“I have been a member of 3 sites of this sort since a friend told me about them. My own sister did the same and I thought they were nuts! I went through the moral issues as I am sure most of the True Sb’s out there do and then after hearing about and watching the things they got to do and enjoy I decided to give it a shot. I have had several different experiences and Maybe a few of them can help some of you SB’s and SD’s alike.
Now first off I am not an under 25 barbie doll as someone up there mentioned thats the ones that they pick. I have always been drawn to older men though as they know what they want and are looking for more than just sex but someone that is not involved with their day to day life and none of the drama a true romantic relationship brings. I always am very up front about who I am and what I am. I am 38 years old..and on the thicker side..although I think I look pretty good for my age hehe as I do get hit on frequently. I also try to be extreamly cautious…although I DO NOT force the SD’s to come to me. Espcialy if you understand that these men if they are NOT married which would make a trip out of town more difficult most of the time have very busy schedules too. I just make sure that I am emailed a departure and most importantly a return ticket and I verify that it is valid with the airlines before I go anywhere. And a paid hotel reservation also sent to me via email so I can make sure I am taken care of no matter what and the only thing my name is on is the reservations not the billing so I am not responsiable or get stuck.
Now let me tell you first I have not done this lots of times but just a few and have had some WONDERFUL and some very interesting experiances. I have come to the conclusion that no matter how many questions you ask..there are always ones you wish you had but would never have thought of..hehe
I have had a total of 4 SD’s meetings. 2 of them were WONDERFUL men and 2 of them were interesting but just not for me although I did have a good time. I got very lucky as my very first adventure as I like to call it was from a Phenomenal Man I met via this site who lived in Beverly Hills. Now being a Northern CA girl that wasn’t to far for me to worry about. After a drive to the airport it was only an hour flight to LAX where he met me and proved to me after the extended messenger and phone conversations we had had that he was just as my gut told me a wonderful man. He was very aplogetic as his buisness had suddenly gotten very busy and we had planned to spend the whole next day together and that was not going to happen..but to make it up to me he took very good care of me. We went to a very expensive restaurant both nights I was there. Places I could never have imagined going in my life by the way. Put me up in the Beverly Hill’s hotel and the day I was alone most of the day I was told to take advantage of any of the services provided by the hotel so I had myself a little spa day with a wonderful hot rock pedicure, got my hair done, had lunch at the world famous Polo lounge and was nice and relaxed and ready for him to pick me up that evening for dinner to another AMAZING place. He was handsome ( I thought) and sweet and NOT married by the way. The day I left he again as not able to drive me to the Airport but arranged for a car for me for the next morning and some cash to have a little fun on Rodeo Drive before I went home via the hotel Limo. Just so you know I asked for NOTHING… and was treated like a princess. A girl from a town like I come from is not used to something like this and I had the time of my life..but the best part of it was.. I made sure he was someone I truly WANTED to meet not because of what he had but beause of Who he was. I had no idea where I would be staying and no idea of the money he would be spending or leaving me. Unfortunatly for me this wonderful man was in the Tax Buisness and his season came up right after that and he got so busy our relationship kind of faded away due to his business commitments. I can tell you that even if I had not been treated so wonderfully I would have loved to see him many more times as I just enjoyed being with him and if he ever called me again I would be there in a heartbeat just to spend some time with him.
There are also men out there that even if they have money I have found do not like to spend it..haha Guess thats why they have so much.. but I did find a man who was very concerned about my physical welfare because I didnt have health insurance and paid to make sure I did. He did not take me to fancy places, we went to Olive Garden, Chilli’s etc and bought his hotel rooms on Priceline. ( he lived within a few hours of me and did come to me) But he was a warm and caring man who just wanted a good person to spend time with and I very much enjoyed the time we did spend together. No he did not take me shopping every time or even give me money again I NEVER ask for anything But if he knew I had an issue he would be there for me just as I was for him.
Now..I had an well..uncomfortable situation come up once where I met another man on here.. flew to see him and broke my own rules which I knew I never should have done. Instead of getting me a room he insisted since he lived on the Beach in LA I should stay with him. But again since he was also in the same state as me I would have no problem hopping a greyhound home if needed or taking a taxi to the airport in Long Beach. I got to go the Garth Brooks Concert that was happening that weekend at the Staples Center ..and being a fan I was thrilled to go the the only concert he had preformed in 12 damm years so I was in heaven.. Here was my problem..we did have a good time.. he did take me shopping for a few nice little things and take care of all of my expenses..but this is where the questions I NEVER knew to ask happened.. he did NOT live alone in this house..his 30 year old son was there which was very uncomfortable for me. I found out his sexuality varied if you know what I mean…and that also made me very uncomfortable as reckless people can kill you ya know even with protection nothing is 100%! So I made the decision after I came home that he was not someone I wanted to continue seeing and would not sleep with him which made hiim very angry. But everyone needs to be careful out there.
So after this long drawn out answer to this question which was “what to expect” I can tell you… I have learned to never EXPECT anything! If I have a man who comes right out and asks me what I want..I can tell them its the same thing on my profile. I live paycheck to paycheck and want to experiance things I could never do on my own..but these women who think they are going to get an allowance of as much as 5000 a month or more as far as I am concerned are HOOKERS and thats the only word for it as far as I am concerned! I am not a lady of the evening but just a lady who has no children at home anymore and am looking to enjoy life. If a man demands me to tell him a price..honestly..I tell them I cant do that and if that’s what they need then they need to tell me what they would like to do and I can spoil myself..lol
I have seen some incredible things on these sites good and bad..and had some fantastic things happen to myself and heck my sister met a muliti millionaire who wants her to move to LA and move in with him..and he is a great guy! So I am thrilled for her.. just do what I do..dont count on anything and expect the unexpected..talk to people that make you comfortable and you really enjoy spending time with..SD’s or SB’s. There are some very scary people out there.. hence Mister Pig Farmer I have been reading about and thank you for the warning by the way..If a man immediately starts asking about my sexual desires, my fantasy’s or tells me things about him or sends me phonographic photos then I know immediately he is not someone I would enjoy myself with or be comfortable spending time with. But again these are just my preferences.. I am a lady in public and a tiger in the bedroom..but only with someone I am WANTING to be with. So everyone out there please just realize these sites are good and bad as they are an outlet to find people to enjoy and not have the drama other parts of life bring..but it also an outlet for some not so nice and not so honest people too…
Everyone should be cautious and only do or plan things that make you comfortable. I have yet to find the right one for a long term SD relationship as my sister has and have no prospects right now.. but I feel people out.. and am extremely choosy. You need to be too! Every moment of your life is precious so choose to spend the moments you do with people you enjoy.”
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