Many Sugar Daddies, Sugar Baby females, Sugar Baby males, and Sugar Mama’s come to decision points in their sugarlives, when they must choose a direction for their arrangement(s). The choice may be to cancel a trip, negotiate their benefits, remind a sugar about a promise, telling others about their sugar, choosing a setting for a 1st date, etc. Following the Heart? Making choices such as when and where to meet, what to do, and whether you’re happy, are just as important for people in non-sugar relationships as they are to sugars. Yet for those taking part in the sugar movement, how decisions are made in a relationship/arrangement is understood as directly connected to the value of the overall relationship. In other words, while a non-sugar couple may seem like they seldom struggle with such ‘sugar-conundrums’ like where to meet, what to do, what to expect and when, it’s certainly possible that they really do. A Sugar’s Next Move If you’re in a seeking phase, then your next move is to find a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby to be in an arrangement with. Options include finding sugar locally, long distance, or perhaps even both.
Midwest SB: My last two SDs were long distance. They came to see me on the first visit, then I would travel for long weekends to see them. Often, I would get to visit Vegas or FL as they would combine business and pleasure. Make sure you mention in the profile that you’re open to traveling and long-distance arrangements. There seem to be quite a few SDs who prefer long-distance arrangements. Know what you’re getting into with travel. It typically takes a half to full day to actually get to your destination and another to return. Give him fireworks during the times in between because you probably won’t see him as often. Keep it alive in-between with flirting, online games, chats over coffee, etc. Lastly, some men factor the cost of travel into the allowance and others don’t, so make sure you have a clear understanding of what is/ isn’t included in the allowance. Don’t feel bad because he’s spending money to bring you to him, but definitely be appreciative. You’re worth it and he knows this already.
Point of Contact There are many ways of deciding when and how to start communicating with a potential sugar. Every sugar has their own approach to sending and responding to messages from pots.
SomeRandonSD: If I see someone interesting, I’ll contact them. On the flip side, I appreciate a message from someone who has actually read my profile, and responds to something specific in it — that’s genuine interest. From this side, sometimes I am too busy to look. I find being contacted, flattering. As long as it’s not overly aggressive — like, 10 emails to my 1 response, where are you, fatal attraction’ish..
Multiple Sugars at Once It’s common for modern daters to see more than one person at a time. Some SD’s and SB’s currently have more than one arrangement, and others are in exclusive relationships with their sugar. Knowing whether to have more than one sugar at once isn’t always easy, since even if you’re okay with the idea, your current or potential sugar(s) may not be.
Sugar Boy: “Although I have a new SD, I had talked to 2 others around the same time period. I had scheduled a meeting earlier this month with another potential, and I meet him this week. Another wants to meet in June.. Ultimately I’m trying to find the right fit. Is it wrong to have all 3? If everyone is happy/satisfied why not? Lol
What phase of the sugar are you in at the moment? Searching for your ideal arrangement? Currently in a sugar relationship? What kind of sugar choices (if any) are you in the midst of making? Have you had any sweeeet surprises with a SD or SB? Have you found any benefits you didn’t originally expect from sugar?
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