7 years ago
Happy Sugar Weekend!

7 years ago
Happy Sugar Weekend!

People are getting a lot of different ideas about SeekingArrangement, and if you haven’t heard about the buzz, you might want to check out this report from “SoCalGlamourGirls” – but be warned, it may not be for the timid…

The idea of SA is simple – mutually beneficial relationships; drama free, guilt free, and, as one Sugar Daddy put it, “a place to be honest, flirty, and polite all at once”.

Care to share an example of an arrangement that you’ve had or always wanted to have with a Sugar Daddy or Sugar Baby?

Does anyone have any sugar in their weekend and/or near-future plans?

 


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716 Responses to “Happy Sugar Weekend!”

  1. test-tube says:

    I have read so many articles or reviews on the topic of the blogger lovers however this article is
    really a good article, keep it up.

  2. sugarbaby154 says:

    I wish I had a SD. I haven’t found the right one.

  3. Margaret says:

    I would like to say a few things here.

    I have been on your site for a few years now and have yet to find what I am looking for. I have had several very disappointing conversations and experiences with those I have encountered. I have a feeling that the men who are on your site are not looking for someone who is highly intelligent, articulate, independent minded (ironic huh) and good looking/physically fit. Perhaps the very last quality, but not the combination of all of the above.

    Also, I’ve encountered potential SDs who lie about what they are willing to offer. Why can’t people be more honest in their profiles? FWIW, I don’t make initial contact, they do, and I can’t understand why one bothers contacting someone if they can’t meet the criteria listed on one’s profile?

    I am not looking for someone to finance my life, I am only looking to supplement my income in order to start my own business and gain complete independence from situations as such…My impression is that I am too ambitious, too astute, and too mature for most of the members on the site. My question is, does the combination of being smart, attractive, and ambitious turn most SDs off? Should I downgrade my profile and pretend to be a bimbo?

  4. BABEGYRL says:

    OK, Hello everyone. I was reading a few of the blogs posted. I was wondering about the SD using a visa gift card and just refil when needed for whatever arrangement?
    You dont have a name on it or use any account information is necessary to fill or re-fill the card. What I use when i’m sending out B-Day presents or Christmas Gifts to the family.

  5. JennaBeth says:

    Oh — almost forgot —

    Gemini29 :

    OMG , that guy you were talking about –

    “I’m looking for a freak, ho, and good-girl all in one hot package.
    Dislikes: Blonde, clubbing-Barbie types with the attention span of a sparrow.
    Likes: Petite, sexy intellectual girls who like to eat buffalo chicken wings and watch porn on Sunday afternoon. ”

    just messaged me too . Funny thing is I happen to be blonde , wait didnt he say ? . . . . . . . . lol

  6. JennaBeth says:

    Good evening everyone !

    Im a first time poster so please be kind :-) But I just need to vent to some who know where Im coming from .

    So the question was . . .. Do I have any sugar in my near-plans , well I actually DID , tonight , and I yes , the sugarbaby , GOT STOOD UP by my potential SD !

    Got all dressed up , mani /pedi / salon — the works ! And sat and waited at the resturant for a half hour , before I just decided I was looking stupid sitting there by myself , and left.

    I even confirmed with him 3 hours prior to make sure we were still on ( he said yes ) , and texted him when I got there .

    Can someone tell me where this went wrong ?

  7. Ophelia says:

    Hello there….
    Im UTTERLY fascinated by the amazing women, and blogging on this site, which I am new to, and to the whole concept of SB/SD…

    Nicole, Flo rider (hello fellow Brit< im half…) Gemini, Ebony….just to name the ones I can currently remember.

    I would love to have email contact if that is of interest…

    Have so many questions, and bid you all a wonderful eve!

  8. The Lone Gunman says:

    Margo:

    Best guess is to see if they are as compatible horizontally as they are vertically.

    TLG

    –onward, my friends, to the next blog that never ends!

  9. Margo says:

    TXSB – I like your posts. But men say that there are many girls who do sleep with them at first date.
    Why do the girls do that? Do they enjoy having sex so much that they cannot wait or there are other reasons?

  10. texaSD says:

    Nicole, and I forgot to mention, Sorry that has happened to you in the past.

  11. texaSD says:

    the damage a guy can do to a woman in these situations is far worse than anything we could ever do to him, physically or financially.

    That part is untrue, each have a lot to lose.

  12. texaSD says:

    Nicole– guys can grasp that, do they think its unfair? maybe some do, Will they honor your request?, maybe some will… But for some guys, You knew the risks when you signed up.

    — realize that some guys can’t grasp this, or think it’s unfair – but trust me, the damage a guy can do to a woman in these situations is far worse than anything we could ever do to him, physically or financially.

    Not true.

  13. Nicole says:

    If I might respectfully offer a bit of advice to the newer SB’s here, please be careful about giving out your real name/employer info or any information about your family (especially if you have kids) to a pot SD or even a new daddy unitl you really know who you are dealing with.

    For me the first month of an arrangement is on a “cash only” basis so he doesn’t get my banking info or any of my personal info. After the first month or so, if the arrangement is serious and more than just a “fling,” then I will trust him with a little more info….then a little more….if he’s a good boy and doesn’t go whacko on me, he’ll eventually get to know me like an open book. But I remain guarded until he proves himself.

    Physically and financially we are at a disadvantage if he should turn out to be crazy or a stalker or violent. Sadly, as you can tell from the horror stories on those “fake sd” sites, a lot of them are.

    On the other hand, yes you absolutely should get all of his info and VERIFY before agreeing to meet him, even for coffee. After all, he’s advertising himself as a man who can take care of you financially – there’s only one way to find out if he’s telling the truth. And why would you want to waste time going out with a guy only to find out he’s broke?

    I realize that some guys can’t grasp this, or think it’s unfair – but trust me, the damage a guy can do to a woman in these situations is far worse than anything we could ever do to him, physically or financially.

    I’ve had several pot SD’s go INSANE on me after the first date – stalking me, the whole 9 yards. I’ve got a career and a kid and just don’t need the drama or fear in my life. So nowadays I take privacy much more seriously.

    Hope the ladies give this some thought. Being so free with your private information can get you the kind of attention you definitely don’t want!

  14. Flo Rida says:

    Early start for me after a late night.

    NewSB in SB – I grew up in London & went to Sussex University – I only got to Flagler Beach in 2003ish so I don’t know about school here. Do you get to the Golden Lion here in Flagler? I tend to go to St. Augustine more than Daytona (apart from the airport that is).

    NewTXSB – how about TXSB as a handle? Also why don’t you persuade Realistic to be a Travel Daddy? Seriously though growing up in London made it easy to travel to so many countries in Europe. I’ve been lucky.

    Gemi & Liv – I’ve been really busy but will respond to you both very soon – promise – hug kiss.

    Finally – a tell tale sign that you have a shopping addiction is when the Manager of La Perla knows your name & personal likes & makes an effort to get to know you – scary – i’ve got to scale down. Btw her name is Rose Falotica (spelling) @ the La Perla in SoHo where there are about 5 lingerie stores (different chi chi brands) quite close to each other.

    K-K – wie geht’s? Ich sprechen deutsche ein bischen. Sprechen sie mitt neuen SD auf Germany? gehen sie gut oder nicht gut? Ich zum Koln und Leverkusen gehen imNovember. Tschuss bis bald.

  15. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone, did I hear my name mentioned NewTXSB ? :)

    Still drying out from yesterday, heading out to work

    Have a good day everyone

  16. NewTXSB says:

    “New SB in SB *395409* says:
    NewTX SB…I KNOW you have moved past the “new” phase….want to have some fun and get suggestions on new handles? ”

    *** Hehehe…I still feel “new” but I welcome fun/creative new handle suggestions. :)

    *** Yes, that’s the addy. I saw other SA profiles too that were scary….b/c looking at the profile alone you’d never think these men would do something like that!

  17. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Taz~ your welcome…. fingers crossed girl!

    Gemi~ hi girl

  18. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Off to bed for me,,, this internet connection is so bad tonight…
    Good luck Texas, with the shopping… lol That is funny, We are all in need of good SDs!!

    Good night all!! Lurkers, ladies, and gents!

  19. texaSD says:

    Ebony- Something to think about as i go to bed lol, goodnight everyone…

  20. ebony says:

    TexaSD I bet i could pique your interest! Lol

  21. texaSD says:

    NewTX- Not really, i been searching maybe for about a month, I haven’t bothered emailing anyone yet, I am just browsing, seeing if there is anything that peaks my interest.

  22. ebony says:

    I know….I was all worried bout what I was gonna wear and brainstorming wit my gals, puttin on outfits, then changing them, then again you know the whole shabang’. then he gon go lie lol! Why oh why can’t i just meet an SD thts what he says and is Mr. Right SD lol.

  23. NewTXSB says:

    ebony:
    I get your point about the pot belly….gah…especially since he listed himself as “athletic”!

  24. NewTXSB says:

    Yep….there’s ebony and myself, RealisticSD, lisa, Lone Gunman…I know there are at least 2 or 3 more but can’t think of the names right now.

    texaSD:
    Are you new to this? How long have you been searching? (sorry, with the blog being slow and me being bored, I just thought I’d start “interviewing” people!)

  25. ebony says:

    Hahaha ewww I hate a bad kisser….but especially the one whose tongue reaches your face 5 seconds before his lips do!

  26. NewTXSB says:

    “Gemini29 says:
    I’ve had some AWFUL kisses…the slobbery I-need-a-towel-for-my-face-now kiss,”

    *** Right after college I went on a few dates with this HOT guy…probably the hottest I’ve been dated…but damn that’s what he kissed like (and yes it was a deal breaker). Just reading that brought back painful memories.

  27. texaSD says:

    NewTXSB– cool lol, i didn’t know that many Texas people were in the chat…

  28. NewTXSB says:

    ebony:
    LOL…I’m almost positive that my SD doesn’t have anyone else…simply b/c I can’t imagine him having the time for anyone else (he’s married and sees me 4-5x/wk). But if I do find out he has you too, he’s getting his butt kicked (hope you’re reading this hun!) 😉

    Cool you’re in Dtown. I have family there too and probably will be there near Thanksgiving. I’ll post it closer to that date so hopefully we can do a Dtown blog meetup. :)

  29. Gemini29 says:

    Actually I think a kiss can tell a lot about a guy…specifically if I think its “worth” seeing him again. I’ve had some AWFUL kisses…the slobbery I-need-a-towel-for-my-face-now kiss, the hey-why-is-his-tongue-down-my-throat? kiss, and the windmill-tongue-kiss, oh and my fave, oh-this-is-nice-AUGH!-WHY-ARE-HIS-HANDS-ON-MY-BUTT?!!! kiss I kind of feel that if he’s gotten to the age of 30+ and still doesn’t know how to kiss or thinks a kiss means he can grope me in the parking lot…then he’s a catch and release. Back into the wild with you. And take your tongue with you, McGrabby.

    But that doesn’t mean I’m up on kissing on the first date, or even the 2nd. There has to be chemistry there first, for me at least.

  30. ebony says:

    NewTxb I’m in D-town and I would love to meet up! Lol ‘twould be a funny affair finding out maybe we have tha same SD hahaha.

  31. ebony says:

    Thats what I kept thinking in the back of my mind too! Dont try to cup a feel….just get to know me and let me get to know you but…oh well.

  32. NewTXSB says:

    On my previous post…where I wrote “I just have to be”….the “have” was meant to be “happen”…….

  33. Gemini29 says:

    ebony – nah nothing wrong with kissing him back….kisses are the barometer for everything else…

    but shame on him for trying to kiss or get more than a kiss. the first date should be a get to know, not a “I want to jump your bones”.

  34. NewTXSB says:

    texaSD:
    Htown. If you ever want to meet up….let me know. I think it’d be frigging cool to meet people from here IRL….but I do get how many would be concerned about privacy. But if you (or any other TX peeps here) want to meet up…..let me know. I know SD would love to join too.

  35. NewTXSB says:

    ebony:

    Firstly, I’m sure while “searching”, you will meet men who will make you feel and try to treat you like an escort. Don’t let that get to you.

    LOL….you shouldn’t feel bad! We all have our personal limits….I just have to be more “strict” than others. I’ve never kissed anyone on the 1st date (even in traditional dating) but tons of people out there do. It’s not “bad”….the point in all this is that make sure you’re comfortable with what you’re doing. Don’t let him pressure you into doing anything.

  36. ebony says:

    *ouch Newtx now you make me feel bad since I kissed him! Lol

  37. texaSD says:

    NewTXSB- Cool, whereabouts are you?

  38. ebony says:

    Thx NewTX and Gemini. I mean I liked his kisses its just the potbelly kinda threw me off! Lol . I dont wanna feel like an escort but I kinda felt that way when he wanted things to progress tonight.

  39. NewTXSB says:

    texaSD: Cool….I’ll be there in a few weeks visiting family.

    ebony:
    I forgot to add….since this guy tried to get physical with you already, if you do go on a 2nd date with him, make it very clear to him that you will NOT get physically involved with him unless you two have an arrangement AND your allowance has been paid. There are too many stories of SBs out there who got physical with men who agreed to pay them a certain allowance….but once the men got what they wanted, the allowance never came.

    Before my SD, some of the potential SD’s I went on dates with tried to kiss me (little peck on the lips) after dinner….and each time I turned my face and politely but firmly told them that I do not plan on getting physical (and yes, to me, lip kissing counts too) without an arrangement since I have no intention of kissing every single man I meet through this site.

  40. texaSD says:

    ebony:
    I forgot to add….since this guy tried to get physical with you already, if you do go on a 2nd date with him, make it very clear to him that you will NOT get physically involved with him unless you two have an arrangement AND your allowance has been paid

    —–And VIce Versa…

  41. texaSD says:

    The Capital

  42. NewTXSB says:

    texasSD:

    Mind if I ask….which city are you in? If you’d rather not answer, I totally understand. :)

  43. NewTXSB says:

    “ebony says:
    He kind of tried to get physical tonight but I stopped things. He did give me some cash as a gift and tha promise of a future date. I have a couple of questions here…
    1. Should I be worried and think he just wants like an escort type deal or is this normal?
    2. How do I broach the subject of an arrangement?
    3. If the chemistry on my side is not there, should i continue seeing him or let it go? (He feels chemistry w/ me)”

    *** Firstly, so the man lied about his physical appearance! Nice…As for the cash gift, it’s not unusual for potential SD’s to give gifts (cash or otherwise) on the 1st date. I’m glad you stopped him from being physical. It’s stupid to get physical with a potential SD before an arrangement has been agreed upon and the 1st allowance has been paid. Now to your questions:

    1) What do you mean by escort type deal? Did he say anything to make you think this? If you’re talking about what people refer to as “pay per play”…where you get paid each single time the SD “sees” you versus a monthly flat allowance, that’s upto you as to whether or not you’re comfortable with it. Personally I think that’s no different than being an escort but that’s just my 2 cents…

    2) I would suggest that when/if he call or e-mails you about a 2nd date, you could ask him if he is interested in discussing an arrangement…and see what his response is. My SD e-mailed me arrangement details after our 1st “date”….and on our 2nd date, he went ahead and gave me the allowance that we agreed upon.

    3) If you don’t feel the chemistry, then I’m not sure why you would continue seeing him. Again, that’s what escorts do. Escorts see men they feel no chemistry for….all they care about is $$$. So unless you’re going that route….true SBs don’t go for SDs they feel no chemistry for.

  44. texaSD says:

    I am still shopping, Strangely addicting… how is your searches going?

  45. Gemini29 says:

    ebony – sorry that your date sounded rather so-so. Here are my tips:
    1. It is a bit….icky that he tried to push the physical so soon…good thing you stopped him in his tracks, always best to hold off on that until an arrangement is in place AND you are feeling it.
    2. I normally don’t like to bring the arrangement up, I think it is the mans job to do it. But after say, 3 dates and it still isn’t brought up, then yes, I will do it. Or just assume he isn’t interested in being a SD and move on.
    3. If the chemistry isn’t there for you, then let him go. Why force something that should feel natural and good?

    On my one and only pot SD date, he brought up the arrangement details…and I agree with Flo Rida, it is brutal. I rather wish he hadn’t brought it up…it kind of put a huge damper on the date for me, especially since we disagreed on the terms of the arrangement…I would rather have hashed that out after a good nights sleep and more thought. So sometimes its good if they don’t bring up the arrangement right away but rather wait until the second date or a few days later. Just my two cents.

  46. NewTXSB says:

    I’m here too….

  47. Gemini29 says:

    Hi Beach and TexaSD! I’m popping in for a bit before I head off to bed. How is your sugar searches going?

  48. ebony says:

    Ok so just came back from my first date with a pot SD. First off he lied about being “athletic”. I mean if being athletic means having a big ‘ol potbelly then maybe I need to brush up my english. The whole date went well and we had alot to talk about but me being new to the sugarworld I didnt quite know how to approach the whole arrangment thing. He kind of tried to get physical tonight but I stopped things. He did give me some cash as a gift and tha promise of a future date. I have a couple of questions here…
    1. Should I be worried and think he just wants like an escort type deal or is this normal?
    2. How do I broach the subject of an arrangement?
    3. If the chemistry on my side is not there, should i continue seeing him or let it go? (He feels chemistry w/ me)

  49. Taz says:

    I am here too 😛

    Thanks for the heads up BG!

  50. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    How you been Texas? How is your search going?

  51. texaSD says:

    beach- lol i think I am it…

  52. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hello sugars!!!
    How is everyone? Anybody left?

  53. I’m off to sugar dreams. G’night all!

  54. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Thinking about it you’re ya’ll are right. Hell I’ll use it to wrap my hair. I heard silk keeps hair in check…

    Good night for reals

  55. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    It’s not that I wouldn’t appreciate it! In fact I’d rather he buy me nothing than having him shell 0ut $300 for a fricken scarf.”

    *** Take the scarf, say “thank you” and move on. No one in this blog knows this man and even you don’t know him well enough to know for sure sure how he will feel/act if you refused his gift. He could be understanding and look past it……OR he could be very offended/hurt and it could destroy any chance of a relationship with you. What’s $300 in the sugar world? If you like this man, is $300 worth taking the chance that you *may* damage the chance of a relationship with him?

    Take the scarf, say “thank you”…..I wasn’t joking about giving it to your grandmother earlier! Or put it away….it’s not like he’s going to force you to wear it in your daily life…….and no matter how much you hate scarfs, maybe just once you could wear it when you go out with him. If this guy turns out to be great SD, in the big picture, this is not a big deal.

  56. NewTXSB says:

    “New SB in SB *395409* says:
    Accepting gifts: I work in the non-profit sector…and I was always taught…accept ANY gift graciously and with appreciation. There will always be a use…even if it becomes a white elephant gift. The giver should never be left to think their gift was insignificant. Especially if other gifts are to come.”

    *** I agree with this view. Just b/c someone is giving me an item as a gift, it doesn’t mean I *have* to love it or even use it. I just say “thank you” and accept it. This should be even easier in “sugar situations” b/c you know there are more gifts to come.

  57. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Thanks my dear…Going to turn in early tonight! Got an early morning train to catch tomorrow! First out-of-state sugar date! Wish me luck all!

    Good night Sugars! Sweet dreams!

    P.S I would really like feedback on that question, it would be uber helpful. It’s not that I wouldn’t appreciate it! In fact I’d rather he buy me nothing than having him shell 0ut $300 for a fricken scarf.

    Night Loves!

  58. well hello guys I caught up on the blog and now I am going off to shop-online
    Hope everybodys good!!
    night you guys!

  59. Yikes! I have to proof my sentence stucture on that last entry!

    I’m a fan of pearls…how about Precious Pearl for a name??

    Boston – I hope all turns out as agreed.

  60. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Sorry about the wine spill NewSB

    And I noticed a typo. Daddies of this blog- How would you feel if an SB said she didn’t want a particular item you had in mind for a gift? What would you do?

  61. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Thanks NewTex; I will discuss this with him on Friday…now only if I could get the scarf dilemma resolved I’ll be good for the week

  62. Accepting gifts: I work in the non-profit sector…and I was always taught…accept ANY gift graciously and with appreciation. There will always be a use…even if it becomes a white elephant gift. The giver should never be left to think their gift was insignificant. Especially if other gifts are to come.

    It may be different in the sugar world.

  63. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    NewTx-Yes he paid the first allowance and he did say he would pay the bill”

    *** So this is not a “pot”….you two have an arrangement and he has paid the 1st allowance. He’s your SD.

    I just saw that he contacted you and you have a date on Friday. I don’t know if you already discussed this with him but you may want to ask him whether or not he plans on being on “regular” contact with you…even while he’s slammed with work or travelling. That may put your mind at ease…in the sense that if he’s expecting the “distance” while travelling or working, you know that it’s part of the “deal”.

  64. NewTXSB says:

    “New SB in SB *395409* says:
    NewTX SB – How about RSDs girl? Houston Hottie?”

    The 1st one is an option….I’m hesitant on the 2nd one b/c I don’t want my location posted that obviously every single time I post. I don’t mind “TX” on the handle but the city is too specific for my comfort. Any other suggestions?

    BTW, I agree with you about the lack of caring in public schools……and yes, IMO the involvement of parents makes a HUGE difference.

  65. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Public schools rock! Look at all the fine products!

    NewTx-Yes he paid the first allowance and he did say he would pay the bill

  66. Boston – ROTFLMAO!!! *cleaning up wine*

    Have you shared other likes with him?

    NewTX – I’m sure that is very true.

  67. BostonSugahBabe says:

    New SB-No Im still debating on telling him I really don’t care for the scarf, to me it’s like receiving granny panties, even if the over sized underwear cost $1000 and made from the finest silk, name brand, it still granny panties to me.

    Something our SD could help me out with. I don’t want to seem ungrateful, but I would never wear it. How would you feel if an SD turned down your gift?

  68. NewTXSB says:

    “New SB in SB *395409* says:
    I also saw a blog that gave sbs the chance to tell about great sds…however there were no comments Does that mean nobody wants to kiss and tell??”

    *** I actually agree with what RealisticSD wrote…I think that no one wants to advertise a “good thing” and have more competition.

  69. Realistic – I believe you.

    I am also from the public schools…state university. As a parent, I do get frustrated with the apathy and lack of creativity in the schools. However, I believe the best education is received when the parents are involved and the children are excited about learning. Done!

    NewTX SB – How about RSDs girl? Houston Hottie?

  70. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    My “SD”, or pot-I don’t know what to call him but I have been “seeing” him for about a month and a half now. We have been on four “dates” and then suddenly he disappears. We had a scheduling conflict one week and then the next week he is a no show. I’ve texted him a few times to be courtesy, well aware of him being a busy man, and wasn’t sure if this how it was in the beginning. He texted me back saying he was being a terrible friend and that he has been super busy. He left for Chicago for the weekend and then some. I still haven’t heard from him am surviving on the sugar he gave me weeks ago! I am worried because I have a bill to pay which we agreed he would pay for. This one’s a real nail-biter. Has he up and left me?”

    *** So after 4 dates and a few WEEKS of talking to you, did you two agree on an arrangement? And did he pay the 1st “allowance”? When did he say he would pay the bill?

  71. RealisticSD says:

    New SB in SB, I think no one wants to tell about the good SDs and create more competition for themselves, lol.

    I also am a product of the public school system.

  72. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Thanks for the advice Realistic; Funny thing is he just IM’ed me, apologizing for “being elusive”. Work is super busy, yadda-yadda. I could understand if he was busy I’d just like to know what would be going on next, and I could understand even more if he had a wife. Should I not be feelings this?

    We made plans for Friday. I’m not quite sure how it will go since he disappeared at a crucial point in the relationship where we are still getting to know each other, so to me, it’s going to feel brand new on friday. And not the good brand new—the awkward kind.

  73. NewTXSB says:

    “Lady_8 397899 says:
    that is why i don’t want my sons education to be from public schools.”

    I went to a public school and then to a state university. I like to think I turned out fine.

  74. Thx Realistic. I googled it later. I also saw a blog that gave sbs the chance to tell about great sds…however there were no comments :-) Does that mean nobody wants to kiss and tell??

    Hi Boston! Figure out the scarf issue?

  75. RealisticSD says:

    BostonSugahBabe, sucky situation to be in. I personally hate being in limbo. I guess the best policy has to be to ask honestly where things stand. Of course, he could say some BS, but putting him on the spot is likely to clarify things more quickly.

  76. RealisticSD says:

    The blog of bad SDs is at thegreatpretenders-dot-wordpress-dot-com. I assume that is what NewTXSB is referring to as it has the account on Dr. Tony, but I may be wrong.

  77. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Lady_8 397899 says:
    October 26, 2009 at 6:29 pm
    i need help deciphering this message. LOL

    O my gods did he ever go to school

    ‘ i read you profil i like every think i like good feel mad ,,,i love horse too ,,i hope i can be you friend ,,i like you pict you are very cute”

    What is his nationality? Maybe he doesn’t speak english? If not then at is serious, though I don’t think it has to do with the type of school system he attended, but more how much he applied himself in school or not. I went to public school and I turned out fine.

    Anon SB-That is an awkward position.

    I am going through something similar. My “SD”, or pot-I don’t know what to call him but I have been “seeing” him for about a month and a half now. We have been on four “dates” and then suddenly he disappears. We had a scheduling conflict one week and then the next week he is a no show. I’ve texted him a few times to be courtesy, well aware of him being a busy man, and wasn’t sure if this how it was in the beginning. He texted me back saying he was being a terrible friend and that he has been super busy. He left for Chicago for the weekend and then some. I still haven’t heard from him am surviving on the sugar he gave me weeks ago! I am worried because I have a bill to pay which we agreed he would pay for. This one’s a real nail-biter. Has he up and left me?

    Hello New SB and Welcome back Gem Gal

  78. RR Gem – I’m kind of new to this too, but the people on the site gave me some”gems” that got results. If you don’t mind a few suggestions…I’d be happy to share.

    It’s quiet tonight.

  79. where is everyone miss you all sugarfamily I did have a man seeking a relationship too seriou does not understand what I am working for

  80. i still have not gotten 1 email?????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  81. Hi everyone I have missed you alll very much everyone miss me?
    xoxo

  82. Gemini29 says:

    AnonSB – What an awful position he put you in. I agree with the other commentators, definitely ask him if his thinking state is a non-arrangemen state. If he was suspending everything while he thinks it out, he should have told you. Leaving you just hanging shows a lack of consideration and respect for you. I hope you two sort it out or at least that he gives you the decency of reply one way or the other.

  83. Hello all in sugarland! I must be having some quiet time as I had only a few visitors and e-mails. Come to think of it, even the ones who were staying in regular contact have been quiet. Is it the sports or does this tend to come in waves? Last week was quite active…hmmmmm.

    NewTX SB…I KNOW you have moved past the “new” phase….want to have some fun and get suggestions on new handles? Glad all is going well for you and RSD. What is the site for seeing the fake profiles?

    Flo Rida – I lived in Daytona (Ormond Beach) for a few years…worked at Finkys/ 701 So and went to school for a bit I used to play racquetball with the Embry Riddle “boys”…they hated losing :-) I grew up in Stuart. Sound familiar?

    SG2 – Sounds like a lady who likes to please. Have fun!

  84. NewTXSB says:

    OMG…so I found the site that has the “fake SD” stories…I’m looking up the SD’s on SA that’re listed there. I know I’ve heard of “Dr.Tony” here but never knew what you ladies were talking about.

    Well, I just read “Dr Tony’s” profile thanks to that site and OMG….I had seen his profile before I met my SD and actually considered contacting him but didn’t b/c there was something about his pics that bothered me. Wow….sounds like I got lucky!

  85. NewTXSB says:

    “Flo Rida says:
    BG – I own a house in Flagler Beach (north of Daytona Beach) but spend a lot of time in NY and Atlanta. I’ve also lived in Houston, Minneapolis, Charlotte, London, England, Melbourne, Australia and have travelled the world”

    *** You have no idea how jealous I am of all the travelling you’ve done!

  86. NewTXSB says:

    “SouthernGent2 says:
    Update – I heard from my new one. She emailed me on something else related to what we discussed when we met. I replied and took the opportunity given to ask her about schedule once again, explaining I do not book flights without a firm commitment. It took all of one minute to get a reply back “you are my priority, and I will clear my calendar on any day you would like to see me”. So we have had a cpl texts and all after that and are set for a second meeting. Thanks for the responses earlier today.”

    *** Yay!!! Good luck on the date. :)

  87. NewTXSB says:

    “ebony says:
    Hi sugarland i have my bery first meet-n-greet witha pot SD tonight! i need some help coz its my first time n what do you typically do or talk abt on a first date? what do you wear?”

    *** Wear something that appropriate for the occassion. Do not show too much skin (stay away from outfits that’re skin tight, or where boobs are in full view). Dress like a lady that deserves respect.

    As for the conversation, it should flow naturally. I usually started my 1st “dates” with a “Hi how are you…it’s nice to finally meet you”….moving on to “how was your day?” and take it from there. If the conversation seems to flow well, after a while you could also ask things like how he found this site, if he has ever done this before etc (if you haven’t asked him this already).

    Good luck!!!

  88. NewTXSB says:

    “Gemini29 says:
    “I’m a selfish prick. A hot, rich, pampered intellecutal with a big dick and a marathon tongue. I’m young enough to do it often, and old enough to do it right. I don’t have time for petty drama or emotional hysterics. I do what I want, when I want.

    I’m looking for a freak, ho, and good-girl all in one hot package.
    Dislikes: Blonde, clubbing-Barbie types with the attention span of a sparrow.
    Likes: Petite, sexy intellectual girls who like to eat buffalo chicken wings and watch porn on Sunday afternoon. ”

    Is it possible his profile is a tongue-in-cheek joke? ”

    *** I saw this profile a few days ago while I was bored and browsing. His “intention” is pointless IMO….he comes across as a jerk. If anyone with a profile like this contacted me, to be honest, I wouldn’t even bother responding. Not worth my time.

  89. Anonymous SB says:

    Good insight! Thank you!

  90. RealisticSD says:

    Anonymous SB, just send a text message asking if the arrangement is suspended while he is “thinking”. If he says yes, then consider yourself free of obligation. If he says no, then you are entitled to ask for your allowance and if he balks, then consider yourself free of obligation. His thinking time should not come at your cost.

  91. that is a tough one Anon. Did he say that he would be suspending the arrangement while he had to think?

    Sounds like he wants you to wait around for him and just pick up like nothing happened.

    He should have communicated more. It appears that he is dragging you along. And that is unfair on your part.

    So I would treat it like he broke off the arrangement till he got his head back on straight. Then after he is done ‘thinking’ start over with a new arrangement.

    He left you just hanging there, you are not being selfish, he failed to mention that he would be putting everything on hold. Is he still wanting to be with you through the whole time? or has he just vanished?

  92. Anonymous SB says:

    I need to your collective opinions about a situations.

    I have a SD who has come through with everything he said he would. Recently, in a moment of self discovery, realized he has an issue with substance use/abuse (not illegal). He has asked for some time to think about what he wants to do.

    He has always paid his allowance timely and without fail but now he hasn’t paid anything during his thinking time. The allowance should have been here over one week ago.

    Should I even say anything? As I write this I feel like I am being selfish. Would really appreciate your input.

  93. that is why i don’t want my sons education to be from public schools.

    that was sad.

  94. we have a prize winner there LOL.

    My goodness.

  95. RedMaru says:

    Whoa LOL Lady_8!

  96. Taz says:

    lmao lady_8!

  97. i need help deciphering this message. LOL

    O my gods did he ever go to school

    ‘ i read you profil i like every think i like good feel mad ,,,i love horse too ,,i hope i can be you friend ,,i like you pict you are very cute”

  98. NYC SB says:

    NYCLAXSB – for such site google fake sugar daddy… there are at least 2 or 3 sites that allow you to do this… none of which is in connection with SA

  99. NYCLAXSB says:

    Ebony- Little black dress always works! :)

    Thank you RedMaru for officially welcoming to sugarland blogging! I hope to contribute and learn too.

  100. RedMaru says:

    Hi NYCLAXSB and ebony welcome!

    Ebony first of all best of luck on your sugar date. Second i guess it would depend on where you were meeting but make sure its comfortable for you. Third when you meet talk about the weather more about yourself small talk to begin freeing the path for the more serious stuff.

    Best of luck on your sugar date NYCLAXSB!

  101. ebony says:

    Hi sugarland i have my bery first meet-n-greet witha pot SD tonight! i need some help coz its my first time n what do you typically do or talk abt on a first date? what do you wear?

  102. NYCLAXSB says:

    First time posting to blog although 3 months SB Premium member.

    Always require pot SD full name, company website or info and verify! Non-Negotiable. Those who want to meet without sharing info, I run away, never would meet. My safety & comfort is #1. Lovely pot SD flew me half across the country, to meet after 3 weeks of great convo & email exchanges. Booked first class ticket, separate rooms bc chemistry is one thing we couldn’t predict. Took care of ALL travel arrangements nothing but first class. Great dinner & conversation. Pleasantly surprised as he looked WAY better than photos!! And I thought he already looked good in photos! Mid 30’s pot SD. Turns out he lied of one BIG thing-he was married-not single as posted on profile and after telling me divorced via phone multiple times. I ended up in my room alone & flying back next morning.

    Other than him, about 25-30 pot SD’s have engaged in conversation of flying to me for 1st date, yet expecting my place as their “hotel” for the night (no way). Always meet in public first. One was staying at local 5 start hotel & wanted me as his “taxi” although a “supposed” limo picking him up at airport. Others wanna fly me, expecting stay at their homes first night (no way)! Many fake SD’s-really.. Mostly looking for women of the night/hourly pay. Still seeking an honest, real life, and tangible SD, it takes time. I’m an ABSOLUTELY real SB in every way.

    I’m petite. Size 2. Slim. In great shape but curvy latina. Always described as gorgeous, sexy, exotic and indeed supplemented with brains (educated, career person a real one, speak, write and read fluently 4 languages, world traveled and lots more). Pot SD’s (not real ones of course) run AWAY when they see I can carry a business conversation beyond my looks and playfulness!

    Lady_8 397899- Also awaiting for the SD who wants the whole package and can handle it.

    Is there an area on this blog or outside of it where pot SD’s usernames can be “posted”/”reported” to protect other SB’s on site?

    I do have pot SD 1st date this weekend….let’s see…

  103. RedMaru says:

    Lady_8 397899 says:
    October 26, 2009 at 3:48 pm

    Now If I could actually find a SD who would be my best friend, would like to by my
    mentor, investor so that I will be able to make my life better so that I would be able to spoil him as much as he spoils me, That is also tall dark and ruggedly handsome with an awesome voice. Well then I will be in heaven

    ME TOO Lady_8

    Grats SG2 on your second date I’m rootin for ya!

  104. O that is great to hear. Congrats SG2 and good luck on another successful date.

  105. And NC Gent, it is all good. We are attracted to, who we are attracted to. There is nothing wrong with it.

    Now If I could actually find a SD who would be my best friend, would like to by my mentor, investor so that I will be able to make my life better so that I would be able to spoil him as much as he spoils me, That is also tall dark and ruggedly handsome with an awesome voice. Well then I will be in heaven.

  106. SouthernGent2 says:

    Update – I heard from my new one. She emailed me on something else related to what we discussed when we met. I replied and took the opportunity given to ask her about schedule once again, explaining I do not book flights without a firm commitment. It took all of one minute to get a reply back “you are my priority, and I will clear my calendar on any day you would like to see me”. So we have had a cpl texts and all after that and are set for a second meeting. Thanks for the responses earlier today.

  107. RedMaru says:

    Its okay Lady we all have those days

    Hey NCGent! And there is nothing wrong with your preferences they are yours to have!

  108. Taz says:

    I second that motion Lady8.

    I just had a great date..at least I thought so. Of course thanked him in person, and sent him an email a few hours later saying thank you again. He brought up the arrangement, and even gave me a gift. He is only supposed to be back a short time before going away for work again (1.5-3 months) and I haven’t heard back from him at all. Since he said he has weekends off, I would think I would have heard from him at some point by now – it has been three days!? Anyhow, maybe I am just being impatient – but I do wonder how many pot sb’s he was speaking with and setting up dates with from afar – not that it really matters but I don’t want to be one of MANY in this short term, as he made it sound like something very different. Meh – anyway – I am done my rant lol 😛 going back to lurking now…

  109. EastCoastFilly says:

    NYC SB: WOW, I was thinking about the same thing lately!! I think I forgot how to date regular men! yikes!

    Another question which I think would make for a nice new topic:
    What has been your experiences in dating single (never married) vs. divorced vs. married SDs?

  110. Flo Rida says:

    Ms Behavin – OC – I did ask the q – and sorry but if you are saying 60yr olds chase after 20yr olds then that is a large age gap.

    NYC SB – I have nightmares of when my gig will end – i’m flying commercial today & first class commercial is not that much different from coach (international is different). Opera vs TV, dbgc or db bistro moderne or Daniel vs. Subway, La Perla vs Vicky C’s – $1,800 dinners versus $60, tux & lingerie parties vs byob, Marquis VIP or Scores VIP vs. standing in line – I’m happy co-existing in both worlds BUT I know which one I prefer. The downside of excessive sugar is that you lose perspective – think of that surfer dude chasing the wave in Point Break. I know there are women (and men) who would kill for this lifestyle & it has highs but at times i’m also sad. Maybe I should turn bi and ‘eat that box’ – my friend is such a goofball.

  111. NC Gent says:
    October 26, 2009 at 2:44 pm
    Hi Lady_8 — sorry for your frustration. …

    Thanks hun.

    It does get frustrating, And for the most part I just let it slide off of my back.

    But when responding to a profile that catches my eye. I asked the questions they post or tell them the information they ask. And going by what they state they want in their profile. And it is 1 out of 10 read the email and out of those 1 out of 50 respond. So I get to wondering what it is that they really want.

    I have enough strength of character I think to not let this really bother me as no doubt those who don’t respond aren’t worth my time.

    But would like to find near me the guys here on the blog who are actually a gentleman.

  112. JetSet says:

    TLG- We’ll make best friends as i can’t stand sports unless I’m at the game.. And even in that respect i just go for the social aspects!

    On the topic of shopping.. I think you must always go “with deserving souls” as another SB said..

    It shouldn’t feel forced or expected. It should feel natural.. If a Sugar is asking how much the shoes cost, i probably would have parted ways there before she started calculating the the penny how much more she could “get” out of you… Ewww! Just seems weird for a first date. She should have been ecstatic and thanked you and if you wanted to continue shopping, great! If not be grateful! It was a first date after all!

    XO

  113. NYC SB says:

    Oh funny story you guys – I had a date with a lovely man (a regular date) who freaked out when I told him how much my boots cost (2k) … the look on his face was priceless…

    Ladies – how do you deal when non sugar dating? I think I have been spoiled too much… I like this guy and he practically worships the ground I walk on but idk the lack of funds is kinda getting to me… as in I feel bad when we go out to dinner and he has to pay for it as I know its not something he can afford

  114. NC Gent says:

    That is hilarious regarding twins — at one time I saw four different profiles (around the country) with the same woman’s pic — all different profiles — must have been a popular woman or easily downloaded off the net :)

    Thanks Anna :)

  115. NYC SB says:

    hahaha and mine was based out of NY/NJ/CT … i guess he travels and moves a lot :)

  116. Anna Molly says:

    Maybe he has a twin :)

  117. Gemini29 says:

    NYC SB- Not catalog model handsome…more like frat boy hot. And none of his pictures are professional, just snaps of him with other women, hahaha. Supposedly DC-based too, although I swore I had seen that same pic and tag line on a profile based in Vegas. Maybe there are multiples of the same profile running around all over the country on SA?

  118. Anna Molly says:

    NC Gent – You like what you like and there is nothing wrong with that :)

  119. NC Gent says:

    Hi Lady_8 — sorry for your frustration. I look for sweet, intelligent women with common interests to mine. My preferred age group is actually about 27 to 37, because I want someone that is actually attracted to me. I really don’t care that much about hair color; but when pressed, auburn is my favorite. I do prefer slender women. In my entire life, I have never dated anyone bigger than a size 6 — even when I was younger — I know some may not like this and think it is shallow but it is what I find physically attractive. I think most SDs want SBs that can carry on a conversation, won’t embarrass them in public, will be discreet and are attractive. Tastes vary widely and it takes quite a while to find the right match – hang in there!

  120. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    and your rigth the credit goes to FLO

  121. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    sorry OC

  122. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    oohh He is so prrfect for me…. too bad I hate wings LOL

  123. Well I have been a model but i quit as I value my privacy and health. I am a size 5, healthy, petite, have been called sexy and gorgeous. But I am grew up with the ugly duckling syndrome, so I still get annoyed when I get honked or yelled at. So I know that I am not ugly.

    So I am wondering about the guys here. Do they really want what they say they want. Or are they all just wanting the bleached blonde, brainless, bimbo’s who are in their preteens.

    Harsh I know, but I am in one of my moods and not really caring.

  124. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – he wouldnt be a dark haired almost looks like a catalog model (say in his 30s) ?

  125. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    OCSugarbaby says: (surely the 60yr old men aren’t going after 20yr old women?). Just a thought.

    Sadly they do.I’m not asking fro a mail box full but after several months just one little email( is that too much to ask fro )

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Ms Behavin? Did I say that???? I think it was someone else! I think it was FLO. That is why I try not to type Says:…
      It is easy to mis-quote! lol

  126. RedMaru says:

    Lady_8 397899 says:
    October 26, 2009 at 2:03 pm
    And I feel you Gemini, no matter how much i email, update profile, and send out nothing but personalized emails I get butkiss. And rarely does anyone bother reading the email in the first place. It is my opinion that most of the guys aren’t actually looking for a real sd/sb releationship or even mentorship. They just want a peice of @ss So finding an honest person is going to take alot of work.

    I second the emotion my sugar search has almost become another job with me constantly trying to research what I’m not doing or don’t have to improve my chances and learning from my mistakes as my first sugar date turned out to be a total flake. I’m not model gorgeous, but I am attractrive no doubt as I do get attention. I will admit I’m not supermodel thin either(pear shaped but working out to tame it) but I guess I still haven’t got the exact method to make these attributes shine…any tips sugar fam?

  127. Gemini29 says:

    Lady_8 – Oh his pictures make him look very hot and stuff. But I read his profile, looked at his pictures and thought “He’s hot, but too bad he’s an ass. What a shame. Waste of a good face.” NEEEXT! heeheeheee!

    Give me a wonderful nice polite gentleman ANY DAY! I’m thinking of you all, blog daddies! 😉

  128. Hello Sugars!!

    Gemini29 says:
    October 26, 2009 at 12:46 pm
    Is it possible his profile is a tongue-in-cheek joke? or…does he actually entice women in with this profile? I’m too amused right now.

    ROFLMAO that made my morning.

    The Moron probally thinks that he is such a catch that he wants to sweet talk with his smaller, lower brain.

    And I don’t think it was a joke, his is not the first profile I have seen like that.
    ~~~
    And I feel you Gemini, no matter how much i email, update profile, and send out nothing but personalized emails I get butkiss. And rarely does anyone bother reading the email in the first place. It is my opinion that most of the guys aren’t actually looking for a real sd/sb releationship or even mentorship. They just want a peice of @ss So finding an honest person is going to take alot of work.

  129. Gemini29 says:

    OC – Oh that is perfect! Heehee!

    NYCSB – Doesn’t surprise me. Profiles that special have to be littered across a few sites, that way everyone can revel in how wonderful they are.

  130. RedMaru says:

    Bye Lannie you too!

  131. RedMaru says:

    OCsugarBaby….lmao that someone just passed by me asking what was so funny. I told her and now she’s laughing too
    Can I use that…lol

  132. Lannie says:

    I am off of here as I got things to do, hope everyone has a sugar filled day.

  133. NYC SB says:

    Gemi – I have read that profile couple of times… on this site, other sites, and a regular dating site… the man turned out to “not exist”

  134. back to the office again… I’ll be on later…. still haven’t picked a spot for my pot SD 1st meeting tomorrow.

  135. I’m exhausted already and I still have about 7 hours of work ahead of me

  136. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Hello Rachel! I have some school work to do..Im procrastinating. How are you dear?

  137. BostonSugahBabe says:

    MsB-I thought the same. the other website was working “faster” than SA, but then once I reposted my profile and upgraded about a month later I started getting responses, and honestly the guys from here seem more serious and actually seem real.

    Gemmi-Lol Sounds like my type of guy! “Yes I’ll Be Your Whore! I can Be a dirty little slut!”

    Lmfao! What’s really good with these guys?

  138. Hello everyone! Taking a lunch break from work. i just keep thinking i can retire in 30 more years…. ugh

    How is everyone today?

  139. Gemini29 says:

    Anna Molly – Yeah I know, I’m trying to be optomistic. But I’ve heard a fair number of SDs hide their profile so perhaps there are more real SDs out there than we realize…

    The way I figure it is this…a fair amount of SBs are really escorts posing as SBs, a fair amount are girls who think they might like it but really get cold feet 90% of the time, and the rest are real SBs. SO….on the SD side…a fair amount are poser SDs wanting escorts, a fair amount are guys who have no freakin’ clue what it means to be a real SD, a fair amount who think they want to be a SD and then get cold feet, and then the real SDs.
    So…when we all send out emails we’re hoping we get the…30% who are the real SDs or SBs, but most likely they end up in the hands of the nefarious fakers. lol. I’m realizing it takes time, but…they are out there! Real ones! With shiny SD watches and fabulous SB characters!

  140. Flo Rida says:

    Gemi – it’s called targeted marketing – anyone responding to his pitch knows exactly what they’re getting & there are non-fussy types who want the transaction – or it could be he’s a complete loon.

    someone said they could be too old – I don’t think it’s a question of too old more a question that it is harder for older women – as it’s harder for men who don’t have much money – let’s be honest. i’ve always wondered why if the 40 yr old guys go after 20yr old women why the 60yr old guys don’t go for the 40 yr old women (surely the 60yr old men aren’t going after 20yr old women?). Just a thought.

  141. Anna Molly says:

    Gemini29 – I wouldn’t even say 50%, I think it’s less than that…..sadly :(

  142. RedMaru says:

    Thanks for the pep talk Gemini hugs!
    I often how many of them are for real?

  143. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    RedMaru says:
    October 26, 2009 at 12:47 pm
    Hey Ms. Behavin you’re not too old at all. You’re as young as you feel!

    LOL yes every now and then I feel like a 20 yr old, but sadly can only pass for a 30 yr old LOL

  144. Gemini29 says:

    MsBehavin – Beats me, I sent him a message asking him how he thinks we are a good match when our profiles are looking for the polar opposites of each other. I’m looking for a gentleman, and he is looking for a ho.

  145. RedMaru says:

    Hey Gemini!
    I’m hoping its a joke, cause its got me laughing. I especially like the part where he describes his appendages like they should make up for his shortcomings

  146. Gemini29 says:

    Mis Behaving and RedMaru – I dont think it has anything to do with age or looks or even how nice the emails we send out are… I’m young and (I think) pretty and I don’t get squat. Or the emails I get from guys ARE squat, lol. I think only about 50% of the men on this site are for real SDs, the others just want causal hookups or escorts. So…its a bit of russian roulette if you are sending an email to a person who is for real or a person who is just playing a game. *shrugs* I think this just takes time, like any other ordinary relationship.

  147. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Gimini29~he has got to be joking right… Or maybe he thinks money gives him the right to be an A** lmao

  148. RedMaru says:

    Hey Ms. Behavin you’re not too old at all. You’re as young as you feel!
    But I do agree with you on the email issue as I encounter the same problem. I am reluctant to send out emails for fear of just wasting my time. 80 % of the emails I send out is original no cut and paste and non generic and they go unread…

  149. Gemini29 says:

    Ok girls. I have one for you. Guy just messaged me. This would be his profile:
    “I’m a selfish prick. A hot, rich, pampered intellecutal with a big dick and a marathon tongue. I’m young enough to do it often, and old enough to do it right. I don’t have time for petty drama or emotional hysterics. I do what I want, when I want.

    I’m looking for a freak, ho, and good-girl all in one hot package.
    Dislikes: Blonde, clubbing-Barbie types with the attention span of a sparrow.
    Likes: Petite, sexy intellectual girls who like to eat buffalo chicken wings and watch porn on Sunday afternoon. ”

    Is it possible his profile is a tongue-in-cheek joke? or…does he actually entice women in with this profile? I’m too amused right now.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Gemi, I will someday enter all these fun little quirky responses I WISH I could send, but never do into a sugar blog hall of fame! Here is one I made up for your guy.
      Here is a good relpy to Mr. Hot Prick…

      Hi,
      That is so funny! How did you know that I was currently interviewing selfish big dicked pricks? You must be physic!
      Since you seem to have it all together and have training in the lingual Olympics, we really MUST set up a time to meet.
      This is where your psychic abilities will come in to play again…
      Just close your eyes and pick a place in your mind that you would like for us to meet. Ahh Ahh, I said keep your eyes closed!
      Now can you visualize me sitting on the couch eating buffalo chicken wings and watching porn waiting for you? Good!
      Oh, no the TV just flashed a news bulletin (pre-empting the porn)… “We need to interrupt the regularly scheduled Porn to inform you that the girl you are visualizing in your head (as fabulous as she is) will never be interested in a selfish prick like you”

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        Red, I love to make up fun replies, I never have the nerve to send them, but it makes me laugh and that is how I get thru or over all of the really offensive emails!

  150. Lannie says:

    Sweety:

    How are you doing? Hope your days are sugar filled!

  151. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    I think I have given up emailing anyone from this site. I dont think most of the guys on here read any of the emails.I do really well on the other site but have had nothing from this one.I have written many and most go unrtead. Yes I know they get tons.But at least on the other most of the guys at least read there mail.Maybe I’m just to old for this site . LOL

  152. BostonSugahBabe says:

    MsB-Yeah, likewise, So I guess he should be understanding, unless he is a total prick, which I am sure he is not

  153. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    I pretty much always use my real name,I’m not in the biz world and have nothing to hide.

  154. BostonSugahBabe says:

    James- Lol…ughh….like I said I am a Sox fan…not a baseball fan…ew why would I want to give BG such information.

    BG- Pennants are the equivalent of conferences in football (more my sport). AL is to AFC as NL is to NFC

  155. BostonSugahBabe says:

    LOL buttercup! I gave discretion that the email was hilarious. Hope you didn’t get in too much trouble. And haha @ you wanting to know more porn stars. She is not all that famous, nor that good looking.

    MsB-Hello darling! I don’t think it would be so bad to say “Oh and by the way my name is____” after a little conversation. He’ll understand I am sure. I think SD’s know that getting a real name on these sites is rare or never happens.

  156. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    James~ hummm… not sure what American League pennants means… but if you say so…. If that the number of games they won to get to the world series? Sorry, i know nothing of baseball!!!

  157. Flo Rida says:

    BG – I own a house in Flagler Beach (north of Daytona Beach) but spend a lot of time in NY and Atlanta. I’ve also lived in Houston, Minneapolis, Charlotte, London, England, Melbourne, Australia and have travelled the world (growing up, holidays plus work, plus Sugar travel). I’m an old haggard girl in a young body!

    Btw anyone in NY really should be La Damnation of Faust at the Met. Even if you don’t like opera the production by Robert Lepage (who also works with Cirque de Soleil) is unbelievable. I went with friends the last time it was in town & have tix next week.

    Also see Lilies at MoMa (?) but I saw it in London a long time ago.

    Oh I just found out that the party I went to on Sat nite was hosted by a model – former Playmate. She looks older now but the online younger pictures are ‘amazing’. My bi female friend looking at the pics said ‘I would eat that box’. Hilarious.

  158. NewTXSB says:

    “Flo Rida says:
    NewTXSB – did you read my comment on me meeting the NY equivalent of you – her name is H and she lives in Brooklyn – she’s completely your personality. We met at a party on Sat nite.”

    *** OMG no! I must’ve missed the earlier comment. That’s awesome! I wish I could meet someone like me IRL! *pout*

  159. James says:

    40 is the number of American League pennants the Yankees have now won. 27 is the number of World Series they hope to have won when this World Series is over. This ends today’s sports trivia minute!

  160. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Just been lurking around today,but I have a question– On another site it has a pic code,SD ask and I gave it to him ( its my dogs name)and now he thinks that is my name!! Whats a girl to do, we may meet this week. Do I tell him at dinner and tell him it was for safety reason that I did not tell him my real name in the begining or wait and see if we spart them tell him?

  161. Buttercup*381707* says:

    Hi Sugars!!
    Just got caught up on the blog while my prof. goes on about Aristotle– i should point out that none of his theories are at all funny., but i was reading BOSTON SBs friendly email and i couldnt help but laugh- then got slapped with a disapproving stare from my teacher., not good lol
    – i couldnt believe he would go that far, he should leave the alcohol excuse for someone who uses it in a valid and responsible way.,lol,. hes definetly insecure and cant handle rejection,.,alot more growing up to do., &nd im stuck on your name,.wish i knew more porn stars lol

  162. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe~ I love music… what can I say!

    Lannie~ hi girl, I agree that information needs to be exchanged but trust is a big factor in it! As I had my I.D. stolen once, it makes you think twice about such things!!!

  163. BostonSugahBabe says:

    BG- you must be a trivia wiz…cause i never heard of the band either!

  164. Lannie says:

    Gemini:

    I agree with you when it comes to those first meeting with a Pot as for us women safety is very important and withholding part of your name is actually a way of protecting yourself. In the long term arrangement, however, information needs to be exchanged and trust has to be formed between a SD and SB.

  165. BostonSugahBabe says:

    haha…I’m pretty sure its pretty safe…lol and I never heard of the porn star so Im glad she’s not that famous/infamous

  166. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Flo~ I think the 80s bands gave it up for me…. I thought you were in FL? do you live in NYC? or just visiting? sorry, you don’t have to answer!

  167. RedMaru says:

    Hey BeachGirl!

    Lannie says “I always try to know what a Pot wants in travel arrangements right from the beginning so I do not waste their or my time.”

    I also agree!

  168. Flo Rida says:

    NYC SB – well I know that i’m crazy – who cares it’ll be fun.

    NewTXSB – did you read my comment on me meeting the NY equivalent of you – her name is H and she lives in Brooklyn – she’s completely your personality. We met at a party on Sat nite.

    Anna Molly – bear in mind db is in heart of midtown which is a corporate scene – if you met in Meatpacking. East, Greenwich Village or UES or UWS or for dinner, opera, theater etc my advice on dress code would be different.

    Boston & Sweety – As a 28 year old who grew up in London and has no idea on porn star names I have no clue on the link. I’m glad your secret is safe(?)

  169. Gemini29 says:

    Lannie says “I always try to know what a Pot wants in travel arrangements right from the beginning so I do not waste their or my time.”

    Agreed. I also let them know what my travel abilities or constraints are so that they know the deal from the get-go. like I have one pot SD that I would LOVE to meet, but he wants a jet-set girl and I can’t do that until spring-summer of next year at the earliest.

  170. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe~ I wont tell! 😉

  171. Lannie says:

    RedMaru:
    It sounds like the long distance thing would work for you depending on how often the SD would want to meet. I always try to know what a Pot wants in travel arrangements right from the beginning so I do not waste their or my time.

  172. BostonSugahBabe says:

    thanks BG, much obliged !

  173. Gemini29 says:

    lolol I’m getting that song by the Ting-Tings stuck in my head now

  174. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Lol sorry Gemi!

    The song I was referring to is by Trey Songz

  175. NYGent says:

    On subject of travel it sort of depends where you live. If you’re in LA or NYC or a similar hub, then there’s less need for a nationwide search and the hassles described by others in terms of flights, names, wiring money, fear of theft, etc. are hardly worth it, at least to me. On the other hand if you live between the coasts or in a less populated area then you sort of have to find a way to make it happen travel-wise. It probably works best if you can establish a regular schedule and mode of travel so that it becomes almost like autopilot and you don’t have to reinvent the wheel every time as to the mechanics, which can be time-consuming.

  176. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Hey Beach Girl!!!!

    Oh well…I guess the neighbors know my name!

  177. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe~ Hahah Yes, I think you gave it away girl…. 😉

    hello sugars!

  178. Gemini29 says:

    NewTxSB – But I don’t…demand…to know my pot SDs real names. They give me a name, I assume/trust it is theirs, and do some research (btw, a pot SD I’m meeting…I can’t find diddlysquat on his name). Now if we meet and sparks fly, then yes absolutely I will give them my real name and ask for theirs (proof of who they are, etc) and do some real good searching before I agree to an arrangement. Personally, for me, and my feeling of safety, I’m not totally comfortable giving out my birth name to someone I’ve never met before.

  179. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Good morning everyone!

    RedMaru-Im glad you got a laugh from that email. I saved in case I ever need a pick-me-up :-p

    SouthernGent-3 days is a little long, iterating what most have said on here, given the technologies we have today, communication is easier than its ever been. Maybe she is indecisive, or maybe she is scheduling multiple dates and wants to make sure they don’t overlap/conflict with each other.

    On the subject of giving out your real name, I agree that you need to make exceptions when in this type of situation, when i meet people IRL I tend to give them my nickname, which is my last name, and they call me by that. With pot’s, I give them my real name after giving them my number (because my name is on my voicemail message) just so they aren’t confused, or after extensive conversation and I feel comfortable with them. Just my thoughts…

    And googling my name will never work…I have such a common name it’s not even funny, also I share a name with an 80’s band and a porn star..o_0. I probably just gave it away there but I don’t have a high profile job, or a job period, so I am not that worried about it.

  180. NYC SB says:

    Flo – if you do bump into me… please introduce yourself… this would be a funny intro :HI NYC SB… its Flo Rida from the blog::: then we both shreak in excitement as onlookers think we are nuts

  181. RedMaru says:

    Hey thanks Realistic I’ll forward my address and just mail a couple of your skin cells in the prepaid envelope, sign the disclosure agreement and we’re all set….lol

  182. RedMaru says:

    Hi Lannie!
    On the question of distance, I’m actually open to it although I’m also searching for someone local (and can’t seem to find anyone….pout) One of the few perks of my job is the accrued leave (annual and sick which I have too much of) and paid holidays and to a lesser degree those lovely furloughs the Commisioner and the Govenor are making everyone take. So as long as I put for it in advance I can be off

  183. NewTXSB says:

    “Gemini29 says:
    NewTxSB – Heh. Caught me there. Lets just say that the name I give is my nickname yes, but they can find out more about me with that name than my birth name. Its not like I’m handing out a fake name or going by “Gemi” for the extent of the arrangement.”

    *** I’m not saying that you made up a fake name. The point is that the name you give to pot SD’s is not you legal name….so hypothetically speaking, let’s say if a potential SD wants to do a criminal search to make sure you don’t have a criminal record (for prostitution, drugs etc), he would not be able to do so without your legal name. From a potential SD’s perspective, he’s paying the $$ to fly you out….for all he knows, you could be someone with a long list of arrests for assault, drugs etc! (again, not saying you’re a criminal but I’m just using this as an example).

    I’m sure you would insist on knowing a potential SD’s “legal” name before flying out to meet him just so you can “check up” on him. I just find the double standard (you not willing to share your own legal name)….interesting.

    All goes back to trust…..you want a potential SD to trust you enough to share his legal name (even though he might be married, might have a very prominant position in his community etc)….yet you’re not willing to give him that same level of trust.

  184. Lannie says:

    Hello , How is everyone in Sugarland?

    I am back from a meeting with a Pot in Hawaii and a few wonderful days but once again I am in a state of indecision. I seem to attract high profile people and it seems drama follows these type of people around.

    Distance arrangements can be difficult unless one of you have alot of flexability in their schedules. Southerngent: My former SD had an account set up with a local travel agent in my area where I could go in and pick up my tickets and make my own arrangements that fit his schedule and this worked well for us. If an SD purchases the tickets they should make sure the reciever can not cash in the tickets as I have heard that happening many times until they form a trust with their Pot SB.

    Hello Kit-Kat: I hope you are doing well.

  185. Gemini29 says:

    NewTxSB – Heh. Caught me there. Lets just say that the name I give is my nickname yes, but they can find out more about me with that name than my birth name. Its not like I’m handing out a fake name or going by “Gemi” for the extent of the arrangement.

    Although if my pot SD wants to call me Gemi, that is fine, I’m just going to have to get used to being called that out loud 😉

  186. Flo Rida says:

    RealisticSD – I have a fairly common first name and a fairly common last name but not people have my first & last name together for some reason – so I get a lot of hits but NONE link to me (which I like). I did get a Green Card in 2006 (British Citizen) & so I was not a criminal and did not have diseases which would be a burden to the US Government prior to that date.

    NYC SB – my SD says beautiful women are like alcohol, poisonous in nature but like all poisons after repeated exposure, one develops a degree of resistance and immunity, however from stunning beauty, a lethal dose can be contracted. If I see you IRL do you mind if I come over and introduce myself to you or are we still on the CIA ‘not official’ list.

  187. Margo says:

    Another side of the coffee-or-dinner-date question – this is a way of life. I joined two dating web sites at the end of August, and since then there were eight good lunch-or-dinner dates with five men (I don’t count the first one in Starbucks with a scam artist – it was a good life lesson, by the way). But I wouldn’t enjoy my dating that much by having only coffee. I prefer having lobsters :) . I was happy and they had good time with me – without intimacy of course. I don’t know how long it may take to find a good SD, so I want to have fun and enjoy the process.

  188. RealisticSD says:

    Photogirl, speaking of web presence, I get 27,000 google hits and there is no one else on earth with my name as far as I know. Just type in my first name and the name of my city and I am the first hit on yahoo. So once I tell a pot my name, I know she can find out everything about me.

    RedMaru, you’re welcome to clone me, but as they say, cloners keepers, so be careful, lol!

  189. NYC SB says:

    On the topic of model hotties I will quote Daddy Waldorf

    “it is the beauty of a woman that can make the most powerful man weak in a moment”

  190. RedMaru says:

    RealisticSD says:
    October 26, 2009 at 8:14 am
    Flo Rida said, “There’s a HIGH price to pay for quality & most average allowances won’t cover it.” I agree with most of what you said in your post, but please realize that a lot of these super-hot SBs not only demand more, which is fine, but also are by nature drama queens or absolutely self-centered, and no amount of money can change those qualities. You just can’t pay someone selfish to have regard for others, and you cannot pay a histrionic personality to avoid drama.

    Wow I find that interesting coming from an SD….
    You do your name justice Realistic! Why don’t you live in my neck of the woods. Or can I clone you…lol

  191. Flo Rida says:

    Realistic – I agree with the histrionic drama queen model types. I’m trying to say the issue is following through on commitments but I also wanted to point out that model type expectations may be vastly different.

    SouthernGent2 – I’ve flown from Atl to Houston and on a separate trip from Atl to London for business meetings and been stood up. Welcome to the world of flaky restaurant brokerages. Long distance is difficult & needs seasoned travellers. Also a non-response in 3 days is not a good sign but you could ping her & say hey i’m waiting – is it yes, no or maybe and why is it maybe. If she fails that forget her & move on.

  192. NewTXSB says:

    “Gemini29 says:
    My nickname is not a fake name, I use it more often than my real name. But it all falls into discretion and privacy…. I want to maintain a level of discretion for myself and privacy for myself until I get to know the other person better. ”

    *** I totally understand that you’re very reluctant to give out your real name b/c of privacy reasons. I’m curious about something……are you ok with potential SDs following the same “policy”?

    You want a potential SD to either send you money or spend $$ buying a plane ticket for you without sharing your real name…….would you fly out to meet a potential SD if he refused to share his real name (which I guess means you won’t know where he works etc) out of privacy concerns?

  193. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugars I seem to miss all the good stuff….
    Hey Boston…love the letter from the psycho I needed a laugh on Monday and congrats on your date I’m rootin for ya.
    SouthernGent – You are not difficult at all it called common courtesy.
    I would not mind a plane ticket being bought for me. One of my jobs few advantages is the flexibility(gotta love annual, sick leave, paid holidays and to a lesser degree furloughs) So I probably would go out on a limb and give my full name its the only way I could get on the plane anyway.

  194. NewTXSB says:

    SouthernGent2:

    3 days is ridiculous to wait for a reply. When I was going through potential SD’s…and even now with my SD, I usually respond within hours (never more than 24 hours). Even if she doesn’t know whether or not the dates work….she could’ve at least respond, acknowledge receiving your e-mail, and let you know she needs to find out something about her schedule. But to not respond at all for 3 days shows lack of seriousness (unless God forbid she got into a accident and is in the hospital).

  195. NewTXSB says:

    “The Lone Gunman says:
    I don’t follow sports. At all. No interest.”

    *** I’m the exact same way.

  196. photogirl says:

    Know what you mean about the web presence… Mine comes up on the first few pages of google :( Nothing bad…just business related.

  197. SouthernGent2 says:

    Nc Gent – I did get a let me check my schedule reply within an hour because she does have a blackberry and immediate access to email. But the entire weekend passed without any word on a meeting schedule, though we did exchange friendly texts a couple of times.

  198. Gemini29 says:

    Realistic – My nickname is not a fake name, I use it more often than my real name. But it all falls into discretion and privacy…. I want to maintain a level of discretion for myself and privacy for myself until I get to know the other person better.

    Not that giving out my real name would up the ante, I don’t believe it has a web presence at all. *goes to check*

  199. photogirl says:

    Gemini – laughing over here…yes, I just discovered I cannot change my name! My PO Box is listed, even have it on my DL. I don’t like my physical address floating around out there!

  200. Anna Molly says:

    I also believe that not giving your real name to a pot could lead to trouble down the road. With these types of relationships there has to be a lot of trust. He will feel like he can’t trust you if he finds out down the road you haven’t been honest about your name.

  201. Gemini29 says:

    photogirl – about paypal… I don’t think you can change the name, I looked into it. I was going to open a separate account for sugar payments, but I need an additional bank acct for that and that takes money I do not have, lol. But if that is the case that he sees the name on the paypal acct when he sends money….well then, he already has my real name. Ha on me.

    The state secret is out! Alert the wardens! Barricade the fences! Send for more coffee!!! And call the President! 😉

  202. RealisticSD says:

    Three days for a reply? Sounds like trouble. But I would give her the benefit of the doubt at this point and see if she is really putting in the effort. But in all seriousness, if she takes that long to respond, it won’t work (based on personal experience) because it shows that she is selfish and not considerate of you.

    Gemini, I’d personally be suspicious about wiring money if I have not met someone, though it might not be a deal-breaker. More than anything, I’d be worried about why I can’t know the SB’s name if I am going to meet her. And yes, your name on the ticket has to match your ID.

  203. NC Gent says:

    Yes, Gemini — he does need the name that matches your Photo Identification or you won’t pass through security.

  204. photogirl says:

    Gemini – Yes, your name on ticket does need to match your DL and/or passport.

  205. photogirl says:

    Gemini – I had a pot purchase a ticket in my name and he did just as NC Gent. I had all of his info, full name, address and even business address so I felt fairly comfortable giving out my full name. I do not recall if I needed to provide an address, but then again this is where having a PO Box comes in handy!

    I did find out last night however with paypal that it does show the ‘sender’ your full name. I’ve had this account for several years and didn’t even think about it until last night when a pot sent me a very nice gift through paypal. Just so happens we share the same last name :)

    I should check on changing how my name appears on there!

  206. Gemini29 says:

    NC Gent- I know, its a bit of a catch-22. Guess I’ll cross that bridge when it comes to it.

    But….wouldn’t he need my real name for the tickets? I don’t think they’ll let me board a plane unless the name on the ticket matches the name on my license/passport. Or maybe that is for international flights?

  207. Anna Molly says:

    NC Gent is right; if you haven’t established a level of trust between you, then asking him to wire money to you might scare him off.

  208. Gemini29 says:

    Anna Molly – Oh I am queen of the paypal! I introduced a pot SD to paypal…hopefully he’ll still get some use out of it with other pot SBs! Thats what I mean when “wire money”. But I’m concerned that if he buys the plane tickets himself for me….then he’ll need my real name and so on and so forth. Just wondering how the other SDs handle this to make things more comfortable for their pot SBs.

  209. photogirl says:

    SouthernGent2 – I do not think you are being difficult in expecting an answer within 3 days. I have a fairly flexible schedule as I am self employed, but I would have atleast responded letting you know that I was checking my schedule, had something tentatively scheduled on that date(s) and would know shortly if it would work etc. To keep you waiting that this long in my opninion is not respectful of your time.

  210. NC Gent says:

    SG2 — I always have figured that if my SB doesn’t respond to me within 48 hours, she just is not that into me. In today’s world with all different forms of communication, 48 hours (and maybe even 24 hours) is extremely do-able IMHO. She could have at least responded with — let me check my schedule and see what I can do and I will get back to you by….. curious to see what other SBs think about this.

  211. NC Gent says:

    Good morning all. Gemini I would be reluctant to wire a new SB money for a ticket. I have always purchased tickets for my SB in her name, and then emailed her the confirmation number and itinerary. He does need your real name for that. If your SD is really comfortable with you and trusts you, he may be willing to wire you money, but at the same time, it may set off “scam alert” alarms to him. If you aren’t trusting enough to give him your real name, I would be surprised if he is comfortable enough to wire you money for a ticket. You are a bright young lady, I am sure you can handle it well – just wanted to make you aware of the sensitivities.

  212. Anna Molly says:

    Gemini29 – I don’t know if this would work, but have you considered getting a paypal account. I know it would sound weird to say “just paypal me”, but all you need to give him is an email address and you’re all set. No personal information has to be exchanged and you can transfer straight to your bank account. Just a thought :)

  213. Bunny NYC says:

    Wow this thread got really long while I was at the Yankee game last night…took a while to try and catch up. Too many threads to reply to, so maybe I’ll just go in reverse when I have more time in the day.

    SG2 – I don’t think it’s “being difficult” to hope for a reply within 3 days. I have a tight schedule to work with and would like to plan things earlier than later as well. Maybe she got cold feet or changed her mind about the arrangement thing…could be a number of reasons.

    I had a pot SD who flew into NYC from California and he was just not 100% but he insisted on meeting up. We met a few times but it got increasingly complicated for him to plan trips due to his personal affairs. Which really was a shame since we both really hit it off. In the end, it was just better to move on since it was very hard to plan accordingly.

  214. Gemini29 says:

    Morning sugars!

    SouthernGent2- I travel a lot so I’m really used to scheduling and making plane reservations. Plus I’m in the works with at least two long distance pot SDs about nailing down visit dates. So talk with her some more, she may be looking at her schedule and/or waiting to see if some free days appear… but talk with her and figure out when the schedules can match. I’m planning 3 weeks to over a month out for my visits. Luckily you can buy a plane ticket anytime…so just try and get her settled on a date that works for both of you.

    Oh hey, question on that…. how do SDs buying plane tickets work? I get that they can put the hotel room in my name…but the plane ticket would have to match my real name correct for me to be able to board? Somehow I don’t think my nickname would cut it. Could I ask the pot SD to wire me money so I can buy my own ticket? I’m iffy on giving out my real name. (my real name is like a state secret, no one gets it)

  215. SouthernGent2 says:

    RealisticSD – I don’t need complications. I have enough on my plate. An arrangement should be chill time. The girl I met last week – I gave her specific days of the week I can travel, or that she could come to me. I emailed her on Friday and suggested two particular dates. Still no reply, so it leaves me no other choice but to schedule other things I have to do. I guess some just don’t get it about how busy we are. Or am I being a bit difficult in expecting an answer within three days?

  216. RealisticSD says:

    For me, long-distance SB dating is too complicated. I did it once and the SB missed her flight, her luggage didn’t arrive, she was tired from traveling, etc, and it was all down-hill from there.

  217. SouthernGent2 says:

    Question for you long distance and travel arrangment experts – how difficult is scheduling to make things work out? I don’t want to buy a plane ticket, then find out that a certain date doesn’t work out for her. I am way too busy for that kind of problem, but I can respect that she might be also. I suggested particular dates that would work for me, but no reply just yet which makes me a bit antsy. I am one of those that has to run my business on a schedule, so maybe just putting things into perspective, the long distance thing just might not work for me over the long haul.

  218. RealisticSD says:

    Flo Rida said, “There’s a HIGH price to pay for quality & most average allowances won’t cover it.” I agree with most of what you said in your post, but please realize that a lot of these super-hot SBs not only demand more, which is fine, but also are by nature drama queens or absolutely self-centered, and no amount of money can change those qualities. You just can’t pay someone selfish to have regard for others, and you cannot pay a histrionic personality to avoid drama.

  219. RealisticSD says:

    Margo, a coffee date doesn’t have to be for 30 minutes (as NewTXSB said, our “coffee” lasted 2 ½ hrs). But, like any first blind date, it’s intended to show if physical, emotional, and intellectual chemistry exists and if a relationship is worth a try. I can’t say that dinner first dates have made me know SBs any better than coffee ones. Plus, you don’t have to know everything about someone on the first date, but rather get a feel for them and, if interested, bring up previous experiences, expectations, and/or the arrangement.

    The Lone Gunman, I am with you on sports.

  220. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Boston ~ thanks…. hummm I think!

    TLG~ no, you’re not terrible!

  221. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Im turning in..Night all who are still up and Lurkers who are still lurking.

  222. BostonSugahBabe says:

    TLG-No it does not. It just means you have other interests and thing to do with your time :-)

  223. The Lone Gunman says:

    I am The Lone Gunman, and I have a confesion to make:

    I don’t follow sports. At all. No interest.

    Does this mean I’m a terrible Texan?

    TLG

  224. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Night OC!

    ANd I am not a big baseball fan…Just a Sox fans because of my hometown, lest I risk being terrorized by all the die hard fans.

    But I suspect what James means by the number 40 is the 40/40 club(not jay-z’s night spot) it’s a “club” of players who have gotten 40 home runs and 40 stolen bases in a season. Some members are Jose Canseco (steroids), Barry Bonds (steroids) and A. Fraud (Lol do I need to say it again?)

  225. Margo says:

    NewTXSB – a good man can invite you to Starbucks, but a fake SD less likely taking you to upscale restaurant. My first date after registering at sugar dating web site was with a scam artist. We met in Starbucks. I asked him to get me a sandwich and he was very surprised :).

    James – tone of voice is not enough for me. What I want to know is how serious he is about an arrangement. I don’t mean offering an arrangement at the first date, but I want to get an idea where we are. His looks do not matter that much for me unless he is really ugly. And I need some time to establish a connection and to seduce him a bit.

  226. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC and Boston, I’ll let you explain to Beach the significance of the numbers 40 and 27!
    hummm what does that mean??? lol

  227. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I try BG, I try…

    Night James, we shall take Miss BG under our sports wings.

    Hello Margo! Guy in email is a total douche! in need of a whore.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Nite James! Yes, a good night indeed…

      Boston, I have had far too may of those type of dates. Just did not have the WOW factor. When it does happen you will know it!

      Beach, you can teach me about Hockey!

      Nite everyone. I am going to see if I can come down from my baseball and sugar high!

  228. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe says:
    October 26, 2009 at 12:19 am

    BG- Yankees=Evil Sox=Good

    That’s all you need to know. LOL 😀

    HaHAHha you are funny!!!

  229. James says:

    Margo, I wouldn’t go so far … meeting for coffee or a drink isn’t just about appearance … you can learn a lot about someone in a half hour or hour, much of it non-verbal true, but that isn’t necessarily the same as “looks” — tone of voice, ease of manner, sense of humor, the way someone looks (or doesn’t look) at you, their “vibe” … lots of information but certainly not all the data you need. That’s for the second “arrangement” date in the classic pattern …

    OC and Boston, I’ll let you explain to Beach the significance of the numbers 40 and 27!

    Night guys, definitely a good one for me!

  230. BostonSugahBabe says:

    OC- I am not sure, can’t put my finger on it. He just gives me the “just a friend” vibe.

    LOL SA just told me I am posting comments too quickly “SLOW DOWN” it tells me. Jeez, blogs are making commands now?

  231. Flo Rida says:

    On the subject of break ups, they should ALWAYS be done in person, preferably during daylight in a semi-public place, with a script so that you stay on-message. Anything else is awful for both the breaker-upper or uppee.

    On the subject of model hotties – speaking as someone who knows lots of models, they behave as they do because they can. Let’s face it they are screaming-smoking hot and they know it and so you can get them to do what you want but the ‘investment’ has to be massive. You can’t get models going oooh ahhh on smaller allowances – gifts. Frankly I don’t think 5 figures is that much for a great looking gal. I was in a SB’s studio flat in Midtown Manhattan yesterday and I know that some SD is paying for her rent, her extensive collection of lingerie, shoes, clothes & she knows all the top spots & will move to a two bedroom place in Silverado complex. This SB described her SD as ‘amazing’. I’ve met him & he is amazing in generosity, wealth & experience & she is a 10 in any guys books. I know a stripper in Houston – screaming hot & her ‘admirer’ just bought her a Mercedes C class. I know guys might rip me for this but just realize that there’s a HIGH price to pay for quality & most average allowances won’t cover it.

    Lastly I’ve never objected to shopping I’ve just said ‘shop’ with deserving souls.

  232. Margo says:

    BostonSugahBabe – the man who sent you that email knows nothing but escorts, he is looking for escort and will find an escort.

  233. BostonSugahBabe says:

    BG- Yankees=Evil Sox=Good

    That’s all you need to know. LOL 😀

  234. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ I know football, F1 races, unfortunately Hockey (don’t like it though), but when it comes to Baseball and soccer, i’m lost!
    I need training 101

  235. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Oh GOD! Not the yankees! Ewwwww!

    *says five hail mary’s*

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Boston, haha I actually like the Angels, but they were playing my all time FAV team!
      I wanted to ask you why you weren’t certain about the date or moving forward? I know you said you wanted to meet the other pot first. But what if anything was missing?

  236. NewTXSB says:

    “Margo says:
    Now I can say that those guys who offer go out for coffee or drink just want to see if they like me physically. But that does not give me much information about the person. If we go for coffee, we could only do a small talk. There will be enough time to discuss the weather, but not enough to learn what are we looking for and if he had such kind of relationship before.”

    *** Respectfully I strongly disagree. My 1st “date” with RealisticSD was at Starbucks. We met at 2:30 p.m. and talked until 5:00 and the only reason it ended it b/c he needed to get home. It didn’t take us 2.5 hours to finish our drinks….but we kept on talking and the conversation flowed. The 2.5 hours flew by….

  237. The Lone Gunman says:

    OC:

    I already know that she enjoys certain products, so that’s going to be a given part of the shopping experience.

    The way I’m setting this up, the Yippee factor should be quite good for her.

    As to the fashion show–I believe she can if she wishes to, and if all the other factors come into play to interest her in doing one. Only time will tell–we still have to get our schedules to mesh.

    TLG

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      TLG, I knew you would set it up to be memorable. Yes…she would have to be comfortable with the fashion show! I meant that I hope future fashion shows will unfold. See I just get so excited with all the talk about shopping my mind runs on fast forward!

      Beach! I need to give you sports training 101… LOL

  238. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ who is winning? not big on baseball, I have a friend he plays for the dodgers, And I never go to games when i’m out there…. i know crazy right?

  239. Margo says:

    NYGent – thank you for explanation about coffee/drinks dates versus lunch/dinner dates. Now I can say that those guys who offer go out for coffee or drink just want to see if they like me physically. But that does not give me much information about the person. If we go for coffee, we could only do a small talk. There will be enough time to discuss the weather, but not enough to learn what are we looking for and if he had such kind of relationship before.

  240. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    TLG~ private fashion show? I’m sure all the SDs would enjoy that!

  241. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Did every one leave???? hellooo?

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Im here Beach, just on the edge of my seat with the Yankee game. Chocolate in one hand so typing is a bit tough. *sigh… ok I will put the chocolate down

  242. NewTXSB says:

    “RealisticSD says:
    OK, I better go to sleep so I am awake enough tomorrow afternoon to see NewTXSB. If not, I just might have to rest my head on her and take a nap.”

    In that case, I’m forbidding you from going to sleep tonight! :)

  243. NYGent says:

    OC quite ok, we still live in a democracy.

  244. RealisticSD says:

    Boston, sounds like your date went well. As for the psycho dude, he obviously has issues with rejection and too much innate resentment against women, presumably because they don’t go along with his views on things.

    OC, sounds like the right text to send.

    OK, I better go to sleep so I am awake enough tomorrow afternoon to see NewTXSB. If not, I just might have to rest my head on her and take a nap 😉

  245. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    James~ I’m sure Sweety would like to have mail from you 😉

  246. RandomYoungerSD says:

    RealisticSD, Gemini: I think I’m going to do it in person just so I feel better about doing it the right way, if nothing more. I had a girl do the email/text breakup thing with me and I thought it was totally lame.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Oh my sweet NYC Gent… I was just in a really bad place that day! I was contemplating my face to face ending. However I am not going to change my vote! LOL

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        RandomYoungerSD, welcome to my world. I did the face to face this week and it was a so much better. He got to see the compassion and sincerity that this conversation so badly needed. Still sucked, but looking back I am glad it is over.

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        TLG! I had to go back to find your post. We were all posting so fast it got lost!
        You would make me PROUD if you took her shopping on your first date. Let me ask you this? Do you have insight to this pot SB? What type of shopping will make her go YIP-EEEEE? I know you enjoy the fashion shows so is she up for it?
        I know you have style, just making sure she can match it!

  247. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I can not stop laughing at the email. I told him what he wanted sounded like an escort and he said he didn’t want an escort, then emails me this drunken tirade about me being a whore and him being a John. Classic!..Reminded me of this Clint Eastwood moive I saw once.

    Whoohoo for the blog hook ups!

    Gem-Bud light! LMAO, I swear. I thought to myself “don’t blame the pats for you’re idiocy”

  248. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ lmao, I did 😉 …. I so need to go to the sun… it’s too cold here.. And I miss my Cali Sister!

  249. James says:

    OC, I can see why you want to acknowledge his text, but something light like thanks but you can’t reheat a souffle is probably enough. I’m stressing a little bit too … but keeping the faith!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      James, I just sent a txt…”Thank you but my feelings have not changed”
      This morning after I found the flowers and check I sent a very short “Thank You”
      So that is all I am going to respond to. I can’t let this drag on.

  250. Gemini29 says:

    Boston – Congrats on the good date! and my jaw drooopppped at that other email. And then I busted a gut laughing about how the “bud light made him do it”. Bud light. oh man.

    Random – Call or do it in person. A breakup should not happen by email or text (except in certain cases). You can be a better man than that. But perhaps in your case, calling would be a better move, as doing it in person might cause you a bit of distress.

  251. NYGent says:

    OC: I think your behavior exemplary in all respects, wish they were all like you . . . .

  252. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    On Me James???? mail me!!!

  253. NewTXSB says:

    BostonSugahBabe:
    Glad to hear your date went well. And that guy’s e-mail….all I can say is WOW…

  254. texaSD says:

    Random- ehh up to you…

  255. James says:

    Boston, I’m glad you’re laughing because that’s one ugly email. Totally beyond the pale. That man has issues.

    Hmmm, I just noticed a new blog handle. Can I now admit to having had a crush on Sweety? :-)

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      James, Sweety is my Canadian twin. I would totally approve of this crush you speak of!!!

      Beach, come down for a visit any time! Psst, did you see what James wrote about Sweety??? LOL

  256. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC ~ first I need to go for a vacation see my friends and my sister from another mother! 😉

  257. NYGent says:

    random: see the extended discussion a few blogs ago about my preemptive breakup with SB by email. Many different opinions were voiced, but bottom line is I was (and am) comfortable having done it that way because I was 95% sure she wanted out of it and this was a way of letting her off gently and easy as opposed to an awkward in person or phone convo which I knew she wouldn’t have wanted to have. But there is a certain view that you never ever break up with somebody by email or text no matter how much you’re in the right and they’re in the wrong. (I think it’s the only thing OC and I have ever disagreed over!)

  258. James says:

    Random, here’s an idea: text her that “we need to have a serious talk” and see what happens.

  259. BostonSugahBabe says:

    HEllooo Shug’s!!!

    Sorry Im kinda hyper tonight.

    Just got back from a very nice date with a super gentleman. Held the door open for me in the restaurant, even for the people leaving (He is tall so they went right under him LOL!), didn’t seem agitated that the waitress keep giving him the finger (the wait finger I mean), which was pretty rude of her IMO, but he still left her a generous tip (way too generous for her attitude) and even walked me to my side of the door and opened it for me! Ladies, chivalry is not dead!

    We had a great time, and I said thank you as I gave him a hug and kiss on the cheek. He seems like a great guy. He also didn’t mind how I was being “heckled”, to say the least, as he picked me up. (Live in a not so great neighborhood, I don’t have drama, just some people can’t help but hate).

    He said he was interested, but I still want to wait and explore my options. I still want to see the 61 yr old first.

    What had me absolutely ROLLING ON THE FLOOR LAUGHING MY ASS OFF was this email I received from a guy who I declined respectfully because he wanted to do that “pay per visit” crap. Trust me ladies (and gents) this is hilarious!

    “I got a real chuckle out of your email.
    I am a honest man so I’m gonna let you in on something. You are a whore. I know you are a whore, you know you are a whore. And any other Daddy willing to give you money for a relationship knows that you are a whore.
    And I am a John, someone willing to pay for your company. This is why I have stopped pursuing a SD relationship. Because you women seem to think you are more intelligent than a successful man. You are all just actresses (which usually also means whore). You most likely have a young and broke boyfriend and also a somewhat poor family which is why you choose to do this is the first place. I find it amusing that a 19 year old woman would think that a successful adult male would think of her as anything more than a moist entrance for relief. I do apologize if my language is a bit short the PATS game is on so i blame my directness on the bud light, but you seem like a nice enough girl i figure I’d give you a clue. At the end of the day tell yourself whatever you need to sleep well at night. I too hope you find whatever it is your looking for.”

    ROTFLMAOO!!! Don’t blame it on the a-a-a-alcohol guy.

  260. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    hhahhah OC , my sister, we would both get them and share notes lol…
    I need to move!

  261. NewTXSB says:

    “RealisticSD says:
    And I have been shopping with NewTXSB, just not for women’s clothes or accessories. But I think she saw how quickly I wore out from shopping.”

    *** LOL…yes, I can vouch for the fact the RealisticSD hates shopping. After like 15-20 minutes in the store, he literally asked “Where’s the exit?”. LOL…like a prisoner anxious to escape. I felt sooo bad…..as he mentioned earlier, he works much better as a “cash daddy”. :)

  262. RealisticSD says:

    RandomYoungerSD, what I would do in that situation is to meet her one last time, try to get more physically intimate, and if there is the least bit of hesitation on her part, tell her exactly what I think. The conversation that would ensue would grant her the opportunity to state any of her thoughts or reservations, as there might be some value to that in terms of the lessons we learn about people and relationships. Unless a real solid agreement is reached, then I just move on. Getting rid of these super-hot but troublesome SBs is not easy, but being rid of them is a relief!

  263. The Lone Gunman says:

    All this talk about shopping/not shopping has me concerned.

    I have a pot who I get along famously with–and wouldn’t you know it?–when we finally can get our schedules synchronized, we will be meeting for an extended shopping date right out of the gate!

    Would it also surprise anyone that it was MY idea based on our emails?

    Oh, woe is me–have I stepped in it, or am I a great pot Daddy who should stop fretting and just cooperate with the inevitable?

    TLG
    TLG

  264. James says:

    OC, just returning the favor. You were right in my case, I was glad I did the deed in person in terms of my own self-respect and the overall dignity of the ending. About that text … his masculine pride may feel obligated to keep trying a bit, or he may want to test if his chivalrous gesture changed your mind. I assume you’re not going to respond … it’s over. Here’s hoping there’s no game 7 and you get right back out there again!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      No James, I have not responded to the text. You are right, it does sound like a pride thing and I don’t want to emasculate him by not txting back. I am not sure what to do, but I may have to hide the chocolate again! Between the game and the txt I am stressing out…

  265. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ woo hoo…. you go girl! Why can’t I live where there are lots of SDs?
    I am getting discouraged!!!

  266. RandomYoungerSD says:

    Random, Texas, Realstic: Yeah, you’ve basically all confirmed what I knew anyway (when I’m not near her, that is): time to end it. She is “fun”, but I know it’s not going to work. There are also other red flags that I can’t get into here.

    She usually communicates over text messages. I feel kind of cowardly breaking it off that way, but I’ve had it done to me through emails, so what’s the difference. Should I risk seeing her one last time to say goodbye? ugh.

  267. RealisticSD says:

    But I guess I have been shopping with SBs. I guess I never counted Wal-Mart as shopping.

    And I have been shopping with NewTXSB, just not for women’s clothes or accessories. But I think she saw how quickly I wore out from shopping. I went to the mall yesterday with my wife and kids, and despite not really buying anything, I was totally worn out. I fell asleep at like 8 (hence the not blogging) and spent most of today napping too just to recover.

  268. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Random~ I think all the SDs here tonight are giving you very wise advice!
    Welcome to the blog!

  269. NYGent says:

    realistic: exactly. the eyes have it. I’m sure there are any number of shakespearean sonnets that say this eternal truth, none of which I can recall offhand. . . .

  270. RealisticSD says:

    I should add that when I hesitated to give drama queen what she wanted, she went into a scary trance and started intermittently shedding tears, so I ran as fast as I could. But then I went back to offer her and her friend a ride back home, because I was worried about whether they’d make their way back, and they refused, instead loitering about my neighborhood for a couple of days. Hence the headache I had the next day.

  271. RealisticSD says:

    “When you gaze longingly at her (she being a model hottie), does she look in your eyes or away?”

    Drama queen SB could not look me in the eyes at all. She said she could not look someone in the eyes until she felt very comfortable with him. Yet, she was comfortable enough to have me rent her and her guy “friend” an apartment and buy them a car after meeting them at Wal-Mart for an hour.

    From work I have learned that there is nothing like a good look in someone’s eyes to establish a connection and trust.

  272. texaSD says:

    Random- Do your self a favor, drop her.

  273. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    OC~ good for you girl! You are on a roll… 😉
    sending positive vibes your way!!!

  274. NYGent says:

    Random: ultimately there is no better test than body language. When you gaze longingly at her (she being a model hottie), does she look in your eyes or away? When you put your arm around her or peck her on the cheek or neck does she up the ante or act like a block of ice who reciprocates, if at all, in a perfunctory manner? In other words when you try to reduce the distance between you does she try to reduce it further, or to widen it? It does come down to intuition and common sense, and it is very very hard to analyze these things coldly when she is stunningly beautiful and you want to believe . . .

  275. RealisticSD says:

    NY Gent, when my wife’s in town, I’ve met SBs at Starbucks or similar places. That way, I don’t waste too much precious time away from her, and if things are not right, I can leave after 30 min or so and poof! OK, I know all the SBs hate the poof daddies, but I only have poofed when the SBs look nothing like their pictures, otherwise I tell them I am not interested.

    When she’s out of town, I meet up for dinner. That way I get to have a nice dinner as well.

  276. I’m back… house is clean! Haven’t had the pleasure of a SD taking me out for shopping YET. So I can’t really say much about that other than this…. if I was eyeing something in a store while we were walking around outside and my SD took notice (unbeknownst to me of course), then that thing I was eyeing showed up on my doorstep or he gave it to me the next time we met… I would be blow away because he was interested enough in me to notice that I liked it.
    I may be a little weird here, but I’ve noticed that when a guy pays attention to me… like he remembers nearly everything I’ve said… I’m a sucker for him. Real example: This one guy a while back…. we would meet and talk about everything under the sun everytime we saw each other. It was easy talking to each other. He paid such close attention and remembered everything I said. I was like WOW…. needless to say he had me hooked….

  277. RealisticSD says:

    “but whenever we meet up again she seems to charm me back” (RandomYoungerSD)

    OK, time to run then. I had this experience once where everything was not right at all, but when I was with the SB (actually, a pair of SBs or SB duo as some have called them), I would forget all our problems. You won’t put up with it forever, so my recommendation is for you to confront her with your expectations now.

  278. Taz says:

    RealisticSD says:
    “Taz, I gave being jaded some serious thought, but decided against it mainly because if other people want to use me, that’s life, but that will never make me want to use other people. Plus, I cannot punish someone new for what someone else did.”

    Good to hear Realistic – I hope every SD sees it that way :)

    Hey BG!!!

    Welcome back James :) That sounds amazing btw!

  279. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hi Taz~

  280. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NewTXSB~ yes it is hard to find a man that loves to shop, but if you model things for him ,,,, maybe! 😉

    Random~ NyGent is right…. This just happened to him, read previous 2 blogs..

  281. NYGent says:

    As someone I think OC said it comes down to personal style, and to some extent how risk averse you are. Some people aren’t willing to invest more than a 20-30 minute coffee date or quick drink for a first meet, and that’s fine for them. Personally I don’t find that I can learn or discover much of anything in half an hour except whether I’m physically attracted to them, which is a very important, but I try to determine from pics in advance whether at least a necessary threshhold level of physical attraction will be there. For me, if there is that base level of attraction, I need either a brunch/lunch/dinner, i.e., hour and a half or more, to figure out whether there’s a connection, and sometimes some post-eating time together, be it walking, shopping or whatever. It’s a bigger investment, bigger risk, but potentially bigger payoff. Just a matter of personal style.

  282. RandomYoungerSD says:

    NYGent: Thanks. Yes, she is a model hottie, actually. Sounds like it goes with the territory. Honestly I’ve been on the fence about her for the past couple weeks, but whenever we meet up again she seems to charm me back. I can’t rationalize it.

  283. NewTXSB says:

    “New SB in SB *395409* says:
    Boston – I may be a bit late on the scarf issue…could be a fettish…wonder if he wants to use it as a restraint.”

    *** Mmmm…..that sounds dreamy…. *sigh*

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      James, thanks for all your ealier advice on my looming end to my sugar story. Yes, it did work out. Happy? Well, no not happy but at least I feel good about myself and his actions were admirable. But as I expected, he txted this evening asking if I would reconsider. Hmmmm, knew the roses smelt funny. LOL
      The allowance will be put into my rainy day savings fund. Still don’t feel good about spending it. I will however pay off that fabulous dress I bought for the event! It was a head turner! But now that stupid dress will always remind me of him. Stupid dress!
      Upside is karma is working, I have several pots and one tenitive date for tomorrow (unless game 7 happens).

  284. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    James~ I was at that hotel 2 years ago and the views are amazing! Sounds like an Amazing time!

    Texas~ been ok, ankle all healed… Working hard… you know the usual things!

  285. RealisticSD says:

    RandomYoungerSD, you guys really need to sit and talk it out. It’s hard for many SBs to really talk money, but the earlier you get it out of the way, the easier. The more experience you get, the easier it becomes to avoid the pitfalls, but to be honest, the more clearly the expectations are spelled out, the better.

    Personally, with my current SB, after the first date, when we decided to see each other again, I e-mailed her details of the arrangement. Normally if I’m interested I do this in person on the first date, but that day I was having a head-ache (thanks to crazy drama queen SB who was still roaming the streets of my neighborhood–long story, but you can find it in the previous blogs). My e-mail was as follows:

    “As for the arrangement, I will offer you what I have offered others. $x,000 per month paid at the beginning of the month. Since this is already mid-October, I will give you $y,000 for October. At any time you’re welcome to end the arrangement, as is the case for me. I don’t have sex until I am pretty sure things have a significant future, so if I don’t jump your bones, don’t take it as a sign of lack of sexual interest.”

    (numbers blocked out because I am not sure if she wants it publicized on the blog, but I can say that y = 3/4 x. amazingly, she objected, saying that y should be 1/2 x, but i said she should not worry about it)

    Anyways, I see the nitty gritty of the arrangement as just that, a basis that sets my expectations and hers. Although I did not spell out my expctations there, I had mentioned previously to her that I’d want to see her one or two afternoons a week and one evening a week for 2-3 hrs or so. We had also both agreed in previous e-mails that a non-sexual sugar relationship would not work. In reality, I offer much more than the stated allowance, because I want to make sure the SB is well taken care of, and in return I want more than just her time and body, as I want someone to connect with and enjoy on a personal and emotional level as well.

    But there is no one formula for this.

  286. NYGent – “If I went to the mall in Omaha..” hahahah…do they have malls in Omaha? No offense to the midwesterners…in the same boat! Do what’s right for you. Hope you and Anna have a fab lunch…way to make lemonade from lemons!

    OC – The allowance and roses could be out of guilt. I would suggest, he genuinely appreciated your honesty and integrity and wanted to reflect his appreciation.

    Boston – I may be a bit late on the scarf issue…could be a fettish…wonder if he wants to use it as a restraint.
    However…tie it around your purse, tuck it into the collar of your sweater or suit to add color, drape it over a lamp (not for too long). I’m sure you could find good use for his offer. It is odd that he is being so specific.

    Hello sugars!

    That’s all for now!

  287. NewTXSB says:

    “Beach_Girl*395953 says:
    NyGent~ It’s fun to shop with a man that enjoys it!”

    *** Yes it is. Unfortunately I hav yet to meet a straight man IRL who truly enjoys shopping. :(

  288. NYGent says:

    Random: whether she wants an allowance or just shopping is sort of beside the point. The point is you seem to be giving her what she wants in terms of benefits (so far) and she’s not reciprocating with mutuality. If she is one of these model-hotties it’s possible she’s of the view that her hanging out with you shoud be compensation enough. You’ve got to run from those types and fast, as I’ve learned the hard way.

    It’s very awkward, I find, to say to someone, “so i’ve been delivering the goods, what about you?” It sounds so transactional, and the reciprocation should develop naturally and without the need for express discussion. If it doesn’t I think you need to think seriously about moving on and finding someone who responds enthusiastically.

  289. texaSD says:

    Beach- Ya been busy, and sick, honestly still feel exhausted I have had 2 naps today, and I feel still not enough sleep… How you been?

  290. James says:

    Hi guys, back from a weekend visiting the kids at school!

    OC, I admire the classy way both of you ultimately handled that. A positive ending to what could have been an unhappy story. Yankees are in the lead so I’m in a particularly benevolent mood!

    NY Gent, if I hear you right, you know you don’t have to do that, but you like to do it. It makes you feel good and sets the tone you’re trying to achieve — your way of trying to show that the sugar is ALL a gift. This is who you are and will make some lucky girl very happy, but man I do urge you to be selective in choosing who you see as there are some more venal souls who may misinterpret or try to take advantage of your generous nature.

    Personally, I do not offer anything of value in the first meeting. I would rather meet straight up the first time, for lunch or a drink in a business suitable location, treating it almost like a relaxed mutual interview. I want to know that I’m dealing with someone grown-up I can talk to, trust and find interesting, before we get into the discussion of sugar anything. I do not respond to women who say in their profiles that they require a gift on the first meeting. I think different people are comfortable with different approaches.

    Gemini, the kind of date you’re talking about is fantastic if you’re looking to tell if you’d enjoy hanging out with someone. I would never go on a trip with someone without logging some quality “day” time together. You can learn a lot about someone by how they interact with people and in different situations.

    The happiest SD/SB moment I ever had was with my bad girl two winters ago. I flew her out to San Francisco (business class) for a weekend. We stayed at the Mandarin Hotel in a junior suite with glorious views of the bay and bridge. On Saturday, after a morning shopping in the Haight and an afternoon holding hands at SF MOMA, on the spur of the moment we decided to go to the ballet. We sat, just the two of us, in a side box at the glorious old Opera House watching Giselle, a warhorse of a ballet, but the shine in her eyes and her joy in the moment was pure delight for me. Followed by champagne and room service and modeling the fruits of our shopping trip back in our room, with the lights of San Francisco twinkling beneath us …. I know, it’s straight out of Pretty Woman, but what can you do? I actually got to live it.

  291. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hey Texas~ long time no see, It is fun to shop for a man, and myself!

    NyGent~ It’s fun to shop with a man that enjoys it!

  292. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Evening Sugars, How is everyone?

  293. NYGent says:

    well said realistic. I actually like shopping with women and get a kick out of seeing the thrill on their faces when they know they now own that bag or pair of shoes (and trust me i’m not gay or metro, it’s just something I enjoy). But my antennae is up more now due to the advice from this blog . ..

  294. texaSD says:

    Gemini- funny thing is, I used to hate shopping, so i would buy clothes that I thought would fit me, but nowadays its not like when i was younger, everything is fitting differently, now I know, why women spend more time shopping, So when a SB wants to go shopping, I look at it as a time to shop for myself too, and get pointers at the same time

  295. RandomYoungerSD says:

    i asked her what she wanted on the second date… she said she wanted to be spoiled with shopping, did not mention a cash allowance. perhaps she wants me to bring it up again now that we’ve been hanging out for a while and we seem to get a long? she does not seem very experienced with sugar dating. she told me she had met some other dudes, but they were either too old or turned out to be broke.

    i am not too experienced with this sugar dating stuff myself. i had an “SB” for about a month, back in the summer, who I met through another site. i’d buy her gifts and expensive dinners, she’d hang out and hook up more like a normal girlfriend, except up a notch. there was no allowance involved. just “i want to be spoiled with shopping”, again.

  296. RealisticSD says:

    NYGent, you’re absolutely right about our loss of common sense with overly attractive SBs. There was a study a few months back that found that men, when presented with just the picture of attractive women, were willing to take higher and higher levels of risk betting money. We just can’t help it. It sucks to get used, but the next time around we end up doing the same.

    OC, I guess I need to plan sugar-dates better so they are more out-of-this-world experiences.

  297. RealisticSD says:

    RandomYoungerSD, you’ve fallen for the sugar-without-the-sex trap. You just need to be up-front about what you envision or be more sexually aggressive.

    NYGent, I don’t like shopping, so I don’t end up with your problem. I guess I am more of the cash-daddy—“Here’s a wad of cash, go buy whatever you want.” But if shopping will make someone as happy as Gemini said she’d be on a shopping trip, I’d definitely consider it, as long as I wouldn’t risk getting caught at a place like the the main mall around here.

    Taz, I gave being jaded some serious thought, but decided against it mainly because if other people want to use me, that’s life, but that will never make me want to use other people. Plus, I cannot punish someone new for what someone else did. Granted, we learn our lessons and our intuitions about people change with experience, but I guess I am an optimist by nature and am willing to give people the benefit of the doubt until they really don’t deserve it any more. Then I end things.

  298. NYGent says:

    NewTX: just keep trying! I think one problem some of us SDs have is a tendency to get a bit mesmerized by an attractive SB on first date to the point of not thinking logically or pragmatically, which leads to irrational behavior. It’s a tendency we have to fight and as some other SB blogger, I forget who, observed a blog or two ago it can border on psychosis if it reflects a pattern.

  299. NewTXSB says:

    NYGent:
    I’ve never been to NY so I’m not at all familiar with the specific places you’re talking about. But if after brunch, you don’t want to part ways, then how about going to the museum or strolling through the park or something? LOL….there must be public places you can take a potential SB on the 1st date after brunch where items worth hundreads of dollars aren’t being sold.

  300. Taz says:

    Indeed – welcome!!

  301. Anna Molly says:

    Hello Random, welcome to the blog :)

  302. Taz says:

    Now reading MORE posts – I feel so repetitive lol 😛

    Hey Kat! Was quiet when I checked earlier then there was so much to catch up on lol..

  303. hey Taz!! whats up lady!

  304. Taz says:

    Kit Kat – you took the words out of my mouth! I don’t think any of us would like to see any of these extraordinary SD’s become jaded…perhaps we are a little defensive and come off a bit too strong 😛

    NY Gent – maybe getting her something you think she would appreciate? It iS the thought that counts and I am sure when talking with SB’s you have SOME idea of what they would like or enjoy…then you can remain in control of how generous you want to be whether it is lunch or dinner :) On that note – just read NewTX’s post and well said. I also think that if you feel there are genuine sparks you can make a decision for some spoiling based on that, but it isn’t a mandatory, especially if you feel you are being under appreciated.

  305. NewTXSB says:

    “NYGent says:
    Sorry to be so blunt but the SBs on the site are very good at toughening you up (at least they’re trying in my case).”

    *** LOL….Lord knows we’re trying…and not giving up anytime soon! :)

    ” Kit-Kat*367987* says:
    New texas I think you are Reading my mind lady!! or we on the same wavelenght tonight”

    *** Great minds think alike…. 😉

  306. NYGent says:

    NewTX: good ideas on how to scale it back.

    Gemini: I usually am not so direct as to say “let’s go buy something nice” afte brunch. It’s more like, as you suggest, “let’s stroll around,” then we just drift into these chi chi stores, her eyes light up at something, I say try it/them on, one thing leads to another and voila there you have it. Maybe NewTX has it right, just don’t go there . . .

  307. New texas I think you are Reading my mind lady!! or we on the same wavelenght tonight!

  308. NewTXSB says:

    “RandomYoungerSD says:
    so I’ve been dating an SB for a few weeks. She’s very nice and fun to be around. I have done a bit of spoiling (shopping sprees, high end dinners) but she doesn’t seem to be interested in anything affectionate or intimate.”

    *** Questions: Have you already given her the allowance you 2 agreed on? Is this the first time she’s been in a SD/SB relationship?

  309. Gemini29 says:

    NY Gent- Choose the area you like, ask her if she’d like to take a walk and enjoy the “____” air/day with you, and just walk, talk, people see, and such, and stop in shops when YOU think the chemistry is there. Or maybe see if she would be interested in going out with you for a second date or whatnot and THEN take her shopping…but only if you want to. I don’t know exactly….just make it spontaneous and fun. Not like “ok we’re done with brunch, let me go buy you something pretty.” 😉

  310. Random hello and hi!
    did you guys make an arrangement already? in your screening process did you ask her Whather idea of sugar dating entails?

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      What sets the amazing from the ordinary SD is his style! There are no stead fast rules to sugar dating, everyone needs to dance to their own drummer. You don’t have to enjoy the song or like to dance to that kind of music but try to understand that some really get a thrill out of how it makes some of us feel.
      How the SD presents the date, his creativity in planning it out, possibly taking you shopping and watching how he acts or reacts to the experience can put the chemistry factor thru the roof. I have been on sugar first dates that were very nice, handsome man, great venue, interesting conversation… but there was no “wow factor” The offer of an arrangement was made at the end of the evening and I honestly had to think about it. Which means “no”…
      I love shopping and that “Yippee” squeal that it brings is priceless. It can be from the SD pointing out something like book he knew I wanted to read (browsing thru a bookstore) to remembering I have a over the top Gucci purse fettish and making a bee-line to the Gucci store. When the shopping has a comfortable casual feeling to both the SD and SB it is an amazing experience.

  311. NYGent says:

    Randomyounger: I just went thru this. Almost everybody on this blog, esp. the SBs, said pack it in if there’s still chilliness intimacy-wise after the 4th date at latest. I ended mine right after the 4th date and it was the right call for both of us. If there’s nothing going after 4 dates or a month, whichever comes earlier, then it’s just a slow torture heading toward oblivion.. Sorry to be so blunt but the SBs on the site are very good at toughening you up (at least they’re trying in my case).

  312. photogirl says:

    NewTXSB says:
    Second, if you’re so adamant about giving a gift on the 1st date, then have you ever considered buying something yourself and presenting it at the end of brunch/lunch/dinner as a gift? If you got to know her a little before meeting for the 1st time, surely you have an idea as to what kinda stuff she’s into…so it’s not that hard to pick out a perfume, book, scarf, earrings…whatever…..or even a AMX/Visa GC. This way she’s not in charge of picking out the item.

    This a good option as well.

  313. Ny Gent .. I was looking through a paper to day and I saw some Earrings they were tahitian pearls I havent ever seen pearls of this color before, these were 399 So my point is you can always Order something Rare/ and diffrent. I think your genorisity is wondreful, and Yes I did forget what things cost up there in the city,
    a Massage/spa/day would be nice to anyone and a good thanks for the meeting gift
    I echo texas words a Pot is indeed diffrent than a Sb and ONCE they get to That level THEN go daddy ga-ga.

    Example I had a date*conventional* once and he brought a pineapple
    ok so -what.. It was a very Rare pineapple and he showed me how to seed it I dunno if you all know but the little honey pineapples I never had one before.

  314. NYGent says:

    Gemini: I agree which is why brunch is my preferred first date. There are lots of great sights in downtown NYC like hi-line and meatpacking district. Of course all the shops are very chi-chi and high end. But brunch in, say, Murray Hill, is no fun: no good restos or shops and nothing interesting to see. So what’s a SD to do . . .

  315. RandomYoungerSD says:

    so I’ve been dating an SB for a few weeks. She’s very nice and fun to be around. I have done a bit of spoiling (shopping sprees, high end dinners) but she doesn’t seem to be interested in anything affectionate or intimate.

    i do like her and don’t want to hurt her. but I also don’t want to keep this up when I could spend my time doing other things. any ideas on how to approach it? i’m thinking of just telling her straight up i’m looking for a relationship (sugar or otherwise) with more affection and intimacy and see what she says.

  316. NewTXSB says:

    “NYGent says:
    newtex and kitkat: i think you’re right, $1K is a bit much for a first date shopping spree and $200 or so would be more reasonable. The problem is I live in NYC and if a first date, as so often in my case, is brunch downtown followed by “a little shopping” we often end up at some place like Jeffrey where even if the deal is she can pick out “any one thing” that “thing” is generally +700.

    Maybe the key is dropping brunch and just going with dinner: the stores are closed by then, even in NYC . .”

    *** First I’m not sure why there *has* to be “a little shopping” after brunch? After you walk out of the restaurant, you go your separate ways and ifyou really like her, you offer her an arrangement and take it from there. I hate to keep saying this but I really can’t wrap my head around the concept of “let’s go shopping” on the 1st date.

    Second, if you’re so adamant about giving a gift on the 1st date, then have you ever considered buying something yourself and presenting it at the end of brunch/lunch/dinner as a gift? If you got to know her a little before meeting for the 1st time, surely you have an idea as to what kinda stuff she’s into…so it’s not that hard to pick out a perfume, book, scarf, earrings…whatever…..or even a AMX/Visa GC. This way she’s not in charge of picking out the item.

  317. photogirl says:

    NYGent – I do not consider such early generosity sappy or naive(just hate to see it not being appreciated). I’ve never been fortunate to experience it my self but I can guarantee it would never be taken for granted.

  318. Gemini29 says:

    NY Gent- Hmmm…. I think brunch and then some light…whatever..shopping sightseeing whatnot..is better than dinner. That allows you time to talk and learn about each other and see each others traits habits and personalities…more so than you would learn over dinner. Just my two cents :)

  319. NewTXSB says:

    “Gemini29 says:
    I was thinking about it while mopping today and I was thinking…if we take the generosity out of the SDs….then what are we doing to the fun of dating a SD…the generosity of SDs is legendary…and it would be a darn shame for a SD to scale it back for the next SB just because of a bad experience with another girl.”

    IMO there’s a big difference b/t a SB and a *potential* SB. SDs should spoil their SBs….but IMO the 1st date is to establish whether or not the girl becomes his SB and the focus should be on conversation.

  320. NYGent says:

    newtex and kitkat: i think you’re right, $1K is a bit much for a first date shopping spree and $200 or so would be more reasonable. The problem is I live in NYC and if a first date, as so often in my case, is brunch downtown followed by “a little shopping” we often end up at some place like Jeffrey where even if the deal is she can pick out “any one thing” that “thing” is generally +700. Now if if I lived in OMaha and we went to the mall I’m sure I could get out of there pretty unscathed . . .

    Maybe the key is dropping brunch and just going with dinner: the stores are closed by then, even in NYC . . .

  321. Gemini29 says:

    I’m going to echo OC… I was thinking about it while mopping today and I was thinking…if we take the generosity out of the SDs….then what are we doing to the fun of dating a SD…the generosity of SDs is legendary…and it would be a darn shame for a SD to scale it back for the next SB just because of a bad experience with another girl. Trust me, if a SD took me shopping…..I would be the biggest smiliest girl in the entire city! There would no ends of the Thank Yous and WOW, it would be amazing!

    Ok I got carried away in my happy space.

    Um so..to all the super generous SDs out there….keep up the good work! Don’t let a few bad experiences sour you….there is a wonderful SB who will appreciate it all so much just waiting for you around the corner!! 😀

  322. Ny Gent I would like to restate my opionion : I think it so wonderful of you to Offer a 1k shopping spree Really I do and If that is the way you do things so be it!
    I think if you find a nice lady and go out on a coffe /dinner date
    She should be happy with a “Im serious gift” or some cash I think a 300 dollar piece of Jewerly would knock me out my seat and the only reason I say hold on to the $ugar just a tad or Restructure your Bounus’s
    thats all my thinking is that EVENTUALLY you may get dejected and a Really deserving Pot maybe passed over on the spoiling…

    I think us here on the the blog just want you to be a happy sd and more or less a generous one *with a so- deserving Sb*

  323. NYC SB says:

    NYGent – scale back if you want… but again there is nothing wrong with giving an SB a little luxury if you like her… it gives you joy and I would hope she appreciates it … if not thats her character flaw and not yours

    Enjoy your date on Tuesday!

  324. NYC SB says:

    HI ALLL…. I have missed ya! Blogging from the owners box at the Giants game :)

    Hope everyone had an extra sugary weekend… I am currently chatting up some gents from the box… i mean I am NETWORKING 😉

    laughed at southerns g spot email… i think im the only one with the dirty mind here lol

    OC – halloween candy… yum yum… i am going to be lady gaga this halloween… have the chanel shoes (well they are in the mail) and got a blonde wig… now i can pretend to be the blonde everyone on the blog thought I was 😀

    NeOhio – did you get my email?

  325. NewTXSB says:

    “RealisticSD says:
    But, based on advice from those on the blog, I was convinced that it’s better to just meet and see if there is chemistry and if there is, to then offer an arrangement.”

    *** And this worked out great so far right? Having an arrangement first so you know that she’s here to stay for the long run….and THEN spoiling her… :) I miss you btw. *pout*

    *** NYGent:
    I’m one of the SBs that think that spoiling someone on the 1st date *before* establishing whether or not the she likes you enough to come back for a 2nd date or accept an arrangement is naive. I do understand that SDs take pleasure in seeing the joy in a SB when spoiling her…but I just don’t understand why it can’t wait until the 2nd date or after the arrangement.

    All that being said…..if you have no problem paying the “cost of doing business”, then you shouldn’t change anything. But if you don’t like the feeling you get when you realize a potential SB used you for $$$ after spoiling her on the 1st date, then you should take steps to change your actions. Whether or not a potential SB is able to use you is completely upto you.

  326. NYGent says:

    Realstic SD has captured much of my thinking as well. Of course nobody likes to be used but there is an intrinsic pleasure from spoiling, even on a first date. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt, and yes sometimes you get burned but it’s part of the “cost of doing business” on the site. Nonetheless with a couple exceptions (I think NYC SB and OC), most of the comments on the blog consider such early generosity sappy or naive, so I’m inclined to scale it back somewhat going forward.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      NYGent, RealisticSD has great wisdom, you both do. Don’t change something that gives you pleasure just because of a few bad SB’s. So stop talking such foolishness and get back to the game! LOL

  327. NewTXSB says:

    Hi everyone…..looks like a very slow day here at the blog….

  328. hello all hope all is well

  329. RealisticSD says:

    In terms of spoiling on the first date, I used to give something monetary on the first date as a sign of my interest/seriousness and if I was interested, I would bring up the exact arrangement on the first date. But, based on advice from those on the blog, I was convinced that it’s better to just meet and see if there is chemistry and if there is, to then offer an arrangement.

    In any case, I don’t blame someone for spoiling a girl on the first meet, as it can be fun, until you realize you’ve been used. So much of being an SD is the enjoyment of spoiling someone, and I think this aspect is not well appreciated by anyone other than true SDs. Women tend to think the only pleasure the SD gets is sex, but that is not the case.

  330. anna

    NYGent says:
    October 22, 2009 at 9:48 am
    Beach girl: now that would remove all the mystery, wouldn’t it? But I don’t mind giving out my email,

  331. katiee says:

    SAME HERE!.
    i dont even want to think bout SDs.
    no luck there!

  332. Gemini29 says:

    I just got back from the grocery store and am going to start cooking dinner soon! yummy! trying to think positive thoughts as far as SDs go! :)

  333. katiee says:

    how is everyone tonight?

  334. I think I may have scared them all off….. do I smell???? LOLOLOL

  335. Linda says:

    Does anyone know how long it takes to have profile pic approved? and also are there any success storys out there. I have never done this before…
    Smiles, Linda

  336. Anna Molly says:

    Where is everyone? It’s sooo quiet!

  337. Rachel 386002 says:

    Not a prob! :)

  338. Anna Molly says:

    Thanks Rachel….I guess two set of eyes are better than one :)

  339. Hope I didn’t step on any toes there by copy/paste the post

  340. photogirl says:

    Anna Molly – Last blog back, about the middle of the way down.

  341. Anna Molly says:

    No….I guess I should try huh..lol

  342. Anna – have you tried “search on this page” function for NYGent’s addy?

  343. Anna Molly says:

    lol…you’re funny :)

  344. Gemini29 says:

    NY GENT – SOS for NY Gent! SB in distress! (see above)

    Anna Molly – 😉 I couldn’t help doing it… it rhymes!! 😀

  345. Anna Molly says:

    I still can’t find NYGent’s email…..ugh.

  346. Hey ya! So I’m sitting at work… it just occurred to me (sometimes I can be slow)…. I’ve had a SD for years… but he’s a platonic SD. We worked together for years, good friends… nothing EVER happened between to two of us. I’m friends with his wife, and he & I run the same circles, same friends, same likes dislikes, etc. He always goes out of his way to do things for me. When I bought my car… he gave me 7k to add to my 4k deposit because he wanted me to pay it off in 2 years without killing myself. Birthdays… always took me shopping and got the group together for a huge night out starting at the most upscale place we have here in CT, then anywhere *I* wanted… in his limo with all the peeps. So my B-day is coming up next week… I’ll be the big 3-0 (wow)… and he’s no longer in the area…. but he wants to fly me & my girls out to Vegas, out us up in a hotel out there for the weekend & all expenses on him! And of course in true form, he wants to buy me the birthday outfit. Unfortunately, I think I’m going to decline, although I am completely intrigued seeing I’ve NEVER been to Vegas or the West Coast. Just thought this was a funny story.

    Hey – if any of you can check out my profile… give me advice. If you want to email me for any reason (SB’s get together for shopping or what have you or ANYTHING) my email is sunset1911 @ gmail . com

  347. Gemini29 says:

    Well it seems as if most of the sugar family is off doing sugar things for the weekend! :) I’m off to go clean house, make this place look as shiny pretty as it is outside! :) Ta sugar fam!

  348. SouthernGent2 says:

    OC – I don’t know about that lol. I could share some pretty good stories with you, but if posted them here it could be taken the wrong way. Or someone might be a lurker here that would know she is being mentioned.

    The truth is I just want to be with one person. Not afraid to go on a date or two or maybe even three to find that out. Just right now my favorite potential is long distance, so that makes things a bit more difficult.

    Did you and I ever swap emails? sugardaddy49 at the gspot place dot

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      SouthernGent2, thanks for the email addy! I will shoot you off one now. I agree it takes about three dates to see the real deal.

  349. Flo Rida says:

    OC – i’m addicted to swiss or belgian chocolate but have stopped eating them as I need to reserve my calories for alcohol & heavy dinners (SD lifestyle). I find that yoga and meditation quietens the noise in my life allowing me to make decisions clearer & with less emotion – guilt. You’re a classy lady.

    Gemi – I don’t have a profile here (so please correct me if i’m wrong) but I don’t think there’s any harm through canceling old & posting a new profile – this also removes any doubts on your part. Either way should be fine though.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Gemi, delete and start again. I have only done that once before, but it clears out the old view and starts fresh.

      Flo, I have a weakness for any chocolate! But have put it away for the day. Thanks for the compliment!

      SouthernGent2, you have all the girls chasing you. It should be who can push the others out of the way to make it thru the door!!!

  350. Anna Molly says:

    You have mail Flo Rida :)

  351. WOw and it is approved already. that is a first.

  352. SouthernGent2 says:

    NewTXSB – I did a poor job of copy and paste. Those weren’t my words about the “model” type girls. I am not very good with changing font, italics, bold, etc on here to have made that clear.

    Me personally, I have no real problem with the model types. Unless their heads are too big to fit thru the doorway.

  353. I was thinking of that, and would you believe that I did shorten it a few days ago. LOL I do have a habit of being wordy at times. 😉

    Well I summed it up again and shortened it.

    Bad sign when someone echo’s what I was thinking about on my profile.

  354. Gemini29 says:

    Hiya OC! And everyone else :)

  355. Margo says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    October 25, 2009 at 11:17 am

    No dreams of scarves or shoes, but I had the song “papparazzi” by lady gaga stuck in my head, in my sleep all morning.”

    I like this too. Will go to Lady Gaga concert in Toronto on November 28.

  356. Gemini29 says:

    Ugh. Dealing with a petulant pot SD who doesn’t want to take no for an answer. I gave him polite turn-down message (and really, it was super polite and even nice!) and he still tried to negotiate with me. Oh and at a number under my stated allowance. Silly, really.

    Ok so I think this has been covered, maybe, but how often should I delete and post a new profile (in order to show up as newer in the search)? I think I’ve been on SA for about 2 1/2 months now…and am getting ready to launch a new profile. Is it time to start over again?

  357. Flo Rida says:

    OC – that was a classy move on your part. I wish you well

    NYC SB – alas Giants tix are unused. SD’s daughter has flu & he’s spending the afternoon with her (admirable). I’m not going without him. Enjoy game.

    NYGent – methinks a ‘I had a wonderful time & enjoyed meeting you’ is equivalent to a thank you. I’m reading that SBs want an allowance discussion at 1st meet – would it help if you set expectations by saying first meet is a chemistry meet & second or third meet is an allowance discussion. The allowance discussion can be brutal so I think it’s best to separate the two (i know others disagree). Btw methinks $1k shopping shows generosity of spirit, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that – I would prefer if it was directed at more deserving souls.

    Anna Molly – Sorry I forgot you are part of bridge & tunnel club (no offense). email me at atllgw @ g place. I’m not sure NY Gent should see our banter.

    Liv – I will send some more anonymous pics from the lingerie party last year to you. Enjoy

    NewTXSB – I think I met the NY equivalent of you last night – her personality matches yours exactly :-)

    To those who want to SD hunt IRL,I’ve concluded that SB has to be smoking hot, flirtatious, fun & move in the right social circles (which requires seed money & time to begin with). I see tons of IRL SBs in NY – they are smoking hot though also some are crazy.

    On a more uplifting note my SD on our first shopping trip spent $+10k on me in 30 mins-it certainly got my attention. But he’s also known me for 10+ years & know’s I have a good head on my shoulders.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Thanks Flo, it did take a great deal of thought. I felt like I was played with all of the lies. But in the end if I didn’t return it I would have felt less in control. Trust me I was shaking in my Manolo’s trying to find the right moment to end things and slip the check into his tuxedo pocket. I will accept his gesture and I have send my “thank you” message. It took 5 pieces of trick or treat candy and three cups of coffee to write it! I didn’t want to seem ungrateful but at the same time I needed to keep that door closed. I think I found the balance.

  358. Gemini29 says:

    OC – Well you must be on Lady Karma’s good side….all your good deeds and honest spirit keep rewarding you! While that is a nice bonus, I will keep hoping that you find the perfect SD for you…this time one free of hidden lies too!

  359. Well at least honest enough to hone up for his actions.

    I think I remember that one from your previous post.

    There are alot here as far as those listed on SA but rarely do I get one to email me.

    We are actually get some cool weather most of the time. Typical fall here it hipity hops between cool, warm and hot. Tough still a lovely day today, get to wear my favorite fall clothes.

    Thinking of casting my net to outlaying states, as I don’t mind much of a drive. Maybe will have better luck. The few who have emailed are Dawgs.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Lady, dawgs are everwhere! I had one San Fran pot email me back that I lived TOO far away. lol Here he caught my attention enough to email him, it was very sweet of him to send the response back. He said he was frustrated that all the women that he WOULD be interested in live too far away. I can see if I was in a different state but SAME state. lol
      So, distance for one SD may not hold the same meaning for another. Try the outlying states! You may never know. Can I give you a little advice on your profile again? I like that you added the line I gave you earlier. But shorten it a bit. The male attention span will not read the whole thing. Keep it long enough to grab their attention and short enough to have them read it to the end.

  360. Morning sugars,

    O wow OC a Gentleman. That was a very nice surprise. You surprised him with the returned check so much he wanted to say thank you.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Morning Lady! Not sure about the gentleman part, I think he just felt quilty for his lies. But like anything else you brush yourself off and move on. They call this accelerated dating? Well the hurt, pain and anguish is accelerated as well.
      I think I ate an entire bag of trick-or-treat candy yesterday! Good news. I have a pot date for tomorrow. Better lay off the candy! How’s vegas? I have heard from several Vegas SD’s. You have a ton of them out in the desert.

  361. Anna Molly says:

    I have nothing against Lady GaGa, she is actually a good singer. I guess I’m just not a pop person. Give me Incubus any day :)

    I like the old standards too; Etta James, Frankie, Ella Fitzgerald, ETC :)

  362. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Gem-Haha suddenly I don’t feel so alone. And it compels me to want to hear the song when I wake up to make sure it’s out of my head. Has happened so many times with so many songs.

    Anna Molly- I actually like Lady Gaga (go figure, as I don’t really like pop) but she can really sing and is a great performer. I liked her at the MTv awards, crazy outfits and all, bloody performance included. So little artist can sing and run around the stage in thigh high boots. Kudos to her!

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Go YANKEE’s… ok, now that I got that off my chest.

      Good Morning to all. Coffee in hand and it is a glorious day in Cali!
      My lessons learned from Sugar Dating are that just because you have a few bad experiences do not necessarily mean YOU need to change. Try to put your best foot forward and be genuine. If a few sour apples find their way into your path, weave your way around them and keep moving.
      NYGent your generous nature should be encouraged not restrained. Shop, dine and be who YOU feel comfortable being. Your next apple will be shiny and sweet (love the NY/Apple analogy).
      Sugar dating without lavish dinners and shopping would be boring. However, not all sugar dating is shopping, travel and lavish dinners. Define your own sugar rules!

      To quote from my favorite Sugar Movie: “In case I forget to tell you later, I had a really good time tonight.”

      Ok, Gemi: here is a good sugar story for you today. The SD that I ended things with last week; at the end of the evening I slipped the cashiers check from the allowance he gave me several weeks earlier back into his jacket pocket when I hugged him good-bye. I did not want to keep it, knowing that I could not continue. This morning a dozen roses and a new check for my allowance amount and then some was sitting on my doorstep. :)

  363. Anna Molly says:

    Britney Spears and Lady GaGa….oh my, I would go nuts!

  364. Anna Molly says:

    After a date, I’ll always say thank you in person before we go our seperate ways.

  365. Gemini29 says:

    BostonSugahBabe: I fell asleep the other night with Britney Spears’ “3” stuck in my head. So I sympathize! I like both songs but certainly wouldn’t want them as the soundtrack to my dreams!!

  366. EastCoastFilly says:

    I’m guilty as well, I probably say thank you too much and always with a big friendly smile. And definitely at the end of the date right before we leave whether or not anything about an arrangement was said. After all he did pay for the evening that at least warrants some acknowledgement! lol

    I usually wait for the man to either email, call or text as I am old fashioned. Its my job to make sure he feels appreciated and in turn he will pursue. I always make sure they are clear that I am interested.

  367. Anna Molly says:

    Good morning! It isn’t raining today…yay!

    Flo Rida, I need clarification…:) what would be considered too casual and NY smart trendy? I would assume that not too casual would mean no ripped jeans, t-shirt and sneakers. Help me please! :)

  368. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Another note, it was a rainy days yesterday and a beautiful sunny day today. What’s good with the weather!!
    No dreams of scarves or shoes, but I had the song “papparazzi” by lady gaga stuck in my head, in my sleep all morning.

  369. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Good morning all!!

    So I see I’m not the only one who say please and thank you for every little thing. Its a force of habit, like buckling my seatbelt everytime I get in a car. The girls on this blog were/are raised right.
    Thanks seasame street!

  370. Gemini29 says:

    Bunny NYC – I agree, the thanking should go both ways. Thank the girl for her time, and thank the guy for taking you out/giving you gifts/etc.

    It does seem like this blog is filled with the SD side of “bad experiences” this go around. I would really LOVE to hear the SD and SB “gold star” experiences…the arrangements that were awesome, the dates that were fantastic, the shopping sprees that were enjoyed and appreciated…and what made it all so special. Lets dream on the positive, instead of dwelling on the negative!

  371. Rachel 386002 says:

    Good morning sugarland! lolol…. I was not woken up with the attack of the scarves nightmare!!! Last night was raining, horrible winds…. this am it’s bright, beautiful and sunny! Still no sugar plans for the weekend. I do however need to pick a place of interest to meet a pot SD for the beginning of this week, it would be nice if a guy gave a clue as to what he likes. I mean I’ve talked with this guy for 2 weeks over email, but haven’t the foggiest idea about what cuisine he prefers. What if I like Thai and he despises it… the date is doomed to fail. *sigh* my plans today… goto gym… goto work to get a head start on my week…. aka clean my desk so the owner doesn’t freak! Payday Fridays are my worst day of the week! I’ll be blogging from the cell today (sooo addictive)!

  372. Bunny NYC says:

    It just seems like a big shift in the blog that the discussion has become more SD-centric in terms of “bad experiences.” Not that it’s a bad thing, I think once in a while it’s good for SB to hear about what’s going on from the alternative perspective.

    I’m used to saying “thank you” all the time too, so I’m not entirely sure where this lack of manners comes from. Perhaps she is shy and if you said something like “thank you for your time” she would be more forthcoming with a “thank you” in return? I would think it would at least jar some social cues in their brain to say something back to that. If it’s not returned, then you have assuredly tried everything to be polite and it is most definitely her problem.

  373. photogirl says:

    Gemini – I am the same way, goes back to treating people the way you would like to be treated.

    NyGent – Should not matter whether an arrangement was discussed. You treated someone to dinner and possibly more. A thank you should be in order(IMO in person), even if they were not interested.

  374. Gemini29 says:

    NY Gent- Yikes! I always say “Thank you” in person. And not just once, it tends to thank the person along every step…from drinks to dinner to anything special along the way. I was raised to be polite, and its always a sign of good character to show your appreciation to someone. Heck, I say Thank You to the checkout girl at the grocery store!

  375. NYGent says:

    Anna M: Once again Flo Rida’s advice, this time on attire, is spot-on

  376. NYGent says:

    Gemini: interesting question. As I think back over my SB first dates, I generally don’t get an in person “thank you” for dinner if I don’t offer an arrangement then and there. It’s as if their disappointment prevents them from showing any appreciation. I know that many SBs on this blog seem more willing to allow an arrangement discussion to be deferred to a second or even later date, but that’s not my experience. Nonetheless even absent an offer, I do find that those SBs who are still interested will follow up with a text or email saying “I had a great time, really enjoyed meeting you” (although curiously, still no formal “thank you”). When I get neither an in person thank you or followup text I assume they are either not interested or they take the absence of an immediate offer as indicating no interest on my part, which translates to no interest on their part. Just my experience.

  377. Gemini29 says:

    Morning sugars! Beautiful day here, the rain cleared up to bright blue skys!

    On another note…how many times/ways does a SB have to say “Thank You!!” for it to stick? I see a lot of mentions on how the SB never sent a Thank you email or text. Did she not say Thank You in person to the SD? Wouldn’t that mean more than to a person than an impersonal email or text? Or do SD’s require both as a sign of appreciation?

  378. Happy Lurker says:

    Good morning all on this relaxing Sunday morning,
    Does anyone have any sugar in their week- end “that is the question”.
    To be honest I look back on an astounding Saturday.
    It is so tiresome meeting one pseudo SB after the other, so I decided on a radical change in my gentlemanly behaviour in the sugar bowl.
    I have taken sugar dating to an even higher level, stratospheric.
    I am the inventor of HAREM SUGAR DATING !
    It means not one after the other but a bunch at the same time have the pleasure of meeting me.
    Perhaps you remember that I am into canine friendly ladies.
    Yesterday I took along six sugars and their gundogs into Belgium for a patridge day in a beautiful landscape. By observing how they handle their dog “a girl’s best friend”, I could see what kind of person they are.
    My shootlunch and the glass of Piper Heidsieck really turned them on.
    The age of these potentials ranged from 26 to 47.
    In the evening we shared a delightful dinner with great banter.
    That was also a contest to see which one might be the chosen.
    That Heffner guy could not have set it up craftier.
    By now you will have observed that my ego is really, really big.
    That was hammered to bits when the conversation turned the wrong way.
    The wine makes them daring obviously.
    They all looked at me intently after one remarked that HP was really an athlete for someone of his generation, having walked the whole day.
    Well that put me down to earth again, now you know how sugars look at you in real life. Hilarous indeed !
    But at the end of the day I was embraced and kissed and hugged and they all wanted to come again and assured me it had been wonderful.
    Driving back we passed a streched Hummer !
    That’s it, I thought, next time this will be the mode of transport.
    I will, let you know if my harem approach will lead to any tangible success. After all you never know.
    You have to reinvent yourself constantly to lead a life of satisfaction.
    Again it is a wonderful page in my life which I experience as a comic strip.
    Have a great Sunday with lots of sunshine in your life as well.

  379. Bunny NYC says:

    Boston – Salvatore is an Italian design house known for their shoes (he designed things like the wedge and the cage heels), but their flagship store is in HK, so I’m used to seeing them around. They are huge in the luxury goods world. Maybe if you don’t like scarves, you can ask for shoes from Salvatore instead!

    I’m the same way though, where I’m used to shopping at something like TJ Maxx…but Aeropostale is not very expensive right now (I just bought $20 jeans there!). I’m big on sales around this time of season so I do know how to stretch that dollar. But if someone’s going to buy me a luxury item, I won’t say no.

    NewTX – He’s very laid back, but he plans everything and also generally tries to take my opinion into account also. I really do like for someone to take the helm a bit more but he is very nice, so I’m not entirely sure if I should overlook it or not. I will have to mull on this one a bit. I’m far to busy to think about it this week since I have a lot of work, so I guess it’s really up to how I’m feeling next week.

    Anyway, good night all. All the wine I drank tonight has finally kicked in.

  380. NewTXSB says:

    “Bunny NYC says:
    Also, as much as everyone has been commenting to NYGent that he should curtail his spending on SBs on the first date, maybe that’s just the way he is.

    Besides, why is anyone feeling bad for him? Maybe Anna Molly and him will hit it off! Be positive, no?”

    I wasn’t directing my comment specifically at NYGent…it was to any SD that takes potential SBs to lavish restaurants or shopping trips BEFORE they have an arrangment. I used NYGent’s $1k shopping trip as an example b/c I couldn’t get it out of my head! I just can’t imagine a man letting me spend $1K the very 1st time I meet him IRL.

    And I don’t feel bad for NYGent or any of the other SDs here. Its just a bit frustrating to see that their generosity is being taken advantage of by girls out there. (Except RealisticSD…his generosity is not being taken advantage of and he should continue treating his SB like a princess!) :)

  381. anyways guys I am off to bed too
    catch yalls later!

  382. Bunny Nyc I dont feel bad for him he is Grown and he can buy all of New York if he like.. I just want him to find a wonderfull lady for him to go goo goo over!

    Boston I only relax my hair every 8-10 weeks I have pretty nice hair and refuse to do any other chemical to it! and it shouldnt really be that much to get it relaxed.. pending on where you are going I would say 75 dollars should do it jcpenney is a good place they use Mizani products.. I am not sold it Mizani but it is a predictable result and for goodness sakes do not let them use regular or anything that is Regular use mild or sensitive or special.. give you more time to smooth it!
    sorry I am a hairdresser and I get in bueaty mode… I dont want my sistas taken for a ride either

  383. NewTXSB says:

    BostonSugah: Thanks!

    Bunny NYC:
    Regarding the potential SD, its upto you to decide whether or not his lack of assertiveness is something you can deal with. Personally I also prefer men that like to take control and are a bit aggressive. Yet my SD is nothing like that! LOL….my SD is a very laid back guy who always has a huge smile on his face and anytime I ask him about anything, his response generally is “Whatever you want”. Its a “package deal” and in my case, I’m ok with him being so laid back. Now you have to decide if it’s something that ok with you with this particular guy.

  384. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Positive thoughts generate positive actions! I’ve have never heard of salvatore until today. And what a blow, still can’t get used to the idea of 300 for a piece of cloth. And frankly I hope I don’t get used to it and end up one of those plastic barbie dolls that won’t pay anything less than 200 dollars on a pair of jeans. I like shopping at A J Wright and marshalls. Do you know how much clothes I could get for 300? Tho I guess given the circumstances I can now (or soon) visit stores like arden b, hollister, aeropostle, and aldos..ahh aldos shoes shoes SHOES!!

    Well I am turning in ladies, sorry if I am leaving anyone hanging, but my thumbs are getting tired.

    Good Night, Happy Football Sunday. Go Pats in London…now I dream of shoe shopping : )

  385. Bunny NYC says:

    Okay, I guess I’m kind of addicted to the blog…I just got back and decidd to catch up on it since I’m not quite sleepy yet.

    Boston – Salvatore is a great designer…but maybe I’m just biased because I’m from Hong Kong and used to seeing it all my life.

    Flo Rida – yes I took that nap and it was well worth it! Though, sorry to say I may skip out on the Hamptons. I travel to strange countries in the summer.

    I’m in a bit of a bind because the pot SD I’ve been seeing is very nice and all, but I think I want someone with a bit more…roughness? Aggression? I don’t really know how to put it…but…manliness, I guess? He’s pretty much left the choice up to me and I’m just kinda thinking that this could either end very well or very badly. You would think with all the alphas males running around NYC I’d have run into one who has been a little more assertiveness, but maybe I’m just so direct that I don’t see the pot SDs I have met as enough for me…

    Also, as much as everyone has been commenting to NYGent that he should curtail his spending on SBs on the first date, maybe that’s just the way he is. Can’t just change something immediately, even if you know what you’re doing is foolish. It’s a whole psychosis, as someone mentioned before.

    Besides, why is anyone feeling bad for him? Maybe Anna Molly and him will hit it off! Be positive, no?

  386. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Night MsB! Sorry about your booboo Tex..
    I’ll email you when I get to my comp in the morning, spending the night at my dads and blogging from my phone, now you know I’m addicted

  387. NewTXSB says:

    Ms Behavin:

    Lesson learned. :)

    Good night!

  388. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    OK ladies going nite nite now. Sweet sugar dreams to all

  389. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Also I can’t afford to get my hair done on a regular basis so I do it myself.

  390. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I’m mixed so my hair is super curly throughout most my hair, the rest are waves…I used to get a relaxer but I wanted to do the natural thing.I’m thinking of getting it again but then I would really need an SD to keep my maintenece up….lol at the weave joke..how about witty kitty for your new name

  391. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    NewTXSB~ shoulda got a glass of wine:) no burn there!!

  392. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    I’m in orange beach Lower Al

  393. NewTXSB says:

    I’m here….just burned my finger while trying to make tea…. *sigh*

  394. Ms Be no Florida near Jax!!

  395. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Has everyone left us??

  396. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Know the feeling girl, I get the same thing here. Were you located at? Atl?

  397. oh yes Boston I will get on the horn and see if I can arrange a sugar swap!! lol can you E-mail me? Keya 703 at yahhhh

  398. I need to change my name to something to Reflect my wit… wit kat??
    dunno suggestions?
    yeah I am always looking for a Deal and good at finding them.
    I am the family deal maker I real the papers looking for laptops on sales Appliance deals lol its bad my folks all call me to see if I know anything!

  399. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    OMG you kill me girl
    lol it is Wash and Wear I wash mine and Wear somebody elses
    Checked out overstock…looks like better prices thx for thr tip.

  400. lol it is Wash and Wear I wash mine and Wear somebody elses lol

    I just relaxed my hair so I will be on the Natural do tip for a while lol
    but Boston I am telling ya wrap and protect that hair girl…
    my hair is as long as oprahas but I hardly Ever wear it out.
    Boston you dont have any Barter/hairdressers around there?
    I let the beauty school girls wash and set mine 15$ with a tip and I go to a Real hairdresser for my chemicals

  401. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Sugah~ My hair is natural curly. but will go straight very easy, so mine is super easy to do anything with. Takes me about 20 mins. to have it fixed. Takes longer to pick out my outfit!! lol

  402. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Thanks Kit Kat I have a TJ rite by me. I will check it out.

    Funny funny … I checked out a local dating site,just filled out the basic info. NO personal stuff, just where your from.Had a guy just drop me a email saying— you sound interesting. I typed back .. Really I didnt post any info. LMAO

  403. BostonSugahBabe says:

    MsB- I’m so jealous of your wash and wear…I have to do my hair for my dates…so dreading it, its going to take hours and probably cut into my football game

  404. NewTXSB says:

    Kit Kat:
    I dunno if TJ Maxx has separate stores for home good but the one near me does carry home stuff. I need to buy quite a few home stuff so also hitting Bed, Bath, and Beyond tomorrow. Should be a fun but tiring day.

  405. Ms Be check Overstock dot befor you finalize your descicion also Tjmaxx home goods has som slightly irregular beddings that are high thread count like sleeping on a cloud!!

  406. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Kit Kat~ I have some black girlfriends and as much as y’all spend on your hair… I say hell yea you better wrap that stuff up in something to protect it!!I’m so happy mine is wash and wear :)

  407. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Salvatore Farragamo I believe is the name of the designer,and if I do get the scarf I would def trade with any of my sugar sweets, and I don’t think he’ll mind, he likes me far too much. Yeah we women of color do love to protect out hair. That’s why I can’t see using a 300 dollar scarf as a wrap.

  408. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Kit_Kat~just bought 2 down pillows and lookin for a feather bed, Wal Mart has one for 45$ may have to have it.

  409. you have a TJ Maxx home goods? they are addictive I am a Bedding whore love Duvets and “Down”Anything and dont have Floral arrangements oh man… I get excited!

  410. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    We have a great one here.I always get great stuff there. My best was the formal I just got,perfect fit in choc.brown(looks great with my red hair) boobs look good in it…could’nt ask for a bettert dress.and I’m 2 months ahead of time to buy it.:)

  411. Ms Be WHAT???? I was being Serious… lol that man may have a thing for scarves I mean thats a Really nice fabric for 3 bills…
    I dont like scarves either but this is only because I don’t know exactly how to wear one or what with..
    ok us black ladies would use it for a sleep cap.. ya know after we get our hair done.. That would be Exactly what I would use it for.. no split ends less breakages heck yeah …
    Boston send me on of them scarves I will make you one for you too!!

  412. NewTXSB says:

    I also would love to see a $300 scarf! I have a few that I wear sometimes but I got them at the Dillard’s outlet….I think all of them were less than $20 each!

  413. NewTXSB says:

    KitKat:
    The area I live in has literally everything from Dior, Chanel etc (places I usually walk by)….all the way down to Ross, TJ Maxx, K-Mart etc. :) Funny you mentioned TJ Maxx, I’m planning on going there tomorrow to look for some home stuff.

    Ms.Behavin:
    For some reason I never have any luck a my local Ross. :(

  414. awhh Night Rachel
    and Boston I am tellin you girl take the Scarves and Trade one of your Sugar sisters lol I know a Sb who likes scarves right now and She has a bunch of stuff she needs to clean out! lol!!
    whats the website any way? I wanna see a 300$ scarve myself now!

  415. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    NewTXSB~ Love my Ross store . Just got a formal for $60 full beading. It is fab!!!

  416. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Kit Kat~ pimp -hes just a Scarf- daddy!
    omg you kill me girl

  417. New texas yeah girl if we can get ol Ny Gent to quit being a push over he will do good! a shame ladies cant restrain them self .
    Texas we have all those places over here but I stick to macys or Lane bryant I like all their stuff Marshalls/ Ross is Fabulous for assesorys
    have you a Tj maxx home goods over there? that place is Awesome for home stuff, my tax rebate went to them lastyear well about 40% of it! lol

    Boston I hope you dont think I am picking on you at all I just say make lemonade.. ya know my mom Still buys clothes that she Really must be joking thinking I am gonna wear, so I will take them to a tailor and fix them a little
    the twins baby clothes have made them a Nice winter quilt for their beds
    I am sorry guys I spent lots of time with Martha on t.v and my neighbors are Avid sewers

  418. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Hahahaha rachel!!! Good night! Sweet scarf dreams hun!

  419. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I like that “G-ma loved the scarf so much she had to have it” line! Haha…I don’t know. I mean 300 on a scarf seems pretty much to me. I’m used to paying 5 bucks for a scarf, paying 300 seems ridiculous

  420. Rachel 386002 says:

    kit-kat you are hilarious! I’m getting sleepy so I will say goodnight to you all. Till tomorrow…. (I have a feeling I’ll be dreaming about shopping for scarves… lol… sorry!)

  421. ohhh I meant
    he will eventualls see that you arent in to Scarves!!
    sorry yall watching t.v

  422. Boston so take his Scarves why not? he will eventually see that not you no need to hurt his feelings I would lets see you can line the inside of a purse with one like a purse that has worn lining, umm upolster a sofa pillow umm lots of stuff you dont have to Wear them I even seen something in a picture frame and give him a photo of yourself!
    or yan can fib and say G-ma liked it so much she begged you for it!

  423. BostonSugahBabe says:

    No its a scarf I went to the website of the store he wants to take me to and indeed there they were-300 scarves.

  424. NewTXSB says:

    “Kit-Kat*367987* says:
    NYC we talking about NyGent he has to be restrained!! lol
    I say Ny Gent no spending until at least the 3rd date and you buy a 200dollar piece of jewerly as a first date gift surprise… AFTER dinner this gift is to be presented ! or a gift card something of the sort! and let 200 be your First date limit!! no more 1 k shopping sprees!!”

    *** Great piece of advice! Now if we only get the boys to follow this….

  425. NewTXSB says:

    “NYC SB says:
    I mean it should happen after lunch/dinner aka the SD knows he has chemistry with her …”

    *** But how does he know that SHE feels the same way? That’s she not going to dissappear after that 1st date?

    As far as SBs not having nice things to wear out to dinner….I can only speak from personal experience. The few potential SDs I met for dinner all took me out to “normal” restaurants that didn’t require me to wear outfits that cost hundreads of dollars. These are the restaurants where dinner for 2 people would probably cost $100 (minus alcohol). I mostly shop at Marshall’s, Macy’s, Bananna Republic etc…..and my outfits didn’t “stand out” at these places. Maybe things are different in places like New York…..but going back to spending $$$ on the 1st date, once again I don’t understand the need to go to a restaurant on the 1st date where someone needs to wear a fancy outfit. In my humble opinion, keep it simple. I don’t see anything wrong with going to Cheesecake Factory on the 1st date….because the focus should on the conversation…..not the $$$ place/decor.

  426. Rachel 386002 says:

    I’m wondering if he means a pashmina… I’ve heard many men call that a scarf. I myself love my cashmere pashminas, I use them in lieu of a jacket when wearing something fancy and strappy or off the shoulder.

  427. hey ladies I spend some time wondering about What my sugar sisters would say….
    So lets say a pot messengered your allowance to you in Savings bonds??
    lol I wonder
    I was reading this thing where the man paid his taxes in pennies because he didnt agree with the apprasial!
    be cute the ups man drop me off 3k in ones!! lol

  428. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Haha…my grandma loves scarves!
    I told him that using a nice 300 dollar scarf to wrap my hair seems..a little of.
    KitKat- I have minimal boobage. And I don’t think he is just a scarf daddy, but more like the daddy of my dreams

  429. NYC we talking about NyGent he has to be restrained!! lol
    I say Ny Gent no spending until at least the 3rd date and you buy a 200dollar piece of jewerly as a first date gift surprise… AFTER dinner this gift is to be presented ! or a gift card something of the sort! and let 200 be your First date limit!! no more 1 k shopping sprees!!

  430. my example is you probabaly cant take your pot to a nice dinner in her best of Walmart attire… even the nicest stuff pales in comparison to a good blouse from Express or Macys… thats was what I was meaning

  431. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I can’t totally agree with the outfit situation. Some women may not have anything to wear to a fancy restaurant. I myself don’t have many outfits to wear to such occasions as fancy restaurants includes the olive garden, fridays, and the cheesecake factory (yum yum). So it’s understandable for an SD to buy his SB an outfit for their outing. That can be his gift, not a full on shopping spree, but a nice outfit. I’d hate to wear the same outfit I have to every pot date.

  432. NYC SB says:

    Ladies – I dont think taking a girl shopping as part of the first date is a big deal. I mean it should happen after lunch/dinner aka the SD knows he has chemistry with her …

  433. Texas sb
    no not like she is
    Dressed like pam anderson I mean just under dressed! or like Cheaply dressed you know but if she looks like a street lady or a Video girl or the pussy cat dolls yes most definealty run!!

    Boston do you have alot of boobage?? Me I like my boobage but if my girls are out peeking at the world my brother wants to put jackets and stuff like that on me!
    And the scarf if you pick on that’s cute use it as a belt! say thanks and see if hes just a Scarf- daddy!

  434. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    NewTx- he wants to take me to a store and pick out a scarf?? Lol I didn’t know how to tell him that scarves are for old ladies, like my grandmother would love that gift. And no offense to the ladies on here who wear scarves, if you can pull it off kudos to you, it just not for me. I’d rather have a pair of new sneakers, which would cost way less than the scarf. Just don’t know how to tell him.”

    LOL…..get the scarf and give it to your grandmother! :)

  435. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Hey NYC SB!

    NewTx- he wants to take me to a store and pick out a scarf?? Lol I didn’t know how to tell him that scarves are for old ladies, like my grandmother would love that gift. And no offense to the ladies on here who wear scarves, if you can pull it off kudos to you, it just not for me. I’d rather have a pair of new sneakers, which would cost way less than the scarf. Just don’t know how to tell him.

  436. Rachel 386002 says:

    on the checklist…. is this to be warning signs or move forward signs? I’m thinking warning signs!

  437. NewTXSB says:

    “Kit-Kat*367987* says:
    My only exception for this is unless the lady hasnt the wardrobe that is nessecarry then it would be plausiable, but even then it should be such as once you know for Sure she is of sound mind
    I hate to hear when a kind SD gets taken for a swim!!”

    If a potential SB shows up wearing something so inappropriate that the SD is unable to take her out to a decent restaurant in it, then that’s his indication to RUN….Not to spend $$$ on her. Her wardrobe should become his concern once an arrangement is in place….he’s more than welcome to buy her an entire closet once she actually becomes his SB. But I don’t see any need for a girl to get a brand new outfit (most girls will tag on shoes etc with this too) on the 1st date at the SD’s expense when an arrangement hasn’t been agreed upon.

  438. Rachel 386002 says:

    Thanks Kit-Kat! 😉
    We definitely need to protect our good SD on here!

  439. NYC SB says:

    NYGent – you sure pick all the winners … my offer still stands…

  440. Nyc I was wondering I said to myself this cannot be on of Nyc’s referrals!

    We need to make a checklist for him!!

  441. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    Well said NewTx, though the pot I am seeing wants to give me a gift on the first date. Plus we are having lunch and spending the afternoon at a museum. He says he wants to give me a gift because he cares. IMO I don’t think that it is a need to prove something so much as it is a show of affection. Granted 1k on the first date is excessive, but I think if an SD wants to give his potential a gift to express his interest/affection,then that should be okay.”

    *** IMO your situation is fine. If the SD has already bought an item that he wants to give as a gift….that’s fine. But to take the girl in a store on the 1st date and telling her to pick out whatever is stupid IMO.

  442. Rachel hey I like that Idea to prompt her !! thats good reverse physco!!*sp*
    We just gotta toughen up our sd’s on here!

    Oh Ny Gent I would say what Everyone on here says if your spidey sense goes off then heed what you feel. and yes maybe give her another shot!….. and if that dont work
    You start meetin babes at mcDonalds lol give um a damm happy meal card . at leas then you know they arent after ONLY your wallet!!
    lol

    Anybody know any Nascar folks I want to go to one of the Races!!*pouts*

  443. NYC SB says:

    Flo Rida says: Giants suite tix on sun.

    So we might bump into each other again… hahaha

    Hi all…

  444. Rachel 386002 says:

    Looks like I missed a bunch in the few hours I did my house cleaning. So I see this weather is affecting everyone’s day. I think it would be a blast for the get together!
    I have to admit… I’m bummed that the yanks game was postponed tonight :(
    I also agree NYGent… the sb should have thanked you… even if it was a quick txt or email. It’s basic manners 101. But… you need to think about if you want to be with someone like that…. if she treats you this way now, how will she be able to make you happy in a relationship. The ladies may be right… maybe she’s new and isn’t in tune with this ordeal…. or maybe she was in shock from being with a true gentleman of your caliber. If I were in your shoes, I would email or txt her asking how she likes her gifts. That will prompt her to respond in kind and you will know from her response if she is interested in you for gifts or for you.

  445. Texas girl I gotta give you a high five!! you hear my frustration with them!
    by (SD’s) picking up a person that Expects a 1k shopping spree you are asking for 2 things Trouble and ungreatfulness!

    My only exception for this is unless the lady hasnt the wardrobe that is nessecarry then it would be plausiable, but even then it should be such as once you know for Sure she is of sound mind
    I hate to hear when a kind SD gets taken for a swim!!

  446. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Well said NewTx, though the pot I am seeing wants to give me a gift on the first date. Plus we are having lunch and spending the afternoon at a museum. He says he wants to give me a gift because he cares. IMO I don’t think that it is a need to prove something so much as it is a show of affection. Granted 1k on the first date is excessive, but I think if an SD wants to give his potential a gift to express his interest/affection,then that should be okay.

  447. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    Yayy people!!..oh the subject of abhoring profiles- I went to the profile of someone who faved me and saw his bare naked ass. I read no further…anyone have some spare eye bleach I could borrow?”

    *** Yikes! *hands you some bleach*

  448. NewTXSB says:

    “SouthernGent2 says:
    I swear up and down that I will never date anyone associated with modeling ever again but keep repeating the same mistake. We should see them from a mile way. What’s the old saying … play with fire, get burnt by fire. As suggested by various posters, we not only do we need to toughen up but also be less generous, less patient and less compassionate. ”

    *** Sounds like you already know what the problem is and also know the solution….just need to put it in action.

    In my personal opinion, there is absolutely no reason to take a potential SB shopping on the 1st date and spend $1K on her right then. IMO that’s ridiculous! The 1st date should a dinner or lunch just to see whether or not where is chemistry IRL. You should’nt need to “prove” anything to a potential SB on the 1st date ….she should already know by your name/company/occupation etc whether or not you’re who you say you are (ie. if you have the $$$).

    Now after the 1st date, if things went well and you want an arrangement…bring it up. Once the arrangement is official, then feel free to take her on shopping trips. If you’re not 100% sure and want a 2nd date, then after the 1st date, you can send her a gift if you really feel the need to get rid of some $$…but YOU pick out the gift and send it to her. Any SD who takes a POTENTIAL SB shopping on the very 1st date, spends thousands of dollars on her, and then feels used when she dissappears afterward with the $$/items, has only himself to blame.

    Be generous AFTER the arrangement is agreed upon. The $$$ isn’t running away is it? You’re looking to “arrange” a deal here…..instead of your penis or your heart….allow your brain to guide you when making decisions regarding potential SBs.

  449. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Yayy people!!..oh the subject of abhoring profiles- I went to the profile of someone who faved me and saw his bare naked ass. I read no further…anyone have some spare eye bleach I could borrow?

  450. Gemini29 says:

    NewTxSB – Oh you should see some of the profiles of the SDs from my area….its enough to make a girl rather depressed and wonder if she’ll ever find anyone of quality near her!

    I found this line hysterical though: “YOU COULD HAVE ANY GIRL YOU WANT”

    Oh really? Any girl Iwant? AWESOME!

  451. Ny Gent why are theses women doind this to you It actually makes me soooooooo mad! makes no damm sense that broad didnt Even send or say thankyou! argggggh
    ok my next comment is to you are you attracting these ungrateful bunnies? like I said before you and Sinsere?Insinsere need to go on a Sb Tour so you know how to pick a Quality person!
    I mean I am really insulted myself because 1k is pretty close to what my allowance is and that would really be put to good use and Definelaty not taken and give you my @$$ to kiss!
    she just basically did a test drive on you !!!
    You want me to come up there??? I will bring my kickk butt purse!! lol

    again you and some of the other SD need to have these pots you find go through us her on the blog and if you get a 85%yes rate then Contuniue on

  452. NewTXSB says:

    In for the night….bored so was browsing SD profiles for “entertainment”…and came across this “winner”. I got a laugh out of this….maybe someone else will too. I wonder why all the hot girls aren’t just throwing themselves at this “catch”. *rolls eyes*

    “THE GIRL IN FIRST PIC IS THE GIRL I SPENT 2 AND A HALF YEARS WITH, SECOND PIC IS A GIRL I SPENT TIME WITH AND WE GOT ALONG GREAT!! SHE IS KARLA GRIFFIN (MODEL) GIRL IN SECOND PIC IS WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR!!WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR IS A SINGLE, MUST BE VERY VERY HOT…FRIENDS FIRST…NO DRUGS AT ALL!! I AM LOOKING FOR SOMETHING SENSATIONAL. 28 TO 38 SMALL SIZE.LARGE BREAST (FAKE IS A PLUS) YOU MUST BE VERY HOT!! PICS MUST BE SENT AND WHAT YOU ARE JUST STRAIGHT FORWARD SO NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES!! I AM TIRED OF HEARING FROM FRIENDS.YOU COULD HAVE ANY GIRL YOU WANT.YET I AM ALONE. MAYBE I AM JUST TO PICKY WHO KNOWS. I AM 47 ALL ITALIAN IN GREAT SHAPE, HONEST, INTELEGENT, FUNNY, RICH, I LIVE IN A LARGE CUSTOM HOME BY MYSELF (SOMETHING LIKE YOU WOULD SEE ON CRIBS)

    I HAD THIS BEFORE WITH A GIRL FOR TWO YEARS BUT SHE WAS A FAKE AND JUST A PIG. I AM LOOKING FOR CLASS AND YET A WILD SIDE TO HAVE FUN!!”

  453. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Is everyone in for the night?

    Should we talk about the girl in the video again? I don’t think the purple is a tattoo or pubs, I think it from the green screen they have..real sucky editor

  454. Flo Rida says:

    Liv – miss ya babe – wish I could send u pics of a lingerie party I went to last year sans masks – it was sick (no sex allowed though which was probably a good thing)

  455. Liv. says:

    Hi everyone!

    I have been taking a break from the blog- I became much too addicted, and I have been a busy, busy lady as of late!

    Oh,

    Flo- You MUST be referencing “Eyes Wide Shut.” I swear, unintentionally, I stumbled upon a “Brooklyn edition” of an “Eyes Wide Shut” party. It was insane- bizarre, creepy, yet somehow intriguing? Everyone was wearing those masks, lingerie, and there was a video booth. My, what these eyes saw happening in that video booth!

    :)

    Great idea, though, for our own get-together.

    p.s. will be emailing you back shortly.

  456. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Lol No Prob hun! I need to eat…I will reply afterwards

  457. VillaCypris *396153* says:

    Thanks so much! I just checked and there it is in my spam folder! I’ll reply right now…. sorry! Did not see it all day…. :)

  458. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Aww, hoping for a speedy recovery for you villa.

    Did you get my email?

  459. VillaCypris says:

    Hey girl! I’m fine, still recovering from being sick…. so chilling at home… how are you ??

  460. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I down for the hamptons too!!

    Hey sugars! How is everyone tonight?

  461. Anna Molly says:

    If anybody wants to email go ahead :)

  462. Gemini29 says:

    Flo Rida- I’m down for any Hamptons shenanigans…and masks sound awesome! 😀

  463. Flo Rida says:

    Anna Molly – db is full of biz types so NY smart trendy but not glamorous & not too casual is appropriate. Clearly NY Gent should have definitive work though.

    All – hey how about an outdoor toga & lingerie & CL party in the Hamptons in the summer (beats this yukkiee NY rain). If we wear masks as in the Tom Cruise – Nicole Kidman movie I could even come with or sans SD. Anyone interested? This party i’m going to had better be good as my hair is a mess.

  464. lisa says:

    She sounds like she’s in grammer school reading an essay, lol

  465. Gemini29 says:

    lisa – I’m assuming both are probably tattoos. I think I’m more horrified by the canned script and the mic she’s holding…I keep wondering if she’ll break into song and then it will become the SB-wannabe Karaoke hour!

  466. katiee says:

    NCgent:400264 dinner would be great.
    hope you get this : )

  467. lisa says:

    Sorry to hear about your situation AnnaMolly

    Is it my computer screen or does that girl in the video have a big purple spot on her side and something purple in her panties?

  468. Anna Molly says:

    Margo – We shared a few emails and what not, but I never met him in person.

  469. Margo says:

    Anna Molly – do I understand it right, that the guy you were supposed to meet paid for your ticket? Have you met him before?

  470. Gemini29 says:

    Hey blog family! Not much happening on my end of things either…rain rain rain all day long!

    NY Gent – I think it is so nice of you to take Anna Molly out! I hope you two have a stellar date! 😀

    Anna Molly – Why did I get visions of him thinking a dark corner of Central Park would be a nice place to “frolic”? Ick. At least you found out beforehand! And you get to meet NYGent! 😀

  471. NC Gent says:

    I am sure you will have a great time with NYGent — he seems like the perfect gentleman :)

    Best wishes NY Gent!

  472. Anna Molly says:

    NYGent – That sounds great! I will find your email and get in touch. What do I need to wear? Do I need to dress up or can I go casual? :)

  473. Flo Rida says:

    Bunny NYC – take that nap as the weather has been awful all day. i’m going to a party tonight-i’m excited I don’t have to work! Yay.

  474. Bunny NYC says:

    I’m trying to not read the blog as much, but as you all have said, it is quite addictive. So I’m back here again…lol

    I have a second date tonight but right now I just wanna take a nap…

  475. NC Gent says:

    Flo — I pass by SB profiles that have lots of typos and poor grammar. I prefer intelligent women who actually care! One or two small typos are no big deal.

    Katie — what is your profile number? I will be near Anderson on Tuesday evening — maybe we could catch dinner – I hate eating alone!

  476. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Margo~most allowances are set by expences,I happen to live in an area that does not have a high cost of living.Yes I’m at the beach ,but the rents down here are not that much.I of course would never except a $100 deal.I dont base my allowance on if he is married or not either.Mine is base on extra play $$(shopping and travel) for me.I’m sure everyone has there own idea of what they need to keep them happy.The cheap ones just tend to make it harder for the rest… but you always get what you pay for. Maybe the guys should remember this. :)

  477. Taz says:

    Good point Margo about ulterior motives perhaps – hope everyone is having a sugary weekend 😉

  478. Margo says:

    Regarding women who accept low allowances. Sugar dating and traditional dating have different rules. Even if you take $100 – there is a monetary component involved, and the value of the deal will be $100. How strong is the chemistry – doesn’t matter. Low allowances do not help much but make you cheap. Why are the girls who agree to see married men for low allowances so cheap? Is that their actual market price or they have some hidden agenda?

  479. Margo says:

    “NC Gent says:
    October 24, 2009 at 9:21 am

    There are some women on SA that don’t want very little to no money. They are just looking for gifts and/or experiences they couldn’t afford themselves. Yes they will see a married man. My experience with those types of SBs are that they have had numerous divorces and they really just don’t want a relationship with a guy that will leave them alone; they have mental health issues and/or they are married themselves and not revealing it, and finally, the last category, they are hoping you will leave your wife for them. As always, you reap what you sow”

    Very good point! People always have reasons. “Everybody’s Looking For Something” … A woman may say she doesn’t want any money or gifts. So she is looking for love, and in reality that means she wants the guy to leave his wife or spend lots of time with her. Perfect love leads to commitment, otherwise there will be a big drama.

  480. Good luck rachel,

    Yes it does. is why I don’t do it very often.

  481. katiee says:

    any SD free tonight in the Anderson area.boreddd out of my mindd..

  482. Rachel 386002 says:

    WOW… sounds like a lot of work.

    Good news all… made a date with a potential SD for beginning of the week. Thankfully he understands the concept of SD/SB

  483. LOL. I have very curly hair. usually I just wash it put leave in moisture in scrunch it, pin it and then an hour later take down done.

    But to straighten I have to first blow dry straight, then use my straight iron, then to give it a tiny curl mostly for body I use my huge curl iron. Hence 3 step process.

    I like my curly hair, but I wish it was easier to straighten.

  484. Rachel 386002 says:

    Lady 8….. 3 step process???? What kind of straightening do you do? GEEZ! You must have some crazy arm muscles!

  485. After catching up on the blog, my curiosity on watching the vid has vanished. I am pretty sure I can do without wasting my time watching the filth.

    And I am reminded why I don’t straighten my hair that often. D@mn takes forever. Well on to stage 3 I hope I can be done before my son is due to be picked up. lol

  486. RealisticSD says:

    I am so behind on the blog!

    NYGent, I think the traditional thing to do in the old days may have been for the guy to call and thank the girl, but in modern dating and sugar-dating, the norm appears to be for the girl to call if the guy paid. I am not sure every SB knows that though, so I would give someone the benefit of the doubt and if interested text them or something. As for the girl who used you for gifts, I think real SDs experience plenty of getting used, to the point of almost getting used to getting used. I could enumerate some stories, but then you’d all think I was an idiot for letting myself get used so easily.

    Photogirl, the guy is looking for a fling or mistress, not an SB. I would clarify the difference. Plus, having seen your pics, $2K is way little for you to ask for.

    BostonSugahBabe, if he’s late, it’s a sign he doesn’t respect your time. From my experience, that will never change. Once I met with an SB who was over 45 min late to the first date. I liked her, but she was late every time we met. No matter how much I stressed the need for her to respect my time, she never changed. Once I had to wait an hour in the parking lot for her to get dressed. Learned my lesson. Next time someone is late to a first date for no good reason, NEXT!

    The “holler from a car”: I know a guy who married someone he met when stuck in traffic and he hollered at her.

    Flo Rida, I notice bad grammar/spelling, and have conluded that it is a bad sign in an SB. It either shows lack of intelligence/education or not caring enough to proof-read her profile. But it has not been a deal-breaker so far.

    Gemini29, I love your description of what you want!

    SincereSD, I think I need to learn tantra.

  487. Pisces says:

    Hi Everyone! I’ve been a lurker for awhile and decided its time to join. No plans here, just enjoying the rainy weather here in NY. I “might” meet a pot sometime tomorrow. But I’m not sure, they always seem to disappear.

  488. katiee says:

    Tuna steak.never had it Rachel i bet its good. yeah i may stop and get one of those too. : )i need a night of pampering.

  489. Rachel 386002 says:

    I hear you katiee… no plans here in CT either. definitely go shopping. I’m going to cook a wonderful tuna steak. I did the manicure last night.

  490. katiee says:

    Heyy OC! Most def. Im thinking of doin a little bit of shopping to cheer myself up..: ) im down in SC.

  491. katiee says:

    long weekendd..withh no planss.
    i need a SD : (

  492. Gemini29 says:

    Hello sugar blog!

    Care to share an example of an arrangement that you’ve had or always wanted to have with a sugar daddy or sugar baby?

    Heh. To put it bluntly…. I want someone I really connect with and have great chemistry with. I want all that fun and razzle-dazzle of when you just start dating someone…that first 3 months in a new relationship where everything is starry-eyed and fun and the fun just doesn’t stop!…but all condensed down into a SD/SB relationship. I want a guy who will spoil and pamper me with an allowance and gifts, and someone I can spoil and pamper with myself and other gifts…Basically I envision us spending our time together having a ball, always enjoying our time together and looking back on it thinking it was awesome and looking forward to our next meeting together.

    Oh wow. And I couldn’t even watch more than 10 seconds of that “video”. I now have 10 seconds of my life that I cannot get back and I will not waste more of it on her.

    • OCSugarbaby says:

      Good Morning Everyone! Happy Saturday…

      An Example of an arrangement that I would like to have with a Sugar Daddy…
      We would both be single, not more than 10 years between us in age. He would find my intelligence and beauty to be the first thing he noticed, but is knocked over the head with my silly “blonde” side and down to earth nature. I would of course be blown away at his business brilliance and hidden little boy charm. Chemistry and mutual adoration would be, no… WILL be my perfect arrangement.

      Stephan, I found the video clip to be very tongue in cheek funny! I loved it. I have read the other comments and it is sad to hear that the video was taken so literally and she is being picked apart. Kudo’s for that brave girl for even putting her face out in cyber space. It’s not like she is giving out her profile number or phone number! lol

      • OCSugarbaby says:

        Hi Katiee! Welcome to the blog. Yah, no plans here either. But I am sure the blog can entertain you. I am going to go get my nails done to try to cheer myself up. Polish change and girl talk with everyone in the salon is always a fun diversion! I will be back later. Katiee, where are you from? Im in LA.

  493. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Hot Damn just got email from a Dr. in N.O. wanting my # we have email several times. I’m so excited!!

  494. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Anna Molly~ Now we are all verryy jealous ta the fact that you get to have lunch with NYGent…so please play close attention because we ALL want details when you get back LOL

  495. NYGent says:

    Anna Molly: Sorry to hear about your “breakup.” Flo Rida’s suggestion of db Bistro Moderne is a fine one. We can meet there at noon on Tuesday, ok? It is 55 w. 44th St betw. 5th and 6th in the City Club Hotel. I posted my email two blogs ago if you don’t have it . . .

  496. Rachel 386002 says:

    A smile does go a long way. Just walk by without a smile. He will txt you saying how nice you looked and you can then say that he looked nice too, but you didn’t want to give him attention with his family there. He will appreciate the discretion and adore you even more because you just proved your word true.

  497. WIAriesSB*400983 says:

    I think i need to move East if i am going to have any luck finding a SD…. LOL…

    Photo~ as for your adventure with the guy that only wanted to give $500… granted he maybe right that there are some girls out there that only need or want that much. But i think you did the right thing by telling him that u were looking for more.

  498. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Being discreet is important …a nod and a smile goes a long way. After all you both know what the smile means :)

  499. WIAriesSB*400983 says:

    NYGent- I think she should of sent a thank you short after .. i agree YOU took her out therefore the thank you should come from her first. I know when i go on a date I always say thank u shortly after i leave them.

    Also i do agree the girl in the video does need help. Matching would help alot. LOL

    Boston~ i hope you have a great weekend sounds like u are going to have fun.

    Bunny~ If i were to ever see a SD out and about with their family i would just walk right past. maybe a slight nod… I don’t want to cause any problems and i am sure there will be txting later.

  500. Rachel 386002 says:

    I agree…. I think a profile that has typos and poor grammar are directly related to someone’s intellect. This is where you are supposed to put your best self out there to all potentials. If you don’t care enough to make sure it’s right, why should someone assume you won’t be the same in your relationship. You can’t halfa*s it.

  501. photogirl says:

    Good morning!

    Thank you everyone for the feedback.

    Flo – I know your questions were directed towards SDs but a pot recently shared a profile with me of one of his pot SBs. I was floored and a rather disappointed as her profile was seriously lacking in the area of grammer and how she carried herself in a written manner. She was cute…but not gorgeous and very young. Said he was curious and intrigued…still don’t quite understand it but he had already met her and said she was pretty cool and was a very nice person.

  502. VillaCypris says:

    I remember…. was just trying to lure you to my local area….

    Perhaps she was having too much fun in the box drinking champagne to pay attention to the games…..

  503. Flo Rida says:

    Ahemmm – methinks Anna Molly get’s first dibs.

    VC – i’m not a big american sports fan (soccer, cricket, rugby) but I like the live spectacle. reminds me of a female i-banker friend who grew up in SD & went to a world series game & superbowl but when I asked her who was playing she couldn’t remember (hint Padres likely playing Yankees). Those tix were wasted.

  504. VillaCypris says:

    Flo Rida —- not explicity, nor publicly — not educationally qualified for that role…. other than the abnormal psych class and the thesis I wrote on the differences between organised and disorganised serial killers, with some help from people at the fbi’s behavioural sciences unit….

    the human psyche is a fascinating place! 😉

  505. VillaCypris says:

    Dreams become reality….. 😀

  506. Flo Rida says:

    All – quick q to SDs – if SB profile has spelling or grammatical errors (& I don’t mean split infinitives) do you care – are less intrigued. I realize SDs are visual & chemistry may be more important than writing skills but isn’t it a sign of intelligence? Or do you like a profile with spelling mistakes?

    VC – r u volunteering for the blog pyschologist role :-)

  507. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    One can dream….but I still like the clone idea!! then we can all share in the wonderfull SD we have here on the blog!!!! :)

  508. Rachel 386002 says:

    RedMaru… you summed that up well…. one could dream he exists!

  509. VillaCypris says:

    Thanks Flo Rida! I’m happy to be feeling better as well… hopefully a nice powerwalk in the sunshine and uhhhhhh 40 degrees will help, too!

    Hope fun trumps work this evening… and you can get a nap in there sometime…. enjoy the museums, fun!

    And… I do believe the giants are coming to play the vikings in early january 2010….. 😉

  510. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    SincereSD~
    As a bartenderd I do under stand all ages can have drama. I have a hard time wrapping my mind around it,because I am one of the few I know with out it. I am in the 40 age group, have no kids, a job I enjoy, on debt,no ex,have not been in love in ages…so I really have nothing to fuss about. I’m on SA looking more fore a playmate that I can travel with and have fun with.I’m just not looking to get married and it seems most men on the other “dating” sites are very interested in that.

  511. Flo Rida says:

    VC – I got an early morning flight back to NY so tired. i’m skipping lunch but will meet friends at calle ocha for drinks at 2pm (long story). I have 2 guests in town so museum in aft then maybe work evening (argh) or I might be able to blow it off & have fun. Giants suite tix on sun. i’m tired. glad you are better.

    Rachel – the 1st trip has been discussed many times. don’t share a cab from the airport, don’t get a limo, if poss have a spy in the public meet (but that’s excessive), don’t drink unless you know it’s untampered, no alone time on 1st meet, escape route, safe txts to home base on scheduled basis (who know where you are & whom you are with) & you should be fine.

  512. RedMaru says:

    Darn I forgot to answer the blog question

    A sugar arrangement I like to have is a SD who is fun, sweet, nice and a mentor in addition to being a benefactor. One who would teach as well as assist and take pride in my growth. A romantic would be nice too.
    Aahh one can dream

  513. VillaCypris says:

    You forgot to say hello to me, too. 😉

  514. RedMaru says:

    Morning sugars and I see we have another blog so here’s my catch up:

    photogirl: You are not wrong. He sounds like a time water to me

    NYGent: You’re so sweet. Why can’t I find one like you where I live(frown)

    SouthernGent: Grats on your pot. Got my fingers crossed for you

    Hey NCGent! Why can’t I find a clone of you where I live either. To me thank you is manners even if someone just holds the door open for you. You would hear thank you coming me till you would say stop thanking me already….lol

  515. VillaCypris says:

    hahahahah….. good…. i didn’t want to “creep” you out…. if you did a background check on him, and have spoken extensively, it would probably be safe for you to go…. sometimes we have to take that “leap” of faith or trust in the other person… when/if you do that, only you can decide…. :)

  516. Rachel 386002 says:

    VC… hilarious post! however i get what you’re saying. We did communicate rather frequently for a while. I do know his real name and his occupation. BC came back clean. Just states he’s too busy with work… and he’s married. We’ll see what he says about trying to come out here. I plainly just asked how he’d feel about coming to CT to meet me as it will make me feel more comfortable. Nothing to send out a red flag to him.

  517. VillaCypris says:

    awwww….. hey Flo Rida!!!!!!! 😀

    “I don’t mean to be preachy or harsh but a psychologist would have a field day with this psychosis.”

    I was just thinking the same thing…. this whole blog/site would be a wonderful study into human psychology/psychosis…

  518. Flo Rida says:

    Anna Molly & NYGent – I recommend ‘db Bistro Moderne’ for lunch – it’s close to Penn St & GCS BUT i’m sure NYGent has his personal favs. Another pot blog-mance – i’m excited! Late night for me so i’m bleary eyed. Morning all

    SincereSD and I think NYGent – some models are huge fun (in general not specifically in bedroom) but are used to being fawned over. As I posted before this is your male fantasy & you don’t like when reality intrudes & you keep on repeating patterns. If you wish to keep your fantasy then realize that reality can intrude. I don’t mean to be preachy or harsh but a psychologist would have a field day with this psychosis.

  519. VillaCypris says:

    Rachel – how well do you know this guy? Have you been communicating for awhile? Do you know his real name/occupation, do you have a good sense of his motives, his honesty, his level of respect?

    That being said, none of those things will matter if he is a sociopath seeking to lure you out to chicago, never to be seen again.

    So, I exxxaggerate, HOWEVER – the issues of safety have been covered numerous times on past blogs, as have the issues of travel, and who should travel to whom on the “first meeting”.

    Unfortunately there is no litmus test for a stranger’s character, especially one whom you meet on the internet, and about whom you know nothing, aside from what he tells you.

    If you feel that you know him well enough, and you have a plane ticket, and a hotel room booked in your own name, and have your own money to fall back upon, in the event that you need to get away…. perhaps it would be okay.

    If not, then ask that he come to see you first. If he won’t, he either doesn’t have time, isn’t that interested, or can’t employ his socio-plan outside of his local area.

    :)

  520. Rachel 386002 says:

    thanks for the advice SG2. I’ll ask him how he feels about coming to CT!

  521. VillaCypris says:

    Good morning everyone! Sunny and NO snow in Minneapolis today…

    BostonSugah – I’ve never been to Boston, but am possibly coming there within the next few months… would love to ask you for some suggestions! Could you email me, please? villacypris @ y place

    thanks!! 😀

  522. SouthernGent2 says:

    Rachel – for a first meeting, if he is really interested, he should come to you where you will be more comfortable.

  523. SouthernGent2 says:

    NYGent says: I think there are a few SBs — very small percentage — who truly believe that there are SDs out there that will pay 5-10K a month just for the privilege of hanging out with them. It doesn’t even occur to them that this isn’t a sufficient “mutual” benefit for $$. They tend to be the much younger, super-beautiful girls, often models who are used to being worshipped for their beauty alone. It is a combination of naiveness and/or being too high on themselves. As I say, I think they’re pretty rare, but unfortunately you and I seem to have run into a couple of them and we might well profit from some of the comments (mostly from SBs) to “toughen up.”

    I swear up and down that I will never date anyone associated with modeling ever again but keep repeating the same mistake. We should see them from a mile way. What’s the old saying … play with fire, get burnt by fire. As suggested by various posters, we not only do we need to toughen up but also be less generous, less patient and less compassionate.

    On the first comments, I met someone about a year ago that didn’t work out. I won’t go into the details, no reason to. Recently she contacted me though, and after some thought, I did decide to spring for a dinner with her to discuss. Yes, she is a great looking girl. But she doesn’t quite play the I’m great looking so hang out with me game. But it was pretty close. She texted me a few days later about meeting. And it got into a text conversation where she finally said “you are wanting to have sex with me, but you are married, and I will not do that. You should want to help out a poor struggling college girl out of the goodness of your heart”. Playing that old guilty card I guess you could say. Told her sorry and moved on.

    In regards to the comments on models. Okay, I met someone new this week that certainly fits into the model classification. In fact she is very involved in it. Everything went great, but I do have my guard up based on past experience. Definitely going to put some effort into this one because she was both hot and fun. Things went well enough to kill my interest in anyone else for right now, so I’m going to do the 3-4 meeting investment and see how it goes. I figure I should be able to see her true colors by then if things turn for the worse.

  524. Rachel 386002 says:

    Good morning all… rough night, couldn’t fall asleep till 3am! Should have come back to the blog… lol. That video is definitely horrid…. almost to a comical point. Seems that the SD’s in the CT, Western MA are a bit lacking these days. I’m thinking I should broaden my area. I wanted to try to stay close to home seeing I work full time, but now I am thinking that NY isn’t that far. i can drive to the train station and take the train in… be there in 2 hrs. I did have a guy contact me from Chicago…. said it was something about my smile. Wants to pay for me to fly out, the hotel, and said he’d give me a “generous gift” for my travel. Something in me is a bit off by this…. maybe because it’s a first meeting? Maybe he really is that busy with work that he can’t travel himself. Maybe there’s nothing wrong with it and I’m just new to the traveling relationship. Can you guys chime in on this one? Oh…. and it’s clear that there will not be ANY intimacy… he didn’t mention it, but I wanted to make it clear that I’m not that kind of woman.

  525. Margo says:

    photogirl – that was not about other women but you. He wanted to get you for less. I have already several “friends” like that. Their interest is sexual, but they cannot afford it.

  526. SincereSD says:

    NYGent says: I think there are a few SBs — very small percentage — who truly believe that there are SDs out there that will pay 5-10K a month just for the privilege of hanging out with them. It doesn’t even occur to them that this isn’t a sufficient “mutual” benefit for $$. They tend to be the much younger, super-beautiful girls, often models who are used to being worshipped for their beauty alone. It is a combination of naiveness and/or being too high on themselves. As I say, I think they’re pretty rare, but unfortunately you and I seem to have run into a couple of them and we might well profit from some of the comments (mostly from SBs) to “toughen up.”

    I swear up and down that I will never date anyone associated with modeling ever again but keep repeating the same mistake. We should see them from a mile way. What’s the old saying … play with fire, get burnt by fire. As suggested by various posters, we not only do we need to toughen up but also be less generous, less patient and less compassionate.

    From now on, I’m asking for a free test drive first and changing my handle to “InsincereSD”. 😛

    Ms Behavin~389197 says:
    Probly gonna get yelled at for this one….but maybe some of the SD here should move there age preference up a tad. As a SB a bit older (and some of the others here are too)—no disrespect to my fellow sisters on here of the younger age group, they seem to have it all together–but we dont seem to have some of the drama problems,and we seem to enjoy the bedroom activities.But thats just me I may be speaking out of turn…but we all get a voice on here.

    To explain my earlier comment about drama, I’ve seen drama with all ages of SB but the drama with younger SB seems to be less complicated was there are less issues with financial destitution, substance abuse, children, ex-husbands, love, etc. I’m not saying that all women in their 30’s are drama queens but their drama issues can be more deeply rooted and harder to deal with.

  527. NC Gent says:

    Good morning all — just a quick check in on the blog.

    NYGent — I am not surprised by the SB not thanking you. I would have to say that about 1/4 of the SBs I have an initial meet with never thank me for the money that I either spent on them or gave to them. Very good and early indicator.

    PhotoGirl — you are not wrong and are justified in your feelings and reaction, especially since you told him your desired allowance.

    This isn’t related to you Photogirl, but to the general comments on the blog. There are some women on SA that don’t want very little to no money. They are just looking for gifts and/or experiences they couldn’t afford themselves. Yes they will see a married man. My experience with those types of SBs are that they have had numerous divorces and they really just don’t want a relationship with a guy that will leave them alone; they have mental health issues and/or they are married themselves and not revealing it, and finally, the last category, they are hoping you will leave your wife for them. As always, you reap what you sow :)

    Have a great weekend !

  528. SincereSD says:

    Catching up on the previous blog and commenting on various topics:

    NC Gent, I agree 100% with your comment but in my view this is only delaying the inevitable. What happens in 10-20 years when we are too old to be attractive to be attractive to pot SB? Would we not be better off to get divorced and find a long term partner who we would be happier with?

    AtlNicole says: A question for the SBs: would you continue an arrangement with a SD who was no good between the sheets? Let’s say he is a great guy and very generous and you love to spend time with him, but he doesn’t do anything for you *down there* I have not run into this situation yet, but I am sure that it has come up in the past, and I am not sure how I would want to handle it.

    Nicole, my guess is that many woman would continue a relationship where the sex is not good. I think the reasons would be:
    – Financial benefits are more important than the intimacy
    – Previous relationships have not been particularly good from a sexual perspective

    Wrt to your comment, “he doesn’t do anything for you *down there* … the principal sex organ I concentrate on is the mind. I practice tantra where the key is experience the ultimate sexual journey through stimulating each of the five senses to create the maximum passion. By removing orgasm as the end goal, partners can experience hours of pleasure because every nerve is set on fire as the couple explores all the erogenous zones of each others body. The result is a mind-blowing experience!

  529. Anna Molly says:

    Well I received an email back from the pot and it was just as I expected. This is what he said.

    We can meet for coffee or a drink, and if there’s chemistry, find a place where we could frolic.

    No, no thank you. First it was a nice lunch and now I don’t even get a meal and you still want me to “frolic” with you? Looking back at my previous emails he didn’t even send me a picture even after I asked him to. UGH! I’m still coming to the city though, no since in letting a good train ticket go to waste. With all of your suggestions I’ll have plenty to do. All I need are suggestions on places to eat.

    NYGent – Sorry your date didn’t end up the way you planned or hoped. Had she been in this type of relationship before? Maybe she was nervouse. You are so sweet, I will take you up on that luch…and I’ll even thank you in advance……thank you :)

    Potogirl – The nerve of that guy! NewTXSB is right, you can’t have a SB/SD relationship without financials coming into play. It was his GF.

    Ms Behavin – I guess if there is no hope for him you should throw fish lips back.

  530. lisa says:

    No sugar weekend for me :( I have to work Bring on monday

    Ok does that girl have a tatoo or is that purple pubic hair? yuck

  531. TielPony *393984* says:

    Hi everyone – well, I decided to come out of LurkMode and say hi… well, really, just to complain and commiserate if I may.

    First of all –
    photogirl: I am so sorry that he wasted your time like that. I am a total newbie, but even I know what the deal is around here… he sounds like a disappointing cheapskate.
    NYGent: from what I have read about you on the numerous blogs, you seem to run across a lot of the spoiled brats, and that is totally lame. To not say a simple thank you? Sounds like she forgot her manners at home.

    The video is so stupid it was hard to watch with both eyes open… I couldn’t help but make faces at the comp screen. I was actually embarrassed for her. It’s amazing what people will put up on these fair interwebs. Matching underwear, and for god’s sake find an editor.

    And now I have a question – –
    *why can’t people be more truthful in their physical descriptions? I don’t understand the concept of listing yourself as ‘athletic’ when really you are average, or even more to love. Especially if you included a picture… I can see you are not what you say you are – – it’s right there in the picture you, ya know, posted!!! It makes no sense.

    I am a little frustrated. Carry on, ladies and gentlemen.
    :)

  532. gurlnextdoor says:

    Care to share an example of an arrangement that you’ve had or always wanted to have with a sugar daddy or sugar baby?
    I want an arrangement that involves lots of laughter, affection, and flirtatiousness with a sprinkle of travel and other sugar goodies like an allowance and gifts. I’d also like a SD who appreciated my penchant for collecting corsets since it seems that I collect those without realizing it. :)

    Does anyone have any sugar in their weekend and/or near-future plans?
    Nope just birthday plans, ciao!

  533. NewTXSB says:

    Me three……….Good Night everyone! :)

  534. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Good night Sweeties!!! I am turning in too…..I think I’ve blogged sufficiently enough for today.

    Night Ladies and Gents!

  535. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    I agree with Photo and BostonSugahBabe , needs to get taken down!

    NewTXSB~ girl you are funny…. And so right,,,,, thank you for making me laugh….

    Good night sugars!

  536. NewTXSB says:

    “photogirl says:
    He has had one SB, lasted 6 months, no allowance given(he is married).

    After him telling me that he was not able to do ‘huge’ allowance (my ideal is 2k, not much in my opinion) and offering me 500 a month I told him I wished him all the best on his search. I also said “With all do respect, it may be difficult to find a SB with an allowance of 500 a month and seeing her 3-4 times a month.”

    His response: With all due respect. I had SB without any financial support that now moved to canada and another one in the works for 400 a month plus going out. Not everyone on that site is only looking for money. Every case is different. Everyone has different needs some has financial needs, some has sexual needs and some has both.”

    *** No, you’re not wrong in this situation at all. I’m just sorry you wasted all that time talking to this jerk. Here are my thoughts:

    1) That girl he had w/o any financial support……the genius needs to realize that if he didn’t provide her with any type of arrangement, then she was his GF….not his SB.

    2) I have no doubt there are girls out there who’ll be his SB for $500/month (3-4x/month). But he better be willing to compromise A LOT of looks and/or personality….b/c I can’t imagine any cute/pretty SB with a good head on her shoulders accepting that kinda “deal” from a married man.

    3) Women being with him b/c of “sexual needs”….LOL! Unless a woman is fat, ugly, and smelly…..most women out there don’t have a problem finding plenty of men to satisfy her “sexual needs”! WTH would a good looking woman go to a married man for this? B/C there aren’t tons of single men available ready to f**k her? What city does he live in? *rolls eyes*

  537. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I second that motion photo….I was thinking the same. “Be warned it may not be for the timid”…No it may not be for the intelligent.

  538. photogirl says:

    I personally think they should remove that video from the blog as it is a horrible representation of SDs/SBs IMO.

  539. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Haha! Indeed, and the person working the green screen needs some help. Ugh..just some of the things she says are horrid!

    “Some of the sugarbabies interviewed say that the wives who stay in loveless marriages for the american express card are more like prostitutes than they are”

    Like who the hell did they interview, who ever it was sounds dumb as hell.

  540. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    NewTx-Not even that, she is speaking like those girls on the phone sex/chat hotlines. Ugh..I wish we could blacklist her. Totally wrong spokeswoman, honestly, and truely, I could have done a better job.”

    I agree…her speaking skills are awful. But that’ll take more time to “fix”….if we can at least get her roots covered and get her some decent lingerie, that’s a beginning. :)

  541. BostonSugahBabe says:

    NewTx-Not even that, she is speaking like those girls on the phone sex/chat hotlines. Ugh..I wish we could blacklist her. Totally wrong spokeswoman, honestly, and truely, I could have done a better job.

  542. NewTXSB says:

    “BostonSugahBabe says:
    Good lord, the girl in the video needs help! Ughh she is not projecting a good image for sugar babies. She looks like the drunk college girl. I mean I don’t own any of those fancy lingerie’s ya’ll talk about, but at least I match. Lawd ‘ave Mecry! You vets need to help her!”

    *** Yes! She needs to get her hair done, and get a matching set that doesn’t look like it came from Wal-Mart. A few trips to the gym wouldn’t hurt either….

  543. NewTXSB says:

    I just watched the video…OMG. Really?!

  544. that blows.

    there are alot of files if it is going to be that much of a pain in the rear

    I would suggest email except the audio lessons are 20m each abouts

  545. NewTXSB says:

    “Ms Behavin~389197 says:
    Need some help here ladies— after a great sugar date. Dinner and drinks -fab= conversation good-attitute great.Delivered $$ with a bonus for my travel….only problem he cant kiss. I dont mean he is bad I mean he is horrid. Whats a girl to do. Other than that I really liked him. HELP!!”

    *** If this is the ONLY thing that’s wrong with him, then he’s a keeper in my book. No one is perfect. Whether its sugar or traditional dating, there’s always at least one thing about the date that will bother you. And in this case, if this is the ONLY thing, then I say let it go. After all, I’m sure there is at least 1 thing about you that bothers him….but he’s letting it go. At the end of the day, for me it’s about the whole package.

  546. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    not letting me get the file, the site is too busy it says
    tomorrow, i will try again

  547. how is it working bg?

  548. NewTXSB says:

    ***NYGent:
    Sorry to read about your experience with the “shopping SB”….and I do agree with the others that this Turkish SB should’ve sent you a “Thank You” note for taking her out regardless of whether or not she felt any chemistry. That’s just having basic good manners.

    “Bunny NYC says:
    It seems that in my search, most potential SDs have liked the fact that I work relatively close to where they live/would like to meet, but I actually feel a bit of unease about the possibility of running into them. So I’m a bit curious as to what the SDs and SBs here have to say on that matter…is it better to be removed from where one usually works/lives altogether or is being a bit close okay? Also, what would you do if you ran into your SD/SB when you were with your friends/co-workers who don’t know about this arrangement?”

    ***My SD and I live VERY close to each other. In fact, my home, SD’s home, and SD’s work are all within 10 minutes of driving distance from one another. SD and I both love that fact that we’re so near each other b/c this makes is easier for him to see me (he’s married so his schedule is restricted).

    I do realize that there’s a good possibility I may very well run into SD when he’s with his wife or family in the area someday. It doesn’t make me “uneasy”. If I do see bump into him, I don’t plan on saying anything to him. I will wait for him to acknowledge me if he wants to…and just take it from there.

    If SD sees me out anywhere w/ friends or family, he’s more than welcome to say “hi” to me. If my friends ask, I can just easily tell them that he’s just a friend of mine. The age difference b/t my SD and I are less than 10 years….so it doesn’t look “weird” for me to introduce him as a “friend”.

  549. o it let me post a url. kewl that is a first.

  550. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Oh it’s saying the server is too busy :(
    i’ll wait til tomorrow!!!

  551. mediafire.com/Lady-8

    mediafire

    (slash)lady-8

    try that one

  552. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lady~ We shouldn’t be on the blog,,,, do you have MSN? i’ll send you my handle on email for there if you have it!!! i’m being a bad SB again!

  553. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lady~ the file download is not working, is it the same url?

  554. I wonder if we are scaring the poor man. hehe. either that or giving him an ego complex. 😉

  555. it is all good, I was in a foul mood earlier, but better now. and your mood is helping me get back to my old cheerfulness.

    So go ahead and bring it on.

  556. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Sorry Lady , i’m in a mood, i shouldn’t be on the blog when i’m like this!!!

  557. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    not everyone has DSL??? your kidding right?

  558. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    LOL , i do!! hahahha no but you can have the clone though!!!! lol

  559. O and I fixed the upload files. so it should be easier for you do download

    I keep forgetting that not everyone has dsl

  560. well you do have a point, I don’t mind sharing. 😉

    LOL

  561. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Bunny NYC~ you will be like all of us , coming back to see….
    see you soon girl!!!! 😀

    Nite all that are gone!!!

    Lady ~ it’s just you and me, so what about this cloning business…. lol

  562. Just give up the fight now hun. You will soon be sucked in like the rest of us. 😉

    And good night

  563. Bunny NYC says:

    Thank you all for the help, but I think I need to go to sleep now. I’m trying not to get addicted to this blog, but it’s a bit hard not to…lol

  564. LOL or we could just clone him. hehe..

  565. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    This SB is gotta go nite nite. Sweet sugar dreams y’all.

  566. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Lady~ it would be yes!!!!

  567. BG

    You are right on both counts.

    I haven’t had real adult time since before my son was born, which would be about.. 2 years. oo Ouch. That is just sad. LOL

    And I agree with you on SugarDiplomatSD.

    No to find someone like that for a SD for ourselves.

    That would be nice.

  568. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Bunny NYC~ that is a great way to say it too, i agree!

  569. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe~ lol wow 62.50 an hour!! hahhahah

    Lady~ you need adult time, it is hard when you have a little one at home!

    SugarDiplomatSD seems like an awesome SD!!!

  570. Bunny NYC says:

    Maybe I’m just too honest so I’m having a problem with this. But I like the line Ms Behavin suggested, so I think I will use that, thanks :)

  571. LOL would only work if you were in Vegas with me hun. But thanks. It would be fun to go out with the girls.

    Haven’t had adult time in a while.

  572. BostonSugahBabe says:

    No BG it isn’t. Supposing he wanted to be intimate those 4 times a month, you would be receiving 62.5 p/hr. You’d be better off being a high class escort..

    Haha…I’ve been hollered at so many times, thats a perfect way to meet losers…lol

  573. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Bunny just say he is a friend and leave it at that.If someone ask how you met, just say you have know him so long you dont really remember how you met!!

  574. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Bunny NYC~ humm I guess you have to be comfortable in lying about it to your friends, like Boston said , plenty of ways to know someone… just which one are you comfortable with!

  575. kerylos says:

    How frequently do you see your SB/SD? Is once or twice a week the norm?

    I’m a student and most pots seem more interested in long weekends than meeting for a date… though, honestly, I’d really prefer the latter!

  576. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Lady_8 ~ I would be more than happy to go hunting with you,but I’m already in my PJ’s having wine,so I’m just gonna stay here and play!! LOL

  577. I was thinking of the same thing lately BG

    Was wondering where he disappeared too.

  578. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hey Lady~ didn’t have time to get those files yet, it slipped my mind actually…. will do it tomorrow though, after work… are you still gonna leave it on for me 😀

  579. Bunny NYC says:

    BG – I’m 22. The men have varied from 32 to 51. At the lower end of the scale, it’s reasonable to say they’re a friend of mine, since I do tend to hang out with older people, but at the higher end, I’m not entirely sure how to explain it. The only people I know that much older are mentors of mine and like I said, if you’re not in my field, it’s hard to fake it (I work in the sciences).

    Boston – Maybe it’s just because I’m really bad at lying that I can’t think of a good cover. Also, parents’ friends don’t exactly work because I’m a bit of an orphan, which most people I know are aware of. But thank you for the suggestions, I will try to think of something for if that need arises. I did laugh at the “holler from a car” one though…that actually has happened to a friend of mine!

  580. Looks like I was thinking ahead of my typing. Pardon..

    Ment

    No longer feeling so off, Thank Goodness. LOL sheesh, if I didn’t know any better i would say my drink is getting the better of me. but it is weak and not finished. so I can only blame myself.

  581. Hello ladies. Thank goodness, And I see while I have been away the blog has been busy.

    Debating whether to stay in and enjoy my sunnyD and Gr Marnier or drive around and go hunting.

  582. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Where is SugarDiplomatSD??? haven’t seen him on!

  583. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Photo~ we need more SDs like NYGent. and other great SDs from this blog… But 500$ to see you 3-4 times a month is really not much…

    BostonSugahBabe ~ Yes i know what you mean….

  584. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe ~ I like that one Hollered at me from his car window hahhaha

  585. BostonSugahBabe says:

    BG-Hahaha! And then when you’re “rude” to them, you’re being a bitch.

    Excuse me, but you just crushed my toes trying to get on the same train, and you want my number?

  586. photogirl says:

    NY Gent – I apologize… He never answered…. My apologies… a bit frustrated this evening.

  587. photogirl says:

    NY Gent – His response to my allowance was neither here nor there. As I mentioned we talked off and on and when we chatted again, he wanted to meet but I told him I was seeing someone. He asked if I was getting my desired allowance and yes I was. Also, yes I did like him and I am assuming he liked me as he appeared to want to see me again. Also sent me a very nice text shortly after we left the resturant.

    I know everyone is here for different reasons…and I appreciate that. But $500 a month with 3-4 dates a month is insulting.

    BG – No, no dinner gift… as a matter of fact, I’ve only received a (cash)gift from one pot SD.

  588. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Bunny – ha, that’s easy. There are some many ways you meet people nowadays. Here’s a few to get you started, We met:

    on the train, on the bus, at a bar, at a club, at the grocery store, at the park, thru a friend, thru a family member, bumped into each on the street, at starbuck/dunkie’s, at the pizza shop, in the mall, at a game, at the theater, at the driving range, he “hollered at me from his car window”…etc

    Last one was a joke though..lol

  589. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe ~ I totally agree with you! chivalry is dead, or almost dead! even getting a smile at the cashier is hard to get! I usually say hi, and smile…. they have to respond right???? not always!

  590. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Futhermore, that is the reason I am on this site. Chivalry dies a little more as the decades roll on. You would be shocked at how many guys my age bum rush to get on a bus, leaving ladies, young and old, to wait behind them. And having a guy hold a door open for you permitting you to go first? Forget about it! They want women who are grown, who are real, who are mature and don’t play games. What is the point of being a Lady if you are not treated as such?

  591. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Bunny NYC~ hmmm, well how old are you? how old are the pot SDs? you can say they are friends of a parent or relative? If you worked somewhere else before you can say, you know them from there… I don’t know… I am a hairstylist so I know a lot of people… And I use to travel a lot, i never had that problem!

  592. Bunny NYC says:

    BG – I can’t say that it’s a co-worker or business associate. I work in a very particular field and it becomes really apparent who is in it the moment you talk to them. My field also doesn’t beget people who tend to get very wealthy…nor are most of them very well-dressed for anything.

    Boston – I do want to be polite, which is why I’m raising this as a hypothetical. However, I’m just a bit concerned about how to answer if someone asked how I know him…

    Not that I have an solid arrangement in place (I have a few potentials), but I like to consider these things before hand.

  593. BostonSugahBabe says:

    MsB- Apparently he doesn’t…

    Ugh I am not even going to give him the courtesy of seeing me all dolled up…I am in my jammies and in bed. He got the cold shoulder text message “Don’t even BOTHER!”

  594. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Sugah~does he not know to NEVER keep a lady waiting??

  595. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    BostonSugahBabe ~ hahahhahh , a fuck you good night! that is priceless!!!

  596. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Photo~ also you said he knew that you wanted 2k a month and he didn’t tell you that he couldn’t or wouldn’t pay that? I hate when guys play games, just stringing you along…. I really don’t like it!
    I guess you didn’t get a gift at dinner either?

  597. BostonSugahBabe says:

    MsB- HAHA FREEBIES…

    On another note, I have been waiting for this guy, since 10: 48 when he said he was on his way…11:27 when he said he’ll be 20 mins….I swear, do young boys know how to tell time? He is getting an EARFUL when he pulls up to my house and a fuck you goodnight

  598. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Thanks Villa, and I do hope so!

    Photo- No you are not wrong, he is an ignorant small-timer as I like to call them. And SB without no financial assistance? No allowance? That sounds like a fling/ regular relationship to me. You know she feels like she missed out. I swear these guys are better off hooking up with bar women or CL girls…. seriously.

    Bunny NYC- I wouldn’t be rude. I would introduce him as a friend, because in truth that is what he is, among other things, but above all, a good friend.

  599. NYGent says:

    photogirl: i don’t think you’re wrong, just a caveat or two. You said you had previously discussed your desired allowance — did he say anything to indicate that was reasonable or in his ballpark? If so, then his $500 offer is more than ridiculous, it’s close to reneging on an implied promise. If he was non-committal about the amount before, then he may not be guility of breach of implied promise, but only of express cheapness. Of course, if he felt no chemistry then all prior discussions about $$ go out the window, since it should always be understood that all arrangements discussed before meeting are subject to in person chemistry. But if he felt no chemistry, then his 500 offer doesn’t make any sense either, so any way you look at it, his offer (for different reasons) is inappopriate.

  600. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Photo~ Wow, he isn’t going to find someone, In my opinion, that wants to see someone 3-4 times a month for 500$ , no gifts , no nothing!!!
    maybe he should stay at the other site and get , As Ms Behavin said “his freebies there.lol”

  601. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Photogirl~ tell him to go back to the other site and search for his freebies there.lol

  602. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ wow I think that was really nice of you , but not a thank you??? It irks me when people cannot say thank you, i’m glad you told her to hit the road biatch… sorry , getting pissed, Not all SBs are like that!
    wow, it’s sad that people aren’t polite anymore…not all people , but some!

  603. VillaCypris says:

    Boston – very cool! I’m happy for you. I’ve heard massachusetts men are keepers! :) hope it works out for the best!!!

  604. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    NYGent~ Thats just wrong. Whats wrong with these women,They are just tossing a good one away…shame on them.You deserve much better
    Ladies should we go up there and slap some sense into these girls???

  605. photogirl says:

    Oh boy… ok everyone, I just need a little confirmation that I am not wrong here!

    I had a dinner date this evening. I have been speaking with this pot for a couple of months off and on. I did met him on another site(which was a joke) and last week I suggested to him that he join SA. He did and thanked me as he has already seen a difference in the women here versus the other site.

    So we finally agreed to meet, no expectations, just a friendly dinner. Keep in mind we had already discussed my desired allowance back when we first started talking. Dinner was nice, conversation good. I thank him for the dinner and we said we would catch up with each other online this evening.

    He asks me if I like him online this evening, I said yes but reminded him what kind of relationship I was interested in and felt that he was not interested in the same. He has had one SB, lasted 6 months, no allowance given(he is married).

    After him telling me that he was not able to do ‘huge’ allowance (my ideal is 2k, not much in my opinion) and offering me 500 a month I told him I wished him all the best on his search. I also said “With all do respect, it may be difficult to find a SB with an allowance of 500 a month and seeing her 3-4 times a month.”

    His response: With all due respect. I had SB without any financial support that now moved to canada and another one in the works for 400 a month plus going out. Not everyone on that site is only looking for money. Every case is different. Everyone has different needs some has financial needs, some has sexual needs and some has both.

    I suggested that he read the blog(again) as he is new to this and it would help him have a better understanding of what SD/SB relationships are and what SBs are interested in.

    His response: I don’t need to read the blog most of them are fake and stories. There is no truth to it.

    I apologize in advance if this is TMI as I know it won’t be hard for him to tell that I am writing about him…if he ever makes it here.

    Some feedback please…

    By the way…we have already determined we won’t be anything but friends.

  606. NYGent says:

    Boston/BG: the more I think about it (a) you’re right; and (b) I think she was secretly, though not outwardly, miffed that we didn’t sign up a contract over dinner, adn that she thinks I wasted her time. Her profile emphasized over and over that she wasn’t interested in time-wasters, and I guess a nice dinner and gift wasn’t enough.

  607. BostonSugahBabe says:

    NYGent–Arghh….I feel your frustration. Excuse the french but WTF!?!? I guess that’s why some SD’s are hesitant when it comes to meeting and other things. Jeez……What tha hell

  608. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Bunny NYC~ sorry didn’t see your comment… Welcome!
    I think if you meet a co-worker or friend you can say he is a business associate …. or a friend… no one has to know!
    If you ran into your SD when out with friends i wouldn’t say anything just a casual head nod and be on my way!!!! unless he comes to speak to you, then you can mention the above!

  609. NYGent says:

    BG: Maybe I have just gotten used to lower expectations. Here’s another one from a few weeks ago: told an SB let’s go to brunch downtown on Sunday and do a little shopping afterwards. Fine, met for brunch, took her shopping as promised, bought her a nice pair of shoes. After that she asks how much and I tell her ($750). She says “I just like to know how much something cost.” Then we go in a clothes store and she sees a top that costs $250 which she likes, but says “for $250 I’d rather have some new jewelray.” I guess she was mentally calculating $1K as a fair first date shopping spree. So we traipse all over Soho looking for the right bracelet which I buy ($150). “Can I have some matching earrings too?” Boom, another $100, so she met her $1K quota. We tentatively agree to meet the following Friday. (“I really like you,” she says). Afterward, no email, no thank you, no nothing, so I email her a few days later saying (in effect) have a nice life, enjoy the jewelry (aargh!).

  610. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ also if she can’t say thank you now, when it’s all new, what will it be like later???? does she think you owed her dinner? and the gift? I know people that never say thank you, and it never gets better..

  611. BostonSugahBabe says:

    VC-Thanks chica, I met him through SA. Charming guys, all the right qualities SOO much in common that the age factor doesn’t even matter to me. That and his awesome bod. Ahhh…just thinking of him I want to speak to him now!..But alas I must wait til ‘morrow.

  612. BostonSugahBabe says:

    NYGent- I def second that motion. I am big on politeness and the thank you should DEFINITELY come from her. I mean I am assuming you treated her(duh), you gave her a gift. She is just rude. If the thank you doesn’t come now, do you really think it will come later on? If not by tomorrow then kick her to the curb.

    BG-I am 19

  613. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    NYGent~Being raised in the South…My Momma would whoop me if I did not send a thank you for a gift. As any of our SBs from theis site would do!!I guess we just have more class. :)

  614. VillaCypris says:

    Hey Boston! Congrats on the new pot! It’s great to have workout partners… did you meet him on SA? or in real life…. ?

  615. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ You took Her out! She needs to say thank you, and not tomorrow… tonight,,, or a few hours after the date!
    If I had a date and didn’t like him, i would still mail him and say thank you for the drink or whatever but,,,, i did not find that we had chemistry or that we clicked that way,blah blah blah,,,, it’s easy , fast ! simple!

  616. NYGent says:

    BG: No such email, and if I don’t get one by tomorrow I think I may jettison the whole thing. Anyone think I should, or is that too rigid a social expectation this early (or maybe she expects me to be the one to email). Somehow I think the “thank you” should be coming from her, as you suggest, but I’m sure some would disagree.

  617. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Boston~ how old are you? curious…
    I know it is really rude not to say thank you…. Also VC is right , we all have our intuition to guide us,,, we do need to listen to it!

  618. VillaCypris says:

    “Probably unfair of me to associate the two, but it’s just a vibe I got.”

    That’s why we have “intuition”…… fair or not fair… we subconsciously recognise patterns of behaviours, words, actions, looks which remind us of something/someone else… listen to it…. sounds like you are!!

  619. BostonSugahBabe says:

    I agree BG…So rude, not even a text? That’s probably the easiest way to communicate nowadays. Hmpf. Sorta like waiting an hour for someone to pick you up and they just call you saying they are leaving now. Ughh I swear this I why I refuse to date someone my own age!

  620. Bunny NYC says:

    Hi all,

    It seems that in my search, most potential SDs have liked the fact that I work relatively close to where they live/would like to meet, but I actually feel a bit of unease about the possibility of running into them. So I’m a bit curious as to what the SDs and SBs here have to say on that matter…is it better to be removed from where one usually works/lives altogether or is being a bit close okay? Also, what would you do if you ran into your SD/SB when you were with your friends/co-workers who don’t know about this arrangement?

  621. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ she didn’t send you an email saying Thank you? that is just rude!

  622. NYGent says:

    It’s not that she talked about her money problems per se — she was pretty subtle about it. It’s maybe that she reminded me of someone else who was also expertly subtle at first then POW right between the kisser in a way that blind-sided me (that one was too bizarre to recount here). Probably unfair of me to associate the two, but it’s just a vibe I got.
    Yes I think another date will tip the scales one way or the other so if she’s willing I probably am too. I should add that we had discussed contours of an arrangement by email, subject to confirming chemistry in person — she may have been a little disappointed that I didn’t offer to sign on the dotted line tonite, which I just wasn’t ready to do, although I did give her a little good faith gift payment toward an arrangement if we do go forward, just to convey some level of interest/seriousness consistent with our email discussions. It’s always a fine line between whether a first date gift conveys weakness or seriousness of purpose, I think different SBs react different ways.

    One very bad sign — at least I consider it such — is no email or text message soon afterwards thanking me for lovely evening. So there’s a distinct possibility this was a one-shot deal, but even if so I won’t be crushed.

  623. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Video girl, is a sleaze!

  624. VillaCypris says:

    hee hee… i know… was just giving you a hard time…. 😛

  625. Taz says:

    Damn! OBVIOUSLY the GIRL on the video. Trashy… *shakes head*

  626. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ if she hadn’t talked about her financial problems, would you have like her better? If you fell like 50/50 right now, don’t you think maybe another date would clear up things? maybe she was nervous and just kept talking? Yes you are cute!

  627. NYGent says:

    So had dinner with a pot tonite, at a nice place (Olives in the W Hotel). Have to say I’m somewhere between ambivalent and interested. Very attractive lady, sophisticated and wordly (Turkish), but something wasn’t quite firing on all cylinders. Hard to put my finger on it but there a few too many references to money woes (mortgage, grad school, expiring lease) that I wouldn’t ususally mind but they seemed a little forced. We tentatively agreed to a second date next week, a Broadway show, but I say odds are 50/50 she’ll back out (or I will). She seemed relieved that I looked like my picture (hers was a little dated, she had to admit), and at least said I was “cute.” So I dunno . . .

  628. NYGent says:

    Anna Molly: if you end up stood up but still in NYC I’ll buy you a consolation lunch. No $350 though . . .

  629. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NYGent~ that is so sweet!!!!

  630. VillaCypris says:

    Taz- LMFAO @ VC!!! She should be ashamed!

    Waiiiiiiiiiiiit………… I should be ashamed???? Or the poor girl in the video…… ?????

  631. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Taz~ I need LP lol,,,, I don’t have any I have tones of LS though lmao

  632. BostonSugahBabe says:

    NeO- Yayyy for loving Boston, it really is a great city, just really under-rated. I think it’s for the more sophisticated person’s.
    The 61 yr old is not from Boston, but about an hour away. I hope we can be work out buddies because I definitely need a motivator to work out.

    MsB- Def try to teach him, but if all else fails…. :-X

    Well Sugars Im turning in early…Going to be out and about it my fav city (Boston a course) Good night to you all and don’t have too much fun with out me (which always seems to happen on this blog) =p

  633. Taz says:

    AltNicole – I am soo envious! I only have the first three seasons…I could sooo use a grey’s marathon 😛

    Welcome to the blog Rachel 😀

    LMFAO @ VC!!! She should be ashamed!

    I’m with you BG – I need an SD that likes LP!

  634. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Ms Behavin~ hummmm… that is always odd,,,,when the think they are all that!

  635. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Sadly I dont think he is teachable He does not seem to know there is a problem.

  636. NeOhio SB says:

    Boston~~ Is your 61 yr. old gentleman from Boston also??

  637. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Ms Behavin~ maybe, you should try and teach him how!!! could be fun!

  638. photogirl says:

    BG – Looking for you on IM

  639. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    Hi Photo!

  640. photogirl says:

    Yes …”its ALL in the kiss”

  641. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    I love Sashimi , but yes I do agree “its ALL in the kiss”

  642. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Beach_Girl~ All that sugar$ hate to miss out but yep FISH yuck!!

    But on the bright side I did have one of the best meals I have ever had!!

  643. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NeOhio SB~ A work out partner would be awesome!!! I was in Boston and Salem this summer,,, love it!

    I wouldn’t want someone that kisses like a fish blahhhh,,,,

  644. NeOhio SB says:

    BG~~ Too funny…although i do love sushi, kissing a fish is an entirely diff. story. Don’t even get me started on that. I agree whole heartedly with VC…kissing is the prelude to sensuality and to me…”its ALL in the kiss”

  645. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    MsB-Damn mama, a fish? Cold wet and slimy, don’t know if there’s much to help. Guess you can really call him a great CATCH huh…haha sorry. Corny jokes make me laugh.

    Sugah lmao

  646. NeOhio SB says:

    Boston~~ No specific reason SD and I are heading to Boston…he has some business to do there and i love it there…was supposed to meet him in Palm Beach this week ( he has home in Prov and Palm Beach), but i got sick…so making it up in Boston…….But i love love love Boston..always great things to do.
    And i can vouch for the older ones having a great bod….wow…so does my SD….although he loves da vino, he works out constantly……..Great workout partner too :)

  647. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Thanks for the love ladies!

    NeO- What is going on in Boston next week, you’re the second sugar I “know” who is coming here..what a coin-ki-dink. I do really like him, though Im young enough to be his grand daughter. And his bod is RIDICULOUS!! I mean good lord, it’s impeccable… He’s the size of a lumberjack! haha, don’t know where that comparison came from.

    MsB-Damn mama, a fish? Cold wet and slimy, don’t know if there’s much to help. Guess you can really call him a great CATCH huh…haha sorry. Corny jokes make me laugh.

  648. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Anna Molly–I had a guy suggest something similar. For thing that turned me wayyyyyyyy off about him was when he said “I want to leave my wife for you.” I’m not to keen on breaking up happy homes. Second he keeps asking me to cam. No problem except when he asks to see my legs and ass…ermm uncomfy much. That should have been the end of it but then he im’s me today saying he would like to meet and would give me 200 dollars…I say, “I think you’re missing a zero.” He types…500. Im thinking to myself, this guy doesn’t know his numbers, but play along with him. “A week?” I say, making it clear that I want an allowance of $2000 a month. “Yeah sure. I want to me on Sat.” he says. “That’s cool” I say “What are the details?” to which he replies “High heels, fishnets dress”…’Hooker’ I think to myself. “No silly, when, where do you want to meet?” “Foxwoods” he replies. “Foxwoods the casino? Are you paying for me to get there?” to which he so eloquently replies “Huh”…..”Are YOU paying for ME to get there” I emphasize. “No.” he says. X the conversation and delete from buddy list. No, courtesy for that jerk off.

  649. photogirl says:

    Anna Molly – First thought is don’t pass him off just yet. I am not sure what kind of conversations you two have had thus far. I would imagine that if he has brought up intimacy numerous times he may be expecting something more than lunch, in which case I would make it clear that is not going to happen as this is a first date. Hoping someone has a better answer for you!

  650. Anna Molly says:

    Yeah, I should ask. Something tells me he wants to skip lunch all together though. I’m emailing right now.

  651. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    One guy I date (only for fun and lust) is 54 and all my friends cant get over how hot he is. Age is truly just a #.He has a better body than most 30 or 40 year olds.

  652. NeOhio SB says:

    Boston SB~~ Congratulations…sounds like things are really going well for you. As far as the age thing, my SD is about that age also, but he is a gem…and many times age becomes so material that you have to overlook it just being a number.
    Good luck…funny…ill be in boston next week with my SD, who actually is from Providence………….Good luck…keep us all posted on the good sugar news.

  653. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Anna Molly~ I would ask him what he had in mind for the day.

  654. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Nope its like kissing a fish dont know why thats the first thing that popped into my head yep a fish no hope for the man.

    Sugah~ way to go !!!

  655. Anna Molly says:

    Photogirl – It is certainly possible and that is what I’m hoping. I don’t know what to do. Like I said I haven’t responded yet; what should I say to him? Should I just ask him flat out if was expecting more than lunch?

  656. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Nope kisses him several times. Not gonna get any better. May give him one more chance cause I really liked him and I really wanna go to our next meeting place. (shallow but true)

  657. BostonSugahBabe says:

    Evening Ladies!!!

    Good lord, the girl in the video needs help! Ughh she is not projecting a good image for sugar babies. She looks like the drunk college girl. I mean I don’t own any of those fancy lingerie’s ya’ll talk about, but at least I match. Lawd ‘ave Mecry! You vets need to help her!

    Ok enough ragging on the poor SoCal girl. I have a sugar-lined weekend! Dates on Sun, Mon and on Tues. I am going out to NY to meet a pot. My my how my luck has turned around since my first few months. Third months the charm ladies! JK, just goes to show you that patience IS a virtue.

    In other sugar news, I’ve been talking to a gentleman who is 61! 61!!! But our chemistry is AMAZING and I am really looking forward to meeting him.

    Ms Behavin–Yeesh…LoL I know the feeling. Maybe you can try teaching him by showing him. For instance, if he is one of those “rush my tongue down your throat” kinda guys, slow it down, take the lead and give him gentle but deep pecks, parting your lips only slightly, enough space for one of his lips. Do this until he realizes that’s the way you want to be kissed. If he is one of those timid kisser, use more than your lips–whoa!–I mean use your tongue or your teeth and get him to open up. Basically, take charge if the man doesn’t know how.

  658. Anna Molly says:

    Ms Behavin – Maybe he was just nervous…I think you should give him one more shot and if it isn’t any better….then, well, you know.

  659. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NeOhio SB~ the La Perla filtration test !!! hahhah
    I’m 5’9″ in flats, so with heels I’m 6 feet…. not a lot of men like that!!!

    VC~ Always positive thoughts!

    Hey Photo, positive thoughts too!!!

  660. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Just watched the video LMAO someboby please stop her!!

  661. photogirl says:

    Anna Molly – Do you think maybe he was suggesting this amount prior to any intimacy? If not, then now you get to enjoy the day exploring all the great places that were suggested to you!

  662. VillaCypris says:

    photo – YA – poor girl! :)

  663. Anna Molly says:

    I did have a date for next week, but got an email from the jerk a little while ago. Went something like this

    Him – You are coming next week right?
    Me – Yes
    Him – Looking forward to it. You know, I’m willing and able to give you what you are requesting.
    Me – Hmmm, what are you suggesting?
    Him – I’ll do for you what I did for my last SB. I’ll give you 350 per visit until we get into a rhythm.

    What an A@%! At least I got a free train ticket out of the whole deal. I haven’t responded yet. Now I don’t have to figure out this guy was a jerk in person and I get to have lunch alone…yay. Oh well.

  664. VillaCypris says:

    Ms Behavin – I have to agree with NeOhio… kissing is prelude to so many other levels of sensual activity…. without which perhaps those can never be achieved…. perhaps you could TEACH him to kiss???? I’m not sure if being a “good kisser” is an innate talent that one either has, or does not have, or whether it is a skill which can be learnt/improved upon…

  665. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    And the really bad part is kissing is ONE of my favorite things to do :)

  666. photogirl says:

    Just watched that video….yikes. VC you are right…the poor girl needs some help with her lingerie! Now I don’t feel so deprived!

    Ms Behavin… My area isn’t the best either.
    About your date… I’m a sucker for a good kisser, so I know what you mean. From my experience, they don’t tend to change the way they kiss either so I am curious to hear what others have to say.

  667. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    I know thats why this sux!! I really liked him. He even text me ever day just to say hello. Just a quick chat during to let me know he was thinking about me.

  668. NeOhio SB says:

    MB~~ On a serious note and not to make humor, that is totally up to you. I can’t say i have ever been in that predicament, but i am sure you will have many SBs and SDs adding their comment and 2 cents worth that can truly help you out.

  669. NeOhio SB says:

    MB~ Unf. that is a NEXT to me…kissing is imperative to me. Shallow as it sounds, i just can’t be with someone who i don’t endulge and enjoy kissing.
    Sometimes that total package just has something missing……..damn that its the kissing….

  670. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Yes this area kinda sux!

  671. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    Need some help here ladies— after a great sugar date. Dinner and drinks -fab= conversation good-attitute great.Delivered $$ with a bonus for my travel….only problem he cant kiss. I dont mean he is bad I mean he is horrid. Whats a girl to do. Other than that I really liked him. HELP!!

  672. NeOhio SB says:

    MB~~ Unf. in that demographic area, i have zero possibilities….i am sorry.
    But patience is a virtue and you just never know what lurks on this site or IRL…….Hang in there….a great SD will come and sweep you off your feet.

  673. Ms Behavin~389197 says:

    NeOhio SB ~ If you need to pass on any SDs in the Lower Alabama area,I will be happy to help you out :)

  674. NeOhio SB says:

    Photogirl~~ Positive thoughts to you.
    Some SBs love the heels….Flat footed i stand 5’8, so as much as i love heels, sometimes it just puts me too high above my SD…..now the lingerie…with OR without heels………always works. :)

  675. VillaCypris says:

    Hi photogirl!

    Don’t feel deprived! If you want it badly enough, you’ll get it! Someday! :)

  676. photogirl says:

    I’m feeling a bit deprived in the lingerie department :(

    Good evening!

    Been away…and have been catching up. Too much to comment on though. It was interesting to read the comments from the SDs about their marriages. Thank you for the insight gentlemen.

    No sugar plans for me this weekend…

  677. VillaCypris says:

    Positive thoughts BG!!!!!!! 😀

  678. NeOhio SB says:

    BG~~ Im working on one for you too. Having problems with my Y mail…so haven’t been able to check your mail yet…..but any SDs i forward….go through the La Perla test filtration….so, that comes with the package. :)

  679. Beach_Girl*395953 says:

    NeOhio SB & VC ~ I don’t have any LP or Gilson :(

    I need an SD!!! 😀

  680. NeOhio SB says:

    VC~~ Just emailed you…….We both misinterpreted…i thought your ahhhh poor girl was referring to the question of arrangement you always wanted to have???? Didn’t watch the video at first…but now…i get it!!!

    And i will second that on you…she does need some LP or Gilson.

    Ive learned…a woman can NEVER have too much LP or Gilson bella, specially when the SD is buying it for you :)

    Buona notte to you and the others who join this fun blog topic. I am sure there will be some very very interesting posts.

  681. VillaCypris says:

    Although, that is a valid interpretation of my comment, which did not even occur to me while writing it, as I already have 10 sets of La Perla…. funny. :p

  682. VillaCypris says:

    HAHAHAHA… wait…. by “this poor girl” I did not mean to indicate ME… rather the girl in the video on youtube… 😉

    It’s difficult to imagine a better combination than Four Seasons and La Perla! 😀

    No “sugar” plans for me this weekend… I am recovering from my illness, and preparing for next week!

  683. NeOhio SB says:

    VC~~ Bella bella bella. You may be getting some soon enuf….But on that note…I was just informed from my bello SD that we are staying at the Four Seasons in Boston next week AND he did specifically mention a La Perla boutique right in the hotel…….so…guess what that means :) :)
    Hope your afternoon was pleasant.

    And as far as the question on this blog……Somehow every arrangement ive had tends to increase my collection of LP and Gilson. :)

  684. VillaCypris says:

    Ahhhhhhhhhh…. this poor girl needs some La Perla or Carine Gilson.

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