8 years ago
Tales From a Sugar Baby

8 years ago
Tales From a Sugar Baby

Stephanie_SB 95709:

“I have been a member of 3 sites of this sort since a friend told me about them. My own sister did the same and I thought they were nuts! I went through the moral issues as I am sure most of the True Sb’s out there do and then after hearing about and watching the things they got to do and enjoy I decided to give it a shot. I have had several different experiences and Maybe a few of them can help some of you SB’s and SD’s alike.

Now first off I am not an under 25 barbie doll as someone up there mentioned thats the ones that they pick. I have always been drawn to older men though as they know what they want and are looking for more than just sex but someone that is not involved with their day to day life and none of the drama a true romantic relationship brings. I always am very up front about who I am and what I am. I am 38 years old..and on the thicker side..although I think I look pretty good for my age hehe as I do get hit on frequently. I also try to be extreamly cautious…although I DO NOT force the SD’s to come to me. Espcialy if you understand that these men if they are NOT married which would make a trip out of town more difficult most of the time have very busy schedules too. I just make sure that I am emailed a departure and most importantly a return ticket and I verify that it is valid with the airlines before I go anywhere. And a paid hotel reservation also sent to me via email so I can make sure I am taken care of no matter what and the only thing my name is on is the reservations not the billing so I am not responsiable or get stuck.

Now let me tell you first I have not done this lots of times but just a few and have had some WONDERFUL and some very interesting experiances. I have come to the conclusion that no matter how many questions you ask..there are always ones you wish you had but would never have thought of..hehe

I have had a total of 4 SD’s meetings. 2 of them were WONDERFUL men and 2 of them were interesting but just not for me although I did have a good time. I got very lucky as my very first adventure as I like to call it was from a Phenomenal Man I met via this site who lived in Beverly Hills. Now being a Northern CA girl that wasn’t to far for me to worry about. After a drive to the airport it was only an hour flight to LAX where he met me and proved to me after the extended messenger and phone conversations we had had that he was just as my gut told me a wonderful man. He was very aplogetic as his buisness had suddenly gotten very busy and we had planned to spend the whole next day together and that was not going to happen..but to make it up to me he took very good care of me. We went to a very expensive restaurant both nights I was there. Places I could never have imagined going in my life by the way. Put me up in the Beverly Hill’s hotel and the day I was alone most of the day I was told to take advantage of any of the services provided by the hotel so I had myself a little spa day with a wonderful hot rock pedicure, got my hair done, had lunch at the world famous Polo lounge and was nice and relaxed and ready for him to pick me up that evening for dinner to another AMAZING place. He was handsome ( I thought) and sweet and NOT married by the way. The day I left he again as not able to drive me to the Airport but arranged for a car for me for the next morning and some cash to have a little fun on Rodeo Drive before I went home via the hotel Limo. Just so you know I asked for NOTHING… and was treated like a princess. A girl from a town like I come from is not used to something like this and I had the time of my life..but the best part of it was.. I made sure he was someone I truly WANTED to meet not because of what he had but beause of Who he was. I had no idea where I would be staying and no idea of the money he would be spending or leaving me. Unfortunatly for me this wonderful man was in the Tax Buisness and his season came up right after that and he got so busy our relationship kind of faded away due to his business commitments. I can tell you that even if I had not been treated so wonderfully I would have loved to see him many more times as I just enjoyed being with him and if he ever called me again I would be there in a heartbeat just to spend some time with him.

There are also men out there that even if they have money I have found do not like to spend it..haha Guess thats why they have so much.. but I did find a man who was very concerned about my physical welfare because I didnt have health insurance and paid to make sure I did. He did not take me to fancy places, we went to Olive Garden, Chilli’s etc and bought his hotel rooms on Priceline. ( he lived within a few hours of me and did come to me) But he was a warm and caring man who just wanted a good person to spend time with and I very much enjoyed the time we did spend together. No he did not take me shopping every time or even give me money again I NEVER ask for anything But if he knew I had an issue he would be there for me just as I was for him.

Now..I had an well..uncomfortable situation come up once where I met another man on here.. flew to see him and broke my own rules which I knew I never should have done. Instead of getting me a room he insisted since he lived on the Beach in LA I should stay with him. But again since he was also in the same state as me I would have no problem hopping a greyhound home if needed or taking a taxi to the airport in Long Beach. I got to go the Garth Brooks Concert that was happening that weekend at the Staples Center ..and being a fan I was thrilled to go the the only concert he had preformed in 12 damm years so I was in heaven.. Here was my problem..we did have a good time.. he did take me shopping for a few nice little things and take care of all of my expenses..but this is where the questions I NEVER knew to ask happened.. he did NOT live alone in this house..his 30 year old son was there which was very uncomfortable for me. I found out his sexuality varied if you know what I mean…and that also made me very uncomfortable as reckless people can kill you ya know even with protection nothing is 100%! So I made the decision after I came home that he was not someone I wanted to continue seeing and would not sleep with him which made hiim very angry. But everyone needs to be careful out there.

So after this long drawn out answer to this question which was “what to expect” I can tell you… I have learned to never EXPECT anything! If I have a man who comes right out and asks me what I want..I can tell them its the same thing on my profile. I live paycheck to paycheck and want to experiance things I could never do on my own..but these women who think they are going to get an allowance of as much as 5000 a month or more as far as I am concerned are HOOKERS and thats the only word for it as far as I am concerned! I am not a lady of the evening but just a lady who has no children at home anymore and am looking to enjoy life. If a man demands me to tell him a price..honestly..I tell them I cant do that and if that’s what they need then they need to tell me what they would like to do and I can spoil myself..lol

I have seen some incredible things on these sites good and bad..and had some fantastic things happen to myself and heck my sister met a muliti millionaire who wants her to move to LA and move in with him..and he is a great guy! So I am thrilled for her.. just do what I do..dont count on anything and expect the unexpected..talk to people that make you comfortable and you really enjoy spending time with..SD’s or SB’s. There are some very scary people out there.. hence Mister Pig Farmer I have been reading about and thank you for the warning by the way..If a man immediately starts asking about my sexual desires, my fantasy’s or tells me things about him or sends me phonographic photos then I know immediately he is not someone I would enjoy myself with or be comfortable spending time with. But again these are just my preferences.. I am a lady in public and a tiger in the bedroom..but only with someone I am WANTING to be with. So everyone out there please just realize these sites are good and bad as they are an outlet to find people to enjoy and not have the drama other parts of life bring..but it also an outlet for some not so nice and not so honest people too…

Everyone should be cautious and only do or plan things that make you comfortable. I have yet to find the right one for a long term SD relationship as my sister has and have no prospects right now.. but I feel people out.. and am extremely choosy. You need to be too! Every moment of your life is precious so choose to spend the moments you do with people you enjoy.”

Thanks for sharing Stephanie!

Bills, deadlines, tuition, investments, rent, and the everyday life can add up to a whole lotta stress. SD’s and SB’s are looking for no-drama and pretense-free arrangements.

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439 Responses to “Tales From a Sugar Baby”

  1. Janine says:

    I just singed up on this site over the weekend and i got like 6 e mails from men. how far is to far to meet them some of them are in other states! I need help in talking what i want.. the men tell me what they want but what about me how do i go about it. And where do i meet for the first time.. some of them want me to drive like a hr to see them! what do i do? should i give them my number. and should i gave my number out alot? help i need a s daddy!

  2. LOL_A says:

    Thank you HenriLouis. You are right. I had a taste of it because every time he is at work I feel really lonely. A day is indeed very long.
    I think I prefer to take my time and really think about it.
    The culture is also very different, I am a 200% european girl…

    Merci HenriLouis pour vos bons conseils

    Lola

  3. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi Lola,
    Never do anything you feel unsure of.
    Five months you have known each other now.
    This is a very short time to give up all your have now.
    Living in another country is lonely.
    Your SD is away for work.
    What will you do there in that other country ?
    A day can be terribly long if it is a void.
    Look before you leap !
    HenriLouis

  4. LOL_A says:

    I have a great sugardaddy tell to share, the proof that not every men on SeekingA. are phonies…
    I have a great sugardaddy, we ve been seeing eachother for 5 months now. He lives in another country. Everytime I travel to him, it is in First Class. He even flew me in a Private Jet once. He gives me a very generous allowance every month (13’000K) and on top of it, I really like him. He is rather handsome…

    Now, yes there has been some drama between us. At one point, it was question of marriage. Everything went out of hand then… We split up for a couple of months then decided it was best to keep our relationship strictly sd/sb.

    Now it is question of me moving in his country… I like the idea but in the same time it stresses me out. I am afraid to lose my independence

  5. UsefErrorie says:

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  6. Carmen*262922* says:

    I have to agree with Greta that I found Stephanie’s comment about SB’s being hookers offensive. My SD provides me a regular allowance of 5k plus, and by no means would be ever think of me as a hooker.

    Nor would I view myself that way!

    It sounds like you’re kind of new to the world of SB/SD dating, Stephanie, and I wish you the best of luck. One day you’ll meet a wonderful daddy who offers you a large monthly allowance, and when you accept his money, I hope you won’t start thinking of yourself as a hooker! Hang on to your self-esteem, but don’t get lost in your pride.

  7. OCSugarBaby says:

    Jessi-Welcome. You need to be a bit more specific in your question. Being successful depends on you. Read thru some of the old topics, but ask a specific question if you have one. ~OC

  8. raine says:

    Hi, jessi. Assuming you’re still here, the only thing I can recommend as a fellow newbie is to flip through the blog archives for now. The more experienced/tenured SBs may also be able to help you during the week — the traffic’s big time then, especially when new blogs show up.

    Can’t say I can blame you, British_princess. How are ya otherwise?

  9. jessi says:

    ok ladies i am new to this and well how do u do this succesfully lil help anyone

  10. British_princess says:

    Ok now I dont normally comment on these though I do love to read but the hooker comment has really annoyed me, you joined this site for a reason and what do you think flights and hotels cost – nothing??? Just cause you dont ask for it doesnt mean you not taking it when it comes along!!!

    Oh and by the way will you call your sister a hooker if she moves to LA to be with this SD.

    Joanna x

  11. NC Gentleman says:

    HI OPOV — saw your comment/question. Yeah the husband knowing and approving does kind of creep me out because, in my mind, it seems like the husband is pimping out his wife. Maybe that is a narrow-minded view, but it is the one that pops into my head at first.

  12. Elizabeth says:

    sweetest dreams Natasha

  13. Sugarbabytoday says:

    good sweet dreams will talk to you again soon

  14. Natasha says:

    n e ways. i am heading to bed now. goodnight ladies.

  15. Natasha says:

    lol…all i know is that he wants me, he did state apart from everything he does want to get to know me is not just the sex. so lets just see…men lie a whole bunch

  16. Natasha says:

    he can be lieying but i got a good vibe from him

  17. Sugarbabytoday says:

    ok take a back seat I am going to loose this weight that I am working on and find this man… lol JUST KIDDING!!

  18. Elizabeth says:

    awwwwwwwwwwwww…good luck Natasha…just take it slow and who knows where destiny might take you…

  19. Natasha says:

    he told me he loves kids…i have 1 child and he even asked to see a pic…he showed me pics of him and his nephew and told me right now that nephew is his life since he has none of his own

  20. Sugarbabytoday says:

    thats awesome, I am blown away

  21. Natasha says:

    he doesnt have kids and the only thing that came into mind was that if there is a chance that we might like eahother and decided for a relationship he doesnt want n e thing to mess up the fact of having children. he kept telling me a wife and children are the only thing missing in his life

  22. Sugarbabytoday says:

    wow i don’t think I have ever heard a man say no birth control

  23. Natasha says:

    he told me he will use protection he was clear on those terms. he did say no birth control for me…he said he doesnt want anything messing up my body…weird…and he even stated hes a bit concerned cuz i am really tiny and he is a big man

  24. Sugarbabytoday says:

    natasha, it does sound by everything you are saying that he is one of those few guys that are real in all aspects (so far)

  25. Natasha says:

    we clicked so well that i dont mind going for it

  26. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I agree liz, and if anything make sure you bring one this way he can’t say he doesn’t have any

  27. Natasha says:

    he is..hes giving me the space and is letting me take charge..lol…i dont think i have a bad one at all

  28. Sugarbabytoday says:

    well if you are comfortable with in then so be it just be careful and don’t do it out of pressure if he is a gentleman he will respect that

  29. Elizabeth says:

    hey…atleast they can’t fault us for wanting proper protection to be used…atleast initially…I know with me, even though I dislike them, I would prefer we took those precautions…atleast until we knmew eachother much better…if something came of it, wonderful…if not, life goes on

  30. Natasha says:

    at least our first date went smoothly and he didnt make me feel presured

  31. Natasha says:

    i am a bit worried about my second date because i am 100% sure intimacy will happen.

  32. Sugarbabytoday says:

    unfortunately not, you can put a time frame on anything any more

  33. Natasha says:

    in my regular world i havnt had luck with my guys. i use to follow the dont give ur cookie up until 90 days…apparently that isnt popular now in days

  34. Elizabeth says:

    you too sweets

  35. Natasha says:

    is that we have a problem in this website we have to show our whole selves. they are looking for something in particular if u know what i mean

  36. Natasha says:

    nite nite girls and good luck

  37. Elizabeth says:

    thank you Natasha…I have a 3rd pic pending…as the second really doesn’t do me justice and I realise that

  38. Elizabeth says:

    the fun thing is both the customers and myself pick on eachother…talking, smiling and laughing

  39. Natasha says:

    okie dokie ill keep u posted about next week if we dont speak sooner. anf luck to u also

  40. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Good luck Natasha I am right behind you on the bed thing it is 2am late nighter and I haven’t even been out drinking what a terrible friday night sitting at home in front of the pc.. talk to you soon

  41. Natasha says:

    liz ur pic is really cute…i love ur hat

  42. Natasha says:

    well girls i think i will be heading to bed soon. and think more about how to bring up what i will get from the arrangement next week…lol

  43. raine says:

    Liz: Ahhh, refreshing. That’s what counts: keeping ’em smiling and coming back. Can’t beat that.

  44. Elizabeth says:

    thank you Natasha…I appreciate it

  45. Elizabeth says:

    it is…and it also tends to surprise the customers where I work…but hey…better to have a job that you love than to be a cranky sourpuss…lol and yes, I have made alot of friendships with co-workers and customers alike… 😀

  46. Natasha says:

    ok liz it is

  47. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hey Elizabeth how do you get your pic on the blog?

  48. Sugarbabytoday says:

    wow I havent heard some one say they love their job in a long time, I am glad Elizabeth that you like your job that must be a great feeling…

  49. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Now I have seen everything some one created a profile just looking for a surrogate mom for this man and his friend who has agreed to donate an egg so he can raise his first born, lol

  50. Elizabeth says:

    I hear Eli and please…no offense intended, I think boy…especially since my baby sister has a boy named Eli

  51. raine says:

    Hmm. Interesting, Natasha. I just figured it could go either way…

  52. Elizabeth says:

    in Texas it’s Liz

  53. Elizabeth says:

    Raine…worked my tail off but it’s all good as I love my job…they had me workin in the garden center for about an hour and a half though…felt like a fish outta water as I’m a front end cashier…not a garden center cashier…but I still had my customers leaving with a smile :-)

  54. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I started talking to one I wrote to and we texted a few times and we were suppose to meet up on sunday this week but then he decided to bail saying I was to far away which I was only an hour and a half at most away and told him I would not mind the travel I prefer to travel a little to insure that it is discreet and away from family and friends

  55. Natasha says:

    lol…in spanish we give the nickname eli for elizabeth

  56. Elizabeth says:

    Eli? that’s my nephew’s name…lol

  57. raine says:

    Hi Elizabeth. Eh, can’t complain. Yours?

  58. Natasha says:

    u know wat i noticed all the sugardaddies that i wrote 2 never had an interest. the ones that did was bcuz they found me on their own

  59. Natasha says:

    hello eli

  60. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hi Elizabeth

  61. Sugarbabytoday says:

    i found him I was just searching to see what was out there

  62. Elizabeth says:

    ok…I’m home from work…how was everyone’s day today? was decent here inspite of the stormy weather…

  63. Sugarbabytoday says:

    haha i am being moderated I guess you cannot put links of profiles on here

  64. Natasha says:

    lol….thats good. u found him or he found u?

  65. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Sorry natasha found an interesting SD had to write.. he was yummy

  66. raine says:

    Yes, young&fabulous, do tell! How’s your search going?

    ^I live vicariously through you all until further notice. 😉

  67. Natasha says:

    sugarbaby are u still here?

  68. raine says:

    Granted, I’m all about the self-motivation, but the extra boost from these stories doesn’t hurt.

  69. Natasha says:

    young & fab have u had any luck?

  70. raine says:

    Hi, young&fabulous! I’ve been wondering where you went!

    Oh yeah: nice pile of ’em in my backyard. Haven’t sorted through them all, but not a bad selection thus far.

  71. Natasha says:

    lol. i guess hes a taker…

  72. raine says:

    a ROLLS?! Let me think…did I last see one in person (if so, when/where?)or in a rap video? I’m not striving for a headache, but still…

    Oh, yeah…legit.

  73. Sugarbabytoday says:

    hi young & fab, Il seems to have a lot of SD too recently I have been getting a lot of the IL guys viewing my profile

  74. Natasha says:

    very good and urself?

  75. Natasha says:

    so your county isnt that bad. you might have a few sugardaddys in your area

  76. ♥ϒoung&ƒabulous♥ → 300345 says:

    Hi sugars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I haven’t blogged in months!! *l0l* ….Well i’m glad SA decided to do a blog on SB/SD stories!!!!! I said in a blog I wish they would…..& look they did..tehehe…..I love reading all the stories (G00D) cause it gives hope to lil sugars like me =) How is everyone tonight?!?

  77. raine says:

    I’m in C.hi.cago (I got ‘pulled over’ for this a while back; don’t ask).

  78. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Wow thats pretty sweet. Rolls are nice that is one big ticket item I have seen in person only because I got to the concept car show every year in Orlando and they have a whole display of them and there are a few that drive around the county I live in

  79. Natasha says:

    hes legit alright. he made sure i got that clear. his ride is a rolls royce. at least i knew that one…lol but i had never seen one in person.

  80. raine says:

    Breitling [sp], huh? I’m blank on that one, and I occasionally read up on luxury anything! I’m gonna vote he’s legit.

  81. Natasha says:

    my pics dont show much. I have one pic with enough makeup and my clothes are decent. and i have another which was taken on a cruise. it was a professional pic. i had hardly makeup and i as wearing a short dress but was covered on my upper body. try to look decent. so they wont think u r just a piece of meat.

  82. Natasha says:

    lol. raine u r so funny. ur time will come. they start contacting when they see pics

  83. Sugarbabytoday says:

    to be honest i didn’t wear makeup or dessup for the camera actually my pics that are up where taken and I didn’t even know it until some one forwarded them to me…

  84. Sugarbabytoday says:

    lol so where do you live again Raine?

  85. raine says:

    Short answer: nope. Long answer: no pics, no contacts, no hints of a meeting are gonna happen. Marked a few favorites along the way when the pics finally do go up. [Trying not to overthink this part nowadays; it’s like, dangitall, I need to buy makeup just to take my own pics with my frickin’ phone, AND I’d better dress fabulous from the neck down in the process!] psssh…

  86. Sugarbabytoday says:

    WOW, this guy is real, that is cool though cause it shows him who you really are, not a gold digger for sure!

  87. Natasha says:

    i know nothing of my sugardaddy’s world.

  88. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Natasha asked earlier and i dont believe raine you answered but I am curious too… have you been on a date before?

  89. Natasha says:

    then he showed me the watch he was wearing the brand was breitling or something like that and i had no idea…he said it cost him 18,000 and he said i have alot to show u

  90. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Wow I have never in my life heard of one, yes I know patience is a virtue, I just hate it when I log off and get an alert on my phone that I have a new msg that annoys me… lol. Oh well in due time I guess.

  91. raine says:

    If I held one in my hands, I don’t know how I’d react; and I’m the farthest from a golddigger as one can get! Heck, I envy you for having seen one up close! *lol*

    Many people don’t know (or may have forgotten) it exists, so you needn’t have been embarrassed.

  92. Natasha says:

    dear u need patience when it comes to these men…lol

  93. Natasha says:

    a black card is a black credit card made of a different material and you can only get it when you have millions in your bank account. u can buy anything with it and it solves and kisses a rich mans ass

  94. Sugarbabytoday says:

    no haven’t heard from him… blah blah blah… lol oh well i am somewhat impatient, can you tell?

  95. Sugarbabytoday says:

    what is a black card? I have yahoo but good lord send a darn pic would you lol…

  96. Natasha says:

    sugarbaby any luck?

  97. Natasha says:

    raine have u gone on any dates?

  98. raine says:

    Somebody giving you a hard time about a pic, huh, Sugarbabytoday? Man, I may have some work cut out for me! I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it…

  99. Natasha says:

    i guess not knowing about the black card made me look better..lol

  100. Natasha says:

    sugarbaby you should download yahoo im…it has a picture sharing tool. thats where they will mostly send u a pic

  101. Natasha says:

    I held it in my hands now why i am asking is because i had no clue wat it was and he noticed…he did tell me what it was afterwardsb but my face was so out of it cuz i had no idea what that black card was… he was laughing at me and i was embarrased. I was thinking i was so dumb. he did tell me i know for sure u arent a golddigger cuz all goldiggers know what the black card is

  102. raine says:

    The only black card I can think of is that all-exclusive amex card that some rich (regular — whatever that means, lol — and super) folks carry. Did your pot mention it in passing?

  103. Sugarbabytoday says:

    black card? for the picture or around the pic? I asked for a pic and he didn’t give me one. I find a lot of these guys have yahoo im so all he did was e-mail me saying he would add me.. that wasn’t what I asked for…

  104. raine says:

    We do exist there! Oh, shux; I stand corrected. :)

    One thing I can say, Natasha — I’m sure you already know this — is that you needn’t do anything until you’re dang good and ready. Can’t have you breaking a sweat, biting your nails and whatnot.

  105. Natasha says:

    wat is the scoop sugarbaby??

  106. Natasha says:

    do u girls know what the black card is??

  107. Sugarbabytoday says:

    uh oh a new prosp. just e-mail

  108. raine says:

    I was going to suggest the same thing earlier, sugarbabytoday, but at the last nanosecond decided against it. Figured it wasn’t my place just now.

    Please excuse the delay in advance, as I’m here via a bberry. I make my comment, then have to refresh for same to show up (and see others’ comments).

  109. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Raine look on myspace at women in florida you will see some of us bigger girls. Be straight up with him and tell him that you would like to enjoy a night out a re verify your attraction to him before anything happens… lol

  110. Natasha says:

    I understand raine. it is true.

  111. Natasha says:

    he gave me a wonderful massage idk how we didnt get intimate

  112. Natasha says:

    we kissed…he did tell me he wanted to take me to a hotel but i said no…he was cool though. he said no pressure. but i know this upcoming week it will happen . he told me straight up he wants me and i am into him also so i see y not

  113. raine says:

    Thanks for playing, ladies, and no, you didn’t scare me away. I go blank sometimes, and I step out for a while.

    I asked because all I see on TV are the perpetually tanned stick figures with hair and surplus cleavage. It’s like, okay, where the thick women? I dunno…just one of those nagging curiosities I never got to address.

  114. Natasha says:

    i go to the salon every week to make it straight…that is one expense i should make a sd pay for…lol

  115. Sugarbabytoday says:

    lol, I dunno if I was you I would just send him a quick e-mail/text/call and ask what his plans are for the next date. I know you said something about being intimate with him were you on the first date?

  116. Natasha says:

    I wish i could cut mine shirt but my hair is too thick and have too much and has alot of volume…short looks horrible on me

  117. Natasha says:

    I say i am lost but i just have to close my eyes and think how the hell i am going to deal with my sd…lol

  118. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Yeah I don’t have very long hair right now part of me trying to find my self and my happiness I ended up cutting 12 inches off so it is easy right now

  119. Natasha says:

    here i am

  120. Natasha says:

    that was fast

  121. raine says:

    Natasha, you still here? Anyone? Bueller?… Bueller?

  122. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hey I am back…. kind of lost you are 2?

  123. Natasha says:

    how is that going for you? I am 2. but i havnt seen much going on. I think people had a phase about 3 months ago and ive seen the people from seeking arrangement in suggardaddie.com

  124. Sugarbabytoday says:

    hey Natasha I am going to step away for a few I need to wash my hair I will be back though hope to talk when I get back..

  125. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I sure am

  126. Natasha says:

    I was about to just ask that…we know u were just asking a question

  127. Natasha says:

    i am glad u feel good about being back on track. are you on seeking arrangement?

  128. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Raine did we scare you away?

  129. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Oh I don’t feel bad about my self, I know I need to loose weight not only for self confidence but for health reasons as well. Working in the medical field I see what those extra pounds can do to a person. But my weight was also because I was in a bad place my father having cancer my grandfather dying my 4 year relationship ending and me getting laid off I mean just a whirl wind of events took place. But like I said I am rapidly losing that weight because I am now back on track and am a happier person

  130. Natasha says:

    sugarbabytoday dont ever feel bad about yourself. remember confidence is the key to standing out in crowd. it works trust me. personality and confidence are the 2 main things that make you noticeable

  131. Natasha says:

    ensure helped me a bit i was 94 pounds before…i was looking real bad

  132. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I will give you a few pounds Natasha lol eat a lot of protein that will help put a few pounds on you… I had a friend like that I ended up getting her to choke down an ensure with her breakfast and it put a little weight on her

  133. Natasha says:

    also i am not happy withmy weight i eat like all day and dont gain weight. i should be at least 112 for my height . the men that date me think i should stay the way i am but i know i will look better with a couple more pounds

  134. Natasha says:

    My best guy friend is handsome and tall and looks perfect . he only likes plus sized women. everyone says he can do better. but i always say that is what he likes. so like i said if u are a plus size there is someone out there for u. u are not excluded. i am 100 pounds and not all men like me.

  135. Sugarbabytoday says:

    yeah I too am a little disturbed by that as my mother is a plus size and I have friends of every shape in size.

  136. Natasha says:

    I don’t know what to say to that. I have friends but arent as lucky as me. I am 5’2 and weight 100 lbs. But I believe every man has a different taste and that is why we are all made different.

  137. Sugarbabytoday says:

    raine…. I currently am probably considered plus size, thanks, since my last 2 1/2 years have been filled with nothing but bad news I have packed on some weight BUT I am loosing rapidly now so I can’t complain ’cause even a little heavier people are still beautiful. But yes any where in florida you will find a plus size person.

  138. Natasha says:

    yeah, clubs here are fun. I have researched where the best men are. so i sort of know. I hang out at the hardrocks casino or at the beach.

  139. raine says:

    Do plus-size women even exist in your respective necks of the woods? Again, just asking…

  140. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Yeah see I am in the cocoa beach area and our clubs and bars here are terrible same people every week. When i was in a serious relationship we had a house here and an apt down in Boca and loved driving out to Hollywood because there very rarely a familiar face

  141. Natasha says:

    I have had my fun when i really think bout it, but no shopping or gifts. just outings

  142. Natasha says:

    but i dont look for them they come 2 me and not to long i realized that they are looking for a sugarbaby…i was thinking more of a serious relationship and since i wouldnt give them the cookie they moved on

  143. Natasha says:

    well ive also had luck at clubs and bars…

  144. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Natasha you have a lot better of a selection down there granted I am not to far but I still have at decent travel

  145. raine says:

    Hi, folks. Is it true that there are a bunch more SDs in fl? Just curious; I always figured it was an urban legend of sorts.

  146. Natasha says:

    miami

  147. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Where in Florida do you live Natasha? I am in Fl too

  148. Natasha says:

    now i just met this multimillionaire. we clicked well. hes young, handsome and rich. i cant ask for more. he is new on this sort of thing, which i guess it is a good thing. we both arent experienced. i am the first sb he has met.

  149. Natasha says:

    i had a second chance with a surgeon but i made a big mistake. once he met me he wouldnt stop calling me so he kind of made me feel comfortable. I started asking him questions and apparently he didnt like it so he cut me and thank god it was before our second date

  150. Natasha says:

    i actually was chicken with the first guy i talked wit he was 47 and i was 22, he lived i texas and i in florida…he put up with me for 2 months trying to convince me i would be safe with him…he got mad and told me he learned money cant buy everything and soon after that he gave up..now is that i realized he really liked me and i know for sure i would have been safe with him.

  151. Sugarbabytoday says:

    lol yes you did i have been a member of this site for about a year and a hald now and had some potentials I had a great guy it seemed we talked on the phone several times last year unfortunately in my situation it didn’t pan out because I had to jump on a plane for my grandfather’s funeral and then didn’t pursue this site any further until about 3 weeks ago

  152. Natasha says:

    I know sweetie…if there is anything u need help with u can ask me…i guess i made the big step first…lol

  153. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Natasha last night there were only 3-4 of us talking and were in the same situation we haven’t really had an sd yet so unfortunately we don’t want to give you advice when we aren’t experienced sorry

  154. Natasha says:

    good night lisa and thanks

  155. lisa says:

    Good night Sugarbabytoday. Hope to run into everyone tomorrow late afternoon.

  156. Natasha says:

    yes raine i was here yesterday but the girls last night had no idea what to say about my situation

  157. lisa says:

    Natasha, has he mentioned anything about an allowance or spoiled you with shopping or anything? Starbucks is ok but it’s not exactly sd dating. If you feel good about it, go for it but don’t let him get you alone anywhere or get initimate with him if he hasn’t proven he’s legit. There are many ladies that get intimate with potentials and end up being used because the sd isn’t legit.

    Have a good night everyone. Gotta go

  158. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hey Lisa, have a great night sorry I missed you!

  159. Natasha says:

    he wrote me an email today saying he had so muh fun and asking if we were still on next week and i said yes but im not sure if i should kind of ask him what are the plans for next week. I know for sure it will include sex but b4 the sex i want to go out first. how can i break that to him? any ideas….and also we did not speak about the arrangement? all he said he decided to sugar date because he broke up with his girlfriend and a sb would be a good thing for him and he likes the idea of helping someone that might need it because he has the money to do it.

  160. raine says:

    You do the same, lisa: drag yourself to the happy, or at least content. *lol*

  161. raine says:

    Hi, Natasha. Your story sounds vaguely familiar; were you here earlier today at the latest? Was there a specific area you needed help in that you couldn’t find in the blog archives?

    I really do wish I could help you, but I’m green here myself (you are waaay ahead right about now). Lisa, whatcha got?

  162. lisa says:

    He’s a professor at the university. Lives in my area on the good side. He lives in an apartment though and isnt’ flashy at all so I don’t know. He’s sweet but it just bothers me how he stares at me constantly and his eyes blink nonstop. He’s very skinny too. I will keep him in my “in case of emergency break glass” catagory. I told him I have a boyfriend and that my daughter lives just for extra caution. that way if I ever did decide, he wouldn’t be at my place. Just a thought, not planning on anything.

    I’m going to go now. Going to call my friend soon as her calls are free after 9. Have a good night. I have to work all day tomorrow.

  163. raine says:

    He may be the one who’s learned the latest rain dance or has a doppler radar in his garage! That’s the beauty of the “glass case”: emergency or no, you know it’s (he’s?) there when needed.

  164. Natasha says:

    Hello to all,
    I have decided to sugar date. I am totally new at this and need advice. Monday I met my SD and we got along well. hes the whole package and more than what i expected. He showed me his offices on our first date and ended up at starbucks that night. that night he ended it with a kiss and told me straight up I am beautiful and he wants me. next week we have plans on meeting again but i dont know what to do. can someone please advice me.

  165. lisa says:

    my pictures aren’t very good as they are self taken with a cellphone camera. It’s not like I can tell my daughter to take her camera with her to work and when I meet her, take some good pics of me for my profile, lol

    I have taken the incentive to do what the sds do to me, I add favorites and then I don’t contact them, lol

  166. raine says:

    That’s the ticket! Shoot, pretend you’re looking for a golden ticket (with a SD attached, no less).

    **confession alert: I can’t send emails yet (no pics; dang, it hurts my heart to even say that! Will whip up some in the next couple weeks, even I gotta take some myself), but do mark faves as I go.

  167. lisa says:

    I guess he would have but he was very shy all around. Shopping was very fun because he just followed me and let me pick out what I wanted. I had a date with another one a week later and he kinda told me what stores to go to and picked out something which was nice but not very practical for my everydaylife. I did get to get some nice makeup though which I picked. He also bailed on me. I had the reciepts so I was able to go back to the stores and exchange the stuff for something I liked better. Nothing was expensive but for example I exchanged some shoes I wouldn’t where as they were high heels for some cute necklaces and a belt. But that was months ago, i’m in a draught now. Well I do have the option to make a hundred dollars per meeting , lol. He’s a geek but then again i’ve seen him around for about 8 years , especially way back before 2006 when I worked at the mall. lol

  168. raine says:

    Yeah, sweep up a little sugar dust while you’re there.

    Hmmm…I can understand the undies and whatnot, but uh, you got body wash. He probably would’ve panicked big time if you got a matching loofah, huh?

  169. lisa says:

    sounds like a great idea, a state a day, in alphabetical order. I mean what are they going to do, not respond to our emails, lol

  170. raine says:

    Again, their reasoning truly defies logic. That just gave me an idea: comb every state and/or country I can think of in alphabetical order!

    Somebody HAS to turn up. Heck, just make a game of it.

  171. lisa says:

    what I thought was so funny about the solicitation thing today at starbucks was the fact that I kinda go to the galleria to maybe channel the sd gods. As I said 2 of the last 3 times I went there, I had a date with a very generous man a few days later, one was the first date with a boyfriend, the other was the sd from Dallas
    the last trip in November was fruitless and having this guy I met from another site years ago coming up to me like that was funny. I would normally be offended and creeped out but it just sounds funny getting that kinda offer, kinda like the trip channeled it, not the way I wanted though
    Just kinda funny

  172. lisa says:

    I once had a potential fly down from Dallas, book a hotel for himself and meet me for lunch and shopping. He just stood back and let me shop. He was very sweet but so shy to be a married man with children. He was going through a divorce at the time. When I went into Victoria’s Secret to buy bodywash, he was embarrased. He dropped me home and dinner was discussed and then he just bailed. Called and said he overslept which was kinda ok for me because I was so tired from the excitement of the day but I was hoping to spend the next day with him but he waited till I got home to call. Never heard from him and he took down his profile soon after that. I guess he wasn’t into it, just a nice guy maybe.
    No luck with any traveling sds since then.

  173. raine says:

    Yeah, wouldn’t hurt to get out occasionally, of course. I mean, what’s a couple dozen (or hundred) miles for the local? He’d save a bundle on airfare and would only need a few bucks or so for gas…I don’t know, that’s how I see it.

  174. lisa says:

    There aren’t alot of sds in Houston, well paying ones, mostly just those that join free and never log on again. I’m contacted all of them that were withing reason (I didn’t contact the younger ones of course or the kinky ones) and I have tried the ones in Austin and Dallas (which seems to be where most of the Texas sds are). None of them can travel here and the ones that I have contacted from the surrounding states of Louisiana, Arkansas, NewMexico,etc travel to other Texas cities but they don’t seem to ever come to Houston. I would and cannot travel to meet a stranger. I wouldn’t mind occasional one day trips once I got to know the sd, but first meetings have to be on my turf. When I have a bad date locally, I know I can leave and come home, in another city, i’d be stuck.

  175. raine says:

    Wait a second…LOCAL SDs are saying this to you?! That’s just lazy and despicable! [I wish they would say that to me…] okay, now I’m mad! Let me take a deep breath…better now.

  176. lisa says:

    I enjoy being in most evenings after working nights for over 10 years, it’s nice to be in before 10 pm but I would like to get out a night or two, have dinner, shop, see the nighttime skyline of the city.

  177. raine says:

    Shoot, I’m used to being in; shouldn’t be, though. Our luck will change soon enough…

  178. lisa says:

    Lisa’s goal for April: Meet potential sds.

  179. lisa says:

    I have tried to do alot of self generated emails lately but it seems no one responds. The occasional response I get if I get on is always an excuse about the distance, even if they are in my state and talk about loving to travel, they will not come to me.

  180. raine says:

    Hmpf. lisa, I thought it was just me; I just don’t get it! I gotta resume browsing myself…

  181. lisa says:

    they all have lives, lol it’s sad to be stuck in on friday night

  182. raine says:

    Dang, forgot to delete the extra “a”.

    Anyone else in here? I know it’s Friday, but still…

  183. lisa says:

    It was boring for me most of the time. I spent 3 days in a roll stuck at home, worked a couple days, had a nice outing today, have to work tomorrow all day. Sent out lotsa emails but no messages. The one that did respond a few days ago never answered my last message and his profile has expired today. I was reading through some random sd profiles and found alot of hostility in some of them. Like no I won’t come to you, you must be available at moment’s notice, don’t expect me to spend or give you money, etc. makes me wonder what they are doing on this site. Most of us have lives, even if it’s just a menial job like mine, I can’t just take off anytime at moments’ notice, and most college students can’t either. And if they don’t want to spend money, they need to find another website.

  184. raine says:

    Hmmm…looks like a this was a slow week all around.

  185. lisa says:

    Hi I’m back. Just have to keep the updates on my laptop even though I don’t use it much anymore.

    Boring evening.

  186. raine says:

    …anybody home? 😐

  187. lisa says:

    i’m going to log off for a while so I can hook my internet up to my laptop for security updates and windows updates. be back later

  188. lisa says:

    I am emailing the really old ones, well old for me, 60+. I try to write something nice although I don’t sent so much of a detailed on anymore as I’m tired of wasting my keystrokes on guys who don’t even write back. I would have more respect for them if they didn’t read my message, if they take the time to do that, they could at least say “no thanks” or “you’re ugly” or something.

    I will never know the details of what happened here to it gets on the news (it probably won’t make the news) or until the police statistics come out next month. I didnt’ even know about the dead man in the pool for over a month and I used to do my laundry at the room right next to the pool.

  189. raine*306712* says:

    [Oh my, hope the girl’s ok. Sounds like domestic.]
    The emails: you never know, lisa; one (or both! Ooh, the plot thickens!) of them just might respond!

  190. lisa says:

    Hi everyone. Well action is over and I still don’t know exactly what happened. The ambulance took a girl away in the ambulance that was bleeding from her side it looked. A few minutes later, a woman was brought out in handcuffs. I guess I will have to wait to see if it is on the news or on the police news when it updates. Had a quick thunderstorm here, one of those where the sun is shining but it’s raining hard.

    I just sent 2 more messages out to potential sds, 2 more to never be answered I presume. My return rate is 0%.

  191. raine*306712* says:

    Hi and welcome, SouthernGirl! *bearhug* good to hear we’ve been a huge help to you. Stick around, take a load off.

  192. raine says:

    No way, Jasmine; my daughter & I were on the bus. We’ve been home for a minute now.

    OPOV, I’m afraid you’re right for the most part, but your inquiry just might drag a few more SDs out of the shadows. Here’s hoping as such at least…
    As for your fellow SDs’ profiles, the ones I’ve seen thus far don’t take kindly to SBs like myself.

  193. SouthernGirl says:

    Thanks for the welcome, OCSugarBaby!! I stumbled onto SA about a month ago, and I was FULL of questions about how a SD/SB arrangement ACTUALLY worked. You know, who meets whom, where it happens, how to discuss travel arrangements, etc.

    Y’all have really helped clear up a lot of my questions, so thanks to everyone on the blog for being so forthcoming with information!! Although, I must admit…in the end, I usually just work things out in my own unique way!! :-)

  194. OCSugarBaby says:

    Welcome SouthernGirl! :)

  195. SouthernGirl says:

    I’m really new to the SD/SB thing…been lurking on this blog for a while too!!

    Just wanted to say hello!!

  196. OPOV says:

    I really don’t think guys care. After all, we are not really looking for some life-changing relationship; we are looking for something good that will last for as long as it’s viable and enjoyable. Since the SB’s look at our profiles, how many have you come across that says “If you are married, don’t even think of contacting me!” or the ubiquitous “No Marrieds!”?

    Maybe it’s just me but I think there are far more important aspects to sb compatibility than her relationship status.

    Would like to hear some SD perspective too. (don’t know if that is possible being that there are less than 5 sd’s that post here regularly)

  197. Jasmine says:

    Raine ur driving and bloggin at the same time?

  198. raine says:

    Not too shabby, Jasmine; brrr-ing as we speak. Almost home, though.

    Honestly, OPOV [hi!], I haven’t as much as a punchline for this one; Cat’s [hi] theory sounds about right.

  199. OCSugarBaby says:

    OPOV: You are heading into the grey area. We can not tell you why an SB would state single they are in fact married. They made a clear choice when checking the box. My FEELING is that they may have the impression that the SD would not want to spoil them if they are married. The SD would feel like the allowance would help support their husband. I have read many SB profiles (kind a fun to check out what SD’s are reading) that state that the SB is married and that their allowance would be separate from their normal daily bills, example for spa days etc…

  200. Cat says:

    OPOV: I think most men are put off by seeing “divorced” on an SB profile. And in my case, how cute would it look to be a 22yr old divorced SB? Makes you think…what the heck was she thinking?

  201. OPOV says:

    Would anyone comment on why a woman would list herself as single if they are married or divirced when it would be considerably more acceptable from a SD’s perspective than a married man from a SB’s perspective? Really, just curious. Now that I am back searching, I have met a few ladies whose relationship status is not accurate. Like to hear from the ladies why you would do that if most men I believe really wouldn’t care

  202. OCSugarBaby says:

    OPOV: Gotcha, understood. I have to say that some SB’s blog’d that they want want want want want. It drives me insane to hear that type of behavior being displayed by an SB. The other side of the coin is when SD’s also have a one track mind. The blog is a wonderful tool but some days it down right cracks me up. The concept of Sugar dating is very clear, it just has grey areas when it comes to the personal drives and needs of each person involved. You get it! ~OC :)

  203. lisa says:

    ok 3 police cars and a firetruck and ambulance just drove up to my apartment office, I’m going to see what happened. Be back

  204. Jasmine says:

    So do I lisa but its not freezing and cold! Brrrr!!! :)

  205. Alicia*299952 says:

    Hi all – hope everyone’s Friday is going good…..don’t have any sugar stories to share as of now =)

  206. Jasmine says:

    I’m good raine you? :)

  207. lisa says:

    I love Chicago although I haven’t visited in 25 years, great city. I would gladly trade our warm weather (and really through in the scorching summers) to live in that great city again. Everything in Houston is so spread out that you can’t get to it on a bus very easy. I love Chicago

  208. OPOV says:

    And these are the types of people I am trying to avoid.

    (sorry, hit send too soon. D’oh!)

  209. Jasmine says:

    Thanks lisa I need the warm weather! I hate chicago weather! And what’s bad about it we might not be done with it yet! I hope it doesn’t snow tomorrow night.

  210. raine says:

    Yay, lisa! I knew you’d get your package before the month ended!

    Hi, jasmine! How’s my summer/winter/constructionland neighbor doing?

  211. OPOV says:

    OC, I never said there weren’t. My observations are that quite a few people on this blog complain that many guys just want to have a relationship. I am pointing out that there are quite a few women looking for same. Like what some have mentioned, some people here dont quite grasp the concept of sd/sb relationships.

  212. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi Opov,
    Yes, I have the exact mixed feelings when a woman writes he is married and her husband knows and supports her in this.
    I would not even touch her with a pole.
    For me it is a red flag, blackmail lies ahead of me is my gut feeling.
    On the other hand, there are couples who like “cruising”.
    They are both on the look out for for a sex date outside marriage.
    Now there is this extra thing involved, sugar me !
    It feels like pimping.
    For the rest I do not have any experience with married women.
    You know that in rhyming slang by a cockney (Londoner) a wife is called “trouble and strife”.
    And naturally for every man who has an illicit affair there is one woman.
    Not much difference on both side of the fence, I guess.
    HenriLouis

  213. lisa says:

    Percy says hello OC

    I had another young pigeon and his mother stop by for my handouts. Now there’s a squirrel that stops by too. Now to find out what to put out on my porch to attract a sd, hum

  214. OCSugarBaby says:

    OPOV: I think each SB or SD is looking for something different. However I need to stand up and defend the norm of single SB’s. I for one am not looking to grab the golden ring. We each have a story and will eventually find that perfect or near perfect fit. Round peg square hole theory. If you find someone who is compatible and the chemistry is amazing maybe the imperfections are less important.

    OC’s Humor Below…

    SB Myth’s Exposed:
    Not all SB’s are under 30
    Not all are secretly married
    Not all SB’s have Boyfriends :)

  215. raine says:

    Butterkisslips, you just got here!! As a fellow newbie, I refuse (REFUSE, ya hear!?) to let you do that! His loss, not your fault. Rejection happens on both sides.

    Seriously, though, if you need to step back for a second, that’s fine, but don’t take it personally (see above).

    One more thing: you understand that typing all caps implies yelling, right?

  216. lisa says:

    Yaaaaa the mailman finally brought my package!! She didn’t even knock, just threw it at my door. Got my new clothes now.

    I’m sending you some warm weather Jasmine but I think I will need some myself as it’s supposed to get down into the upper 30’s or 40’s in the morning this weekend and I have to be out at 7 am to go to work. The rain is finally gone for awhile though.

  217. OCSugarBaby says:

    Happy Friday Lisa Penelope and Percy! :)

  218. OPOV says:

    Hello all

    I have a question for NC about your approach concerning married women and a comment or two as well:

    In my profile I mention that I prefer someone who is committed, either married or otherwise engaged as there would be no expectations to arise out of our relationship. Yes, sb’s too are on here looking for a relationship and hoping to grab on to that golden ring, and that is a delicate mine field some of us navigate because it could be fatal to our own lives, as it were. I love a woman who is sneaking around on her significant other just as many married men here are as guilty of, but I get a few emails from married women who after reading the profile feel it is ok to contact. The thing that I notice more and more is that they keep telling me that their husband is ok with it – “even helped me write this profile”. Is it just me or does that kinda creep some people out that her husband not only encourages her but actively supports her activities. Does anyone else feel like he’s just pimping her out? I get an image of meeting a lady someplace and her husband dropped her off and is waiting downstairs.

    Married men vs married women: NC’s comment about his email fan brings up something else: why is it viewed ok if a married woman is looking for a lover but a married man is “generally” considered scumbag (loose description). Is it because men have generally always sought out sex outside of marriage (and viewed as bad) but if a married woman is looking then viewed as a woman just taking control? Is it because men are less judgmental concerning affairs then women? I don’t know if I speak for the majority or not, but I prefer a committed woman for the reasons expressed above. To me it is safer. But why do many women list themselves as single when they really are married or divorced? (Before any sb’s jump all over me about men lying about their status, remember that cheating, married men are viewed differently than cheating married women.)

  219. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi OC fairymother of the blog,
    “To see or not to see, that is the question”.
    Will I ever see them again ?
    Patience is a great virtue and I have lots of it.
    Congratulations on you new home !
    Home is where the heart is and I am sure you will be happy there.
    Hi Raine, of course I am laughing. Nobody can take this evening away from me.
    Butterkisslips, I can understand your emotions.
    You did your best to attract his attention, but he shrugs you off.
    Of course it is very unsettling. Your hopes are dashed in.
    Breeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaath deeply !
    Keep your head up !
    You do not need to be strong for this, just realistisc.
    Just continue your search.
    Any moment now.
    He mighty be lurking just around the corner.
    A consoling buttered kiss on your lips,
    HenriLouis

  220. Jasmine says:

    Cold day here in chicago,and plus what’s heading here tomorrow great!

  221. lisa says:

    Hi Jasmine, Hi OC, Hi Henry

    warm gloomy day in Houston, very nice.

  222. Jasmine says:

    Good afternoon everybody!

  223. lisa says:

    of course I will keep the man’s business card as I have learned to never say never. Not what i’m looking for but I got a lot of expenses coming up with my daughter’s birthday and graduation, etc.

  224. lisa says:

    Hi OC

    Elizabeth, I just looked at your profile. I would recommend leaving out the part about your ex husband. Also maybe just put single in your status since this isn’t a site for finding a husband or a longterm serious relationship, as long as you aren’t living with your ex, then you are single in the sd world. And the financial difficulty part too, as I have done the same thing myself. Unfortunately the term sugardaddy seems to be changing and it seems there are no men who want to actually help a woman who is struggling, they all seem to want a woman who is well off financially that just wants some spoiling. I think it is a product of the general attitude of men today, they don’t want to really help a woman, chivarly is long dead. I know of a woman that was a friend of someone my mom used to work for who was in bad shape, couldnt’ even pay her credit card, lived with her mom, etc, and she met a rich man who bought her a house, a new car, and got her back on track. Of course this was back about 15 years ago and I don’t know how the woman is doing today. It was kinda a fairy tale story though.

  225. BUTTERKISSLIPS says:

    JUST GOT BLOWN OFF BY A POT FEELS REJECTED, WHAT U THINK SBS GIVE UP, I GUESS I THOUGHT I WAS STRONG FOR THIS BUT AM NOT

  226. OCSugarBaby says:

    Henri: I have no idea what you said. Except I think you had a great time. I got tangled in your words. Do you think you will see them again?

    NC: Hi there! Yes, we are doing well. Suthrn is off on a guys outting, outdoors chasing a little white ball around is very relaxing! I am well, my move to my new apartment went well. A little bruised and tired but so very happy I did the move. Hmmm married SB’s telling tales of being single? Shame it happened more than once. I am thinking of a question you can pose to drill to the truth. However if someone wishes to lie, they will lie. Enjoy your weekend! ~OC

  227. raine says:

    Great to know you’re laughing and taking this in stride; we all need the occasional chuckle. 😀

  228. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    Hi Raine,
    Yes.
    Sometimes just the word Wow sums it up.
    There are not many moment in my life I can look back on and say Wow.
    But this one. Yes sure.
    Perhaps it is also because of the fact, that life brought me some experience and insight.
    This way I am ready for the miracle.
    I really believe you have to walk the road of life for a considerable distance in order to realize all this.
    Hope they understand what that is.
    Have not heard from them since.
    HenriLouis

  229. lisa says:

    It’s funny too because the galleria has 3 starbucks and is a huge shopping center with 3 floors and twice I have ran into someone I knew, we just happened to be at the same place at the same time in that big mall and this big city. I only go there about every 3 months which makes it more weird. I got to the mall down the street from me every week and never run into anyone I know.

  230. lisa says:

    It was actually kinda funny. I always have an interesting time when I go over to the galleria. I only go after every 3months and never have money to shop but just have a coffee. I just thinks it funny after being on this site, to run into this guy I talked to years ago on a regular site and get a solicitation offer, after all I can’t even get that on this site. Any guy who contacts me on here wants freebies. Very interesting day , odd but interesting and I’m laughing now.

  231. raine says:

    Dang, lisa, sorry you got pulled over. More than enough to make me shake my head, though. World’s shrinking smaller by the nanosecond, I see.

  232. lisa says:

    Sorry I can’t get my entire story into one message and still lost most of it for now reason do to M O D s

  233. lisa says:

    He’s a college professor in his 40’s. Geeky and odd. I just find it funny to get this kind of offer and to run into him in that huge shopping center, odd after being on this site, lol

  234. lisa says:

    I used to see him years ago in a deparatment store I worked at. He contacted me a few years back on another dating site, I decided not to meet him as he gave me the creeps

  235. lisa says:

    ok I will try to post this with out all the essantial information. I was at starbucks today and some guy offered me 100 dollars a visit to be his personal assisant. I thought this was funny. I know this guy from awhile back but the blog won’t post my detailed post, its’ under mod

  236. raine says:

    Henri: WHOA. WOW. Uh…I have some more words in here somewhere. Oh yeah:
    It’s great to read you had an exquisite time! Again, WOW.

  237. lisa says:

    First of all some info. Back a few years ago when I worked at a department store, there was the this kinda weird man that used to come in and smile at me. A couple years later when I was doing regular online dating, he contacted me and I recognized him right away and I think he recognized me. He is a college professor for the Univeristity of Houston. Anyway he was kinda strange and although we talked on the phone, I backed out from meeting him. Just that gut feeling. Last year I ran into him at the mall down the street (he lives in the area) and he asked me to get a coffee, I told him I was dating someone, which I was at the time.
    I had just got to the Galleria today and stopped at one of the 3 starbucks in the center. It’s a huge shopping mall with all the upscale stores. I got my drink and sat down at a little table. I turned around and there was that guy and he came up to me and said hi and sat down. He’s reallly geeky but friendly and I was just in a chatty mood and didn’t think any harm in talking to him as I couldn’t exactly just ignore him. We talked for a while, well I talked and listened and kept looking into my eyes (creepy). I was trying to end the meeting as I wanted to go get some lunch and look around. I said I had to go and then he told me he was in need of a “personal assistant” and he would pay me 100 per meeting and it would be tax free. He gave me his business card. I told him I would think about it, not really , just to get rid of him. I thought this was funny because I went to the Galleria to wake up the sd gods to send me a sd. 2 of my last 3 trips brought me luck in the same week, one was a new relationship with a man who took my birthday shopping the same day and another was a sd from this site that contacted me that he would be in town later that week, and he took me shopping. Last trip was fruitless. And today although this is not what i’m looking for, it’s just interesting and weird. Anyway I found this to be really weird that in that big shopping center I run into him and get an offer like that, very odd and ironic since it had nothing to do with this site. He is a sweet guy but as I said kinda weird.

  238. lisa says:

    Hey am I the only one who can’t post a comment? I had a very interesting day and it won’t post

  239. lisa says:

    I am getting moderated. Why??

  240. HenriLouis*294522 says:

    DUENDE
    Duende is the essence of flamenco. Literally it means “elf”or “ghost”. It is a force that is created in enchantment. By the occurence of sounds, words and gestures Duende is born. You can feel Duende. It announces itself and grows and explodes . It was there on the first day DUENDE.
    At the beginning of the evening, I met them in the lobby of the hotel and instantly we knew it would work.
    Twins they are but not identical, but very different, in voice and body language and posture.
    But the eyes are the same, soft with kindness, like those of a roedeer.
    As I was new to their home town, I let them choose where to go for dinner. Not far away and a cosy restaurant in a cellar. We ordered a meal and some wine and mineral water and started to talk. There is nothing better than to create friendship and chemistry over a nice meal.
    Within minutes I had them lose all tension by my presence.
    So we exchanged family histories and studies and travels and life itself and expectations about a future lives, they were going to carve out for themselves.
    We went back to the hotel. I had brought a nice card with roses for each of them and filled it with a overgenerous amount of sugar.
    To honour them I gave it right from the start.
    In God we trust, all others pay cash.
    They work in a spa wellness centre and had a surprise for me.
    Giving me an expert massage of my back. I almost fell asleep, so relaxing.
    The bed was large and comfy. They are so incredibly beautiful.
    We kissed and then there it is DUENDE.
    Angels sing and take us into seventh heaven.
    We are in the twilight zone, created with loving kindness sprinkled with some lust.
    There is also humour and laughter: Hey, what are you doing with my girlfriend. I respected them in all their wishes.
    This was their first time, and to be together in this, was for safety and comfort and encouragement. It was also my first time with an SB.
    It is a wonderful part in my life !
    I feel grateful, that I am the chosen one.
    And I believe they are also lucky to have met me in this arrangement.
    I would not have missed it for all the riches in the world.
    Next morning they have to leave early.
    “If I could put time in a bottle, I would like to share it with you “.
    My guardian angel and their guardian angles must have had a get-together and conspired to make this happening possible.
    As far as I can foresee it is the only meeting we will have.
    We stand in a circle and something goes round.
    It is Love. We are not allowed to keep it forever and must pass it on.
    The great understanding of life lies in the recognition, that one day it will be there again. You must be aware and savour the moment.
    At dinner I told them this.
    I am fully aware it has come my way again, that evening.
    Thus I created DUENDE.
    MagicalHenri

  241. raine says:

    You too, NC.

    Okay, who’s still here? Since I’m here, I’ll try to answer the questions…

    1. Sugartale: hmm…nope, nothing.
    2. Avoid the rhymes-with-snitching at all costs! You’re there to help each other take a load off, forget about the troubles for a while.
    3. I’m unable to move out until August at the earliest. Because I want success on this site, details are not forthcoming. How’s that for stress?

  242. Elizabeth says:

    time for me to get ready for work…will be after midnight…if not after 1 in the mornin Texas time before I get home. Take care everyone and have an amazing day…

  243. NC Gentleman says:

    Some local, alledgedly single woman, sent me an email that she thought it was despicable that a married man was on SA. glass houses and stones comes to mind…

  244. NC Gentleman says:

    Ok — I have to get a letter out and then head to the gym. I hope everyone has a great weekend!

  245. raine says:

    No problem, NC: it was gonna happen eventually as I can’t stay away (ha!), stress levels notwithstanding.

    Re: finger-wagging email. Now you have another one whose house is smudged with fingerprints (virtually) aiming at your solar panels, huh? I don’t suppose this one is also married?

  246. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Ok all sugars! i’m off i have to finish typing this document…. blahhhhh document at that.. my head is spinning from it lol
    talk to you all soon

  247. Elizabeth says:

    thank you NC. I guess you could tell I was trying to keep it as real and honest as possible. I know I personally would want honesty and in turn would want total honesty with the gentleman in question. Once again, thank you.

  248. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    NC watch out ladies …. lol nc is in the house

  249. NC Gentleman says:

    Thanks Beach — I am a veritable married chic magnet lol

  250. NC Gentleman says:

    you are welcome Butterkis :)

    Hi Elizabeth — I like your profile, but I would take out the info regarding your personal transportation issue…. he doesn’t have to know that and maybe you can work around that somehow, but that is something that can be discussed after he gets to know the awesome you!

  251. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    NC you are a cutie!!!

  252. NC Gentleman says:

    Beach-Gurl does indeed have awesome legs! brb Elizabeth — I am sooo goofing off this afternoon lol

  253. BUTTERKISSLIPS says:

    NC THANX U R A SWEET GUY, SHOULD BE MORE OF U HERE ,LOL

  254. NC Gentleman says:

    Yeah Raine — I had a bad feeling she wasn’t being truthful because we were just too comfortable talking on the phone for it to have been that. My bad feelings turned out to be right on ughhhhhhh sorry for bringing you out of lurking!!! lol

  255. Elizabeth says:

    not sure I have this right but I think it’s #312463

  256. raine says:

    Hi, sugar fans. how’s everybody doin’ today?

    *ahem* Dang it, NC, I was trying to stay in lurk mode until now! *lol* I just knew it wasn’t nerves on her part — anxiety, my butt! Humpf.

  257. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    NC i sent you my mail

  258. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    That is so funny, it wasn’t me lol

  259. NC Gentleman says:

    and ughhhhhh I got an email from a woman lecturing me about being married and being on SA — the timing is ironic lol

  260. NC Gentleman says:

    ill email u on SA Beach_Girl….

    Thanks Elizabeth — what is ur profile #?

  261. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Elizabeth~ NC is really a nice guy isn’t he
    too bad i’m too far :)

  262. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Nc i have a pic of me 3 years ago , but i have gained 15 pounds since
    if you wanna see give me your mail

  263. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    as it is for me too, it’s hard to find someone that is honest off the bat.
    i wouldn’t want to have multiple SDs of a BF
    just one is good…that’s all i need, i hate games..

  264. Elizabeth says:

    I just did an update on my profile as well and added another photo. I felt it needed abit of tweeking. NC, when you have a chance, could you please take a look at my profile and give me your honest opinion? I’ve observed how you respond to others and admire the way you handle both yourself and those you speak with. Thank you in advance…

  265. NC Gentleman says:

    if you have killer legs — let’s see those — I am a bootie guy followed closely by legs.. don’t really care about breasts that much — prefer real ones that are smaller – like a or b cup — as I said, I am not mainstream in my tastes :)

  266. NC Gentleman says:

    Yeah — I would have been fine with a married SB if she just would have been honest. My findings are that married SBs really can’t travel (as it surfaced) and that is what I am seeking. I am married and I don’t expect (nor think it would be fair) for an SB to be exclusive with me (unless we both discussed and agreed to that). Dishonesty is a deal killer for me.

  267. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    NC as for the 3rd photo , i just got a new dress and killer heels, and i do have really great legs, my best asset! i wanted to post a pic standing or something

  268. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    NC~ leather always gets the men

  269. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    NC that totally sucks! so sorry
    a lot of sugarsbabies are married or have boyfriends, or have multiple SDs plus BFs

  270. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    OCSugarBaby i’m trying Sugar Girl

  271. NC Gentleman says:

    Hi OC — hope you and SE are doing well. I found out why the woman from Texas bailed on me for skiing in Denver…. she is married (even though promised single) and her husband was asking a lot of questions about her leaving for a ski trip. I was super bummed that she lied :(

  272. OCSugarBaby says:

    Beach_Girl: Own it sister! You are a wonderful Sugar! Exude the confidence. ~OC

  273. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    lol, yeah 15 years does qualify me i think lol

  274. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    OCSugarBaby~ i don’t know if you’ve viewed my profile, but i do say that i have had an SD before , not details though

  275. OCSugarBaby says:

    Beach_Girl: I am sure you were a Sugar-extrodanair! :)

  276. NC Gentleman says:

    Yeah — you viewed me — that is why I had viewed your profile. You might want to get someone else’s opinion on the 3rd photo before you change it because my tastes are definitely not mainstream — I loved the first photo and it is what caught my eye when I saw that you had viewed my profile.

  277. OCSugarBaby says:

    Beach_Girl: I was just trying to say that I would not state that you were in a discreet SD/SB relationship in the past on your profile, talking about it via email later or if you feel it is something you want to disclose.
    I kinda hated when I read that they have had an SB in the past, I just want to figure that out or have it be known in a conversation not read in their profile. It can go either way, I like that they know how to treat and SB. But just because they have had and SB/SD relationship in the past does not mean they know how to treat one well! ~OC

    Hi NC! Happy Friday. :)

  278. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Thank you, NC
    i know I’m far, that is the complaint from everyone I’ve mailed!
    You really think the 3rd pic should be changed??? i like that pic but,,,, i guess i’d have to find another one then,
    You’re in North Carolina? I think i might have viewed you too

  279. NC Gentleman says:

    Hi Beach – I think your profile is well written and just fine. I don’t think the third pic is as flattering as another pic you might have, but that is just my opinion, and my tastes are definitely not mainstream. I had actually viewed your profile before and found it interesting, but your location was a deal killer. Others in Canada have had problems finding SDs also (and Europe too). Hang in there — you are attractive and upbeat — you will find someone, as you likely know.

  280. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Yes i completely understand NC
    i’m usually always positive, just inquisitive , curious about everything

  281. NC Gentleman says:

    I will look at your profile Beach-girl – an OC is right — just project a positive outlook and some interests and what you are seeking (besides a glossy term like fun and a monthly allowance). I am likewise shocked by the number of women on here who are looking for a single bf that is wealthy — don’t they have other sites for that? Also, if I am single, reasonably good looking, and wealthy, why would I pay for a gf??? just baffles me!!

  282. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    OCSugarBaby~ i am focused on the present SD, just curious as what a man would think of my profile, i only get mail from men that have explicit ideas so maybe it’s not portraying me well

  283. OCSugarBaby says:

    Beach_Girl: I dont think it is important as to what you have had before, it is what you are capable or willing of doing NOW. I feel less inclined to speak of past with a pot. Stick to general statements and make sure you project a positive outlook and focus on the pot not past SD. ~OC

  284. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    could you tell me what you think of my profile?

  285. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    well see to me an arrangement , in my mind, is with a married man… all the singles on here are looking for long term girlfriend type, i need my freedoms you know
    all the guys on here, ok not all, but most are looking for GFs
    i just don’t get it

  286. NC Gentleman says:

    I think any thing that indicates you would consider a married SD is good… I know I look for those clues in a profile :)

  287. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Hey NC should i write that I have had a really discreet SD before?

  288. NC Gentleman says:

    ooops discreet I meant lol

  289. NC Gentleman says:

    Good advice OC! I look for someone that can travel and if I see that in their profile, that is great. I also look for “can be discrete if necessary” Let’s me know they would consider a married SD :)

    Best wishes in your journey Butterkisslips!

  290. BUTTERKISSLIPS says:

    THANKS OCSUGARBABY WONDERFUL ADVISE NEVER THOUGHT OF THAT.

  291. OCSugarBaby says:

    ButterKissLips: Place a statement in your profile that you are willing to travel. Once you email them they will go directly to your profile to read a little about yourself. You can also state it in your email. I think that having a clear understanding about what you are looking for is important. But be flexible when possible. ~OC

  292. BUTTERKISSLIPS says:

    HOLA BABES AM NEW HERE HAVENT FOUND ANY POTENTIALS YET
    WOULD LIKE TO GET SOME ADVISE
    OK ITS LIKE THIS IF YOU LIVE FAR AWAY FROM THE SD HOW DO YOU LET KNOW ITS OK TO COME TO YOU.

  293. OCSugarBaby says:

    Sherri: How do you tell if they are sincere? That will take communication and the pot SD putting your comfort FIRST. You need to feel 100 percent comfortable in every aspect of the situation. Email communication is a start.
    1. They should provide you with enough information to validate their identity. You can provide what you feel comfortable with. Real name, off line email address (you can always block them if needed), I do not recommend giving out your phone number until you feel right about it.
    2. When you are comfortable that the time has come to set up a face to face meeting, meet in a public place. The pot SD should take the lead in coming to your location for the first meeting. However use your judgment and think it through before agreeing to travel to them. An SD who insists that they are just too busy to travel to you? Consider that information carefully and if you have chemistry and comfort factors on your side, then do what feels ok to you. Never put your safety last, it should be on the top of your list at all times!
    3. Sincerity comes from knowing what you want to put into and get out of this relationship and being able to articulate that. Just because you are a “newbie” does not mean you can jump into this and think you will find the answer to your prayers. Formulate what it is you are willing to offer them (availability, willing ness to travel, allowance or financial needs with validation) and communicate it in a clear manor. No games or keep them guessing. Put yourself in their shoes when it comes to wanting to know your sincerity.
    Have fun and if you have more specific questions, share them with us and we will try to help! ~OC

  294. lisa says:

    Wow where is everyone this morning? It’s seem when I work, everyone’s here, when I’m off everyone’s still in bed?? I’m off to the galleria for a latte and to feel depressed that I can’t buy anything.

  295. lisa says:

    Good morning. Slept late this morning and planning to go to the Galleria if I dont’ back out as i’m feeling tired and lazy this morning. I gotta go take a shower now as I sit naked at this computer (on of the perks of living alone, complete privacy, lol)

  296. IDidItForLove says:

    You should listen to BoA’s new song

    “Obsessed”

    ~I confess I’m obse~~~ssed~

    lol

  297. Elizabeth says:

    ok…time for me to rest…many blessings to all the SDs and SBs out there in cyber space

  298. Angela says:

    So I have 2 sugar tales. 1 good 1 uhhh not so much.
    1.First meet ever -Awesome , Awesome , Awesome!
    He shows up nicely dressed (albeit casual , but it had been discussed) in his benz.
    We met at SBX (no pressure) and chatted for a while before proceeding to dinner. We went to this fabulous seafood place downtown. Very classy and the food was amazing. After that we went to 6th street area (famous for live music) to enjoy some jazz. At the end of the night, I had trouble with my car (no tail lights) so it wasn’t safe for me to drive home. He got me a lovely hotel room at the M*****t. The next day he picked me up and took me to my car ! He was a perfect gentleman and treated me like a queen. We have talked since then!
    (He was from HERE)
    2. Second pot meet (ever) Frog-
    Shows up to our date in jogging suit driving a honda. We met at a chain restaurant. Never compliments me once the whole time. Then asks me if I am ready for a massage at the end of lunch.
    (disclaimer-this frog was not from here)
    When I wrote to him after our date to be honest about his 1st impression he got defensive and said we met there out of convenience for me and that he didn’t like wearing suits since he had to for many years….blah blah blah, excuse, ..blah.and he was just excited about giving me a massage and he didn’t mean to scare me.
    Then he says (too funny) that my allowance desired (2k a month) was half his income. (He had 1OOK–2OOK on profile ) but in his mail he says it is 1OOKgross and his net is less than 1OOK. But even so ……24k a yr is still NOT HALF. (Thinking of Eddie Murphy….EDDIE I WANT HALF!!!!) I am amused that he reports his gross income on profile.
    Now I’m not knocking those that make under 100K, some people manage money very well and that is nothing to scoff at but I feel he was grossly (pun intended) misrepresenting himself.

  299. Elizabeth says:

    hi Joules…good to see you tonight hon

  300. Joules*300035* says:

    hey Elizabeth

  301. Joules*300035* says:

    Sherri, I suggest that you start out by reading/browsing old blogs. beyond that, i know when a pot is sincere pretty much based on our exchange of initial email messages and his profile.

    what are they looking to hear? i dunno, i’m not them! i don’t really care what they WANT to hear, i’m going to be me 100% *shrugs*

    what works and what don’t? just depends; that’s kind of a broad question

  302. Elizabeth says:

    Sherri…I’m new as well hon so unfortunately I can’t really give advice except be yourself and be upfront and honest with any potential SD…there are alot of good men out there and honesty and communication are good starts…I know when and if I am so lucky, I can only be myself and treat him with the same dignity, respect and honesty he treats me…I do hope you find a nice SD and that he treats you well hon…

  303. Sherri says:

    I’m new to this whole thing. Can anybody give me any advise? I understand about being cautious and everything but, how do you tell if they are sincere? What are they looking to hear? What works and what doesn’t?

  304. Cat says:

    Hey Joules, congrats!

    I have been e-mailing back and forth with a pot. SD and we had set up a day and time to chat by phone, but he has delayed giving me his number twice now… and didn’t even e-mail to say that he wouldn’t be able to talk, which could be understandablebecause he was busy…but he never even apologized for leaving me waiting! He just suggested we reschedule and so I told him to tell me of a few times when HE would be availabe to talk, along with the number and that I would pick the time that was convenient for ME :) I know that sounded bitchy but I had to be straight up. I am not waiting by the phone for anyone.

    Sorry about the rant, but what would you have done?

  305. Joules*300035* says:

    anyone awake? i have the absolutely sweetest guy in the world crashed out on my couch!!! hahahaha

    even better though, i actually have a new pot SD!

  306. Elizabeth says:

    Good evening everyone…finally home after a long day at work…hope everyone is having a pleasant evening inspite of the foul weather…

  307. Atalanta says:

    Evening, sugar family! I hope everyone’s day was wonderful. It’s actually 1 AM here, but I’m still…er…”studying.” lol

    Do you have a sugartale you’d like to share?
    Hmm…not really. Maybe in a few weeks? We’re trying to plan a weekend to Europe since he’ll be working up there for a couple weeks. I’ll have major jet lag and what not, but I think it’ll be worth it.
    Keeping my fingers crossed!

    How do you keep the Drama out of an arrangement?
    Other than being treated well, I just try not to put too much pressure on him to call me, email me, etc. I know that when he has time, he will. SDs are busy men, so I can’t add more stress to their lives. He does the same for me, and always tries to help when he can.
    Also, I feel like there would be more drama if other people knew that I was dating a guy much older than me. So I definitely keep him pretty separate from my life. I’ve told close friends who I know won’t judge and will still love me, but other than that…no one else.

    Would you say you live under a high level of stress?
    Lol, yes. I’m trying to put myself through school, and do a lot of things while I’m here. it takes a lot of planning and much effort. Not very much sleep, a lot of headaches, etc. But this is pretty much what many of us go through daily, so if I can say this paid off at some point, then I’m happy. I won’t complain, because I know I’m lucky enough to have these opportunities.

    Oh, Lisa! I remember I saw on SD who was like a rocker on the site a while back. Haven’t been searching as of late, so I don’t know if he’s still on! lol Just thought I’d mention since you like the punk rocker look.

    SD mentioned an “awful” show about girls meeting millionaires while he was on a flight back to Atlanta….i.e. Millionaire Matchmaker! I told him I loved the show and everything else on Bravo. He said we were going to have problems. LOL. I wish I didn’t feel so guilty for watching TV when I talk to him haha. He hates it.

  308. Angela300373 says:

    Welcome new bloggers!
    (Mirrors on the ceiling…..pink champagne on ice..and she said “We are all just prisoners here….of our own device” .”Relax”, said the night man “We are programed to receive….)
    Sending Sugary thoughts to everyone.
    I tried to chime in Yesterday….got put in time out…LOL

    Every one thinks TX is all cowboys and oil rigs! I think it is funny. Everything that TV shows you about TX has cattle, horses, trucks, and cowboys. It is a fun game I play now anytime I see TX represented on TV I look for 1 cliche. There are usually several.

  309. Jasmine says:

    If anybody else is in here,good night and have a good TGIF tomorrow good night! :)

  310. Jasmine says:

    Good night sugar baby!

  311. Sugarbabytoday says:

    gotcha, thanks for the tip. Good night every one! Maybe we will meet again take care

  312. Jasmine says:

    Well I just found my son glued to the tv watching ratatouille.

  313. lisa says:

    Have a good night Sugarbabytoday. Please note though that there are alot of guys on here that will ask you to send a picture because they are picture collectors. I post 3 and never send any additional. If they want to see more of what you look like, they can meet you for dinner

    Have a good night. I’m going to go watch tv

  314. Sugarbabytoday says:

    oh well Lisa it was great talking to you but I am going to finish up on another site i am signing up for and I am going to bed 8 hours till i have to be at work TGIF have a great day off!

  315. lisa says:

    He was still on the site last time I checked (almost a year later) and even changed his identity and age, city, job , etc at one time. I emailed him on it as I had saved him to my favorites so I noticed the change immediately. He quickly got older and moved back to my city and shrunk in height. lol

    I can’t really get into a heavy conversation the first time I talk to a stranger, especially one like him that seemed to have no emotions or personality. He never laughed and asked me what days I was off, when I told him, he suddenly had to go out of town those days to visit his parents. Funny thing is he was online everyday several times, I guess while hanging out at his parent’s place, lol

  316. Sugarbabytoday says:

    haha ok I will have to ask some one else who has a picture up I hate this blank gray and white box

  317. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I don’t understand why some one who has never met a person would analyze some one, not a way to meet a SB if he continues that act

  318. lisa says:

    I think you got to gravator.com, not sure though as OCsugarbaby told me how to do it a couple months back, I’m not good at computer stuff so i’ve forgotten.

  319. lisa says:

    I once got a message from a guy in my city that sounded great. He gave his full name and I was able to google and see several webpages he was on and about his work. I got his adress from the google and he lived in a luxury condo in a really nice area, sounded great. However when we talked on the phone, he analyzed me, it was more like talking to an authority figure than a warm conversaton. He asked me long ended questions and I guess I didnt’ answer them right. I just get nervous when I talk to a complete stranger on the phone and I don’t have a lot to say. Plus he called me at a time I wasn’t expecting and I was doing something else and I just wasn’t focused.

  320. Sugarbabytoday says:

    that stinks about the guy who never wrote back… I have one guy that just wrote me late last night and I sent a pic like he asked but he hasn’t been on tonight… I hate that anticipation is a killer

  321. Sugarbabytoday says:

    haha i want to see who has saved my profile as a favorite. How do you get your picture on your msgs

  322. lisa says:

    taking mud shield down, lol I have a standard membership. Tried premium for one month, got many more views, a few flake responses but no more legit messages than I get now, which is currently a big fat “0”

    3 or the 4 meetings I have had from this site have been great, although nothing lasting, well worth my time, the 4th was a coffee date and the guy talked seriously about an arrangement and then never wrote back.

  323. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I don’t judge any one for what they do, so I won’t throw mud

  324. Sugarbabytoday says:

    gotcha, lisa are you a prem. member on here

  325. lisa says:

    through mud at me know as I must confess there have been occasions where I was with two different men on the same day, hours apart. But then again I’ve only had 3 relationships in the past 18 years, they just all happened to be in the past years, lol

  326. lisa says:

    There werent’ 3 at once, just two for short periods of time. I keep the lover because he’s a keeper and a good friend. I wouldn’t think of giving him up till I was solid sure I had something else that was going to last. I had the boyfriend and him for about 4 months and then a sd and him for about a month, the boyfriend and sd were several months apart. I just want one sd though. Since I see my lover during the daytime, the boyfriend was busy at work and never called whereas the sd was easy to deal with because it was casual and we seen each other in the evenings.

  327. lisa says:

    edit lookylou, sorry

  328. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Oh my Lisa, I know I could never do that while I would like to think I am some what intelligent I just don’t think I could keep all 3 of them straight lol some times I am a little to honest if we were on the phone I would say something to the affect of yeah I am going out with so and so not even thinking of who I am talking too haha I guess a little loose lipped when it comes to what I am up too

  329. lisa says:

    looklylou, sounds you are doing well, send some of that luck this way. I have been on this site forever and haven’t met anyone in almost 7 months. I did meet one guy a few days after joining and got some allowance a few days later.

  330. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Congrats lookylou that does give a bit of hope.Gotcha Jasmine, I guess the guy I was dating was just a little to clingy but it didn’t help that between him and I we knew or where known by most of our county him because he is a club promoter and me because I worked at a county facility that was frequented by most atleast once in their life.

  331. lisa says:

    It can be done, just have to make sure they have different schedules. I have had a lover for the past 4 years but managed to have a boyfriend for several months and a sugardaddy for about a month. The way it worked was that my lover is married and I see him weekly in the daytime whereas the boyfriend dated me in the evenings. My sd saw me after I got off work in the late evenings (back when I worked evenings). If you can keep each from knowing about the other by avoiding conflicted schedules, it could work. For example a married sd that could only see you during the day during the week and a boyfriend you see on weekends and evenings.

  332. Jasmine says:

    Don’t leave any trails behind! Sorry typo.

  333. lookylou says:

    Hello all –

    Had a nice date with my SD yesterday and thought it might give the SBs on here some hope. I started on the site in January. He’s the second man I’ve had a meeting with – the first guy, there was chemistry, but he was waaaay too busy – I had to do all the chasing.

    I met my SD on this site about a month ago and we’ve been meeting once a week for lunch dates. Yesterday was our third date and we finally were able to discuss the financial arrangement (I’m looking for 2000/mo, he said that was fine). He was a real gentleman about it – I was shy, but he insisted on talking about it and made sure we were both pretty comfortable with it. He even handed me a bit of a good-faith advance (200 dollars) right before I left.

    Just remember – it is possible! There are good SDs out there for all you beautiful SBs – polite men with money .

  334. Jasmine says:

    Well sugar baby,I’m not currently looking for a SD right now cus I’m with him,but to me,I try to keep it on the down-low,make sure he doesn’t cross paths with the other.or leave any trails behind.

  335. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Jasmine, do you still look for a sd while seeing this other guy? if so how does that work, I tried at one point but it seemed like it was going to be to difficult for me

  336. Jasmine says:

    Aww darn it just missed her.hope she reads it in the morning! :)

  337. lisa says:

    I think Gail is already tucked in bed sleeping, lol

  338. Jasmine says:

    Sorry gail!! I was on the phone with my b/f.if u get this yes I’m the one with the birthday coming up on april 1st and I live in chicago,illinois

  339. lisa says:

    I love a metrosexual man, lol

    Actually what i’m really attracted to is emo guys or punk guys that look like Billie Joe Armstrong in Greenday. They are too young for me of course and seldom sds.

  340. Sugarbabytoday says:

    lol this is true I like to look but never touch a cowboy! personally my type of man is a metro but for SD purposes I do like a business man preferably in the medical field so we have something in common and I can learn a lot from them but I will never know really until I get a few under my belt

  341. lisa says:

    Not me, I want to see a man in a nice business suit, nice shirt, tie, etc but the majority of Houston business men seem to dress more casually, golf or polo shirt rather than dress shirt. I prefer the dress shirt. I just can’t picture a man in jeans, boots, and a cowboy hat taking me to the Versace store. He would probably take me to boot town, yuck!

  342. Sugarbabytoday says:

    haha darn man…. always like to see a nice butt in wranglers.. darn my twin is wearing off on me lol

  343. lisa says:

    The only time I see a horse is if I go downtown and see the mounted policemen

  344. lisa says:

    Good night Gail

    Welcome Natasha, I haven’t had a sd date in months so I’m a little rusty on what to do

    Sugarbabytoday, I’m not sure about other parts of Texas as I have only been to Houston and the Rio grande valley, but my part of Texas is more like Central America than cowboys. My Texas is high in crime, gangs, traffic, way too hot in the summer. You might see a man dressed up in cowboy gear but it’s unlikely he’s actually a cowboy, lol

  345. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Natasha I would love to give advice but I have yet to meet a SD from here. Good luck to you though on your next date you will have to keep us up to date on how it goes… Listen to me.. I sound like everyone else now… it is taking my soul already hahaha thanks Lisa

  346. Sugarbabytoday says:

    good night gail, haha lisa you are funny.

  347. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I had the same impression of Texas too darn I no longer am excited about maybe one day going to see those cowboys haha

  348. Natasha says:

    Hi everyone,
    I have decided to sugar date. I am totally new at this and need advice. Monday I met my SD and we got along well. hes the whole package and more than what i expected. He showed me his offices on our first date and ended up at starbucks that night. that night he ended it with a kiss and told me straight up I am beautiful and he wants me. next week we have plans on meeting again but i dont know what to do. can someone please advice me.

  349. Gail says:

    OK….ladies…I am now officially not functioning…gotta get some rest….
    look forward to another day in our Sugar lives:) Have a nice evening!!!!

  350. lisa says:

    I think they are like the sds, hiding from me. lol I can’t even get the attention of a 65 year old sd.

  351. Gail says:

    Lisa…you crack me up…maybe you will start to see them once you go on your vacation…since you will be out of town:) and outside of your area finally.

  352. lisa says:

    I have never seen an oil well, not many cowboy hats in my area either.
    yeehaw

  353. Gail says:

    Are you the Jasmine whose birthday is April 1st?

  354. Gail says:

    Oh….two Jasmines….what are we gonna do now? Jasmine how are we to know you are you? What state are you in?

  355. Gail says:

    Yes…you are right…I am tired…I was up early this morning happy as can be…and I am slowing down.

    Lisa, when I think of Texas I just imagine oil wells and cowboy hats:) where are they hiding in Texas?

    Jasmiine….are you still up?

  356. lisa says:

    note to self: take kanye west’s Golddigger ringtone off my phone before any dates, lol

  357. Jasmine says:

    I think the golddiggin case is for the other jasmine not me.gail u okey?

  358. lisa says:

    Texas has way to few premium sd members and Houston has even less. The ones in other cities will not travel to Houston.

  359. Sugarbabytoday says:

    its alright Gail it is getting late and your fingers don’t want to work any more I got your point lol

  360. lisa says:

    I can type ok but I cannot handwrite. I print eveything and it’s not legible.

  361. Sugarbabytoday says:

    doesn’t that just aggravate you. The least they can say is not interested or something..

  362. Gail says:

    I cant type tonite…sorry….*now and *meet….
    I think I caught it from Southurn Exec…he had the same problem the other day.

  363. Sugarbabytoday says:

    sure is, while I would like the $ and gifts I will survive with out them as we all would. I just wish I could search by a more specific location rather than just a state. Man florida has way to many people on here…

  364. lisa says:

    The last 20+ emails I have sent out have been read but not answered

  365. Gail says:

    By the way Jasmine…what’s happening with the goldigger SD?

    Sugarbabytoday-Yes…it leaves you open for the better SD to knock on your door. I know know if they keep making excuses not to met to let them go…its such a waste of energy:)

  366. Jasmine says:

    Its okay gail,everybody makes mistakes. :)

  367. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Yeah I have answered all my mail and all of them have fizzled out and never got to a meeting point I was suppose to meet one this Sunday but he made some lame excuse about my location being an hour away yet when we first started texting and emailing he knew my location and distance and said he was interested. Oh well leaves me open for a great SD

  368. Sugarbabytoday says:

    haha that is funny, while I am glad I don’t work weekends I just wish I could have off Fridays. At first I joined only to see what it was all about since a radio station was talking about it, then I got an e-mail and was just going to meet the guy and see how it went but ended up my grandpa passed so I never met the guy ’cause I had to go to KY for a week and then just didn’t get back on for a few months and the trend has kind of continued on for a few off for a few but now that money is tight and I cannot find a second job well I figured I better get on here and see if I can find anything

  369. Gail says:

    Oh…maybe I have Jasmine…I am sorry…didn’t mean to. But I truly love your love story about your SD…it is so heart-warming. I just love a caring, giving man!

  370. Gail says:

    Sugarbabytoday…I am happy that your life has settled down. It now “me” time. I am glad that you have read the blogs and know that safety is very important here. Now all you have to do is find the right SD for you to have fun with:)

    LOL@Lisa…yes the blog is addictive…we are all addicts at times.

    You will find that there are great SDs and SBs that will be here to help and encourage you through your journey. Have you answered all of your mail yet:)

  371. lisa says:

    ok so that’s where my allergies went? Florida. I wondered why I haven’t had any problems in a long time, still got the same pack of allergy pills after 2 months and I usually use a box a week, lol

  372. lisa says:

    We all live a secret life on here. lol Being that I have to work on weekends in my job field (retail) I always make myself unavailable on fridays cause that’s my favorite day. I have made up exuses everywhere in order to not have to work fridays. At my current job I tell them I belong to a secret organization that I can’t speak of. It has nothing to do with this site cause I’m not getting any action, but it’s fun to put pull my coworkers’ chains. lol My family would die and my best friend still doesn’t get it and kinda looks down on women who get money from men. lol

  373. Jasmine says:

    Gail I think you got me mixed up with the other jasmine.

  374. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hey I will take it! Rain helps bunches, I never knew what it felt like to have allergies or sinus problems until about a month ago. They say if it will ever rain then it will help. They have reported that people who have never reported allergies are now suffering here in Fl how crazy!

  375. Sugarbabytoday says:

    haha ok maybe I should leave now and protect my soul? I just like that I can talk to other SB on here since I don’t know and won’t tell any one I know or around me that I am on here. The only person that knows is my twin sister who doesn’t live in the state and that is only for safety reasons in case I meet a SD I can tell her where I am going so if something happens she knows where I last was

  376. lisa says:

    I think I will stay away from the wildfires. Had a wildfire at my apartment complex a few months ago and I woke up a 2 am and the flames were shooting up in the office, looked like it could just jump to the next building at any time, but thanks to the work of the fire department (7 trucks) it was contained.
    I am sending you some nasty rain and hail. Doing it to be nice, though, lol

  377. lisa says:

    Glad to hear you have some time for you Sugarbabytoday. Good to hear your father beat cancer. The blog is addictive, it reaches out and steals your soul, you can log out but you can never leave, lol

  378. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Lisa you should come to Florida we have forgotten what rain is and are now remembering what wild fires are, yuck!

  379. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hi gail, yes I have been on this site for a while but have not been to the blogs “lurking, haven’t ever really had much time until lately to look at anything else on here but my mail everything in my family has calmed down for now and I can be at home more and not taking care of my father who just won his battle against cancer, my mother who just had surgery and my down-syndrome uncle

  380. lisa says:

    I hope the rain is gone tomorrow as I want to get out somewhere on my day off.

  381. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hey lisa glad to hear you are dry

  382. lisa says:

    Hi Gail

    Yes I’m making some coffee now and eating a bag of flavored tootsie rolls. I went to the 99cent only store which is going out of businesss this saturday. Mom wanted to stop and get some stuff after meeting my daughter’s teachers. One of her teachers has put her into some program where she could keep her job and work parttime and go to community college for free. Not sure if she will though and there is the transportation issue as the college is a few blocks from me so not in the best area and not on the bus line. Will have to wait and see

  383. Gail says:

    what about me?

  384. lisa says:

    Good evening Jasmine, Sugarbabytoday

  385. Gail says:

    Hi everyone:) I here!!! Jasmine, haven’t you been off and on for awhile now. It looks like your present SD is a keeper:)…..and a new one for you thats looking for a golddigger….how unusual…

    Welcome Sugarbabytoday…if you’ve been on the site for awhile…its time to stop lurking:)

    Hellow Miss Lisa. I am happy you did not get wet this afternoon:)

  386. Sugarbabytoday says:

    I am a newbie but here.

  387. Jasmine says:

    Hello lisa!

  388. Sugarbabytoday says:

    Hey every one, I am just reading these blogs for my first time been a member of the site for over a year now. I have yet to meet any one off of it but have also not tried to hard to keep up with my account until recently. I have had several messages from them but nothing has ever panned out. Some of y’alls stories on here are awesome I just hope that I will be as luck as you all.

  389. lisa says:

    Hi everyone. Just got back from going to my daughter’s school. My parents got drenched coming to meet me at the store but fortunately the rain had stopped by the time we left my job and they were able to dry out. Tired now. Still no messages from any of the sds I emailed.

  390. OCSugarBaby says:

    Jani-I would not call myself a “big momma”, just a sugar that can give you positive and sound advice. Hmmm Test them to see if they are financially serious? No Jani not a good road to go down with any pot SD. You need to express this to them but if you are not comfortable, write things out and sent it in an email form. You need to formulate what you want in this type of arrangement and be able to articulate it to the pot SD. You would want nothing less from them. They should be able to then state their expectations with you. It does not matter who does it first, just that it you communicate. Take your time and get to know them when the comfort level emerges it will be apparent to both of you that the other is REAL and communication is so very important. If you find someone which you have chemistry with it will flow and you can share things concerns with them directly. Trust me they are wondering the same thing about us… How to tell if we are real! Take a deep breath and enjoy the experience ~OC

  391. Jasmine says:

    I don’t know what to say jani,but u gotta ask the big momma’s on this one.

  392. Jani says:

    Hi Sugar babies, I need some advise!

    I just joined the site and I’ve met some interesting man. I’ve noticed that they are very agressive and they don’t waist any time to say what they want. I get intimidated and don’t know exactly how to deal with them or express what I want out of them.

    Also how can you tell if they are serious of providing financially. Any suggestions of how to test them?

    Thanks in advane for your help!

    Jani

  393. Jasmine says:

    What’s the nightmare? If u do mind telling it. :)

  394. miss G . says:

    Jasmine thats such a wonderful story!!!!
    i havent had a sugar tale yet! just a sugar nightmare so far hahaha!!!!

  395. Elizabeth says:

    As I am new here, I can’t say I have a SD/SB story to share. I do hope I can find a nice gentleman on here and I am a very patient woman so I suspect that when the time is right, I’ll find a gentleman worthy of me. I do know that I hope to give to them as much as they give to me for I do realise that there is a mutual need for companionship and caring. I have to go for now as work responsibilities call. Take care all until we speak once more.

  396. Jasmine says:

    Where did everybody go?

  397. Jasmine says:

    Have fun,be cautious,and did I mention to have fun? :)

  398. Mia says:

    Meh, I could be luckier. I message / phone talk / have dinner with some people and they’re CCcccRRRrrrrRRRaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAZZZZZZZzzZZZyyyyyyyy. Others are lovely, but just not for me.

    If he likes your writing, maybe you could write him something special one day. :)

  399. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Ahh Mia your lucky, my SD texted me finally again yesterday after a few days. Says he’s been super busy but wants me to send him more of my novels I’ve got in the works, lol. I think I may have my first fan. :)

  400. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Good morning everyone, hope everyone is having a good day so far.

  401. Mia says:

    I already have one, but I’m not sure if he’s my ideal, so I’ve kept my search open.

    I have a few SD dates coming up so far over the next week. :)

  402. Jasmine says:

    Well good luck in your SD search. :)

  403. Mia says:

    Jasmine, I agree.

    I have a few messages from different SDs to respond to today, so I will see what comes of the others.

  404. Mia says:

    – Do you have a sugartale you’d like to share?

    Not at the moment. Tired still.

    – How do you keep the Drama out of an arrangement?

    To put it simply, be upfront and honest; maintain my own life outside of an SDs.

    – Would you say you live under a high level of stress?

    Yep. I scramble to pay for everything for myself on my own – college, food, transportation – my mother and the rest of my family can’t help. I also made a few mistakes last year that I’m still working on fixing, which can stress me out.

    I also do a lot at my university – I’m on a few executive boards, and gearing up to be on more next year, organizing and researching my syllabus for teaching a class in the fall, and then just keeping up with my work. The avg. student here takes 4 classes most semesters. I’m taking 6 right now arghhhh.

    At the same time, I meditate, do yoga, sit outside, practice mindful breathing, etc. and am very organized, so although I have intense things to do, my schedule is still fairly free, and I rarely, if ever, lose my head or freak out. And what also helps keep me relaxed is the knowledge that this will be my hardest semester.

  405. Jasmine says:

    Mia that says red flags over it! :)

  406. Mia says:

    Exact initial message I just got from an SD:

    send me your yahoo screen name I am ready for you to start this week sexy :) wow

    —-
    Really? “Start”? Do you feel as though my profile is an application for me to be your personal escort?

    His profile is only two sentences. It says he would like someone to party with. I do not think he read my profile.

    Not to mention WHY assume that I am so desperate and/or rushing to snatch you up that I will actually respond to your imperative/command by up and sending you my contact info??? UM, no.

  407. Jasmine says:

    Good morning everyone!!

  408. Beach_Girl*306486 says:

    Jasmine~ lucky you lol
    i wish someone would want me just spoil me…. hopefully it works out for you

  409. Jasmine*308878 says:

    A pot. sd WANTS me to be a gold digger!
    He wants someone who’s superficial, high maintenance, gold digger mentality, trophy wife type, the whole nine…he wants a trophy wife! A wife! Being a gold digger – that is not me. It’s not my nature.

    Besides all that, he’s just what I’m looking for. [surprisingly] He’s young! He’s Cute. He’s upfront and honest. He doesn’t wanna rush things and have sex right away. He wants something long term. AND He hasn’t mentioned sex at all – that is a huge deal! I was honest with him about the whole gold digger thing but I think he’ll still be interested anyway…I’m waiting on his reply.

  410. Gail says:

    Good morning Sugar Lurkers and regulars!!!

    I woke up this morning…I am thankful for that. I had coffee too… I am thankful again..,it’s cloudy outside…but I am thankful that I am not out there yet. Oh….lattie daaaa…I love living:)

    Have wonderful sugar day!!!!

    P.S. I know you are all out there:)

  411. lisa says:

    Good morning everyone. Looks like the nasty weather will be here just in time for my outing after work. I am meeting my parents after work to go over to my daughter’s school for report card night. Unfortunately there is supposed to be hail and strong rain at that time. We will be walking and my dad walks with a walker so it’s going to be a very unpleasant wet evening trying to get around. Keep your fingers crossed that the rain holds off from 4-7 while we’re out or our evening will be ruined.

    Have a good thursday everyone.

  412. Joules*300035* says:

    just wanted to drop in for my final good night tonight lol
    i had a busy evening with work and emailed my SD a super-long email updating him on all that has been going on in my life since he is very busy at home and with deadlines at work.

    i actually mentioned to him that i’m really considering that we just forget about my cellphone and business cards as I really need to get these tickets paid before i lose my license! lol

    anyways, i’m thinking that i will be taking tomorrow off of work totally. i have a LOT to do plus my b/f will be coming over tomorrow evening and I’m going to cook dinner for him and I really need to clean up around the house some more and all that jazz before he gets here! I love my busy busy life! now, if my SD can become ‘un-busy’ lol

  413. Angela300373 says:

    Ok ,
    So I have 2 sugar tales. 1 good 1 uhhh not so much.
    1.First meet ever -Awesome , Awesome , Awesome!
    He shows up nicely dressed (albeit casual , but it had been discussed) in his Mercedes.
    We met at Starbucks (no pressure) and chatted for a while before proceeding to dinner. We went to this fabulous seafood place downtown. Very classy and the food was amazing. After that we went to 6th street area (famous for live music) to enjoy some jazz. At the end of the night, I had trouble with my car (no tail lights) so it wasn’t safe for me to drive home. He got me a lovely hotel room at the Marriot. The next day he picked me up and took me to my car ! He was a perfect gentleman and treated me like a queen. We have chatted since then!
    2. Second pot meet (ever) Frog-
    Shows up to our date in jogging suit driving a honda. We met at a chain restaurant. Never compliments me once the whole time. Then asks me if I am ready for a massage at the end of lunch.
    (disclaimer-this frog was not on this site)
    When I wrote to him after our date to be honest about his 1st impression he got defensive and said we met there out of convenience for me and that he didn’t like wearing suits since he had to for many years….blah blah blah, excuse, ..blah.and he was just excited about giving me a massage and he didn’t mean to scare me.
    Then he says (too funny) that my allowance desired (2k a month) was half his income. (He had 100, 000–200, 000 on profile ) but in his mail he says it is 100, 000 gross and his net is less than 100, 000. But even so ……24k a yr is still NOT HALF. (Thinking of Eddie Murphy….EDDIE I WANT HALF!!!!) I am amused that he reports his gross income on profile -100k to 200K is a BIG area!
    Now I’m not knocking those that make under 100K, some people manage money very well and that is nothing to scoff at but I feel he was grossly (pun intended) misrepresenting himself.

  414. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Sorry Jasmine I thought everyone had went to sleep.

  415. Jasmine says:

    Hi angela.

  416. Angela300373 says:

    Whoooooo?
    more to come…………

  417. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Aww well hopefully that wasn’t an april fool’s joke (sorry just thought of that). I hope you get a car…lol, I need a car for the summer. Hey feapsepalm.

  418. Jasmine says:

    I know right! :) I just can’t wait for my b-day on april 1st.

  419. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Oh Jasmine that’s a wonderful story, most definitely sugar worthy. Aww and the way he told you he liked you was so sweet. :)

  420. Jasmine says:

    Sorry everybody! The reason I took long cus I’m typing on the blackberry!

  421. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Oh Jasmine your back, yay!

  422. Jasmine says:

    Well this is how it started,I met him on another site(wish I can say it,but I’m worried about legal reasons.)well the first time I met him in person,he came to my house and pick me up,I had my cousins follwed me just to make sure nothing happen.we talked for a while,told him that I’m a single mom of 2,how my situation was with everything.I just finished telling him that I just finished telling him about losing my kids carseats in a car repossesion.then he got up and grabbed my hand and took my butt to wal-mart and brought me 2 car seats.even though I never said anything about wanting carseats,he did it out of his heart.after that he took me home and he started seeing me every two days cus he runs his own company.so friendship grew into something else and next thing u know on february 14th,he brought tons of red and pink ballons,a big fat teddy bear and I gotta say 2 dozen of red and pink roses and told me that he likes me very much and would like to turn this into something more.well I felt the same way.so we got together for the first time as a g/f,b/f on valentine’s day! Ever since,he has been treating me like a queen and also my kids forget to mention them.he has been giving me and the kids gifts every wk.I heard from his daughter that he might get me a car for my birthday next wk wednesday! Ooo!!! I hope she right! :)

  423. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Night Joules, I think I’m gonna call it a night too after eating some yummy pop tarts. :)

  424. Joules*300035* says:

    she ran away!!!

    oh well, i just popped in for a min. myself. have a good night and for those of you that have my email; feel free to use it cuz i don’t get on here much anymore

    i’ll probably swing back by in here in a couple hours and say goodnight so consider me lurking until then lol

  425. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Oh cool, well glad to hear it’s going good. Where did Jasmine go??? Jasmine, come back!!!

  426. Joules*300035* says:

    lol naaaa, i just created my company right around V-day

  427. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Cool Joules…lol I said re-lauch because I thought you had already had your business before hand and weren’t just starting it, lol. Sorry today’s been a very hectic day for me and I’m somewhat out of it.

  428. Joules*300035* says:

    re-launch?! huh? lol

    anywho, everything’s going awesome! i have samples on their way tomorrow, Bizzy (Bone) is going to send me a copy of his new release as one of my clients is on the new album. i almost have a second press kit finished…bla bla bla! things are rolling along quickly for me!

  429. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    That’s great Joules…how’s your business’ re-launch doing? Any new and interesting clients?

  430. Joules*300035* says:

    doin awesome GND!

    hi Jasmine!

  431. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Jasmine I’d like to hear that story. How did your SD turn into your bf??? Inquiring minds would like to know. :)

  432. Jasmine says:

    I just barely got here.like lisa I don’t have really a tale to tell.well for the exception of my sd turning into a b/f.

  433. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    Hey Joules, sorry was writing lol. How are you tonight?

  434. gurlnextdoor*274735* says:

    I agree with Gretta and Mass. Yankee, just because you have a high allowance doesn’t make you a hooker. Now on to the questions.

    Do you have a sugartale you’d like to share?
    Why yes I do. :) I’ll share my tale of my dream weekend away in Miami. (If you’re on the blog regularly you’ve probably already read this so feel free to move on, lol) I was flown down to Miami by my SD. My first night there we went walked down the beach to a really nice restaurant and ate a candlelit dinner accompanied by some great conversation. He somehow convinced me to try sushi and so it was a nice new experience. We then ended the night watching a movie, snuggled up together on the couch as we fell asleep. The next day, after I woke up he cooked me breakfast and then we headed down to the beach. When we got there we went jet skiing on the beautiful ocean water and finished off the afternoon with a nap in the sun. That night we headed to South Beach ate at this super cool brazilian/sushi restaurant and ended the night with some club hopping, after which we returned back to his condo completely tired. Him falling asleep on the couch while I took a lovely bubble bath. The next morning we headed back to South Beach so I could see it in the daytime, caught some lunch at this lovely seaside restaurant and then I headed to the airport. Unfortunately I missed my flight, so he cooked me dinner when I got back and then I went to sleep. The next day I flew back home, completely happy. :)

    How do you keep the Drama out of an arrangement?
    Place boundaries early on. Talking about things like when and when not to call, limits on emotional attachment, and how many times you’ll see each other helps. Also trying to always be upbeat and positive when your around one another and not bringing up personal problems in your time together. Treating it as both yours and his (or hers) time to get away from all the stresses of everyday life.

    Would you say you live under a high level of stress?
    Haha no way. I don’t let things stress me out. I look for the positive or lessons I can learn from any stressful situation and focus on that and how it will help to improve my life in the long run.

  435. Gail says:

    Hmmm…the story sounds like bits and pieces of someone who use to be on the blog…cant remember if it was Stepanie or not.

    I agree…Hooker…not good, not good at all.

    Greta-It was nice hearing your story. It really is possible:) I wish the both of you happiness forever. Here’s to all the SB 30-something and over, not so perfect, but able to get and keep a SD:)

    Gellbrange-Yes I agree…lol

    Becky- Just google Sugarbaby or Sugardaddy…they are all over the place:)

    Good nite Sugars:)

  436. Massachusetts Yankee says:

    i agree with Greta. not everyone who asks for a set allowance regardless of amount ought to be labeled “hookers”. we all have our limited and expectations, and standards.

  437. Greta says:

    “but these women who think they are going to get an allowance of as much as 5000 a month or more as far as I am concerned are HOOKERS and thats the only word for it as far as I am concerned!”

    Whoaaa there!! Emerging out of lurker-mode to comment this one!

    I have had the same SD for over a year, and he provides me with over 5k/month. He financially supports me completely. I am by no means a hooker! In fact, he is the only man I am intimate with (not because he has asked this of me, but by my choice). I am a woman of class, confidence, and style. I see my SD an average of 3x/ month. He takes me out on wonderful dates.

    I understand I am lucky. I found a good one. (And so did he!) I realize that not all SBs are going to find a man with such financial generosity or arrangement longevity. But this is working well for us, and make it known I am no “hooker.” I enjoyed your story Stephanie, but that was a bit offensive. Slow down there.

    And just for you other SBs out there, I am over age 30 as well, and not a Barbie. Inperfections can be perfections, depending on your confidence behind them.

  438. lisa says:

    I can’t say I have a sugartale to tell, other than that I did have a couple of shopping dates with potentials and one sd for about a month. Nothing too exicting though

    The best way to keep drama out of the relationship is for both parties to keep their word and do unto the other as promised. If the sd is helping me financially and making me feel special, I have nothing to complain about as most of my problems are financial.

    I live under a moderate level of stress. Work isn’t stressful anymore, thanks to a job change, but life in general and my living conditions do create stress that others might not experience and the little things that others do easily that are more challenging for me, like walking several blocks carrying my laundry whereas most people just toss it in the home washers. Just little stuff like that that’s annoying. Being type A I live an organized life and do not like interuptions or roadblocks.

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