Thanks to all our members who shared their opinions of Sugar Baby messaging blunders. The comment section was alive with useful advice and anecdotes, and I’d like to share one of our contributions from an SD Guru. Ultimately, we all message with one goal: to get a date. For those of you who have yet to experience an arrangement, he sums up the first step quite well:
My advice is “don’t let it happen to you”. Specifically, don’t put yourself in a situation where you can be taken advantage of (this applies to both SD and SB’s). For example, why meet at the lounge of a posh hotel for a first meet? A simple meet and greet at a café would have answered 3 important questions:
Will she show up as planned?
Will she be as advertised in her profile? (in your case she wasn’t), and
Is there compatibility and chemistry to proceed further? If things don’t go well then you could end the meeting with not much time and money invested. If things go well then you could easily continue the meeting at the posh hotel lounge and take it from there.
I now ask you, Sugar Babies, to share your “red flags” used to filter out the promising Sugar Daddies from the rabble . Personally, I believe that there exist three golden rules for messaging Sugar Babies. If Sugar Daddies follow these guidelines, then their messaging should never turn sour:
Charm, Don’t Bargain: While it is obvious that Sugar Daddies should be courteous throughout their messaging, there still exists some less mindful users who cut directly to the chase. If you tell a complete stranger, man or woman, that you will give them money to do your bidding, they will react negatively. It disrespectful, degrading, and depending on the situation, illegal. Arrangements are created through mutual agreements upon meeting, not spam messages that “throw” money at strangers.
Aspire To, Don’t Expect: Just because you are the benefactor, does not mean your Sugar Baby suddenly owes you. Holding the monthly allowance over his/her head and creating unrealistic expectations is a recipe for disaster. For the best results, go over what you both expect and reach a consensus before the onset of your arrangement, not after.
Look Up, Don’t Look Down: Speak to your Sugar Baby as if he/she is your equal. In fact, the more highly you regard your Sugar Baby, the more likely the arrangement will flourish. Wealth is a very respectable quality, but wealth alone should never define a person.
What types of messages (words, phrases, etc.) make you hesitant when choosing a Sugar Daddy?
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