It was supposed to go as planned. But then you got a call, or an email, or worst of all, nothing.
Excuses are easier to give than take.
This is not a black & white issue… What if someone ‘forgot’ to send you their most recent picture (post-op?) until the day of your 1st scheduled meeting — and it wasn’t so pretty? What if you learn something awful about a potential SD or SB and have to cancel your arrangement?
* My college finals are coming up and I didn’t realize how much studying I’d have to do… sorry
* My wife has fallen ill and I must remain by her side… sorry, but I can’t pick you up from the airport now
* My Pastor gave a touching sermon on infedelity yesterday, and I’m afraid I can’t do this anymore
* My boyfriend proposed to me
* Sure, I can still make it… is it all right if I bring my kids?
Again, put yourself in their shoes… if they think the truth would hurt you more than a lie, they’ll probably tell you a lie (if they’re nice?). If the truth is that they found someone else, or that they’re not interested in you, would you really wanna hear it?
C’mon, wouldn’t you rather be able to vilify someone as a liar or a flake than know the painful reasoning behind them finding you “not good enough”? I think so. I’ll be the first to admit that, at this point, I don’t even THINK about looking at my “sent” message folder… what a waste. Believe me, I’ve been through my fair share of online rejection, so I am stickin’ to what I know.
One Sugar Baby writes:
“…so many of the sugardaddies I have had contact with are full of dramatic excuses not to meet. I do have 2 potentials to meet in the next couple weeks, keeping my fingers crossed, but I have had some crazy excuses, cancellations, etc.
I wonder if this has happened to other members? One guy had a really bad rolloever automobile accident and although he was hurt bad, managed to be on this site everyday. Afterwards he caught the flu and is really sick.”
When, if ever, is lying acceptable to get out of an arrangement?
Does anyone have thoughts about excuses? Is it ever acceptable to make an excuse just to get out of an arrangement? What are some excuses you’ve heard that you thought were lies? Anything funny? Dramatic? Obvious?
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