“Most of us are so indoctrinated with the myth of Romantic Love that we automatically assume it’s the driving force behind every twosome. Meanwhile, Mother Nature must surely be laughing at our ignorance – we might think of love as natural, but the only thing she gives a damn about is reproduction. She adorns sex with romantic frills so we’ll do what she wants us to: be fruitful and multiply. It’s called the reproductive imperative, and it compelled the first caveman to haul the first cavewoman into his humble abode. Not too long after Tina Turner asked what love had in common with a knee-jerk chemical reaction, scientists began asking the same question. Their research is leading them to believe that our choices are driven more by Mother Nature’s hormonal elixirs than by love, romantic or otherwise. One of the things research uncovered is that the way we feel when “in love” actually is more chemical than romantic. During the early stages of love – or limerence in evolutionary biology lingo – the brain is flooded with endorphins, those hormones that also get fired up by jumping around to music. Endorphins suffuse the body with a sense of almost blissful well-being. This condition is not unlike being drugged, and it can last as long as three years – just the right length of time for two people to meet, get to know each other, form an ongoing sexual relationship, and start thinking babies. This suits Mother Nature just fine. But unless you and your lover are dedicated marathon runners, the endorphins eventually wear off. What’s left of a relationship once those endorphins fall back to normal levels? If a couple is lucky, they’ve managed to find enough commonalities during the limerence phase to cement their relationship. But if they came together solely out of physical attraction, the momentum’s bound to slow down, like the bat of a baseball slugger whose home-run stats drop precipitously when they take away his steroids.” –Excerpt from“SeekingArrangement: The Definitive guide to Sugar Daddy & Mutually Beneficial Relationships”.
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