Diana Price had “Wonder Woman”. Barbara Gordon had “Bat Girl”. These are just a few examples of women who led a double life to fulfill all their needs. Sure, these are fictional characters. But there are countless women who do practically the same. Namely, being a Sugar Baby.
There are a variety of reasons as to why a woman would feel the need to keep Sugaring a secret. Here are a few:
Living under parent(s) roof
Fear of backlash from family or friends
Fear of career backlash
Having a IRL boyfriend
It’s unfortunate that society—not morality or a guilty conscience—is responsible for creating half of the fears and concerns listed above. But until then the best you, as a Sugar Baby living a double life, can do is learn to deal.
Don’t commit to a lifestyle or arrangement you can’t follow through with. If one of your Sugar Daddies offers a trip to Bali, but you’re worried the IRL boyfriend will become suspicious that is a red flag. You need to understand the parameters of an arrangement and be able to commit.
Do hide your wealth. Sugaring looks worse on paper than it actually is. Remember to keep it classy. Throwing your money around like it’s nothing calls unwanted attention to your affairs.
Don’t take your Sugar Daddy home…if your name isn’t on the lease or mortgage. I don’t care if mom and dad are away on their umpteenth honeymoon re-enactment trip to Aruba or Cancun. It will be uncomfortable for both of you. This is also a surefire way to eliminate mystery. And trust me, you need mystery.
Do confide in at least one friend. I cannot stress this enough. You will need moral and safety support when dabbling into the Sugar Bowl. Having one friend who is “in-the-know” not only relieves the anxiety and stress which can result in “word-vomiting” to the wrong person. He or she will also double as a security measure. Give them details about your POT dates, and setup an exit plan if the date is bad.
How else do you handle your double life?
Any other good tips of your own?
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