There have been many recent examples of married men ‘caught’ in Sugar Daddy affairs. Bishop Eddie Long, Tiger Woods, and many other well-known husbands have had their sugar relationships brought out into the open recently.
Holly Hill, author of “Sugar Babe,” says she practices “negotiated infidelity,” allowing her partner to enter into extramarital sexual relationships as long as he does so according to the terms of their agreement.
Many Sugar Daddies and Sugar Babies practice negotiated infidelity with their partners in marriage.
Yet some marriages can’t withstand a spouses venture into the Sugar Bowl …
Here’s one married Sugar Daddy’s response to the topic of married Sugar Daddies leaving their wives for their Sugar Babies. David Montrose says:
That is a risky situation. It’s no news to anyone that the married SD has the most to lose. Then, why do they do it? Because it is exiting and exhilarating. Maybe he is stuck in an unhappy marriage, maybe he has been married for years and has a family. He can’t divorce, because he still has some sense of love and loyalty to his wife, and couldn’t see her get totally hurt.
So it is likely he is caught in a life and a mindset of contradictions. And when he finds himself alone in a quiet time, he may be thinking about all these things and feeling particularly vulnerable. Unless, of course, he can compartmentalize the various aspects of his life, really carefully.
I had a friend once in the SD lifestyle who was able to do just that. He was a really wealthy corporate executive, who just separated the various aspects of his life really effectively, to the point where it was normal for him to have a mistress for a very very long time, and at least on the surface, he did not seem to feel guilty at all.
It helped, of course, that his business needed him to travel constantly between LA and New York. So he spent half the week with his wife in LA, and then a few days every week with his mistress in NYC. He even bought an apartment for his mistress and he gave her a large enough allowance each month that she didn’t have to work. So he was wealthy enough to live the something close to a ‘bi-gamist’ lifestyle. Funny enough, whenever I told him he was that, he got offended. I guess compartmentalization only goes so far.
Would a married SD leave his wife for his sugar babe? I am sure some have, but in general, the answer is a clear ‘No’. And why? It is one thing to cheat on his wife, or to seek a bit of thrill or the companionship of someone younger and more attractive. Yet it is something totally different to find the motivation and cause a life changing event. Does the SB have so much more to offer, physically and emotionally, for him to go through the emotional and financial hardship of a divorce? With a good divorce attorney his wife can take him to the cleaners on adultery, irreconcilable differences etc. So the answer again is “No.”
I have met a couple of SB’s during my time in the ‘sugar life’ that became so attached to their SDs that became disillusioned enough to think that the SD would keep seeing them forever and always have them in his life. They were eventually disappointed a few months or a year down the road. SBs shouldn’t forget what made their SDs like them in the fist place: good looks, caring enough about someone to give them an allowance, but many times it is the thrill, novelty and seductiveness aspect of the whole situation that trumps everything else. Once that wears off, and it always does eventually, game is up. Of course, the above may not hold true for a SD who is single. That, could possibly lead to a marriage. But here, we are talking only about married SDs.
I find the lyrics of this song about a woman going after a married man very very interesting, because they show how many women think:
she get to have it everyday
What a lucky girl
Well tonight I’ll take her place
I’m a lucky girl
But I really believe that in the end, the love of his life , i.e. the wife, ‘warts and all’, will always get her man in the end. Maybe a bit jaded, or roughed up, and maybe a marriage that will not be the same ever again, but I don’t think that man would leave his wife for an SB no matter how sexy and thrilling the experience may be. After all, this is just an NSA fling, and a meeting of convenience, no matter how long it may last. As always, this is just one man’s opinion …”
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