I’m conducting a little social experiment so that those who are new and/or less mindful of our culture will take notes. This week, I’m asking you, the Sugar Daddy/Mommy community, to share any personal “red flags” when choosing your ideal Sugar Baby. Next week, we will reverse the roles and ask the Sugar Babies the same exact question.
The following was recently sent to one of our Sugar Daddies by a local Sugar Baby:
We (my best friend and I) will be in Las Vegas next weekend (the 30th through the 2nd) and would love to have someone show us around and make sure we see the best of Vegas!
Look forward to hearing from you!
So what’s wrong with this message? To the untrained eye, it may seem fun and exciting. But ask yourself this: will a mutually beneficial arrangement be created?
There are two rather large “red-flags” in this message:
Taking Two to Tango – When a Sugar Daddy lives in a big city, please don’t immediately ask to bring your friend. If you haven’t spoken or met before, it implies that you are just using him for your own benefit, not a mutual one.
Pitching Yourself – Sugar Daddies/Mommies are successful, not stupid. They know when you copy and paste the same exact message in hopes of nabbing an arrangement. This message was probably sent to numerous Sugar Daddies because it lacked any specifics. Sometimes, the difference between a delete and a date is a little catering.
Moral of the story? Cater to your messaging and avoid copy + paste.
Other Common Messaging Blunders
Just Winking – If you intend to wink and show interest, follow-up by writing a sincere and catered message. Solely winking will rarely get you a date, let a lone an arrangement.
Money Talks – We advise against negotiating immediately in the first message. Build a rapport through continued messaging and a date or two. Transition to the arrangement talks once the mutual trust and respect is established.
What messages (words, phrases, etc.) make you hesitant when choosing an arrangement?
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