpicey says:

    Hmmm, what to wear to go to Indian food with someone I like quite a lot? Doesn’t seem a little red dress sort of date.

  375. SugarySpicey says:

    Cunny – it’s typical man behavior.

    They’re afraid, afraid of what would happen to their precious little universe if women stopped tearing each other down and instead built each other up. They’re afraid of what would happen if they couldn’t intimidate a woman with character assassinations, and afraid of how little control they’d have if all women realized how much power women really have.

    I’m a lightning rod for attacks only from the weakest of men (the confident SDs don’t feel a need to assault me). Even Softi has toned down his rhetoric after a year+ of realizing that who I am has remained consistent. (Though he’ll always be a little miffed and contrary that I won’t give him a freebie).

    There are a number of men on the blog who disagree with me, great dialogue is fun. These men deal with enough women in and out of the sugar bowl to know that everyone’s experience will vary. It’s only the sugar Napoleons, who can only handle desperate, wife-eyed, naive “little girls” in dire circumstances that have to attack me through thin, imprecise, speculation.

    I love that not one of these men is brave enough to directly email me, or message with “When you said X, I don’t believe that was true.”

  376. aliceS says:

    Sugardoll I did it as well. It said in a first part I’m 1.7 and the second I’m a psycho in 70%. So woow, just because I didn’t saw half of their movies. :)

  377. Sugardoll says:

    I tried to do it , but after i finished i thought i had the wront test…lmao..!! i know i was stupid hahahahaaahh!!

    personality-testing.info/tests/LSRP.php

  378. aliceS says:

    Good Evening @KatPaw and @MissB I would love to join yours tattoo stress relief session :)

  379. MissB says:

    And a SD to finance it lol

  380. KatPaw says:

    @MissB I hear that darling!!! You deserve it with what’s been going on with you 😉 need to find a good artist out this way!

  381. MissB says:

    @Kat: We need to get tattoos together soon love. Both need the stress relief!

  382. SugarySpicey says:

    A brilliant woman once said, “Well-behaved women seldom make history.”

    To which I’d add, “Women who allow men to intimidate them seldom make an impression.”

  383. Euphoria says:

    Best break up discussion I’ve found that works:
    “You are a great guy, just not the one for me. Sorry it didn’t work out!”
    I follow up by hanging up the phone immediately. It usually avoids a lot of conflict!

  384. Zack says:

    @P: I wasn’t certain, particularly from your criterion mention in closing. You could have been seeking a traveling companion or just someone to talk to. Thought I’d ask, and I’m trolling for someone to talk to 😛

  385. DarkHorseSD says:

    Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind.

    Aristotle

  386. TsKate says:

    @DH lol your reply to @katpaw hilarious lol. I took the test too. Very fun :)

  387. Principium says:

    @ Melissa: Thank you and nice to cyber see you too and glad that the use of that forgotten phrased brought a giggle to you.

    @ Zack: in case you missed it, I’m completely Sugar and Hobby free. In fact, quite happily relationship free at this point. The reason? Presently, I don’t feel that I’m willing to bring much to the table in any relationship setting as I’m concentrating on myself and my own bucket list. Mentally speaking, that turning the mid century mark was a very crucial pivot for me. I suppose that my version of “mid-life crisis” turned out to be quite the opposite of others!

    @ El Bastardo Gordo:

    The abs were so 2012-2013 😉 Prici turned Five-O last summer and decided to forgo starvation and hundreds of crunches, etc per day to maintain a 4-pack that would never turn into a 6-pack that Princi once had in his glorious athletic 20’s :( Plus, strenuous exercise regimen was putting a heavier toll on my joints, lower back and knees. Henceforth I decided that should I make it to the more advance ages of 75+, I really didn’t want to be an almost cripple with need of many replacement parts! These days, I’m quite happy just taking the dogs for long walks, weekend hikes and swimming.

    in closing since my most major gripe about anything online was that the majority of people were grossly misrepresenting themselves by posting older pictures, being true to my own principles, I must adhere to the same code of conduct 😉

    @ PriceySpicey:

    Thank you for the compliments. Should we ever be in the same geographical point, from this chaps POV the sentiment still remains the same 😉 I’g glad that you seem to have taken this time to deal with the aftermath of your torrid affair with that Fella. I see that the feisty side of you is back on the blog and knowing of you perhaps a bit more intimately than others on this blog, I’d wager to say that is a very good thing for you! I know that you have a very fertile imagination but it baffles me as to why some boardies on here seem to have such major issues with it! Calling someone on their “presumed” BS is fair I suppose, but unless it affects them personally, I see the constant bombardment as nothing but the projection of self pity and self “butthurtness”. IMO, you are entitled to do and to say your own crazy things, if you will, but to make you the lightning rod of all that is claimed evil about women is just unfair. Glad that you are working on yourself and that you are figuring out that panacea type of liaisons (didn’t want to use relationship in this context) are just more damaging than taking the time for self-awareness and self assessment. Been there myself, done that too 😉

  388. Zack says:

    @DH Ok, congratulations. Were you looking for a sociopath? Given the, apparently, pop culture character of the test, there’s probably a fair number of them. Is she smart and attractive? Does she have goals? Are you going to bolt or are you interested?

    Seriously, if you’re seeking and not meeting Kat or SDoll…well, it wouldn’t be a good start for your exchange, would it? 😛

    It’s going to be an interesting summer, I hope.

  389. SugarySpicey says:

    I’m certain you answered all the questions as truthfully and accurately as you possibly could. Thank you for your armchair diagnosis, and apparently being so intrigued by me you’d dedicate part of your Saturday morning to my psychoanalysis. Now go enjoy more of those cliche affogatos.

  390. DarkHorseSD says:

    Actually I wanted to take the test on the literary character known as SugarySpicey, but didn’t know enough of the answers yet.

    There is a quiz, similar to the Cosmo ones the character bases all her thinking upon – 20 questions, answer 0,1,2 – where the number came in at 30. The unknown or uncertain answers in that quiz could only increase the score if known. Above 29 is psychopath.

  391. SugarySpicey says:

    Horsey – I can see how your obvious “respect” for your SB would bring out only the best in her.

    Taking an “are you a psychopath” quiz on someone else’s behalf, without a modicum of generosity, might be an indicator that this relationship isn’t right for you.

  392. KatPaw says:

    The problem with today’s society is that we stopped caring about eachother and became self centered. It has been the down fall of society IMO.

  393. KatPaw says:

    Lmfao no DH I just have a big heart and like to help others. I’ve taken in a single mom and her 2 kids ( one child with mental disabilities) they lived with us for almost a year. When we moved out of state we gifted the trailer to her.
    I’m a big believer in Karma and treating those how you wish to be treated. Lol a mostly Wiccan view on life.

  394. DarkHorseSD says:

    @katpaw but a psychopath would manipulate her own scores that low.

  395. DarkHorseSD says:

    ATM posted: ” Posting about how [the literary character called by ATM] PriceySpicey is full of BS will not change anything.”

    I disagree. The author is fluid enough to change the story in reaction to every post. Writing Techniques such as alternate history, uchronia, retro-futurism, and many others … Like when it was just a dream that jr was shot.

    Speaking of which, Victoria Principle would have been one fine SB, and shares her first name with Ms. Beckham.

  396. KatPaw says:

    @DH here you go lol
    The LSRP measures two scales.

    Scores range from 1 (low) to 5 (high).

    Your score from primary psychopathy has been calculated as 1.3. Primary psychopathy is the affective aspects of psychopathy; a lack of empathy for other people and tolerance for antisocial orientations.

    Your score from secondary psychopathy has been calculated as 1.9. Secondary psychopathy is the antisocial aspects of psychopathy; rule breaking and a lack of effort towards socially rewarded behavior.

    With two scores, results of the LSRP are very suitable for being plotted. Below is the distribution of how other people who have taken this test have scored.

    You score for primary psychopathy was higher than 10.51% of people who have taken this test.

    You score for secondary psychopathy was higher than 20.5% of people who have taken this test.

  397. DarkHorseSD says:

    An understanding of the psychopath is important for survival on SA. I ran my recent GF/SB through this test I came upon and she scored higher than 93% of others for both primary and secondary.

    What are your sugars scoring?

    personality-testing.info/tests/LSRP.php

  398. SugarySpicey says:

    What I should have said is: I’m no longer spending time with SugarDuds. I edited everything related to that from my life. I’m not interested in casual, NSA, or playing games in return for handbags. If I wouldn’t want to have a real relationship with someone, or if I don’t think I would eventually introduce them to my family, I don’t want them in my life.

  399. SugarySpicey says:

    Horsey – silky smooth skin and an “effortless” glow are of critical importance. Though the giggle may be a superfluous byproduct.

  400. DarkHorseSD says:

    At 5:59 blog time, the literary character known as SugarySpicey said “Now I’m focusing completely on the elements of my life that matter.”

    At 6:08 blog time, the literary character known as SugarySpicey said “Eeek! The surgeon!!”

    At 6:32 blog time, the literary character known as SugarySpicey said “I will be spending the entire day buffing, polishing, and giggling…”

  401. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – I replied, good luck! I have the reverse problem, I’m a little thinner than I’d like to be, so I’ll be pulling out bombshell bra so I can fill out my little red dress.

    I call it my magic dress, as it’s effect on men is magical, lol.

  402. Sugardoll says:

    @Sugary
    lol yeah right i wonder how you going to get all this done the same day, lmao..
    When i get a date like this same day, I dont eat all day, or i eat very light, that keep me slim for the little black dress…lmao

    Emailed you ***

  403. FatBastardSD says:

    @Principium

    Welcome back, why no picture of the abs?

    @Josh

    Principium has a point. Posting about how PriceySpicey is full of BS will not change anything. You seem to have read some of the old blog posts so you already know that quite a few SB’s agreed with your opinion on PriceySpicey as well, so there is no need to protect the SB’s out there, they are clever enough to figure out what is real and what is fantasy. If you just want to mess with PriceySpicey then that is fine and I encourage you to do so. Avoid posting personal information, it is bad form (and avoids melodrama about you threatening someones children).

  404. SugarySpicey says:

    OMG – cannot even remember the last time I was this excited about a date. I will be spending the entire day buffing, polishing, and giggling – better fit in some yoga too, I might want to be limber :)))!

  405. KatPaw says:

    Love how my phone changes words.. Tank should be thank! Lol

  406. SugarySpicey says:

    Hey Doll – you can email to my throw away account, utah Spicey at gmail.

  407. Sugardoll says:

    @Sugary ** pls let me know how i can privately contact you, need a personal advice…ASAP…

  408. Sugardoll says:

    *Everything happen for a reason *** I really need an edit / undo button here lol

  409. Sugardoll says:

    @Sugary
    I’m not hurting anymore. My head is clearer and my heart is more solid than it’s been in years. I was using sugar to escape dealing with my real life. Now I’m focusing completely on the elements of my life that matter.

    **Lovely**Girl i like your posts and advises, and we do need them…Just focus on yourself and everything to make it better, thats what matters…Dont forget that anything happen for a reason, good or bad they will always be a good lesson behind it, try to find it…and you will see everything different…for those who does not appreciate your words…remember, there are lots of more people who really care, so for those making gossip comments about you let them go with their issues lol…

  410. SugarySpicey says:

    Eeek! The surgeon!! A super sweetie SD, one I’d bang IRL without a moment’s hesitation, just emailed to ask me to dinner. Typically, I wouldn’t accept a dinner date for the same night (I’m a “Rules” girl) but he’s an interesting character and the plans I had are easily changed.

    We’d had a fun few weeks of chatter originally, an instant connection, and he’d given me a very sweet gift, but he then ended things before we went further, as he said, “My feelings for you are too strong to be dealing with while I’m also trying to keep my marriage somewhat intact.” We stayed in contact somewhat and he’s now divorcing and ready to explore more! Hopefully that “More” starts at my pink parts!!!!!

  411. KatPaw says:

    @Mellisa tank you! I love my ink as well. ( ok tattoo on tummy bad idea if you ever plan to have kids!!) my first tattoo was on my tummy at hip line.. After pregnancy it no longer looked like a crescent moon but a very sick and messed up C. Lol now if no plans for kiddos hey! Lol to me something about being tattooed is a major stress relief.. And very much addicted lol

  412. SugarySpicey says:

    Hello Lady – they pop in from time to time. Heading to the UK myself next week. Looking forward to seeing the greener side of the pond.

  413. SugarySpicey says:

    @Cunny – hello darling, missed you on the blog thanks for stopping in! It’s nice to have a blog chat with a man who knows my face, my voice, and what it sounds like to make me climax. 😉

    Ladies – just so you know, when reading Princi’s posts, he has THE sexiest voice you’ve ever heard. Just that reminder might have me pulling out the Hitachi this morning.

    Fly’r – you have always been a very wise SD, and the type I originally thought I was looking for when I logged on. Of course, I found a nice fit with Doms and subbies instead.

    Sidenote: I’m not a pain type of Domme, I find pleasure can be so much more torturous when rightly applied, then denied at just the exact right moment.

    Zack – I’m not hurting anymore. My head is clearer and my heart is more solid than it’s been in years. I was using sugar to escape dealing with my real life. Now I’m focusing completely on the elements of my life that matter.

  414. Lady Vuitton *1171431 says:

    Hi Everyone.
    Not been on for a while but I dont see many of the old bloggers around.
    Has the site changed quite abit?
    What happened to the gentlemen of the site?
    I know I am older,but there are few of my age around and certainly not many in the UK.
    We used to have such banter and nice emails.

    Have I missed something that has happened?

  415. KatPaw says:

    Meow morning sugars! @Sugardoll couldn’t agree more!
    On sugar topic KY seem void of good SDs. Ahhh good thing I’m not desperate and in need of an SD huh

  416. Sugardoll says:

    Morning Everyone, Welcome to all.

    @spectrum @vixen

    if you are going to start you comeback with taking potshots at me intead of making interesting contribution,

    **Welcome spectrum, appreciate your post, but he was true in here, im already annoyed by the situation with josh, Everybody pls just ignore him, if you dont like him, but now you making him the center of all attention, and we missing the real essence of the blog,

    @Melisa
    @ SS- I wish you would have just taken my advice and ignored some of these hateful bitter comments directed at SB’s. One of my favourite quote ” if you argue will a fool people people might not be able to tell the difference…There are people in this world you just need to ignore if they behave or act in a foolish manner. They take pride in making other people angry. They enjoy winning arguments no matter how wrong or ignorant they might be. Some of them know which buttons to press to get you angry, and if you decide to argue with them, you’ll be heading towards their trap…

    ***I told her exactly the same thing with different words these days*** ty for nailing it.

    @Kat @Alice @Sugary @Zack @NC @Josh ….Morning ..

    Please lets talk about important things all this shit about josh is realy getting me tired, can we all focus in something else, the more attention and importance you give to his post he wont stop…this blog seems more like a beauty parlor …

  417. Josh says:

    @flyr:

    And your point is?

    @Zack:

    Yawn!

    @aliceS

    The one I am with since last night is just about your age. 😉

  418. aliceS says:

    Morning all :) thank you @Zack for memory :) Btw Josh how was your date and how happy your SB hopefully 18+ left yesterday?

  419. Zack says:

    @ Prince: are you presently Seeking?, Wb. a several year perspective is welcome…FlyR is tired, SS hurting. The rest of us…

    Josh, if you are not certain whether people are laughing with or at you….shhhh….

    @Melissa…dear, “being a Champion” is in SS’s constitution. Would you advise a zebra to change her spots? Don’t poke people’s dreams…:P …carelessly.

    @ SS…You do know you only need a few who really love you?

  420. Mellisa says:

    @ flyer- I have to admit you are one of the wisest person on this blog. I enjoy reading your posts and great advice you give to everyone. Thank you:-)

  421. Zack says:

    Flyr, Time spent aiding Alice would be a good thing in the world, please?

  422. flyR says:

    Josh

    I have stayed on the sideline for a couple of weeks on this, but driving back through the rain tonight I thought about many of your posts.

    By way of background I have been on and off sugar for well over a decade. I came to sugar after a divorce and caring for a mother with Alzheimers. I needed a break and being older most IRL women expected that a relationship would progress much faster than it does for a 20 YO .

    Introduction to sugar was an accident, Grad student in Aero and I enjoyed 50 mi road bike rides, she was younger, good red wine bridged the gap and we ended up naked and happy, purely by choice I provided some help. When she graduated and accepted a job with Boeing it ended at my insistence as she needed to be free for her soulmate. Ditto with a 5 year sugar relationship with a 35yo who wanted to become a doc. I was a very modest SD , on hold while she was going to school in the Caribbean and Mexico and then she stayed with me while she studied for her boards. Her dream was a shingle hanging out in eastern Oregon serving those who truly needed help. No big city income , no plastic surgery for the under endowed just inspired care for those who really need it.

    I mention all of this only because it is the opposite side of the cynical side of sugar. Not every sugar relationship ends happy but life is the same way. Rather and denigrate the women here celebrate their presence, be selective in your choices and honest in your commitments.

    If you feel you have been taken advantage of don’t repeat the mistake nor wallow in self pitty. DO something different. Hopefully you’ll see the opportunity to focus your interests in a way that brings you pride, satisfaction and an SB who wakes you in the middle of the night. Rather than sit on the sidelines, decide if you want in the game or if you want another game. Ball’s in your court.

  423. flyR says:

    @spicey (whom I admire ) “To some extent I suppose I should be flattered. It shows I can drive a man to psychotic obsession with nothing but my thumbs! ;)”

    Thumbs in the eye will have that effect, For the true subbie it’s the ultimate punishment and for the un-suspecting it’s their worst fear come true.

  424. Mellisa says:

    @ Principium – gibberish rubbish! Haha! I have used that phrase since I left my country, American’s don’t seem to use it much.

  425. Josh says:

    @Principium

    First, in good faith, welcome back. Second, if you are going to start you comeback with taking potshots at me intead of making interesting contribution, then take a number. Others have tried too so…be interesting man…yawn 😉

    @Vixen: Had any nice conversation with yourself lately?

    Can’t stay too long for anyone’s drivel. Need to go back to my sweetie.

    Good night!

  426. Mellisa says:

    @ Principium, you vanished without a trace but it’s good to see you post again:-)

    @ SS- I wish you would have just taken my advice and ignored some of these hateful bitter comments directed at SB’s. One of my favourite quote ” if you argue will a fool people people might not be able to tell the difference…There are people in this world you just need to ignore if they behave or act in a foolish manner. They take pride in making other people angry. They enjoy winning arguments no matter how wrong or ignorant they might be. Some of them know which buttons to press to get you angry, and if you decide to argue with them, you’ll be heading towards their trap….

    @ NC-gent- I think you’re a gem SD:-) it’s a shame I’m not in NC.

    @katpaw- I love your ink, always wanted to get a tiny one on my belly button but not daring enough:-)

  427. Vixen says:

    @ josh .. Are you still here trolling? Give it a rest, even the 14 year olds know when to give it up. But I guess some will never learn.

  428. Principium says:

    To my past blog compatriots, whether actively participating or just dropping in to check things out:

    I hope that all’s very well and that you’re all still misbehaving yourselves. As for moi, ever since I turned Five-O last summer, I stopped giving a flying farg about much younger girls, whether IRL (aka civvie) Sugar or Hobby (which I have thankfully and mercifully filed away) I honestly think that somehow I may have managed to mentally castrate myself and therefore I’m in state of non-sexual nirvana 😀

    Oh BTW, the same old Princi’s rule still apply” “If you are not at least 10 years younger than me, sadly you are just too old for me to “date” you, so let’s just be friends”

  429. Principium says:

    For those who don’t know of me, a bit of brief blog bio:

    I used to post quite frequently on this blog, starting circa 4/2013 ( I came onto the scene as a character by the moniker “Beck” had just waltzed onto this scene. The co appearance was quite accidental, but that time was quite a fun time since a lot of us just used to horse around on the SA blog.

    I had a few stints on SA prior to coming on the blog. The1st time I was totally new to this realm and I was a novice tire kicker. Then took a few months off because of a serious sport related injury which rendered me useless for this purpose! The second time I wasn’t as green and was better equipped in terms of dealing with POT SBs. I had 2 non-concurrent arrangements not lasting more than 2 months. The third attempt was the final proverbial nail in the coffin! I decided that it wasn’t for me because frankly I had much better past experiences IRL and found the whole process quite tedious as lines kept getting crossed despite the concept of sugar being to the contrary. Prior to sugar, I had “hobbied” for a couple of years, which again is not something which I am looking back upon as a very fond experience. I chalked that one up to being at a dark place in life back when and then did something which I sought therapy in order to unravel the convolution which it had caused me.

    Now back onto this blog:

    Someone whom I kept in touch with from the blog had recently alerted me that things were getting somewhat exciting on the blog again and thought that I’d be interested to take a peek! Been reading some of the material in here in “stealth mode” and see that some of the old timers are still here, contributing, chatting, whatever else…

    After reading enough of Josh’s drivel, I felt compelled to write a few words! Josh, you are a “know-nothing”!!! Granted that you know words, sentences, have ideas, etc; but you try so hard to change a trend and seem so tedious at that task! I gather that you have zeroed in on “Pricey Spicey” (I had originally coined that phrase and FBSD subsequently “borrowed” it from me 😉 ) just to hammer home the point that she’s just full of BS. You also seem to be enamoured with Brandon’s sophisticated MIT education and his superb marketing skills! Josh, while I don’t discount or belittle Brandon’s education, I wouldn’t really put him on such lofty pedestal as you do. He came up with a great concept at a time when the economy was lending itself to such type of relationship arrangements but now the site seemingly is not doing as well as it did back in 2007-2009. I don’t mean this in terms of net revenue and profits, but in terms of genuine SD/SB’s on this site.

    You may elect to post 50 times a day as to how delusional most SBs are, but I will tell you with 100% certainty that you will not budge the needle toward your side of ledger by a nanometer! Go out and actually talk to women and see if you can charm them! By festering and stewing in your juices in here just to expose someone as a fraud is not going to help your bottom line! What FBSD writes in a mere few whimsical lines has FAR MORE affect than your gibberish rubbish.

  430. Zack says:

    @ sugarySP icey:
    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=9p2BjhSEnNI

    @KP: Unless a rare light was in your world.

  431. KatPaw says:

    My tattoos are artistic no matter what I am doing. And if you walked by me in the street you would never know such a large portion of my skin is used as a canvas.

  432. SugarySpicey says:

    A man once wrote to me, “If Helen of Troy’s face could launch a thousand ships, yours could bring them back again.”

    Apparently, for some all it takes is a couple of verbs and a preposition and to draw him away from the side of the willing, moist, nubile young woman he’s engaged for the evening, or the day job where he apparently “sweats” for a living just to pontificate on my slightest thought – Now that’s power!

  433. Zack says:

    Her back is artistic merely walking, imo.

  434. Josh says:

    @Sugary

    “I can drive a man to psychotic obsession with nothing but my thumbs!”

    Sorry dear I am not into that stuff. Not even with you. 😉

  435. Josh says:

    @KatPaw

    Your tattoo is so artistic to look at while doing you doggie style. Mmmmm. 😉

  436. Sugardoll says:

    QUESTION:

    A premium/Diamond member can read a message and shows it like unread for me…?

  437. Zack says:

    But it’s not that hard if you try and understand…JB makes that point a lot.

  438. SugarySpicey says:

    To some extent I suppose I should be flattered. It shows I can drive a man to psychotic obsession with nothing but my thumbs! 😉

  439. Sugardoll says:

    @josh this thing you have with Sugary its getting annoying… we could be talking about things more interesting and funny….cut the crap!!

  440. KatPaw says:

    Seriously Josh can you please give it a rest already!

  441. Sugardoll says:

    hahahaha ohhhh Josh..!!!

    Ommmmmmmm……..! Ommmmmmmm !! Ommmmmm! ommm ommm omm!!! little birds flying around my head lalalalala!!

  442. Josh says:

    @sugary

    If you set up an arrangement at $100/meet two times a week it will acomplish many things:

    1. It will more than recoup book sale loss.

    2. It will make one of the weirdo SDs very very happy.

    3. It will increase your lifespan according to Dr. Weeks.

    4. It will make you look younger according to Dr. Weeks.

    5. It will put permanent smile on your face.

    6. You will be less anal.

    7. You will be more vaginal.

    8. Etc., etc., etc.

  443. aliceS says:

    @SugarySpicey lol that’s was the weirdest speech and the funniest I read today. I almost spit a coffee on my phone, reading last sentence. Damn

  444. Sugardoll says:

    hahaha… My country should send some Dominicans… were too many…lmao!!

  445. Zack says:

    @ Spicey…”Poorly.” and usually with at least thoughts of retribution. I’m finding that a flaw as a default rather than an option. I try to keep it off the blog…nah, I need to talk to someone, lol, I just try to keep the self-serving, hit us over the head, justify radical statements by “protecting newbies” while -at the same time- setting yourself up as an exception…bits mostly obscured in sarcasm until they pass. They do pass. You’ve not been the same since Turkey; it’s a bit worrisome. Take a vacation in the sunshine to muse?

    Josh, if you got anything more, please add it. Sugary and I have been through this a bit I’m venting right now because I think she can handle it and move on. You couldn’t yet…you’re too new 😛

  446. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – bit them in the ass, and it’s going to do the same for India. Now that’s pussy power, even dead we’ll fuck you.

  447. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll I live in France, here we have 60% of population whether pure or mixed Arabs. Their law permits them to marry 4 wifes, just when the men have enough finances to bought the same houses, to all 4. Same amount of money and time should be equall. So unless your boyfriend was a Arab prince, he can’t afford 4 women’s :)

  448. Sugardoll says:

    Sugary ** yes thats why i was confuse, cuz i remember there was a time where they were not allowing the birth of girls…Damn..!!

  449. SugarySpicey says:

    Ladies you misread – it’s a SHORTAGE of women caused by their having killed so many girls 20 years ago. There would be multiple husbands per wife perhaps, not vice versa. Women are gaining all the power.

    Zack – how would you handle someone stealing your livelihood? I had to completely pull down my book and all my author content due to El Psycho, this week alone he cost me $100.

  450. Sugardoll says:

    @alice

    My ex bf is arabic, and he was who told me one night, that i should always remember he could marry 4 woman… i lol at him, and told him, he was fk up cuz he can even handle one, how he was going to marry 4!! he started laughing

    BTw i dont know how to see a profile!

  451. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll
    I’m glad I’m not in that religion, I don’t like share my household with other females. So it could’ve been hot.

  452. Zack says:

    Well, there’s something you don’t see every day, a pair of new pot-SB’s schooling Sugary with superior grace and style.

    FlyR, have you had a chance to glance at AliceS’ profile? She seems real enough, but not very Americanized.

  453. Sugardoll says:

    Well… maybe they will do like muslims now, a man can marry 4 woman…cuz i remember there was a time when they were not allowing the first baby was a girl or something like that…right or im wrong?

  454. Josh says:

    @aliceS

    Me jappy all the tine. Smiley, smiley, smiley. Lotsa jappy pussuy power surrouns me, all the tine.

    Sugary pussy too dry all the tine. Sugary pussy no power.

    LOL!

  455. aliceS says:

    @SugarySpicey I’m sorry you took my comments as negative, we just wanted to get rid of the tension. And bring some smile on your faces

  456. SugarySpicey says:

    Anyway, I find the China-phenomenon fascinating. A 20 million (and growing) woman shortage leading to men who are willing and prepared to spend hundreds of thousands to compete for a rare shortage of wives will surely benefit us all. 😉

  457. SugarySpicey says:

    Doll – we both know that certain types of men never feel powerful. That’s why they use sugar, and hide behind the Internet, it ensures they don’t get laughed at. 😉

  458. Sugardoll says:

    Sugary **I know you have good intentions, and its well appreciated, but no matter how much you want to avoid him threatened people, just focus on yourself and let others deal with theirs, cuz you wont be able to stop him…he will keep doing that, and the more you answer him the more powerful he will feel over you…dont let him take your sweetness away…we love you advises,..focus on that, not on his opinions…

  459. SugarySpicey says:

    Sugar – I just wouldn’t want Newbies to come in and be fooled by his gross new “get some sugar doll” punch line and get physically wounded.

    He’s now threatened multiple people on the blog, not just me, it’s his modus operandi when people disagree with him. I’m not quite certain why his behavior is being tolerated.

  460. Sugardoll says:

    Sugary ** I perfectly understand you, well what you say cuz im not on your shoes, but whatever he did its done! just ignore him, the more you answer him the more he is going to keep bothering you** skip his comments, and he will get tired..

  461. SugarySpicey says:

    Alice – easy for you to say when he isn’t threatening you.

  462. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll yeah. You just described it perfectly :) I hope one day they just stop :) and will enjoy the blog with others.

  463. Sugardoll says:

    Omg josh*** i cant stop lol..just leave Sugary alone**

    @alice, yes, they look like when the marriage is 2 oldies and he wants sex and she doesnt…lmaoo!!! im dead!

  464. Josh says:

    How can I NOT like women? I am going to be with some of them all weekend long, having all kinds of fun. By the way, no kinky stuff for me.

    Listen to Sugardoll. You are just too uptight. You need to get laid more often sweetheart. 😉

  465. Josh says:

    Aww you sound sho shweet when you’re fuming Sugary darling. Muah! 😉

    I was on the blog pretty much all day. Right now I have an overnight date with my one of my sweetheart, and two have been texting for tomorrow and the rest of the weekend.

    I shall gat back to the blog when I have some time. Until then please carry on with your weirdo stories. Muah again. 😉

  466. SugarySpicey says:

    – least the women of the blog forget that you intentionally put my children in harm’s way by compromising my anonymity, then threatened me with further damage if I didn’t comply with your bullying demands and censorship.

  467. SugarySpicey says:

    Oh you’re so smart, please do, tell me what I misread – in the three different articles on NPR, The Economist, and The New York Times on the same subject?

    “Lack of reading comprehension” = “Me misogynistic sociopath, doesn’t like woman’s opinion”

    And I’m sure the threats to my safety and happiness will be soon to follow, when all else fails with a woman you can threaten and beat her into submission, right Joshy?

  468. aliceS says:

    @Josh and @SugarySpicey you sound both, like an old married couple when you fight :)

  469. Josh says:

    You must comprehend what’s written and then read storries behind stories before cutting and pasting something verbatim, sweetheart. 😉

  470. SugarySpicey says:

    Were my words too big for you to understand dear? Need me to break down to monosyllables for you?

  471. Josh says:

    Sugary is master of posting diametrically opposite opinions even if she posts them back to back.

    Lack of (reading+writing) comprehension = Sugary. 😉

  472. aliceS says:

    Thank you Sugardoll, well last time I had sex, it was around October 2013. So it may explain a lot, why I look older then you :) I will add to to my description. Need sex as medicine and serum. :)

  473. Josh says:

    Sugary oscillates between delusionals and weirdos. 😉

  474. SugarySpicey says:

    A 2011 survey in China showed that the Chinese GDP has grown 2% due to skewed sex ratios, and a 30 to 48% increase in the real estate market because men are expected to provide an apartment and one year’s salary prior to a woman accepting a marriage offer.

  475. Sugardoll says:

    @alice @jhon ** Moderation is taking to long so i copied for you ** Heres my serum lol… i say for real.

    Regular sex can make you look 7 years younger, researcher says

    Forget anti-aging creams: Maybe a tumble in the sheets is all you need. One expert claims that having sex on a regular basis can shave off between five and seven years, because it releases growth hormones and endorphins.

    Sex can take years off your looks, according to one expert.
    Sex is the fountain of youth.
    So says a British psychologist, who claims that people who get lots of action looked anywhere from five to seven years younger than those who don’t.

    “My message is that lovemaking is good,” Dr. David Weeks told the British Psychological Society.

    Former head of old age psychology at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, Weeks said he spent a decade prying into the private lives of thousands of men and women of all ages.
    Weeks found that sexual pleasure is a “crucial factor” in preserving youth.

    RELATED: SEX CURES MIGRAINES AS WELL AS MEDICINE: STUDY

    How? Lovemaking releases the human growth hormone, which helps keep the skin elastic and thus less likely to wrinkle, he said.

    Sex also released endorphins, which are the body’s feel-good chemicals and natural painkillers that ease anxiety and make it easier to sleep, Weeks added.

    Nookie boosts blood circulation, which is good for that heart and gives skin that healthy glow, the good doctor said.

    Finally, sex burns fat and releases other chemicals that bolster the immune system, he said.

    Weeks, who is himself a youthful-looking 59-years-old, said getting it on is especially good for geezers

    young couple in bed

    RELATED: HAVING MORE SEX THAN PEERS MAKES US HAPPY

    “Sexuality is definitely not the prerogative of younger people and nor should it be,” he said. “Sexual satisfaction is a major contributor to quality of life.”

    Out in Brooklyn, Marissa Martinez said she’s all for improving the quality of her life.

    “How much younger?” asked Martinez, who was strolling through Bay Ridge with her husband Conrad — and who declined to give her age. “Anything helps.”

    But Conrad Martinez wasn’t having it.

    “I’m trying to look older,” said Martinez, who is 50 and sported a salt and pepper beard. “I’m trying to look distinguished. I thought about getting a pipe.”

    RELATED: HOW MUCH DO MEN REALLY THINK ABOUT SEX?
    Besides, he said, “Younger people do it all the time.”

    Outside a bodega on Fourth Ave., Ron Nelson, 74, and Heather Polamis, 52, said Dr. Weeks has the right prescription.

    “It’s a positive thing, makes you happy, makes you laugh, cures depression,” said Polamis, who admitted she only has sex once every three years or so.

    Nelson said he’s game but added, “At my age, you have summertime sex.”
    “Some of the time it works, some of the time it don’t,” he said.

  476. aliceS says:

    @Zack I’m in :)

  477. SugarySpicey says:

    Reading an article in The Economist which completely discredits the mistaken post made on this blog a few weeks ago, saying Asian women have more realistic romantic expectations than western women and marry purely for someone to take care of them.

    In fact:

    Women in Asia are becoming increasingly less likely to get married, and marrying at much later ages, as the supply of eligible Asian men grows. There are currently 20 million unmarried men in China (most of whom, statistically will never find a Chinese wife). It is estimated that by 2050 there will be 60 million Asian men (throughout China and India especially) who can’t find a wife.

    The reason? As demand for women increases in typically paternalistic cultures that historically engaged in sex-selective abortions and female infanticide the demand (and therefore respect and value) for women grows.

    Both cultures have a long way to go in terms of equality, which is why women are looking around at their options and saying, “No thanks.”

    Sugar dating in a culture with a 20+ million woman deficits would really be like shooting fish in a barrel.

    The generation of the girl is coming, and the value of vagina is going to skyrocket! :)

  478. Zack says:

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ko2dB8Jk_o

    “Death Becomes Her” trailer. Ladies, if you’re looking and not in contact with a gentleman from the blog over the weekend, let me know 😀

  479. aliceS says:

    Awww thank you 😉 we will be young forever :)

  480. Sugardoll says:

    By the way @Josh @alice

    I already post the link with the serum, but its waiting for moderation

  481. Sugardoll says:

    Where does your wild side goes, those msgs also have and answer… like

    ” i dont date a losers go and play with your D. Bastard! if it still works… lmao”

  482. aliceS says:

    You see :( when I reply to someone. Usually I don’t get any response. Unless its a pervert messages like wheb the last time you were treated like a princess and fucked like a slut? Not even, go away you stupid woman. It just drives me crazy. Brrr

  483. Sugardoll says:

    @alice
    Actually this was his complete reply :

    Hahaha!
    Fair enough! Should’ve said “mind games” instead… I can think of LOTS of games that can be fun!! 😉
    Are you down for meeting over drinks or dinner? Let me know! my mobile is ….

  484. Sugardoll says:

    Heres the Serum

    nydailynews.com/life-style/health/sex-younger-expert-article-1.1391109

  485. Josh says:

    @aliceS says:

    “@Sugardoll I need your serum then and some classes :) name your place, price and meet me there. ASAP”

    There you go girls. These are the things you should be comparing notes on instead of men-/SD-bashing. 😉

  486. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    “Me: To be fun there has to be some game going on, dont u think? lol”

    What else do you think these women are doing playing mind games? Having fun at mens expense. 😉

  487. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll I need your serum then and some classes :) name your place, price and meet me there. ASAP

  488. Sugardoll says:

    ” Damn boy, you are the hottest thing I saw. I’d ride you all night long. And I’m ready to pay you if you are not willing to do that.” What I actually say? “Hi. I like your pictures a lot. I think you are very handsome. Greetings” :)

    I would say like this…Hi there _______(whatever nickname)

    I loved your profile (i point something i like) if it doesnt say anything…then i tell him, u look like someone i would definitely like to meet, btw…your picture captured my eyes… Hope u have a nice day – Sugardoll (i never give them my name unless they reply)

    There was one saying No games – Just fun – Me: To be fun there has to be some game going on, dont u think? lol – He replied – Fair enough and sent me his number.. 😉

  489. aliceS says:

    @Zack I think Victoria is busy creating her own site like this. Something like seekingarrangementswithVictoria dot com

  490. Josh says:

    If there’s one then I want to meet that SD as well. I want THAT serum!!!

  491. aliceS says:

    Josh then I want to meet that SD that bought it for Sugardoll :)

  492. Josh says:

    @aliceS says:

    “@Sugardoll Btw you forgot to share with us, what youth serum you use”

    Wouldn’t THAT serum be a billion dollar product?

  493. Josh says:

    @aliceS says:
    Well I’m attracting mostly only weirdos

    @Zack says:
    Me, too, :D”

    Can you please take this conversation private with Sugary. Weirdos are her expertise. 😉

  494. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll Btw you forgot to share with us, what youth serum you use

  495. Zack says:

    Victoria, are you out here? 😀

  496. aliceS says:

    @Zack then high five :) if I may say so

  497. Zack says:

    Me, too, 😀

  498. aliceS says:

    Well I’m attracting mostly only weirdos

  499. Josh says:

    @aliceS

    I hear you, but keep in mind that the “right man” for you in the IRL may not care if you slept with him on the first date or the 10th date AND may appreciate you more if you put out later rather than earlier.

    The “wrong man” for you may play along until you put out. That’s the nature of the vagina hunting and he understands that. He will still not respect you whether you put out on the first date or not.

    But that’s IRL…

    Gentle is an active SD and provides good tips and advice.

    In the sugar world, putting out on the first and no later than the 3rd date is pretty much the norm. By the third date if you have no put out almost ALL of the SDs will move on. Except, just maybe, for some weirdos Sugary tends/tended to hang/hung out with. 😉

  500. Zack says:

    Gentlemen may respect a lady wo shops like that, Alice. You’re new. Welcome, small steps, dear.

  501. aliceS says:

    Josh I’m looking for someone with whom I may gone wild in bed, happy at day. But I don’t want him to treat me like an escort, just because I’m on SA. I’m not saint. But I don’t think disrespect at the beginning is a necessary. I’d like to share great moments with SD. And if I’m agreed to sleep with one first date, what possibly he might think of me as person? How many first dates I had like that, first impression are very important. I’d like to know at least some about him, before I decide invite him to my bed? If fall of the horse, only from Arab.

  502. Josh says:

    gentle(man)soul says:
    February 28, 2014 at 9:38 am
    @aliceS

    “You had me at Damn ! I would suggest that you say those things and you will definitely have an arrangement in no time at all .”

    But that’s not the kind of arrangements alice is looking for, right alice? :)

  503. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll you look Fabulous. And 37?? No way. Dammit, I think I look older then you :(((

  504. gentle(man)soul says:

    @aliceS

    Damn boy, you are the hottest thing I saw. I’d ride you all night long. And I’m ready to pay you if you are not willing to do that.” What I actually say? “Hi. I like your pictures a lot. I think you are very handsome. Greetings” :)

    You had me at Damn ! I would suggest that you say those things and you will definitely have an arrangement in no time at all .

  505. Josh says:

    Zack has penis envy. 😉

  506. Josh says:

    @aliceS

    Correct move. You don’t want to give wrong ideas to SDs that they are so damn hot that SBs are willing to pay them. You will then lose ALL of your negotiating power on them. 😉

  507. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll I am honest as well, what really reduced people I am dealing now, as friends. I don’t wanted to sound rude, when I say it’s wild. Wild is real. :) And I like it. But there is people around us, that doesn’t have same taste of humor. For example I see hot guy, late 30. I want to say ” Damn boy, you are the hottest thing I saw. I’d ride you all night long. And I’m ready to pay you if you are not willing to do that.” What I actually say? “Hi. I like your pictures a lot. I think you are very handsome. Greetings” :)

  508. Josh says:

    @Zack

    “How do you feel to be making Sweetie’s point?”

    I dont know what you’re referring to now, and I don’t care either.

    But Sweetie is a cutie pie as well, and I won’t mind banging her either. 😉

  509. gentle(man)soul says:

    @Sugardoll

    Fabulous ! New Jersey ?

  510. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    “@josh
    you are definitely TOO MUCH!! lol”

    Well thanks for your kind acknowledgement.

    By the way, I make my SBs feel super special when they are with me. Therefore, when the leave due to reasons of their own, they feel super comfortable and wanted when the come back to their daddy. 😉

  511. Sugardoll says:

    @Zack

    whos a female Josh? hahaha

  512. Zack says:

    Well, that clinches it…you really are female…I can tell from past experience 😛

  513. Sugardoll says:

    @josh
    you are definitely TOO MUCH!! lol

  514. Zack says:

    How do you feel to be making Sweetie’s point?

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=TO2XeUiNrYw

  515. Josh says:

    I think writing comprehension is a good description. Because I CANNOT make heads or tails of the shit you write and I am not motivated enough to try my reading comprehension on your messages.

    I prefer to read Sugardoll’s sassy messages, and now she has shared her beautiful pix to make the reading experience even better.

  516. Zack says:

    @SDoll, Truly, your charm(s) transcend the written word, ;D
    ;
    @Josh, call it a lack of “writing comprehension” 😛

    I might humbly suggest that you muse on…this… keeping score or stacking straws will inevitably lead to a critical mass. At least introduce time for an “sands in the our glass half empty” concept, at least?

    But I won’t, LoL.

  517. Josh says:

    Where are you from and what have been eating? I wanna know the secret of your youthful looks. 😉

  518. Sugardoll says:

    @Josh
    For someone with only 2 years in the US, you are doing awesome. Do you need to mention that in the profile? It “might” impact what you may ask for an arrangement.

    **Thats exactly the point,if you get my idea ** lol

    *** as you see my pictures thats exactly how i actually look, this is why i told you when i tell my age people start asking me questions and doubting, so i tell them im 28, those pictures are recent i always try to keep them updated so they dont find difference when meeting me.

  519. Josh says:

    1. For someone with only 2 years in the US, you are doing awesome. Do you need to mention that in the profile? It “might” impact what you may ask for an arrangement.

    2. Of course I don’t know how you look in person, but those pictures look like a girl in her early 20s. A huge plus right there. 😉

    More later…

  520. Sugardoll says:

    I told you, im a newbie on SA but i dont have roaches wings on my head lol…

  521. Josh says:

    I am impressed. I can make some subjective comments here and there but…you go girl. 😉

  522. Sugardoll says:

    I was talking about other SD arrangements. Use situation-appropriate discretion for high dollars. :) Start with formal and then ease into informal.

    I know exactly how to get my SD to that point wihout him even noticed! i just need some more of blog educational posts lol

    Yes, Josh i certainly believe you are all busy looking at my profile now…but IM READY!!! BRING IT ON!

  523. Josh says:

    Nope. We love you here. 😉 you’re a cutie, as gentle mentioned earlier, and many of us would want to make arrangement with you.

    I was talking about other SD arrangements. Use situation-appropriate discretion for high dollars. :) Start with formal and then ease into informal.

    That’s what the “lady on the streets and freak in the sheets” refers to.

    I guess we have exhausted this particular topic to death. Let’s move on.. and discuss you profile instead.? LOL!

  524. Sugardoll says:

    @Josh
    most SDs will not make an arrangement with you for your unfiltered opinions. So you might wanna work on situation-appropriate filters if you want to get and hold on to SDs for longer times

    Too much english for me, lol let me see if i got you…Most SD wont make an arrangement with me based on the way i post things on here? is that what you mean?

    1167827

  525. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    “@Zack
    **I dont know what leetspeek means :(”

    Neither does Zack. He just writes shit because there is a keypad in front of him.

    It happens to me often. When I get dumb cryptic messages from the cell phone of somone I know, I message her “?” as response. She always asks me to ignore it since her 2 year-old had her phone in his hands and was having fun with it. 😉

  526. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    I didn’t say that you have to write during the day time, just from the street. 😉

    Also, most SDs will not make an arrangement with you for your unfiltered opinions. So you might wanna work on situation-appropriate filters if you want to get and hold on to SDs for longer times.

    It’s up to you though as mine is merely a subjective opinion from the SD side of sugar.

  527. Sugardoll says:

    @Zack
    did you notice your leetspeek LoL timed with DH’s and Josh’s lol’s…to connect you two? Kinda odd. Shrug.

    **I dont know what leetspeek means :(

    @fly
    hi hun gna c me 2nite ”

    Noway….i dont write like that lol….i just use certain words…but not that much!

  528. gentle(man)soul says:

    @Sugardoll

    You sound like a cutie Sugar , I like your laid back attitude . Want to put your profile # up for us to see ? Hmmm–Gay Paree isn’t all that far .

  529. Josh says:

    @Zack

    “@Josh Ah, well, I don’t think people accuse you of being stupid, at least not the smart ones.”

    Since you are kinda sorta harmless I forgive you for you yet another left handed compliment.

    But be careful, if you keep stacking straws on the proverbial camel’s back, soon enough you will get to the last straw.

    This i another fair warning. 😉

  530. Sugardoll says:

    @josh
    hahahaah yes im in my bed, i dont write to my SD from the street during daytime cuz their either making the money or with me, so i dont bother…!

  531. flyR says:

    “@Sugardoll” u how much they gna give you, what do u think they have in their minds their paying for? hahaha like duhhhh/////”
    I think shortcuts you use u instead of you. Gna instead of gonna. It’s teenagers texting code”

    Two additional thoughts – it sounds ghetto and you are “marketing” a priceless dream .

    “hi hun gna c me 2nite ”
    vs
    ” Looking forward to seeing you tonight, my office mates are wondering why I am grinning; if they only knew”

  532. Zack says:

    @DH, they do seem to travel in herds, don’t they. Hmm, this one has a male mind, though…no empathy, lOl

    @SDoll, did you notice your leetspeek LoL timed with DH’s and Josh’s lol’s…to connect you two? Kinda odd. Shrug.

    @Josh Ah, well, I don’t think people accuse you of being stupid, at least not the smart ones. I’ve probably used this video, but regarding novels, I’m not up to Piers Anthony standards, lol.

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=97iqWyXobUU

  533. Sugardoll says:

    @Zack
    I dont have any problem with the way other people are, or their likes, i accept everybody the way they are, And with the things they do, i may not like some things but thats who they are, i dont go into people lives, or how they decide to live it..i live mine my way, so i dont judge others for that.

  534. Josh says:

    “Be a lady on the streets and a freak on the bed”

    You write to this blog from your bed, I guess. 😉

    Try to write your SDs from street.

    By the way, this SB I am meeting tonight is freak in the sheets…I don’t think that she is lady on the street though, oh well…

  535. Sugardoll says:

    Are you able to hold a job down?

    “I say it like I see it” kind of people usually can’t.” 😉

    I see it the same way lol 😉

    @Darkhorse – Most of my friends are males.

  536. Zack says:

    Josh makes a valid point obscurely. It’s difficult to state, but feels to me as if you also use your honesty as a defense for power plays. An short example: you might state a number as an absolute, but honestly…it’s just a start or one thing.

    A longer thought…I smoke. I assume you would dislike this, and tell me so. for this hypothetical, let’s assume you thought and said something like, “I don’t like it, but I can put up with it.” …odds are, if I smoked in the same room as you, you’d still be pissed off at me and it would show. Ok, you were honest…but how far did it go?

    I didn’t say that well, my idea isn’t well formed. Sorry. I’m a bit distracted 😛 My (ex-) wife is berating me about SB’s…

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOiZOtNw_4E

  537. DarkHorseSD says:

    S.doll, do you have any hot single friends able to translate what I write?

  538. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    Are you able to hold a job down?

    “I say it like I see it” kind of people usually can’t.” 😉

  539. Sugardoll says:

    @alice

    Oh i forgot about official meetings, yes, im very well educated, I speak what its necessary, theres a phrase that says “Be a lady on the streets and a freak on the bed” but im very transparent, everything i say i mean it, and i will never pretend to be someone im not. or tell you things just to make you feel good, i will give you my honest answer if someone dont talk to me because they think i was cruel…well, see you in another life…lol

  540. Sugardoll says:

    @Alice

    Wild, hum! oh well yes i know sometimes i sound kind of rude, but i dont mean to sound wild or rude, i just like to say things the way they really are…Also in my personal lifestyle i make people clear of what im saying, some like it some others dont… for ex. If i met you and theres something i dont like i will tell you straight at ur face…some of my friends are scare when they make me questions, cuz they know i will tell them exactly what i think, no make ups!! thats how i am…but still im very sweet, …lol 😉

  541. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll I know. English is not my native language either. But you write better, then I do. Though, sometimes your messages are too wild , I learned that it’s ok using between friends, but in all other circles a proper English (any language) is a must. I don’t want to sound weird now, hope you get my point. And in age over 25+ it’s inappropriate behavior. And no matter how smart we are in our real life, people, SD’s may assume, that the majority isn’t enough to, for example invite you to some official meetings.

  542. Zack says:

    @ Alice: Precise examples of an accurate idea, yes 😀

    @SugarD: don’t worry, it might be appealing to some if you wished, but you should be aware…it does look like cell phone slang. But word policing isn’t my job. I might appear, hmm, what was the expression Spicey used, FB…nit-pickish or something?

    If the blog does move to something searchable, it might be best not to migrate over all the legacy stuff here. The obscure mists of time lend a bit of confidence to anonymity; little else does in today’s world.

    on point, and regarding information security…is it as bad as, “If someone wants it, they can get it?”

  543. Sugardoll says:

    Uhmmmm got u…lol…I got you Alice,but the thing is that sometimes i have to write a looot, here, on my phone sometimes im texting 4 – 5 at a time…I would like to learn some other words to make my post shorter but im not from USA ..Im still learning. (Sometimes like when @Darkhose writes,i have to call my friends to translate lol)

  544. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll” u how much they gna give you, what do u think they have in their minds their paying for? hahaha like duhhhh/////”
    I think shortcuts you use u instead of you. Gna instead of gonna. It’s teenagers texting code

  545. Sugardoll says:

    @Zack * Pls be more specific about writing with less slang…I dont even know how to??!! ok im lost. :(

  546. Josh says:

    @flyR

    “The history of mankind , from the apple forward, is littered with examples of men who made the decision with their little head and she walked off with the empire.”

    Very true, indeed. It’s called “marriage.” 😉

  547. aliceS says:

    Guess who just meet a handsome and intelligent SD? Oh, yeah. It was me. Woohoo. @DarkHorse how’s your lucky number going and mystery panties :p

  548. Zack says:

    Self-improvement: it ups your game. 😀
    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=bESGLojNYSo

  549. DarkHorseSD says:

    Whereas I’ve easily remade all the money I’ve lost,
    I’m investing today in psychopath awareness.

  550. Zack says:

    Sugardoll, I did like your comment about taking Josh to a new level. His head is kinda stuck pretty low; I’d hate to have history remember him as one who caused SB’s to unionize. Josh, open your perspective and see the role in history your mindset plays…it affects the vibe here. Your disdain for how many women act is so generalized that it comes across as a dehumanizing for most women, and a disrespect for all.

    Anyway, SugarDoll, as you learn the ropes for negotiation, a point on marketing…write with less slang. You’ve got a sharp mind; your words sound like an uneducated 19 year old. A little bit of polish, and that is a facet you can shine :)

    //www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZyhrYis509A

  551. aliceS says:

    Play* I wonder why my phone change what I type ; )

  552. aliceS says:

    @Sugardoll :) Maybe we can place with them in that famous game “the price is right”

  553. gabby says:

    I know people post messages like this all of the time, but how do I improve my profile? I’m just a simple, nice girl looking for someone to treat me well. Do african-american sugar babies have a harder time on here? Is that whats wrong with my profile? Please help if you can. Here is my profile number: 1809201

  554. flyR says:

    “2. When the time for setting up the arrangement, how do i tell him the amount of allowance i want in a way that he doesnt feel like an ATM?”

    ” I think you are really sweet and intelligent and that I’ll have a lot of fun with you. There’s one small thing we need to get out of the way (doing something to him suggesting what may lay ahead) . I hope we can reach an agreement because I want you ( more taking advantage) ……………..

    The history of mankind , from the apple forward, is littered with examples of men who made the decision with their little head and she walked off with the empire.

  555. Josh says:

    There is NOTHING wrong with women putting a price on their vagina. They just need to be realistic if they want to go anywhere with cashing in on that “price.” 😉

  556. Sugardoll says:

    @josh

    When they tell u how much they gna give you, what do u think they have in their minds their paying for? hahaha like duhhhh/////

  557. Josh says:

    Sugardoll:

    “then i was like ** who tell them they can put a price to MY VAGINA ? (haha…expecting someones bash comment on this )”

    EVERY WOMAN in this world puts a price on her vagina. However, many promptly and vehemently deny that they are doing any such thing. 😉

  558. Sugardoll says:

    @josh

    Oh common, in business you always offer the lowest price even knowing u can pay more, better for them if you dont complain… whos going to be so stupid to offer the top limit of the available allowance lol…? I would do the same if it was my case!!

  559. Josh says:

    However, you will have to become employee first. Employers know what the going prices are for the type of employees they are looking for. If you keep haggling unrealistically then you will never be the employee of that company–happy or otherwise. 😉

  560. Sugardoll says:

    @josh – True

    But remember ** Happy employees work better *** lol..

  561. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    You will do well dear. You are a lot more realistic than Sugary. 😉

    Keep in mind that good companies not only pay a salary but also benefits and atutomatic raises. They also have very well-defined promotion plans.

    Now if you decided to work for a company that is into exploiting its workers then you keep on looking and find a better one. :)

  562. Sugardoll says:

    @Josh
    Men don’t imagine money. They earn it with time and sweat. Therefore, SB may imagine whatever they want, the SD is going to give comparable to what your competition is settling for.
    Once you provide him with consistent sugar and he gets attached to you somehow, then he may try to satisfy your imagination.

    ***I will take you to another level of thinking ***

    When you apply for a job, they have already set up a salary, BUT they ask you how much u desire to get paid ** if u accept what they offer without complaining, u can keep working for them for several year, your responsibilities increase, ur get more job to do, but u afraid to ask for a raise, Most of the time, ur boss is not going to walk to you and give you a raise just because, its better for the owner if u work more for the same salary…If you dont tell him or ask him what do u expect he will suppose you are good and happy with your salary***

    2nd. yes they earn their money with time and sweat *** dont forget it was their choice to become SD’s *** hen you want something badly and you have the money u go and get it…And sadly my dear josh ** In this world EVERYTHING HAS A PRICE!!

  563. Sugardoll says:

    If what he imagined is compatible with what you want, tell him that. If not try responding with, “that’s very generous, but I was imagining X.”

    **Fking A *** cuz i didnt know what to do after they say an amount that i dont feel comfortable with, and then i was like ** who tell them they can put a price to MY VAGINA ? (haha…expecting someones bash comment on this )

    Now some personal experience, there a girl pretty close to me, that she does know how to get $$ guys, i wish she knew english so she will really tell us some good things, shes not a SB,( she would be doing mad money if she was lol) she gets very good allowances from guys anytime she wants w sex and no sex… hahah..I also called her yesterday for advice, cuz i have seen her with ugly guys, and i asked her how can she kiss and intimate w a man she doesnt like..and omg! this was funny as hell…Her reply****I just close my eyes and think of one i like ***

  564. Josh says:

    Men don’t imagine money. They earn it with time and sweat. Therefore, SB may imagine whatever they want, the SD is going to give comparable to what your competition is settling for.

    Once you provide him with consistent sugar and he gets attached to you somehow, then he may try to satisfy your imagination.

  565. SugarySpicey says:

    Sugardoll – congratulations, you’re a human, don’t let anyone tell you to be otherwise. Anytime you mix men, women, and sex there’s a good chance someone is going to get hurt, just try not to let it change who you are.

    As far as asking for what you want, a good approach is to say, “What were you imagining the ideal arrangement to be when you created your profile. How did you think the allowance part should be handled.” If what he imagined is compatible with what you want, tell him that. If not try responding with, “that’s very generous, but I was imagining X.”

  566. Sugardoll says:

    I have 2 questions.

    1. I tend to get attach to men im attracted too, more if they make me feel special, (in general, including SD’s) im trying to deal with it but its kind of hard for me to control my emotions, any idea of what to do.?

    2. When the time for setting up the arrangement, how do i tell him the amount of allowance i want in a way that he doesnt feel like an ATM?

  567. Josh says:

    @Sugardoll

    Thanks…Good points. Understood! :)

  568. SugarySpicey says:

    Sugardoll to help you along I’ll say that I came, a lot, loudly. Sexual enjoyment was never at short supply with him … once I got past the “WTF!”

  569. Josh says:

    By the way, I am NOT imagining anything. All those statements you wrote above are for female consumption. They don’t do anything for men.

    When my disappearing “regular” SBs come back to me, I ask them why they came back? Almost all of them told me that they came back to me because I was not a “weirdo.”

    Forest Gump says: Weirdo is what weirdo does.

    So if you were pro-actively courting “weirdos” from the vantage point of regular SBs then why complain when those weirdos did what weirdos did? 😉

  570. Sugardoll says:

    @Josh

    I think every SB in here give advises based on their own experiences, same as every SD…in the end each people will decide either to follow them or not, anyways i dont think we all go by exact the same situations… so, we all going to get our own experiences.

  571. Sugardoll says:

    Ss.

    I already said he was into things most SBs wouldn’t particularly be willing to accommodate. I’ll leave the particulars up to your imagination.

    ***Loved this one *** im having fun trying to imagine

  572. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey

    “Josh – I already said he was into things most SBs wouldn’t particularly be willing to accommodate. I’ll leave the particulars up to your imagination.”

    Exactly my point sweetheart! You have NO experience in being a regular SB but you insist on advising them to get sugar your way, why?

    That said, I do understand your concern for SB safety. You have experience in that area too. So you should stick with that, no? 😉

  573. SugarySpicey says:

    Josh – I already said he was into things most SBs wouldn’t particularly be willing to accommodate. I’ll leave the particulars up to your imagination.

  574. Josh says:

    @SugarySpicey

    “I have an unhealthy appreciation for a good, solid pink pounding.”

    Now I want to find out what that 60+ year-old SD has been eating to be able to do the above. 😉

  575. Josh says:

    @DarkHorseSD:

    What kind of SD likes their 35 year-old SB doing this in a store?

    “Daddy, I love, love, love these shoes! Thank you! Thank you ! Thank you!” While giggling and bouncing – and the SD loved every second of it.”

    A “real” SD, I guess? 😉

  576. SugarySpicey says:

    Unfortunately, Horsey, Unobtanium has never been my specialty. I have to be PriceySpicey or I’d f*ck everything that swaggers my way. I have an unhealthy appreciation for a good, solid pink pounding.

  577. DarkHorseSD says:

    “Hmmm, you have never had a decent SD through SA but you feel fully qualified to advise other SBs…interesting indeed. ”

    She is also the foremost authority on Unobtanium in America. A true leader in the field.

  578. SugarySpicey says:

    Kat – “Daddy, I love, love, love these shoes! Thank you! Thank you ! Thank you!” While giggling and bouncing – and the SD loved every second of it.

  579. KatPaw says:

    @Sugary “On-xy – I thought it was so funny shopping with MILK on Rodeo Drive. I’m so wholesome looking people couldn’t decide if I was his spoiled daughter or his dirty little secret so I played up both possibilities big time to keep them scratching their heads!”
    This had me laughing and sound like a ton of fun to do too! Lol could soo see myself doing the same thing.

  580. SugarySpicey says:

    I’ve had a DREAM SD where I ended things because he thought he had fallen in love, and I’ve had good SDs who were geographically undesirable. But the average interactions skew negative.

    There’s a reason men trade money for companionship – either they’re married and want you to stay quiet, socially stunted and don’t dare approach women, kinky, or creeps who pay for female friendship because it’s easier than being nice. But there’s ALWAYS a reason.

  581. Josh says:

    @Sugary

    “TS – I think my problem is that compared to the men I have met through SA my life has been full of Princes…But time after time it seemed that the men SA brought into my life were the exact opposite; they hurt people for fun.”

    Hmmm, you have never had a decent SD through SA but you feel fully qualified to advise other SBs…interesting indeed. 😉

  582. onyx_percula says:

    @ LucyLove — She is 30 years younger.

  583. SugarySpicey says:

    On-xy – I thought it was so funny shopping with MILK on Rodeo Drive. I’m so wholesome looking people couldn’t decide if I was his spoiled daughter or his dirty little secret so I played up both possibilities big time to keep them scratching their heads!

  584. Josh says:

    @LucyLove:

    “@Josh thank you. May I add that you have a very realistic view on certain topics but I think that your choice of words bother some people.”

    Thanks. I agree. One of my problems is that I write 1000 words per minute and hit the Submit Comment button to quickly. SA needs to improve on the blog software and I need to edit before I post. 😉

  585. LucyLove says:

    @onyx what is the age difference between you and your SB?

  586. LucyLove says:

    @Josh thank you. May I add that you have a very realistic view on certain topics but I think that your choice of words bother some people.

    @sugary I emailed you with my fictitious email too! haha

  587. onyx_percula says:

    Kinda on topic — So how about meeting and interacting with someone you know is a SB or SD, and they do or do not know you are too?

    While my FL SB was here I took her swim suit shopping… the sales lady is a SB, and we both recognized each other. Of course it was very obvious to anyone with eyes and two brain cells I was with my SB… We never acknowledged it, but some fun and wry looks were exchanged.

    That’s type of thing has happened several times to me.

  588. SugarySpicey says:

    TS – I think my problem is that compared to the men I have met through SA my life has been full of Princes, so I don’t have the protective outer shell that sugar can require. I assume that because I would never intentionally hurt someone (unless that’s what turned them on) or manipulate them, that the people I interact with are the same.

    But time after time it seemed that the men SA brought into my life were the exact opposite; they hurt people for fun.

  589. Josh says:

    @TsKate says:

    “we all have to kiss a lot of frogs on the way to meeting a prince.”

    Now this is profound. However, many delusional SBs demand to meet the “real” SD from the get go. 😉

  590. SugarySpicey says:

    Horsey – I found your profile online and now I must insist you send me photos of your panties!

  591. DarkHorseSD says:

    “Did an ex find your online profile, only to become overly persistent? Share your struggles and advice”

    I’ve never had much of any problem with this.

  592. TsKate says:

    @SugarySpicey Honey we all have to kiss a lot of frogs on the way to meeting a prince.. It is good that you are not putting up with bad guys anymore.. Good luck with the people you are focused on including yourself. SmileyFace!

  593. Josh says:

    @SugarySpice

    “some men who will say that if you expect an allowance you’re a prostitute”

    And exactly how they planned to compensate the SBs?

  594. SugarySpicey says:

    Lucy, you can email to my throw away gmail account, Utahspicey.

  595. Josh says:

    @lucyLove

    Best of luck and peace! 😉

  596. SugarySpicey says:

    TS – I deleted my profile because I had a really bad experience with a fake SD and after I came out on the other side of all that drama I started to feel that sugar was not helping me to be the person I want to be.

    In this world you’ll meet a lot of damaged people, damaging people in exchange for money, and some men who will say that if you expect an allowance you’re a prostitute while they’re out trying to “get a good deal” from as many SBs as they can bang.

    It’s really easy to get kicked around by bad SDs and I got kicked one time too many.

    There are also two people in my real life, diametric opposites, that I’m more focused on right now.

  597. LucyLove says:

    @SugarySpicey id like to email you privately. How can I do so?

    @josh must I remind you that this is a public blog so I could post on here whatever I please… I also think that you should mind your own business and stop telling me and others what to do. Looking at your comments I can conclude that you are a bitter man that has nothing better to do than to try and bash other people, please stop. You are ruining the vibe of this blog. Live and let live, respect other peoples ways, opinions, lives etc.

    None of your comments are relevant to me or asked for so please do not give me anymore “advice” unless I ask for it. Thank you.
    Btw I mean this in the nicest way possible.

  598. Josh says:

    @Kate

    I like your sense of humor, girl. :) Use it as an asset with the SDs.

  599. Josh says:

    My apologies. It did not come out right. I wish SA invests in a blog software that costs some money and procides editing feature. The free blog software can go just so far. 😉

  600. TsKate says:

    *man ( Can’t have the grammar patrol knocking at my door 😛 )

  601. TsKate says:

    @Josh That was not very nice.

    @aliceS Thank you and I’m happy you got it!

    @LucyLove Stay positive. Its not hard to get a SD at all. Any men can be a SD regardless of income level. But there are levels which is why we are here :)

  602. TsKate says:

    @SugarySpicey Thank you.Why did you delete your account?

    @LucyLove You are right. Her comments are always insightful with a touch of wit. Fun to read.

    @aliceS Sweetheart you can view it. Please follow the comments given to you by @SugarySpicy .. Just view your profile. Then in your browsers URL change your profile number to mine :) Sorry you are having trouble :\

  603. Josh says:

    @LucyLove

    Take Sugary as your mentor all you want. But have some courtesy of just dealing with he r one to one and not post your whinning messages here.

    With her approach, you may get lucky some day when all the lucky stars are lined up in perfect alingment, but the odds of getting any sugar are slim to none. 😉

    In any event, best wishes. :)

  604. SugarySpicey says:

    Hey Lucy – please feel free to ask away (or email me privately) anything you need help with – sugar is really tricky, especially in the beginning.

  605. aliceS says:

    @SugarySpicey woohoo, Thank you. I get it
    Btw @TsKate I must agree with Josh. I love your main picture :) you are hot candy :)

  606. LucyLove says:

    @sugary please be my mentor! I read some of your comments and I agree with your way of thinking. I could use some guidance regarding me becoming a SB.

  607. SugarySpicey says:

    Kate – there was a TG who used to post on the blog, Emily. I remember her comment was that she got a great number of looky-loos and had to filter out the curious (but not serious) SDs a little harder than most of us. But, just as you’ve said – in her experience there were plenty of men who actively pursue TS/TG relationships through sugar dating.

    I can’t view profiles (I deleted my account) but best of luck in your search.

  608. Josh says:

    @aliceS

    You can’t see it sweetheart. Only SDs can see it. 😉

  609. TsKate says:

    @Josh

    You are very funny. I meant that as in I am comfortable with myself, but I can see how it could be misunderstood. I like your attention to detail. Thanks.

  610. SugarySpicey says:

    Alice, go to your profile, then in the browser where it lists your #, type her #. You can only search for SDs if you’re an SB you have to actually type in the number to view her.

  611. aliceS says:

    @SugarySpicey thank you. I did, but it says profile not found. I mean I went to the search. Then search member by profile number. Then typed it in and still can’t enter.

  612. Josh says:

    @TsKate says:

    “@Josh Also, you wrote I should drop the race reference? Can you describe what you mean?”

    I don’t have your profile in front of me but it has a reference to skin. You are beautiful and if I was looking for a TS I would have sought you out. Therefore, in my subjective opinion, you don’t need to make any explicit reference to skin, race, etc.

    If you were referring to something else in that sentence then please clarify so that people don’t ass-u-me like i did. :)

    Come to think of itn I should have asked instead of ass-u-ming. My apologies. :)

  613. SugarySpicey says:

    Alice you have to type in the profile number, you can’t search it.

    Also – I love when someone makes their own grammatical error while trying to grammar PATROL someone else’s writing.

  614. aliceS says:

    Hi Katy. I can’t see it. It says profile not found, so can’t help. But you go girl!

  615. TsKate says:

    @Josh

    Thank you for your comment. Two of the current pics are day time photos. I just deleted two close up pics because I read other guys complaining of girls with two many photos. I take a lot of pics lol.

    Also, you wrote I should drop the race reference? Can you describe what you mean?

  616. TsKate says:

    @KatPaw

    You’re a darling.. Love your comment :)

  617. KatPaw says:

    @TsKate as long as you are upfront about being Transgender in your profile its a thumbs up. You are who you are sweetie be proud of it! Everyone comes to sugar land looking for something different. 😉 purrrr wish you luck girly!

  618. Josh says:

    Hello Kate:

    Your profile looks fine. I don’t see anything wrong with it all. I would subjectively suggest a couple of things though.

    Get a some pictures taken during the day. I dont know if I care for the flash light, etc.

    Get a more close-up pic as the main pic.

    Drop the race reference.

    Then confidently respond to messages. If you ask more specific questions then you will get more specific answers.

    Now go get some sugar. 😉

  619. TsKate says:

    *posting here because more people probably read the newest blogs comments.*

    I have have been on SA a few days now. Can you guys give advice on my profile like you do for other girls? sa# 1984179

    I am also on match and pof and I get a lot of messages from guys online. Men also approach me in public as well, so don’t mention my being a transgendered girl as a problem. Whether you believe it or not there are many straight men who like tgirls. I am sure I will have good luck on SA as well but I want to make sure Im doing the profile right because I read a lot of complaints about the profiles.

    Please give advice on the photos and text. Again my profile is sa# 1984179

  620. Josh says:

    “nip this one in the ‘butt'”?

    Where is the language petrol? 😉

  621. KatPaw says:

    I actually have a cyber stalker on FB.. Lol like 10 years ago someone I dated ( never had sex he “couldn’t” preform and never heard from him again.) about 5 months ago I start getting messages on FB. All good till he got all pervy on me.. Still asking for pics.. Ugh I just ignore

  622. KatPaw says:

    Damn not first but second lol

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